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My Ajusshi: Episode 14

Even as one part of his life is on the upswing, another part takes a definite turn for the worse for Dong-hoon. Luckily he’s got a fierce guardian angel on his side, willing to do anything to make sure nobody upsets his good fortune. But the truth is beginning to come to light, and her protectiveness could get them both into a lot more trouble if they aren’t careful.

EPISODE 14 RECAP

After his interview for the director’s position, Dong-hoon learns that nobody could reach Ji-an, who didn’t show up for work today. He sits down at his desk and finds a pair of work slippers she left for him, and he remembers telling her to buy him a new pair after she threw out the first ones she bought him.

Coming to a decision, he gets up and strides purposefully out of the office. As he tries to call her, we see that Ji-an’s left everything behind in her apartment, taking only what she could carry.

Jung-hee sits morosely in her room over the bar, depressed after begging Gyeom-duk to come home and being rejected. She ignores a call from Dong-hoon, who’s likely hoping that Ji-an took her up on her offer to visit. He calls his brothers next, and Sang-hoon answers, but Dong-hoon says it’s nothing and hangs up.

Dong-hoon tries the assisted living facility where Ji-an’s grandmother now lives and learns that Grandma is doing fine, but the nurse says she hasn’t had any visitors lately. Dong-hoon starts to put the slippers back in the bag they came in, but he settles them under his desk instead, readying them to be worn.

He gets a call from Gyeom-duk, who hems and haws before getting to the reason for his call. Dong-hoon calls his mom next to tell her that Jung-hee went to see Gyeom-duk at the temple and left upset, and to ask her to check on Jung-hee at the bar. When Mom gets there, the bar is eerily silent, and she finds Jung-hee lying upstairs in her room.

Jung-hee sighs that just changing clothes seems like a chore, and that whenever things are hard, she gets so upset that she wants to wreck everything. She starts to cry, so Mom tells her to pick any customer and just develop unrequited feelings for him, so that whenever she thinks of Gyeom-duk she won’t get so upset.

She fusses that Jung-hee and Gyeom-duk broke up twenty years ago, and that Jung-hee should have gotten married to someone else long ago. She asks why Jung-hee can’t let go of a man she can’t even date, grumbling that if this were the Joseon era, they’d erected in honor of her, ha. Later, Dong-hoon reports back to Gyeom-duk that Jung-hee is okay.

The women in the office, led by Deputy Jung, gossip about Ji-an and the fact that she killed someone. Dong-hoon is so worried about Ji-an that he even goes to see the janitor, Choon-dae, to ask if he knows where she is, but he doesn’t know, either.

Joon-young meets with the ex-detective and learns that Ki-bum has been identified as the one who drugged Director Yoon and made him miss the important investor meeting, which got him banished to a satellite office. But it looks like Ki-bum took everything and ran off (they don’t know that it was actually Kwang-il who took Ki-bum’s computers).

Joon-young worries that Ki-bum has some critical evidence that could incriminate him, so he tells the ex-detective to catch Ki-bum, no matter what. He also tries to call Ji-an, and he’s furious when she doesn’t answer.

Dong-hoon goes to Ji-an’s apartment to look for her. He finds the door unlocked and the apartment tidy but empty. As he’s leaving, Jae-chul’s friend who lives nearby asks why he’s here, and Dong-hoon fibs that he came to check on some cracks in the building. He heads to the bar and continues to make futile calls, while Jung-hee sighs and wonders why she has to keep living.

She tells Dong-hoon that she’s thinking of closing the bar and getting a regular job like everyone else. She says that she lies in bed every morning listening to people walking in the street outside, and it makes her feel lonely, as if she’s the only one not moving forward.

Jung-hee tells Dong-hoon that sometimes she sits outside just to feel like she’s moving forward with the people. She says that she saw Ji-an this morning, who stood beside her for ten minutes before going on her way.

She tells Dong-hoon that Ji-an said she’s moving to be nearer to her new job, and that she likes the new neighborhood, but that it sounded more like she was saying she likes Dong-hoon. Ji-an, of course, is listening, and she stops when Jung-hee says this, but Dong-hoon says nothing in response.

As he’s walking home, Dong-hoon gets a call from a strange number. When he answers, Ji-an says in a soft voice, “My phone broke. In case you tried to call me.” Dong-hoon asks where she is, and she lies that she has a new job in Gangnam.

He’s angry that she didn’t tell him she was quitting, so she asks, “If I’d told you I was quitting, would you have thrown a goodbye party for a murderer?” She says she knew she wouldn’t be able to work there long anyway, and that it’s not the first time it’s happened to her.

Dong-hoon says in a betrayed voice that he thought Ji-an was a strong person, but she admits that she’s tired of being made fun of. He apologizes, but Ji-an says he shouldn’t be sorry because he’s the first person who was nice to her more than four times: “To someone like me. A person I liked. It doesn’t matter to me anymore whether I’m reborn or not. I’ll be able to be reborn. It’s okay.”

All Dong-hoon can do is release a shaky breath, and Ji-an collects herself and asks whether they’ll greet each other if they meet by chance. Dong-hoon says yes, then asks her to call him when her grandmother passes away. Ji-an hangs up and puts in her earbuds just to listen to Dong-hoon’s breathing.

She goes to meet with Ki-bum, who’s been home and seen that all of his important computer equipment is gone. Assuming that the cops took it all, he warns that they’ll listen to the recordings and figure out everything, including that Ji-an was behind it.

He tells her to throw out her phone and disappear, but Ji-an argues that she has to keep listening to Dong-hoon to monitor the situation. Ki-bum says they can transfer the spy program to a new phone and tells her to call him when she’s got a new number.

Kwang-il and his friend do check out Ki-bum’s computer and figure out that Ji-an has been tapping Dong-hoon’s phone, and recording her conversations with Joon-young. His friend wants to blackmail Joon-young, but Kwang-il looks like he has other ideas.

Only seconds after leaving her an angry message ordering her not to get caught, Joon-young is surprised to find Ji-an on his doorstep. He asks what she’s planning to do, but she just says she’s still thinking. He says that all he did was have an affair, while she set up Dong-hoon then blackmailed Joon-young.

He asks if Ji-an is recording this conversation also, and she retorts she’s not planning on getting caught, either. She states that she’ll run until he’s safely fired because of Dong-hoon, since they won’t try to catch her after that happens. She says that this was all to get him fired, and that they should discuss what she’ll reveal if she does get caught.

Joon-young says again that all he did was get blackmailed, but he doesn’t sound so confident anymore. Ji-an says that she’s going to act like she did everything to get rid of the people he didn’t like. He asks if that’s in case this harms Dong-hoon, marveling, “Wow, you two must really love each other a lot.”

Ji-an doesn’t move a muscle, so Joon-young says that he’s fine being made out as the jerk who played with his sunbae’s wife, if it means that Dong-hoon doesn’t escape unscathed. That gets a glare from Ji-an, so he chuckles that she’ll just have to try her hardest not to get caught.

Ji-an’s eyes scan the room and land on a knife block in the kitchen. She says thoughtfully, “When I’m in a bind, the scars that I want to hide the most end up becoming my greatest weapon — the fact that I have killed someone. I didn’t even speak to people for a long time because I was scared they would find out. But, when I’m in a bind,” and she turns her gaze to Joon-young, “I’m the one who brings it up first.”

She whispers menacingly that a person who’s killed once can do it again, and that she’ll kill every bastard who messes with Dong-hoon. Joon-young starts to look nervous.

Kwang-il sits in the dark, listening to the recording of Ji-an and Dong-hoon where she tells him he’s a good person. He also hears the one where she asks to hug Dong-hoon, and he smiles when Dong-hoon declines.

Gyeom-duk removes all of his possessions from his room in preparation to meditate, and closes the door. He tells a fellow monk that he doesn’t know how long this will take, and the young monk locks him in.

From the office, Dong-hoon texts Gyeom-duk to ask if people born in 1974 are destined to face hardship this year. But it’s the young monk who answers, saying that Gyeom-duk is meditating. Dong-hoon answers, “Do well.”

Chairman Jang makes another visit to the office to confront all of the directors. He asks angrily if they fired Ji-an against his explicit orders not to, yelling that they keep doing things he’s told them not to do during the directorial selection process. He says that nobody wants to work for a company where the directors dig into people’s pasts and sully their names, and he orders them to find Ji-an.

Joon-young says that with the rumors flying around, it would be hard for Ji-an to work here. But Chairman Jang snaps that he needs to apologize to her at the very least, and give her a permanent job. He tells the directors that he can’t sleep because he feels so bad, so Executive Director Wang promises to find her.

Next, Chairman Jang asks why they haven’t decided on the next director, and every man in the room looks around sheepishly. After Chairman Jang leaves, Executive Director Wang says they need to make a decision by the end of the day.

On the way back to his office, Joon-young shoves Director Yoon away from him, snapping that it will look like he told him to do all this. Director Yoon is confused, and later at the voting meeting, he’s further upset when two of the directors who were supposed to be on his side vote for Dong-hoon. The vote comes in at 7-2 in favor of Dong-hoon being promoted to director.

The results are sent to Joon-young, who seethes, but he’s forced to sign off on the promotion. The results are sent out to everyone at the company, and Dong-hoon’s entire team erupts in loud celebration. Dong-hoon is thrilled, but he can’t help but look over at Ji-an’s empty desk.

Sang-hoon and Ki-hoon get to break the good news to their mother, who’s so proud and happy that she bursts into tears. Dong-hoon calls Yoon-hee and invites her to Jung-hee’s later to celebrate, and even Director Park calls to congratulate him.

