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Open Thread #539

Happy Friday everyone!

Here is your Open Thread, which is here for you to chat about anything you want, whether it be drama-related or not. Nothing’s off-topic here! Spoilers may be rife, so proceed accordingly.

 
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Can we talk about the two fabulous Ms of the week - Mother and Misty? I am mesmerised by each in its own right.

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Misty is fantastic.

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YES

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❤️❤️❤️

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Misty is so amazing. Every character has their motivations and aren't deviating from them. I love this drama so much.

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***Possible spoilers ahead. Proceed with care.***
Today's episode confused me slightly. What I do not understand is why Kang Tae-Wook changed his attitude all of a sudden. The fact the he remembered the very beginning of them two doesn't feel like a strong motivation for his 180 degree. They were too far apart for him to go back to her, especially after seeing for himself that Lee Jae-Young entered Hye-Ran's car. I admired him, though, for standing up for his wife even in front of his mother and for offering her the first compliment, at least, in five episodes. (I can only think that for the first time she is fragile, she needs him, so he finally can fulfill his part of the deal, but is this good enough for him as a husband? Has he got some knight in shiny... suit syndrome?)
Of course this is fantastic for the mystery - adds one more suspect. I will not write this off as a plot sinkhole just of yet. I hope that when the truth is revealed, to be able to understand Kang Tae-Wook, too.

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I feel like he is completely in total love with Hae-ran and he has been from day one. She warned him over and over again that he shouldn't marry her, that her career is first, that his family background is too big and she will use him for it and on and on. But he told her that he was cool with all of that. he wasn't acting cool with though when push came to shove. I think all the flashbacks of him telling her that are part of his 180.

But I think another part of his 180 is his family background and his defense against the little person going up against the big corporation or the big bad. The little person stands no chance against the big dogs no matter if they have right on their side. So I believe his "fight for the underdog" part of him is also a reason for his 180.

But then there is the unknown. Was he involved in the murder somehow? That remains to be seen.

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I love Mother. It's amazing.

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Mother for the win! Overall quality drama. I was so happy that Yonbook has so many people wanting to show her affection, and then did the ending of episode 8. I was so disappointed! 😕

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Mother is by far the best show on right now, and the only one I am really keeping up with 100%. Misty looks good but not had a chance to try it yet. Getting ready for a two month trip to Japan, Taiwan, Hong Kong so a bit short on spare time.

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Safe travels and tell us all about it!

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I had planned to download the available episodes for Mother and to watch them on my 20 hours trip (and some films). I made the horrible mistake to watch the first episode "just to see if it's worth it". I binged the rest and now I have nothing for the long hours. Meanwhile I tried the original, but I was not as captivated. I think it must be a combination of factors...

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The airline entertainment has gotten pretty good. Once, instead of sleeping during an evening flight between Chicago and Doha, I binged (binged!!!) on Bollywood until my eyes shriveled into little wasabi peas.

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@tsutsuloo,

"I binged (binged!!!) on Bollywood until my eyes shriveled into little wasabi peas"

ROFLMAO! I love your turn of phrase. Been there, done that, but not on Bollywood on an airline flight.

Until now, I couldn't put the feeling into words. Thanks!

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Enough quality Bollywood to binge is hard to imagine. I cannot sit through most of the movies they are coming out with these days. -_-
And lol to "little wasabi peas"

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I know that Korean Air has k-dramas and k-pop, Cathay Pacific and EVA Air have Mandarin and Cantonese. Not sure about ANA or JAL, have not flown them for a while. Planning on taking ANA to Tokyo this time though.

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@windsun33 Ooo.. I'm headed to Japan this coming week!

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i am first here that too first time ever....
no idea what to talk but yes still havig worst withdrawal of Reply 1988 of Jung Hwans heartbreak... and loving RJY in Lucky Romance

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He was great in Lucky Romance! It was fun watching him there.

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yeah he is awesome in it. all his cheeky smiles and cute antics.. everything that i missed in Jung Hwan, Je Soo Ho giving me all that...❤️❤️❤️

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And, the fact that Je Soo Ho is a super nerd! Always using that brain of his to calculate things.

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absolutely... his way discussing things solely based on calculation was super fun.
at the end when he was arguing with bo ra abt her hate for math his face was worth dying for... such natural and cute expression..

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I want RJY in another drama. Soon!!!!!!!!!!

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da too yo..its been almost 2 years we need him back on screen soon....

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Happy OT Friday~!

I'm going home to my parents for the long weekend. My mom called me last night to ask what Korean foods I want to eat so she can make them for me. I cannot wait to gorge myself this weekend on her food and I'm also watching Black Panther tomorrow! Had no idea parts of it were filmed in Busan. Super stoked! :D

I saw some of the preview images (LSG and OYS in bed O.O) for the new Hwayugi episodes and can I say this drama is really increasing the amount of skinship I've come to expect in Korean dramas. I also watched Today's Love for Lee Seung Gi and only managed to finish it because of his face, lol.

It's very odd. I first watched him in Brilliant Legacy as a teen and thought he was just handsome. Now I'm flip flopping from thinking he's an adorable puppy to wait-why-is-he-so-hot? Must be because I'm older now lmao.

I've been avoiding watching other kdramas until Hwayugi is done. I don't think I can handle multiple kdrama watching, but I'm not sure what to watch next. Radio Romance looks cute but I also wanted to dig into the Reply series. Decisions, decisions. Hope y'all have a great weekend! :D

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Lee Seung Gi and only managed to finish it because of his face, lol.

LOL! How many dramas have we done this with??? For me, it was Jackpot and Man Living in Our House.

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I did that for Man Living in Our House! *High Five* :)

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I bought my tickets for Black Panther last month. We're going this Sunday and I am stoked. Ironed out my dashiki and everything.

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I have a friend who's already watched it because she's in England and she said it was so good. I'm so pumped. We must talk about it next Friday's OT!

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Black Panther was FANTASTIC. I especially loved the badass women in there

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Black Panther was amazing! I totally agree. I'm watching it again this Saturday, lol.

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I'm beginning to worry for this website. Postings on this website has decreased, and many of the well known faces (Headsno2, Gummi) are no longer posting. What's happening?

