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My Ajusshi: Episode 10

Just when you think that things can’t get more intense for Dong-hoon and Ji-an, they do exactly that. The schemers are closing in on all sides, but they also have their own personal issues. Getting to know a person means also learning the bad things about them, and it’s not easy to accept that someone has lied to you.

 
EPISODE 10 RECAP

Ji-an listens to Dong-hoon fighting with Kwang-il, screaming at him for beating up a girl. Kwang-il yells that it’s because Ji-an killed his father, but Dong-hoon retorts that he’d kill anyone who beat up his family, too. This rocks Ji-an to her core, and she sobs uncontrollably.

After a long fight, the men tumble down a flight of stairs and lie there, exhausted and gasping for breath. Kwang-il hauls himself up and starts to climb the stairs. Dong-hoon asks again how much Ji-an owes, but Kwang-il doesn’t answer.

When Dong-hoon’s brothers hear about the fight, they and the entire bar full of their friends go running to Dong-hoon’s defense. They even call Jae-chul, who brings along the soccer club. Another friend finds Dong-hoon first, bruised and bloody but ultimately okay.

Ki-hoon, Sang-hoon, and all the guys (and I do mean all of them) race to Dong-hoon’s aide, demanding to know where the jerk is that did this to him. Ki-hoon is so worked up that he just runs in circles, screaming that he’ll kill whoever hurt his brother. Dong-hoon fibs that he accidentally bumped into someone and got in a fight, but Sang-hoon knows he’s not like that (“You’re not Ki-hoon!” Ha, good point.)

The police show up and, knowing that Dong-hoon can’t afford to get in trouble while he’s up for a promotion, the guys shield Dong-hoon and pretend they’re warming up for a nighttime soccer game. It might have worked if the cop didn’t already know of them from their wives reporting them for drinking and driving after their games every week.

Eventually they all end up back at Jung-hee’s bar. Dong-hoon is reluctant to say what really happened, so he repeats the lie about bumping into someone who got offended, and he asks them not to go after the guy to teach him a lesson.

Things calm down and a few men leave for home. One guy spots Ji-an standing across the street from the bar, but when he puts out the “closed” sign, Ji-an leaves.

Inside, Dong-hoon laughs, saying that his body feels awake for the first time in a while. Jae-chul points out that he only has one serious injury but that he’ll bruise badly, advising him to avoid his mom for a while. Jung-hee is worried about how Yoon-hee will react, so the guys try to come up with a detailed story Dong-hoon can tell her so that she won’t be too upset.

One guy realizes that they already have a plausible story ready-made… soccer club. So when Dong-hoon limps home and Yoon-hee sees his injuries, he tells her that he and Ki-hoon collided in midair while going after a ball and got in a fight.

Yoon-hee starts crying and runs to her home office, but she’s really crying because Ji-an told her that Dong-hoon knows about her affair. She almost calls Joon-young, but she stops herself at the last second.

Ji-an is home with Grandma, listening to Dong-hoon struggle to undress with his sore hands. She remembers that he promised to pretend not to know anything, no matter what he heard about her, and that he’d gotten a promise from her to pretend the same thing.

Mom is angry at Ki-hoon when she hears the story about the brothers fighting while playing soccer, and she even fusses at Sang-hoon for not stopping them. At the office, Dong-hoon’s fib prompts his teammates to brag on their own soccer injuries.

He notices that Ji-an is late — she’s at the bank, withdrawing the money that Joon-young gave to her and transferring it to Kwang-il’s account. Kwang-il looks like he’s in even more pain than Dong-hoon, and he barely reacts when his partner informs him that Ji-an just paid them off in full.

At the end of the day, Deputy Kim invites Ji-an out with the team after work, but she turns him down. Aw, he looks genuinely disappointed that got rejected, hee. He tells Dong-hoon that he thought there might be fewer rumors if Ji-an grew closer to the team as a whole, and Dong-hoon advises him to keep trying, because she’d never say yes to anything the first time.

Ji-an noticed days ago that Dong-hoon has a pair of leather work slippers that have become badly worn. She’s been carrying around a gift bag since then, trying to give it to him, but she hasn’t had a chance since he’s been avoiding her. Tonight she waits along his route home, and when he approaches, she hands him the bag and tells him that her grandmother was accepted at the assisted living home.

She starts to go, but Dong-hoon stops her to ask how much money she owes Kwang-il. She tells him she paid it off today, inviting him to ask Kwang-il himself when he looks skeptical. He checks the bag and finds a new pair of work slippers inside.

On Grandma’s moving day, Dong-hoon is there to piggyback her down the steep stairs. He rides along in the taxi with Grandma and Ji-an, who both seem hopeful, but sad to be separated. The facility is very nice, though Ji-an learns that nobody there speaks sign language.

While she’s filling out paperwork, Dong-hoon goes shopping, buying Grandma snacks to keep in her room. As he stocks her shelf, she writes to him, “I think I can finally rest in peace when I close my eyes. I feel at ease now that someone as kind as you is by my Ji-an’s side.” She rests her forehead on the back of his hand in thanks, and later, Grandma reassures Ji-an with gentle touches that she’ll be okay.

Dong-hoon and Ji-an eventually leave, and as they walk down the road, Dong-hoon tells Ji-an that if Kwang-il torments her again, she should call him. He says there are over thirty guys in their neighborhood who all grew up together and went to the same school, who would come running to help her as soon as she calls.

He also advises Ji-an to live more comfortably from now on, and to get along with people at work. She wonders if anyone will want to be close to her once they find out she killed someone, since she’s already had people turn against her when they learned about her past.

Dong-hoon says that if she doesn’t consider the past to be important, than neither will others. Ji-an looks up at him as if that’s the most wondrous thing anyone has ever said to her. He tells Ji-an to live with the name she was given, because it’s a great name.

As they continue on, Ji-an asks Dong-hoon what his name means. He says it means nothing, other than that the Chinese characters mean “power” and “name.” He’s walking so quickly that Ji-an is practically running to keep up, and she asks if he’s walking fast because he’s embarrassed. He breaks into a run, Ji-an right behind, and they just barely catch their bus.

Yoon-hee and Joon-young meet up, both glaring at each other angrily. Yoon-hee asks if Dong-hoon is the one who found out they were communicating through a pay phone, and she yells at Joon-young for not telling her. She jumps up and storms out, Joon-young right behind.

She gets to the elevator before rounding on him and accusing him of beating up Dong-hoon. Frustrated, she takes the stairs, and Joon-young follows insisting that he had nothing to do with Dong-hoon’s injuries.

He reveals that Dong-hoon told Joon-young to break up with Yoon-hee, scared that she would leave him if she found out that he knew about the affair. Joon-young says that he broke up with her as promised, and begs her not to let on that she knows. She says she can’t do that, and when Joon-young repeats that that’s what Dong-hoon wants, she yells back, “No, that’s what you want!”

Yoon-hee accuses him of being happy when Dong-hoon asked that of him, but she swears that she won’t let him off the hook that easily, vowing to destroy him. She jumps in her car and peels off, but she soon pulls over to cry, wracked with guilt as she remembers all the times that Dong-hoon was kind to her even though he knew.

Chairman Jang’s health seems to be declining, and Joon-young and the senior directors gather around as he complains about the fuss they’re making. He admits that he has some decisions to make regarding the company, though he jokes that he shouldn’t worry about it since he’ll be dying soon anyway.

Joon-young loyally says that he built the company, and he’s the only one who can determine its future. He entreats Chairman Jang to rest and get better so he can come back and plan their future. Later, Executive Director Wang and the directors on his side laugh at Joon-young’s obvious ass-kissing as they wait for Dong-hoon to join them at a restaurant.

Joon-young goes back to the office and texts Ji-an from his burner phone, asking where Dong-hoon is. She replies that he went to eat and with whom, and he orders her to meet with him. He tells Ji-an to let him listen in on Dong-hoon’s lunch, paranoid that the directors have gotten together to plan something.

Sure enough, when Ji-an turns on her spy app, the directors are discussing how to make sure Dong-hoon passes the one-on-one interviews. They bring up things like his (supposed) soccer injury and his friendship with Ji-an, saying that the other side will use these things to discredit Dong-hoon. They decide to conduct some practice interviews, instructing Dong-hoon to say he’s going home early for a few days.

Executive Director Wang tells Dong-hoon that if he’s okay with the idea of not becoming a director, then he should stop now before they waste their time on someone who isn’t committed. He asks Dong-hoon’s true feelings about this, and Dong-hoon replies that he must become a director.

He says his mother is pushing him and his brother is worried about their mom’s funeral, and he wants to ease the burden his wife’s been carrying. He explains that he didn’t want to become a director at first, because he didn’t want to fight and compete, but now he realizes that he can’t stay in his comfort zone forever.

Executive Director Wang tells Dong-hoon that he forgot the most important reason he needs to become a director — Do Joon-young. But Dong-hoon says, “I don’t want to include that bastard in any part of my life. I’m wondering if I need to face off against him at all. I think it would be too generous of me to even make moves just for the same of bringing him down. I don’t want to concern myself at all with whether or not a bastard like him becomes a failure.”

Executive Director Wang actually agrees that Joon-young isn’t worth it. The directors scoff that Joon-young married rich and got a taste of the good life before being kicked out in less than a year, and as Joon-young listens in, he grows more and more furious.

Ji-an puts away her phone, and Joon-young asks how it’s going between her and Dong-hoon. She says they’ve only met twice, and Joon-young picks up that she must have been meeting up with Dong-hoon before he ordered it, making her confused.

She reminds Joon-young that she was framing Dong-hoon two months ago by kissing him, and that it almost got her fired, so it’s not that easy to make moves on him again. Joon-young gives her ten days, and she says she’ll do well. He demands some results in two days and storms out.

While the brothers clean Yu-ra’s building, Sang-hoon cheekily rings Yu-ra’s doorbell just to annoy Ki-hoon. Ki-hoon snaps that she’s busy filming a movie, and Sang-hoon sighs that she’s flying away too soon. Ki-hoon looks so upset he could cry.

They arrive back at their office to find Yoon-hee waiting to finally congratulate them on their business. She says that she thinks they’ll succeed this time, particularly Ki-hoon, who admits that he actually loves the work. Yoon-hee notices that Ki-hoon looks unmarked by his (supposed) fight with Dong-hoon, and the brothers quickly change the subject.

Deputy Kim again invites Ji-an out with the team after work. Dong-hoon says he can’t go but gives them his company card. He tells Ji-an to go with them, as he heads to Mom’s for dinner with Yoon-hee and his brothers.

That night, after Ki-hoon falls asleep, Sang-hoon pulls up a section of the floor and adds some money in a stash he’s hiding under there. He quickly covers it when Ki-hoon pops up to answer a call from Yu-ra, who wants to talk about how her movie shoot is going.

Ki-hoon decides to go to Yu-ra’s place to see her, but there’s a car blocking in the van, so he sets out on foot. But she tells him not to come because she’s shooting early in the morning, thanking him for offering since it makes her feel even more straightened out. Ki-hoon stomps back home and starts screaming out the license number of the car blocking him in, blaming them for ruining his evening, hee.

In the morning, Dong-hoon asks a team member if they got closer to Ji-an last night, only to find out that she left after one round. The guy whispers that Deputy Kim has a one-sided crush on someone at their company, but the lady has a boyfriend. Ji-an overhears Dong-hoon say that Deputy Kim is letting his imagination run wild, but that the emotions will disappear once he gets a smack upside the head.

While Kwang-il and his partner eat lunch, they’re joined by a former detective who has pictures of Kwang-il’s fight with Dong-hoon. He wants to know who Dong-hoon is and why he and Kwang-il fought, and he takes the information back to Joon-young that Dong-hoon was trying to pay off Ji-an’s debt. He even has photos of Dong-hoon piggybacking Ji-an’s grandmother, which Kwang-il also saw.