When he texts his son Ji-seok, the little smart aleck demands a raise in allowance, ha. Dong-hoon even texts Ji-an the good news, and he’s disappointed when there’s no reply. He calls her, but the number is out of service.

There’s a party in Dong-hoon’s honor at Jung-hee’s that night, and everyone is there. Yu-ra tells Mom that she looks like Ki-hoon, only to learn that Mom hates when people say that, hee. Dong-hoon watches proudly as the guys all stand and chant for Yoon-hee when she shows up. But when Mom tearfully thanks Yoon-hee for supporting Dong-hoon, all three brothers look away uncomfortably.

As the party goes into full swing, Jae-chul tells Dong-hoon to invite Ji-an to join them. Jung-hee pipes up that she quit and moved, and the guys good-naturedly tease Dong-hoon for running her off. They mention the night they all walked Ji-an home, and Jung-hee recalls that she obviously liked Dong-hoon a lot.

While on a break at her new job in a shipping warehouse, Ji-an listens to the party through Dong-hoon’s phone. She lays her head on the table, looking despondent.

Before leaving the party, Mom hugs Dong-hoon in front of everyone, fighting tears again. Jae-chul notices Dong-hoon looking in the direction of Ji-an’s apartment and asks why she quit, but Dong-hoon just gives him a wry smile.

Back inside, Sang-hoon’s estranged wife Ae-ryun tells Yoon-hee that when she first met her, she knew that she and Dong-hoon would live different lives than the rest of the neighborhood. She admits that she’s jealous of Yoon-hee, but says that today she’s here to congratulate them.

Dong-hoon returns and Ae-ryun chimes, “Friend!” defending that since Mom is gone and she and Dong-hoon were classmates, she can call him that (instead of “Brother-in-Law”). She says drunkenly that she was more proud to become his sister-in-law than to be Sang-hoon’s wife since he was so popular in school, second only to someone named Sang-won.

As she’s extolling Sang-won’s many virtues, Sang-hoon digs a finger into her ribs to try to shush her, but she ignores him. She points an accusing finger at Jung-hee and calls her the reason that Sang-won is just a memory now. The whole bar goes silent, except for Ae-ryun, who reminds Dong-hoon that he lost his closest friend because of Jung-hee.

Ae-ryun wonders why they can’t even speak of Sang-won, which nearly brings Dong-hoon to tears. Jung-hee asks Dong-hoon if Sang-won is really a taboo subject, almost challenging him to say that it’s her fault. He says it is, and Ae-ryun tells Jung-hee to stop bottling it up, too, so they can all move past it.

Jung-hee declares that as of now, Sang-won’s name is no longer taboo, and she urges them all to say it loudly. She lifts her glass and yells, “Yoon Sang-won was a part of our good memories!” Jae-chul says it next, and soon they’re all screaming a tribute to their lost friend.

Only Dong-hoon can’t say his name, instead getting up and leaving the bar, though he gives Jung-hee a pat on his way out as if to say he’s not angry. Jung-hee calmly calls Ae-ryun a bitch, and Ae-ryun snaps back, “I know, bitch!” before they clink glasses.

Out of nowhere, Yu-ra tells Ki-hoon that she wants to marry him and be a part of this family. He sighs that that’s why Ae-ryun married Sang-hoon and they’re separated now, taking the wind right out of Yu-ra’s sails.

When Yoon-hee heads home, Sang-hoon shoots her a big arm-heart over his head, but Ki-hoon won’t even look at her. Everyone else stays for karaoke, interestingly choosing songs that are totally wrong for them (Ae-ryun and Sang-hoon sing one about how perfect they are for each other, while Jung-hee sings that love never lasts).

The newly-minted “Director Park” is urged to the spotlight, and he obliges with a song about having no regrets for leaving someone behind. Ji-an listens as she goes home to her tiny room and makes her favorite double-strong coffee drink.

Dong-hoon’s new office is filled with congratulatory bouquets on the day he starts his new job. The directors all come to welcome him, and outside the office, his old team members smile proudly. Later, Dong-hoon watches his former team as they work, and his eyes stray again to Ji-an’s old desk. He’s moved his slippers from Ji-an underneath his new desk, and for the first time, he puts them on.

Director Park rushes to the police station when he learns that Ki-bum was caught at an internet cafe. They watch him being questioned, but since Director Park never saw Ki-bum’s face while sober, he can’t remember if this is the right guy.

Ki-bum’s story is that he was at an internet cafe and overheard a designated driver accept the job to drive Director Park, but that the guy was immersed in his game so Ki-bum offered to drive. He claims that Director Park called him Dong-hoon and wanted to go to the ocean for soju and abalone, repeating details from the recorded conversation of Director Park’s rooftop conversation with the real Dong-hoon.

The cop questioning him asks why Ki-bum threw his phone away, and why he called someone named Ji-an while he was running from the police. Director Park calls Director Jung and asks the name of the girl rumored to be linked with Dong-hoon, and when he learns it’s Lee Ji-an, he demands her phone number. The number is a match to the number for the Ji-an in Ki-bum’s phone.

Director Park calls Dong-hoon and orders him to meet him immediately, and to bring his phone but to turn it off before he arrives. Dong-hoon does as he’s told, and he goes to the place Director Park indicates — a wiretapping specialist. Director Park tells him that Ki-bum’s testimony was suspiciously detailed, and that since his own phone is clean, they must have tapped Dong-hoon’s phone.

He gives Dong-hoon the benefit of the doubt, though he warns that if his phone wasn’t wiretapped, he’s in a lot of trouble. Luckily for Dong-hoon, the tech finds the spy program, and Dong-hoon stands shocked as Director Park instructs the tech not to remove the wiretap.

Outside, Director Park tells Dong-hoon that Ji-an is the one who installed the wiretap on his phone, concluding that Ji-an has been on Joon-young’s side all along. He tells Dong-hoon not to let on that he knows, since she’s probably monitoring the situation even now, so they can use this to catch their enemies.

Oddly, the first thing Dong-hoon thinks about is the time he told his friend that Ji-an has a pretty face. He also remembers how she told him “It’s no big deal” just after he wished someone would say it to him, and all of the emotional and embarrassing conversations he’s had with Joon-young and Yoon-hee about their affair. He’s frozen by the realization that Ji-an probably heard it all.

He goes to a movie, but he mostly sits staring at his phone in his hands. He goes to the lobby uses their phone to call Joon-young, then meets him in the parking garage. As soon as Joon-young parks, Dong-hoon grabs him, throws him to the ground, and demands to know every detail of what he’s done with Ji-an.

Joon-young snarls that Ji-an started all of this when she caught him having an affair with Yoon-hee. He reveals that Ji-an offered to keep her mouth shut about it, and to get Dong-hoon and Director Park fired, in exchange for money. He claims to be her victim, blaming Dong-hoon since he’s the one who hired her.

Dong-hoon listens, then asks where Ji-an is now. Joon-young says truthfully that he doesn’t know, but that she swore she’d never be caught because she’d have to tell everything, and she knows that having the affair become public knowledge is Dong-hoon’s worst fear.

He tells Dong-hoon that he’s a director now, and that soon he’ll get Joon-young fired, so he should just sit back and wait quietly. He says again that he’s the biggest victim here, having been blackmailed and then betrayed when Ji-an switched to Dong-hoon’s side.

Dong-hoon watches him with an expression almost like pity, then punches Joon-young in the face. He grabs him and asks, “What?!” but Joon-young sneers that he’s not the only sleazy one. Dong-hoon punches him again, and again, remembering how he told Ji-an once that as long as nobody finds out his secret, it’s no big deal.

He goes back to the movie theater just as Ji-an sits down to listen to his phone. He picks it up from where he left it in his seat, and says into it clearly, “Lee Ji-an. Lee Ji-an. Call me.”

COMMENTS

YES. This makes me so happy! Finally Dong-hoon has decided not to just sit passively and let events happen around him, but to take action and do something about the situation. I’d rather him be angry with Ji-an than mopey and despondent, so even if he blames her for causing his recent troubles, it’s better than him just going on thinking she betrayed him and bottling it all up. But I think that he’s actually asking her to call him so that he can hear her side of the story, because he knows her too well not to know instinctively that she hasn’t truly betrayed him. And I think that this may be the reason Ji-an and Dong-hoon are in each other’s lives — to learn the lesson that they can’t stop shutting everything in and shutting the world out, but that they need to actively engage in their lives, even if it’s painful and difficult.

It’s so hard to know how to feel about Director Park discovering that Ji-an orchestrated everything (though I’m glad that he gave Dong-hoon a chance to prove that he’s innocent of Ji-an’s manipulations). At the time that she and Ki-bum drugged and kidnapped him, Ji-an absolutely intended for Director Park to be disgraced and for Dong-hoon to go down with him. And at the time, Ji-an was not a nice person at all, so if she’d been caught right away I’d have felt as though she got what she deserved. But she’s changed due to Dong-hoon’s influence and belief in her, and now she just wants to help him succeed — even if she’s still contemplating doing the wrong things, she’s thinking of doing them for the “right” reasons. But she still deserves to be punished for drugging and kidnapping a man, although it’s hard to think of that happening to her now. I’m scared that when Ji-an is caught, Dong-hoon will let himself be blamed just to take some of the pressure off of her.

I know that My Ajusshi was never billed as a romance, and I have never felt that Ji-an and Dong-hoon’s relationship was one of normal romantic love. But I believe that they do love each other, very very much — it’s just a kind of love that defies labels. It’s not romantic or familial love, but it’s so much more than friendship. It feels more as though they’re soul mates who just aren’t meant to be together in this life, but that who still recognized each other and were drawn together for a short time. They understand each other in some mystical way, but I love that they never try to define it or clarify it and just accept it for what it is. They’re only meant to be in each other’s lives for a little while, but they’ve tried hard to do what they can for each other while there’s time.