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61-65 minutes episode watch - 10minutes to take worthy sceenshots - then write the recap then post your thoughts. total of 2 hours. Spending your precious 1 hour(which you can spend on any other worthy activity) writing/typing about a fictional show for virtual identities(include wear and tear of keyboard/mouse/laptop/electricity/fingers) Surely deserves some respect( as well as recapping a show you not much like/hate/hate-watch it).
So its better if someone is not forced to recap something.

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It was never about a lack of respect. I'm more concerned about the decrease in posting, whether it be recaps, or news, or any other activities.

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Seems highly unlikely that there's a lack of willing recappers, even with the time commitment involved, especially if they are compensated. Even if a current group burns out, I'd be really surprised if it's hard to find a new crop pretty quickly.

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I think I read somewhere a while ago that they are *not* compensated. Not 100% sure though. Anybody know?

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I believe recappers are compensated an amount for their efforts. Same with the news crew. Of course they mostly due it for their love of it, but it is nice that Dramabeans can also pay them something for their efforts.

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Payment was mentioned in the call for minion applications.

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@mary But is there a dress code? Do you get a uniform? When does the chaebol boss stop treating you like dirt and fall in love with your plucky spirit? These are the really important questions.

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It concerns me greatly to see the depressed state of this site. It was bad enough when a major staff member left (Heads), followed by most of the recappers, but when the front page news includes an article from eight days ago, you have to conclude things are in trouble. What worries me most is that no one is talking about it now, whereas in the past they have always addressed issues whether technical or personal such as sickness or slump. I am not saying they owe us any explanation, and I am sure most of us are not upset at them in the least. We are just truly concerned.

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I've been noticing this too. In the past, if recappers were needed, dramabeans would make a posting for staff recruitment. I haven't seen that yet, but, there is a definite decline in recapping.

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I just hope it's not legal or serious financial trouble. Maybe it's just that after eleven years of running this site they just don't have it in them anymore to keep going.

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I really hope that's not the case. Perhaps it is just the cost of keeping everything up and running behind the scenes? Maybe the shop took up more of their attention than they thought it would? Or maybe the Beanies feed takes up a lot of attention to make sure it runs properly.

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I didn't realize Heads had left! Was there an announcement made? I noticed she hadn't been posting in a while so I just assumed was taking a break...

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And the website seems slower to me.... that makes me wonder if they are short of money for web hosting fees & upgrades (???)

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The site seems to have gotten very slow lately.

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It could be the new server when they changed the format. I am not sure.

Speed seems to be the same for me, except for the constant “Congratulations!” pop-ups. I was assuming it might be sponsored to generate money. I had cookies disabled and pop-up blockers on. I was wondering why it managed to go through. I never get them anywhere else but here.

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I've wondered if the pop-ups are preventing as many page views as they used to get, which would of course impact revenue, which would affect how many staff and recaps the site can afford, and then it would be a death cycle from there. :( I know that for awhile the pop-ups were so bad for me that I gave up even trying, whereas before I would visit the site multiple times a day and click through multiple pages of it every time I visited. Multiply that by a lot of visitors, and it's an exponential decrease in clicks.

I love this site and hate for it to have a hard time. I hope everything is okay and will bounce back.

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Actually the noticable decline in postings on this site is what made me turn my ad blockers off. I thought they must have taken a big hit financially and I really wanted to do what I could to help out. Unfortunately I do get the virus pop up on my cell phone. But I don't get it on my computer.

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@V

I am also wondering if they know about them or not. Because the pop-ups are more like a scam, they are not ads. I don’t think DB would intentionally expose readers to it.

I don’t even open DB in my computer because I was afraid of potential virus. My phone just kept opening the pop-up whenever I visit DB, I can’t even open and read anything. Typically goes away within a day.

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@abcde They know about them! I contacted Mary on her page and she let me know that they are trying to hunt for them on the site.

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Thank you, V for the update. Hope they all see these and know that we are worried about them and the site.

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Meanwhile today I'm using Chrome to access D B (a lot) without an ad-blocker and I've only seen one add. That one was a pop up -- the normal adds have been 100% missing. Since Google recently fired up their ad-blocker I *guess* they might be blocking DB's ads ??

Background on Google's add blocker: It's always on (in Chrome) not an extension or add-on. Google analizes a site's adds and if it thinks they are showing disruptive ones they block ALL adds from the site, using the same lists as other ad-blockers, until they think the site has cleans up its adds. Like other ad-blockers, they are not 100% effective at catching everything.

So if Google didn't like those pop-ups and blocked DB, that pretty much explains what I'm seeing. And it could have a pretty dire effect on DB's finances.

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I think they are not the usual ads such as those we see in the banner or footer or somewhere else within the window. I do not mind these types of ads coz that’s how they generate money. There’s also an option to close those that appear in the footer.

The other kind of pop-up is the “Congratulations! You’ve won so and so”. With this kind, DB gets rerouted to the phishing scam. It is basically making us involuntarily leave DB to get to their own phishing site. I do not know how, but I could see the search engine move and change by itself to get to the phishing page. When I try to swipe back to get it to DB or all previous pages, it doesn’t work. It just stays in the phishing page until I close it.

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oh definitely have been seeing this too! load times are slower than on every other website I use--I wonder if there's just some tech issues that they aren't aware of and the second thing is I was watching a show the other day and following along with recaps (this was probably around 1am) and the site was actually down for about 15 minutes which I've never experienced. something about a gateway error. I don't know if they're just trying to juggle too much--I wasn't sure why they started a youtube channel because I know putting out content for several platforms like that is tasking but who knows.

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We used to get many recaps every week, I barely have enough time to read them, no chance to comment. Then I noticed the diminishing posts as of the recent, I even have time to comment because I have nothing left to read.

I was just thinking life caught up with writers. I understand because we are getting these for free and they are just doing this as a hobby, if I remember them mention it that way in the past. I used to not pay attention to who’s writing, new or old writer. I am just thankful for the whole website’s existence. I did notice the old writers are gone.

When they had a recruitment posting, I assumed the website is getting big and we will be getting more content. I hope everything’s okay. If there are issues, hopefully nothing serious.

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Yes, I have been noticing that there are less and less new content on Dramabeans.

