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Because This Life Is Our First: Episode 12

Love can make one foolish and irrational. It can also be all-consuming and fervent, as our heroine learns as she falls in love for the first time. Sneaking glances and holding hands, our couple is now free to express their feelings, but like the beginning of most relationships, they tread carefully, making sure to keep their emotions in check. Our couple reaches new heights of adorableness this episode, and I can’t stop smiling!

 
Episode 12: “Because this is my first time with desire”

Se-hee tells Ji-ho that the kiss at the bus stop wasn’t a real kiss, and leaning in closer, he says that this is how you do it. He kisses Ji-ho, much to her surprise, but when he asks if they need to do it again, she says yes.

They kiss once more, embracing each other, but a phone rings, interrupting them. Ji-ho doesn’t hear the phone, completely immersed in the kiss, so it takes a while for Se-hee to grab her attention. Heh. It’s Mom calling, asking where they are, and Ji-ho hastily tells her that they’re just watching the ocean.

They decide to head back to the house, and Se-hee wonders if she acted too angry with her mother. Ji-ho explains how her dialect makes her sound mad because her voice naturally gets louder, and Se-hee readily agrees since he already analyzed the dialect while making kimchi.

He starts to list off the different pronunciations of words he heard, one of them being “pretty,” and Ji-ho wonders if the ajummas joked about him being pretty. He explains that they asked him if he thought Ji-ho was pretty, and though Ji-ho looks up at him with expectant eyes, wanting to hear how he responded, Se-hee merely smiles and says that they should go.

It’s nighttime, and Ji-ho and Se-hee say their final goodbyes at the door. However, an ajusshi from before stops Se-hee, forcing him one last drink before he leaves. Ji-ho intervenes, grabbing the bowl, and drinks it in one gulp in his stead. Glaring at the husband, she drops to informal speech, and threatens to dunk his son-in-law in a liquor jar if he bothers her husband again. Se-hee steps behind Ji-ho with a triumphant smile plastered on his face.

As Ji-ho’s brother Ji-seok and his wife drive them to the bus station, Ji-seok recalls the last time Ji-ho threatened that same ajusshi when he stole the stray dog Ji-ho was taking care of, saying he’d eat it. In retaliation, she stole his cultivator and threatened to sink it in the ocean if he didn’t return the dog. Looking back at Se-hee, Ji-seok says that once Ji-ho gives her heart to something, it lasts forever, but Se-hee stares out the window with a sad look on his face.

Once they arrive at the station, Ji-ho and Se-hee turn to go, but a bicyclist rides dangerously close to them. Se-hee pulls her in, saving her from a collision, and the two exchange a look before separating. Perceptively, Eun-sol notes how “fresh” they look, almost as if they’re in the beginning stages of dating rather than married.

On the bus, Ji-ho wonders if they should ask to switch seats to sit next to one another, but Se-hee tells her not to, because it would inconvenience the other passenger. Sitting in the front, Ji-ho thinks to herself that all her childhood dramas and movies ended with kisses, and now she realizes why: The real story happens afterwards, but people don’t want to watch the truth since it can be painful and dark.

Remembering their kiss, Ji-ho grows hot, and narrates, “The drama between that man and me has only just begun. And my desires have also of only just begun. All of the romantic cells inside of me have woken up.”

They arrive at the apartment in the early morning, and after petting Cat together, they stand awkwardly in the hallway, neither making the first move to leave. After Se-hee says that he had fun making kimchi and adventuring at the beach, they playfully argue over who should go in first.

Ji-ho relents, but before closing her door, she pokes her head out and adorably waves goodnight to Se-hee. He returns the sentiment, waving back. They’re so CUTE!

Ji-ho scrolls through pictures of Se-hee saved on her phone, and realizes that they don’t have a proper picture together. In his own room, Se-hee does the exact same thing, and looks at pictures of Ji-ho on his phone.

He suddenly gets a text from Ji-ho, while in her room, she kicks her blanket in embarrassment for asking about his response to whether he thought she was pretty. Se-hee texts her back, telling her that he said she was pretty, and Ji-ho lights up.

As Se-hee turns out the lights, he stares once more at a photo of Ji-ho and smiles. SO. MUCH. CUTENESS.

Meanwhile, Ji-ho tosses and turns in her bed, unable to fall asleep. She sighs over the fact that they aren’t sleeping together in the same bed, but then bolts up, disgusted by her own thoughts. Heh.

Won-seok wakes up to an empty bed and finds breakfast already made for him. Ho-rang left early for work, and at the bus stop, she longingly watches the mothers send their kindergartners off to school. Ho-rang hesitates before answering Won-seok’s call, and they make plans for their date later today. He says, “I love you,” and after a pause, she says it, too—though both sound drained rather than happy.

Su-ji tries on the bras Sang-gu bought for her, but all of them are uncomfortable and ugly. She decides to order a custom one, and finds a local craftsperson who specializes in custom undergarments. Su-ji is impressed by her knowledge and amount of data, and mentions organizing it all and creating an online database for future transactions.

The woman thanks her for the advice, but she’s only doing this as a part-time job since she’s married. Su-ji apologizes for overstepping, and asks for the cost (250,000 won), which causes her jaw to hit the floor.

Won-seok arrives at work, and jumps back in fright at the sight of Se-hee sleeping in the massage chair. Se-hee came in despite it being the weekend to use the chair (since the kimchi-making made him sore) and wonders if Won-seok came for the same reason. But Won-seok is only stopping by before his date later.

He suddenly asks Se-hee if he loves Ji-ho, but takes back his question after Se-hee gives him an odd look. Thinking for a moment, Se-hee invites Won-seok for some coffee, and the two relocate outside to talk.

Won-seok confesses his recent worries about marriage, relationships, and love. He tells Se-hee that he no longer fights with Ho-rang even though they’re both aware that they’re thinking differently, and Se-hee understands, since an argument might lead to something irreversible.

Se-hee also confesses that he and Ji-ho didn’t marry out of love, but rather because their needs matched and neither felt uncomfortable with each other. But as Se-hee found peace with himself through their marriage, feelings for Ji-ho grew in his heart.