This episode definitely made me feel as though the clock is ticking on Dong-hoon and Ji-an’s time together, and that somehow they can feel it. In fact, both of this week’s episodes felt tinged with a sense of looming dread, as if something terrible is going to happen before this is all over. Honestly, I don’t see how this could end any other way, but I still don’t want it to happen. As I consider all of the tragic possibilities (Ji-an ending up dead or in jail, or Kwang-il getting killed in a too-little-too-late attempt to help her, being the worst of my imaginings) I think that Dong-hoon has the most to fight for. I hope that he’s exonerated and allowed to keep his new director’s position, and that he and Yoon-hee come to some kind of peace, whatever that looks like. But otherwise I’m bracing myself for all sorts of heartache, and I know I’m going to be a nervous wreck until the final episodes next week.

 
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@Lollypip Jung hee portion i think it should have been "they’d erected (A GATE) in honor of her" sonewhere along that line?

Because "they’d erected in honor of her, ha. " ... HAHAHAHHAHAHA *notty thoughts*

I'm sorry.

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OR maybe u shld leave it as is.... :p

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You have freedom of speech here. There is little moderation and there is SD one amount of trust accorded to forum participants here to discuss family drama. Generally, they are well behave. Please respect that and not ruin the freedom with your childishness

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Oh man not trying to be rude or childish. I was just trying to mention a mistake in the recap and didnt want to come off as being rigid or nasty or whatever.

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K, As a proofreader, I noticed the error, too. I don't think you misbehaved, were disrespectful or childish for pointing it out. Personally, I simply found it amusing.

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@maimymit

*finger heart*
Glad that someone could see it from my pov :)

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"It feels more as though they’re soul mates who just aren’t meant to be together in this life, but that who still recognized each other and were drawn together for a short time."
THIS. You've put it so well @lollypip.

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That one jumped to me too. I know a lot of people associates soulmates with lovers but to me, soulmates is different. It's someone who completely understands you on a far deeper level than just the physical. Which is why I believe you can be both lovers and soulmates but you can also fall into just one category.

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Much like Ji-an who started wiretaping Dong-hoon for her own advantage but then found herself facing the kindest man she has ever known and eventually fell for him, Dong-hoon also faced the same thing right at this moment. He knew a moment of betrayal when he realized she planted bug in his phone. He started questioning how many seemingly coincidental meeting they had were actually something she created. It's painful and humiliating to know that she listened to his each and every private thoughts and feelings. That she knew his deepest secret and most vulnerable moments.

But then, unwittingly, he also remember how she didn't wield those particular knowledge about him as a weapon against him, instead she used it, again and again, to comfort him and give him strength. He saw how a girl whom he knew well will do anything to make money for her family refused to take advantage of him and instead protect him from people who wanted to harm him. I think he understood for the very first time just how deep and immense Ji-an's feelings for him are. I'm not sure whether he felt grateful that someone with that amount of love will always be on his side, or stunned and a bit horrified that he can inspire such love and loyalty from someone who only knew him for 3-4 months.

And that changes everything. When he, in his acknowledgment of her spying, asked Ji-an to call him, I believe he is finally ready to face his feelings for her head-on.

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THIS. i remembered he shed a tear recalling all those moments. Was wondering what does that represent.

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Beautifully said! Was so afraid that Joon-young will put his dirty spin about Ji-an, but even if he did, I believe Dong-hoon would've instictively known that Ji-an's feelings and loyalty to him is not something fake.
That last scene, was willing him to call out to her with bated breath, and he did! Huzzah!

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I think Dong Hoon also felt terribly guilty when Joon Young said Ji An ran away and will hide because she knows the thing Dong Hoon fears most is his wife's affair becoming public - which is sure to happen if Ji An is caught. He remembered how he said it's okay as long as noone knows and I think regretted saying it because he desperately wants Ji An to come back.

The problem is Joon Young is such a nasty jerk that if he goes down he will reveal it just to hurt Dong Hoon, so really Ji An staying away won't be enough.

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Dong Hoon Reaction at the last scene, is sooo ambiguous to me. Is he feeling betray? Or Is he being touched by Ji An's gesture for running away for his sake after the mess she has created? Does it he feels both way? Is he mad or feeling touch? They can go both way!
It's seems also that emotion for missing her so much take apart in every pieces of his emotion but doesn't want to admit it.

It's also worth to note Joon Young accusing him having an affair is triggering his emotion.

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Joon young has a dirty mind. Because he is dirty, he thinks Dong Hoon is equally as dirty or can also be tempted like him.

Dong Hoon probably angry at his insinuation which could be damaging to relationship if not robustly and forcefully denied.

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@Soin : But I'm glad the writers touch this issue. In Joon Young eyes, What Both Ji An and Dong Hoon did are also could be label as having an affair too. An EMotional level of affair. Because He doesn't want to being label as the only sleazy one behind all this mess, where both JA and DH technically do the same. Just an attraction more on emotional level rather than physically. I guess,He knows Dong Hoon too well. I'm surprise Dong Hoon affected by it. Means, He think There is truth behind Joon Young's words.

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The fact that he shed tears when JY told him that JA betrayed him to side on DH and when DH was beating the pulp out JY, he was thinking of JA and the conversation that they shared, I interpret that he was touched by what JA has done for him.

If you noticed, even DH confronted JY about the whole spying thing, his question more like sounding concern towards the well-being of Ji An. Asking where she is or what JY did to her.

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I'm not usually a fan of people being told to "get over it" when they're struggling with something, but Mum telling Jung-hee to do exactly that was probably my favourite scene. After 20 years, I suspect him leaving her is actually not the biggest problem she has with her life. She's unhappy generally and fixating on that as the reason.

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I don't think she is using him as an excuse for her unhappiness. Jung Hee strikes me as someone who's vivacious and strong. Perhaps love is her Achilles Heel, the one thing which she can't overcome.

The fact that she asked him to leave monkhood and wishes to take him back speak volumes. I would have considered him dead after all these years. It's obvious that he hasn't reach whatever state of enlightenment he sought. I want Jung Hee to do better in this aspect than he does. If she can't forgive him, then see him as nothingness or just like a blade of grass. If she can overcome her love-hate feelings, forgive him and reach the state of accepting his decision, then she can live her life happily. She appears to do neither.

The way I see it, we have two unhappy individuals here. One who is trying to escape pain and another who insists on wallowing in it.

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The way I see it, we have two unhappy individuals here. One who is trying to escape pain and another who insists on wallowing in it.

Nicely put. I've been really struck by how unhappy he is in particular. I mean, this is a show about how everyone is unhappy in some way so that makes sense. I'd kind of like to know why he tossed in everything without even telling the women he loves about it.

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I also liked that Ae-ryun called her out on it. She made everyone around her walk on eggshells for 20 years although unknowingly. As Ae-ryun said, Dong-Hoon couldn't talk about his best friend because of Jung-hee which sucks because she is clearly not the only one missing him.

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In this episode there was a particular small line Jung-hee said that sounded like something I've said before. Then it dawned on me. *I am Jung-hee*, pretty much. Including having worked a night job for 20 years, plus having a certain someone from my early 20s stuck in the back of my head most of my life. Though not to the extreme degree of Jung-hee.

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Production team never said there was no romance, only that this is not a romance drama. They were not exactly lying, but I think right from the first episode they already set this up to be a romantic relationship. There were hints everywhere. And like someone said in episode 3 comments, the whiff of romance is very intoxicating.

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I know some viewers would feel massively betrayed if DH turns out to have romantic feelings for JA, and would think this the worst ending and the whole drama is ruined. I don't understand that mindset though. If the ending ends up going completely platonic, despite what I've been seeing so far, a good drama is still a good drama.

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Same here.
I also think that, if possible, an open ending might work out for this as well. In this way viewers can decide for themselves what "relationship" they'd like it to be.
My (personal imho) worst fear is one of them leaving the other for good/dying (what with all that reborn reincarnation talk).
I do wish to see them both still seeing each other, smiling, walking or riding away in a bus side by side as the camera pans away from their backs..

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Same. I think it's very obvious thAt he does have romantic feelings for JA. In ep 13, he said something to the effect of "how can I tell her how much she means to me when I know how it would sound to her." Because it is basically a confession. However, it is obvious that DH is such an honorable man, it would be completely out of character for him to give either one of them that " in" by laying his feelings bare like that. He is still married, and a father, and was in a position of authority over her. I don't think the people closest to him are fooled. I think even the scene where he goes looking for her at her apartment and the other ajusshi asked why he was there and he said he saw a crack, and the other side was all like "yeah, there are lots of cracks since forever" was supposed to highlight that his feelings are more and more obvious. What will happen with the two of them, I don't know. That is part of the beauty of this work, is that the ending is not a given, but if the writing so far is any indication...I know it will be true and right for the story. Unlike many ppl, the age difference doesn't bother me at all. As long as someone is an adult both physically, and by law they are not "kids".

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As someone who has been very vocal about DH and JA's relationship not being romantic, I don't think I'd feel that the whole drama would be ruined if it did turn out that way 'cos it's just so well-made. I'm trying to keep an open mind since we still have 2 eps to go :)

It's actually interesting how the viewers interpret things differently and I love it because I get to read about people's different perspectives

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I'm reminded of certain women and men friends/colleagues/classmates who after knowing each other for a long time refuse to date because their friendship is to important. Sex ruins things.

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Thank you @lollypip for the wonderful recap. But most of all, thank you for finally spelling it out that Dong Hoon and Ji An do LOVE each other beyond whatever definable labels. It's the kind of love that transcends everything.

