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This Week, My Wife Will Have an Affair: Episode 11

Now that we’ve entered the homestretch of our show, I wish I could say that we’re in for a smooth ride with a happily-ever-after waiting in the distance. But sometimes, a happy ending isn’t what every relationship needs. As always, This Week, My Wife Will Have an Affair continues to give an unflinchingly honest look at real life, and reminds us that while the head can be reasoned with, the heart knows no logic but its own. Unfortunately, you can’t always fix what’s been broken, and there comes a time when you have to give up on what was in order to realize what is.

 

 
EPISODE 11 RECAP

Hyun-woo is finally able to forgive his wife for her affair, but finds that he can’t hug Soo-yeon without seeing thinking of her with her lover. He tries to deny it, but Soo-yeon, crying, says she understands.

The two sit on the sofa, and Soo-yeon admits that she was the one who posted the question asking if he could forget that his wife was with another man. Stunned, Hyun-woo tries to insist that he’ll be able to overcome this so that they can return to the way things were, but Soo-yeon answers that she finally realized that the two of them cannot go back to the past. “You and I, we can’t go back to how things used to be,” she says.

Hyun-woo grows upset that she’s giving up without even trying, but Soo-yeon just keeps apologizing.

The two stay up for hours, with Hyun-woo pacing the apartment while Soo-yeon remains hunched over. He tries to come up reasons for them to stay together, like Joon-soo, then suggests they try to live apart only temporarily. But as his excuses dwindle down, he asks her to give him some time to adjust, promising that he’ll be able to forget.

Morning arrives, and Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon have stayed up the whole night on the couch. Soo-yeon starts to say something, but Hyun-woo pops up, remembering that he has an early shoot that morning before dashing out.

The film crew gathers for a meeting, but Bo-young – after discovering her pregnancy — is lost in thought. When prompted, she has to admit she hasn’t finished her assignment and promises to finish it later.

Joon-young clocks her distraction and asks if she’s sick, worried because she’s never been late with her work. He adorably checks her forehead for a temperature, but Bo-young brushes him off.

Looking for a new topic, Joon-young brings up his hope that Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon will be able to go back to their happy relationship, sure that the ADULTERYPATCH incident brought them closer together. Bo-young isn’t as sure, saying that she doesn’t know if they’re back to the way they were, or if they’re just trying to hold on to the way they were.

In his office, Yoon-ki ruminates over his upcoming divorce, wondering if he should just take off now that he has the building, or throw in some fake begging for good measure. Before he can finish his thought, Ara bursts in, asking if he’s heard the news: She’s closing his office.

Ara advises her soon-to-be ex-husband to pack up his things, as there’s another tenant arriving soon. She also tells him to return his car keys, adding that they should finish things professionally. Acting like a wounded victim, Yoon-ki complies, meekly walking out of the office as Ara glares after him.

After reclaiming her office, Ara meets with Hyun-woo, and he’s stunned to learn that she’s known of Yoon-ki’s many affairs all along. Hesitantly, he asks why she finally decided to act, and Ara answers that she didn’t like who she’d turned into.

Ara explains how she was lying to herself because she loved Yoon-ki, and because she thought she couldn’t live without him. But, no matter how hard she pretended that everything was all right, she kept wondering if he was with another woman. “That person was wrong, but I kept on being obsessed with him, doubting him… Little by little, I was becoming a monster.” With tears in her eyes, Ara admits that she hated herself for becoming like that.

Ara gets up to bid Hyun-woo farewell, saying that they won’t have a reason to see each other anymore. As she walks out, she stops to say that what she told him a while ago was a mistake. Confused, Hyun-woo stares as she continues, “Whatever wrong you did, it can’t be an excuse for cheating.”

Turning back, Ara looks him in the eye: “Didn’t I tell you? You may be able to forgive her, but you’ll never be able to forget it.” (AAHH! She is TUNAMAYO!) As Hyun-woo stares, Ara warns him that he’s already caught in a swamp, and the more he tries to forget, the more he’ll be sucked down. “Accept that reality, TOYCRANE.”

Giving him a short bow, she departs, leaving Hyun-woo looking like he got the wind got knocked out of him.

At a team lunch, the film crew discusses new ways for a marriage to result in divorce. Throughout the conversation, Joon-young absentmindedly helps Bo-young with her food, pushing dishes closer to her or giving her his water. His actions seem almost subconsciously done, but Bo-young definitely notices.

Afterward, Bo-young scolds him for acting like that in front of others, but he doesn’t see anything wrong with taking care of her. She insists that it makes her uncomfortable, but Joon-young just grins to realize that she noticed his small gestures. Still smiling, he asks if he’s making her heart flutter, but Bo-young storms off.

Still at the café, Hyun-woo thinks about his wife’s post asking if he could forget her affair, and Ara/TUNAMAYO’s response that he’ll never truly forget. Looking pained, he thinks, “I thought it would be possible. I thought I would be able to do it. But… I don’t think I will ever be able to forget it.”

That night, Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon sit on the couch again, a divorce agreement on the table in front of them. Hyun-woo deeply apologizes, but Soo-yeon just answers that she’s the one who should be sorry. Both husband and wife look utterly defeated.

In the morning. Hyun-woo starts to fill out the divorce papers, though he runs into problems when he realizes the multitude of paperwork required for a divorce. He tries to use an online program to get the documents he needs, but it results in his computer having a hissy fit.

When Hun-woo complains to Bo-young about how complicated divorce is turning out to be, she suggests he go see a divorce planner — essentially the opposite of a wedding planner.

So Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon meet with a divorce planner, and the first thing the woman asks about is the custody of their child, explaining that it’s better for sole custody to lie with one parent in the event of a medical or legal emergency. Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon are incredibly civil about the whole thing, each trying to make the divorce as easy for the other as possible.

In the end, Hyun-woo gives sole parental rights to Soo-yeon, and agrees to pay a large sum in child support. The pair looks so sad, and Hyun-woo agrees to everything so easily that the divorce planner is unnerved as she asks if they’re really going to go through with this.

It seems that they are determined to get divorced, as Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon head to the court with their papers. In contrast to the other volatile couples there, the two sit quietly next to each other. When it’s their turn, Hyun-woo slowly shuffles up to the counter, and nearly doesn’t let go of the papers until the clerk has to tug them out of his hand.

It takes maybe thirty seconds to submit their divorce, and Hyun-woo forlornly asks if that’s it, but the clerk corrects him: First, they have to take courses to prepare them for their separation. One such course instructs how to tell a child that his/her parents are getting a divorce.

Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon note that the class is starting soon, so they attend it together. They’re shown a short video to illustrate, which includes a clip of a child sobbing as their parents tell them that they’re separating. Both Soo-yeon and Hyun-woo start crying themselves, realizing what they’ll be putting Joon-soo through.

Yoon-ki visits the construction site for his new building with his Okinawa girlfriend at his side. The two of them survey the half-constructed building, and the woman starts planning to set up a business there. She muses that if she’s going to set up a clinic, she’ll need to get more money from her husband in the divorce, and Yoon-ki promises to win it for her.

Meanwhile, Ara has lunch with said husband. She hands over photos of his wife with Yoon-ki on their Okinawa trip. As the cuckolded man clenches his fist around the photos, Ara asks the man if he’s found the will to fight.

Meanwhile, TOYCRANE’s fans are missing Hyun-woo’s posts, all of them speculating about whether he managed to reconcile with his wife.

Sadly, the almost-divorced Hyun-woo is instead having a drink with Joon-young and Bo-young (who’s drinking tea), and is in disbelief that it’s come to this. Bo-young agrees that divorce can make you feel empty, and Joon-young asks if Hyun-woo has told Joon-soo yet.

Hyun-woo admits that he has no idea how to tell others of his impending divorce, but Joon-young’s advice is for him to do it soon, and not to wait too long like he did.

Bo-young and Joon-young are hanging out later that night, with Joon-young pointing out their many date-like activities, like eating food and playing video games. Bo-young answers his needling by blatantly stating that she likes him (making Joon-young choke), but adds that she doesn’t want to date him. Joon-young asks what then, does she want to get married? Heh.