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Thank you for voicing the concerns that some of us may have.
I noticed too that the number of dramas recapped at a time are fewer and fewer and the best of the crop are nowadays left aside (I am talking about Just Between Lovers, for example.) I noticed that sections that had quite a long run were abandoned - like the weekly ratings.
It takes quite a long time for the site to load and I often have annoying pop ups (I cannot call those ads, they are more like scam or spam to me) when I try to use my phone - at least I have some defense against that on my computer - which makes me less keen to open the website on my phone.
So yes, there are quite a few issues and I am sure that are well known to those running the site.
I am sorry to see it happening because Dramabeans means a lot to me. It is not just the first place where I learnt more about dramas and Korean culture. English is not my mother's tongue and this website helped me tremendously to improve at least my vocabulary. It also reminded me about the passion I have for literature and it taught me that dramas can be seen as, yes, writing, first. A novel in motion of sorts. So I am watching television in such a different way now. It even made me happy back in the day when there were collected some of the best/ funniest comments of the week. It felt like a dialogue between beanies and the readers.
Although I didn't always agree with the ladies' (quite obvious) attitude towards some actors, I took it as a personal preference and I respected that, but I kept coming here for the great content.
I know that all good things come to an end and there were a lot of good long years, which may have tired the people involved and it would make me terribly sad to see Dramabeans gone. I wonder if returning to the beginnings, when nothing else works, wouldn't be a good call. Like falling in love again with the same person - trust me, it is wonderful if it happens and it is deeper and more meaningful that the first time.
Even if the worst is to come, I still thank you, each and every beanie that has ever worked to bring us closer to dramas and dramas closer to us. You changed my life in ways that you could have never suspected. Chapeau!

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Is this uri Alina?? 😀 How's your mom? And Viola?
Don't stone me. I love DB more as a blog than as a website as it is now. It was felt more personal, more intimate. It was like reading your friend's rambling about something, something familiar. Even when I read I could hear their snark, their intonation, their giggles or I could see their rolling their eyes while writing it. Now it feels like the other news website.
Not saying that I am not happy that the blog expanding. But that just what I feel.

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I'm glad that you raised your concerns. I'm not a regular user so I couldn't gauge what I've noticed lately. I wasn't sure if the website was experiencing a seasonal drama slump (not a lot of good shows to recap, thus the lack of posts), technical problems, or something problematic behind the scenes. In addition to fewer recapped shows and other posts, some things I noticed:

1) No weekly drama viewership ratings posted this year.

2) I don't know if it's just me (and Safari) but ever since the new server switch or whatever they did last summer, every couple months whenever I visit the site, it takes me to some random junk website. It only seems to occur when I use Safari (my primary browser) and it takes a few days to a week before the problem clears up.

3) New features released with fanfare are not available or no longer posted, such as the Shopping and the Vlogs.

I could be wrong but I wonder if they tried to do too much in a short period of time and overextended themselves and encountered unexpected problems. The server switch, the shopping and Vlogs were introduced within months of each other.

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Glad to know I'm not the only one who has noticed the recent decline in content, particularly with recaps. 3 shows' recaps seem to be the new average compared to the 5-6 shows recapped in the past. Don't know if it's the recent dry spell in dramaland, or something else behind the scenes. (And no, this isn't a complaint; am just genuinely concerned about what's going on.) As a visitor of this site for many years (unrelated but I actually prefer the old logo), while new features are always exciting, I hope the long-running ones (and especially recaps) aren't sidelined. Whatever the case, dramabeans, fighting!

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Alina, thanks for opening this conversation. I thought I was the only one who noticed.

But first I have to mention how much I appreciate Dramabeans. It has been a part of my Korean drama journey. When I first started watching in 2011, there was a lot of stuff I did not understand. Some things got lost in translation, I did not understand Korean culture and the context of the actors’ reactions and attitudes. Many times I had to stop watching to read the recap to help me understand what just happened. Dramabeans gave me a deeper understanding and helped me appreciate dramas even more. I enjoyed the bloggers’ writings even though I don’t always agree with their reviews. The readers’ comments brought me giggles and deeper insights. The recaps and What We’re Watching helped me decide whether I will invest 16-20 hours of my life to a drama.

That being said, I am concerned that less and less dramas are being recapped. Very few writers are posting on What We’re Watching. Drama ratings are no longer being posted. I really wish there’s more new content. Lastly, I prefer the old format. It was more user friendly.

I don’t mind ads. Dramabeans has to make money. However, I find the pop ups very annoying and intrusive. First of all, these fake Amazon ads are deceptive. You can’t even close the ads without leaving the Dramabeans site altogether. With its high volume of website visitors, Dramabeans should be able to get better ads.

I really want Dramabeans to succeed. I hope it can recruit more writers and better advertisers.

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Dear Beanies, I am worried too about the actual state of the site. But to be real honest I was also worried when they tried to recap eleven shows at a time. They were hyper-extending themselves.

There must be a happy middle.

Cheers!

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Yes! I thought they were really doing a lot and i was so impressed. But I am also cool with them taking a vacation for a couple weeks to recharge. Even a month vacation would be cool with me.

I kind of think they can do something like an open thread post for a drama that they are not recapping. It seems like readers already organically did this for Just Between Lover's, which is why that post has over 2000 comments. I think it would be cool if that became a regular feature and it could save them time and money.

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That's an excellent idea (having open thread posts every week for shows that they don't recap). I was really bummed that they didn't recap Buamdong Revenge Club and going to the Soompi thread wasn't as nice, partly because there weren't separate threads/posts dedicated to each week's episodes.

Having weekly open threads for an unrecapped show won't take a lot of work, but it will ensure regular traffic to the site and give folks a dedicated space to discuss each week's episodes. It would be a win-win for DB and its users.

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@Sisyphus, I'm so glad someone else likes this idea. And yes Soompi is hard to follow sometimes because there isn't a dedicated post to each episode and I don't often pay that much attention to the page I stopped reading on.

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Since I'm not a registered member, I can't give you an up vote. Also, I really do think it's a brilliant idea because it's simple yet guaranteed to benefit everyone. And great ideas should be acknowledged! Anyway I hope the Dramabeans folks are reading the comments and open to the suggestions like yours. At the end of the day, it'll be a shame to lose this site.

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I love this idea, too. I think it would make so many people really happy to have a place to share ideas about dramas that otherwise get very little attention even if they are praiseworthy. I wish I could upvote it, too.