I am not sure if I am the only who feel that DH subtle broke down and could not hold the toss for Sang Won was never about Sang Woon after all but more of his silence deep pain over losing Ji An. As Ae-Ryun said, one needs to mention that person name to put him behind and just be part of memories, it's obvious that DH could not even speak out JA name to anyone and he is not ready to tuck her in just his memory.

And can someone perhaps share with me about Yoon Hee's reaction during the celebration party? She saw right thru how broken her husband is and she looked defeated. She cried when driving back home. Is it she teared up because she feels ashamed that her brother in laws already knew how heaffair has taken a toll on DH? Or because Ae-Ryun pointing out how lonely DH is when all along YH already knows that? Or the realization of how affected DH is over JA?

I have so much feelings after this episode but most of all, I am blown away by Lee Seon Kyun masterful acting.

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I also saw her reaction!! I think it's possibly the reaction of the loss of JA for DH. Especially when the neighborhood was all asking for JA. Yoon hee probably realized that JA was more welcomed in their circle rather than her?

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I also feel that way. DH friends made it sound like JA liking for DH is guiltless and casual but YH knows what JA feels towards DH is more than that. And seeing how affected he is, his devastation even at the important moment of his life, I guess it's a sad realization for her to realize that her husband actually has deeper connection to JA than what she could imagined and the girl perhaps loves DH more than she does and doing so much more for him than she's ever willing to.

And yes, she felt awkward around DH friends but in fact they welcome her, it's just her that is unable to adapt. Not that JA could adapt to DH circle of friends either.

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I love this episode a lot. Almost everything is just beautifully and brilliantly shot and acted so I have a lot of favorite scenes. One of the scenes that I really like and I felt is so understated was when Jae Chul (not sure if this is the correct name) mentioned Ji An and ask Dong Hoon to invite her to the party. I was like hit with so much feels because DH's friends only saw Ji An for one night and not even that long but you could tell that she left quite a huge impact on them. The way they talked about her already feels like "She is one of US" which actually shows you how it's not just DH who gravitates to Ji An but also his friends and brothers... This makes me think how Yoon Hee could possibly not gravitate to them and vice versa in all those years they known each other when it only took Yoo Ra a few nights and Ji An only one night!.. Oh Yoon Hee, you confused me so...

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When Ae Ryun said from the beginning she knew Dong Hoon and Yoon Hee will live a different life she was only half right. It was Yoon Hee who was living a different ans separate life. Dong Hoon was happiest living with his extended family and neighborhood and what caused discontent in their marriage was Yoon Hee wanting to live a different life. Yu Ra is a better example than Ji An. She has the potential to be a famous actress, drives around in a chauffeured van, yet she is done to earth and comes to the bar and drinks and whines to them. So it wasn't that Yoon Hee was not welcome or she worked, she just didn't enjoy it and never felt comfortable in that setting. I will say it again, I think she simply married the wrong guy for the life she wanted to live.

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Yes I said that myself in one of the previous episodes...Yoon Hee and Dong Hoon's romance were doomed from the start because they are just too different.

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I think that celebration dinner clearly showed how disconnected Yoon-hee is from DH's family and friends. And I also think that she chose for it to be that way since she doesn't seem to want to belong to the group.

When she actually showed up I thought this would be a good time for YH to re-connect with everyone and try to be 'part' of the neighborhood... But when she chose to leave early, I kinda felt that she really doesn't feel comfortable being with them. And like you said, she doesn't share the same principles as DH and that they may not have been a good match in the first place

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It might be that she is crying ... again (remember after the meeting on the roof with JY and JA) because she feels pity for herself. JA and the sister-in-law both saw the difficulty and pain DH experienced for this and that, and both stepped in to defend him ... because he’s worth it. She on the contrary connived with JY to have him ousted of the company (on top of the cheating) ... when actually he didn’t deserve this stabbing at all.

So yes she might be crying feeling sorry for herself because she’s afraid of being alone.

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Or maybe she's crying because as you said, the outsiders willing to step up and defend him but she did not. Maybe she feels sorry that she has not done much for her husband, instead adding up his suffering?

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Mostly crying feeling sorry for herself, for having thought mostly of herself only, not understanding that DH could feel pain as well. She seems to have always thought that she was the only one suffering in the mariage. That “outsiders” could see his pain, his problems and not her is quite sad.

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"It's the kind of love that transcends everything". Thank you. That is exactly the kind of love they have for each other. And for me personally, that is the kind of love that is the MOST ROMANTIC of them all. I do not understand how only when having a physical aspect in the relationship makes love romantic lol. Another definition of romantic is something to do with IDEAL. In this instant, the love they have for each other is definitely IDEAL and something RARE. A love that we can only hope to have but not all of us get to experience.

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I am baffled by people who are happy to say their love transcends all, but not happy to call it romantic. What is the fear? Is it because people are uncomfortable with the idea that these two could be physically attracted to each other too?

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I don't really know why they can't do that. Physically attracted is already taken cared of when Dong Hoon said "the girl with the pretty face" and Ji An kissing him... And to be honest when you bond with someone emotionally and intellectually you realized you actually suddenly find that person very attractive even if that person is someone you thought that is not your type... this happens so many times in different shows and movies and in REAL LIFE so I don't understand the insistence of it not possibly going to physical attraction ha ha ha

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If you have read my comment on episode 13, I have defined their relationship as an UNSPOKEN ROMANCE.

But as articulated by lollypip, their relationship is perhaps more than just romance - defying logics, defying label and so to me, their love transcends everything.

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Ideal and full acceptance. As you said, too precious and rare that not many get to experience.

I love the way lollypip articulated it - it sounds as if they were tragic lovers in the past and in any lifetime could recognized each other and destined to be drawn to each other to just complete another cycle of their undefinable love.

Lol. I am overimagining stuff.

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You are thinking that way because of the unlikely way that connection developed between them. How long time do you need to develop such a deep understanding of another person? Time may not be a meaningful measure but you at least need frequent and deep ad very honest conversations. One can argue that Ji An got this because she listened to Dong Hoon 24/7 and Dong Hoon being a very honest person she got access to true Dong Hoon fairly easily. But how did Dong Hoon come to understand Ji An so well? She does not lie but conceals many things. She keeps to herself and doesn't reveal much, so it was quite incredible for Dong Hoon to recognize a kindred spirit. Dong Hoon is a quiet guy but very perceptive. Still, it was no easy feat.

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Exactly. YH spent 15 years but could not form a real emotional connection with him but DH gets to know JA in a short span of time yet he understands her.

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I think Ji An only conceals pretty much her circumstances ie grandma but DH found out anyway, Debts and Kwang IL again DH find out and her wiretapping him and hired by Joon Yoong again Dong Hoon still found out... Ji An was very upfront with him about the inner workings of her mind and heart though, how she is bored (cynical) about life, how she believed people will never continue to be part of her life once they know she killed someone, how against her better judgment she found herself liking DH and how she believes DH is a good person and how she can relate with what DH feels inside about being bored or dead inside...Yoon Hee was not really very upfront with any of whats inside her she just demands what she wants and never tried to understand DH about his love for his family and friends... Yes Ji An have the advantage due to the wiretap but any info she found out about DH she ended up wanting to protect DH's secrets...any advantage of info she might have she actually uses them to encourage or protect DH...i feel like the wiretap was more a double edged sword to JiAn...

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On Yoon-hee's reaction - I actually got the sense that when Ae-Ryun pointed out how lonely DH has been, Yoon-hee's reaction was one of someone who didn't realize her husband was feeling that way.. She'd always been resentful of him spending more time with his friends and family making her feel 'alone' when all along, her husband was feeling 'alone' too.

And maybe she feels regret 'cos she wasn't the one to comfort him and that she never will be able to now because of the affair

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Yoon Hee said in an earlier episode that she gets a feeling from DH that he’s lost something essential but he hasn’t. I think this was the first time she fully understood what he had lost (his best friend/other half). He’s not the kind of person to ever have told her, and she’s not close enough to his friends to have been told. I think that look on her face was her realisation of how little she knows him, how little of himself he trusts her with.

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Thank you very much for the lovely recap @LollyPip! Your words "But I believe that they do love each other, very very much — it’s just a kind of love that defies labels. It’s not romantic or familial love, but it’s so much more than friendship. It feels more as though they’re soul mates who just aren’t meant to be together in this life, but that who still recognized each other and were drawn together for a short time. They understand each other in some mystical way, but I love that they never try to define it or clarify it and just accept it for what it is. They’re only meant to be in each other’s lives for a little while, but they’ve tried hard to do what they can for each other while there’s time." really summarized DH and JA's relationship. Totally agree with you on this one! Thank you for articulating it so wonderfully!

It makes me sad that this show would be concluding next week. But at the same time, the ride has been very much enjoyable.This is truly one of the best dramas ever!

Some thoughts on the episode:

1. It's quite funny that out of all the things DH thought of when he heard that JA wiretapped him, the first thing he remembered was him describing JA to the bartender as the very pretty girl. It's quite unexpected and refreshing.

2. As much as Jian's wiretapping is very bad and can result to so much trouble for DH, she never used those knowledge to harm him. Instead, out of all the people who love DH, there was this 21 year old who gave him so much love and support which he desperately needed from his wife, family, and friends. She was there when he needed her, and that's why in ep 13, I was so touched when he finally said, "thank you for being by my side.". He may have refused to hug her but that one sentence shows so much of his feelings for JA, but more than what a hug can do.

3. I was actually surprised that after DH found out JA wiretapped him, he contacted Joon-young first. If it happened to me, I would've confronted JA first. But he didn't. His first instinct was to protect JA and to confront Joon-young, with DH probably thinking that Joon-young harmed JA.