Of course Bo-young shoots that down, instead saying that it’s difficult for her to have relationships with people, and she’s tired of trying. Joon-young asks if that means she’s tired of him, and when Bo-young doesn’t answer, he softly admits that when he was pretending to be married, he was tired too. However, when he was with her, he started to care about things again.

Joon-young points out that they’re already heading toward having a relationship anyway, and very casually proposes that they date. But Bo-young just snaps at him for asking that with a mouthful of kimchi, so Joon-young swallows before asking again. Pfft. She leaves, shaking her head, as Joon-young calls out repeatedly that they should date. Gotta love the persistence.

Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon begin to break their divorce news to their loved ones, starting with Hyun-woo’s mother. Unsurprisingly, it doesn’t go over well. His mother yells that she refuses to acknowledge their decision, and tells them to think of Joon-soo, pointing out that the little boy did nothing wrong. Hyun-woo quietly insists that they’ve already decided, while Soo-yeon apologizes over and over.

The couple visits Soo-yeon’s father next, and he’s much less volatile, taking the blame on himself instead. Sounding broken, Hyun-woo insists that it’s all his own fault for not making Soo-yeon happy after he promised to take care of her, apologizing deeply to his wife’s father.

After telling their parents, Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon face the toughest hurdle of all in telling their own son. Hyun-woo and Joon-soo go for a bike ride, and father and son happily spend the day together. The two stop for a break, and Hyun-woo gently tells his son that he and Joon-soo’s mom have decided to live apart now.

As the poor kid’s lip starts quivering, Hyun-woo continues in a shaking voice, saying that Joon-soo will live with his mom now. But he promises that he’ll always be his dad, and Joon-soo can see him whenever he wants. As Joon-soo tries so hard to hold in his tears, Hyun-woo asks Joon-soo to remember what he’s always told him: “When I’m not there…” Crying, Joon-soo finishes: “Instead of you, I have to protect Mom.” Oh, my heart.

Father and son embrace by the river, both trying and failing not to cry.

Yoon-ki defends his Okinawa mistress in court, assuring her that they’ll be able to get most of her husband’s assets. He’s confident of success, until the woman’s husbands presents the photos Ara gave him of Yoon-ki’s affair with his wife. The tide turns, and Yoon-ki can only watch, defeated.

After the trial, Yoon-ki’s mistress whines at the money she lost, but Yoon-ki assures her that he’ll buy her anything she wants, reminding her that he owns a building, after all.

Since Soo-yeon and Hyun-woo decided that she and Joon-soo would find a new place to live while Hyun-woo stays in their old home, Hyun-woo looks for a new apartment for his wife and son, nitpicking at every little detail as he checks the appliances and building safety.

Yoon-ki and his mistress arrive at his apartment to find a courier with an envelope from the court. Cut to the two meeting with an older man and his lawyer, who demands that Yoon-ki turn over his building to the other man. As it turns out, the land that Yoon-ki’s building is resting on originally belonged to this man, and was taken away from him during the Japanese Occupation. But now, he wants it returned.

As Yoon-ki stutters about the ridiculousness of the situation, the man yells at Yoon-ki to destroy the building and vacate immediately. His lawyer goes even further, saying that since Yoon-ki already did construction there without permission, he’ll have to compensate them. The Okinawa mistress whines about her clinic, and Yoon-ki all but whimpers at the loss of his precious building.

Joon-young waits outside a pojangmacha tent, clearly waiting. He spies Bo-young approaching and dashes back inside when Bo-young approaches, only to rush out and meet her “coincidentally.” Unfortunately, Bo-young sees right through their fated meeting. Sighing heavily, she tells him to come with her so that she can eat, and he can warm up. She walks off, and Joon-young follows like the happy puppy he is.

In the pojangmacha, Bo-young starts to say something in a serious tone, but Joon-young interrupts, guessing that she’s finally agreed to date him. He grins and starts teasing her, but Bo-young issues the phrase that will shut any man up: “I’m pregnant.”

Joon-young repeats it stupidly, and asks who the father is. When Bo-young just stares at him, he shouts out, “Me? Me?!” He starts to insist that they never did that, until Bo-young says it was the night they drank together. Joon-young remembers some of their drunken ride home, and breathes out an “Ahhh…”

As Joon-young sits stunned, Bo-young says that she’s decided to have the baby, which is why she told him. Joon-young still has trouble wrapping his mind around it, but comes to a fast decision, “Okay. There is nothing more to think about. Let’s get married.”

Bo-young replies that she didn’t tell him to make him take responsibility, but Joon-young answers back, “Whether we have a child or not, I want to be by your side. To be honest with you, I have no feelings for the baby that just popped up suddenly. It doesn’t even feel real, but if you decided to have it, I’d like to be by your side for the both of you.” Swoon.

Unmoved, Bo-young responds that she doesn’t want to get married, and the baby and marriage are two separate things. Joon-young insists, and the two start bickering again, this time over marriage rather than dating. When Joon-young threatens promises that he’ll marry her no matter what, Bo-young stomps off, leaving Joon-young alone.

Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon pack up the house together. The next morning, Hyun-woo heads off to work and asks if Soo-yeon needs help with the boxes, but she reassures him with a smile that the movers will help. However, after her husband leaves, her smile falters.

Soon, the movers have taken everything, and Soo-yeon stands alone in the sparse apartment, remembering her married life here. Memories flash from when Soo-yeon had first learned cooking, to when she’d told Hyun-woo she was pregnant and he’d danced happily around the apartment.

Realizing her marriage is now well and truly over, Soo-yeon breaks down crying.

At the studio, work continues as usual for Hyun-woo. As he directs, we hear him narrate his final post to the forum,

TOYCRANE: “I’m currently in the process of the divorce procedure with my wife. But I’m okay with it. Because I came to the answer after thinking hard about it. In that regard, I would like to sincerely thank you. If I didn’t have you, who held on to me when I was going through the toughest time, I would still be blaming my wife and wouldn’t have been able to look back on myself. This will be my last post. Thank you for everything. Although I’ve never met you, I wish all of you happiness from my heart. Goodbye.”

Hyun-woo looks over the dark studio before leaving, and as he heads home, his words slowly sink in with all his fans, leading all of them to take a new look at their lives.

Hyun-woo arrives back home to an empty house. Unable to make himself go in, he stands on the threshold, unmoving.

Out in the country, Grandma and Ajumma experience a lightning storm. Aww, Ajumma is scared of the lighting and hovers outside Grandma’s door until the older woman calls out for her to just come in already. As the two settle next to each other, Ajumma asks Grandma why she allowed her to stay with her after their husband died. Grandma answers that she’s going to keep her around to take revenge on her the rest of her life, but there’s no anger in her words, and Ajumma jokes back that she should be sure to live a long life, then.

After Ajumma falls asleep, Grandma gets up and writes a response to Hyun-woo’s post on her treasured cellphone: “TOYCRANE, now that I’ve lived to this old age, I came to this thought. The times that I miss hurt because I can’t get them back. The times that I don’t want still hurt because I can’t forget them. But I wonder, the time that’s floating by in front of us now, I wonder if I will miss it tomorrow. That’s a reason I can go on today with a smile.”

Hyun-woo sits on the floor in his dark apartment. Finally getting up, he turns on lights to forage for food. However, he opens to fridge to find it stocked full of packed meals, along with small notes from Soo-yeon on how to cook everything. Aww.

Regardless of her note, Hyun-woo sets up a small grilling station for himself, musing that on his first night alone, he should have a luxurious meal. As he waits for the meat to cook, he stares around the apartment, wondering if he should change the wallpaper, or if he should bring the large rice cooker to Soo-yeon and Joon-soo’s new home.

The nostalgia has him struggling to hold back tears, and Hyun-woo jumps up to get kimchi for his meal. He runs back to the fridge, but seeing all his wife’s notes proves to be too much. Standing in front of the open door, Hyun-woo completely breaks down, sobbing his heart out.