He advises Won-seok to be honest with Ho-rang since humans are naturally selfish, and explains how marriage is one of those instances where selfish desires show most clearly. Won-seok argues that he has no desires, since he only wants to make Ho-rang happy and can’t live without her.

Se-hee repeats Won-seok’s statements, and points out that the subject in each one is Won-seok, never Ho-rang. Having imparted his wisdom, Se-hee gets up to leave, but turns around to ask Won-seok a question: “What do people do on a date these days?”

Thoughts about the kiss consume Ji-ho as she furiously wipes the table at work. Su-ji stops by to ask to “borrow” Ji-ho’s chest, so they move to the backroom where Su-ji collects her measurements. She excitedly tells Ji-ho about gathering data and enabling people to custom-order bras, widening the customer base. Noticing the twinkle in Su-ji’s eye, Ji-ho says that she should just start her own business.

Su-ji says that can’t leave her high-paying job since this life isn’t hers, and Ji-ho apologizes. Su-ji changes the subject to Ji-ho, and asks if she’s struggling with lust since the man she likes lives in the next room. Ji-ho denies it emphatically, and Su-ji finds that odd, wondering if it’s because she’s never dated anyone before.

Ji-ho sits at the bus stop, remembering Su-ji’s advice: Don’t get physically close if she isn’t going to sleep with Se-hee because it’s like opening Pandora’s box. Nearby, a group of high school girls talk about how their friend is good at something because she’s a fearless first-timer and that newbies are more hardcore. Ji-ho audibly agrees with their statement. Heh.

She hangs her head in shame, and right then, Se-hee shows up to sit down next to her. He came by hoping that he might see her here after work, and asks if she wants to do anything. Ji-ho can only stare at his lips, imagining him seductively make kissing faces and licking his lips, and loudly protests that she doesn’t want to do anything.

So Se-hee asks if she wants to do what he wants, then, and holds out his hand for her to take.

Walking down the street, he leads her to a crowd gathered around some musicians busking (cameo by MeloMance, who sing an OST for the show), and much to her disappointment, he lets go of her hand to applaud. Afterwards, Se-hee explains why he likes cats, but Ji-ho is preoccupied with trying to hold his hand again. She’s such a precious cinnamon roll!

When asked about her favorite animal, Ji-ho says that she likes snails because they take their home with them, and her interpretation impresses Se-hee. Off in the distance, he sees a game stand, and suggests playing. Ji-ho is unenthusiastic at first, but perks up as soon as Se-hee grabs her hand to lead her to their next stop.

Ho-rang and Won-seok head off for their date, and notice a man spectacularly failing at popping balloons at a game stand. As they get closer, they realize it’s Se-hee, who puts on a serious expression every time he throws the dart, only to miss miserably. Hehehe.

Ho-rang asks Ji-ho what’s wrong with Se-hee, but Won-seok clues them in about how Se-hee asked him about his date course. Realizing the reason behind Se-hee’s action, Ji-ho steps up when he buys another round of darts, and impressively pops every balloon with each throw. The crowd around them cheers, and Se-hee proudly watches Ji-ho.

As Se-hee carries the doll that Ji-ho won, she asks why he wanted to win it so badly. He explains that it’s hers, and that he wanted it because it’s a snail (whose shell is a house), and hands it to her. He also hands her a small box to carry since that’s hers, too, and hurries on ahead—though he looks back to make sure she’s still following him. Heh.

At home, Su-ji organizes the data about custom bras, and then get enraptured in designing new bras, which makes her miss calls from Sang-gu.

So Su-ji arrives at the hotel room late for their date, and appeases Sang-gu with a back-hug. He asks if she’s braless again, but Su-ji tells him that she’s underwear-less this time, teasing him to check for himself.

After some sexy fun-times, Su-ji and Sang-gu freshen up together, but when Su-ji brings out her own hair dryer, he comments on how much easier it would be for them to just meet at home. She ignores his complaints, and Sang-gu drops the topic, instead offering to dry her hair for her.

At a cafe, Ji-ho opens the box, which contains earrings. Se-hee explains how he always wanted to gift her something like everyone else, and Ji-ho says that he must have also wanted to go on a date like everyone else, too.

She mentions their age gap, highlighting the different milestones they had at the same time, and Se-hee mildly objects to being treated as so old, ha. Ji-ho asked Sang-gu for advice on dating someone older and had been told about this cafe, which Se-hee used to frequent, and Se-hee looks around, momentarily lost in thought.

Ji-ho shyly excuses herself to go to the bathroom to try on the earrings, and comments to herself on how adorable Se-hee is. As she puts in the earrings, she drops an earring back, and another occupant (Lee Chung-ah) picks it up.

Noticing Ji-ho struggle, the woman offers to help, and in a rather intimate moment, she puts the earring in for Ji-ho. They meet again in the cafe, as Ji-ho finds the woman sitting at her table. She apologizes, citing this spot as having the best view, and gets up to leave. She exits the cafe moments before Se-hee rejoins Ji-ho at the table.

Ho-rang and Won-seok eat dinner, talking about this and that, when Won-seok remembers Se-hee’s advice about being honest. He brings up their marriage, and asks Ho-rang if she can wait five more years. Ho-rang is stunned, asking if he means to just date for twelve years.

Arriving at the theater, Ho-rang notices that he got the wrong play (mistakenly getting tickets to a knockoff), and he offers to fix the mistake and see the right one. Frustrated, Ho-rang tells him they can’t get tickets now so they should just watch this one.

During the play, the actors’ lines reflect Ho-rang and Won-seok’s situation about continuously missing one another, and they both recall their past discussions about marriage. Their eyes turn red, and Won-seok loosens his tie while Ho-rang turns away as tears fall down her face.

As soon as Ji-ho and Se-hee arrive home, they pet Cat together, and Se-hee unintentionally flusters Ji-ho when he tells her to shower first (which she hears as a prelude to sleeping together). He then unknowingly makes her swoon when he mentions how she looks the same with or without makeup, and Ji-ho playfully hits him in the arm before scurrying away to her room.

Ji-ho silently wonders how long she has to keep feeling fluttered and berates Se-hee for keeping their love platonic. As she takes off her earrings, Ji-ho remembers the lady from the cafe bathroom, and scoffs at herself for even being charmed by a woman.

