Drama Recaps
I Do, I Do: Episode 5
by | June 16, 2012 | 77 Comments

Time to face the music. Ji-an is met with the most major decision of her life thus far to keep the growing life within her or not. Not before she hears some hard truths about herself first and realize what a lost and lonely sole she is.


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After Ji-an hears that she’s pregnant and should be careful from now on… she bursts laughing. There must be some kind of mistake, she says. She’s no Virgin Mary and she got her period last month.

Yet that can be explained by some bleeding during fetal implantation and they’ll need an ultrasound to be certain.

Soon after, Tae-kang steps inside, asking what the doctor said was wrong. She tells him to leave but he insists, concerned for her health. Annoyed, she shoos him away like a pesky fly. He finally leaves but not before he lingers at the door for a moment, puzzled at the brush off.

The ultrasound confirms what we already know and she’s about 8 weeks along. Ji-an looks at the screen and passes up hearing the baby’s heartbeat. The gravity of the situation must have finally hit her as she staggers out of the hospital, breathing hard.

At home, she sits in her shoe closet in a stupefied state, the pregnancy announcement ringing in her ears. She tries to shake the thought but the memories from that night with Tae-kang flash in her mind. Tears well up in her eyes, and finally fed up, she buries her face in her hands.

Meanwhile, Eun-sung cleans up the uneaten food and unused flowers and sits in his apartment, alone. Oof.

On their morning jog, Jun-hee starts rattling off about how worried she’s been ever since she heard about Ji-an’s menopause. Then Ji-an cuts her off, “I’m pregnant.” Excited, she congratulates her friend (thinking it’s Eun-sung’s) but Ji-an clarifies that it’s not his.

After she’s filled in about the one night stand, Jun-hee asks if Tae-kang knows yet and relieved to hear that he doesn’t. He’s got some skill impregnate a girl on his first shot, but no matter because Ji-an can “take it out” aka an abortion.

Ji-an asks if that isn’t illegal and Jun-hee confirms it though, “You pay a lot of taxes!” It’s all hush-hush and she defends that it’s the law that’s skewed. (To the best of my knowledge, abortion in South Korea is legal when the mother’s health is in danger, instances of rape, or fetal defects. It’s also illegal after 24 weeks.)

For now, she reasons that Eun-sung can’t know about the pregnancy either since he’s an OB/GYN and as a potential mate.

Who should call later that morning but Eun-sung himself. Before Ji-an can apologize about the previous night properly, he smoothly lies that work kept him late.

So how about another date today? Tomorrow then? Ji-an panics and fibs that she’s leaving on a business trip to Paris (per Jun-hee’s earlier tip) and hurriedly hangs up.

Morning sickness sends Ji-an rushing to the bathroom. She overhears Team Leader Ma arguing on the phone with her husband about how Medusa would never let her leave on maternity leave and she works overtime as it is. Exasperated, she cries, “This is why I didn’t want to have kids!”

Mom and Dad drop by for a visit and Tae-kang receives them at the entrance. Mom looks kindly upon Tae-kang who slips, “You look beautiful up close!”

That triggers the question whether they’ve met before and Dad barks when he stutters. So Tae-kang comes clean with a version of the truth about how he escorted Ji-an to the train station that day and was impressed by Dad’s charismatic shouting, even impersonating him for good measure. HA!

Dad coughs uncomfortably and Tae-kang adds, “I didn’t listen on purpose… your voice was just so loud…” Another cough to shut him up. Hehe.

They run into Ji-an, who’s shocked at their sudden arrival. After she silently checks with Tae-kang if her parents know about him (they don’t), she sits down with them for a chat.

Dad grumbles about Tae-kang whom Ji-an refers to as a colleague. Hey Dad, how bout you dial down the yelling? I didn’t like it too much in Marriage Plot either. Mention of a child’s dol party (a child’s first birthday) veers the topic towards when Ji-an will have children. Dad clucks wondering why Ji-an has none when other younger women already do.

Mom does her best to diffuse the situation, asking if they should all have dinner with Eun-sung. But Ji-an turns that down too and Dad barks again at her workaholism. Barely audible, Ji-an whispers, “I’m sorry.”

Tae-kang clocks Ji-an’s dejected mood when she returns to the office. Turning to Bong-soo (the junior with a big mouth from previous episodes) for advice, he learns that Ji-an is currently exhibiting the classic signs of depression from loss.

He’s adorably confused so Bong-soo spells it out for him with an analogy about a kidnapped child. Tae-kang finds that hard to believe but Bong-soo explains that a design to a designer means as much as a child to a parent. He thinks back in the ambulance when Ji-an, semi-conscious, mumbled about her design.

Na-ri storms into the building, barely containing her anger towards Madame Jang in the hallway. She bursts into Uncle’s office – how could he have handed over the company to Madame Jang in exchange for the golf course? She knows that Madame Jang intends to have Ji-an take over than Na-ri any day.

Uncle’s been persuaded by Madame Jang’s words and adds it’ll be good experience to work under Ji-an. Na-ri shouts, “Why should I work under that woman?!” Uh, ’cause she’s got more experience than you Ms. I-got-promoted-to-VP-right-away?

Na-ri catches Madame Jang and they ride the elevator down. Then Na-ri suddenly drops to her knees. She gave up everything to be in Korea – all the ties to her own mother and her friends. “Because I wanted to be acknowledged as your daughter. Because I wanted to be born again as Yeom Na-ri, not Jung Na-ri.” Woah, you just showed your hand to the adversary just like that.

With pleading eyes, she asks what she must do to win her approval. It’s like a small child asking what she did wrong in order to fix it, thinking it will fix everything.

But this is Madame Jang we’re dealing with and she sneers whether that’ll be enough. “Your showmanship is impressive… just like your mother.” Damn that’s cold.

Na-ri is still on her knees when the elevator open to a small crowd of employees, including Taek-kang. They murmur as Madame Jang steps out. Na-ri continues to cry and the doors graciously close a minute later.

On the rooftop, Na-ri resumes her brooding as Tae-kang keeps watch from a distance. Unfortunately he stubs his toe when he tries to leave silently, earning him an evil stare. She marches up to him, angry that her vulnerable moment wasn’t private after all.

Tae-kang swears that he wasn’t sneaking around and kindly offers her a handkerchief. She slaps him in response. He whimpers, “Why do women at this company keep slapping me?” then puts the handkerchief to his own cheek. You’re telling me, honey.

Today must be Visit Everyone At Work Day because Mom and Dad swing by to see Eun-sung as well. Eun-sung’s eyes grow wide at the gifts – all good for virility. Ha.

Eun-sung has to stifle his laughter while Dad clarifies their intent with this long winded rant about how he doesn’t necessarily approve of premarital sex and it’s not like it’s against Confucianism but times have changed and they’re both getting older…

So he cuts them off, assuring them that he’ll do his best. He happily accepts the gifts and jokes, “If we do well, we might make a soccer team.” Woah there, buddy.

He suggests that they all have dinner when Ji-an returns from her business trip to Paris, which is news to them. As soon as he leaves, Dad thinks that Ji-an is resorting to lying to get out of this marriage now. He snipes at Mom, “How did you raise her?!” Way to shift all the blame on her Dad.

Thankfully Eun-sung’s quick on the uptake and mulls over the discrepant words between Ji-an and her parents. He wonders whether to call to confirm his suspicions but then hangs up when the call goes through.

