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Familiar Wife: Episode 2

Joo-hyuk is having a very interesting day, as he finds himself twelve years in the past, on the most crucial day of his life. He’s realizing that his life isn’t anything like he expected to be, and that he’s not happy. So when he sees an opportunity to change all that, it’s no surprise that he jumps at it. If you could go back and change your biggest regret, wouldn’t you want to see what lies down the road not traveled?

 
EPISODE 2: “Life is a maze full of choices.”

Joo-hyuk uses one of the coins the doomsayer from the train gave him at a tollbooth, and the next thing he knows, his car goes out of control and he wakes up in 2006, back in college. He recognizes the date as the day that his crush, Hye-won, asked him out, and although he leaves his room a bit more cautiously than last time, he still gets hit by a bowl of wash water the same as he did in 2006.

He wonders if he’s dreaming, but everything feels too realistic. He stubs his toe on a newsstand and overhears a couple of teenage girls complaining about Brad and Angelina’s marriage being too perfect, remembering that all this happened before. He knows when he’s about to run into Hye-won, and he’s struck dumb by the sight of his old flame, looking exactly as she did ten years ago. She invites him to the concert just as he expects, and he accepts like before.

But then, instead of swerving to miss the scooter that nearly hit him the first time around, Joo-hyuk forgets to move and is knocked unconscious. He wakes in his own bed back in the present, and when his wife Woo-jin comes in, he asks her what day it is. She tells him it’s August 29, 2018, and Joo-hyuk is surprised that it’s Wednesday, and not Friday like it should be.

Joo-hyuk waves it off and assumes that what just happened must have been a dream after all. Woo-jin tells Joo-hyuk that he got himself home just fine last time, but after she leaves for work, he wonders why he doesn’t remember anything after losing control of the car. Flustered, he doesn’t notice the small scar that suddenly appears on his right wrist.

Joo-hyuk heads to work, meeting his friend Jong-hoo on the way for a food cart breakfast sandwich. He asks Jong-hoo if he’s ever had a dream so vivid that it felt real, so Jong-hoo says he once dreamed he was dating Han Hyo-joo, and afterward her kissing scenes made him angry, hee.

He tells Joo-hyuk that he’s just stressed lately and invites him to play video games after work, but Joo-hyuk pouts that his game system broke. He suddenly notices his new scar, but Joo-hyuk says that he’s had that ever since he’s known him. Weird.

On the way into the office, a pair of female employees say they’re going on a coffee run, and Jong-hoo hilariously fakes a call from his wife and abandons Joo-hyuk to pay. He reluctantly hands over his credit card, and they end up buying coffee for the whole office on him. But they forget to get one for Branch Manager Cha, forcing Joo-hyuk to hand his over.

Joo-hyuk goes to fill the ATMs for the day, and while he’s there, someone answers his ad looking for a used game system. It’s a good price, so Joo-hyuk rushes to close up the ATM so he can show Jong-hoo the amazing deal, and he makes arrangements to meet with the seller after work.

At her job as an aesthetician, Woo-jin deals with a spoiled, demanding customer (“I’m so exhausted from my trip to Bali!” Barf). The customer snaps at her for obviously upselling when she mentions a new skincare line, cooing condescendingly that she guesses Woo-jin has to sell something, either cosmetics or her conscience.

Joo-hyuk is anxious to leave at the end of the day, but his last customer forgot her ID and asks him to wait while she goes home for it. Knowing that he’ll miss the meeting time with the game console seller, Joo-hyuk offers to push her loan through without the ID, getting her promise to bring her ID in tomorrow.

Joo-hyuk goes looking for Branch Manager Cha to ask permission, but he’s out of the office, so Joo-hyuk logs into the computer with Branch Manager Cha’s password. He overrides the loan approval without authorization, then asks Manager Byun if he can leave for the day. He gets permission, and heads out to meet the console seller.

Meanwhile, Woo-jin gets a call from her mother’s landlord, who’s upset at the junk piling up outside her mother’s apartment door. Woo-jin’s mom appears to have early dementia which has led to some hoarding behavior, and Woo-jin yells that she can’t just let unusable things pile up.

While Woo-jin is still there, Mom calls out to her husband, and before Woo-jin can remind her that her father died years ago, she asks when Woo-jin got there. Oof. The landlord tells Woo-jin that her mother is getting worse and needs to be in a nursing home.

Joo-hyuk meets the console seller and carefully checks the machine, which he learns is for sale because the owner’s wife told him to get rid of it the day he bought it. The seller is pretty upset, but he whines that he values his life, and Joo-hyuk promises to cherish the console.

Sang-shik wilts when a lottery ticket turns out to be a dud, and Joo-hyuk’s sister Joo-eun says he may as well donate his money for the good karma. They bicker over Joo-eun’s tendency to work at her part-time convenience store job, study, and work out at the same time.