 
COMMENTS

Oh man, that hurt. After watching Hyun-woo and Soo-yeon break the news to their parents, and listening as Hyun-woo told his son that he wouldn’t be living with him anymore, I really thought we’d reached the episode’s angst threshold. I was wrong. Seeing Hyun-woo just standing there in his empty apartment, then seeing his sobs, my heart hurts. Hats off to Lee Seon-kyun for those honest and snotty tears. So many dramas put an emphasis on the “pretty crying” where a single tear rolls artfully down a blotch-less face, so when someone cries for real, it has a much stronger impact. I ached at his pain, and recoiled from his mucus – the exact same feeling I’d get if I saw someone cry in real life.

And if that wasn’t enough, poor Joon-young’s face when Bo-young walked away from him took what little emotional stability I had left. He’s such a good and sweet person, immediately stepping up and honestly stating that while the baby bomb is too much for him to think about, he still wants to be with Bo-young. Not only that, he wants to be there for her, helping her through this. Springing the whole “Let’s get married” thing might have been a bit premature, but I love that the news of fatherhood doesn’t change his core feelings for Bo-young — if anything, it makes him love her more.

Unfortunately, I’m having a harder time relating to Bo-young. I completely understand her taking time to come to her own decision, but it looks like she wants to cut Joon-young out of the picture, and I find that to be just wrong. Even if she’s not interested in him romantically, it’s his baby too, and if she’s decided to keep it, then he has every right to be involved. If he was slime like Yoon-ki, then I can see her not wanting him around. But she willingly told Joon-young, so to push him away afterward is cruel. I understand that she’s gun-shy about marriage given her last one, and Joon-young did jump on the wedding train pretty fast, but I think he’s so in love with Bo-young that he’d be willing to forgo the ring just to be with her and their child. I’m crossing my fingers that Bo-young won’t push him away for long, and that they can shift from adorably bickering to actually dating and picking out baby names.

I’m just going to gloss over Yoon-ki, since even with the revenge that’s getting rained down on him, I still just don’t care. I really did enjoy Ara’s conversation with Hyun-woo, though. I think most people already guessed that she was TUNAMAYO, so the reveal wasn’t quite the shocker, but I like that her words proved to be the tipping point for Hyun-woo. He saw himself in her and her story of how she tried to force herself to forget her husband’s monstrous ways, only to see that she slowly turned into a monster as well. TUNAMAYO was completely right yet again in that we can forgive, but we’ll never truly forget. It was that advice that finally made Hyun-woo see that he and Soo-yeon could never go back to the way things were.

I hadn’t realized until Bo-young said it, but Hyun-woo really did spend all this time trying to return his marriage to the way it was. He was so focused on regaining the life that he lost, that he was blind to that fact that it was truly gone. I was mad in the beginning when Soo-yeon meekly said that their marriage could never go back to how things were, and Hyun-woo was frustrated that she wouldn’t even try. But she was right — even though Hyun-woo realized his own faults in the relationship, and Soo-yeon atoned (not really, but whatever) for cheating, the affair still happened. The trust was broken. That being said, I really didn’t think they’d go through with the divorce. I can understand a separation, since it seems like what they both need to do is find a way forward rather than backward, but I can’t believe they actually divorced each other.

It really is amazing how this show has always kept us guessing about our characters and their story’s conclusion: We don’t know how our characters will end up, because they don’t know how they’ll end up. There’s no behind the scenes secrets or cookie-cutter plotlines to follow. We’re given an honest and unflinching look at a painful situation, and part of that pain is the possibility that our characters won’t remain together. Not only that, but it may be that they shouldn’t stay together. It’s a harsh reminder that life has no guaranteed happy ending. Like Grandma said, in the end, all we have are the times that we miss, and the times that we regret, but regardless, we must always treasure the moments that we have now.

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That crying at the end was probably the most realistic a show could ever make. They even let the mucus flow-and yes it does when you cry hard-not sth weird or creepy just damn true.

Plus, I still don't think the pregnancy was necessary for the second leads. They were good on their own, though yes it speeded things up when Ahn pd and Kwon writers relationship would've taken a lot of time to grow and for them to come of their fears.

Still, it's such a great show. However, it didn't make in my top three for year end awards. Why so? They totally wasted what Yoon Ki and Ara could be. When I heard of their casting, I knew they would be the fun part of the show, though the second couple brought more fun than these two, who seemed to be in a totally different drama and I ended up ffd their parts. They deserved better.

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During the start, Yoon Ki came of as funny to me but as time passed, my interest in the character diminished little by little until it came to the point that I did'nt wanna see him on screen. Right from the start, there was clearly no love I could feel from him to his wife so I knew by then that their pairing wouldn't end well but still, I hoped that he would still change. But well, not all people do..

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I do wonder why the only choices are to either go back to the way things were or divorce. The way things were wasn't all that great. If divorce makes them so unhappy, why not learn from life's lessons and face the new reality together instead of acting like the only way they can stay together is if they go back to the past? But why am I trying to reason with a made up story.

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Sometimes we need to be left alone to process what has happened and a broken heart and trust needs time to heal and time isn't something we can force to go quickly and these things needs to take on their pace. Plus it's better to admit to the pain than to deny it.

Ideally, the couple can try to work together. Realistically, they need their space. And seeing each other will only poke wounds thus making the healing process slower and worse. They need time and sometimes things work out and sometimes they don't. But we can't always go back to how things were, we can only can move forward and the only way to move forward is taking the right steps, in this case; having the divorce.

May be by taking these steps the couple will reconcile and end up together. May be they don't. Either way, life moves on and you either get on it and accept the reality is or deny it and still stay stucked forever.

Be that as it may, a made up story is still a story. Some are good and some are bad. But it's the lessons we learned from this stories that helped make life more fun..

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I completely agree. My long-term boyfriend had an affair during the beginning of this summer and confessed in July. When I asked why, he replied he never thought he would be a cheater but that his friendship with an acquaintance of ours took an unexpected turn. It was never planned or calculated. At the time, I didn't think we would make it. I had always seen myself as a woman who took zero shit from men. I figured that even if I could forgive him, it would be kind of sick to stay. The idea of forgetting about it never crossed my mind because I knew it was impossible. I could forgive, but I could never forget. I won't go into full details, but the gist is that after a lot of debating, I decided to stay. Because I understand all human beings make mistakes and faults and it would be a lie to say I haven't been tempted over the years to fall into the same position that he did. His affair opened both of our eyes to problems that were present in our relationship that we didn't realize even existed and were part of the reason why he sought comfort in someone else. It also showed me negative traits I display that had been harmful to our relationship. After many months of rockiness and working together, I think we've now been able to establish a much stronger relationship than before. Part of mending a relationship hurt by an affair is to understand it's a two-way street. One person must attempt to win back trust as the other relearns how to trust again. And sometimes, as the victim, it feels unfair that you have to put so much work into mending something you feel you had no hand in breaking. However, that mode of thinking is never beneficial to making a relationship stronger. My boyfriend's affair taught me what true magnanimity truly is and that staying in a relationship and learning how to forgive and trust again takes just as much strength if not more than leaving. Further, I learned that simply forgiving him was not enough, I had to help him forgive himself in order to strengthen our relationship. It's been nearly six months since the affair and every day keeps getting better and better. Rebuilding trust is a difficult thing, but I believe with time and patience it can and will be achieved. I hope Hyun-Soo and Soo-Yeon will come to the same conclusion my boyfriend and I did: We may not be able to go back to how we were, but we can go forward and build our relationship into something new that's stronger and more real than it has ever been before.

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Hooray for you! You clearly did it much better than me and my bf. :D We definitely were NOT doing that well after 6 months after his cheating so kudos to you.

We are doing great now but it has been already seven years and it was pretty messy for a long time. (For example, I cheated, too, so I cannot take higher ground than my bf here.) But yeah, it is possible to mend things if both want it and are ready to work for it. Not saying it always works out even then, but it is possible.

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I agree...why was there no option of counselling?

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They did counseling lol. They received counseling from netizens that were somewhat helpful. Of course, professional could have been better.