He laughs to himself, “What on earth am I doing?” Aww, d’you want to believe that she didn’t lie to you?

Ji-an and Jun-hee sit at the clinic, waiting their consultation. Jun-hee spots a teenager, figuring she’s here for surgery also, “Her mother must be so upset…” She takes a call from her daughter in an aegyo-filled voice and steps away.

The doctor hums over the chart and says that Ji-an may have experienced some pregnancy symptoms but it isn’t too late. The procedure should take about 15 minutes and he’s free tomorrow night.

The fact that he says all of this in a nonchalant voice totally irks me. Ji-an feels the same and tears out of there.

Jun-hee catches up to her, asking what’s wrong. Ji-an answers that she wants to go somewhere and lists off everything that’s wrong about the place from the doctor’s voice to the walls.

Jun-hee reminds her that she’s not in a position to split hairs about it. Did she even think about going through with the abortion?

At Ji-an’s silence, Jun-hee gapes, “By chance are you thinking of having it?!” Ji-an reacts defensively and her friend annoyingly reminds her that she should choose whether to have it or not soon because time’s running out.

That’s what finally sets Ji-an off, “Are you deciding between jjajang and jjamppong? What makes it simple? What makes it so simple?” Jun-hee adores her own daughter so what makes this unborn child any different? What wrong did it commit to be regarded so terribly?

Jun-hee throws back it was Ji-an who said she didn’t want kids, “Do you think anyone can be a mother?”

If she had to name anyone who should never have a child, she’d mention Ji-an without hesitation because there wasn’t a drop of motherhood in her. Ouch. She storms off, telling Ji-an to do whatever she wants.

Dad and Tae-kang go around picking wallpaper and Tae-kang wonders if they really have to buy back the house now. What if in the rare case he got fired? Dad asks if his son caused trouble but Tae-kang jumps on the defensive.

Pulling him close, Dad tells him that there’s no way that Tae-kang can get fired because if he does, “That day, I’ll kill you with my bare hands.” Gulp.

Well Tae-kang won’t be dying today because the phone rings and he punches the air at the good news that the bag’s been found. He skips his way to the police station and panics when he sees the contents are missing.

One look at the tag tells him the answer and Tae-kang barks that it’s not his. The officer insists it is, but Tae-kang holds it up, “What does this say? Made in Italy. Mine says Made in China! C-H-… CHINA!!” HAHAHA. Why am I not surprised his own bag is a knockoff too?

He slumps into the office, completely spent. He gets new resolve when he notices a photo of him and Dad with his congratulatory cake and grabs the pencils to draw a duplicate. But his skills are still too rudimentary and he throws them down the next minute in exasperation.

Na-ri’s also working late and we glimpse to an earlier conversation where she’d been told that Madame Jang will become the major stockholder in the company, making her decisions impossible to overrule. She thinks back to Ji-an’s words about how Na-ri can run back to Daddy and Madame Jang’s coldness. She breaks down in her office.

She returns to the rooftop for some air and this time sees Tae-kang cursing at the world at the top of his lungs. She laughs which gets her caught sneaking and she defends that the roof is a public space. Tae-kang wonders, “Then why did I get slapped earlier?”

Na-ri bites her lip and he glosses it over, musing that both the haves and have-nots all run to the same place with their problems.

He bows out to give her the space but she stops him to ask if he can teach her one of the curses he swore. Eh? Are you trying to tell me you’re Little Miss Sunshine who’s never swore in her life?

After he asks if she can do it, they start off with something easy (his is censored, hers is not. It’s hilarious.). He advises her that it has to rise from deep within the chasms of her diaphragm filled with rage. She starts, “You f–” but stops.

He tells her to try again and she finally says it, though it’s more like a PG-rated version (They’re basically nonsense words that are supposed to sound vaguely curse-like. An example would be “Siberian husky” = shibal = fuck. Think “Goshdarnnit! Jimeny Christmas!”).

They laugh and continue to shout curses from the rooftop together.

Ji-an sits in her shoe closet, creating a list of pros and cons. She fills the space for cons and her pencils hovers over the pros. Unable to think of a reason, she says aloud, “There’s nothing. There isn’t anything.”

She scoffs why she was worried so much in the first place. Then her thoughts trickle back to baby Se7en and when he grasped her finger.

Tae-kang’s late for work and he races inside, conspicuously sneaking into his office. But his co-workers has a more pressing issue than scolding Tae-kang today: Ji-an hasn’t shown up to work yet. When everyone’s reluctant to go into the dragon’s lair, Tae-kang volunteers.

When he gets there, he rings the doorbell a few times before putting an ear to the door to check for movement. Silence and now he pounds on it, thinking back to when Ji-an collapsed on the stairs (we’re sure getting a lot of flashbacks this episode).

Next thing we know, he’s called the locksmith to drill his way in while he wails, “Someone’s dying in there!” Oh your concern is both funny and heartwarming. He rushes in once they get it open and he stops to look at the messy apartment.

Spotting Ji-an fast asleep in the shoe closet, he breathes a sigh of relief. He has to yell in order for her to come to (his “Good morning!” is adorable) and Ji-an rushes to get ready.

Meanwhile, Na-ri assures Team Leader Ma that they don’t need Ji-an and she attends to the guests at the buyer meeting herself. Things seem to be going fine until she mentions the upcoming collaboration and they fawn over Ji-an’s proposal. Just in time, Ji-an walks up apologizing for her lateness.

Tae-kang waits in the car, bored, and digs through the compartments to keep himself occupied. He finds a curious envelope and finds the ultrasound picture inside. Either he doesn’t know how to read an ultrasound or doesn’t know what it is and he tucks it back inside.

Once they’re alone, Na-ri digs over Ji-an’s absence – it isn’t like her of all people to have missed an important meeting because she overslept. Ji-an responds that she’s human too and could have made a mistake, her voice hanging on the last word.

Na-ri laughs, elated that such a word exists in her vocabulary. Before she leaves, she sneers that Ji-an shouldn’t rest too much in Madame Jang’s words because the game hasn’t even started yet.

When Tae-kang runs up to her having overseen the conversation and she pelts him repeatedly, “Do you know this is all your fault?”

When they sit down, Ji-an asks if he’s hurt and he replies that he’s used to it by now. He apologizes because he knows that she’s still upset about the lost design.

Ji-an replies that it isn’t but Tae-kang continues that he knows the feeling – like a mother who lost her child. Case in point: his motorcycle, Beyonce. HAHA. Omg, I forgot about her.

So Tae-kang resolves, “I’ll take responsibility. Because I did it, I’ll be responsible for it ’til the end!” It’s a serious conversation but it’s funny because they’re having two different conversations – she thinks about the pregnancy while he thinks about the shoe design.

They head to a jokbal (pig’s feet/hock) restaurant and he gapes while Ji-an stuffs her face, scoffing at her earlier statement that she was feeling will. He admits that he saw the picture in her car and what looked like a bean-like tumor.

Ji-an coughs and tells him that it’s no big deal that the docs can “pop right off.” Tae-kang accepts this at face value and then nags that she should clean her place.

Back at the office, Ji-an calls in Team Leader Ma to her office after she catches her napping on her desk and flippantly asks if it’s hard raising children. Aw, are you indirectly asking for motherhood advice?