Su-ji drives to her apartment with Sang-gu riding along, since he wants to see her home. He asks if she has any desire to get married, but she firmly says no. He, on the other hand, isn’t totally opposed to the idea, thinking that there’s some merit to sharing lives with someone.

Su-ji disagrees since she only sees marriage as tomb for her sexual life. He mentions how everyone else does it, but she doesn’t want to live like everyone else. She knows her place in life and doesn’t intend on ruining someone else’s life through marriage.

Ji-ho reads an article online and concludes that she’s experiencing sexual frustrations. Noticing the poetry book still by her bed, Ji-ho decides to return it, and steps into Se-hee’s room since he’s still showering. Placing the book back in the closet, Ji-ho apologizes for borrowing it without knowing that it contained memories.

Su-ji parks her car and when she steps outside, Sang-gu notices a text message from “my love” pop up on her phone. He’s bothered by the text, and asks Su-ji if she’s having any friends come over. She says no, thinking he’s angling for an invitation to her place, and tells him that she’s going to rest.

She waves goodbye, but as soon as the elevator doors close, Sang-gu bolts up the stairs, thinking of Su-ji’s conditions to dating: how they were to only meet outside of their homes, and not interfere in each other’s private lives. He reaches her floor as soon as she does, and hears Su-ji warmly greet someone.

Returning from his shower, Se-hee spots the poetry book in his closet and takes it out to read the Post-it note telling him not to love again.

Sang-gu watches Su-ji walk to her apartment, and it’s her mother who greets her outside. They talk about having dinner together, revealing a loving relationship, and Su-ji supports her mother as she limps. Sang-gu hangs his head in shame, realizing the truth.

As Se-hee narrates the poem from the book about how tremendous a thing it is for someone’s heart to come to you, Ho-rang washes away her tears in the bathroom, and finds Won-seok sitting alone in the empty theater. Avoiding eye contact, Won-seok tells Ho-rang that they should break up.

Flashing back to Se-hee’s past, he sits at the same cafe from his date today, and sitting across from him is the woman Ji-ho met in the bathroom, Jung-min. She’d slid him the poetry book, telling him that she already moved her things out, and stopped Se-hee from apologizing and explaining about his father’s phone call. She told him to not talk about his family to her, to not say “us,” and to never be happy.

In the present, Se-hee reads that note again and think how he had done as Jung-min said: “I wasn’t happy. As you told me, I didn’t love anyone.”

He walks out to the living room and sees Ji-ho laughing at the television, and thinks, “But today, briefly, I was happy. Briefly, I forgot about everything.”

Ji-ho brightens up to see him standing there and invites him to join her. With a smile, Se-hee joins her on the couch, but he watches her rather than the television and thinks, “I find this woman to be pretty. Her heart is cute.”

A bit later, as they linger in the hallway that separates their rooms, Ji-ho says goodnight. Se-hee continues his narration: “However, at the same time, I’m afraid of myself. I’m scared that I’ll hurt someone again.”

As Ji-ho closes her door, Se-hee grabs it with his hand, and steps inside her room. He thinks, “But now, I…”

He asks her, “Do you want to sleep with me tonight?” To himself, he adds, “I want to be happy too.”

 
COMMENTS

The show is spoiling me with two absolutely adorable endings this week! While we usually hear Ji-ho’s inner monologues, this time it was Se-hee’s turn to end the episode as we got to learn more about him and his feelings towards Ji-ho. It’s interesting that the more I watch the show, the less I think Se-hee has changed, and instead, it’s simply that we’re learning more about him. Ji-ho isn’t making him more caring or emotional, it’s just that she’s bringing out these emotions again after he spent years subduing them out of fear. He clearly recognizes his feelings, which makes me ponder his past actions and see them in a new light. It adds something special to those earlier scenes where Se-hee betrayed his feelings, like the one with Ji-ho’s mom or the Bok-nam incident. All this time, as the viewer, I thought Ji-ho was in a one-sided relationship where Se-hee would slowly open up his shell, but in fact, it may never have been one-sided at all.

Watching these two oddballs date each other while married and living under the same roof is a riot, and all the sweetness is probably going to give me cavities. They are so adorable, and it’s lovely how they, themselves, recognize how cute the other acts around them. Also, Ji-ho’s continued fantasies (which seem pretty tame, but maybe we’re only getting the TV-friendly versions) are precious, and I love how she just wants to do everything with him but is partially afraid of scaring him away since she thinks he doesn’t quite feel the same way she does. When she tried to hold his hand during their walk, it killed me. In addition, I adore Se-hee’s attempt at a date, and all the little moments that reveal just how much he loves Ji-ho like the way he smiles at her when she isn’t looking or how he peeks behind his shoulder to make sure she’s still there. However, it’s really the moments where Se-hee isn’t trying and just being his (sexy) honest self that really make Ji-ho’s heart flutter (and mine as well). They are just so perfect, and I want them to walk down a flower path for the rest of their lives!

I’m not usually a fan of first loves coming back because they usually cause unnecessary angst and misunderstandings between the main couple, but in this case, I’m actually interested to see how the creators will handle this seemingly clichéd situation and surprise me. At this point in the show, the creators have proven again and again that they know what they’re doing, with pieces of the story always having a purpose and never haphazardly thrown in without deliberation. Thus, I have no doubt that the introduction of Jung-min will be dealt with in a sensitive manner. I thought it was an interesting touch to have that intimate moment between Ji-ho and Jung-min, since it secretly made me think what the show would be like if they twisted this overused trope and created a super unconventional “second lead” vying for the female’s love. At the very least, I hope they don’t make her character mean even though her breakup scene with Se-hee was heart-wrenchingly ruthless. His teary eyes made me want to reach in and give him a hug.

The other big development this episode was between Ho-rang and Won-seok, who have finally decided to end things. This “end” seemed inevitable as they continued to let their emotions fester and you could see that it was suffocating both of them. I loved how their breakup was done without much histrionics and, overall, was quite a mellow affair. You could feel how tired both of them became after fighting to keep their relationship going for seven years, and I think it was actually this quiet weariness of everything that made their feelings even more relatable and heartbreaking. Though they might love each other, they realize that their ideas of the future misalign, and even if severing ties with someone you’ve given your heart to for so long is probably hard and scary, I think this breakup was necessary for both of them whether or not they come back together later on.