That evening, Ji-an meets with Joon-young again, and he shows her the pictures of Dong-hoon. Ji-an says that she’s been using her sad family situation to make Dong-hoon feel sorry for her, but Joon-young asks why she hasn’t mentioned that Dong-hoon tried to pay off her debt and got in a fight with her loan shark.

He accuses her of caring for Dong-hoon, but Ji-an retorts that this wouldn’t harm him, because people would praise him for helping out a needy girl. She points out that this is the way Joon-young’s opposition will spin their relationship. She says that Dong-hoon is a kind person, and that they’ve never called or texted each other, proving that there’s no inappropriate relationship.

She glances out the window and spots a shadowy figure that appears to be taking pictures. She warns Joon-young that someone is watching them, then she casually walks outside and takes off after the spy. She manages to trip him, making him drop his camera, which she hands over to Joon-young.

He flips through the photos, which not only contain pictures of tonight, but his recent meeting with Yoon-hee. Ji-an says that his enemies are watching and quips that he should work on a good cover story.

Joon-young heads home, seething, while Ji-an meets up with the “spy”… Ki-bum. Damn, I love this. She returns Ki-bum’s camera and tells him to use his cell phone going forward, and he asks her to let him know what she’s planning first.

Dong-hoon goes home, but when the elevator reaches his floor, he heads right back down again. He goes to his restaurant owner friend’s place, where they discuss cheating wives who stay and try to salvage the marriage. His friend says it’s only a matter of time before you get a divorce, and that you can’t understand what it’s like to picture your wife with another man until it happens to you.

Ji-an is watching Dong-hoon from across the street, and just as she’s about to join him, she sees the former detective sitting in his car nearby. She waits, and sees the detective follows Dong-hoon home. Ji-an follows the detective, eventually passing him to catch up to Dong-hoon.

She passes by Dong-hoon as well, but he calls out to her, asking why she’s ignoring him again. She stops, then turns back to him, and he asks why she’s angry. She tells Dong-hoon to slap her in the head just once: “You said that feelings like missing someone and longing for them will all be gone as soon as one gets hit on the head. I want to put an end to these emotions, so hit me, just once.”

Dong-hoon only stares at her in confusion, so she sighs heavily and says she feels pathetic for wondering why he doesn’t wear the slippers she gave him, and for hanging around late at night. Dong-hoon finally figures it out and tells Ji-an to go home.

She yells at him again to hit her, asking if he doesn’t actually want her to end her feelings. She asks defiantly if he likes her, but Dong-hoon just whirls on her and calls her a crazy bitch. Ji-an agrees that she’s crazy, begging him to hit her so she can come to her senses. When he doesn’t, she warns that she’ll think he likes her and tell everyone.

She screams at the top of her lungs, “Park Dong-hoon likes Lee Ji-an!” Dong-hoon slaps her hard enough to knock her to the ground, and she lies there for a moment before jumping up and running off. Dong-hoon watches her go, then walks away in the opposite direction.

 
COMMENTS

Whoa, that was intense. I was not expecting such an honest confession from Ji-an, not at this point in the story. But it’s completely in-character for her to do it in the context of wanting to make her feelings stop, because they’re painful, as well as inconvenient to what she needs to do. She doesn’t enjoy feeling conflicted, or being forced to do things that could harm him, all the while wanting to keep from harming him. But at least she knows how she feels, while I think Dong-hoon has had too much going on to even think about whether he has feelings for Ji-an, so this snuck up on him. He obviously feels something, enough for him to lash out at her not two days after beating the crap out of Kwang-il for hitting a girl. This is definitely going to haunt him.

Of course, while I believe she was truthful about her feelings, it seems to me that Ji-an staged that whole confrontation so that Joon-young’s spy would get pictures of them fighting and Dong-hoon hitting Ji-an. She’s almost certainly trying to get out of her agreement with Joon-young, and this would be a good way to argue that she doesn’t want to be near Dong-hoon anymore. I love that the more we get to know Ji-an, the smarter she seems. She’s always one step ahead of everyone, and she thinks of every angle and makes sure that everything she does can be spun whichever way is most convenient. It was very smart of her never to call or text Dong-hoon, so that all of their meetings for drinks and dinner look like coincidences, just a kind man helping out a girl in a tough situation. I’m guessing she learned all of this while Kwang-il’s father was “making her do bad things,” and that Ki-bum was probably also there at the time, which is how they know each other and work so well together. It’s brilliant that she’s able to do all this without ever making a slip-up that could get her or Dong-hoon into trouble.

I didn’t fully understand why Dong-hoon was so loyal to his brothers even after Yoon-hee complained about it, because until now, Sang-hoon and Ki-hoon have seemed mostly useless. I get that they’re blood and all, but they didn’t really appear to offer much to Dong-hoon. But when they went running frantically through the streets after hearing that he was in a fight, even calling all the neighborhood guys to join them, I finally got it. These men all grew up together, and they know each other better than anyone in the world. They don’t just drink together and complain about their lives — they’re a family, a team. When one of them is threatened, they all take it personally, and they’re willing to fight for each other. I see now why Dong-hoon would rather spend time with these guys than his own wife, who hardly speaks to him and barely even tolerates his presence. It was sweet of Dong-hoon to offer their help to Ji-an if she ever needs it.

I’m not saying that Yoon-hee is at fault for her and Dong-hoon’s semi-estrangement, because clearly their situation came about over years of dissatisfaction and lack of communication. Yes, she had an affair, but that’s a symptom of their issues, not the cause of it. They’ve been unhappy in their marriage for years, and once she stopped living in a fantasy land, the affair only made Yoon-hee feel worse. She’s realizing that Dong-hoon cares for her more than she knew, the proof being that he ordered Joon-young not to tell her that he knows about the affair. He would rather deal with the pain all by himself than lose her.

What makes the political maneuverings so interesting for me is that both sides are pretty evenly matched. Obviously, one side is willing to play dirty, paying spies to get a leg up on the competition. The other side has its reasons for putting Dong-hoon in the director’s chair (to get the votes to get rid of Joon-young), but I like that even their scheming is honest. They need Dong-hoon, but he’s also truly the best candidate and genuinely deserves the promotion, and their plan to get rid of Joon-young is because he’s crooked. I even love that Dong-hoon knows exactly why they’ve chosen him, but that he’s finding his own reasons for wanting the position — to take care of his family. It’s a good feeling to root for Dong-hoon for all the right reasons.

 
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Thanks for the recap, @lollypip!

Wow, talk about great cliffhangers and subverting drama tropes!

I’ve never seen a confession that was so direct yet simultaneously so ambiguous, AND belied its true intention. Ji An obviously has a plan up her sleeve that includes pushing Dong Hoon away to protect him. But, does that affect the veracity of her “confession”? I don’t know! Dong Hoon’s reason for his reaction is also left open. Is he freaking out because her confession awakens more in him? Because such a confession jeopardizes their friendship? Because she’s so much younger than he is, therefore he cannot see her “as a woman”? Because they have a professional relationship? Because he still loves his wife? Maybe all of the above? WHO KNOWS?! OH SWEET ANGSTY MYSTERY!

Dong Hoon piggybacking granny is probably the sexiest thing I have seen. Forget young male leads piggybacking drunken young female leads! Give me #ajusshi any day! Or, maybe it’s just Lee Sun Kyun. Hmm…..hard to tell.

AWWW…The Ajusshi Bar-Soccer Posse! Although rubbish at finding a convincing excuse for DH’s injuries, I love how they all rallied around him. He is so well loved!!! LOL, the office posse showing of their “war wounds” was also hilarious. They also adorably rally around Dong Hoon, trying to befriend Ji An in order to help squash the rumors. He has the kind of community Ji An needs but lacks.

It was interesting to hear Dong Hoon say he felt alive for the first time in a long time after that fight. Ki-Hoon was sharper than he realizes when he noticed DH was suddenly doing things he never did before. Touché, little brother.

The walk to the bus stop scene was perfect in expounding that Dong Hoon’s kindness and care of Ji An, while moving, is really just the first step to address the wider issue that she's very isolated and needs a community to support her. It looks like she’ll be slowly integrated into his friend/family fold. I wonder how Yoon Hee is going to like that….

Speaking of Yoon Hee, it’s interesting that she’s now making an effort to connect with Dong Hoon’s family. I wonder what she’s thinking. Also, I liked their little interaction in the car, guessing the answers to game show questions. It was a simple, quiet, understated way for them to connect after SO MUCH disconnection. We still have 6 episodes. I wouldn’t be surprised if they start re-building Dong Hoon’s relationship with Yoon Hee.

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I don't like this ship and would even be upset if it happened. But I do admire your determination to see it set sail.

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Me neither. Her "confession" made me wary and I am hoping the ship is never built.

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@leetennant,

Oh dear, I must not have written my comment accurately if you think that I'm shipping Dong Hoon and Ji An together. Since probably episode 2 or 3 I've been pretty much in the "save the marriage" camp.

So, I actually hope (and predict) that Dong Hoon will remain with his wife, and not become romantically involved with Ji An.

I think what I was trying to express (apparently very poorly) is the amazing ambiguity that exists in Dong Hoon's relationship with Ji An.

As we progress further along in the story, it really isn't just friendship, it isn't purely romantic, it isn't exactly family either. It's just.......uniquely itself. I'm not sure if it will ever fit neatly into a relationship category. I'm not sure if it is meant to fit in any category.

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Ahhh.... you're right I did misunderstood you so thanks for clarifying. I'm not in the "save the marriage" camp but other than that I agree with what you said about their relationship.

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Re infidelity, I think both parties cheated on each other, one sexually, the other emotionally! I love PDH as a person, but I think I might cheated on him too if he was my husband!! He's just those type of husbands that make their woman cheat... sorry I know this not a popular opinion, but men who care about their original family and friends MORE than their wife, can significantly hurt their wife or even their children (in this case it might be more harmful because apparntly YH neither has a warm family of hereself nor her husband family fully accepted her)...

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@persianrose
That's not really an argument for the "stay together" camp...

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@persianrose... I have to call you on the

I think both parties cheated on each other, one sexually, the other emotionally!

nonsense! If you consider remaining true to yourself and family "emotionally cheating" I will have to strongly disagree.

Yoon-hee is obviously a social climber. Dong-hoon has been the exact same person as the day they married. He has always cared deeply for his family, which would have been obvious from the day they met. She married him with full knowledge of his strong family ties. I would not be surprised if that is why Yoon-hee started dating him.

However, as they became more successful his family became troublesome to her. His family was hindering their or more correctly her future success. If your wife refuses to visit your family and your family treats her very, very well are you supposed to ignore them? Based on Dong-hoon behavior, do you actually believe that he ever treated Yoon-hee poorly? Both marriage partners always have some degree of blame when a spouse is unfaithful, but Yoon-hee is overwhelmingly at fault here.

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@leetennant remaining true to yourself and family is another thing, but ignoring your wife emotional needs is another thing... YH problem is not that PDH care about his family, but he put his family above his wife... YH lived 15 years with PDH, and she stated cheating on him in the past one year (I assume after their son left and she found a big emotional void in her life) it might be a norm in Asian culture to care more about your original family?! But in this drama you can see a huge dissatisfaction and loneliness in YH as result of that... however I still have a hope they might get back together because despite all these issues they still care about each other, and they have a son too!

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@persianrose, Wow! you have made an awful large ASSUMPTION, that Dong-hoon treats his wife differently than every other person he cares for. Even when he knew she was cheating on him, he was always considerate. We are going to have to agree to disagree on this one. You can not spin her infidelity into something she was forced into. If she is lonely she has a responsibility to communicate that to her husband. Dong-hoon is an awesome listener who helps complete strangers, why would he choose to ignore his wife? Remember Dong-hoon puts family above all else, she IS his family. The writers character development on Dong-hoon does not support your assertions.