A nurse at work comments that she’s surprised to hear about Eun-sung’s marriage announcement. She notes that Eun-sung once said that Cupid needed to fire a missile rather than an arrow at his heart to think about marriage.

Eun-sung sits at home, contemplating these words as his mind flashes back to thoughts of Ji-an. He increases the volume (it’s “Carmen” in the background) as the pieces fit together.

He sings a few bars, “If you don’t love me, I’ll love you…” and hits a revelation as the song rises to its climax.

At the same time, Ji-an stares at a text from Jun-hee who scheduled a surgery anyway. The next thing we see is Ji-an driving thinking in her head that she has to focus on herself right now.

Bong-soo finds Tae-kang busily printing off Lost and Found posters for the missing bag (ha) and tells him that there’s a better shot at reunification than recovering the bag.

He’s reluctant to help until Tae-kang threatens that he’ll out him for his big mouth. You’re gonna tattletale on the tattletale? So cute.

So they distribute the posters together and they dig in to a couple of hamburgers afterwards. Bong-soo comments that his wife suddenly craved hamburgers since she got pregnant with the twins, so he nicknamed them Ham and Burger. HA.

He shows off the ultrasound picture to Tae-kang… which is finally when it hits him that that photo wasn’t just any photo.

Eun-sung waits outside of Ji-an’s apartment, convincing himself that he’ll wait 5 no 3 more minutes. The next minute Ji-an appears, walking in a daze.

He lightheartedly jokes about the business trip, saying he understands. But then he corrects himself that he doesn’t understand. She was the one who set up the date but she stood him up. Furthermore, she lied to him about traveling out of the country.

He rips into her that they’re not kids anymore – should they exchange things and pretend that they’re in a teenage love story? And then he finally notices the tears streaming down Ji-an’s face.



Did she do it? Did she not do it? Narratively, we can assume that she does or else the story would end here but I love this cliffhanger where we’re left wondering if the show was really brave enough to actually go there.

I loved that the series dared to address the issue about abortion. Controversial topics like abortion tend to be hush-hush, like Jun-hee mentions and I saw an old NYT headline about South Korea finally bringing the topic to light. The show delivered what I wanted to see after Ji-an heard the news about her pregnancy because this a real question some women face. What if you were a single successful woman who had to contemplate the pros and cons to raising a child?

Having your best friend tell you that she sees you as the model for an unfit mother are harsh words to hear. So I loved the trajectory we saw from the beginning of the episode, watching Ji-an learn to accept her situation and then toil over her decisions and how it might affect her life. How interesting that it took a peek into Team Leader Ma’s life as a working mother to take that step to seek council about motherhood in her own way.

Now that Tae-kang also knows (though I wonder how much but if the boy’s smart, he should be able to put 2 and 2 together that Ji-an’s pregnant and he’s the father of the child), I’m dying to know what his response is, as well as Eun-sung’s.

I don’t mind the pacing of the story for now but if I have to wait a week to find out how the boys will react, I might take that missile and shoot it in Cupid’s heart.


77 Comments from the Beanut Gallery
  1. umalily

    sole is the bottom of my shoe. The only time it is lonely is when it is missing its shoe. aww.

  2. Kim Yoonmi

    “What am I doing?” Jo Eun Sung said while calling and then suddenly hanging up after lying to her parents for the upteenth time, making her get scolded for a situation he’s purposefully making worse, rather than winning her over.
    I answered: Being a stalker.

    *hand to head.* The doctor waits for how long without calling first *in front of her house* and then claims he isn’t a stalker? Huh? Is the writer being a bit self aware here? She’s crying and he doesn’t notice? And then continues talking?

    I’m liking him less and less. I think he should man up and win her properly. (or is there some stalker season going on? It’s all right as long as they sparkle.)

    That given, I thought the swearing from the balcony as a variation of My Sassy Girl’s from a mountain was kinda cute. I almost had second lead with second lead pangs.

    Anyone know the Hangeul for “Second Lead Syndrome” so I can type of “anhaesseoyo” next to it (I don’t have second lead syndrome, mottae~) <–seriously… anyone? 제2의주연 남우병??? 제2의주연 남우병 Is that correct?

    • 2.1 Kim Yoonmi

      Oh and No spoilers here, but Episode 6 kinda cinched the deal–I’ll watch it. That episode finally got some heart in it and engaged my brain too. Yay! I think it found the other shoe!

      • 2.1.1 sa

        thought i started watching IDID for Sun A. but after ep.6….I’m really watching it for the show…for all the right reasons….let’s do it till the end!!!…hehe

  3. Jbaboon

    Eun sungggg <33
    It's wishywashy, but I hope he'll accept that she's pregnant with another guy and still support her.

    'Kay, that's TOO wishywashy… is it?

  4. Butet

    Thank you!

  5. MJ

    Too Cute and funny scene with Bong-soo and Tae-Kang in the copy room where Tae-Kang is zeroxing copies of Lost Picture of Prada Bag if found please call ###-####.

    The bag is like a lost pet or a found pet poster with picture of the animal with pet description, location found, and contact number if you wish to get you pet back.

    The odds of about 18 million to 1 of getting the bag back Tae-Kang.

  6. kaidanmono

    I dunno, so far I think it’s refreshing that the second male lead isn’t perfect. Nor is it impossible to relate to the second female lead. She’s also not completely evil (so far).

    So far I’m really enjoying this, and while I don’t think it will be groundbreaking or anything, I’m hoping it can carry it’s momentum to the end to create an emotionally engaging drama.

    • 6.1 malta

      It is refreshing. I want to just dislike Na Ri cause she has one hell of mean streak, but then I can’t. She’s so unable to love and accept herself. I understand why she would want to be Madame Jang’s daughter, but it seems like a lost cause. Like moving to hell to find happiness. I mean, breaking off all ties with half your family just to get the acknowledgement of someone who doesn’t like you, and with good reason too.

      I can’t even blame Madame Jang either. I’d have no interest in treating my husband’s child from his mistress as my own child. Na Ri should at least realize this much.

      I don’t know how their story is going to be resolved, but I hope it’s realistic and even if their relationship calms down that the show doesn’t act like these two are gonna just be ok with each other.

  7. Amg1

    @gummimochi! Thanks for your hard work!

    I am sold on this drama! What I really like about this drama, is the seriousness that the writer and PD, have taking about the issue of “Abortion”. It shows that at the end of the day things are not as simple as they appear, I have known woman that have chosen the abortion route, and woman that have resolve having and raising the child, I really like KSA’s acting, her portrayal of a self-center career individual is spot on, not that being a successful career woman is wrong, but as her friend point it out her dedication to her career and lifestyle does not leave any room, for wanting nor raising children, I am just glad that with this drama they raising and issue that does effect the life’s of many woman.

    Thank you again for your hard work!!!!!

    • 7.1 alua

      Personally i’d dump the philandering husband and treat the children well (it’s not their fault) – particularly if they are small.

      That said, I’m finding Nari difficult to like. She’s very spoilt and just assumes certain things are her right. I wonder when she first met Madame Jung and what the exact history of their relationship is. I’m guessing that Nari is in her early twenties, so she doesn’t have quite the life experience yet to grasp that Mme Jang might never want to get close to her, but I would expect her to understand that you can’t just walk into a company without any experience and – at that age – just become CEO!

      • 7.1.1 alua

        Oops, that was supposed to go under malta’s comment!