@shari: I also think they were too quick to divorce, but it seemed the wife pushed the divorce. Hyun-woo wanted to make it work, but ended up agreeing with her decision.

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To be honest, there are cases where divorce does not equate with a real END anymore because it's so easy to do, and in some countries so easy to undo. But it does give you that feeling of finality, and puts many things in perspective. The two of them clearly still love each other, and this END can make them rethink and remember that love and re-evaluate what they really want in the future because they now have to live with the reality of not being having that relationship anymore. A temporary separation doesn't really have the same impact, you still have to imagine not being married to the person at that point as opposed to it being real.

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*tears* just tears at every corner of this episode. The part that gut me was the video that our couple had to watch about letting a child knows of his/her parents divorce, and the quivering lips of Joon Soo. If I've ever been so thoughtless about the ugliness of divorce is, this show truly has shown me the dark corners. Thank you!

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I kept thinking that they would change their minds and not go through with the divorce, first when Hyun Woo wouldn't let go of the divorce papers, and then for sure when they watched the video together. But no.

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I don't really appreciate your criticism of Bo-young. Pregnant single mothers get enough criticism as is and expecting her to act a certain way or another towards the men who got her pregnant is unnecessary. While it's understandable that he would be interested in his child, he actually said he did not care about the baby in as much as it affected her. There's no need to critique her actions when he's fine with her behavior and when single pregnant women already face so many other hardships.

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Yes, he said that - literally five seconds AFTER she had told him about the baby. Imagine that, a person who doesn't develop an everlasting love to an embryo he was not expecting at all. Yeah, that deems him an unworthy father. :P

I'm sorry but being a single mom does not mean you cannot or should not be criticised if there's a reason and in my opinion there is one here. A father SHOULD have some rights, too, if a mother is keeping the baby. Besides, He's clearly NOT okay with her behaviour so we cannot use that excuse either.

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Agree with you on this, Arawn. That baby is just as much his as it is hers. What is with women who act like that is 100% "their" baby? And how about the baby? Fathers are so important in a child's life. She doesn't have a good reason to deny this child their other parent. Didn't like her attitude at all.

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I too am uncomfortable with the recapper's criticism of Bo-young. With regard to Joon-young not being "okay with her behaviour" (@Arawn), I agree with @Miss D that he is mainly unhappy about her rejection of his proposal of marriage, rather than about anything to do with the baby. Also, Bo-young may think she has a good reason to "deny this child their other parent" (@@Islander_58North) -- e.g after her experience of marriage, she may believe, rightly or wrongly, that a husband may turn out to be a downright liability in their child's life. She may even have doubts about Joon-young's staying power.

This is not to say that Joon-young doesn't care about the baby, or that Bo-young really intends to cut him out of her life. After all, it is as a husband that Bo-young is currently rejecting Joon-young. For all we know, she might be perfectly ok having him in her child's life after she gives birth. In short, Bo-young has every right to reject his proposal of marriage.

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I don't agree with the criticism of Bo-young either. She knew she couldn't hide the fact she's pregnant since she's keeping the child. So she's giving herself agency to choose when to tell everyone, especially the father of her child. Her character is well written and her actions align with what we know of her. Fact is human relationships are messy. When one is ready, or when one just can't see pass how to take that next step, it leaves to a lot of angst, heartbreak, frustrations. The yo-yo we see between PD Ahn and Bo-young is true to life.

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For me, Bo-young is scared, and freaked out over the fact that she's committing herself over something. Throughout the show, Bo-young was this commitment freak and avoids any relationship attachment whatsoever. She obviously taking extra precautions and tiptoed around her relationship with Ahn PD.

Committing yourself to a relationship is a huge thing, especially when you've been broken by it badly once. Imho, Bo-young is just overwhelmed by the fact that she's not sure whether she's ready for commitment this big. Their relationship was slowly developed and she's slowly trying to open up her heart again. But the pregnancy puts up an unexpected urgency of having to push the relationship forward. All she wants is time, and getting through things slowly. She knows he would definitely propose, but obviously she's not ready for it yet.

And she knows Ahn PD well to know he's going to be there for the baby even before she tells him. And that's why she's scared. Because she's not ready for that kind of commitment.

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I find myself torn. Here's where a bit of personal background comes into play (I never thought I would be talking about this here...but that's what this show seems to do!): I am a child of parents who had an arranged marriage. So, I never really saw what a loving marriage looked like and they mostly (I think) made it work for the kids. I know some people say that it's bad to do that, but I can't say. Yes, I have parents who aren't affectionate, and in fact, they fight a lot - but at least I have a family that's whole. If I think about what my parents would be apart - they may be happier but I think I would have lost sense of where I belong. I think what the divorce does is that it completely tears the fabric of the family apart - especially for the kid. I have friends whose families have divorced that have essentially disappeared in their parent's lives: the parent becomes so encompassed in their new life that they forget about the impact it can have on the child. In fact, even in the show, once the affair was suspected and they were dealing with the fallout - joon soo started to take a backseat. He became a child that needed to be picked up or dropped off - an item that needed to be accounted for (carefully, of course) but nevertheless an item. And I can't help but think that treatment will only increase once the family splits: both parents now run their own households and while they love him, their main priority switches to simply fitting him into their schedule. So, what would I suggest instead? I'm not sure. But I do think that sometimes marriages become less about romantic love and more about staying in a family. So maybe Hyun-woo can't hug his wife right now, but couldn't they still face the world and its problems together? Is it wrong to sacrifice the romance for familiarity and security? Again, I might approach this with that attitude since I've never really seen a family which was started because the parents loved each other - but as someone who's a product of an arranged marriage, I think the definition of a family or even a marriage doesn't necessarily have to fit the standards that we expect nowadays. But as someone who is a romantic myself, I understand the value of a marriage based in trust and romance, so I can't necessarily even follow my own suggestion. It's a difficult situation for sure, but I do think that the idea of a marriage that remains for the sake of a family might be better than facing that empty house at the end of the day.

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I also come from divorced parents and I have been affected by it greatly. However, I've to disagree with you. Marriage isn't just about keeping the family together, it's also about respect, love and patience with your partner as well with your children.

Sure you came from an arranged marriage. But not all arranged marriages are bad and thus not all divorces are bad. And that's the point I'm making. I was definitely devastated when my parents divorced but after living with my mom without my dad showed me why the divorce happened. My dad wasn't treated well by my mom and he wasn't really respected by her. She wasn't willing to compromise with my dad while my dad had to do all the compromising for her. He can't always talk to her without her being right, as she always is and she always put him down.

Eventually my dad has had it and divorced her. I didn't like it and thought that he should stayed together with her. But after living with her, she then treated me the same as how she treated my dad. Called me stupid, always putting me down and I can't really talk to her without her being right. And that's just few things on the list.

Point is relationships and marriage take work and sometimes they run the course, for better or worse. Ideally, you can try to work it out in anyway in any capacity. Realistically, there will be times when some relationships have hit a point where enough's enough. Of course, this is different for many people.

I do sympathize with your friends who have divorced parents. But love ain't enough and while I love you, I love me more. In other words, sometimes, while being selfless is good, you can't just ignore your own happiness and if you're no longer happy, you're going to be miserable. And how long will that be until enough is enough. Sometimes, you can't always ignore your own happiness

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Thank you for sharing your story and the insight that came with it. It's refreshing to read various perspectives from Beanies who come from different cultures, family settings, beliefs, etc.

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I also can't completely agree with this... but the fact is, each relationship dynamic is different. Some people divorce, and things turn out better for their children in terms of the environment they have to be in... while some people stay together, and they create so many emotional issues in their children because of how they treat each other. My family is the opposite of Alex's below, it was my dad who treated my mom disrespectfully. He wasn't physically abusive, but he embarrassed her in front of others because he didn't respect her enough. My mom's the artsy free-spirit type while my dad's the strict humorless disciplinarian so they just didn't mesh well, but they married because my mom got pregnant (can be seen as comparable to an arranged marriage in that it wasn't 100% their choice, but they at least dated).