By the way what I see is Dong-hoon's family loves and respects Yoon-hee and she looks down on them. If she is lonely, it is because she chose that for herself.

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I'm also in "save the marriage" camp... they definitely love each other despite being apart emotionally for such a long time... becoming cold toward each other after years of marriage is very normal in contemporary couples, where both spouses are professionals (spend most of their time at work), when the romantic stages of marrid life cools done, their life often seem without any excitement, and they might become further apart unless both parties make a reall attempt to save their marriage... YH having an affair is not justifiable at all but I can understand her (she felt lonely and not quite accepted/loved by her husband or his family)... she seek excitement out of her marrid life while deep down still love her husband or PDH as a person...

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For me infidelity is a deal breaker. I have a zero sum policy on this, even if I do understand why she cheated. But the reasons why she cheated are also the reasons why she should leave. If you're not getting what you want out of a marriage, then you should leave the marriage. Not screw around behind someone's back.

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That would be a zero tolerance policy on this if I ever learned to type.

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I agree with @leetennant Not only is infidelity a deal breaker, but she tried to make him quit his job... my point being she not only backstabbed him... but was willing to hurt his future for her own benefit...I'm not necessarily onboard for them rekindling their marriage, but they do need a real conversation for crying out loud.

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And what is love here? To never be able to say what you want/need/have/like/hate? Yoon hee said she gave up on it (a few episodes back at the mom's birthday party.)
They don't communicate. She makes no effort to talk, do she does a good effort in crying and blaming him: Like he keeps on asking what she wants but never know what she really wants.
Well missy he will not know until and unless you tell him.
And PDH was also not spotless, he never could get along more with his wife than his brothers. He made no efforts to salvage the situation when long ago Yoon hee was talking and explaining to him that she needs more effort from him in marriage.
So I am with @leetennant , there was no marriage to start with for me, it was long lost battle. The best they can do now is try to understand their kid and help him through the process as they go for a divorce.

Btw, I would like to have a flashback of the scene when they were dating and why they married uptil the time they had a kid.

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But Dong-hoon is an "emotional cheater" which is the worse kind of marital infidelity!

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I thought the conversation with the restaurant owning friend was really telling. When he said that it's just a matter of do I try to bear it for 3 years, 10 years? But that this will eventually end in divorce. I'm not one to root for divorce, but I just think that it's not going to last. Now that DH's wife knows that he knows and has to deal with her pride being hurt on top of their other underlying marriage problems, I'm just not sure it can be saved.

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Yes, that little scene in the car. It was like a little peek into a different time in their marriage. And then JiAn watching and listening from the outside.

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Agree. That little scene, very much giving us glimpse what it was between them, the connection and the shared interest, which to me, in an instant, showing that these two are possible for the first time. That they do love each other and treasure each other at one point in their life. What a great, great touch and impactful subtlety. We've been seing their distance and disconnection throughout the show, the hidden frustration in their marriage, and yet this one simple scene gives us so much thing to imagine about their marriage in happier time. Ok im just repeating myself here.

I'm not entirely in the "save the marriage" either, but what I want the most is they to communicate healthily. Dong Hoon to read more into his wife and tell her more about his life, show her in words what his family and friends and her means to him, and try to prioritize her, too. Although since the beginning it was quite clear that he didn't intend to tell his fam or friends about his directoral candidacy unless it was fix, and the news broke because of his pity towards Sang Hoon's pleas and it was Ki Hoon who told their mother and friends, he should tell his wife why his fam and friends knew before her. Every wife will be dissapointed either, although to be fair, YH's attitude isn't really helping. DH does care about his wife by his action and his words about how being a director will ease the her burden is touching to me, since its coming from him who isnt used to lie, (moreover for him to see red and punches JY when he learns that she knows he knows), but it is very relatable and humanly for him to be hurt and for the time being can't bear to see her face.

And i wish YH to speak more and listen more to her husband, not just expecting him to know what she wants or dissatisfied about because this assumption, of a spouse should naturally know what each other wants, is the first and one of the biggest cause of misunderstanding in marriage. I still see a glimmer of hope in their marriage if she wants to salvage it and truly repent and try together to communicate, but in the end the decision supposed to be the one that make each party happy and live better.

As for DH and JA, the nature of their relationship is indeed ambiguous, and eventhough they share some unique connection, that wont automatically bring them to the equal footing needed in relationship. They are just so different, and there are so much DH should learn about her even for him to truly accept her as friend (her spying of his life, JY etc), but I think I want him to take her under his wing and protect and guide her like a daughter or little sister he never has. Maybe she can share room with Jung Hee? ^^ Both can mingle well IMO.

And I soo wish to see charming and adorable Ji Seok once again. Maybe with the reaction of his appa's special skill? Lol.

The office politics are kept rather simple and straightforward but still with interesting spices, and I like that it isnt boring,...

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am not in the save the marriage camp. We haven't really seen her side, but conspiring against his job and then her behavior after the break up...i just can't. However, I am along for the ride of where ever the writer takes us. As long as DH and JA end up happy (together in any variation or apart in any variation) I'm happy.
I will say I wouldn't mind a romance between them. When I first saw info on this show I thought that was what it would be, and a lot lighter in tone, so I'm not against it.
I so want his son to be featured more. His "Oh my God" still makes me smile.
The other thing making me happy is how much joy KH is finding in working his new job.

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@bcampbell1662, I LOVE little Ji Seok as well! What an adorable little kid, and so well loved by both his parents.

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Interesting. I found the scene in the car quite sad. These two people shared big part of their life together, more importantly they have a child together. They are both going through a very difficult phase in their lives but they have nothing to say to each other. They are not able to communicate directly anymore so they start talking indirectly through talking to the radio. Maybe Dong Hoon found the silence in the car too disturbing. After everything she said to Joon Young that she can’t pretend nothing happened with her husband Yoon Hee was doing fine trying to act everything was normal between them.

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Maybe because its the first, real talk between them over the whole episodes that is totally void of negative emotion, the random talk, even though indirectly, that suddenly gives me the impression of "how it was" before everything goes spiralling downward. In the current time frame, it is indeed quite sad. But there is something, IDK, in the way YH glances towards DH when she was impressed of his correct answer that is too fast to be staged, and there is this very tiny adoration and fondness that was shown, and how DH actually gives respond other than his guarded and generic question to her, that gives off the vibe how he can actually loosen up around her, and enjoy her companion.

Or maybe I read too much into the scene, lol. However we see it, I love the subtlety and the nuance that simple scene has, almost as much as I love the confrontation between JA and DH.

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I love how the scenes can be seen in so many different ways.
I guess I saw it as falling back into an old habit instead of just sitting in complete silence.

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@moonbean,

Oh, I definitely saw the chat in the car to be analogous to the little green plant that sprouts out of concrete.

With a marriage that is going through a lot of pain, betrayal and disconnection, one contributing factor being miscommunication (or no communication), to interact in a very small and safe way could be (it doesn't have to be, but it COULD BE) the start of slowly opening up to one another again.

It shouldn't be a surprise that in the midst of marital difficulties that communication is problematic. I mean, what should we expect? If they were able to communicate easily and productively, would they even BE in this situation?

And even more interesting questions: what made them fall in love? What made them fall out of love?

In my own life I have difficulties communicating with my mother. I love her, but she can be extremely destructive when operating within her myriad of mental and emotional disorders. Do you know what has helped our relationship heal? KOREAN DRAMA! Haha! It's actually enjoying and participating in something fun but neutral (like drama, like a radio game show) that allows for gentle, gradual but permanent healing. :)

I wouldn't be so quick to lament that their marriage is over. Dong Hoon is a terribly tenacious, loving family man, and I think Yoon Hee might finally be seeing the horror of her selfishness and destructiveness.

Will it be an easy road to forgiveness and reconciliation? Heck, no. There can be no illusion that it would take a lot of sacrifice and hard effort on both DH and YH to repair their marriage. It will not remotely be easy. But, since when has anything worthwhile been "easy"? And I think love, family and marriage are definitely worth fighting for.....oh wait, and they just happen to be the things Dong Hoon naturally fights for.

Hmmmm...... ;)

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Everybody in life has hard limits as well as values they hold higher than all else. Cheating is one of my hard limits. And trust and loyalty are the values I hold higher than all else.

Thus the image of my partner with someone else once entered my mind is not something I can unsee (think of Dong Hoon's thoughts of them hugging, kissing, having sex).

This doesn't mean the cheater is irredeemable. I think anyone can be redeemed if they are truly repentant and atone for the things the have done. However, somethings are never as strong or as beautiful once they are patched up after being broken. Yoon Hee can become a loyal, faithful wife to someone else in the future if she learns from her mistakes.

With this viewpoint, rather than lamenting their marriage, the only ending I can consider happy for Dong Hoon is away from Yoon Hee. I think they will both be happier with other people who have not been a party to their biggest mistake or humiliation.

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@moonbean, of course, I completely agree that everyone has hard limits, which they cannot budge on. To ask someone to violate their own code of conduct, integrity or morality would be untenable.

But, your hard limits may or may not be Dong Hoon’s - and the Show hasn’t revealed to us yet what he is capable of forgiving and what he has not. That is all I’m saying. Rather than apply what we would do onto Dong Hoon, it’s much more productive to see how the writer and PD decide to articulate who DH is and WILL BE in his journey through affliction towards healing.

Many take either his own imaginings of YH with JY or the discussion of his restaurant friend’s divorce to be a “sign” that DH’s own marriage is doomed to failure. I just think that’s jumping to conclusions. Both of those scenes show how very painful and difficult infidelity is to the one betrayed. They are gritty in their realism. You said yourself you wouldn’t be able to help but imagine your partner with that other person. So, yes, the Show is realistic to the cost of adultery. But, it has yet to say adultery kills off a marriage.

My Ajusshi is a slightly different show than other kdramas in that some kdramas have a cheating spouse as part of the main lead’s “problem/hurt”, but the cheating spouse is nothing more than a point device. Therefore, the main lead (he/she) is meant to end up with the other lead. But, the character My Ajusshi creates for Yoon Hee is not just a plot device. Whereas most viewers track the subtle hints about what is going on in the heads of DH and JA, fewer seem to track the subtle indicators of YH’s real feelings towards DH. They primary focus on her “loud” mistakes rather than the quieter evidence from the previous episodes of her attempts to reach out to DH, times when she still cared for him and even in the midst of her selfishness and destructiveness, tried to protect him.

Of course, I cannot know which direction My Ajusshi will take regarding the marriage, but I suspect it may go the same way as This Week, My Wife Will Have An Affair.

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I'm not in the save-the-marriage team. Yoon Hee hasn't done anything to redeem herself. Even after she broke up with her boyfriend, she treated her husband horribly and it was only after she found out he knew that she felt any regret. Her short conversation with Jian where she said it didn't matter whether he lost his job or not because he could just find another job showed how little she cared about his wants or needs.
The biggest reason I think they won't be able to save the marriage is Donghoon's conversation with the bartender at the end of the episode. His words were ringing in his head "I hated my wife who returned. I hated seeing her try to fix things. I hated it no matter what she did. It was only a question of whether we would divorce 3 years later or 10". Donghoon has been trying so hard to pretend like everything was fine and that he could move past this betrayal, but I think this conversation helped him realize that he wouldn't be able to go on pretending the affair never happened forever. I mean, he turned around and walked right out his apartment building when he saw that his wife was home. His wife had been kind to him lately, but he still couldn't stand even seeing her. I think that even if Donghoon never ends up leaving her on his own initiative, his wife will notice how unhappy he is with her and leave him after many years of trying and failing to make it work.