  8. spjork

    Ugh, the poor little rich girl is pissing me off no end.

    Aside from her issues with her dad and her dad’s wife, she’s had every advantage in life afforded to her that 99.9% of the rest of the population hasn’t but all she can do is feel sorry for herself and resent others. “Why should I work under her?” STFU. Uh, because she has DECADES of experience under her belt, recognized talent, and a proven track record?

    Her sense of entitlement is what really gets my goat and although I know the scenes between her and the male lead are supposed to speak louder of his character (empathetic, sensitive, etc) than anything else, it bothers me because she doesn’t DESERVE IT.

    Now, that abusive, misogynist of a father of Ji An’s. You just know that if he’d dropped in on his son and his son said he was too busy with work to have dinner, he would’ve more than understood and even encouraged him to work hard. We’ve all seen the KDrama fathers with the cantankerous outer shell while they’re nothing but mush with the best of intentions on the inside…but, this guy…I’m sure the writer will try and shoehorn in some backstory which will try and justify his current stance and behavior but I won’t be buying it. Whatever it is, it won’t justify him bullying his wife to the point that she can hardly begin a sentence without flinching or stuttering as if she’s expecting to be slapped in her face for having an opinion.

    • 8.1 KANGly

      maybe jin ah’s aversion to marriage is because of what she sees in her parents’ relationship.

      maybe she doesn’t want to be like her mom.

    • 8.2 KANGly

      ughhh, sorry, it’s Ji-an…

      This is just my speculation:

      Maybe Ji-an grew up seeing her mother being bullied by her father, maybe not physically but at least verbally and emotionally.

      This could have driven Ji-an to seek a path different from her mom’s, that is, be a successful career woman instead of the path her mom took – marriage and motherhood.

    • 8.3 fluff

      Seriously agree about the dad – UGH!

      And one of the worst parts is that he acts so horribly and STILL everyone is trying to please him, Ji-An feels guilty for displeasing him, etc.

      Usually when a character is so unpleasant he’s being set up for some kind of punishment/revelation/enlightenment, but so far I’m not getting the feeling they’re going to go that way. Looks like he’ll be upset but eventually appeased b/c he has the grandkid, after all. And poor mom has to still put up with his regular abuse.

    • 8.4 jastinel

      Same situation with my father and mother-in-law.
      The same reason why my sister-in-law decided not to marry a man and she chose to be with a woman (lesbian) instead. She has a happy life right now and it`s been 10 yrs of their relationship. She is also like Jian, a career woman.

    • 8.5 Brittni

      I totally agree with you about nari. I can’t stand her, I cringe everytime she comes on screen. I know they want me to feel sorry for her because Madame Jang is being “mean ” to her but I don’t care. Why should you get the VP spot? What did you do to earn it? From the moment she walked off the plane she acted like she owned the place. I wanted someone to slap her when she took Ji ans office. Who are you to take someone elses office? And then be rude about it on top of it. God just get rid of her already.

    • 8.6 malta

      I’m annoyed by Na Ri, but I can’t totally hate her. She obviously has deep seeded identity and self-hatred issues. Still, she’s basically a petulant jerk and whenever she acts nasty towards Ji An I either get really mad or start laughing because whatever Na Ri is spouting is so delusional. Like you said spjork, Na Ri hasn’t done anything to *earn* being the president.

      I CANNOT stand Ji An’s Dad!!! Ugh! His behavior is totally unacceptable. He’s a rampaging brute and he is constantly yelling, my absolute least favorite thing a person and especially a man, can do. It is freaking frightening when men yell. It really is, and especially from a man as large as him and in a position of authority as he is as Ji An’s father. I feel so sorry for Ji An’s Mother who has had to live with that all her married life.

      I could not believe that when we first saw them at the train station Ji An’s Dad yelled at the Mom to “shut up!” Who yells shut up at their wife!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Immediately drove me freaking bonkers. Hated him since that moment.

      • 8.6.1 alua

        Yeah – I don’ t hate Nari (yet) but I definitely do not like her.

        Ji An’s dad – he’s painful to watch. And he’s only going to continue to get worse and then, sadly, at the end, Ji An and the dad will mend their relationship without the dad having learnt anything much really. That’s my guess anyhow.

    • 8.7 lenrasoon

      you said everything i wanted to say 🙂

  9. beggar1015

    Just finished watching this episode. Am I the only one who can’t stand Ji An’s dad? Especially the way he barks at his wife. When he blamed her for not raising their daughter right, I soooooo wanted the wife to knock him upside the head with a frying pan or something.

    • 9.1 Maya

      You’re not alone. I feel sorry for her mom every time they show up on screen. She always gets yelled at..

    • 9.2 becca_boo

      I don’t think anyone likes the dad. I can only say two good things about him. 1) His scenes are usually short, and most of all, 2) he makes me very thankful for my own dad, who is nothing like him.

      You’re definitely not alone. I’m pained every time I see Ji-an’s mom.

    • 9.3 Kim Yoonmi

      I think it does illustrate the generational gap in Korea very well though… (if you’re going with realism). That generation went through an awful lot–not to excuse any behavior, but to kinda say that there was a lot of crap they put up with and with the severe industrialization of Korea the generational gap is often stronger than most other countries.

      • 9.3.1 becca_boo

        That’s a very good point. I agree that it probably has a lot to do with the generation gap, but no matter what he’s been through, I still have a problem with a man who can’t treat his wife with respect. Same goes for women who don’t respect their husbands.

        I’m not at all trying to minimize the hardships that the older generations faced. (I’m not Korean, but I do know quite a bit about the gap that can exist between generations.) I do think, however, that the way a person (man or woman) is affected and changed by those experiences says a lot about them.

        • Kim Yoonmi

          That generation went through a war, splitting of the country, abject poverty, two government occupations (Japan and US), and an almost cultural erasure (Japanese occupation). Also lots of exporting of children, which cost the economy more than one might think. Pound that with rapid industrialization which also creates tons of problems including high suicide rates, teen pregnancies, high introduction of religion (in only one generation it went from non-secular mostly to almost all religious), high divorce rates, shift from the extended to the nuclear family, Neolocal from mostly sedentary extended families and a loss of identity. AND the government can’t catch up fast enough to implement laws to cover for it plus the heat of ridicule from other nations.

          This usually creates a huge gap and camps. On one end you get those who are trying to stay out of the chaos by holding more strongly to “traditional” values in order to get a sense of control and those who embrace the chaos and the change, sometimes getting swept up in it (and sometimes committing suicide over it). I would think Ji-an’s father is the former.

          Ji-an’s father is roughly about the same generation as my appa and eomma and I still can see the mark it had on the people from their generation. It’s not something easy to forget. So I can sympathize somewhat with wanting control after all of that.

          That doesn’t excuse his behavior by far, but it sure does illuminate his character more for those who aren’t familiar with Korean history. One doesn’t have to agree to understand.

          • malta

            The Mom went through the same hardships as her husband and she doesn’t treat him that way…

            I’m sorry for the hardships, but act right. It’s in Ji An’s Dad’s own interest to stop yelling like he does. His relationship with his daughter and his wife would be better.

      • 9.3.2 spjork

        I know a quite a few “traditionalists” of that generation and they aren’t emotionally abusive, misogynist jerks. A world of difference lies between someone who is mildly sexist and someone who is downright misogynous. There are 70 year old Korean grandpas who’ve suffered the exact same hardships, if not probably more (as Ji An’s dad seems to have come from a pretty well-to-do country yangban family), that are SWEETHEARTS.

