~~Please someone tell me what happens, because I know no news of him, that I saw him in Arirang today and surprised me greatly.

Greetings from Mexico

Is it me, or is Shoo starting to look more like Tori Spelling everyday….. lol

I admit that I’m a bit weird. When I talk with ppl, I don’t like asking them personal questions because how do I know if they want me to know something. Like, we had some friends over and my wife asked one of our friends something like, “so, how’s your job search going” or something like that, and I felt like that was potentially an off-limits question. Maybe that person doesn’t want to share that information, maybe that person feels a bit embarassed or depressed by it and so doesn’t really want to get into it, or maybe that question has been asked 100 times by everyone (including family) and so maybe we should just give it a rest. But asking that question puts that person on the spot. I could literally hear the gears turning inside that person’s head, as I could see that person thinking, “what’s the best way to answer that question…” Not necessarily the most comfortable moment in my life.

I understand this is not necessarily the norm, but I just feel like if people want to share, they will, and I shouldn’t intrude without knowing for certain that I am welcome in certain topics of conversation.

Similarly, I think that everyone has a right to their own privacy, even if they are in the arts / entertainment business. And so I’d rather just see what people want me to see, and not get too deeply enmeshed into people’s inner selves, unless that kind of intimacy is (1) permitted and (2) mutual.

When artists or subjects of art share their lives with the public, they put into their works and their expression, pieces of themselves. I accept that in the abstract (I don’t take it personally), and I look at those things in both an objective (what it means and what it says) and a subjective (what it means to me, and what it says to me) manner. But when it comes to photographs especially, I think the abstract often becomes personal, and I feel like I am starting to intrude a bit, and since the intimacy isn’t mutual, it feels a bit like voyeurism.

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As to family photos of people I am not necessarily that close with, I do in fact get uncomfortable a little bit. I want to share my life with people I want to share my life with, and I want to be included in the lives of those same people – this is mutuality – when you share things with people who want to share things with you. And having (1) permission but not (2) mutuality… that makes things a bit unbalanced for me. Except for Hyun Bin. I am sure he’d wanna be friends with me, so really, I don’t mind copying his former hair style and dress a little bit.

*shrug*. Just my feeling.

“sometimes I think they are all probably crazy.”

If there’s anyone that’s going crazy I think it’s you Samsooki

Seriously, I’ve read your first post over three times and I still can’t compehend the way you feel about this. I guess I’m just not an artsy type of person and don’t quite understand any of this, but man, what do you do when someone shows you their family photo album?