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“I want to be happy.”

Se-hee. Oh, Se-hee! You deserve all of the happiness in the world! And you’re going to get it!

Even with all of the lightness and fun of this episode, I knew Se-hee was going to break my heart. I could feel it coming last week and it didn’t disappoint. However, I was convinced that he put up walls around his heart because he was afraid of having his heart broken again. But that wasn’t it. That wasn’t it at all.

What he was really scared of was hurting someone else again. He was scared of himself, not for himself.

And isn’t that just the most Se-hee thing you’ve ever heard?

I mean, I’m sure he was also scared for his own heart, but that was not his priority in this. He clearly internalized Jung-min’s words telling him to never love again because “Love isn’t something you deserve”. He spent 12 YEARS believing that. What an unbelievably cruel thing to tell someone. I definitely don’t think this writer is trying to paint Jung-min as a villain, but you can’t deny that those are cold words. And then that paired with her telling him to not use “uri” again. Knowing that, how must he have felt when Ji-ho told him that she misunderstood his use of “uri”?

But then it makes his “Come on, let’s go to our home” line at the end of episode 8 even more significant. Not only did he realize how much the word meant to Ji-ho, it also held such importance for him. He was finally lowering his guard just a little bit.

I also want to mention the acting in the flashback scene with Se-hee and Jung-min in the restaurant. Lee Min-ki’s acting here is just so perfectly restrained yet poignant and heartrending. Se-hee being on the verge of tears gave me physical pains. The way that his eyes glistened with tears. I thought I was going to cry. I just wanted to hug him.

(Oh, look, I found another way to end my post talking about LMK’s eyes. Surprise, surprise. 😉)

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Oh LMK eyes are so precious and beautiful indeed. I love him.

Also, I'd like to add that it is TOO cute that he is totally not oblivious to the fact that she wants to kiss him. I don't think it's a coincidence that he notices she touches her lips right when he thinks "her heart is cute". Ugh, I'm so glad our 38 year old Ajussi isn't naive... And that he's slowly breaking down his walls. His heard is too precious I can't handle it!!!

This drama has ruined all others for me. Why watch other shows when I can just rewatch this drama over and over until next Monday?

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Every time I think "I should start (insert drama here" I end up rewatching this show instead. It's a bit of a problem LOL. What will I do when it finishes?!

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Same, I should watch some of the dramas I have on my list, but I'm on this thread instead, fangirling with all of you.

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Same!

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withdrawal syndrome will hit me seriously too :')

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I am a big fan of Kang Sora and Choi Siwon is my husband but I stop watching everything (ongoing of completed) after BTIOFL episode 5.
I don't know how to move on after this show end.

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*or completed

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Same! I stopped watching RL too! Seems bland after watching BTIOFL.

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Same! I end up rewatching BTIOFL everytime I attempt to watch another drama.

I am dreading the end. What will I do without my BTIOFL fix? :_(

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I’m with you! I thought he’s putting up his wall because he’s afraid to love again, but when he said he’s afraid to hurt someone again, it gives a different perspective altogether. It ties in so well with what he said to Won Seok previously, of how the subject has always been him and not the other person, while in his case with Jiho, it was always about the other person. He thought about how not hurting her, how would she be affected if they got divorce after 2 years - there was no “I” in his words. It might be something he learned from his previous relationship, and if it is, it means he learns well.

He also seems understanding of Won Seol’s plight, and understands arguments and break ups pretty well. Perhaps his last argument with Jung Min was just the irreversible catalist that’s just waiting to happen.

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I love it. It's not that Sehee is an emotionless man, he was simply holding himself back for her sake. How much more swoony can this guy be?

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BUT! What kind of “sleep” do you mean Se Hee-ssi? The innocent kind of sleep or the sexy kind?
And how could it END there?! I need answers!

This OTP, seriously. They are SO CUTE together, so good for each other and they’ll probably be the death of me.
This episode was just pure magic, and I loved every minute of it. I’ll try to mention a few things.

I loved the return of bashful Se-hee and his cute little smiles. Being in love has really brought him out of his shell, and it’s such a revelation seeing how warm and bright he can actually be. It’s going to be delightfully delicious to see how he acts in a relationship.

I find myself saying this every episode, and I’m going to say it again because I’m consistently given proof of this fact. Se-hee is such a nice and considerate person. I realize this every time and it has almost gotten to the point where I can’t get over it, but I just love him so much for being who he is. It’s the small things that get to me. Like him going out of his way to get a massage at work, and not mentioning anything to Ji-ho about his remaining muscle ache to not make her feel guilty or taking the time to listen to Won-seok’s worries.

And talking of which. First he’s a kissing coach, and now a relationship counsellor? He just keeps giving me more reasons to love him, I don’t know if I can handle it.
But in all seriousness, his conversation with Won-seok was so wonderful. The sole fact that they even talked shows that (a) Se-hee is more aware of emotional cues than we’d have thought in previous episodes, (b) he’s slowly allowing himself to be more emotionally accessible, (c) from what he said, we can now actually see that he’s more emotionally intelligent than other characters. Which, taking his past love into account, makes sense.

But let’s just focus on the subject of their conversation for a second. Ho-rang and Won-seok. Oh, these two. How they break my heart. I don’t necessarily like them together, but what they’re going through is still sad. I think what Se-hee pointed out was spot-on. Not just for WS, both also HR. They don’t really think of themselves as “Us.” When it comes to their marriage, WS is lackluster at best and focused on his career, and HR thinks of it as her personal endeavor and plans it on her own. They love each other, but they both need something that the other person isn’t ready to give, and at this point, I think it’s right to call it quits.

Still on the topic of “us,” it dawned on me that Se-hee never used that word without knowing its implications. That’s what his ex used to break up with him! Now, looking back I realize that he DID have feelings for Ji-ho early on, but he just kept them in a box. It must have kind of hurt him when she told him to not call them “us,” but I think that it also rung some bells in his head that maybe he was starting to feel something for her.
Slow-clap for how this writer neatly ties in together the little things and overall themes of this show...