Also, unlike Alex, my parents stayed together. And there are so many instances where I think they would have been happier and better people if they just separated.

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This has been one of the more difficult dramas to watch because there's just so much reality to empathize with. Having seen the Japanese version, I know how it ends, but I gotta say, they hit all of the emotional beats here more realistically.

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Look I've definitely enjoyed watching this drama and everyone's acting has been pretty great (I can't even watch Running Man without feeling residual frustration at Ji Hyo's Soo Yeon) but I just can't come to terms with how it's HIS fault that she cheated? For some reason this is just an accepted thing and the only people that argue it are Hyun Woo in the beginning and then Ara at the very end. It just bothers me so much and it also bothers me that Soo Yeon was only called out on being selfish one time and it was otherwise glossed over. As if Hyun Woo was a bad husband so her being a bad wife doesn't matter. It's like even in something so completely her own decision she still doesn't have any agency in it but whatever.

Also I just have to say that I find it so funny that people hated the wife of the guy Soo Yeon was cheating with for being mean to Soo Yeon but are cheering at Ara ruining her husband's girlfriends' lives. I'll still never understand why she pissed you guys off so much.

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I actually HATED A-ra doing all that stuff to Joon-ki's lovers. I'm not even sure all of them know he's married but even if/when they do, the one who's responsible towards A-ra is Joon-ki and Joon-ki alone. I do not mind that much her giving pics to the cuckolded hubby because in that case Joon-ki's lover is a cheater herself but the first girlfriend A-ra went to was not.

When it comes to Soo-yeon, I agree with you. Her lack of growth as a character has been disappointing. Sure she apologizes all the time but that isn't such a hard thing to do. Actually staying and facing the situation, that is hard. I feel like Soo-yeon hasn't really taken responsibility of her actions and inactions even though she keeps saying sorry. It's almost like "sorry" allows her to escape that. Hyun-woo has grown and understood his wrongs but Soo-youn still acts the same and still spreads her thin and does not share her worries or really seek help. Basically, she hasn't rectified any of the causes of her cheating, which doesn't bode well for the future.

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I would like to correct you on that. The first girlfriend Ara went to was getting married and pregnant with her fiance's baby. The second knew about Ara but didn't care. The third was just trying to get back at her husband, she would have known that Yoonki was married.
All ladies knew what they were getting into. And I loved Ara's revenge. She has put up with it for years. This will teach not only her husband but the ladies not to think about affairs. Every good and bad thing has consequences.

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I want to add my last words about Soo-yeon and what bothered me about her character. Now, I do think she could have done a lot of things differently to amend for her affair, but that is not what really bothered me. What she did and how she reacted is in the line with her personality and people rarely do all the right things anyway. She was realistic in this sense and I am fine with that.

However, I personally did not really see her change in the course of events, unlike Hyun-woo. Yes, this was about Hyun-woo this show and not about Soo-yeon, but we DID have her point of view, eventually, too and show could have showed us her changing a bit, too. Problem to me is that while Hyun-woo realised his mistakes and learned to listen to Soo-yeon and appreciate what she had done throughout the years, I cannot really say the same about Soo-yeon. She has an ability to self-reflect and seemed to understand why she ended up having an affair but I didn't feel like any of those reasons really went away. She still spreads herself thin, she still does not really talk about her problems or ask for help. Again, this is perfectly realistic and fine in that sense, but if she and Hyun-woo would attempt to try again at some point, it does leave the impression things might end up the same because Soo-yeon is still, essentially, the same.

So I am not unhappy with Soo-yeon per se but how the show developed her. I do have great sympathy towards Soo-yeon and in my opinion show did allow us to understand her, but as said, for me it felt like... at the end something was missing. The final touch. She does feel real and while I sympathise with her and I respect her, I would personally not attempt another go with her based on this information we are given. I would rather stay exes and try to develop a mutually respectful and affectionate relationship between ex-spouses.

But this is only my impression, of course. If you're happy with Soo-yeon, all is good for you. :)

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Sorry, this went to a wrong place this answer above...

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About Yoonki and his mistresess. I agree that YK is the one that is mostly responsible with the affairs, however to say that YK is the ONLY one responsible in the affair is absolving the ladies of their own fault. they make conscious decision to have relationship with married man. otherwise YK have to find other lady.

They all know YK have a wife! The sales lady, immediately know Ara when she steps into the sales lady house. Means even if she was not aware that YK was married initially somewhere along the line she knows that Ara is YK wife.
If she is truly innocent, she could have cut YK out of her life immediately.

The florist also know that YK have a wife, but still goin for the affair and enjoying the thrill.

YK client, also know that he is married, coz YK did said something along the line of if he is not married he would have cherished her.

so all of them should e aware that there will be consequences of the affair. Not all wife goin to simply accept that their husband is having an affair and let them go.

You see in China, the mistress are getting almost 100% the wrath of the wife and society (not that I agree, but thats the reality). When you are involve in an affair, you might fool yourself thinking that there will be no consequences. but life doesnt always do that. sometime life (or in this case the wife wrath) does come back and hit you hard.

If Ara want to have her revenge (not that i think its a good thing) then she can.

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Obviously those relationships would not have happened without those ladies. However, Yoon-ki is the one who is responsible towards A-ra, not any of his women. HE is the one who has agreement with A-ra. None of these ladies have any kind of agreement with A-ra what so ever.

I perfectly understand the hate a cheated spouse feels towards the other woman/man, but that hate alone does not give him/her right to act upon it. Yes, of course A-ra could take revenge on these woman but it does not make it right. She was wrong, plain and simple.

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I think you might have the mindset that when a spouse cheated it's on him/her alone. But you're wrong especially in Ara case, relationship works both ways, the mistresses knew about Ara and could end the relationship on a whim but they held on. YK is pretty blatant telling the mistresses that he is married.

I often stumble on ppl with similar mindset as you, blame whole heartedly on the people whom cheated in a relationship because they were the one with commitment and the person that they cheated with get a free pass.

One of the YK mistress the sales lady is actually in another relation with her BF that may or may not be the baby daddy. From the way she breaks down when confronted, her BF most probably not the father.

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I cannot agree with you. It is not the responsibility of other people to uphold the agreement a couple makes between themselves. Thus they are not to blame. It does not matter whether they know or do not know. You are only responsible for the agreements that YOU make.

I suppose we won't see eye to eye on this matter.

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I agree with Arawn. Personally, I feel that if your partner cheats on you, you will be doing the wrong thing for serving punishment to the people that your partner cheats on. Because your partner is the one who made an agreement with you, you have the right to punish your partner who broke the agreement. However, it's not your right to serve punishment to whoever your partner cheated on - first and foremost, because you are not the law, nor are you god, nor do you have any right to discipline someone else who has no connection to you whatsoever.

In this show Ara's been portrayed as a rather supernatural being - I see her character as the ultimate representation of divine punishment, it's completely separate from reality. It's not something that should, or can, be followed in real life. In real life, there's no guarantee that you'll be all-seeing as Ara seem to be, to know even the wrongdoings and motivations of the mistresses. If you take revenge on these people whom you know nothing about, you might end up hurting those who don't deserve to be hurt. If they have evil intentions to start with, it would not be up to you to serve that punishment.

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I have also seen those examples you've shared on wives in China tearing mistresses apart. It's really degrading to do those things to people like that. It's never right. It's a problem between your partner and yourself, there's no need to air the dirty laundry or drag down someone's reputation like that (though I can understand why those people would see it necessary because of the wider context and cultural issues). At the end of the day, revenge is just an eye for an eye, it proves nothing other than that you can be as mean as those other people who hurt you. Guys always seem to get the longer end of the stick as cheating husbands because there seems to be this stereotypical thinking that guys will cheat because they're guys, so it's all the fault of the women who seduced the husbands. That's bull.

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Think of it like this; If your friend is in an affair with other person spouse would you go "Nah, it's alright my friend not in a committed relationship" but in case of the spouse you "what a douchebag".

This is the problem, relationship works both way your friend and the cheater are equal doucebags.