        You can say someone is a product of a certain time and put down certain hang-ups or attitudes to their up-bringing but a jerk is just a jerk no matter what their age.

        • hydesamagirl

          I want to note that Jian’s father, would have to be in his early 70’s to even have experienced Japanese occupation which ended with WWII. And, I think the basis for most of his mindset is traditional Korean/Confucian ideas about men and women, not so much the other historical events.

          I agree with spjork, a person can be affected by the time they are in, but that doesn’t affect their responsibility for their actions.

          • Kim Yoonmi

            Jian is mid to late 30’s. Her parents could be born in 1950’s. That’s just about close enough to the Korean war and have the previous generation remember the Japanese occupation. (Also influence the choice of names on the 1950’s crowd–names are a relic of the Japanese Occupation.)

            I never said it excused his behavior one bit. But I think one should understand even if one doesn’t agree. I don’t like math, but doesn’t mean I shouldn’t try to understand it. I don’t like politics but it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t try to understand the positions before I vote.

            Also I should note that traditional Confucian values went down significantly after the events I mentioned in the population. Confucianism doesn’t really hold up well to industrialization and a democratic government. It holds better in an agricultural-based society.

          • Kim Yoonmi

            Or to put it more simply: If you don’t understand and disagree, how do you hope to change a person’s opinion?

          • Spjork

            I understand plenty but still disagree with his behavior. You see, I am able to do both– the two are not mutually exclusive.

            Disagreeing with something, in this case the origins of a character’s set of behaviors, does not automatically mean that the person doing the disagreeing is completely ignorant to history or is misunderstanding the relevance of historical events to the shaping of an entire nation’s psyche.

            What I was talking about is the individual. That people respond differently to the same stressors is a given. For every action there are a countless number of reactions possible. In Ji-An’s dad’s case, whether or not his unforunate set of behaviors were shaped by the rapid industrialization of Korea and the resulting cultural identity crisis does not change the fact remains that HE IS OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW BETTER. You don’t shit where you sleep and you do not spit when you’re lying down because you know it’s just going to land on your own face. That you mistreat your family? It’s only going to come back to hurt you in the end.

            How do you DEFINITELY and UNEQUIVOCALLY know just how any person’s mind works and why they behave the way they do? You can extrapolate, project, and explain it away but at the end of the day, an adult has to take responsibility for their own actions. No amount of apologist rehashing of history will excuse the emotional tolls an abusive spouse or parent takes on their family.

    • 9.4 rearwindow

      Yes, Ji-an’s dad is teeeeeeeerrrrrible. I cringe whenever he comes onscreen. Let’s hope that he doesn’t get much screen time as the drama progresses. Though I fear that he will become a major player in opposing Ji-an and Tae-kang’s (presumed) relationship in the later episodes. Writers: please please pleaaaaase use him sparingly.

  10. 10 ninji

    Yay. What a nice surprise before bedtime. A bedtime recap, perfect.

  11. 11 Noelle

    I’m pleasantly surprised at the abortion conversation. I was wondering if they would go there because it would seem an obvious consideration for someone in Ji An’s position. She could very well raise the baby herself but with her parents conservative views that seems like an impossibility. Speaking of her parents. I still can’t stand the father! He’s a bulldozer bully.

    Eun Sung seems like the kind of guy who would marry Ji An even if she was pregnant with another man’s baby. He would take the responsibility because he likes…loves her? Was that his epiphany? But even though I believe he would marry her anyways I know he’s the second lead made to live out a lonely heartbreaking existence as the leading lady falls for the younger immature dude who’s cute as all get out.

    • 11.1 sulyn

      JA has worked hard all her life and now she has the opportunity to be the CEO but her pregnancy is in the way. That’s why she’s in a dilemma and the advice from her friend didn’t help at all. Anyway, I’m glad she walked out of that hospital or clinic. Yes, she can easily raise the baby but the CEO’s job will be gone! Remember, she is supposed to be the super alpha career girl. Help her someone …….

      Thanks for the recap.

      • 11.1.1 hydesamagirl

        Well, the baby is a barrier for her career goals, but, I think the show is making the point that she has put her career so much to forefront, that the rest of her life is out of balance. She has one friend, who doesn’t even talk to her when she needs help and tells her what decisions to make. And she is partially estranged from her family. Her house is a wreck, because it is obvious it isn’t a home to her. The only place that is clean, is where her shoes are. She is obviously lonely, and has nothing else to support her outside of her job.

        • Laica

          You’re exactly right, but at the same time so is sulyn – that’s what I love about this show. It shows that Ji-an’s decision is not an easy one, and she will have to give up something precious either way. It doesn’t trivialize her career up to this point just because now she has a baby to think about, yet it shows the complexity of her emotions, that she isn’t just a cold Medusa that only cares about work either.

  12. 12 Ivoire

    Thank you for your recap. We appreciate it!

  13. 13 dee

    thank you for recaping… hope ji an keep the baby… lets see next week then.

  14. 14 Aisu

    I want more of your comments gummimochi, after saw 5th episode, I found that all the cast have layered character, which if you custom to generalize whole drama content, then I’d love to peel off the characters detail. Back to your recap, All the issues that you mention are kind of sensitive in Korea, Yes?No? who’s Korean? Am I wrong?, what I know like birth rates in Korea are low, birthing, raising a kid the put it on lot of consideration, that’s why Korean not to fond of with the story. Episode by episode the plot’s turning more serious and heart skewing (dunno why I love it lost it’s comedic). I want to write my thoughts about each character which I learn they are like wearing a mask, mention Jian, Taekang and Nari, some time they were like strong individual, arrogant and mature but in other time they were act like a child, lonely one and immature, but I won’t full this post on my selfishness, so I’ll keep it for next episode. I’m looking forward for your recaps and comments for the incredible 6th episode, thanks.

  15. 15 jastinel

    Thanks again and again gummimochi for the recap!

  16. 16 Laica

    Haha your shoe puns in this recap and the last made me smile!

    I absolutely loved 1-4 but I had wondered if we were going to veer off into hysterics-land after the pregnancy revelation. I was so glad to see how well the writer handled it, in a realistic and calm way. My favourite thing about IDID is how real the characters feel, how fleshed out they are and how they act true to their personality. Ji-an’s journey in this episode was so realistic for a woman like her – she kept it to herself at first, she freaked out quietly and then made a list, like the efficient and independent person she is. The abortion issue was dealt with both matter-of-factly and with heart, which is a balance that is hard to strike and yet which the writer manages with every aspect of this show.

    So happy to finally find a rom-com where the adults act like adults and not teenagers in 30-year-old bodies.

    Thanks for the recap, and the lovely song!

  17. 17 Suzi Q

    Na- ri’s character is bugging me. How can she expects to run a major shoe company when she is so dumb?

    Why would she think that kneeling down to the cold hearted and arrogant Mrs. Jang that she would gain acceptance as her daughter? Na-ri is illegimate. She turned her back on her own biological mother and her friends in America. Were her mother and friends that horrible that Na-ri is looking for Mrs. Jang to recognize her as her daughter?She’s lucky that Mrs. Jang even tolerates her.

    Also, why kneel down in the shoe company’s public elevator? She’s not very smart because it’s broad daylight when all the employees are at work. Couldn’t choose a more private place and a better time? Dum.De. Dum. Dum.Dum!