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Okay, @Sisyphus and @JustAnother DramabeansAddicted, y'all should probably go ahead and register on the site :-)

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I agree this would be such a great idea. It would be even better if there could be a separate post for each episode. For instance, right now I'm watching JBL and really wish I could read everyone's commentary on each episode, but don't want to venture into the 2000+ thread because of spoilers. If there were separate posts for each episode, it'd be perfect.

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I didn’t mean that Javabeans and Girl Friday write all the recaps. There used to be more beanies writing for Dramabeans. Hope they hire more writers.

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I agree about the quality of the ads. At this point, I assume they have enough traffic (and they are the premier Kdrama recap site) that they could directly contact vendors and companies for advertisements, such as:

1. Viki, Kocowa, Dramafever (streaming sites)
2. KBS, tvN and other networks - ads for their shows
3. reach out directly to the talent agencies to promote whatever products their actors, etc. have signed for (i.e. Lacome, food, etc.) -- maybe in turn the talent agencies/managers may be able to connect Dramabeans to the pr departments of those product companies
4. reach out to Korean companies for products that are popular on Kdramas such as instant coffee (as seen in the Buamdong Revenge Club), etc.

I want to be clear that I'm not an expert on this, and I'm aware that directly contacting different companies to get their advertising dollars is time-consuming and takes a lot of effort, but considering that there's no site with the same level of traffic and presence as Dramabeans, I believe they can get more high-profile and better paying advertisements.

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The food these characters always puts me off.
1st. these characters like to waste precious food. Have too much money.
2nd. Wake up. don't was face or brush and right away start to eat food.
3rd. Fresh, Hot food - Put in refrigerator, then taste it half a day later and praise this sticky food.
3a. Make too much food and that will preserved for days.
4th. Microwave it - Does that make the food fresh?

Some of it can be explained but all of it can never be. I mean who loves to eat almost expired food?
I feel it more because i like hot food that burns the inside of your mouth and tongue - right off the stove.

Radio Romance is stalker romance. Mild creepy and writer thinks its swoonworthy. No personal space of an individual at all. +1 for mustache though.

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Il was also wondering if Koreans eat mostly cold dishes, because it looks like it with all of those side dishes always served... I think actifs mostly eat what they can while filming -long

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hours, but sometimes they prefer not to eat when it's bread so it's just for the advertising issues.

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Side dishes are best served cold or in room temperature. Side dishes are prepared by the bulk. People have them stored in large jars or in containers inside the fridge. It may look too many because they already have them ready to serve.

Main dishes are served hot or sizzling. Rice is freshly cooked, or kept warm in the rice cooker. If not, re-heat it. All leftovers from the fridge are microwaved to re-heat them. There main dishes that are also served cold like jokbal or buck wheat noodles.

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I love maangchi's cooking youtube channel and I noticed that microwave is a must have item. I don't have it and won't have, have my reasons, but why people in dramas don't use dishwasher ? About reheating rice - can't you be sick from it?

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Every household in America have it. Most Korean households do too. My in-law refuses microwave due to radiation. Most people use it because it makes everything quick and easy.

The use of dishwasher is personal preference, just like in real life. In most Asian households, washing dishes by hand is more preferable, thus, it reflects in dramas. Plus we won’t really be watching the dishwasher run, would we? The closest they could show is have the character put the contents inside.

You only get sick from eating spoiled or contaminated food, may it be rice or something else.

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Bulk cooking is actually a common practice among busy people. They even do packed meals for the whole week. I see this trend among health-conscious people who wants to save time prepping meals. They do packed lunches and dinners. Helps them monitor their food intake and ensure they get healthy options. Helps them avoid fast foods and restaurants.

Some people think it helps them save time. Other benefits include one time cleaning, preventing fresh produce from getting spoiled, always-ready food whenever they get hungry, etc. Others come home hungry and too tired to cook. Having food ready is a good strategy. The fridge preserves it to keep it from getting spoiled. If done right, most foods could last many days. Just re-heat it and they’re good to go.

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Happy Friday fellow beanies...I am currently watching marriage contract and I got to say the drama is really good. I find myself saying if uee's character is to die then it's ohk but it is really weird for me to think that as I am not even a fan of sad endings, I couldn't even finish watching moon lovers cos of its sad ending...wonder why I feel it's ohk now? ??

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This is so off topic to what i wrote before. But I just received and email from my supervisor that I can officially start my project next week. The thing is that I am soooo scared. I want to do well but its like my brain is empty and I am confused. Any beanies experience this before?? As I dont know what to do....

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What kind of project--do you mind my asking?

I know with library projects--especially when its a program that I'm looking to start what I do is write it out. I write out exactly what I want the program to look like (and if I don't know that then what the idea is). As I'm doing that (or after) I see the steps that I need to take to get the program into the shape that I want it to take. And then I organize the steps into the order they need to happen in, give everything a deadline and then break each step into something manageable that I can do. The deadline thing helps because I have a terrible habit of wanting to jump right to the fun stuff and breaking everything down into steps I can jump to the fun stuff and still see where and when all the boring stuff needs to happen.

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Is a science based project, an evolutionary question on organism. I will be working in the lab.

I think your method resonates with me. I will write my thoughts as it is and see how it goes. Thank you.
My supervisor has been asking me to write my materials and methods since last week and I just sent him an email which took me about 2 hours to write. As in who writes an email for 2 hours???

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Me? When I am writing to a supervisor or a colleague that I don't like---it takes me a LONG time to write that email because for every other word I have to edit out inappropriate content. Or sometimes when I don't know what to say it'll take a while to get the words out.

The first time I admitted to myself that I wasn't thrilled with the new job I sat down and wrote an email to my mentor. It took me about two hours to write. I sat down, put my kpop playlist on on youtube and didn't look up until I was done. CHILD, that was a RANT for the ages.

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My own preference is to go "outside in" using an iterative process. Presumably you are doing post grad or post doctoral work.

1) Start with the core problem/research question and situate it within the context of your field. This usually takes a bit of time - understanding other materials/research that relate or may contribute to my question. This is the point to refine WHAT you are asking and WHY you are asking that particular question. Iterate.

2) Then from the question, ask what kind of answer SHOULD I get based on your hypothesis. Poorly formed questions lead to vague hypothesis which will tend hinder the experimental process. Iterate and go back to step 1 if needed.

3) Experimental design: Materials and methods. Don't do this until you are fairly satisfied with 1 and 2. If you have understood the variables and a solid grounding in various methods, with a sound hypothesis, the experimental design phase should flow smoothly. If it doesn't then iterate back to 2. ha ha!