4. I was truly amazed at JA's loyalty to DH when she said to Joon-young that she "would kill anyone who messes with DH". This shouldn't be surprising really, given that she's been protecting DH. But still, she's very much willing to sacrifice her all to protect the man she loves. Perhaps, while her feelings for DH first started as admiration and respect, the fact that she's doing all she can and knows to protect DH from harm made me realize that the feelings are so deep and emotional. I can't even describe it. And I think DH is starting to realize his own feelings as well, given that he has been more proactive in looking for JA, and he even wore the slippers!!
Furthermore, I think DH is starting to realize that JA's feelings are not as shallow as he thinks they are.

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“Furthermore, I think DH is starting to realize that JA's feelings are not as shallow as he thinks they are.”

Correct. He thought that her feelings for him were guided by pity, empathy. He’s discovering her love for him translate into actions: protecting him from JY who wants to keep humiliating him by refusing to break up with his wife, running to him at the restaurant when he would like to see her, giving him the words of comfort he so much wants to hear, and so forth.

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Regarding #1 and Dong Hoon remembering that scene in the bar, I think the point wasn't that he remembered describing her as a pretty girl. The point was that he was waiting for her and asked the owner if he had seen her and suddenly she ran in out of breath. He finally realized that she came running as soon as he asked of her.

#3 He didn't know where Ji An was. They made their farewells on the payphone, he didn't have her new number. He met with Joon Young to ask where she was and what he has done to her.

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Thanks for pointing these out!

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I think the bar scene with the "pretty girl" is the one that DH recalled first because it is the simpler scenes that first come to mind when you're shocked - the ones that seem obvious as you're trying to recall memories to confirm your thought.. that first memory wasn't more about DH finding Jian pretty, but more with the fact that as soon as he asked the bartender if she came by, lo and behold, she shows up.

And we see the progression of the seriousness of the recollections: the bar scene and the 'no big deal convo' with the bros were the 'confirmation' recollections that yes, Jian was indeed privy to all those things... Then the memories progress to Dong hoon's deepest, darkest experiences and the full extent of the wiretapping hits him because she KNOWS everything and he's laid bare before her

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So I'm just going to say it and let the chips land where they may. I know people will be upset by it but I feel very strongly about it and this is my genuine opinion on the issue.

If this show ends with an unhappy middle-aged man tossing in his complicated middle-aged wife for an adoring child, it will utterly destroy the show for me on a fundamental level. It would be the worst thing since Goblin had a "happy ending" with a middle-aged man and a child being perpetually reincarnated into a school uniform.

I hope this didn't upset any people, I just feel really strongly about it. I love this show and for me a romance plotline would destroy what I thought it was about.

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Goblin, both unmarried so no issue. In the case of MA, DH is a married man( their age difference not a big hurdle)
If they end up together(with JA), they are no different from JY and his wife or may even be accuse of "paedophilia" (relationship with a kid)

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I firmly believe that if DH ever decides to pursue JA, then he needs to end his marriage. I just don't share the sentiment that he should preserve his marriage at all cost, and I don't think the show is heading toward that direction. In order for us to see the ending to be healing for him, and if that means staying with YH, we need to be a lot more sympathetic toward her. Maybe some are, but many are not, because the drama has not spent much time rebuilding up their relationship.

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Oh I don't support him staying in his marriage at all. But I also don't support a romance with him and JA. I was talking about overall optics from the plot.

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I don't think he will leave his wife I think she will leave him. I think emotionally she already has.

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Now they're talking honestly about their feelings, I actually think it'll be mutual. They're going through the motions now. She's trying to integrate into the family life that upset her and he's trying to forgive her. It won't last. They're just too different and they're now in a place to be honest about that.

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I hope so, that it is open, honest, and respectful. I just realized I was wondering if he could forgive her but not giving any thought to whether she really wants to stay.

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I agree with you. Even if they break up in the end, it's more Yoon-hee wants a divorce because she won't be able to forgive herself for what he has done to her husband.

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Even after watching episode 14, Dong-hoon didn't give up a hint that he will end his marriage. Even if he will do that later, there will be so much considerations he needs to think if we look at his nature and character. Well, his marriage with Yoon-hee is complicated itself, as he and Yoon-hee haven't been estranged for years although they're living together.

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I don't think they will end up together. Trust me, the whole Korea will go berserk LOL. IF this is 16+ episode drama, I might believe they will go there. There will be enough issue already to overcome if they go to that route, from public acceptance of their relationship, their life style, his family acceptance with Ji An as his partner (remember, she is not normal), etc..
I think they will make it open ending regarding this issue.

Well, The problem for me is not about "If this show ends with an unhappy middle-aged man tossing in his complicated middle-aged wife for an adoring child" for me. Ji An is very flawed and can't be label as a gems, she has no good family background, is hard human being to deal with in social life, Has a grandmother disability to take care of. Hard to be idealized. While he stay with his wifes, it will be the safest bed rather than he is with Ji An.

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Me too. I don't think they will end up together. It's too complicated to be heading that way. Healing each other and finding their happiness in the end are enough for me.

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You know for a fact the whole Korea will go beserk? What about the upcoming Kim En Seuk epic romance with even bigger age gap between the leads?

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They shot it in the foot, for denying it's not a romance drama, right after public has already so work up about as a possible romance. and IU stating a fact her char feeling towards ajusshi is more like "the first cool person she ever meet." ...

WHile in KES case, they don't deny it and keep producing it.

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Jian is 21 years old. By law that's not a teenager, and most certainly not a child, nor does she ever act like one. She's a young adult who never had anyone to learn the ins and outs from, but that doesn't make her a child. When you say "an adoring child", it almost belittles her feelings for DH. She doesn't adore him on some shallow level of puppy love. This is not a puppy-love to her. Her feelings are deeply rooted to the person DH inherently is, and those feelings are very valid. I don't see how this can possibly be fundamentally wrong and compared to the likes of Goblin, which romantically paired an immortal centenarian with a highschool girl turned young adult, who then reincarnated back to a highschooler.

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Its basically a 'workplace crush' writ large. DH knows that and has said as much to HA. Of course when he said it he didn't know about the super-creepy surveillance stalking.
Goblin was 2/3rds absurdist comedy. The highschooler 'bride' was the show's best running gag. Where would the comedy have been if Goblin's Bride had been a forty year old woman?

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Where would the comedy have been if Goblin's Bride had been a forty year old woman?

That would have been AWESOME.

I'm not going to say that Goblin didn't have humour but I didn't see any of it in the child-bride element. Maybe if forced arranged marriages of girl-children weren't an actual thing I would have seen more humour in it.

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To classify JA as a child is misleading. She is not a child. She is younger than DH, but she is an adult. And despite their difference in age, it has been commented on in the show that her emotional and mental maturity are well beyond her years.

By framing JA as an 'adoring child', her characterization is automatically limited to some Candy-esque trope and DH becomes a modernized Humbert Humbert. If they enter into a romantic relationship or not, it will be decided by two consenting adults who happen to have an affinity for each other.

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clap...clap...clap... THIS.

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I'm sorry! I not watching this and this is SOOOO off topic but your handle name!! I just got delighted when I saw it scrolling through the home comment page- it's Welsh! An endearment term. ❤❤❤

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ha ha ha... not a lot of people know that my handle name is Welsh...how do you know? are you Welsh? Yes, indeed it is an endearment :)

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@cariad - I'm part Welsh but I actually know because I have a friend who uses it as her nickname/online handle also! Was just so nicely surprised to see it used on DB hehe

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@sicarius Cool! Im not Welsh though... I always tease my family on how I was supposed to be born either Welsh or Scottish ha ha ha and they get so annoyed by my whimsy. I know this endearment from a book I've read about a love story that stand the tests of time, about knights and honor and seers and wizards, a Norman knight and a Welsh princess and of course happy endings after an arduous quest by the Knight to win his beloved or "cariad" he he he... i love it and now it stuck ha ha ha

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@cariad Awwww that's adorable though! haha I love the Welsh language and I love Celtic stories so I relate, don't worry!
What is the book?

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@sicarius It is a romance historical fiction novel by Penelope Williamson entitled Keeper of the Dream ... one of my fave stories that I always read again from time to time... what can i say I have a romantic ancient soul hahaha... My dream is to one day go visit Scotland and see the Highlands and also go to England and see the Stonehenge...

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@cariad
*Scotland is amazing* *I miss it an Ireland so much and I've only been once!!!*
And I'm gonna look up this book now...

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JA is very intelligent, loyal and responsible. In that way, she's very mature. But emotionally? Not even vaguely. She's had almost no love and nobody to teach her how to operate in the normal world. DH is the first person to really take care of her unconditionally and so she worships him. This is the love of a child.

To be completely clear about what my problem is: the person they've shown DH to be would never take advantage of that hero worship by initiating a romantic relationship. That would be like... the Angry Mum deciding in the final episode to date Jisoo.

If they did it, it would destroy his well-established characterisation and therefore the drama on a fundamental level. For me.

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Yasssssss @chingumode, I agree so wholeheartedly with you. I feel like people are confusing actor chemistry with romantic chemistry. Ji-An doesn't know what it is to be loved by a man in anyway, so she attaches to the first man who treats her kindly more than 4x. That is 100% a child's live and not a mature love. She may be mature in other ways, but true differentiation in love, she doesn't know it because she has never had the luxury to know it. This is the first time she has been free to even just love her grandmother without worry, so how can she know that the live she feels for Dong Hoon is romantic. She hasn't had time to learn the difference.

Lol. That was long, but I totally agree that at least for me the drama will be my most hated drama if they go that route.