    • 17.1 spjork

      Exactly. What did she expect from Mrs Jang, exactly? A pat on the back and a gold star? You’re a constant reminder of her husband’s philandering and her own inadequacies as a woman (since she obviously wasn’t able to have a child or lost hers as Na Ri would be a non-issue if there was a legitimate heir/heiress) and you thought she would welcome you with open arms? You is a dumb ho.

      And another thing, nobody FORCED you to leave your real mother and friends behind, wherever that is. You, as an adult, CHOSE to throw them away for a bigger prize. Just because that prize is not then immediately dropped into your undeserving lap as you expected, does not entitle you to throw emotional hissy fits one after the other and accuse others of lacking moral fiber.

      Suzi Q, I know exactly why she chose to kneel then and there to make her plea. As harsh as Mrs. Jang’s words seemed, they were spot on– Na Ri was putting on a big, emotionally manipulative show designed to make Mrs. Jang feel guilty and take pity on her. I’m not saying that those emotions were faked, just that she figured that was the time this speech would have the biggest impact and she took her chance. That she underestimated Mrs. Jang’s contempt and overestimated herself in both importance (within the family and company) and capability serves to highlight that she is just about the last person who should be director of the company.

      • 17.1.1 Laica

        Absolutely LOVE your comment. I agree with all of you.

      • 17.1.2 ilovemandoo

        Spot on. Love this comment.

    • 17.2 rearwindow

      I should’ve read this before I commented. I agree COMPLETELY. It was such a childish thing to do, and so incredibly entitled. I really can’t stand her character, haha.

  18. 18 ilovemandoo

    Uncle’s been persuaded by Madame Jang’s words and adds it’ll be good experience to work under Ji-an. Na-ri shouts, “Why should I work under that woman?!”
    That line pissed me off to no end. Regardless of whether you like her or not, Ji-an has constantly proven herself at least in the professional level, whereas you’ve been there what.. like two weeks? I was sympathetic to Na-ri’s plight until this episode, but the girl needs to grow up and learn to prove herself.

    Another thing that pissed me off to no end: Ji-an’s dad. Wow, what a change from that past flashback. I understand that the writer is trying to portray a couple from a different generation. However, I can’t believe that he even dared to say “How did you raise her?!” Excuse me, Dad. YOU raised her, too. If you wanted her to turn out better, you should have done your part as well, instead of constantly yelling and criticizing people.

    Also–the second lead. I found him charming in the first episode, but not so much in the episodes afterwards. Especially this one. He doesn’t even notice that she’s upset and keeps talking? Even that, I’m fine with because maybe he had been thinking about it to the point where he was too frustrated to focus on anything else. What I don’t get is how this guy who never wanted to marry is so intent on marrying Ji-an. How can he even assume he’s going to get married when Ji-an hasn’t been keen on the idea of marriage? Not to mention, what is so compelling about their relationship that he suddenly wants to get married (after detesting the idea for the past 30-something years)? The change seems too drastic and unsubstantiated. I much preferred their relationship when it was flirty.. It’s too bad.

    Anyway, this episode definitely took things up a notch. After the charming first episode, I felt like things took a dip in terms of characterizations and energy. But I feel like things are going to start to get more interesting after this episode, and hopefully we’ll soon see substantial bonding between the two main leads.

    At the very least, I’m glad that I can connect to Ji-an more, and I appreciate that the drama let her think about something as controversial as abortion in a respectful way (that didn’t condone one method over the other).

    • 18.1 malta

      I’ve been wondering the same things about Eun Sung. I think he is a good guy, but he would piss me off. He basically created a whole relationship with Ji An, without Ji An’s actual involvement. I think it’s hilarious that everyone at the hospital now thinks he’s gonna get married when he’s got no bride! I mean, he was going to give her a necklace on their date, not an engagement ring!

      This sort of thing happens all the time in kdramas-, Daddy, Mommy and “possible significant other,” planning out weddings and a whole life for some poor woman without an ounce of input from that woman.

      Honestly, I think Ji An might be too much for Eun Sung to handle. I didn’t think so at first, but now I’m wondering…

      • 18.1.1 alua

        “He basically created a whole relationship with Ji An, without Ji An’s actual involvement.” Exactly!

        So agree with everything you say!

        He is a pretty good guy – except that his actions of construing a relationship without actually caring what the other half thinks/feels are essentially manipulative and a red flag. He’s portrayed as nice & caring rather than scheming and thus seems harmless… but then they all do at the beginning!

        I don’t think they’ll turn him into an underhanded, evil schemer in the drama but he’ll probably be that annoying guy that has a crush on you and won’t take no for an answer until you whack him over the head with a pan (or something).

        • ilovemandoo

          This pretty much. Though he initially seemed different, he seems to be set up for the road of most second leads, who simply do not take “no” for an answer. I think he probably has a good heart, but he’s not very considerate. He clearly has only been thinking of his emotions (which feel very shallow to me anyway) and has been pushing this marriage despite Ji-an’s disinterest. I think she was slowly starting to open up to him and the idea of maybe even marrying him (to appease her parents), but that does not justify his assumptions and just shows that he isn’t a suitable partner for her. Not to mention, HE’s the one who’s been digging an even bigger hole for Ji-an by not only accepting the parents, but going so far as to encourage them.

  19. 19 hydesamagirl

    Oh, nice selecton with the Carmen piece which starts off with talking about cupid as well.

    I like that Jian stuck up for her child. Makes me wonder what has any baby done wrong for people to just assume that it should be killed.

  20. 20 rearwindow

    Thank you for the fabulous recap, gummimochi! I’m so stoked that you’re recapping this show. I always want to talk about each episode when I’m done watching, and to my knowledge, nobody else is recapping. Plus, you always have great insights :).

    I loved the honest exploration of abortion, and I’m really loving Ji-an as a character. She’s got so much depth and she’s incredibly tough, but her vulnerability is always just simmering under the surface. Kudos to Sun-ah for doing such a remarkable job.

    On the other end of the spectrum, I find Nari repulsive. I get that she’s not purely evil, but that just makes me nervous that she’ll get more screen time as the drama goes on (and as she, presumably, gets even more annoying). She is just so incredibly entitled and spoiled. I have very little sympathy for the woman who steps into a job that she would NEVER be qualified for if not for nepotism and expects everything to be handed to her on a silver platter. And then! Rather than sucking it up and just doing her best at the job, she lashes out at everyone around her for not giving her what she wants? She thinks that getting down on her knees should make up for her years of inexperience? Gah. I don’t know why exactly she irks me so much, but I just want to slap her!

    I am looking forward to seeing how the men in Ji-an’s life react to her pregnancy. I feel like this is the point at which the drama will truly step up the Tae-kang/Ji-an love line (which I’ve felt to be a bit lacking as of late). Since I’ve not been a huge fan of Lee Jang-woo’s acting, I’ll be interested in seeing if he wins me over in the next few episodes.

    • 20.1 alua

      “honest exploration of abortion” – I was impressed by that as well (the openness of the discussion at least), but I wonder if it’s going to stay that way. Ep 6 seems to be leaning to one side of the discussion rather clearly.

      Which might be all that is currently possible in the public debate in Korea at this point in time, so at least not pretending that no one has an abortion in the country was probably a big step.

