Used to be very interested in Song Yun Ah and her career. Was always sorry about the breakup with Ahn Jae Wook. Mystery….but thought her father was the spanner in the works there. Said he did not like ’show business people’ Strange considering his daughter was in show business. Ahn Jae Wook never quite got over it and is still unmarried and I wonder now what will happen. She is marrying a divorced man with gossip attached. What does poppa think?? Saw this on TV this morning. Lots of show business guests and for a flash I though AJ was a guest. Anyone know?
Hope she will be happy. She is a good actress and had always a good reputation. Cha In Pyo wanted to have her marry his brother because he said she was such a good person.

#35 Janet
“SYA is of marriagable age. I know i should be happy for her. But the fact is that she is going to marry a divored guy who is old and ugly. It is still unexpected as she deserved a better guy.”

o_O

Sol Kyung Gu is an excellent and well-respected actor, probably one of the top 3 in Korea along with Choi Min Shik and Song Kang Ho. He’s also one of the highest-paid. He may not be your garden-variety hunk or pretty boy, but he’s a Big Frickin Deal. So I guess mileage varies on what constitutues “a better guy”.

I was shocked but pretty happy for them (I’m usually happy for celebrity hookups, it’s the gossipy romantic in me lol). But I also had no idea about the infidelity rumors (whoa). So I’ll just echo #36 Nom Kitteh:

“SKG–if you cheated on your wife, shame on you. If you didn’t, congrats to you and SYA”

P.S. I don’t know if JBeans allows threads to be hijacked so if we continue this conversation, maybe we should move to the Open Thread? I cannot find her rules for etiquette listed on the site so I don’t know.

In regard to this news story: Sorry, but I am still processing my anger at Reille (sp?) Hunter, aka love mistress of John Edwards (Reille, you don’t do this to another woman, and certainly not to a woman dying of cancer, so NOT COOL. John, you are not even worth my time), so this story with the hints of marital infidelity just feel way too icky (SKG–if you cheated on your wife, shame on you. If you didn’t, congrats to you and SYA).

“Korean guys tend to mature late – I think this is true empirically, and this is a shame. But reality (biology and culture) says that it is better to marry the immature ones and then watch them mature, rather than watching them mature and then trying to find the mature ones.”

“For a woman, then, it can be isolating, scary and emotionally turbulent. What the woman wants from the guy is some level of emotional assurance that the guy is capable of taking care of his own business, his wife and his life. It is more than his job / career and the income he brings in. It is the idea that the woman can trust the man to be her protector from all others, including his own family.”

That is why, in my view, it is better to find the ones who have matured, or are at least on their way to maturing. It is the immature ones who have no clue how to be the woman’s protector.

Korean-Am guys tend to be a bit behind on the maturity scale as it is, and it I had stuck around with any of the my ex’s until they finally did mature, I probably would have discovered that they weren’t my kindred soul anyways (luckily, I figured it out much sooner).

“That mindset, for second-generation Korean-Ams, has not really changed because the parents of the 2nd gen are still living in 1950-70 Korea.”

While that may be true to some extent (I can think of many examples where it’s not), any Korean-Am woman worth her salt knows how to handle herself with those types of parents.

And the only people I knew who were married by age 25 were generally the religious ones who swam with the tide and married their college sweetheart or the first person they dated after graduating…and, actually, both the husband and wife still needed to experience the essential maturation time.

{Edit:} Again, I’m with Nom Kitteh. Lol.
(and I do know many Korean-Am women)