Also I never said that the cheater get a free pass, it just the other party of the affair also deserve a repercussion (i.e the wife could confront them in civilize manner of course).

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Reply to both vas140030 and Arwan, here goes...

The difference between Ara and Sun Woo's wife, for me, is that his wife was so arrogant. She belittled Soo Yeon just to make herself feel better not because she was mad about the affair. She had the nerve to spout all that about Sun Woo saying Soo Yeon was nothing to him and assumed Soo Yeon wanted him to leave her. At no time did she lay fault where it should have been, at her husband's feet. She defended him like he was above reproach. The only people that are responsible for wrecking a marriage are the two people in it.

I didn't like all that stuff Ara did to the other women. I felt it was beneath her. I did however enjoy almost everything she did to her husband. He deserved everything except getting shot.

Arawn, I feel like Soo Yeon did stay around and face the situation. She did everything Hyun Woo asked of her until it was clear there was nothing she could do to make him feel better. Was she supposed to stay and continue to be berated and belittled until Hyun Woo felt he punished her enough? She was a problem solver and reserved person so she did what she knew how to do. There wasn't anything she could do for Hyun Woo until he was ready to move on. He was hurt and lashing out. He even turned a conversation about his son's education around to his feelings. Like what do you do in that case? She was wrong to cheat and she knew it. So she apologized and kept apologizing until another solution came around. Too bad at this point in the series the solution was divorce.

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Errr, have we been watching a different drama? From the very beginning Soo-yeon did NOT do everything Hyun-woo asked - in fact, most of the times she went against his expressed wishes. Now I won't say this was always wrong because many times Hyun-woo probably didn't really want what he was saying rather than lashing out in anger, but still, Soo-yeon did not do what he wanted her to do. He asked her to not to come to the house and yet she did. He wanted divorce immediately, Soo-yeon did not give that to him. (Here I think she did the right thing, obviously.) And so on.

My problem with Soo-yeon isn't that she didn't do everything Hyun-woo wanted her to do. In fact, this is one of the things I liked in her.

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Also, about Sun-woo's wife. I have personally been in her shoes so I cannot fault her in anything. Sure, she was arrogant and belittled Soo-yeon and it was not right thing to do. But she was hurting. She was hurting so, so much and yes, that hurt and anger was directed at Soo-yeon.

Thing is, for many people when your spouse cheats on you, you don't just suddenly stop loving that person. And especially if you're trying to mend your relationship, it is very difficult to hate the cheater even though he is the one to blame. However, it is easy to hate the other woman/man. And because there IS so much anger, hate and hurt in you, many people direct all of that towards the other woman/man. It isn't right, but it's a survival mechanism and besides, a person in acute pain does not think straight.

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"She belittled Soo Yeon just to make herself feel better not because she was mad about the affair."
of course she was mad abt the affair, that's why she belittled her. this was the woman that slept with her husband even though she knew he had a family so why isn't she allowed to be upset with her? and we don't know that she didn't put her husband through the ringer but what did you want her to do? dump him and leave Soo Yeon be even though she was 50% of the relationship? plus that's her husband and the father of her children regardless of how angry she may be she's not going to ruin her family, she chose to forgive her husband for her family but she has no connection to Soo Yeon. God knows I would've done much worse than call her on her fake romance bull

And re: your response to Arawn, she really didn't do anything that Hyun Woo wanted even down to when he asked her not to tell his mom anything. And the entire reason she told his mom was bc of HER guilt. Everything that she did was in relation to how it made her feel it was never abt Hyun Woo. Soo Yeon was written as a remarkably selfish character that never really has to own up to just how selfish she is

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I don't agree completely. I agree that she should have been angry at her husband. I don't agree that she should have self-flagellated like the MC (she should have acknowledged mistakes, but also put them in perspective: she might not have been perfect without meaning to hurt him, but she didn't intentionally humiliate him, break his trust and lie to him for half a year).

I don't agree with the idea that Soo Yeon is not responsible at all. I agree with the concept that without her, there would have been another one, the woman's husband was the type of person that would have cheated in the right circumstances, like Soo Yeon. But she knew that the guy had a wife and kids, and still pursued a relationship. That's not "none of your business", and I would have actually liked to hear more from Soo Yeon on the way her action impacted the other family.

I wouldn't call her arrogant, but hurt. The thing that seems to be hard to remember with all this excuses and bullshit, is that for all of the "oh-my-life-is-so-difficult-as-a-healthy-career-woman-in-a-first-world-country", her and the MC were the people that have been humiliated, systematically and intentionally betrayed and deceived for half a year.

I agree that Soo Yeon couldn't have done anything for her husband. She is an unfaithful wife and he a cuckhold, and since there is no medicine of the past or time machine that allows us to change our actions, and our actions, not our words, are what we are, there is really nothing she can do to change that fact. There are no reparations, no restoration, she can't give him back that half a year. Not that him insulting her does anything to change that either (though I thin that it takes gall to basically imply that he is a petulant child because he can't simply put down the fact that he has been humiliated and betrayed for half a year in... what? How much time has passed? C'mon, I have said sorry, yes?). The guy basically is sorry for not being able to forget that his wife has systematically betrayed his trust for six entire month, and would have continued to lie to his face if he had not caught her red handed. The one thing I agree on is that they should divorce, and he should put this all behind him and find someone better (namely, someone that wouldn't cheat on him, not a high bar to pass).

I have to point out that cheating for boredom or lust, or because you feel like shit because of poor work life balance, are not exactly an ocean apart, morally speaking (not paying enough attention and intentionally betraying one's trust, however, are). The guy should take a hint and just start flapping his mouth around, apparently finally getting around after much prodding to utter a few words of apology is considered enough.

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Relationships take work, it takes 2 to make a marriage successful and it takes 2 to let one fail. It's not blame so much as apathy that HyunWoo is owning - both husband and wife played a role in this.

At the beginning of this drama, you could see the family dynamics and lack of communication/interest on both husband and wife's part. HyunWoo sleeping in his son's bed, running off to meetings, and most of the time their communication centered around who could pick up/drop off their child.

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@vas: I never thought the show made the affair to be Hyun-woo's fault, but it was a chance for him to reflect about his marriage and his role as a husband. This affair allowed Hyun-woo to realize that he was not a perfect husband and was satisfied with the status quo. He thought occasionally doing a couple chores was being a good husband and dad. The truth is that Hyun-woo didn't do his best for his family. (This is normal!) You could say that the affair was avoidable if he was a better husband, but this is no excuse for soo-yeon. She committed the ultimate marriage betrayal.

I agree with you guys that Soo-yeon lacked some development compared to Hyun-woo. When she was having a difficult time managing being a working mom and wife, she should have went to her husband for help. It would have been nice if this character could have realized her communication and life management issues.

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Hyun woo's struggle was heartbreaking. I was a little surprised about how quickly they ended up at divorce. Not sure if the jump to divorce was because of the timeline of the show (we are at the penultimate episode after all) or it was what would have worked for this couple. While I could definitely see Hyun-woo's struggle and his desperation in trying to make it work, seo-yeon was sometimes opaque to me. I could sense her defeat and her understanding of why her husband couldn't move past the affair even after what they went through (the scene where Hyun-woo is unable to hug her and she says "I understand" was so sad but perfect). But when she was sitting in the couch during the night I couldn't see what she was feeling maybe because the show focused on Hyun-woo's inner struggle.
Initially, I thought they were hasty in their decision to divorce but after sometime I think this might be what works for this couple. From the beginning we are told that Hyun-woo is indecisive and that his indecisiveness has been the cause of stress for his partners. So, it makes sense that after this ordeal he would grow by learning to make decisions faster. It's also shown that once he makes a decision he sticks to it. So it made sense that once they decided to divorce they would go through with it. In their relationship, I think see-yeon is a follower. She doesn't seem capable of making her own decisions. She is very tuned to what Hyun-woo (and others) want from her (and tries too hard to give it to them) even when they don't verbalize it. Her insistence on divorce I think is based on her figuring out that that is what hyun-woo really wants. I think if Hyun-woo truly wanted to stay married, she would have stayed that way. So the divorce (and the way they went about it) makes sense for this couple. I will agree that seo-yeon has not seen as much growth as hyun-woo. Maybe she needs to be by herself to see how to make her own decisions, so the divorce might be good for her.
Joon-soo comes out worst in all this. I was disappointed that they didn't break the news to him together.
I can relate very well to Bo-young. I think she's tired of relationships. I think she's similar to seo-yeon in mental makeup (introverted, reflective, and sensitive to other's needs), so she probably but in a lot of effort into her marriage and relationships. From the beginning of the show she has shown a certain apathy to all things, which is a sign of someone who is mentally and emotionally exhausted. Through the series she seems to slowly caring about things (her buying new appliances for her home is a sign). Being by herself could have given her the room to focus on herself. Even though Joon-young likes her (and she really likes him), it might be hard (scary) for her to let someone in. It doesn't help that she's now faced with an unplanned pregnancy, adding marriage to it would be super stressful. so much to unpack.
Ahh!! I've reached the word limit. Great show!!