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I'm having these thoughts as well, cheating on him and not caring about his career advancement which was so important for him. It mattered a lot to dh to know whether his wife knew about the bribe debacle... it must have been so disappointing to dh that she did know and yet did nothing, but continued the affair with the man who schemed the whole thing.

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Waiting to see DH's reaction to everything happens in this drama is so addicting right! Lol. I love JA, but she is somehow more cunning and quite predictable, compared to DH

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All I have is jhope in my head voicing my thoughts "oh my hart"

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He’s walking so quickly that Ji-an is practically running to keep up, and she asks if he’s walking fast because he’s embarrassed. He breaks into a run, Ji-an right behind, and they just barely catch their bus.

Is it weird that I loved that scene? He starts walking quickly and she'd like "why are you walking so quickly, are you embarrassed?" but of course it's just because he's trying to catch the bus. She's so hyper-aware of him but more than that she's vulnerable for the first time and is over-interpreting everything he says and does.

I had a jolly, happy thought during this episode that maybe the "distasteful" things she was doing for the loan shark she killed was more intelligence gathering than prostitution (although that might have involved prostitution too).

And that's where she learned her covert surveillance skills and made contact with her tech-savvy friend.

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I hope so....that it is how she learned her skills. My thoughts went to dark places with the distasteful comment ....and just no. Too heartbreaking.

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I would love to have siblings/friends who are loyal to me like Dong Hoon's brotherhood. The moment when they were all running toward Dong Hoon was one of my favorite scene 😄

And based on the preview, it seems like Ji An will become a part of them too.. Nice ! 😊 Jung Hee can be a good eonnie for Ji An, and they can heal each other.. Protect her at all cost guys !

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I just loved that scene. Even though they didn't know who was the culprit or the full story they still ran around the neighborhood. It shows how much they care for Dong Hoon.

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Agree, Jung Hee can be a good unnie for JA, and DH can take her under his wing to guide her troughout life like a father or big brother. Or guardian angel lol. Together with 30+ neighborhood ajushhis.

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This was a very interesting episode for me. I enjoyed it, but my wariness has set in. I am hoping it continues being great until the end. That being said.

First: Ji-An should get the GEniusssssss tag that all the men usually get in the romantic comedy descriptions. She is super smart and I totally agree with @lollypip on this one. It's awesome.

Second: The funny of this episode goes to Ki Hoon. Ki Hoon running around slightly drunk looking for who beat up his brother was hilarious. Also him wanting to run to Yu-ra's house to get some sugar was equally funny. I enjoyed that.

Third: Satisfaction goes to Yoon-Hee finally realizing that she has been a shitty wife to her husband. Again I still have empathy for her because she has been very lonely in her marriage, and lack of communication is very big in their relationship, but her painful insight was very satisfying. I smiled a little when she was sobbing in the car.

Fourth: As for the confession. I am on the fence about it. I am not sure I believe that she actually feels that way about him, but time will tell.

Fifth and Finally: Everytime they show Kwang-il I become nervous. There is something about his expression everytime he thinks of Ji-An that is puzzling. I still believe like some of the other beanies that he is in fact in love with her, but I am curious to know when this affinity for her began.

Thanks for the recap!!!

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Have been thinking about Kwang-il too, and I think Ji-an and him and whoever was under his dad's thumb was together in doing the so-called "distasteful things" back then. I tend to think it's about scamming and the thing that goes with it, like maybe pick pocketing and blackmailing. Maybe that's why she understands his MO very well. And when Ji-an killed his father, it's a bigger betrayal because it was sorta backstabbing your team mates...

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Re: Kwang-il
I have this weird feeling that he somehow felt 'proud' for being one of the very few people who matters in Ji-an's life. But when Dong-hoon entered the picture, he suddenly saw how Ji-an didn't let him in willingly, and that she actually can let a stranger into her life if she wanted to. And I think that knowledge disturbed him more than anything, which would make him prone to do somethig crazy to both Ji-an and Dong-hoon. I wonder if he also felt that he owned Ji-an (and her whole life) after she killed his father. And with the debt all paid off, I'm afraid to imagine what Kwang-il might do to still be a part of her life.

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Back in episode 1, Ji An herself asked Kwang Il (though I think she already knew the answer) if he's doing all those torturing and stalking because he likes her? So that he could continue having her within his radar.

That is why I said he is so conflicted. He didn't appear to be so physically wounded after the fight but gosh, he was emotionally beaten down because he realized that DH actually cares for JA which gave her a valid reason to like him.

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The crazy glint in his eyes everytime it considers Ji An though. This man may never knows how to like a girl properly, given his father and friends. If indeed he likes her altho he doesnt know or realize it yet, and punching her is his idea of a boy pulling the pigtail of the girl he likes then well....

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I find Kwang-il such a fascinating character/villain.

I also think Ji-an asking him if he likes her in the beginning may have some truth. Imagine having feelings for the same person who killed your father? (who was also his only family left). How he must hate Ji-an for it and himself for feeling that way! So he beats her and keeps reminding her of what she did to his dad, yet he doesn't want to leave her alone. He didn't even want to accept the loan payments cos he wanted to be able to keep going to her. Also telling was his expression when he saw DH and JA. I noticed that he took particular note of how JA looked at DH when they were inspecting the building. And he knew.

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Oh, finally someone mentioned it. Thank you. When he saw the way JA looked at DH when inspecting the pendulum movement really drove the envy to the surface. It was written all over Kwang Il's face - an expression of disbelief that JA really is infatuated by DH.

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I am curious about Kwang il too. There was this scene in one of the episodes that he was lurking outside Ji Ah's house thinking wether to go inside or not, to bother Ji Ah or not. It leaves me wondering what really is Ji Ah to Kwang Il and what kind of character Kwang Il is.

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Ji-an is a genius and its so awesome to watch @leetennant. I loved how DH carried granny,bought her snacks, listened to her..he's the "All in" type of guy. Does what needs to be done without asking and is invested. Which makes me think he was this way with his wife and child too. Knowing she cheated on him, DH still tried to comfort her, make her food etc. There has to be more than just lack of communication that lead to their situation. The time he tells Ji-an that she can choose to ignore the past explains his reaction to the affair and lays groundwork for healing the marriage. BUT that would take an effort from his wife and not sure if she is capable. I'm in the cheat and never recover camp. Def #dealbreaker.

I loved so much about this episode up until DH was prompted to hit Ji-an. So not right. I hated seeing it. @lollypip is correct, thats going to haunt him. I know she was trying to save him, but yikes ugh no! Not like this.

Was part of DH's forceful reaction because he has caring feelings for Ji-an that are now making him feel like he is in the wrong? It was a scared overreaction , yes? Caring doesn't necessarily mean loving, but DH' s reaction makes me think he doesn't fully grasp what he feels yet, and that her feelings scare him more than anything.

I can't imagine what toll that took for Ji-an. She's saving him and sacrificing herself. Again. She takes the abuse for her mother to pay back debts, for grandmother to not get abused, for DH to not lose out to JY. I hope this is the last of it. Otherwise, I don't want the ending I think is coming.

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I hate that he actually hit her.
That needs to be revisited.

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There was so much going on in that scene at the end. It'd take a novel to tease it all out.

But thinking about it entirely from DH's POV: if I'd gone through what he went through in this episode for her, to have her seemingly twist it into something sexual would have upset me a great deal.

As everyone says, he is a kind man. He didn't do these things to seduce her and now she's made him feel like he's one of those gross middle-aged men taking advantage of a young, vulnerable, female employee. He is not that guy and he would be upset and offended about people thinking he's that guy.

So she is taking everything they've been through together and turning it into something exploitative.

But here's the thing - Ji-an knows that's how he will respond to her confession and she gives him an outlet for that disgust - hitting her. So she presses all the buttons she needs to press, deliberately, to get him to hit her.

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Thanks for giving DH's perspective, very true. He may feel shock, betrayal, fear and bitterness. Compounding to just do what Ji-an is telling him he should do in that moment. You're right, she gave him the outlet to take out his frustration, and footage for the investigator. It still felt so wrong. (I can't seem to separate my feelings from what I want the character DH to be and what Ji-an needs for that moment). She pushed buttons, but the physical abuse he partook in..... this made their relationship sleazy. He just did what every abuser has done to her.

It's a tricky scene that I would love to get the writer and directors thoughts on. Why go there? It could have been an almost hit, but they haven't backed away from the dirty, rough parts before so I get why they didn't this time.. just gut check I didn't know what to think when it happend. Need to see it a few more times maybe.

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You're right, the physical violence is disturbing. And this is physical violence from a much larger man to a woman. And this is physical violence from a father figure as well. And it mirrors a lot of the violence she's been through. I found that scene confronting and I would also like to get some more insight into it.

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That ending completely surprised me.

Yeah, I want it to haunt him even though Ji An seemed to want him to really hit her for her purposes.....it still had to hurt and more than just physically.

All those guys running to help was so touching.....and funny because they were out of breath

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When Dong-hoon ad Ji An drop off Grandma at the home it's almost complete silence until the music starts playing in the background, it felt like you were also in the room with them. It was a bittersweet moment.

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The first half of this eps gave me all the warm and fuzzies and actually drove me into a false sense of calmness. The neighborhood ajusshis plus Jung-hee banding together after they heard Dong-hoon getting beaten, Ji-an giving him that slipper, moving grandma to assisted living facility and her quiet thanks to Dong-hoon afterwards, and even Dong-hoon's team members trying to be nice to Ji-an so that his closeness to her didn't implicate him any further. But through all that, Ji-an continued to be ruthless and cunning, even to herself.

That ending! I have to, once again, applaud the writer for actually going there and addressed the ambiguity of Ji-an and ajusshi's relationship. I know the way she provoked Dong-hoon to hit her upside the head is for the detective's benefit, but I believe she truly wanted to end her confusing and inappropriate feelings for him. She knew they need to properly talk about it, and not pretend that nothing more is growing between them. It's clear from the glint of determination in her eyes that she didn't want to jeopardize Dong-hoon's life anymore by making herself the ammunition his enemies needed, even if she knew well that it means it would be hard for both of them to go back to how things were before.

But what made this scene even more powerful is how shaken Dong-hoon was. He is a guy whose mantra is "If no one knows, then it's no big deal." He always prefer to leave uncomfortable things undisturbed and pretend that nothing happened. (Even his first reaction to Ji-an's words is to order her to go home and pretended that he heard nothing.) But Ji-an's confession and that raw emotion laid bare in her expression forced him to confront his own feelings. To ask himself what kind of relationship that he has actually built with her. And this, I believe, is Dong-hoon finally facing his first true temptation and standing at his own crossroad. He needs to choose wisely how to proceed onward because somehow, it felt like every relationship he has were hanging in the balance.

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But what made this scene even more powerful is how shaken Dong-hoon was. He is a guy whose mantra is "If no one knows, then it's no big deal." He always prefer to leave uncomfortable things undisturbed and pretend that nothing happened. (Even his first reaction to Ji-an's words is to order her to go home and pretended that he heard nothing.) But Ji-an's confession and that raw emotion laid bare in her expression forced him to confront his own feelings. To ask himself what kind of relationship that he has actually built with her. And this, I believe, is Dong-hoon finally facing his first true temptation and standing at his own crossroad.

THIS. SO THIS. You perfectly expressed what I felt in my heart but couldn’t put into words.

You’re so right, this really was Dong Hoon’s first temptation....although, I don’t even know if he was aware of such a temptation himself. I wonder if Ji An confronting him in such a way was not only to save him from Joon Young’s schemes but also to save him from himself.

Dong Hoon’s MO really is a bit of a ostrich sticking its head into the sand.

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Loved how you put into words the show's treatment to these two ambiguous relationship!
The way he turned back once again before he truly walked away squeezed my heart. He must be feeling quite torn up inside between wanting to apologize and feeling angry, especially after telling her earlier about "living our live without getting hit" T_T

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Yep, to think that he himself is the one who broke that promise (though Ji-an is basically manipulating him yo do exactly that) must be agonizing for him. Not to mention how readily he cursed her the moment she finished her confession. I bet he is just as shocked by his own harsh reaction.