Having a short summary of 1 and 2 is useful because a good supervisor should provide guidance on areas that you may have missed out - which are not apparent if you only submit your experimental design without good context.

Of course, in a larger lab setting - (1) and (2) may already be provided/decided but it is good practice to go through anyway if it doesn't take much time.

I find visualizing the work process helps me initially on experimental feasibility rather than looking through a lot of data tables and or charts (where you end up rat-holed about anticipated results etc).

Have fun!!!

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When I want or have to write research papers or posters, I look at what I have available. Sometimes you may not have any idea what to do, but just seeing what is around you may help. I write things down constantly on post-it notes, scrap sheets of paper, charts. If you get an idea, write it down somewhere. Don't think about if it's possible to do at that point. Give yourself time to come up with 3-4 ideas and then see which ones would be feasible. I'm really a lazy person at heart, and so I usually try to find something I'm interested in, good at, or have enough information to make it easier for me to complete. Also, making it personal helps too, as you will be more likely to enjoy doing something if you have a personal connection to it.

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Happens to me too. I get excited with my content, I even imagine this and that, I collect info from this resource and all, then suddenly, bam! All interest are gone and I just go blank. Sometimes I even wonder why I am interested in that area/topic. Can be very frustrating, sometimes I go numb. Lol.

Following the general topic, I break the whole thing into weekly or daily tasks. Put them in my calendar. Then my OCDness will follow that schedule. Without it, I cannot get anything done. I even finish way ahead because I am worried I might be late from my self-imposed deadline. LOL.

I have everything on cloud so when I get an idea or if I see something useful for my content, I write them write away. May it be the general message of that idea or specific area. Anything to remind me to look more into it because it is useful for my content. I just revise later when I can sit down properly. It has to be added right away before I forget or lose interest in putting it into my work.

Don’t worry too much about it. It is normal. Sometimes we just need a breather like reading one episode of recap maybe? Or rewatching an episode of your fav drama? Sometimes whipped cream does the trick too! LOL.

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You so right on that aspect, I was so excited but now thatihave to start I am just feeling blank and empty....

I might watch a drama but I end up feeling guilty like I am doing a wrong thing.......

Thanks for d advise......

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You’re welcome.

The anxiety of starting a new thing might have also stressed you out. It is a new project, we usually feel scared of new things. Sometimes we overanalyze, overestimate, and over-complicate.

Try to identify just the general idea. It would typically trigger your mind. If it doesn’t, look into it and see what components you want included. Or work the other way around, look into diverse things then identify your main. Whatever floats your boat.

Hope you do well! Hwaiting! 🤜🤛

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Hi Everyone! I hope you are all doing well today! ....... Happy Lunar New Year to all the Beanies who celebrate the holiday! 🐕

This week:

Radio Romance - I still have no real explanation as to why, but I keep tuning in to watch this. Kind of like how I have no explanation for the Tae-ri character.

Money Flower - I'm going to assume that Pil-Joo revealing his true identity to Chairman grandfather is a preemptive strike ..... because with the grand plan still not complete, why would anyone do that?!

Misty - Cannot. Stop. Watching. ..... This is so good. I can't say enough ..... and it's only been 4 episodes! Kim Nam-joo simply outstanding in her role as Go Hye-ran.

Victoria (Season 2) - The Queen traveled to Scotland ..... and she and her husband got lost in the Highlands. That was it. Seriously, that was it.

Olympics - Watching a bit here and there, because you know, you have to get winter-sporty sometimes ...... even if it's every four years. Go Team! ❄ 🎿 🏂

That's all for now. ...... Take care everyone and have a great Friday!

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Victoria (Season 2) - The Queen traveled to Scotland ..... and she and her husband got lost in the Highlands. That was it. Seriously, that was it.

Ha! I'm sharing your Victoria summary with my colleague who recaps it for our local public television blog. Hilarious!

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Yesss, I'm here for the olympics. Currently my heart is breaking for Nathan Chen but I'm hoping he just goes out and skates for fun tonight because there's way too much pressure on this kid nationally and from the media and god knows what he has to deal with from his parents and coach. But on the flip side of that how impressed am I with Chloe Kim?! I'm so stoked to see a female snowboarder kill it out there and sure we've had plenty of great ones but I truly believe that if she keeps going forward with her career she'll surpass shaun white's legacy.

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Yes, tough break for Nathan Chen. I'm hopeful he'll make a return in the future. ..... Chloe Kim was fantastic. Her sport is not one I closely follow, but I'm definitely a new fan!

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Yoo Seung-ho said in an interview that his ID still gets checked when he goes out for drinks with his friends cause he looks young and I'm like... oh, honey, this isn't why...
anyway I wrote half an essay about my thoughs on OTPs and then promptly deleted everything cause I might as well just condense it to "gosh golly wasn't INAR great and also I liked it a lot" and I think we're all more than a little tired of hearing me say that :/ I really enjoy reading everyone else's takes!

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I love reading your quips! I actually just got carded last week, and I don't think that's happened in 5 years. I was trying to buy sake that my husband likes with all the groceries I had. I had BOTH my kids with me but my husband was elsewhere. The kid who couldn't have been more that 21 years old himself, asked for my ID, and my hubby comes bounding up to the register and yells, "HAH, you got carded? You're like twice as old!" so that the entire front of the store full of people checking out could hear him. I was appalled, and turned several shades of beet red. But I think the poor register guy was even more embarrassed. But seriously, the kids were calling me, "Mom!" I would have had to have my son when I was 9 years old to be underage! But poor Yoo Seung-ho, he's just 24, so being carded isn't out of the question, but you're right, that's not it...everyone knows how old you are. SMH.

And I think your OTP essay would be a really entertaining read! There's still time!

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You're so sweet but stop enabling me lmao

About 5 years ago I was in the mood for some beer and I went to the closest store in my neighborhood so of course I didn't bring my wallet with me. The only time I got carded in my life. Tragic. I think my bitchy face and red lipstick make me look the way I feel (early 70s)

Anyway back when I was 17 I could buy pretty much any alcohol cause ATM cards for minors weren't much of a thing and I made sure to pay with mine every time 😂 My birthday is in October and that trick saved me so much frustration. All of my friends were having their 18th birthday parties in public venues and they're stressful enough even when you're sober.