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Another unique thing that the writer is doing superbly, is giving us different perspectives of our main characters through other minor characters. Like when the vets talked about Se-hee rescuing Kitty, and in this episode with JH’s brother talking about her getting the revenge on that ahjussi. I really like this story-within-a-story approach. This writer knows what she’s doing and she does it well, so I trust (and hope) that she will handle the appearance of Se-hee’s ex with sense and care.

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I think that's so true to real life. A person might have his/her own opinion of someone, but another person might have a completely different opinion based on a separate set of experiences. These different perspectives shed new lights on previously held opinions/perceptions.

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Great observation, @yuyuu. I also like how Ji-ho's best friends illustrate how crazy she is by telling the story of how she secretly attended Soeul National University—and stayed there.

As another Beanie observed elsewhere, our writer really understands how to show—even when telling.

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I think it is always fun to find out how other characters perceive the main hero/heroine since much of a drama is us looking at the OTP and the hero/heroine looking at each other. I think within each person is several people. We're all different people to different people in our lives.

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The 2 'incidents' about Se-hee and the cat, and Ji-ho and the dog, show that these 2 are keepers. They are willing to fight for what belongs to them. That's why they are suited for each other.
Outwardly, they appear calm and rational, but can be fiercely protective.

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I’m really liking the animal analogies the writer has been inserting within the story. The comparisons are easy to understand but also reflect much depth of our characters.

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"Like him going out of his way to get a massage at work, and not mentioning anything to Ji-ho about his remaining muscle ache to not make her feel guilty"

AND it was another masterful use of PPL! At least, I assume that massage chair is PPL. I think someone mentioned it before.

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That chair is SOOO PPL. It's in Mad Dog as well...

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That chair has been making the rounds for a while now

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It was on every episode of Borg Mom as well! 😂

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that bodyfriend massage chair made it to some dramas but still it is no where near subway lol

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i thought the dyson hairdryer was too in your face as well

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I think i saw that chair too in Avengers Social Club haha

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I keep thinking that Bomi was the only one sing that chair, since she’s always in it but for once I can see the PPL of it used naturally haha

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As long as it’s not Temperature of Love sleeping together, where they slept in separate rooms, just at the same time! Ji-ho and Se-Hee are past that—they’ve been doing that for ages!

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LOL. With Ji Ho's pent up "frustration", even if Se Hee means it quite literally, I could imagine Ji Ho being the one who would totally jump on him.

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I would have no doubt that she would be the one initiating intercourse. Like she says, Pandora's box and all...

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Having been "single from birth," that's a lot of pent up sexual frustration.

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it's particular painful for jiho, especially if she watched "for the emperor".... mans...

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And how nice is it to see two men talk about their feelings and concerns? It's not shown as some "girly" thing to do where they have to reestablish their masculinity afterwards but they just have an open conversation and Won-seok earned some good advice from it. I wish we would see more scenes like this in my country.

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I'm impressed with Se-hee! He's not just a kissing guru, but a relationship one!

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I agree with you yuyuu! (wait this sounds...)

Wonseok and Se Hee's scene cued us about how aware he actually is of what people feel around him! He is quite emotionally intelligent. It's just not that obvious since he has a poker face most of the time in the past episodes and we dont really get inner monologues unlike Ji Ho.

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I squealed when Se Hee invited WS for coffee. I would not have put those two together for a conversation given how WS is pretty much SH's opposite. I like how their conversation was productive - they both got some good advice out of it. It was totally the opposite of when you put SG and WS together. Dude, it was never about the sofa!

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I think that the "innocent" kind would be a big step in and of itself. We can move on to the not-so-innocent kind later!
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Im ready for either! See Hee probably has the innocent cuddling in mind and Ji Ho will probably jump right into action and it will create a perfect awkward situation....which I love haha.
But also I have to add in the preview when she was in bed it seemed as if she was wearing See Hee's shirt (squeals)

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Now you made me want to watch the preview again for the (not so sure about the number but definitely more than 15) time.
But the innocent one will be welcomed to. Honestly, I prefer that one for now. Because this episode also shows how they hate to be separated and they want to keep seeing each other, hence the picture on the phone.

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Se hee is just too cute in love! He has been noting down all her quirks in a spreadsheet 😂
https://twitter.com/lizabr3ff/status/931297350760382464

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OMG that's adorable! And "she snores" hahaha

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Cute thing is he has one entry a day and looking by the dates, it's been quite long..

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Too cute!! 😻😻😸

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Thanks for translating.

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Gah that’s too adorable! It’s like analytic mind needs data to further confirm and help him handle Ji-Ho better haha

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Can I add another prove? And maybe a little assumption.
The show leads us to think that his marriage proposal was because he needs her.. He is indeed. But now I believe, after conversation between SeHee and SangGu about the marriage contract, SeHee proposal was his way to help JiHo. Seeing how perceptive and considerate he is, he would guess something really bad happened the night JiHo stood outside his apartment looking longingly at her old place in pajamas at a very odd hours. I think he wanted to help JiHo and give her a sanctuary at least until she is ready to face the world again.
What a manly man.

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Oh my gosh, and it is so beautiful!! He is so much like Jervis... just thinking of her all the time.

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Why is nobody talk about the preview. My expectation of a sexy kind of sleep crushed as soon as the preview begin. Sehee comes out of Jiho's room the next morning fully dressed and Jiho is sleeping, snoring....

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I was also a little crushed after seeing the preview. I wonder if we are going to follow in the classic kdrama trope - a week of cuteness, followed by a week of angst. I know this writer has been slightly veering off from the tropes, but I keep my heart on guard for a little bit of angst to creep in between our otp

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Despite the angst... I still believe whatever happen that night will be amusing..

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Well it would be kinda weird if they did suddenly sleep together and did something lol they’re still in the beginning phase, I’m sure we’ll get our steamy scenes later

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It is about time to hear SH's inner voice. I hope the show continue with that!