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Beautifully put. Indeed, its DH's expression and reaction that bring the ambiguous part the most. Like its the first time he was forced to deal with emotional prob in the first blow. Its really, really interesting to see how he would react. And I think this is one of best part of this drama. Uncertainty and unpredictability of how the main chars would react in the next ep to face their situation. Its like watching a real life of someone when nobody is certain of what'll happen the next day.

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That confrontation scene between Ji-an and Dong-hoon was so intense I was clutching my heart all the way through while it was playing out. Because even though we think we know Dong-hoon, Ji-an's confession came so far out of the left field that I can't predict how he'll react. And since it's so unexpected for him (to see Ji-an being so explosive) as well, I don't think he knows how to react either. And that's why it's so good. You could see his brain turning and trying to process this while simultaneously torn between ignoring it and confronting his own feelings.

The outcome really could've gone multiple ways, and thanks to the actors' strong chemistry, I had a weird flashback to the similarly intense confrontation scene between Seo Hyun-jin and Eric in Another Oh Hae-young (you know... the one before the big kiss) which coincidentally is penned by the same writer as My Ajusshi.

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Just wanted to make sure. Isn't Ji-an usually talked to Dong-hoon in jondaemal? But as far as I can tell, she spoke in banmal in the last scene, which I think made it even more confrontational than it already was.

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I thought too that it could have been a kiss scene! 🙈🙊

You're right, the scene was so intense and the chemistry so amazing it could have gone either way. I was thinking whether this would be it, the turning point and I was holding my breath while watching

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Ji-an is a chess player. She spotted the guy tailing Dong-hoon, thought eight moves ahead, then made her bold move without hesitation. The writers continue to keep us guessing, though. whether the 'bold move' was to protect DH or to sink him. Because, you know, 10 million won that's already been spent.

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There were so many things to love about this episode! I can’t help myself but list them all:

[1] The tenacity of Dong Hoon: even bloodied and beaten up, he remains FIXED on his goal: he wanted to know how much Ji An still owed Kwang-Il. #rawr

[2] HAHAHAHAHAHA…..okay, I know I probably shouldn’t laugh, but seriously….each time Ji An throws herself at Dong Hoon, he looks so 💥💥shell-shocked💥💥. The scene isn’t played for laughs, but our poor Dong Hoon, who would never contemplate cheating on his wife much less take advantage of a destitute young woman, just looks so traumatized when most middle-aged men would probably find it flattering to be object of desire of a pretty young lady. I wish he had not hit her, but she was forcing his hand as part of her plan to protect him.

[3] When Ji An was obviously waiting for Dong Hoon to give him her gift, the editing was just SO PERFECT to show the long and patient waiting she did to the point where my own heart fluttered with excitement when DH finally walked by. That was such a relatable situation that many of us have gone through, but shot in a still, quiet and understated way. Such good storytelling!

[4] Dong Hoon buying snacks for grandma at the assisted living facility, like a “filial” son would for his own mother. #lovable

[5] I had to take a shot 🍻🍺🍻🍺 when Dong Hoon told Ji An to live up to her name since she was given a great name. #flutters.

[6] I don’t know what to make of Dong Hoon when he seemed reluctant to discuss the meaning of his name with Ji An. It seems like such a harmless topic of conversation, one he used himself to start small talk with her. I found that a bit odd. And while it could be argued he was walking fast in order to catch the bus, I also slightly suspected he was running away from Ji An. I could also be reading into things I shouldn’t.

[7] You know, for a guy who doesn’t want to discuss the meaning of his name, and runs for the bus (leaving Ji An behind with no explanation), he’s certainly touchy when she walks past him and “ignores” him….that is, until her confession. Then, he’s paralyzed in horror. cf. #2

[8] Did Yu-Ra make a booty call or was that just Ki-Hoon’s wild imaginings again?! ROTFL 😂😂😂

[9] The LIGHT was so perfect for the scene where Dong Hoon and Ji An are walking to the bus stop - soft, warm, hopeful, even romantic….maybe even a little melancholy and nostalgic…hard for me to describe, but I could watch that scene over and over again just for its beauty.

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"While it could be argued he was walking fast in order to catch the bus, I also slightly suspected he was running away from Ji An."
Me too!!! I had the same feeling. Also when he pays attention to the way she is at work, when he asked her if she would do part-time job in the evening, and ask her to take it easy... such a concern seems of a romantic nature. Sometimes it seems he is falling for her too, and I don't squee, but I don't ignore it. Not liking it, not disliking it. I understand the doubts could happen, and I think it could be needed. In every relationship man and woman, there are some moments where you ask yourself if there could be more, or you test yourself, or you test the other person before moving on into a better definition of it. I do believe a man and a woman can be friends regardless of age, position or background, but while becoming friends there could be from one part or the other the moments of doubts. So it is natural that they would feel confused at times, and I believe the show is being amazing by giving us the ambiguity.
Even if the like each other for moments, it doesn't mean they are (or they should make themselves) destined to be with each other.
Being friends is the best, although many other people would misunderstand.

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Is he running away from Ji An or is he running away from his true feeling that is fast catching up on him?

At times, I find DH to be really funny (and cute) without even trying. He was funny when he was ran away because Grandma pointed to him about what he meant to Ji An which his conscious mind didn't even realized. And I could not helped but laughed when he got so worked up when Ji An walked passed and ignored him till he had to call her out. His subconscious mind already knew that Ji An is someone who always lingers in his mind but his rightful self refused to believe it.

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One cute scene this episode that didn't get recapped was during the dinner with Mum, where Sang-hoon started opening his soju bottle and claiming that he needs his "medicine". Despite the fact that Mum was shooting lasers at the three of them for drinking again so soon after the supposed heading incident, they just calmly took their glasses, clinked them and it was business as usual. There was a beat where the camera panned to Dong-hoon and he sheepishly stole a glance in Mum's direction before downing his shot, as if saying "Sorry Mum, but I can't help it". That was really cute. LOL, these three boys, I can imagine that Mum must've had such a hard time raising them.

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Halmonie writes, “I feel at ease now that someone as kind as you is by my Ji-an’s side.” T T

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Is he running away from Ji An or is he running away from his true feeling that is fast catching up on him?

Touché! I think you hit the nail on the head. Dong Hoon is just so used to stuffing his feelings or ignoring uncomfortable truths, I could see him manifesting physically what he was attempting to do emotionally.

While I don't think Dong Hoon has romantic feelings for Ji An, I think he has confusing feelings based upon that feeling of affinity, mutuality and "soul-deep" knowledge he and Ji An seem to have instinctively.

I wouldn't be surprised if he has neglected his own emotional needs, Then, suddenly(!), to have the pain of his own emotional isolation assuaged by a kindred spirit, it would be hard not to have ambiguous feelings. The tricky thing about friendship is that it can easily bleed into romantic relationship.

So, yeah, while Dong Hoon only seeks out a friendship, it conflicts with the emotional fulfillment that he gains with his connectedness with Ji An, which would normally fall quite easily into romantic feelings were it not for his marriage, and more importantly, his commitment to his marriage based upon his own understanding of family and moral fortitude.

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[6] I thought I was the only one who notice how he tried to bail out from answering Ji-an's question about his name. This is pure speculation, but maybe at that time he realized how often he referred to Ji-an's name, which means 'comfortable', whenever he gave her some advice. How he told her to live up to her name. He knew how sharp Ji-an could be with her words, and I think he just didn't want to hear her commenting on the irony of his name. Dong-hoon who always prefer his comfort zone and refused to compete even if it means gaining a more powerful position actually has a name that means 'power'.

[8] Pretty sure Ki-hoon was letting his imagination run wild. Haha... From her tone, I think Yu-ra just wanted to share her day and how she felt hopeful for the first time. But poor guy has fallen too deep.

[9] Ditto. That was the most beautifully (romantically?) shot scene in this eps. So warm, bright, and calming.

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Pretty sure Ki-hoon was letting his imagination run wild.

Yes, as he is prone to do.

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6) Yes, time for DH to live up to his own name. He must have felt Ji-an would give him some honest reply he wasn't willing to hear yet. As DH said before, he feels she knows a lot, but has counseled her to not say anything.

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Dong-hoon and his Hammer of Power !

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Yes, the light and the filming of the walk to the bus was very beautiful

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Regarding [2], remember last episode when Dong-hoon became unexpectedly shy around the pretty wannabe actress at the bar? He's quiet and non-confrontational because he's a *classic introvert*. That's why his wife is frustrated because she can't get a straightforward conversation out of him. Extroverts and introverts find each other maddening. And introverts find other introverts (Ji-an) insufferable.

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Episode 10 felt like episode 14 to me where all the storylines reached a crescendo before the grand finale. This is the first episode I had a second look. From about 35 minute mark it was one conflict after another.

1. The debt is paid, grannie is off to her new home, things are looking up for Ji An but will Kwang Il stay put? Hardly likely. Kwang Il is obsessed and unhinged, who knows what he may do?

2. Yoon Hee swore to destroy Joon Young as it finally sunk in that all he cares about is himself, pushing Joon Young in a corner.

3. As if that wasn’t enough Dong Hoon decided to give his all and fight to become a director increasing the pressure on Joon Young.

4. Joon Young heard this and upped the ante by giving Ji An two days to deliver on what he paid for. So the point of decision has come for Ji An.

5. Not relying on Ji An alone, Joon Yong is getting Ji An and Dong Hoon followed and discovers how much Ji An isn’t telling him about their relationship. But Ji An is one smart cookie and cool as a cucumber – unlike Dong Hoon who gets flustered when asked about Ji An in the meeting with the other directors. When Joon Young showed her the pictures of Dong Hoon carrying grannie (which was something that had greatly affected her at the time) she had an explanation ready in her flat, monotone, bored voice. But Joon Young is still uneasy about her and rightly so. I wondered how much she was guided by Dong Hoon’s advice regarding the murder in her reaction to Joon Young: “if you make it a big deal everyone will think so, if you treat as nothing that’s what it will be”. So she was all, “so what?” This was one of my favorite scenes. I generally love when Ji An or Dong Hoon put Joon Young in his place, slimy, worthless human being that he is.

6. Not that we ever doubted but we saw where Ji An’s loyalties lie when it was revealed that she set Joon Young up. Poetic justice that while trying to trap Dong Hoon in a scandal with Ji An he himself was caught on camera with both Joon Hee and Ji An. Ha ha.

7. Dong Hoon finally stopped and started to think about his wife’s betrayal and is reconsidering his marriage. All the thoughts swirling in his mind regarding how a wife that comes back is the worst etc. were given voice by his neighborhood friend going through a divorce for the same exact reason. How many times had he asked Yoon Hee to come home early or go to dinner with him and she refused, how many times had he came home and she wasn’t there? By the time was forced to come back (since I don’t think she would have returned on her own if Joon Young didn’t break up with her) he couldn’t face her.

8. Ji An realized Dong Hoon is being followed, but after the photos Joon Young showed her this shouldn’t have come as a surprise.

9. And finally Ji An’s confession that made the effect of a punch in the gut for Dong Hoon. And as opposed to the last time with the set-up kiss when he was cool and collected he was shaken to the core. Whether he...

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You are so sharp to compare the set-up kiss between the intentional-yet-sincere confession of Ji An. Both circumstances get Dong Hoon stunned in different ways. The kiss was physically predominant yet he wasn't knocked out, but this time the confession completely hit right on his heart. I believe he has to face the fear of his feeling towards her apparently growing and changing

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Ooops. I didn't realize my last point was cut short...

Whether he was tempted or not we will see in the upcoming episodes but he is vulnerable right now due to the current state of his marriage.