  21. 21 maritess

    Now taekang knows that it’s not just an ordinary photo

    can I ask when will be the recap of episode 6..thank you

  22. 22 maritess

    Now taekang knows that it’s not just an ordinary photo

    can I ask when will be the recap of episode 6..thank you

  23. 23 zsa

    I love the intended ‘pun’ in yr recap Gummimochi…well said!!! this episode is love love and love!!!

  24. 24 Denali

    Slaps irk me. Whether it’d be to kids because their parents can no longer control their own anger or grown-ups because of misdeeds and hurt feelings. It is pointless, useless or rather damaging.
    In Tae-kang’s case, his lack of reaction is even more infuriating as if he somehow acknowledged that he “deserved” it, each time. Seriously, writer?

    Because of such abusive behaviorby several characters, the drama has lost me. Too bad, though. Ji An’s challenges, growth and decisions could have become interesting to follow, just as her shoe closet might turn into the baby nursery to show the change she has set as her priorities.

    Gummimochi 바이팅!

    • 24.1 rearwindow

      I agree with you. It’s not enough to make me stop watching the show, but it is very bothersome how lightly violence is treated on this show (and many others, for that matter). I can understand a well-placed slap for dramatic effect when a character is faced with someone truly reprehensible, but violence is a recurring thing and is treated really lightly here. I hope that the characters grow out of it, and that Ji-an’s father’s verbal abuse of her mother is treated as seriously as it deserves to be treated.

  25. 25 malta

    “Did she do it? Did she not do it? Narratively, we can assume that she does or else the story would end here”

    Would the story end?

    I think this is the exact issue with unintended pregnancy and abortions that puts so much pressure on women. We assume that if a woman keeps the baby then the story is over…

    For the record, I’m ok either way- whether she keeps the baby or doesn’t. Either way, the story will keep going and so will Ji An’s life. And given this show trajectory so far, I think it will also stay interesting and believable.

    I might not totally understand what happened at the end (I haven’t seen Ep. 6), but it doesn’t seem that the show has shown us what she choose. So it does seem like a true cliffhanger to me.

    I really appreciate how wonderful and honest this episode was. I knew I Do I Do would turn out to be something special with its own vibe and story. Kim Sun Ah is really good at picking roles that meet/challenge her level of talent and ability and I LOVE that about her. Makes her so awesome and inspiring.

    I just LOVE that the drama treats Ji An as a real PERSON. A woman who is a person with feelings that sometimes are pretty or heartwarming! My favorite scene so far was when not from this episode, but when Madame Jang told Ji An that she wanted her to be the next president and Ji An went back to her office, sat in her chair and let it all sink in- then she celebrated and was obviously so happy at being so close to reaching her dream and ambition. I was so happy for her and I love that the show was willing to show that her hard work actually brings her happiness and a sense of worth and accomplishment and isn’t just the result of dried up ovaries.

    I’m definitely in love with this show. 🙂 Thank you so much for recap such a wonderful show!

    • 25.1 malta

      “feelings that sometimes *are not* pretty or heartwarming.”

  26. 26 Arawn

    Wow. People seem to really hate Nari… Well, no can do, I cannot help but feeling sympathy for her. I’m not illegitimate but I do have some daddy issues and I know how they can affect your whole life no matter how much other stuff you get. Being unwanted from the beginning is like an open wound that is sore all the time and will bleed if one touches it even a little – and this is exactly what’s happening with Nari. She took a huge risk because she wanted to feel accepted by her father and it backfired. Not completely but enough to hurt.

    Sure, she’s doing a lot of things wrong and she’s acting like a bitch quite often but for me it seems like she’s lashing out to hide her hurt. No matter how bitchy she is, it’s still there, the pain… I connect with it. Dunno why, exactly, but I do. I wish somebody would just heal her and make her see that she should start to value herself and not to seek acceptance and emotional support from the man who abandoned her in the first place. And hey, Nari may be bitchy, but come on, isn’t her father somewhat responsible for that, too? And even though I can understand how mrs. Jang’s feels, she’s no more mature than Nari in the way she behaves towards Nari. I do agree with her that she shouldn’t just give Nari position of CEO but she’s not stopping there. She’s simply being mean. How come it’s more ok for her to be mean than Nari?

    And what is absolutely great in Nari is the fact that it’s possible to see her motivations. It’s clear why she’s doing what she’s doing and her hate towards Ji-An is well based. I mean, it’s irrational and unfair, of course, but considering Nari’s situation and personality, you can see where it’s coming from. She’s not one of those second leads who’s hatred for the first lead is never really explained. She feels real. As does Ji’An’s father even though he is pretty terrible as a person. But that’s how people are.

    I still like even Eun-Sung. 😀 Yeah, he’s not behaving very good but nor is Ji-An. She had her reasons, granted, but he doesn’t know about them. It doesn’t justify but does explain, I think. I get this feeling that he’s finally found someone in whom he’s interested and becomes very frustrated by the way she behaves – but also that Ji-An’s flakiness and aloofness are exactly those traits that keep him interested.

    • 26.1 malta

      I understand that Na Ri wants to be accepted by her father, but shouldn’t she work on that with her father? Shouldn’t she be kneeling in front of her father? Why kneel in front of Madame Jang? Maybe she thinks if Madame Jang accepts her, then her father will accept her more and show her more love, but I’m not sure that is clear headed thinking….I can’t even remember if we’ve really seen the president on screen yet. What’s up with that Show? And what does being nasty to Ji An, a person who has nothing to do with her birth or illegitimacy, get Na Ri?

      And, it’s tough love, but whatever our circumstances sooner or later each of us is individually responsible for what we choose to do and how we choose to act. This is why when Na Ri finally accepts herself and stops hating herself, it will be HER accomplishment to be proud of and not someone else’s. Doesn’t mean Na Ri’s Dad didn’t do wrong, but Na Ri is responsible for her own actions…

      I hope she stops with the petulant act soon because she would be much more of an interesting work rival and love rival, when it comes to Tae Kang, if she took on Ji An with her own merits.

      I don’t think Madame Jang has been that bad to Na Ri. She’s been cold to her and doesn’t support her in the company, but what would you expect when you’re the living proof of her husband’s disloyalty and infidelity?! Madame Jang has had some nasty words, but she hasn’t screamed or slapped her or thrown water at her or anything like that. I mean, Na Ri asking Madame Jang to accept her as her legitimate daughter is about the same as asking Madame Jang to accept her husband’s mistress as his legitimate wife. Might as well have Madame Jang neutered.

      Na Ri should know better than to be groveling at the feet of someone who can’t give her acceptance. It’s not Madame Jang’s to give in the first place. Only Na Ri and her father can give her acceptance. Plus Na Ri needs to think about her maternal family that she rejected. She has some acceptance to give out herself.

    • 26.2 rearwindow

      “How come it’s more ok for her (Jang) to be mean than Nari?”

      The short answer is that it’s not! Jang is more straightforwardly mean/underhanded and I think everyone here would agree about that. It’s just that I don’t feel that the production team WANTS us to feel sympathetic towards Jang, whereas I feel that they are trying to lead us by the nose to feel bad for Nari. And why? Because she has daddy issues? Because she got on her knees for her mother? I actually agree with your characterization of Nari, but I don’t find that she’s worked nearly hard enough for whatever “redemption” she’s going for, and when she lashes out it feels much more vindictive when the other major characters do (I’m not counting Jang as a major char here).