I never been so early like this in a drama recap😆

Thanks @lovepark ! 2 days to go~

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The correlation of him opening up to Ji-ho and the opening up of his mind to the audience is really beautifully done.

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I agree with you! It's like he closed the door to his emotions and love expression and now that it's open, all the warm love and thoughtful emotions just flow freely

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That image of the closed door is so right! Starting from him locking the door to his room in the beginning, to opening her door at the end of this episode. Door = heart.

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These last two episodes are a good reminder that we've been seeing thinks through JH's perspective and that you can never truely know what someone else is thinking/feeling. I'm loving his internal monologues.

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This drama speaks to me. That is all.

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And isn't that in itself enough? 😁

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spoke to me too. my first relationship started out with a jungmin involved, and ended like horang and wonseok...

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When Ji-Ho mentioned being single since birth aka motae solo I just couldn’t stop laughing

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This show is my crack. I love how Ji-Ho didn't let the phone interrupt her kiss but what made me crack up was the fact that Se-Hee didn't even bother pulling away from her. He let her keep going while trying to inform her that her phone is indeed ringing.

Also, how hilarious was Lee Min-Ki with his expressive lips?! That had me cringing and laughing all at the same time. This show has done a job well done in turning every cliche upside and bringing a realistic twist to it.

THIS SHOW TAKES MY HEART AWAY

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Darn you typos!

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Someone pointed this out on the fanwall but he's still speaking formally with her as they are making out. I'm just like, "Hun, I think you've passed the point for such formalities"

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Haha that was me... which tbh, it registered but didn't register till I re-watched it cos he always calls her Ji Ho-ssi! When they actually switch to full time Banmal I'm gonna flip my lid...

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Hmmm... I can't imagine him saying "Jiho-ya".

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I can... if there's a really long pause between the Ji Ho and the ya, and he says it almost like a question heh

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I know, it's so weird but I bet the writer will find a creative yet hilarious way to get him to drop the formal talk

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and will Jiho call Sehee... oppa?

😅😂

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For me, I don't mind the formal speech. I like it, actually. It's something that only they understand, just like 'uri'. It's exactly what made them a perfect pair--respect. They respect each other. And this is actually the first time I found formal speech romantic.

I don't know how to explain it, but bottomline is I like that they're still using formal speech.

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I don't mind it either to be honest, because of the respect thing. And don't worry, I get you :P
But I do think if they do switch to banmal, it will also be quite impacting.

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He's actually super-duper formal (with honorifics included) most of the time. It's beyond simple polite. I wonder when he'll move past that stage.

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I am catching on to this too--and not just formal, but formal-formal! Which is why it's hard for people who don't understand the language to get why even after that passionate kiss, why she doesn't just hang all over him. It's because he keeps putting up the formal speech which is still putting up a wall between her and him. He's not read to jump headlong into this. He still wants to slow it down, to make sure he's not making a mistake. He's still being cautious, while she has always just put her heart and soul into something that she knows she wants. The dichotomy is striking. And yes, what sic says, once the banmal starts, I'm going to be squeeing in an epileptic fit on my floor.

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This is one of the things I really appreciate about the volunteer English subs done for Avenger's Social Club. The subbers make an effort to give a little more context. While they don't indicate formal/informal speech, they do display "unni" or "noona," when spoken. And they'll sometimes plug in little explanations for puns, etc. My heroes!

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This is what i love about those subtitles so so really much too. They give you a lot more context and the opportunity to dive right into a culture you normally don't have any connection with. They are my heroes too <3

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I live for that cute moment! The way he didn’t let go of the kiss while still trying to talk to her about the phone ringing 😍❤️

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If i was her i would have chucked that phone right in the water lol

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Right?!

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noo..instead of the water, she could give the phone to me if she doesn't want it lol

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I know! It was like, "I wanna enjoy this too but you should really answer this phone call"

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my first reaction watching that scene is secondhand embarassment *facepalm* i feel embarassed for jiho so engulfed in her kissing bliss that she didn't let go of se-hee's lips when he's talking to her.. but your comment made me see it from a different perpective and i'm feeling giddy! ahaha thank you

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Haha! I felt the same way and eyyy no problem

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I NEED a BTS clip from filming the scene at the bus stop with those lips. I don't know how he could do it without cracking up.

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That's what I'm saying! I wonder how Lee Min-Ki feels because he's never had to do stuff like this before (because this is my first seeing any of his works)

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I dont think it would be hard for him, you should watch his previous works *wink*

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Truelala. I randomly ended up on a scene from For the Emperor and whoa there. *fans self*

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OH MY GOD YOU ARE IN FOR A RIDE.... i'm sorry but us beanie unnies have to introduce you to FOR THE EMPEROR

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I saw someone else mention this movie on tumblr. I am very, um, intrigued now. 👀

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Oh, wow, I just watched this movie, I mean like I finished it 10 minutes before I read this comment!

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My new plans for tonight. Watch For the Emperor.

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Whoa, now how am I going to readjust myself to his Se Hee character??

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oh lalala, sounds like I'm gonna have a great night

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Omg previously I thought Sehee meant just sleep but now I'm not so sure - I can't unsee the totally different image of him now haha 😧 To reconcile the two, maybe after he survived being stabbed as a gang boss second-in-command person thingy, he decided to reform his life and became a quiet man with a cat in a tech company ( but this of course doesn't explain the different family backgrounds and ex-girlfriends )

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...Wow, omg, this other character is the complete opposite of Se Hee...

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This drama is going to be the death of me. Can't wait to ding the history between SH and his Ex and the role his father had in it? Does anyone have a theory on what could have happened and the impact his family had on their breakup? They obviously lived together and were almost married

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I think maybe Sehee was living with his Ex in a house his father bought for him without his father knowing and when he found out he kicked them out. Or his father just refused to accept their marriage and kicked them out since 12 years ago Sehee would probably still be struggling with his start-up business and not making much money. If his father was paying for everything, he would have had some expectations that Sehee would settle into a steady job before marrying someone he approved of. When he had that tense conversation with his father and his father said it's what a parent would do it made me think that maybe he thought kicking Sehee out would force him to be more responsible.