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Finish it. Then you can gush about INAR and we can post comments gushing about INAR and everyone will start using the word "cult" like they're using over in the JBL fandom. And we'll all wear our matching t-shirts and hold our G&Ts and argue, "This is not a cult, we just like these identical outfits".

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I love you do you know that
Honestly why t-shirts? The show itself was obviously pushing baseball caps as merch! Fake fan!

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Oh crap, you're right. I don't wear hats but I suddenly feel like I need one with 'pretty' on it.

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I own one because last summer I had to go outside for more than 10 minutes (ew) and I hated every second of it it but you betcha if there was an offical Pretty hat I'd be sitting in it right now

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Yes! LOL.

I am still seeing some heart lamps on IG. We can sell them shirts too. Business! Yay! 😂

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Post it! Way to reignite everyone’s over INAR over and over and over again. Let’s gush over it every week! I am actually giggling writing this. 😍

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Wow, nearly two months? I thought I was absent for a week or so…
My 2018 redemption arc has begun and has kept me quite busy.

First I had to study for my Korean exam and I graduated with 85 %! To celebrate I already subscribed for my next level of courses, starting in March. :D

I also started my second degree at the end of January, so I no longer can read Dramabeans or Open Thread immediately, but have to catch up during weekends. This week is a holiday break, so of course I am commenting on OT this week ! :p

Is it me, or is there another slump going on? I am not as invested now of course, but it seems like there are not many (interesting) K-drama’s airing now or in 2018 from what I have heard…then again, less distractions, so perhaps for the best ;)

There is one problem that I need some help with. I do not find enough time to do my homework.

I am used to university with strict schedules and many facilities, now I am in a school for adults that rents its location in a huge exhibition building and works only digitally. We are literally only allowed inside the computer classes during lectures, the rest of the time we have to kill time inside the huge, noisy building, with no study space for laptops anywhere.

The school also hires freelance teachers who teach their profession, so as expected I have a very flexible, unpredictable schedule that changes every week. No fault of theirs of course, because the school is very good and well organised otherwise.

There is also my very unreliable bus that always surprises me with its arrival. I am never late, but I spend a lot of time waiting for my bus or for class to start, without anything useful to do. Sometimes the teachers allow us to stay inside the computer rooms before class or during breaks, or they stop class earlier so that I can catch an earlier bus home, but that is never guaranteed.

I know many people work in flexible environments, but when you have homework to fit in, it becomes a lot harder. I never know how late I will get home by bus (and that is the best option I have), and I am usually so tired and running out of time that I can only prepare for the next day.

My degree is very practical, since most is done in class. However, I cannot shake off my university habit of coming home and reviewing notes, working on big assignments,…. And now I longer can do that. This holiday week I only worked on a big assignment during the days and watched Hwayugi with a friend in the evenings to destress. I have a month to finish it, but my schedule is so full that I really stress about when and how I will finish it.

Ahhh student worries…still beat unemployment woes anytime…

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Congrats on doing well on your Korean exam!

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Thank you! :) Enjoy your Korean dishes and family time! ;)

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Hehe thanks!

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🎉🎊Congrats!🎊🎉

about study habits,if it works for you to keep your university habits maybe consider to continue doing it. When I do online courses while working,what I do is set a day as my "class day" usually Sat.I read prescribed readings during the work week,about an hour or two each day and then watch the lecture videos and answer the weekly assignments or exams on Sat

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Thank you so much for your suggestion! While reading your study habits, I realized that I am too used to your so called "class days". I guess I will have to learn to split them up into "class hours" instead ;)

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Good luck and I hope you enjoy school this time too

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Hi Hi Beanies!

The one thing I was looking forward to in having a Friday off (for once) was participating in OT discussions!......and I ranted my little heart out yesterday instead.

Yesterday I was pretty bummed as it was a crap day at work (except not really, two people did/said some things that irritated me but I was already irritated so that made it worse). All of my programs have been approved and YAY I'm excited. I love children's programming. But, I was pretty bummed and wound up ranting (again) to the lady I'm staying with about how I didn't get the job and I'm drowning and my life is a mess. She offered to sit down with me and go over my budget and urged me to take the time that I'm staying with her to really get caught up on my bills.

I'm of two thoughts
1. Mind ya' business
2. Someone else please come and make all of my decisions because I am obviously a fail at life.

I'm a year younger than her son and she said that in the goodness--almost three!--months that I've been staying here she's been trying super hard to not give me unwanted opinions since I'm an adult and can make my own choices.

And then she said to me: but you're struggling and I'm sick of it and you need help (all of this was said to me. As I stood there blinking at her). SO! Tomorrow. Looking at that budget and figuring you out. To which I blinked at her some more and said, "k".

But then she said that I should cancel my subscription to spotify and my subscription to viki/dramafever. Which---makes sense. But, you have to figure the comfort factor in. I've been working at a job I'm not thrilled with, living with a stranger for 3 months, I haven't been able to go out and meet people because it snows just about every day here, and I'm a financial disaster. Like...I need my music. It soothes me. I need my dramas. They comfort me in this unfamiliar landscape. And all in all its about 30 a month--thats not bad. She backed away at the level of stink eye I gave her for suggesting such a thing.

Beanies, thanks, as always, for giving me a safe place to rant (the good and the bad kind).

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Lol, I have Netflix/Hulu/Viki/Dramafever/Spotify. I don't pay for cable in my apartment so I figure this is a good tradeoff, or at least that's how I justify it.

Hope things get better for you soon! *hugs*

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Do you just have an internet bill, then? When I was in CO that was my plan but the internet by itself was like $50 but internet with cable hookup with $55 so I got the cable (plus hulu, viki, dramafever, spotify and napster--now I just have dramafever (annual fee), spotify and napster). She doesn't have the internet in her house so it would make sense to drop those subscriptions while I'm here and (gulp) watch less? drama? But....I don't want to. Watching the dramas give me a reason to come here and chat with all of y'all.

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Maybe you can compromise and cancel subscriptions you don't use as much? Or maybe watch dramas on "unofficial" sites. Spotify can easily be dropped (at least for me who doesn't pay for it now). I listen to everything on shuffle, and I have playlists that only play songs I like, so I don't feel I need a subscription. I also am always connected to some internet (either at work, hotspot, or LTE/4G) so don't feel the need to have to download songs. It may not work for you, but just an idea. And NAPSTER? Are you living in the early 90's or something? LOL!