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Again, the implication is that JA's feelings, and her actions, are juvenile to the point of infantile, which is fundamentally incorrect.

A child who loves looks upon the subject as though they are a god. In their eyes, they are infallible. A child, when faced with the inevitable discovery that their god is fallible, is disappointed, their innocence lost. JA is more than aware of DH's flaws, she knows his weaknesses, she recognizes his depressed listlessness.

It's recognition, not worship, that JA displays. She met a good man and wants to protect him the only way she knows how. If the genders were reversed, this would be seen as romantic or at the very least intense.

Of course, your feelings are your own.

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@ChinguMode, you said, "JA is very intelligent, loyal and responsible. In that way, she's very mature. But emotionally? Not even vaguely. She's had almost no love and nobody to teach her how to operate in the normal world. DH is the first person to really take care of her unconditionally and so she worships him. This is the love of a child."

If we go by this logic, does that mean that she should never enter into any relationship until she has fully operated in society for at least a few years? Or is it okay for her to be in a relationship with someone less kind, who doesn't fully take care of her unconditionally? What if DH is only 30 years old (let's say played by Lee Seung Gi), would you still say she loves him with a child's love? Would you still see it as fundamentally wrong for a 30 year old DH to "initiate a romantic relationship" with her?

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If you scroll down, Pineapple and I have a few more comments on this. Hopefully that'll explain my position more.

It's fine, I had the same issue with Goblin and people were just as upset about it there. I knew it would be divisive and that some people would vehemently disagree. It's a TV show, not a science documentary. There are no facts, just subjective opinions.

It won't be a Goblin issue here anyway, IMHO because I actually trust the writers and the characterisation they've established. I don't believe they will end up together for all the reasons I've already stated. It would go completely against the characters they've created and these writers have shown themselves to be very true to these people.

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Very well said!

I actually think JA as a character is very mature for her age, to have endured all that she has and survived. Personally, I think people's experiences is a better gauge of maturity rather than the age number. Plus, if two people are of legal age and happen to love one another, I think the age difference is not an issue. And within the context of this show and all that we know about JA, I do not think her love is of the childish or immature one.

I do think the show will keep true to it's writing and not make the relationship romantic as per the character's principles and behavior - Dong-hoon's mostly, like chingumode has mentioned

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Hi @jaderjylsk, I love the tiny change in your username. :-)

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Lol! You noticed! Haha

LSK has got me all tied up in knots. He deserves to be added in my username forever.

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You're mistaking ruthlessness for maturity. JA is a 21 year old girl experiencing her first workplace crush.

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I disagree with this on so many levels. As others rightly pointed out Ji An is not a child and her love is not a childish adoration. Ji An may have led an extraordinarily hard life and not had the luxury of experiencing romantic love yet but she definitely knows what love is much more than Yoon Hee. Look at all the sacrifices she made for her grandmother from killing someone to taking endless beatings herself. Her love of Dong Hoon is also a mature love where she sacrificed her relationship with the only person who treated her with respect for his happiness and once again chose a half life for herself. Yoo Hee's love was sulking when she didn't get what she wanted and having an affair (and more).

I have several friends in real life who have couple of decades of age difference with their partners and have been together for decades. And these are not necessarily women who prefer older men. Sometimes you click with someone and may even surprise yourself because they are so much older or younger than you, but then age truly becomes just a number. As long as there is no power inequity and abuse of this age difference in the relationship I see nothing whatsoever wrong with it. I am not into guessing games, I have no clue what direction the drama will take on this but were they to choose the romantic route between Ji An and Dong Hoon I would see this as nothing but a relationship between equals. So I really see no resemblance to the situation in Goblin here at all.

Another point I disagree strongly is undermining the adultery and betrayal committed by Yoon Hee by calling her a "complicated middle-aged wife" implying that were Dong Hoon to be with Ji An it would be similar to a middle age man trying to solve his mid-life crises by replacing his wife with a young girl because she showed some interest in him. That' not just insulting to Ji An but very insulting to Dong Hoon as well.

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On your side here :)

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People seem to have forgotten the JA is a bit of a sociopath. Sociopaths can fall in love too, but they're still sociopaths. This episode she was contemplating plunging a knife into someone's chest.

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@leetennant,

Great comment, and don't worry, I don't think Dong Hoon will end up with Ji An. It would be completely out of character for DH to start a relationship with JA, and I think we can trust the writer to continue telling the story in a consistent and intelligible way.

I've been thinking more and more about the title "My Ajusshi", and while it would be easy to infuse it with a romantic, possessive sort of tone, I actually hear the title as something nostalgic and wistful...like a mature woman who is looking back on her first love, a man who was there for her, protected and defended her when she had no one.

I agree with your analysis that JA's love for DH, no matter how intense, pure, genuine, kind, selfless...lacks the kind of maturity one finds in a relationship between emotionally healthy adults. It definitely can be categorized as hero worship.

DH can do no wrong, and JA will fight to the death to protect him! While that may sound romantic and selfless, it does venture into fantasy-land. I think people mistake the fact that Ji An sees Dong Hoon's struggles to mean she sees his faults.

She doesn't see his faults, because frankly, they don't concern her. What does she care if he cannot communicate properly with his wife when she has a wiretap to find out his thoughts and feelings? Does anyone else have that kind of access? A great deal of their connectedness actually comes from her listening in on him. Without it, she would have never fallen for him, much less been able to support him all the ways that she has. This means, however much they ARE connected now, it was artificially created..which has a short shelf life.

While I may not characterize her as an adoring child, I think I understand the deeper meaning you're trying to convey, and I completely agree.

Ji An's reality has been one of utter pain, desolation, loneliness, and constant struggle - and one in which no one has truly stayed by her to help her. She's learned a hard truth at a young age that this world is very cruel: few will take the time to have compassion on her, much less see the POTENTIAL in her. She is emotionally stunted. She has learned not to expect anything from anyone.

Enter: Dong Hoon, whose kindness and care takes her utterly by surprise. He offers help out of the goodness of his heart. To someone is such desperate straits as hers, what's NOT to fall in love with?

But, the key is she never expected him to care for her to the extent, which makes his kindness THAT much more astounding. So, she cannot separate his familial kindness from romantic kindness. And granted, his own feelings towards her are ambiguous, so it's understandable why she falls for him as hard as she does.

But, that doesn't mean they are meant to be together. It's easy to focus on the ONE way that Ji An emotionally helps Dong Hoon and think...

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@leetennant,

Whoops, just to finish my thought:

"on the ONE way that Ji An Emotionally helps Dong Hoon and think "they are meant to be together"! That's just not true. Marriage requires much more than just one deep connection during a time of emotional isolation. Ji An lacks maturity in other areas vital for a healthy marriage between equals.

All that to say, I completely agree with you and I'm delighted that you've been able to pick up on these subtle threads that Show reveals to explain how the two characters can be a source of healing and strength for one another while not ending up together. Well done!

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Thanks @pineapplegongzhu. I knew my opinion would be divisive and I was also struggling on how to communicate something that was so subtle. Because this show can be very subtle. But you've understand me, so I'm grateful for that.

To add to it, I feel like there's an element of Princess Myth in this whole thing. Like, if this was a middle-aged woman and a man Ji-an's age, people wouldn't be ascribing romantic motivations to it. It would be all about how maternal the relationship is, regardless of how in love the young man was. Why can't a man like DH be given paternal aspirations? He is a father and his child is absent. He's not in a loving marriage. That fatherly love has to go somewhere. Why do his feelings for this very very young woman have to be romantic? Because he's an attractive but unhappy middle aged man? That's a bit offensive to me.

But to get back to the Princess Myth, at its core it goes like this: you sit in your dungeon/tower/exiled hovel alone with your Great Responsibility. And then an older, powerful man comes and sweeps you away and Takes Care of Everything.

I didn't find that romantic when I was 10. I certainly don't now.

DH is the epitome of Knight in Shining Armour. JA is the epitome of the Princess in Exile. This show is far too intelligent and nuanced to come down on the side of "And Then They Got Married and Lived Happily Ever After and She Never Had to Worry About Anything Again" as an ending.

It's not Goblin (I hope).

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@leetennant,

It takes a lot of bravery to express a potentially divisive opinion when it is your true thought. Great job!

Goblin was extremely disappointing for me, although the numeric age gap was less of an issue for me and more the wide gap in emotional maturity and (lack of) chemistry really made me bored of the OTP. Frankly, I thought the second leads’ romantic was so much more compelling, in part because they had such a tragic past in Goryeo!

I’ve actually never heard of the Princess Myth explained like that, but I completely concur with your assessment. DH is the Knight and JA is the Princess-in-Exile (from her POV). I think while we may express our positions slightly differently, we are on the same wavelength. It’s nice to understand and be understood! *fist bump*

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Who she reminds me of, a little bit, is Daryl from Walking Dead. Though I have not kept up with that show.
I really want to know what the actors and director think behind certain scenes.
It feels like the are purposely underlining romantic feelings, BUT I have a tendency to always look for a ship.
I was trying to think of other actor combos that had chemistry but never read romance into it.
Don/Peggy for sure from Mad Men. Amazing chem, loved scenes between them but not a whiff of romance.
Oh-gong/Buja felt very older brother...of course he wanted to keep her in the refrigerator.
I'm not disagreeing. You've brought up great points that just made me think of things.:)
I feel like it might be a very open ending.