Once he and his Ex were homeless and struggling, I'm guessing the cracks started to show and his Ex ended up resenting him and his family. That's my guess.

I also think 12 years ago Sehee would have been in the same position Wonseok is in right now. Not much of a career, no money and no proper home. I think that's why he was able to understand and advice Wonseok so well.

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I'm guessing they actually lived in together in SH aboji's house. After this episode revealed Jung Min saying she already took her things out, and SH only needed to take his own, I remembered the memorial rites episode where SH vented his hard feelings to his dad & mentioned about how his father kicked him out of his father's house "their" house-- it fit together to me as SH was not the only one who was kicked out, but the both of them.

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My guess is that Jung Min was ambitious and driven and SH's parents didn't approve because they wanted their DIL to be a housewife. Maybe they lived together after SH's dad kicked him out (For planning to marry JM despite his parent's objections?). Even though SH chose JM maybe she still felt like he never stood up for her or their relationship enough and it all came to a head on the day they were planning to register their marriage. Like SH took the phone call from his dad and didn't show up or something? I don't know. I'm sure the writer will surprise me somehow.

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I agree. And I feel like when you deal with troublesome in-laws, what can really strain a marriage is when your husband doesn't stick up for you. I also feel like there might have also been a dream career opportunity that Jung Min was looking forward to and the father ruined it. She seemed furious at SH's dad.

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I somehow think that Se-hee's father thought Jung Min didn't love Se-hee so he asked her to leave Se-hee. This hypothesis comes from the way Se-hee's father instantly approve Ji-ho when she said she loves him..

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I read him asking if Ji Ho loves Se Hee as the father's way of trying to make up for what he did to Se Hee. Let's say JM and SH were equally in love with each other and the father didn't think that was enough. Then for 12 years, SH remained alone, single, and unloved. I think the father feels regretful of what he did to SH's first marriage and just wants SH to find love again so he/the dad doesn't have to feel so guilty anymore.

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This drama is going to be the death of me. Can't wait to find out about the love story between SH and his Ex and the role his father had in it? Does anyone have a theory on what could have happened and the impact his family had on their breakup? They obviously lived together and were almost married

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My only question is why would CEO Ma suggest a date at a place Se-hee went to with his ex? Way to be a poor wingman.

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I was thinking the same too. He really is too innocent for his own good.

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UNLESS it was purposeful. CEO Ma does know him better than we do.

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I was vaguely thinking that, too. Maybe he is testing Se-hee to see if he's really ready to get over his ex. If he goes to the cafe with no qualms, then he's no longer afraid to start again with Ji-ho.

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I think JH probably asked SG for SH's favorite place and he named that cafe without thinking that JH will actually take SH there on a date.

Also I just think SG can be a dummy sometimes.

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I loved the moment where she followed him just after he didn't say if he said she was pretty, both shifted to the right :p

I was happy that a girl in a korean drama can have desire like holding hands, kissing, sleeping with a man ! Because in the most dramas, the girl always acts as a frightened virgin...

For the ex-girlfriend, I really hope that the story won't choose the cliché path.

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omg, i do too. this is like my fav little scene. where he didn't answer and she just ran and walked next to him, he looked at her and had little smile and they walked together. it's soo simple and easy to not noticing, but i just love that scene. i am so glad you also capture that little scene.

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🤣🤣🤣 i swear i couldn't stop laughing, the beginning of this episodes was so funny 😁 the thirst is real. Jiho was so immersed into the kiss she couldn't hear Her Phone ringing. I love that sehee didn't stop either he kept kissing her and started talking in her mouth 😂 this awkwardly sweet otp have a special place in my heart 😍 their date was adorable, i can't get enough of these two! The ending had me screaming like a mad person when he told jiho to innocently sleep together i coudn't control my happiness and when i remembered how horny jiho was in this episode i started to laugh again sehee choose the wrong night hahaha the man is in trouble 😁😁 i can't wait for episode 13 ! I love this drama so much and this otp is life 💖❤💕

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I almost died laughing at that opening in this episode.
Is that part of SeHee's thoughtfulness personality? hahaha

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hahaha probably ! his kindness and cuteness melts my heart.

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Ahem...."innocently sleep together"???

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it's going to be hard to be innocent with jiho anyway lol but lets start with the innocent cuddling in bed so the next one we can get some fifty shades of sehee !!!

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I peeked the clip from youtube (I can only watch it full the next day) when I was stopped in a traffic light (after making sure it is safe) and then I screamed in embarrassment and shut the application down. I even made sure no other driver or rider saw what was in my phone. That how embarrassed I was about the scene.
Me and my colleagues then watched it together a couple of times and we still shrieking in horror.

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I'm so glad we got to hear Se-Hee's perspective. They both deserved to be loved.

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This show is my crack! Whatever will I do when it’s over?! Jiho’s me irl. Now I just need to find me a Sehee. Lol.

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Hope you find him.. and then clone him so all of us can have our own Se-hee.. hahhaa

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Or tell us when your contract will end so we can be his next wife/tenant. Hahaha

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:D

That is everything

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I hope you find him too. Just remember when you first meet him he will be that awkward person from episode 1. You have to uncover the rest.

Se-Hee was probably alone for so long because people avoided him for his blunt awkward self.

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As a fanboy, I can agree that men like this exist, but they aren’t easy to get to know, and they can be an acquired taste. SH is, of course, kdrama perfect—IRL is not so perfect. But, I also want to comment on the profession of SH, IT. His personality type is much more common in IT and the hard sciences, such as math, physics (based on personal experience). So, the choice of work environment for SH at an app company is fitting.

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@Brian

Its even more problematic that that.

IRL, most of us would be the person he called the police on (ep1).

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@Bryan

Sorry. Autocorrect got to your name.

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Not that I want an overly-explicit scene, but I swear if the writer makes us try to guess whether they slept together or *slept* together I will be shooting Se-hee style laser eyes at her.

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Holy moly, the HAND-HOLDING. Every time it gives me butterflies.

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It’s such a sim-Le gesture but is so sugar tastingly sweet.