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LOL. I love my napster, now! People are always side eyeing but it works beautifully. I had a zune (I MISS MY ZUNE) which had a 9.99 subscription service so that you could listen to all the music you wanted with no ads and you could download like 20 songs a month to keep. It was a great deal. And my zune broke and microsoft decided they werent making the product anymore (I MISS MY ZUNE) and I didn't want itunes because they didn't offer that subscription as far as I could tell and then I found Rhapsody which offered the same subscription. And last year sometime rhapsody was bought by Napster. Same subscription--but as far as I can tell you can download as many songs as you want to keep. Or, I haven't been charged for any, anyway. I like having spotify and napster both as between the two of them I get almost as much kpop as I want (plus all the other music I listen to).

I can drop spotify (sad) because its really spotty here. When I don't have a glorious hotspot I have to rely on my whatever amount of wireless I get from my cheap android phone which is high speed for two weeks of the month and slow as slugs the rest of the month, same with viki. Dramafever is already paid for the year but they have downloadable options that viki doesn't have. Napster I'll keep because I use those playlists during my storytimes.

And, ahem. Napster for life.

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Yup, the total internet bill is around $50 but I have 3 roommates so my share is really around $12. I think whatever subscriptions you don't regularly use, you should drop. But yeah it's a tough call especially when it's your source of entertainment.

My personal finance philosophy is spend on what you like after your bills are paid and you put some towards savings. If you have the basics covered, who cares where your money goes if it makes you happy? :)

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The cost of viki/dramfever/spotify subscriptions is much less than what many spend at coffeeshops monthly. Additionally the cost of the food she ate without your permission is wasteful as it had no benefit for you.

It is not extravagant to keep the things that give us joy, and peace. Your circumstances are stressful, so your music and dramas are especially necessary right now.

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This is what I tell myself! Like, I don't go out to eat--I budget one fast food lunch a week (with an extra 10 dollars set aside for stress eating). I don't shop (I came here with two weeks of clothes and I've been here for three months now. This is killing me). Literally the only thing that I spend money on is my subscription to my drama sites and my music app. And I utilize them every single day.

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Here's the deal with budgetting: it's useful to write down how you spend your money. That's absolutely true. Then there are things that you *have* to pay like bills and taxes.

But when you wrote 'she said I should cancel...' the word that stuck out for me is 'should'. The nice way to address is to say that you 'could cancel...' if you needed to save money.

How you spend your cash is your call! My annual subscription to Viki is less than the cost of 3 cinema tickets, which I think is good value.

Could I give it up if that meant that I had to pay for some emergency? Sure. I could.
But should I give it up because it's wasted money? No way!

You have priorities to how you spend the money you make and that's all up to you.

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My thing is--she keeps saying that I made a mistake with my budget somewhere---and I haven't! But have things popped up that have been completely out of my control? Yes. I'm working on it. Its going waaaaaay slower than I anticipated which is stressing me TF out. But I am working on it.

I have an extremely tight, well organized budget that shows where every penny that I earn goes. But my budget is different from hers because we're different people. I have an unhealthy relationship with food that I should probably go to therapy for. When I'm super stressed out I stress eat--meal of choice: whopper with no onions, heavy bacon and cheese an extra large fry and an orange hi-c. It doesn't even taste good to me. Its too much food and by the time I'm done with it, I feel like throwing up. But if I don't eat it--the next time I go to have it I'll end up having it twice in one day and eating until I literally throw up. She keeps telling me things like: Oh, don't spend that $10 on fast food, tell yourself I'm going to put that $10 towards my debt and then you'll feel better. But that doesn't work for me, it just makes me feel even more out of control and even more resentful of my job (I'm working this hard and I can't even have a burger?!

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I am so annoyed with this person you are living with and I have great respect for the fact that you are dealing with her so well.
As I am not nearly as charitable and kind as you are, I would be questioning her advice...
"Is she saying this so that I can pay for ALL of her food as well now? Is this the next step to getting me to foot her bills?" Sorry. I just don't have much trust for people who consistently act in a way which only benefits them.
I had to wait a day before writing this because I was so annoyed. Why isn't she helping you not by telling you what to do, but by helping you discreetly? huh?

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Wait... are you telling me that the woman who eats the food that you set aside to have for lunch the next day (without paying you a penny for it) then tells you off for spending cash on buying a burger?

You cooked food to last for a few meals only to have her scoff the lot for breakfast! The audacity of the woman is beyond belief.

But (to be constructive and not just agree with your annoyance) can you use the budgetting discussion to address the food-theft situation? As she knows that money is tight for you, you can explain that you really need her to contribute something towards what she's eaten? Like, you needn't have bought a burger if she hadn't eaten your lunch (even if that is a little white lie)? It could be a non-confrontational way to discuss it: you could for example say that you would have been happy to share your food if you could have financially afforded to do that.

I hope things work out!

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I was questioning my subscriptions to Netflix/Viki/Dramafever recently, feeling like I was being wasteful since I don't have much money. I struggle with many medical issues and don't get out much, and my mom said "That's your entertainment. That's what takes your mind off things for a little while and gives you comfort and that's important."

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Everyone needs something that makes them happy. Before I started working in libraries going to the library and checking things out filled that need for me. It doesnt anymore (part of that is when I come across something I like I reeeeeeaaaaallly hate giving it back!)

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I love going to the library, browsing the shelves, checking things out. Most people I know use their Kindles or iPads now but give me a good library book any day.. I feel you about hating giving something I like back though.

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I like browsing as Well! I'll tell you my favorite thing about books though: when I'm getting stressed about the plot or the tension or whatever I tilt the book to the side, guesstimate how many pages are left and take a deep breath. There are 200 pages left! They won't kill the main character with 200 pages left!

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yes you may consider dropping a subscription or two IF you don't use it as often as you thought when you 1st subscribed.but not necessarily drop everything.

My personal general financial rule,as long as bills,savings & allowance for the work days until next pay day is paid/deposited/saved,excess money is disposal already for fun things.