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Ji An clearly did it for the private investigator who was following. She therefore knew what his reaction would be. She used her feelings to draw this reaction, which also shows they are not her deepest feelings. She is only thinking of him. She knows how he would react and trusted in his goodness. She knew like her own feelings, any temptation on his part would not be decisive because his goodness is deeper than feelings. She loves him because of this and she's becoming like him to other people than just her grandmother.

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I was wondering why, though, she walked away so very quickly. Is it just her habit? Or, was she getting away as fast as she could so that DH couldn't call out to her or run after her and say something damaging in front of the investigator? He looked back 3 times at her while she sped away, and looked like he wanted to say something - maybe just "sorry I hit you." Either way, it didn't seem that cut and dried of a reaction from DH.

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This episode was so good! Starting from that fight, the crew having DHs back, the goodbye with the grandma, until the final scene where DH knocked her down, my emotions were all over the place. Ji-an is a tough and smart woman that I'm sure she has a plan. She must have a plan, right?!

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Can anyone tell me why this show is so good.

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Great story - fresh and different, awesome acting and great directing all in one package.

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IKR!? Park Hae Young and Kim Won Suk is on fire!

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The lighting. Its all about the lighting. What time did they shoot these scenes where its always the last afterglow after sunset on the horizon?

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I found grannie’s “chat” with Dong Hoon very touching. That poor woman. It wasn’t just Ji An who suffered all this time. Imagine having a young child dependent on you and you are a burden rather than help to her, yet you still don’t want to close your eyes before seeing she will be cared for. That poor woman deserved some peace in her life as much as Ji An did and I was happy to see where she ended up. It was light and airy, so much better than being locked up in a dark room all by herself from morning to night where she can see neither sun nor moon. She will be well fed and taken care of, have some social interactions, look out the window, occasionally be taken out to the grounds and look forward to Ji An’s visits. I want similarly hopeful futures for all my favorite characters.

Nothing I see is redeeming Yoon Hee in my eyes. When Dong Hoon came home all battered and bruised we saw her exhibiting real emotion for the first time but was it for him or herself? What did she do? Offer to patch him up? Show some sympathy? No. She tried to discover who he fought with and she only cared because she thought it had to do with her, she suspected Joon Young. She was also curious from whom he learned of her affair and started making rounds of first Joon Young then Dong Hoon’s brothers. How selfish is she to visit their business only when she wants to check on the truth of Dong Hoon’s story? It finally sunk in what she did and all her jibes like “It’s difficult for me too” that I wanted to shake her for came back to haunt her. But she still didn’t do anything for Dong Hoon or take a single step to atone for what she did yet.

Joon Young’s face when he and Ji An were listening to Dong Hoon’s meeting was priceless. They don’t say “don’t eavesdrop, you won’t hear anything nice about yourself” for nothing. The fact that Dong Hoon did not even find Joon Young significant enough in his decision to fight must have hurt. Also this is the second time he is humiliated in front of Ji An and this time not secondhand hearing about it from her later. I do enjoy all the comeuppances being delivered to all the selfish and bad people. Does that make me a bad person?

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LOL!! You are not a bad person, but wishing to apply your own justice to the baddie dabies!!!😂😂😂 which is a natural reaction.
I am always wishing that all the corrupted politicians in the world would receive in equal amount all the damage they have caused to other people. But actually, it is not right to think like that. An eye for an eye... It doesn't work like that. I wish they would learn somehow to be good persons instead, so that the whole society can become better. People don't need punishment, they need education. If they ever get a conscience... their remorse will be punishment enough, for a while.
That is the right feeling. It just doesn't happen so easily because we find it hard to imagine a corrupted disgusted politician becoming a good person, we think is impossible... But there should be a way.
And the same can apply to yoon young...

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I am still having this tiny hope that the old man would notice how great Dong Hoon is and gives him the whole company (It wouldn't happen in this type of drama but whatever).

I very much agree on what you said about Yoon Hee. Her crocodile tears do nothing to me, I am still sure that she cries because SHE made mistake, it hurts her pride that between her and her husband she is the bad guy. I just want Dong Hoon to divorce her, this guy diserves so much better, even the girl who knows him for month or two cares about him more than the woman he spent 16 years with

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Yes! Yoon-hee is all about Yoon-hee. She only thinks about herself. That's why she liked the jerkface CEO...
arghl

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They seem like a match made in heaven don't they? Unfortunately people cannot stand others who share their worst habits....

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That's what I think too.

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DH is a great character (Ji An is cooler though) and yes, Ji An knows and respects and likes and wants to save DH more than his decades-old wife, which is a shame because the poor guy does not like change or confrontation of any sort! He's changing though.

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Joon Young's facial expressions are always priceless. How I wish more drama villains are written and acted this way! The standard villain always go overly dramatic but not this one. I see the meanness, insecurity, hypocrisy and desperation in his face and body language. Did anyone notice how he walks? And I love that scene where he met up with Yoon Hee. He was so afraid of onlookers.

It's easy to hate Yoon Hee but I hope the show will show how the marriage broke down. Sometimes it's the little things that gnaw on you and soon it's eating you up.

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Yes, I noticed that too! When he walks, he always takes a glance on DH's desk. or, Ji-an, then suddenly drops her a text - either to meet or to ask an update of DH.

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@moonbean thanks for your insightful comments! I just realised yes, if yh knew dh had a fight and it was not from a soccer injury she could have tended to him first right? If this has been how she treated dh in the marriage from day one (thinking of her own concerns first), I dont blame dh for shutting down in the long run. But of course dh is not blameless too...

I'm all for marriages to last and to grow through hurdles, but at the same time I cannot stand yh

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I love this show, it's so well done and there's nothing I can say negatively about it.

I'm interested in seeing where they'll go with Lee Gwang Il as it seems the writer isn't done with his character yet. Now that Ji an's paid off her debt he can't go about disturbing her life anymore, technically at least (I have a feeling he'll still try). What's he going to do? Will he side with the opposition or choose to just continue what he's been doing all along on his own (which is stalking her I guess lol) or will he leave her alone altogether? Will they ever be able to be in the same room together without looking like they wanna kill each other? lol I doubt it. He always has this really enigmatic expression whenever she's involved that I love. Props to the actor, actually props to the whole cast. Everyone is killing it.

Also, I'd like an origin story for Ki Beom and Ji an's relationship. A couple of eps back he mentioned that some of her debt was his fault and I wanna know exactly what he meant by that.

Before episode 9 I thought the show was going to show Dong Hoon and Yoon Hee repairing their relationship and staying together despite it all in the end but now after these last two eps that doesn't seem the case. Especially with Dong Hoon's talk with the bar owner about his wife. Like a commenter said on one of the discussions on reddit I can't see Dong Hoon as having won in the end if he stays with his wife.

She still seems too focused on what happens to her rather than how what she's done could effects others. I don't mind her interaction with Ji an in her office, because she's coming from the perspective of only seeing her record and not knowing Ji An as a person. But I was shocked how seemingly indifferent she was at the possibility of Joon Young sabotaging her husband and getting him fired even after finding out what type of person he really was. Also considering the fact she wronged DH by having a year-long affair with fishface and kinda plotting to get DH fired in the process too. Like she felt no guilt at all.

She acted like it was just a matter of being outvoted rather than losing one's job unjustly. I want her to see what her actions have done and I want her to think more about how she's damaged her relationship with Dong-Hoon and maybe eventually even their son. Actually, every scene with her tied to the affair I keep on thinking about their son. I hope he'll never find out, it will crush him. Or at least it'd crush me if I were him.

But, of course, her unhappiness in their marriage is definitely not entirely her fault, Dong Hoon obviously had (has?) issues opening up and arguably prioritizing some of his wife's desires over that of his family's but her actions are her own and I feel no real sympathy for her and honestly she can never be fully redeemed in my eyes.

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My theory about the relationship between Ki-beom and Ji-an is that they were both part of a scamming/blackmailing ring run by Kwang-il's father. Because Ji-an keeps using Ki-beom as the surveillance and camera man, I think this was his role when Ji-an was sent as bait to reel men into compromising positions. This would explain the 'terrible' things that caused Grandma to collapse, and also her and Ki-beom's spy tech skills. Maybe Ki-beom made a mistake on a job resulting in Ji-an's added debt in some way, but he obviously feels obligated to do what she asks.

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That sounds really plausible and is probably the case.
I hope we get a flashback scene for the two of them before the series is over.

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I would watch this prequel you just conceptualized if only to get more badass Ji-an and her sidekick Ki-beom on missions.
Call it Before I Met My Ajusshi. (don't hire me to do the title, clearly) 😂

I love Ji-an. I wish I could watch more of her, 16 eps is too short I miss her already 😥

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It's incredibly hard to talk about this show. I admire people who make long comments, because I'm left so speechless after finishing the episodes that I don't even know where to start.

The relationship between Dong Hoon and Ji An is so ambiguous that I have no idea about what to think. I don't think it will be romantic. I dare to say that the text, the screenplay printed isn't meant to be as ambiguous as it is, but the directing makes the show a little bit romantic.

I'm really confused right now. I can't affirm if I would like a official love line or not.

On another note, this show is amazing and I'm sure that I will spend a long time without watching a drama after I finish this, it will be hard to find something as good.

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++++++++10000000 percent agree with what you just said @sailormars!

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funny how you say you have a hard time expressing what you feel from the show, what you wrote took the words straight out of my mouth ^^^

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what you said is exactly i feel after finishing evey episode. i turn to silent and calm while thinking what all happened and i just cant tell in words.
and so is abt loveline.. will it or will it not be there.. that confuses me. i just can't pin point what and why but its there...

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Exactly! the drama is just sooo gooooodd made me so speechless. I've watched this episode twice already!

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Loving, care, respect and understanding each others are the best part to keep a relationnship long and warm. Even if we can't help or being used for them, we can still stay by their side. This is why I root for DongHoon and his brothers from the start.
Thanks for the recap @lollypip. I love every scene in this drama, the story made me contemplated everything that have been happen in my life.
IU really improve so much and may be her experience while she live with her granny in difficult situation help her to develope tge emotion.

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Thanks a lot for all the recaps @lollypip, you have been doing an amazing job holding the fort all by yourself on the recap front these days and I am so glad you picked this drama! I have been following your recaps since you joined Dramabeans as a minion and always like reading your positive take on dramas.

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Thank you for the fast and excellent recap @lollypip. I'm so glad you are recapping this so we can all muse and talk about this again and again.
I've been reading all the comments and so many other beanies have been amazingly eloquent on things I'd been thinking myself so I'll just add my two cents here about what I thought watching this particular episode.
The words "this is love" kept going through my mind at different times- when all the guys went running to protect Dong Hoon, but mostly for me was when Ji An and Dong Hoon took her grandmother to the assisted living place. There was so much tenderness in how DH carried the grandmother and how they got her settled in, and love when she told him how thankful she was to him, but mostly when the grandmother looked Ji An in the face and touched her so tenderly. That just about did me in.
And it reminded me of when my own parents moved into an assisted living place on their own. We got them moved in - and I was looking back all the time like Ji An was when they were leaving. Will they be okay? I couldn't help but think that now Ji An would be alone - what would give her life focus? So now she will focus all that care on DH maybe. In turn, he was offering her the care of all 'his family' - this is love too.
Ji An is so tough and smart, and fearless and fearful and so very wounded and tender with a strong wall that is slowly dissolving ever so forcefully through this healing relationship with DH.