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Very well said, chingu. Indeed, the trajectory of this drama IMO is going for two people that seemed to be so different outwardly, who come to be a great comfort, way to heal, and help each other to be a better and happier person, without having to end up together romantically. With 2 more eps, i think its more satisfying that way. This isnt rom com. We have so many chars with issues here. And if any, or if most of them can get their closure, or at least a hint that they've overcame the biggest hurdle in their life yet, its already very good of a drama. Theres DH with communication and expectation issue, JA with very complex background and almost bleak future, YH with her guilt, the bros with their own life, JY, KI, Jung Hee and her monk. If we can learn how these ppl win their battles, it will be a deeper life lesson than just romance. Plus, romance itself is complicated, and as I believe, PDH and JA are so different in so many levels in their life. To simplify the prob that they end up together and they'll get the happy ending, to me, kinda belittling the great emotional investment already put in this drama.

Agree with you on the term that DH has issue with communicating, and why JA can read him so well? Because of the wiretapping. This is a big, big issue for me for their relationship, and the fact that JA can see no wrong in PDH is on point.

Ah Im so excited for the finale.^^

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@pineapplegongzhu and @leetennant,

I agree with a lot of both of your points, though I admit my perception has been colored by having read what Kim Won-seok PDnim said during the press conference. His words support your point of view:

Though there are people who use the “My” in “My Mister” to describe their loved ones such as “My Man”, it could be used to describe someone who’s precious to us like ‘My Mom’, ‘My Friend’, ‘My Family’ or ‘My Neighbour’ too. That’s what I thought of while making the drama. The story is basically about one becoming someone precious to others. People who just don’t seem to fit each other, strangely go along well because of the precious feelings and emotions they have for each other.

There was also another quote which I can't find now about his wanting the drama to re-establish "ahjussi" as a term of respect.

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“I agree with your analysis that JA's love for DH, no matter how intense, pure, genuine, kind, selfless...lacks the kind of maturity one finds in a relationship between emotionally healthy adults.”

So if the relationship between DH and his wife took a bad turn for the worse, your reasoning leads me to think that neither of them had the right maturity to make it work in spite of them being the same age, a supposedly mature age.

How does a relationship start, how does it transform into a special one or not ... there are no secret ingredients, there is certainly no formula to guarantee it will blossom and last. Time only tells. If your heart and intentions are in the right place, you feel that special bond with the other one and you can give it a try, well why not get on that train and see where the journey takes you, a few meters away only, 1km away, 2km, 100km and beyond. It’s a train, it’s life. Just breath.

Well that’s one opinion, one way

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Lily,

No, I never said the ONLY reason romantic love cannot work is a difference in maturity level. I just said between DH and JA there is a maturity gap that their limited emotional intimacy and connection cannot bridge to the point where marriage would be an option.

DH’s marriage with his wife is actually one between equals, but they just have difficult problems. Whether or not they can overcome them is obviously one of the questions we, as the audience, are interested to find out.

I’ve actually written the majority of my thoughts on the subject already in previous episode recaps, especially why I think DH will remain married to YH.

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Again this has nothing to do with whether a relationship would work between these two people. It has to do with the fact that the character of DH that has been well-established by the writers would never pursue a romantic relationship with a woman this young or this much in need of a father figure . If they tried to tell me he would, then they would ruin their own characterisation. That's what my problem is.

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@pineapplegongzhu and @leetennant. THANK YOU!!!

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Unsure about your characterization, I guess the remaining episodes will give more info.
What stands out in my view is that DH is not a 2-timer nor a conniving person even when he is beaten to the ground. As long that there is still trust, one can still pursue to solve a problematic relationship. But when the trust is gone, ... it takes forever to gain it back that is if you ever gain it back.

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I forgot.
About JA, she is quite a strong cookie who can stand and protect wholeheartedly the ones she loves. She is young indeed but so mature in many ways. She seems beyond looking for a father figure.
Well we'll see.

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The consistency of PDH as a char is exactly what makes me think pursuing romantic idea isnt possible in this situation.

Its just doesnt befit the development of the chars and story.

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i don't believe their connection is romantic at all. they have just bonded deeply as souls.

i will be pissed if their relationship turns romantic, it will ruin everything special about their connection. she's merely grateful for his kindness and she LIKES him, yes. but not that way -- that kiss was for blackmail, if you recall. it was not intended as romantic on her part, but he was offended/taken aback by her supposed demonstration of affection.

i am curious about what's going thru Dong Hoon's head, knowing about the bug in his phone and trying to make sense of her actions toward himself and asshole Joon Young... i don't sense that he's angry, so much as confused and trying to make sense of it all, knowing how he knows her...

i hope he walks away from his marriage, to free himself.

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Any romance with JA would be so out of Ajusshi character (man of family integrity and ethic)... Still I'm scared to watch the last two episodes because possible romance will ruin the whole drama for me...

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The relationship between DH and Yoonhee can't be the same and this will be for a long time. They will divorce or the will live together for the sake of their son and family, even they like stanger.
I'm agree when someone said that DH and Jian like soulmate, they love each other but they can't be together. Every things that make DH fight (not passive anymore) is about Jian.
I don't know how I will face the ending, but I will always remembering My Ajusshi like I'm remembering every scene in Misaeng.

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What's the ending in Misaeng?

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Heh it's difficult to explain what's the ending, but, I like how Mr Oh keep giving Jang Geu Re time to contemplating with everything but in the end He ask Jang Geu Re to work with him, creating system that better than the old place they work.

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It's redescribing happy ending in a very creative way.

Having said that Misaeng was not original work and the writer probably took it from the original but I hope they learned from the experience and can repeat the satisfaction that ending produced.

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I still learning how to write a good sentence in english and feel really sorry for my bad grammar. That's why it's difficult for me to describing how the ending in Misaeng with the best way.
Thanks for compliment me 😂

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This! Ever since the slippers appeared, got this sorta déjà vu of this world as an alternate Misaeng where Jang Geu-rae is a girl in a company that builds buildings instead of markets things ^^

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I haven't been weighing in on the recaps, but I have been digging this show's vibe from day one. All the messy, complicated relatuonships, textured characters, and delicious development. It's paced just right for me. I trust the writing to deliver a satisfying ending.

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IIRC, one of the main reasons the production team gave for needing to postpone this week's episodes was that they were worried that the actors were too exhausted to be able to give their all during the intense emotional scenes. It paid off-- they did a phenomenal job and I applaud them. LSK should give a master class in breathing techniques-- he's showing us that "a breath is worth a thousand words".

I'm nervous about the final two eps.-- can it stick the landing and continue to be this awe-inspiring? I'm also worried about it causing a rift among commenters who perceive DH and JA's relationship differently. I hope nobody accuses others of being delulu because Show really is making things ambiguous. Case in point: In ep. 13, the camera focused on DH walking away, appearing completely unaffected by JA's offer to hug him. But then in ep. 14, the camera focused on the "Caution: Electricity" sign just before and after DH received JA's emotional farewell call.

There are valid arguments to be made on both sides, and in this drama particularly, romance is in the eye of the beholder. Whatever happens next week, I hope most Beanies won't be too upset or angry if things don't go the way they want them to. It's been so lovely having so many of us share our love and appreciation for this magnificent drama.

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I lean towards romance, but I always do.
This ep I felt more of those vibes from DH. The look on his face when her phone number was changed, not focused on anything but her when she didn't show for work, wanting to share his promotion with her and so on.
But also do think he is very aware and cautious of the power imbalance and that he is married. I think he would leave the choice of divorce up to his wife.
But this is all my conjecture and agree that I hope however it ends people do not get too upset.
I will however if they kill one of the leads. I can take platonic but not dead.

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Oh that scene... When his face just dropped when he found out that he has no more medium to reach her is heartbreaking.

And that telephone conversation was so heart-wrenching..he was holding back his tears but the quiver in his voice was so telling of how devastated he is.

If that is not LOVE, idk what else that is.

I cried so much watching this episode.

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He played that scene so well.

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I haven't cried in any of the earlier episodes, but the dam broke multiple times this episode. Even during scenes with Yoon Hee. I am continually impressed that there has not been a weak episode in the entire drama's run.

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And during that phone conversation, when she tells him that she's hanging up, for a quick second, he almost wants to say something, clearly not ready to end the call. And when she does cut the phone, he continues to hold the phone to his ear. He realized that this was really the last contact with the person that means so much to him and he still had so many unspoken things to tell her. He obviously wanted her to come back but being DH and knowing how it would sound to JA, he said nothing. He is so clearly broken.

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If you want romance, how about DH's older brother having a romance with DH's wife! This episode he expressed his love for her. understood why she would need an affair considering the messed-up family she's married into. If people insist on absurd romantic shipping I'm going ith those two.

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You know what, I actually was wondering why DH suddenly was being aware of his surroundings. He actually stopped. The camera scanned the railway, then the caution: electricity sign. I actually just thought that it probably is the same spot where a lot of conversations took place (between him and JA). But the camera movement was odd. Like it's not random. It was really showing us the danger sign and then it focused on what looked like a lightning rod. LOL, I like your take on that scene though @risa! Well, I actually love it!

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I thought that was the location he lay down once before maybe contemplating death and Ji An was running to save him. Maybe he was contemplating again and this time Ji An called him.

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@risaa I'm a little confused by the scene in ep 14 when they focus on the "caution: electricity" sign. Was he contemplating suicide?

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@mehreenk (Dukbokki-ssi)~ I'm not sure what DH was thinking when he looked at the "caution: electricity" sign, but there are a few reasons why I don't think we were meant to conclude that he was feeling suicidal:

1) The camera didn't just linger on the sign before their convo, it made a point of showing DH standing directly in front of a "caution: electricity" sign after their convo, too.

2) I think it was just a clever visual to underscore what was happening in the scene. Like at the end of the ep., when JA is startled to hear DH talking directly to her through the wiretapping app, we see her seated in front of a kettle that's boiling. (Things are really heating up? She feels she's in hot water?) When she was in the phone booth, we saw little else besides an idyllic view of cherry blossoms... and a big heap of trash. I wondered if that was there to symbolize her self-image. In any case, I've seen signs cleverly and/or cheekily used in other dramas as well, including in this writer's last drama.