I only retained subscriptions for Netflix,Spotify and Viu. No Viki or DF in Manila, and switched to a data only plan for 1 of my phone lines and for unlimited calls & texts for the other.I bring snacks & lunch food instead of buying during work days,I RARELY go out so as a reward, once a week at most or once every 2 weeks at least, I eat out not necessarily fine dining but just eat somewhere and I buy a book once a month. My point is you shouldn't feel deprived of spending your own money that you worked for.

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I didn’t want to be THAT person but I feel like if I didn’t share it with at least someone I’d combust. So I’m a foreigner here, where I live. I’m a student and I’m not the only foreigner, it’s a pretty diverse school. But I’m a whole continent away, being African and all but in all of the woes that comes with being a foreigner here, this is the absolute worst. A group of people made monkey noises at me today on the tram. Not a single person did a thing about it. And what’s even worse is that there was another black girl in front of me and for a moment, I hid my face and thought to myself, ‘thank god, they’re doing it to her and not me.’ I’d never felt so ashamed of myself.
I mean, it’s not my first rodeo with discrimination but I’d never felt like this. I’d been stared at openly like I’m on display, some old people have hurried past me like I’m a dangerous beast, and one old hag once yelled ‘primitive niggar’ at me but I found myself feeling more sad for them than being hurt. For someone who has lived in a country where the race is predominantly black, I’d never faced discrimination for being black. I didn’t even realize I was ‘black’ till I got here.
Sorry, if this made anyone uncomfortable or it’s not the right place to talk about it but I needed to say it out. I felt so ashamed of myself about the way I reacted to even tell my friends.

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I am so sorry this is happening. I don't have any advice or any wisdom, but I do think you shouldn't beat yourself up about your initial reaction. None of us want to be the target of that sort of ugliness, and I presume our brains first wish to protect us in any way.

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Monkey noises you say? Now that is some appalling behaviour! You are a human being and should be treated like a human being. I am angry on your behalf.
I completely agree with @egads here, your survival instincts took over that moment. The fact that you can reflect on it is also pretty admirable, even though you did nothing wrong.

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I'm so, so, so sorry about what you are going through. It's so incredibly hard to be on your own in a foreign land - I know because I've spent a year as a student abroad as well - but to add this on top of it? I can't even imagine.

I recall there was a post some weeks earlier about a company pulling down an ad with a black model and something about a jungle. And it seems my reaction to it really was too light - I'm so sad to hear this.

Agree with egads' comment above - don't beat yourself up. I do it too, after I've run away from some random man shouting innuendos on the street or a shopkeeper being too suggestive. But really, this is the instinctive reaction - to shield onself and remove oneself from the situation.

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A few weeks ago there was an Abercrombie and Fitch (I think) ad with a little black boy wearing a hoodie that said, "king (or prince, I don't recall) of the jungle" with a monkey on it. SO HIGHLY OFFENSIVE. I recently pulled and requested my library cancel the subscription to a magazine were the only image of blackness that was in the entire publication had the characters looking bestial instead of like humans. Whereas all of the white characters (they were illustrations) looked like people--even if some of those were stereotypes of people. In the US it all goes back to slavery days and how people justified slavery by saying black people weren't human.

Goodness. I'm about to get on a soap box. I shall show myself out (of this comment thread--like I'm leaving beanie land today.)

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Yup that's the one. I'm so sad to hear this. I come from a country where yes, white skin is preferred, but the race and discrimination narrative has another face - caste, religion and language.

I'd like to think that there are countries that are more tolerant, but it seems that fictional portrayals on TV of English speaking countries (i.e. a language I understand) are just as false as those of South Korea in K-dramas (a language I don't understand). If I were Korean, I don't think I'd be watching K-dramas - just like I don't watch any Indian or American, English etc TV.

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Bravo for pulling and reporting that magazine to whomever has the power to cancel the subscription. Representation in media so important, and recognizing and removing such dangerously damaging imagery is a big step towards positive change.

I think it was an H&M advertisement.

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“Coolest monkey in the jungle” hoodie from H&M modeled by a black boy.

This happened just a month or so ago. That boy’s mom told people off when people complained about it. She said, “Get over it.” Like wow huh?

People trashed H&M stores in South Africa for it that they had to close down all branches in that region.

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Did she really? I didn't keep up with the ordeal (obviously as I was super wrong about what it said---all I could remember was that gross Rachel Dolezeal (or however you spell her name) did a response to the hoodie by putting out her own.

Wow. I cannot believe that mom. That poor kid is going to have some sort of life with her as his advocate.

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Dolezal. But yes, she did and it was a fail because her version was “coolest prince in the hood”. Her use of “hood” is still derogatory term like ghetto. She’s just a famewh*re who inserts herself into the controversy to make money out of it.

All the mother of that boy wants is to make her son a money-making machine. I am wondering what other nonsense and bs this mother is subjecting her son into. Poor boy.

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I put absolutely nothing past Dolezal. She's---I don't know a word strong enough to fully and adequately discuss my disgust with that human. I don't feel that bad about not knowing that she said "hood" in her hoodie--I cannot look at anything involving her too closely without wanting to punch her in the eye.

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This broke my heart. Discrimination is everywhere. We are all human with human tendencies and emotions. What you felt was completely normal in your situation. Don't beat yourself up for it. My family has lived in the US all our lives, and my sister didn't realize that she wasn't "white" until middle school when someone started imitating Chinese to her. She had no idea what it was about. I'm sorry this happened to you. Much love and "Fighting!"

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RE: monkey noises, you can safely assume they were just trying communicate with each other in the only language they ever learned. pity them.
(terribly sorry this is happening to you)

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I love this. The idiots.

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This made me 😂. I guess that’s one way think about it.

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I've never been anywhere at all. I've never left my country. But, this has happened to me before. It hurts and its scary and its appalling. How do people make it to this day and age and think that this is an ok thing to do?

I'm horrified and sad that this happened to you. I love my black skin. It is beautiful and I wouldn't trade it for anything else in the entire world. I do wish it were easier to live in (not for me but for people around me who don't know how to handle a black woman).

I don't think you should feel ashamed because of how your initial response was. It was scary. You're allowed to be afraid and then grateful that it wasn't directed towards you. And now that you've felt it, and you've felt how you feel afterwards---maybe the next time jerks think its ok to make monkey noises on the bus towards anyone you'll be able to react differently if you chose to. Either way, you're not in the wrong.

I remember every time I've ever been called a nigger.

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(In context of what you said above as