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Thanks for the great analysis @Kasumi!

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I really don't understand when people say Soo Yeon didn't atone or sincerely apologize for cheating. No sarcasm or anger intended but, what was she supposed to do? What would make people feel better? It's not like she didn't suffer the consequences. She was humiliated at lunch by the wife, she lost out professionally, she took a lot of emotional/verbal lash out (I don't want to call it abuse but it was borderline, though understandable) from her husband and she never stopped saying sorry. She was a quiet reserved woman so her apologies were befitting her personality.

In the beginning she said that it was a 6 month affair but they'd only slept together once (unless the subs were wrong). So it wasn't about the physical but emotional part of her that was missing something. She didn't set out to cheat and wasn't a malicious person so can someone, anyone, please tell me what she could have done that would make her seem more regretful. I'm not being sarcastic, I honestly want to know.

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Honestly, it is hard to pin point. I wouldn't say it's not that there were no consequences for her or that she didn't feel regretful enough. There were dire consequences and she was definitely very regretful and she indeed kept saying sorry over and over again.

But... For me it somehow almost felt like she was shielding herself with her constant apologising. Like, because she was already laying down, other party had really no right to "kick" her (= be angry and berate her). Yes, Hyun-woo was really angry at the beginning but it is a very normal reaction after an emotional knockout. Soo-yeong however didn't really give Hyun-woo chance to express his emotions, either but basically shut down immediately and started saying they should separate. That is usually what cheated people fear most (ironically), losing their spouse and Soo-yeon fed right into that fear. Even though SHE was one to blame, she basically posited Hyun-woo into a position where he had to learn to understand HER but I didn't really feel like she learned to understand him and what he really needed and wanted.

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We must be cosmically drawn to each other. Lol. I just replied upthread to you.

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You've said very well how I feel about Soo-yeon. Hyun Woo really needed her to tell him that she still loved him, that she would do whatever was needed to stay with him, that she would immediately terminate the other relationship. He got none of that.

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I agree very much with this comment it's right on the mark. Soo-Yeon didn't make it clear to Hyun Woo that this affair was over. In fact the answer she gave left you thinking it was over for now but could start up again later. Caught in real time cheating I thought Soo-Yeon would bare her very soul before Hyun Woo expressing how much she love him and ask him for forgiveness. When Hyun Woo walked out of that hotel room Soo-Yeon should have been hanging on to him for dear life. Yet she stayed behind why? On the elevator when the two of them locked eyes and she asked him what are doing here. my thought was she was saying all week I planned this affair now you have spoiled it by showing up here. I didn't see the love from her. I saw the love very clearly that Hyun Woo had in his heart for his wife. He was truly heart broken. A broken man. In the hotel room I don't think Hyun Woo handle the situation well. He held all the cards everything was in his favor. He should have stayed calm and not let them see him sweat even though there was a volcano erupting inside of him. He never should have sit down. This took a lot away from his advantage as the one in charge. There were mistakes that he made through out the episodes which caused him undo pain. in closing i would like to point out in my opinion had the cheating husband assured Soo-Yeon that he would leave his family for her I think she would have left Hyu Woo. Six month affair and sex not just a fling.

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I feel like we have the exact same position on this drama except when it comes to Ara

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There's a lot what Soo-yeon could have done differently. For example, she could have answered Hyun-woo's questions about the affair and her feelings regarding it. Most of the time she just deflected these questions and instead said she was sorry.

I myself have been in Hyun-woo's situation and I can say that if my bf had reacted like Soo-yeon, we would have been eventually done, too. Now I won't go and say he did everything right (neither did I), but Soo-yeon did give up very easily at the beginning. You cannot expect a person to have a proper conversation or listen to you when he is in acute pain and yet this apparently was what Soo-yeon (and the audience) was expecting from Hyun-woo. And right when he started to calm down and was starting to be ready for that conversation, Soo-yeon served him divorce papers. Are you really saying this was all that she could have done? Really? She could not have waited a bit more?

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@Arawn, I actually do agree with you that the show didn't show much changes in Soo Yeon that would make reconciliation easier because I think we all agree by now that mending a relationship has to be a two way effort.

But your point on wanting Soo Yeon to be forthright about her reasons and feelings for cheating...brings up another issue that I am curious about. How much of the truth do someone like Hyun Woo really wants to know? I just wonder if Hyun Woo or anyone who's been cheated on is ready to hear all the gory details. Would it kinder to spare him the details? He is having a monumental task of forgetting the image of the other guy as it is. Would more details actually make things easier? Maybe..idk just maybe she just didn't want to hurt him more in that scene ...just a possibility to be considered. Some people might think less is good?

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I do think a person has the right to decide for him/herself what kind of information they do want to know. I'm not saying anyone HAS to tell anything, but I do not accept "I'm just sparing his/her feelings" as an excuse. Basically it's the same thing as noble idiocy, you are not allowing the other party to decide for themselves. Sure, she probably did not want hurt Hyun-woo more, but at the same time SHE made the decision for him. That is not right either.

However, I do think that 1) it is a good idea to let everyone to calm down so that the one who got cheated on can think it through and properly decide what he/she does actually want to know and 2) not ALL details are necessary, of course. For example the exact intimate sex stuff is something that no one has a right to demand to know.

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I love how this show has demonstrated the stages of grief that a couple go through in a loss or death of a relationship...we have seen his confusion/denial, been with him through the anger/revenge, the bargaining when he tried to "forget" and now the despair is settling in. It's really an emotional rollercoaster for the viewer as well as the characters in the drama!

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Well said! Totally agree with you.

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When HY was crying a river during the last scene, I was like, "Give LSK an acting award now! As in, NOWWWWW!" :D

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Yes to this. Actually his performance in the entire series has not been less than phenomenal and I can't be more pleased that he came back with such a meaty role.

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I cried watching Sooyeon and Hyunwoo crying realizing the happiness they have lost. This is reality.

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When I consider how some of us still feels dissatisfied that Soo yeon wasn't doing enough to rectify her wrongs or atone her cheating, I think the direction of the show might have a hand in this. Given the title of the drama and the initial episodes, we were truly experiencing everything through Hyun Woo's perspective. It would make sense that he has the most focus on character growth. Thankfully in the later episodes we were also given some insight into Soo yeon's situation but only to make Hyun Woo's reactions and decisions more relatable. At the end of the day we do not really hear her thoughts, understand her deepest fear and emotions other than what she showed and said. That's why I can understand why some have reservations over Soo Yeon's character.

I suppose if the show is called "This week I am having an affair" then we would be able to empathise with Soo Yeon more. Still all things considered I did like that she wasn't painted like a terrible person and we were offered a glimpse of her personality and struggles.

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I find it very interesting that people are dissatisfied with Soo Yeon. I think part of the reason is that we are spoilt in dramaland. We are given clear villains and clear victims. Even in dramas where the main leads cheat, their spouses are clearly inattentive, clearly villainous, clearly mean. But in this case, Hyun Woo and Soo yeon are essentially good people.