      But it’s mostly that she sets off pretty much all of my tingly kdrama “HORRIBLE BITCHY 2ND LEAD” spidey senses. She reminds me a little of the 2nd lead in What’s Up, Flower, though I could actually sympathize more with her plight (SPOILER: she was in love with the guy who killed her husband) than I can with Nari’s. With Nari, it’s as much about what we’ve seen as what I expect from her character (I fully expect her to become insufferable as the drama progresses), which may or may not be fair. I’ll be pleasantly surprised if she actually gets better as the series goes on, but as of now I’m not holding my breath.

      In general, I guess I find straight-up villainy easier to take in secondary characters than this sort of moral ambiguity, unless the moral ambiguity is handled REALLY well. “Really well” usually means to me that the character is not actually vindictive towards other people or self-pitying, but rather that she is logically pursuing goals which are at odds with the goals of our hero. At this point, I just feel like Nari is throwing an extended temper tantrum because a toy that was never hers to begin with (the company) is being taken away from her.

      • 26.2.1 Arawn

        How I see this family of mrs. Jang, Na-ri and so-far-absent-father is that both mrs. Jang and Na-ri are in pain. For mrs. Jang seeing Na-ri reminds her of her husbands infidelity and her inability to produce a child / her loss of a child (we don’t know yet why she has no children). Na-re feels abandoned by her father and longs to be accepted by him and into his family. Neither of them are very good with handling those feelings so instead of getting over it they both pour those feelings onto other people. They are in pain so they hurt other people, preferably those who they perceive are cause of this pain.

        Mrs. Jang is far more powerful than Na-ri so she doesn’t have to be so straightforward with her vindictiveness. She knows what Na-ri wants and what are Na-ri’s weak spots. On the other hand’ Na-ri cannot be mean towards mrs. Jang because then she wouldn’t surely get what she wants. And so it’s Ji-An who bears the grunt of Na-ri’s pain. Even more now because Na-ri seems to think that Ji-an somehow “stole” her place as a daughter to mrs. Jang. Of course this is not true and not Ji-an’s fault anyway but as said, Na-ri is hurt and her way to handle it is to hurt somebody else. It’s completely wrong and twisted but somehow I still understand it.

        I do hope that she will progress during the series though I have to admit that, like others here, I don’t quite count on it. IF she would change, if she would learn to let go and find acceptance in herself rather that craving for it from other, that would be damn great. Best option would be that her father would still stay distant and mrs. Jang would not accept her but she would grow over and and by doing this Na-ri would show to mrs. Jang that she has no power over her anymore. Na-ri would go on in life accepting that there are things you cannot get but life can be pretty good even without them and that she may not have a proper father but that it’s her fathers loss, not hers.

        To sum up, so far I like Na-ri as a character. But if she stays this vindictive “baddie” throughout the whole series and doesn’t grow at all, then I take my words back.

  27. 27 malta

    I get a very Me Too Flower! vibe/tone from this show. It’s understated with lots of depth that makes it easy to overlook its flaws. I’m in kdrama love so I’m probably not making sense. Whatever.

    • 27.1 rearwindow

      So funny that you make that connection, because I JUST commented that Nari reminds me of the 2nd lead in MTF. I agree with the understated vibe. Similarly, our heroine is struggling with some pretty heavy depression/social anxiety as in MTF.

  28. 28 Emily

    I really loved episode 5 and 6 of idid. I love how maturely they are handling the pregnancy. Though gotta say, I am not liking a lot of these characters. Her dad is just aweful, to both wife and daughter. I feel so embarassed for both of them when he is going off at them in public, and so sorry for them having to listen to the things he says. Because he is her family, and even if she doesn’t believe the things he says, they will affect her. ugh.

    Eunsung is also getting worse and worse. I can’t be the only one seriously creeped out when he was sitting the dark, looking more like he was plotting crime than thinking about ji an? He is so creepy and I hate how he continues to push Ji an in a corner with the marriage, and then acts like she is the one doing anything wrong. Yes, she stood you up. But at the end of the day she isn’t his girlfriend even, yet he’s telling people he’s engaged, and acting like she has some kind of responsibility to him. She doesn’t. The only thing that keeps me from really hating him is the fact that the actor is so good.

    Na ri is also irritating. I thought she was supposed to be Ji an’s rival but all she does is whine about how hard done by she is because she can’t get the company just because she wants it. Yes, I feel so terribly sorry for her. /sarcasm I love how Ji an and the step mother treat her- she deserves to be put in her place. her scenes with tae kang make me laugh though- especially the one where they were swearing. As for tae kang he’s really grown on me. I love how sincere he is, and how he treats Ji an. The next episode more than this one really made me start rooting for him to get the girl! He handled the pregnancy really well, all things considered.

    These two eps really made me love this drama, although I am nervous about upcoming eps. I don’t want the angst to hit, as that is usually the point with kdramas where all plot flies out the window. I want this drama to continue to be this good!

    • 28.1 Arawn

      Na-ri deserves to be told by her “step mother” that she’s shit, just like her mother? Seriously? Well, mrs. Jang didn’t use those exact words but message was quite clear. I do agree that somebody should tell Na-ri about some realities in life but insulting one’s mother and being nasty is not “putting someone in her/his place”. It’s just being mean. Mrs. Jang seems very pleased with herself when she’s being mean towards Na-ri which makes me think that she’s using Na-ri as supplement of Na-ri’s mother. She never got to speak her mind to Na-ri’s mother, at least not enough for her to let go so now she’s avenging her husband’s betrayal to Na-ri.

      What somebody SHOULD tell Na-ri is that she’s valuable as she is and should stop seeking approval from her father’s wife. And yes, somebody should also point out that it’s probably painful for mrs. Jang to see Na-ri and so she could try to sympathize – or even stop trying to get mrs. Jang’s acceptance.

      • 28.1.1 alua

        Agreed. I don’t like Nari and her attitude about becoming CEO is just plain wrong, but Mme Jang is plain nasty, even more so because she’s older, has more life experience and should know who to direct her anger at – it’s not Nari’s fault that her mother cheated!

        She doesn’t need to indulge Nari of course, but maybe treat her cooly like any other employee (who has the same kind of work experience). Well, probably Mme Jang is nasty towards a lot of people…

  29. 29 Rebecca34

    Can someone please tell me how old tae kang is? Please….

    • 29.1 aya

      he should be 27 years old..

  30. 30 namcha

    I like this drama. Korea has low birth rate just like Japan? The reason maybe the burden is all on the woman. She is expected to raise the kid, take care of the house, in laws, her own parents, and work at the same time. I like Ji An because she is the antithesis of this traditional role but I hope she keeps the baby because he/she would be so cute.

  31. 31 MaryElenaMz

    the pacing of this show is driving me nuts… its soo effing slow and it doesnt really lead into where its going the whole corporate business with little miss perfect is driving me nuts like seriously girl you just got out of school you have absolutely no knowledge or qualification to be ceo of this company why in the world are you gripping!? and ji-an needs to be quicker on this uptake and for the love of god i know the premise is that she ends up with the boitoi but can we stop pulling my heartstrings from they gyno i mean seriously you are leading me to heartbreak…

    thats the end of my rant

  32. 32 Carinne

    Anyone know the actual address of the jokbal restaurant? It seems very popular by the looks of their celebrity wall.

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