2) Although DH was distraught about JA's disappearance, I'd say overall, he's not nearly as depressed as he was in the beginning of the series. And in addition to all the other even more compelling considerations that would deter him from committing suicide atm, I feel he's much too protective of JA to even consider leaving without making sure she's okay.

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Nice insight!

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This episode was amazing.

I have never been for the marriage being saved and this ep, for me, really brought that home.
It was the scene at Jung-hee's bar. This is what Yoon-hee tried to take from him and the family. And this is also the community she wanted him to disengage from, these people who are as happy for him and her as if it happened to them personally.
What Ji An did to Director Park was horrible and yet I conveniently pushed it and the possible repercussions out of my mind as I came to care so much for our heroine.
I honestly hope this is not a tragic story, I think that would ruin it for me. Especially if the tragic happens to Ji An. It would honestly piss me off. The whole redeemed by death.

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I teared up during the scenes when DH was being congratulated for becoming a director. Even though he was fretting about JA's disappearance, and even though the promotion doesn't magically solve most of his problems, it still was a joy to behold him finally getting the recognition he's deserved and being celebrated so warmly. Even his co-workers were over the moon about it. And it's just so wonderful to see DH smile because it happens so rarely!

"What Ji An did to Director Park was horrible and yet I conveniently pushed it and the possible repercussions out of my mind as I came to care so much for our heroine." That's probably true of most of us.

And I'm with you: this had better not turn into a tragedy! Luckily, I'm not too worried about that.

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His promotion was such a bright spot for everyone and us the veiwers. It gave even more insight to his character that everyone was so happy for him.

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That scene showed us that Dong-hoon was loved by his juniors and the people who work under him. People in the company know that he's a good person, a good worker, and he really deserves to become a director.

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Based on lollypip opinion on their undefinable relationship and the time that they are presence in each other's lives.....I am so afraid that death is a possiblity. I hope I am wrong but same like you, I am strongly not welcoming the idea of saving the marriage. His heart is already at the door.

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I'm probably going to be watching through my fingers, lol.

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I think the word healing was used a lot during the promos especially regarding Dong Hoon and Ji An's relationship so I never for one second thought there would be death at the end. I fully expect them both to be happier at the end of the drama than the beginning but have no idea what form that happiness will take, I'm just hoping a satisfactory one for me as a viewer.

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Ep 14 left me in SHAMBLES (not saying the previous eps didn't do the very same to me, lol). I see a lot of ways DH and Jian's relationship can end and that's the beauty of this drama. It can be any number of plausible scenarios if we imagine. Truly brilliant writing and directing. I'm fine with DH x Jian progressing to a romantic relationship or remaining platonic (most likely the latter will happen), as long as it's somewhat of a happy ending with the 2 of them having better outlooks on life.

- DH and Jian's phone convo. THE WAVERING SOUND OF HIS BREATH! My gawd lord have mercy on me. I felt hesitancy and urgency in his words and voice. He was reluctant to say goodbye to her on the call (and in irl)
- Jian standing by Junghee's side without question, doing what she does best, comforting people without much words.
- DH getting the Director position! I love seeing the good win. And we can bare witness to everyone there who's truly happy for a good man's success. No ill feelings even from his contenders.
- Hooray for new beginnings for Junghee. They needed that talk about SangWon, I'm so glad that happened.
- DH's karaoke song choice was a very impactful scene for me. The lyrics tell a lot about his current state. "I didn't leave my heart in a place where the chilly breeze blows...my love doesn't linger in that place where the golden sun sets...my love does not linger in that cozy place near the lake in the green forest. Ah, if I so happen to think about it, I stay up all night because I have a person I miss. If I stop to think, it's a very distant place, and so it drenches this lonely heart of mine with tears." This could be in reference to his relationship with Jian and with Yoonhee. Both are distant places of love, one with a wife who cheated, and one with a young adult who he's more than just thankful for but can't ask her to stay in his life knowing the feelings she has for him, and not knowing how to define how he feels about her either.
- THAT PUNCH when Jooyoung thought of DH and Jian's relationship as sleazy. THE IMMEDIATE ANGER IN DH's PUNCH. MY HEART TT_TT
- Finally, the way he held his phone back in the theater, clenching it with both hands before mustering up "Lee Jian. Lee Jian. Call me."

How am I going to let this drama go after next weeks finale? I CAN'T. I'M NOT READY.

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* on the scene when Ji-an called him, he held his tears...
* on the scene where held his phone: he held it dearly...

Oh, my heart..... :(

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You said it best chingu ❤️ And thanks for metioning the lyrics of that song.

The scene where he wanted so much to tell her and to receive a reply from her over the directorial post promotion, only to get an operator voice that the number is no longer in service is killing me. That drop in his face. That expression of knowing he has no more means left to hold her in his life anymore. My heart breaks for him.

And everytime DH sneaked a glance at her desk is so heartbreaking. The desk is empty and he knows it, but maybe deep inside he hopes that her absence is just an illusion, that in fact, she is still there. That is obvious when his eyes widened when he saw the new temp walking towards what used to be JA's desk.

And that final blow on JY. It's interesting how JY said it directly to both of them of how much DH and JA actually love each other (though he didn't word them nicely to DH). It's a hard truth for DH when someone actually pointed out to him what he has been in denial of, or more appropriately of what he has been so confused of or perhaps, never really come to understand.

If DH can choose to forgive JA and not seeing an ounce of betrayal in this, that is definitely LOVE - acceptance as a whole be it good or bad.

Again, thanks for you lovely comment.

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Have they showed JA and DH in split screen like this before?
Not that it means anything it just stood out to me.

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JY's assumption that the prospect of humiliation governs (and therefore restricts) DH, and DH's reaction to it, is the thesis statement of this series. When the production team classified this as a 'healing drama', there was some side-eye from me, but DH's slow unraveling, or uncorking, is less about losing control and more about regaining it. His decisive response -- going to the movie theatre, leaving his phone, taking care of business, then calling on JA -- feels like a real sea change for DH's character.

YH crying upon leaving the bar was the first real display of empathy she has exhibited towards DH. I'm glad she felt for him, and I think, if she didn't understand before, she comprehends now the extent of DH's capacity for silent suffering.

GD and JH is a storyline that I just want to luxuriate in. I believe they are foils for DH and JA, particularly when JA stood beside JH. It was an act of solidarity, a sympathetic acknowledgement of the pain of unrequited yearning, and I ached for both of them.

My opinion on the JA/DH relationship: it's intense, compassionate love. JA doesn't just like DH -- she loves him. She runs to him, she measures his breathing, she cries when he cries, she would destroy the world for him. She loves him. This is a given. DH is the cipher, and because he is, the relationship takes on more shades, more depth. To get literary, I am reminded of a line from Jane Eyre, which applies to them both:

"I have a strange feeling with regard to you. As if I had a string somewhere under my left ribs, tightly knotted to a similar string in you. And if you were to leave I'm afraid that cord of communion would snap. And I have a notion that I'd take to bleeding inwardly."

They have a communion of the soul. And the trepidation we feel is of that communion fracturing, or being treated in some common, offhand way.

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Lovely quote.

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I like your wild imagination. You must lead a very excitable life

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"GD and JH is a storyline that I just want to luxuriate in. I believe they are foils for DH and JA, particularly when JA stood beside JH. It was an act of solidarity, a sympathetic acknowledgement of the pain of unrequited yearning, and I ached for both of them."

ahhhgggg... your comments break my heart and heal them at the same time... this is beautiful. I say it again my love for my girl Ji An knows no bounds... this girl is an old soul... she said it right...she is 30,000 years old... her capacity for empathy is the reason she was able to reach Dong Hoon out of his walking dead state (which none of the people in Dong Hoon's life was able to do) and got Dong Hoon to finally come back and engage with Life again... She is thinking Dong Hoon was the one who helped her a lot but the thing is she helped him as much or even more so just by being with him.

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"They have a communion of the soul. And the trepidation we feel is of that communion fracturing, or being treated in some common, offhand way."

Beautiful response and so well written and the thoughts are just perfect.
thank you for writing these words.

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YAS!!! OMG, this "Jane Eyre" quote is one of the best ways to express their bond. And I love this book soooooo much.

Actually, even DH whispering at the phone for JA to call him remind me of Jane Eyre, listening Mr. Rochester crying out for her, even when she was miles aways from him.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but Jane Eyre is actually way younger than Mr. Rochester too, right?

I need to read this book again, ASAP.

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You're correct. Jane is eighteen or nineteen and Rochester is thirty-eight.

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You explain your thoughts so eloquently! Love your comment!

I agree, JA loves DH. It is from her that I get more of the 'romantic' kind of love. I also noticed how something as simple as DH's breathing can give JA comfort, and the drama has shown a lot of scenes where she's just listening to him breathe. They're amazing scenes to show directorially 'cos it shows how DIFFERENT the love/regard the two have for each other are

"They have a communion of the soul." - Wonderfully said!

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I lost in words in describing this episode, and how much I like this episode. I had mixed feelings I can't even describe. Looking at his team happily congratulating him to become a director, while at the same time he looked so lost and devastated Ji-an is no longer there. He knew something is lost, but he couldn't say it.

"Lee Ji-an, call me..." brought me tears, and I kept repeating that scene.

By the way, was it "Peppermint Candy" the movie DH watching?

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I checked at soompi and it is, the movie that featured Sol Kyung Gu. They said there is a parallelism with the movie because right before DH called ou