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Sooo cute! Less of Kitty though :(

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I did love what we got of Kitty.
The fact that every time, Se-hee and Ji-ho were petting her TOGETHER. Those moments were so full of tenderness and I bet Se-hee was dying with happiness, getting to share the two things he loves most

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Thanks for the recap Lovepark :) Me too, I do smiling ear to ear watching this episode :D
I love how SH says about his growing feeling towards JH to Wonseok in subtle and sincere way. His expression is so soft when he talks about it.
Ah, I have no words. I love everything about our main couple interaction. I love the way he asks her for a date. Again, he asks her permission. I really love it. I really love that for SH, JH thought is an important matter. And how he holds her hands, how she doesnt want to separate from him, these two are really adorable.
I love the way he gives her that gift, hahahaha so cute. Ah, I love everything that include them being so comfortable being together :)
And about our HR-WS, it's sad indeed. To the context that they cant say I love you the way the used to be anymore. It's a big hint. Like and iceberg, they've been holding back too much things on their heart. Thinking that their long time relationship can solve it all. But what can they do, when they don't see the future in the same direction. Ah, I'm curious to see what the writer Will bring to them :) Oh, Monday, faster please :)

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The one scene that stays with me the most in this episode was Ho Rang and Won Seok. I feel so hurt for them. I feel like I want to hug the both. It hurts because it is so realistic to life. How many of us know someone who goes through the same thing like them? I’ve had few friends who were so in love and in a long-term relationship for years and you feel like they are going to be together forever because they just fit each other so well. But in the end, some work out, some didn’t. I wasn’t in their shoes, so sometimes it puzzles me how they could fall apart, after years of knowing each other. But like Ho Rang and Won Seok, it’s the moment when they realised that all these while, they’re walking in different paths away from one another, and not towards each other. It must be painful, to be in a love that could never be. It breaks my heart that Ho Rang and Won Seok has “broken up” so many times but never really meant it, but this time around, both realised the reality of those words. They both knew what’s coming. It doesn’t matter who said it first, because both of them knew the relationship only brings pain to them now. That it is ending. I hope they found peace with or without each other. If they are destined to meet at another time, I hope they are both ready and know what each wants.

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I was under the impression (but it could be a totally mistaken one) that HR initiated most of the past break-ups, so having WS say "let's break up" makes it feel that much more real. :( Poor them.

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I felt similarly, that Ho-rang would ask to break up in the past when things hit a bump. I think this break-up was the most 'real' they have ever had, and there is no real going back. Won-seok asking for this break up was part of that. They both have different expectations for the relationship and don't know how to meet in the middle. To resolve this they would need to both make large changes to compromise, but with the number of episodes left, that seems unlikely. Also, I think they would lose too much of themselves, so a break-up seems more reasonable. They both deserve happiness, but they should not expect the other to provide that for them unconditionally.

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Yes, from the beginning, it was HR who initiated the breakups because of their petty conflicts. There was even a scene if I remember right (and if I am not mixing scenes from different shows in my head, lol) that she was expecting WS to be the one to reconcile with her.

WS loved HR so much. He stayed so faithful. But then, there you go. They're no longer going anywhere. So WS now has to give it all up though it hurts so much. :(

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It falls apart exactly like that.

There is a moment where you realize exactly what someone wants... and you also realize that you do 'want' to give them 'that'. In other comments, I've placed a majority of the blame for the breakup on Won Seok, because I've been there and she didn't have to tell me 'what she wanted'... I knew, she never had to say a word. I remember the moment when I was like "I know the man she wants me to be in our relationship and my answer is no."

That's why I tell my friends -- you can lie to me, you can lie to your partner... just don't lie to yourself because you're wasting your time too.

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My friends and I always say it’s all about timing. I actually think they are cute together, but the timing is not allowing them to be on the same wavelength about their future. If only she had met Won Seok after he was established and in a frame of mind to get married (assuming he would in the first half and place), then I think they could have gotten married easily and quickly. It’s just that their timing is not right so it won’t work. Who I married was in large party due to the timing of meeting him and being there in my life when I wanted to marry. It’s so sad but true

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Agree that their timing is not right. I was at one point in my life in Ho Rang’s shoes, I was ready to settle down, found someone whom hits all the right columns but the timing with that person was never right. He wasn’t ready to commit, and I was. And later down the road, when he was ready, I found myself chasing for a different kind of commitment. It didn’t work out in the end. So I agree with you that timing plays a very important role in any relationship.

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When they met HR was 23 and WS was 21. At that age, most people are still developing their personality—not quite a full adult. It could be that they were a different couple at that time, and were on the same wavelength. But as they matured, they developed different priorities, but never reset with a one another. Really, this is a common issue for all long-term relationships. Some couples will speak of phases that each person in the relationship goes through. Really, the relationship must be reinvented and rediscovered anew repeatedly. Otherwise, the couple wakes up one day and don’t even know one another.

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I found it really sad when WS revealed that they used to fight a lot - thought it seemed to be in the way where you've got 2 hotheaded people who don't hold back and just blurt things out, but now they're holding back all the time for fear of hurting each other. And this is why it looks like they're incapable of having an honest conversation.

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I think more than her having value only as a wife, she wants to have kids and be a mother and just over all, build a family. Which is a very valid goal and dream. Building your own family nothing to be ashamed of.

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It's a valid dream, but when you start to think you have value only if you achieve that dream, then there's a problem. She needs to gain back her self-confidence and self-love in order to find true happiness whether her dream comes true or not. Wear that red coat loud and proud!

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That need for a family of her own (specifically children) seems to be extremely important to HR, but isn’t even on WS’s radar. I just think about HR’s moment with the kids going to the zoo. When two people have such different goals/needs, I don’t see how they can stay together. Love is not enough.

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@crysta, that's a valid point, but I'm not sure it quite applies to HR. It's never seemed to me that she doesn't see her value outside of marriage and kids.

Yes, it's her main goal in life, and what her major story line in the drama revolves around, but that doesn't mean she doesn't value herself outside of those things. She has a job that she's good at and she's been slowly climbing the ladder there, and she sees her girlfriends often and gets satisfaction from those relationships. Even in the red coat conversation she admires her mom's single friend for her accomplishments. She knows marriage and family isn't the only measure of worth, but it is something she's wanted forever, an