And Dong Hoon - I found myself thinking - I want someone like him - what isn't to like?
He is the embodiment of all that is good in people and we all need someone like him in our lives, either as a family member, a friend, a co-worker, a lover or even a neighbor. That is why everyone around him is so protective of him.
What a lucky man - which makes it harder to see how his marriage is so broken. So I'm hoping that maybe things will work out with his wife in the long run.
Personally, I don't see a romantic relationship with JA - but a mentor becoming a family relationship. She needs that more than she needs a lover.
Ah - there is so much to say about this show. Suffice it to say I wept through most of it watching how these two amazing people are helping each other.
Kudos to the writers, director, actors, lighting folks, music people and just everyone for such an incredible show.
And thanks to all the beanies who share so much insight so I can learn more and enjoy the shows more.
Com-sah-mee-dah!

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I'm one of those who don't hanker after romance in a drama. It is something which some dramas could have done better without.

As I grew to love this show more and more, I became worried that a romance between Ji An and Dong Hoon would spoil everything. At one point, I told myself if the show is going down that road, I am bailing.

It wasn't until this episode that I came to realize I have been too close minded about the whole thing. It's all thanks to the story telling and execution that changed my perspective.

I still don't see Dong Hoon falling in love with Ji An but emotions can't always be categorized neatly into black or white. I think it might be better to illustrate it on a scale, like from zero to 10. Zero will be definitely platonic and 10 is definitely romantic. I'd put Dong Hoon's feelings towards Ji An as 1 or 2. For Ji An, she's probably just crossed the middle. I think anyone placed in a certain place, time and situation would experience this kind of conflicting emotions towards another person regardless of whether you are already in a current relationship.

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Lollypip, i love all your comments. They were exactly what I thought while watching this episode..I am... still so surprised how smart Ji an is!🤓 I bet she will be able to manage yoon joung just fine.
But I wouldn't be so sure about her confession. I don't think she likes him in a romantic way, even though is her, it doesn't look like that.
She did that whole theatre in order to give yoon young reasons to stop using her. But she will find the way to keep being friends with DH.
And this is, for the fact, one of the most beautiful friendships I have ever seen in dramaland. Also, one friendship that is really really needed, just like Jia with Min kyu in IANR. People who are so lonely, they just need at least somebody. And although we could not say DH is lonely, in this episode we found out how his friends are true friends to him, Ji an's friendship means something different for him, because he is conscious of the good he is doing to her. And far beyond of feeling like a daddy long legs to her, he feels her need, and feel satisfaction in showing what is anyway a natural response of compassion. I don't think he would tell to himself: "I am such a good person". With him and Ji an is more visceral, if that makes sense. He can't stop showing compassion (not pity), because it has become a need for him to act like that as well.
And Ji an, we already know. She has been so alone, so haunted, so cursed, that she inspires us compassion as well. For her DH's friendship is like water in a desert. But I think she will find the way to keep it platonic, even if she really falls in love with him. Because in all the bad things she has done, I feel she has in this regard the same value he has: to be honorable and save the marriage, and even more so now that YH repented.

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@javinne, I couldn’t agree more with you.

For her DH's friendship is like water in a desert. But I think she will find the way to keep it platonic, even if she really falls in love with him. Because in all the bad things she has done, I feel she has in this regard the same value he has: to be honorable and save the marriage, and even more so now that YH repented.

Dong Hoon really is water in the desert of Ji An’s life. But, I hope (and predict), he will introduce others into her life from his own who will turn into a family/community who cares for her. Then, she’ll have a desert transformed into a garden through new friends who become “family.” I think that is the direction the show will take to heal Ji An.

I also agree that Ji An, despite her feelings, wants her relationship with Dong Hoon to remain platonic because she shares his values to keep the marriage in tact.

I’m not entirely convinced Yoon Hee has repented yet, but I think she’s on her way there..... and that’s encouraging!

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I honestly don't like YH that much, even without the adultery. Personally, I find her kind of boring and lifeless, but that must be, like some other beanies have mentioned, a result of the routine and lack of care in the marriage for over the years. Both of them DH and YH have been stuck in life, and the marriage suffered, because in a marriage you always need to be watering that relationship like a plant or a flower. If both parties don't do that, love dies a little everyday.
But also apart from that, the show is not giving us enough to get to know her, so that we can like her as a person.
She must have had good things for him to fall for her, even though it was long ago. I really hope she redeems herself and improve as a person, so that they can try again and save the marriage.
If by chance he would divorce her. I would also be ok with it. The guy could still find someone better

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I left Ji An and Dong Hoon to the last because I needed to think and collect my thoughts first. Even after reading the recap I don’t know what to think and that’s only one of the things that makes this drama great.

Starting with the pivotal scene at the end of the episode, clearly Ji An was putting on a show. She knew they were being watched and acted accordingly. What we don’t know is what she is trying to achieve and how much of it was an act. I agree that the sentiments she expressed were real, the more she is getting to know Dong Hoon the more she is drawn to him. But despite his rocky marriage I don’t think she is expecting anything for herself. I haven’t seen any action on her part motivated to separate him and his wife. Everything she revealed to his wife so far was for his benefit, not to separate them. She wanted Yoon Hee to come to her senses and stop ruining Dong Hoon’s personal and professional life.

What I don’t get is what she hoped to achieve with that scene. I am not sure how that scene would not hurt Dong Hoon’s image. Imagine a photographer getting pictures of them fighting. How can that not damage Dong Hoon’s reputation? She is not only a woman half his age, she is his subordinate at work. How is he to explain that fight? Somehow I don’t see “She came on to me and I rejected her” as an effective defense, nor is Dong Hoon the guy to say it. Yes, Ji An is constantly a step ahead of everyone else, as a viewer who’s watching the whole story I still have no clue as to what her plan is.

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My sense is that Ji An would be the one who would tell others that she came on to him and he rejected her. But with the slap on the head, well I don't know- that is NOT a good thing at any time.
But I do feel that she was doing it for the benefit of the man with the camera. She may be one step ahead of everyone else, but at some point, she's going to lose that advantage and then he will be the one to help her. I hope.
All the comments here are so well thought out. I like the phrase of him being "water for her in the desert". It is truly an apt description.

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I don't doubt of Ji An's intentions. But I do think her inexperience in relationships trips her up sometimes. As in the case of the aborted plan with the staged-up kiss photo. All she thought of was a photo of a guy liplocked with a girl, she didn't even think people could tell who kissed who. So I am thinking if I saw photos like that how I would interpret them and am worried she may unintentionally hurt him.

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That's right @moonbean - I forget with all she's gone through, she still is only 21 and has little if no relationship experience. hmmm that makes more sense with what she is doing no matter how smart she is.

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Despite my tears, I noticed the contrast between DH and JA after her "harrassment". He himself seemed devastated by what he'd done, but she kept a laser-like focus in her eyes as she walked away. Determined to sacrifice for ajussi. If anyone can get her plan to work, it's Ji An. *sob*

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Thank you Lollypip!
I am speechless and reeling after watching this episode. How can this be so amazing, so real, soon touching and move me so much?

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I love all the foreshadowing in this series even if sometimes it’s too obvious. There is not a trivial thing or a snippet of conversation that doesn’t serve a purpose. Earlier episodes explored some themes such as temptation and strong will or what it takes to be a good person. Before these reached to their climax in the episode a lot of groundwork was laid in earlier conversations that illuminated those scenes where they were featured, for example Ji An tempting Dong Hoon with that staged kiss and testing his will, which he wasn’t sure he had before it was tested.

So it was clear that the casual conversation between Dong Hoon and his subordinate about Deputy Kim’s one sided crush on a woman with a boyfriend had a purpose. It was placed there to make Ji An think about her one-sided feelings towards a married man but I didn’t expect it to affect how she acted nor to lead to such a confession. It was very well done.

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Usually by the 10th episode I have a pretty good idea where a show might end up. But with this show I have no idea how things are going to turn out. There are things I hope to happen, like a younger brother gets to make the movie he wants to make, an older brother finally succeeds and a middle brother gets left in charge of a company. A smart savvy young woman, comes out of her shell and finds some success in life. A jerk of a CEO gets fired. A bartender finds her monk. I'm still up the air about the wife. LoL. Still I have no idea where this show is going or how things are going to turn out. But I am enjoying the ride and loving how each episode, slowly hooks me into the story even deeper. I just hope that like many a Kdrama I am not let down in the end.

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Yes, the characters are very well drawn and the screenplay has been written very cleverly.

I'm thinking when everything gets resolved, Kwang-il will come around and stab DH! I don't know the end but this story can make anyone go crazy!

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Oh Nooo... I don't want that to happen :). Stabbing a character can be so dramatic. Years ago I was in a documentary movie screening, "Marathon Boy" where the movie maker (Gemma Atwal) followed the life of the marathon boy in India (Budhia Sigh) and his coach (Biranchi Das). On the end of the screening, Atwal told the audience that she hadn't had ideas on how long she would have followed and documented the boy - maybe up to the boy goes to the Olympic. But the movie ended unexpectedly and tragically when the coach was stabbed and died instantly. The movie left me so speechless and sad! Even in this drama would be fictional, it's still so sad. I hope that the writer won't make it that way.

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Ack! No that is some 'What happened in Bali' level upset right there and I don't think my heart could handle it.... Ah but I am already into deep and must know what happens even if it's tragic... Crossing all my appendages for a happy ending

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On one hand a wife who’s supposed to be a pillar but fails him every single time. On the other hand Ji An who’s supposed to sink him but stands by him every single time. Depression, boredom, senseless life are the pits from where he’s been pulled out ever since his encounters with Ji An. There is no going back to this kind of life. Can he go back to his wife? Not unless she “grows” and catches up with him which doesn’t seem likely.
At this point of both their lives, Ji An and DH are there for each other and this creates a strong bond that the heart and mind feel deeply. It’s like finding your way home. We’ll see what they do with this amazing gift. WHatever the outcome ...

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Maybe DH is supposed to restore Ji-An's faith in men and humanity and she is to restore his faith in himself - and that's it - BUT the way episodes 7, 8, 9 have been laid out and the way ep. 10 has ended, there's no going back. They are at a (romantic) crossroad! Whether they ultimately go their separate ways or come together once the dust on office politics has settled, remains to be seen!

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I love DramaBeans, but it seems this site doesn't get much love anymore (except for you, LollyPip). Which is fine, people move on. But perhaps JavaBeans or Girl Friday could just mention that they can't devote much time to it anymore?

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There are some deliberate ambiguity in the relationship between DH and JA to keep some viewers guessing or staking camps. But some can see clearly too that there is more substance than pulpitations in their relationship. If the writers will to keep DH’s sturdy moral rectitude true to the end, which they will I believe, they mustn't scandalous his character by frolicking with “a kid” out of the blue just to inject controversy because that would totally destroy and ruin the sensibility of the drama, at least for some people.

That said, in this day and age, we still find gender struggling with “deal breaker” because, for some self centered reasons, they can’t see the deeper problem(which can be resolve), in symptomatic sexual trysts(should be forgiven) - especially if they still care and value each other after due consideration

Unlikely, I hope, DH would be that shallow.

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I completely agree with everything you said, and LOVE how you expressed it. Those are my thoughts as well.

for some self centered reasons, they can’t see the deeper problem(which can be resolve), in symptomatic sexual trysts(should be forgiven)

Completely agree with this statement. Well said!

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Let's say sexual trysts can be forgiven (I'm not entirely convinced of this, but let's say it can), but how could a person sit and do nothing having the knowledge that the life of the person he/she loves is going to be ruined? YH had full knowledge of what JY was trying to do to DH and chose to do absolutely nothing to stop it. Honestly that disgusts me more than her cheating on him. It's so hard to think she cares for him after all that.

I hope DH would not be as shallow to not realize that.

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I am with you on this one. Whether sexual cheating can be forgiven or not depends on the other spouse. Some people can forgive and forget others can't. I am on the can't forgive camp and of course while watching a drama I am expecting and wanting the protagonists to act the way I would. So I understand people who can forgive thinking/wanting the protagonists to forgive and stay together.