I don't think Soo-Yeon didn't atone, and frankly I don't think she could have done anything to appease anybody in the forum who wanted her to grow. She made a mistake, she realized it and she was regretful for it. Her character was not a growth character. Her actions allow other people to grow and that's ok. That's how people are in real life.

This show was never about Soo Yeon. This show was for all the Hyun Woo's out there who think their life is dandy. This show is for everyone to look at their life and examine how they are treating other people in their life. And perhaps, that empathy is what we need to take away from this show.

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Excited as this is my first post. In a way I feel like i'm a part of the show jeje.

So many characters had growth in this series. HY had to see his life wasnt perfect, JY had to finally admit he was divorced and once again learning to trust. Ara that she could not continue being blind to her husbands trysts. Even the couple that were considering divorce that commented on the board grew. The only exception ill say is Yoon ki as I feel like he never cared.

I think a lot of the issue people have with SY is that they wanted her to grow, and that possibly they don't feel like she really felt guilt. A lot of what we see we take as selfishness but i ask that you take a second look at her.

When she confessed to her mother in law I saw it as she couldn't stand for her husband taking all the blame for something he did not do. Consistently through the story (Unless it was a translation error.) she refers to him as honey. So I felt like she really did love her husband but the act of her affair hurt her deeply as well. She hurt the person who cared for her the most. When she reflected about their time together when HY made the promise of always looking at the stars together, to when JY told her to look at her husbands posts as toycrane. She saw that he wasn't being himself and that what he wanted to do and say were being clouded. Her husband who was indecisive was being controlled by his emotions in a way impulsive. So her constantly saying sorry was her truly being sorry. My biggest belief of this is her saying I know when her husband realized he could not hold her the same without reminder. She herself wanted to be held but could not take away the thought of how she allowed herself to be someone else's and thus was also scarred in a way.

That's my take on the issue though, but I would have liked to see her do more. Possibly show her in pain from her betrayal or from the lack of being able to be with her husband anymore.

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I'm crying like a child when HY told JS thay he need to take care his mom now. Seeing that cute little boy full of tears but he tried to be tough, it's breaking my heart

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I totally ugly-cried when JS tried to hold it in, complete with loud sobs and all. Thank goodness I was alone at home.

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Ara = TUNAMAYO. I KNEW IT!

I agree with Ara in a way. No matter how much you try, whenever your significant other is away from you, you will probably continue to have suspicions of whether he/she is with another person. That... is what happens when trust is broken. It's easy to break it, but not easy to fix it. But that doesn't mean you should avoid it.

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But how does she know that he hyun woo is toycrane?

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I want to add my last words about Soo-yeon and what bothered me about her character. Now, I do think she could have done a lot of things differently to amend for her affair, but that is not what really bothered me. What she did and how she reacted is in the line with her personality and people rarely do all the right things anyway. She was realistic in this sense and I am fine with that.

However, I personally did not really see her change in the course of events, unlike Hyun-woo. Yes, this was about Hyun-woo this show and not about Soo-yeon, but we DID have her point of view, eventually, too and show could have showed us her changing a bit, too. Problem to me is that while Hyun-woo realised his mistakes and learned to listen to Soo-yeon and appreciate what she had done throughout the years, I cannot really say the same about Soo-yeon. She has an ability to self-reflect and seemed to understand why she ended up having an affair but I didn’t feel like any of those reasons really went away. She still spreads herself thin, she still does not really talk about her problems or ask for help. Again, this is perfectly realistic and fine in that sense, but if she and Hyun-woo would attempt to try again at some point, it does leave the impression things might end up the same because Soo-yeon is still, essentially, the same.

So I am not unhappy with Soo-yeon per se but how the show developed her. I do have great sympathy towards Soo-yeon and in my opinion show did allow us to understand her, but as said, for me it felt like… at the end something was missing. The final touch. She does feel real and while I sympathise with her and I respect her, I would personally not attempt another go with her based on this information we are given. I would rather stay exes and try to develop a mutually respectful and affectionate relationship between ex-spouses.

But this is only my impression, of course. If you’re happy with Soo-yeon, all is good for you. ?

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To those who were unsatisfied with Soo Yeon's "character growth".

There's this point to think about.

Wife did everything, achieved everything she wanted, she realized she was missing something (emotional support), made a bad judgment call and was apologetic. How else would she 'grow'? Give up her career? Be a stay at home mom? That's regressing. She was just being supportive and considerate to the husband (and his decisions) whom she wronged. I actually like her character.

And Husband didn't even notice, had to be told by an ex girlfriend he was kinda useless, so obviously, he had to do most of the growing. She was his plot catalyst.

Anyway, Writer Kwon had a good analogy a few episodes back I think, something about the full beer, another drop and it spills over.

And that sweet sweet boy crying, I just want to hug him. Little guy can sure tug the heart strings. This episode was just tears on tears action.

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beta is the new alpha rofls

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I was, like many of you, hoping HW and SY would decide to work out their marriage as a couple rather than to divorce. At this point, it would seem that HW has grown more than SY. But it is unfair to say that she has not developed and grown. She may just need more time to develop. It is unreasonable to expect her to develop at the sam rate as HW. So, let's be patient and hopeful.
Most significantly, she has recognised that she did wrong; did not blame HW or her circumstances; accepted that she had no excuse for her affair - claimed responsibility for the affair. She felt guilt, regret and remorse for her actions. To that end she apologised no end accepting all the abuses, ridicule, and humiliation for it. She was repentant - ceased contact with SW; understood HW's hurt better; valued and expressed her appreciation for HW; She didn't express regret marrying HW; continued to be a good mother to JS; and even responded to HW's attempts to reconciliation (like sneaking out for a late night drink with him).
I guess, many think that she could have done better or more. But SY needs time to learn these. In fact, she divorced because she did not want to make HW suffer anymore. Her divorce puts her at a greater disadvantage and requires more courage. She could have done what SW's wife did to hang in there. But realised that might hurt HW more and turn him into a monster.
Their divorce makes me sad because I know still love each other but cannot forget the past affair.

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Just a few more comments to add.
SY so readily and adamantly admitted her affair to HW's mum but we did not witness the same with her own dad. In fact, she left HW to shoulder the blame for failing to make her happy.
I do not recall a scene when SY expressed her love for HW even after they were making up. The closest to it was her disclosure to their college mate that she liked him first. But seemed like in the past.
She missed SW all the time, but not HW. If I recall the narrative, it was SW who initiated the end of their future contacts and their affair. SY only offered to stop meeting with SW for now, which sounds temporary.
We duly credit SY for understanding and appreciating HW's pov and love for her, but he was just a reliable, trusted, available "weekend husband" for her.
I don't think the writers have credible reasons to bring them back together. It's impossible too repair the broken relationship without the superglue called "love"!!

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I find the reaction of his mum incredible. I don't understand in what universe this could be considered realistic. Then again, considering the demented reaction of her son... The time frame is what makes it more difficult to keep suspension of disbelief. Well, that and the fact that he actually apologizes to her for remembering that she cheated on him. There is an inversion of roles where her perspective is now the sane one, while he apologizes that he can't simply roll over and forget that he has been cuckholded. How much time has it been? They lied and deceived him for half a year.

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"In the end, Hyun-woo gives sole parental rights to Soo-yeon, and agrees to pay a large sum in child support. The pair looks so sad, and Hyun-woo agrees to everything so easily that the divorce planner is unnerved as she asks if they’re really going to go through with this."

Even considering what she did to him, and that incredibly *she* is the one asking for divorce, it's quite incredible that he agrees to these terms.

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Seems like he has a hole in the brain and the slowly lost neurons in the course of the series

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He should really be colder and more detached, less aphazard. The fact of the matter is that his undecisiveness in confronting his wife in the beginning, more than his lack of attention, is what makes him unpalatable. And now this remissiveness, self-flagellation and disproportional sense of the role he played. He *did* make mistakes. He *did't* force his wife to betray his trust and deceive his for half a year. She is an adult, not a child, and needs to be held responsible for her actions (and when she finally seems receptive to the notion, he loses his spinal column... truly out of sync).

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