However, as you say we are not talking of a simple cheating here. It's not a one time temptation the cheater regretted immediately afterwards. She cheated on him with his boss, disregarding his professional future. She would still be with him today if that guy had not broken up with her. She is only regretting her actions now because she just discovered what a sleazebag her lover was. So she wouldn't have regretted if he was a more decent man. None of these are good signs that indicate a happy future for that marriage.

But most importantly, her betrayal of Dong Hoon by acquiescing in her lover's plans of ruining her husband is not forgivable. The only reason those plans did not come to fruition is due to Ji An.

I have also seen posts accusing Dong Hoon of emotional cheating which I have to say is reaching too far to save the marriage. If Dong Hoon had romantic feelings a towards Ji An (or another woman) that he is aware of and was fulfilling his emotional needs through this in a platonic relationship with her that would have been emotional cheating. But not responding to your partner's emotional needs is just that, not cheating, but being a bad partner. Having said that, have we seen Yoon Hee fulfilling Dong Hoon's emotional needs? Just because he did not whinge like she did can we assume that he doesn't have them or that they are fulfilled? The story of their marriage so far has been told very one sided with the audience only hearing of her complaints. But that doesn't mean she was perfect and he has no complaints. It means he is a very private person he doesn't share intimate details of his life easily. I am a person like that so I understand him perfectly on that.

I don't particularly want to see how they fell in love or how their marriage fell apart. Not only is that another story, but also totally irrelevant now. No matter how any of that happened what Yoon Hee did was wrong on all fronts. And so far I saw her regretting only selfishly. So to keep Dong Hoon with her at the end of this story would be shortchanging him and rewarding the cheater and the betrayer with a guy of such integrity.

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I thought Jiahn was such a badass whe she turned the tables on joon young when he showed her the pictures but then u pointed out that how she never texts or calls dong hoon so that they cant incriminate their relationship ... Dayum. If she wasnt in such a pitiful condition , she would have been the one who outmanuevered everyone and become a ceo herself..
Thanks @lollypip for your recap. Love ur insights.

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May I just say I swoon over how our ahjussi stride.... I love the way Lee Sun Kyun walks specially when he put his one hand on his pocket and walks. (ever since Coffee Prince)
I wasn't really a fan of IU in terms of her acting, but man she's so good here.
I am really really curious about the other characters. (1) Jung Hee and her connection with the monk, what will be her role to Ji Ah. (2) Ki Bum, How he become an ally to Ji Ah, remember that even Kwang Il beat him, he didn't told ho Park Dong Hoon is because of his loyalty (?) to Ji Ah. and (3) Kwang Il, is there any other underlying reason why he follows, affected by, torments Ji Ah so much. I want to see some backstory of those characters.
Speaking of Kwang Il, I was literally flabbergasted to learn that the actor was the second lead in Go Back Spouses. I remember swooning over to that guy in GBS, and I didn't recognize him here in My Ahjussi because of the evilness of his character.
The squad/neighbourhood. I love how they protect Dong Hoon (or each other?). They don't even know the reason why Dong Hoon was beaten but they were all like: "We gonna kill that bastard!!!". And Ki Hoon was so worked up because "No one should lay his finger to my hyung."

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Ki Hoon takes one for the team by being the “cause” of Dong Hoon’s bruises. Mom chewed him out !

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@oddtojoy, oh, you're totally not alone in swooning over Lee Sun Kyun. Even as a tired ajusshi, he's darn sexy.

I think his walk is particularly sexy because he doesn't just walk....he swaggers most deliciously.

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I was also taking note of LSK's walk. I love it. I had the distinct thought that he walks like a man should. I love the lovely gentlemen of Kdrama world, but too many of them still walk like their on the fashion runway.

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Dong hoon mentioned the monk's story, about someone in their neighborhood who was destined for greatness but one day shaved his head and declared he wanted to be a monk. I think he left Jung hee.

At the beginning of the drama I actually thought he's a 4th brother.

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Thanks lollypip!

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Up until episode 10, I finally realized that this show should not just simply titled "My Ajusshi". It should be "Handsome Ajusshi Who Buys Me Food"....I feel like Dong Hoon been treating Ji An meals more frequent than the OTP of "Pretty Noona" camp.

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Lol. I like this. Based on the frequency of the two dining together and how smoking hawt Lee Sun Kyun is, they should have promoted this drama as
HOT AJUSSHI WHO BUYS ME FOOD. That would give Pretty Noona a run for their money.

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Yoon Hee has redeeming qualities. She made a grave mistake and seems to be turning around. Besides, if Ji An is pretty, Yoon Hee is a beauty.

I like the part when she was in the car with her husband connecting really well intellectually. She needed a pillar not knowing the man who kept to himself is a rock.

Now she knows and a new beginning for her too.

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It has taken her 15 years to realize DH is a pillar (source of strength)?

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He showed kindness , love and respect towards his wife despite being wronged and betrayed by her and that strength is almost divine. I said almost because there is no clear revelation to his magnanimity and I hope he is still in love with her.

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Can you expand on what her redeeming qualities are besides being a beauty which is subjective and irrelevant?

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Her contriteness. The more agonising the sob, the greater the contriteness. This shows she acknowledged her wrongs and was astounded by her husband’s kindness and love. She also attempted to amend her ways by reconnecting with those he care about or are close to. She is also reconnecting with her husband. If she had no feelings for him and had not the wisdom to value her husband many strengths now, she would have saved her tears and walked out on him(divorce him)

There is still fire in her for her husband, partly ignited by her husband’s love, I think, which could be in the script.

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@Joo, I would agree that the marriage is salvageable. I also felt that a lot of people ignored her actions in episode 10 where she's attempting to make amends for her actions by reconnecting with Dong Hoon's family.

It's interesting that Sang Hoon was the one to list off all the ways she has helped Dong Hoon's side of the family: giving money, being a waitress for their restaurant, etc. Yet again, I don't think any commentator has mentioned those things in defense of Yoon Hee.

I am perhaps a little less convinced that her agonizing sobs were entirely contrition. I suspect some of it might be tears of self-pity and humiliation. But, contrition or repentance could be part of it, for sure. I guess we'll see!

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“I am perhaps a little less convinced that her agonizing sobs were entirely contrition. I suspect some of it might be tears of self-pity and humiliation. But, contrition or repentance could be part of it, for sure. “

Fair enough.

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Nah man, i believe once your partner , there js no coming back from that and plus she conspired to make him quit when she was cheating on him just coz it will be easier for her divorce him. The only reason she starts to feel sorry is because she came to know that how much length her husband went to protect her marriage while all she did was mop around and feel bad for herself for cheating with a dude who didnt love her back. And as it also showed when he was talking with the chef , i think he is thinking of divorcing her .
And if the only reason u can think of is that yoon he is prettier than Iu , then..hmm.. i dont think its enough. I dont ship iu and the ajushi but their friendship is way better and healthy than his relationship with his wife.

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I am aware of the sugggested divorce but to be consistent with Dong Hoon’s character I think he will not contest or resist the divorce in the wife’s interest. In other words, I do not think divorce will be initiated by him or that he wants a divorce because his actions, despite uncovering his wife’s affair, are indicative of his sustaining love towards her.
If he goes for the divorce, he is doing it entirely for her happiness. That said, the wife is seeing him in a new light which could lead to an amicable ending.

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I find the actress who plays Yoo Hee to be so weak it's hard to like her :/

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I think Ji-An will disclose JY at the company to show that she was hired by JY to bring DH down - the effect will be that JY will lose his job in the company;

while YH will disclose her affair with JY at the company to humiliate JY - however, it's effect will be that DH will resign from the company (exactly what the wife wants). In fact JY may just try to spin it in his favor how DH used his wife to get favors or directorship!

and DH will find out the truth about Ji-An's actions and see that each step she took was to save him, while each step that his wife took was to dishonor him (or in complete disregard of him)

finally free, DH will assume a new life, divorce wife, and just when things are looking on the upswing with Ji-An....

Kwang-il will come and stab him. Kdrama style!

or DH becomes director, Ji-An disappears, he divorces his wife, Kwang-il is sent to jail, he goes looking for Ji-An.

However, in this drama, nobody knows how things will get resolved and what shape the end will take - that's life!

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You have such an imagination!!! 😂😂😂

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Whether JA likes DH romantically or DH likes her is not truly revealed in my mind. But somehow DH instinctively knows that JA understands him. She somehow understands him more than anyone while his wife does not care much about him because she is a self centered b. This must have made him very uncomfortable since a mere girl who worked for him for a short period of time is someone who grasp him to his core.
JA loves him because he is the first human being in her entire life whom she can rely on without her obligation to pay back to him( or him taking advantage of her). I do not care whether they will be romantically linked or not later on. All I can say is that they are soulmates!
What can DH's wife do when she discover their relationship?!

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It's great that the writers are taking the story to unconventional territory but what if DH brushes off the 'understanding' by thinking that it was all because she was able to spy / eavesdrop on his conversations?

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I can see DH brushes it off with the excuse but he knows that that is not true in the bottom of his heart. He can cheat his own heart for a while but if/when he find out his true heart then what can he do?
DH seems to to save his marriage because for their son and he does not want her paint as a bad wife for her sake. Maybe that is also a love but we can tell their marriage is a deadend.
i do not mind there is no romance between JA and DH but I want a divorce for him and his wife. Living under this condition for a married couple would no good for all of them( including their kid and their extended family; on the side note, I notice DH's younger brother has a strange attitude for DH's wife) involved.

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Remember DH's older brother refusing categorically to divorce his wife despite being separated, unemployed, in debt. and berated by his wife every day. This is not a family that takes 'divorce' lightly. The vow was 'for better or worse' and they take it seriously

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To be honest, I don't think YH is self-centered, but instead is a wife who has become very lonely and starved for love. At the beginning of the show we saw him all but ignore her at home. What woman wouldn't feel lonely in a relationship for that reason?

That said, it doesn't excuse having an affair, but I certainly understand why she was so bitter about DH as it looks like he's totally shut down for years, and as a result, shut OUT his wife.
Thinking that way, I don't completely hate her but am rather disgusted with her selfishness in regard to her own pain and sense of rejection.

Maybe this is when she will grow up and work towards healing the relationship with her husband now that she sees his actions even when he knows she was cheating on him.
At least that's what I'm hoping for.

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You know, I feel like choosing to like YH and DH together at this point is an easy way out of an argument, like "i ship the actual mature couple" lmao..., try better.

Honestly speaking, idk whether the writer(s) will decide to take JA and DH relationship to that point and I am not against either, I just want them to continue being close, the platonic relationship they have is really nice to observe and I like it. I sure do hope YH and DH don't come back together, because that marriage broke BEFORE JY got into their lives, to me them being together at the end, it's like what we say in spanish 'patadas de ahogado' idk, call me anti marriage or whatever, but once you've cheated, there's not coming back for me, there just isn't.

You know, I would totally be against JA and DH becoming romantically involved if they both were being abusive and destructive of each other, but they're not, so why dislike it.

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The thing about this show is that it is so very good with the ambiguous elements. None of us are really certained about the true feelings of each character. JA's true feeling for DH? Is DH affection is of romantic inclination or not? Does YH really loves her husband and vice versa? And best of all, as viewers, we ourselves experiencing the ambiguity, of not knowing how to truly feel. Whether we want them to abort the platonic relationship and take off with the romance or not? Or to have DH and JA to do what is right to do for the betterment of their respective lives? The only certainties that we have as viewers are that we are sure of the moral standard of each characters and we want happiness and healing for DH and JA.

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This story has he feel of 'the tale of an episode in someone's life'. By that I mean DH and JA cross paths, change each other forever, then separate forever. I cannot see a final scene with a happy JA married and pregnant with DH's baby in a sunny apartment. This isn't 'Oh My Venus' or 'She was Pretty'.

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