Woo-jin arrives, so Sang-shik nervously sidles out of the store. Joo-eun asks if Joo-hyuk is busy lately, since she never sees him, and Woo-jin nods vaguely. She asks about a friend of Joo-eun’s who works at a nursing home, wondering how much it costs, and the amount makes her cringe.

Unaware, Joo-eun says that the children usually split the costs, but as she’s already complained that she barely has any money, Woo-jin’s mood sinks even lower. Joo-eun tries to tease Woo-jin out of her funk by joking that she’ll never find a boyfriend if she doesn’t wear makeup, but it doesn’t work.

No fool, Joo-hyuk covers his new game console with a trash bag to smuggle it into the spare room and successfully hides it. That night in bed, Woo-jin starts to tell Joo-hyuk something, but she changes her mind. Instead, she asks if he thinks he’ll be getting a promotion soon, but he just stammers that he’s not sure.

Joo-hyuk asks why Woo-jin hasn’t visited her mother lately, and why her mom never makes the kimchi he likes anymore. Instead of telling him about her mom’s decline, Woo-jin snaps at him to make the kimchi himself if he wants it.

Joo-hyuk pretends to go to the bathroom and heads to the spare room to fire up his new game console. He shuts it off and hides it again when he hears the baby cry.

In the morning, Joo-hyuk gets a call from Hwan, who’s already at the bank and scared — the audit team is there. Joo-hyuk worries that it’s about the loan he approved with Branch Manager Cha’s log-in and without ID, so he calls the customer and impersonates Branch Manager Cha, saying that he needs her ID right away.

Over at the bank, the audit team leader tells Branch Manager Cha that this audit is because some personal information was leaked from their branch. They find that the leak originated from Hwan’s desk, while Joo-hyuk, still thinking this is because of him, calls Jong-hoo to have him stall for time until he gets there.

He goes to the customer’s workplace, but she’s in the middle of a presentation, which will take about an hour. So Joo-hyuk crashes the presentation, pretending to be bringing drinks and ending up in front of the customer, looking at her expectantly.

Jong-hoo attempts to slow down the audit by asking the team leader if they went to the same school, failing spectacularly. He’s forced to tell Manager Byun what’s happening, so Manager Byun gets in on the stall tactics by pretending to trip and drop the vault keys, which Jong-hoo then kicks under the copier. They pretend that it’s going to be sooo hard to get the keys out, until Hwan is all, “Here they are.” Brat.

Joo-hyuk gets the copy of the customer’s ID and takes a taxi to the bank, only to find the entire office staring at him accusingly. Busted. Manager Byun chastises him in front of everyone, informing him that he even got Branch Manager Cha in trouble, and that there’s no way he’s getting that promotion to team leader.

Jong-hoo finds Joo-hyuk on the roof, ready to throw himself off out of guilt. He rants that he’s been depressed, and the idea of the new game console got him so excited that he lost his mind. Jong-hoo promises magnanimously that when he’s made team leader, he’ll look the other way whenever Joo-hyuk is late, but that just makes Joo-hyuk feel worse.

He asks if he should quit, but Jong-hoo cutely reminds him that he doesn’t own land or buildings, so he can’t afford to quit. They scream over the building edge at the hypothetical owners of the nearby buildings that life is unfair: “Enjoy your wealth! I want a comfortable, fabulous life, too!”

At home, Woo-jin gets the kids to sleep then surveys their messy apartment. She cleans up as best she can, and as she’s putting things way in the spare room, she finds Joo-hyuk’s contraband game console (he wasn’t very smart to hide it behind the diapers). When Joo-hyuk gets home, he goes to the spare room to see the trash bag his console was in on the floor, empty.

He goes looking for Woo-jin and finds her in the bathroom with his console in the bathtub, covered with water. He tries to rescue it as she reminds him that his dead console was supposed to be his last, since they can’t afford to spend money on games.

She cuts him off every time he tries to speak, and eventually he yells at her to stop interrupting him, and to listen to him sometimes before going off. He defends that he didn’t use their living expenses to buy the console, but his own money that he saved for years.

Woo-jin growls that he doesn’t understand her, but Joo-hyuk complains that he always has to be the understanding one. He says that he just wants to be able to rest at home, but he’s more exhausted at home than at work because his wife is more difficult than his customers.

He storms out, but only gets as far as the building steps before he starts to feel bad about his outburst. He heads to Sang-shik’s bar, but it’s closed because his friend has a cold. Jong-hoo is out running errands, leaving Joo-hyuk with nobody to talk to, so he scrolls through his contact list and runs across Hye-won’s number.

Wisely, he scrolls past it and instead calls his colleague whose mom recently passed. He goes over to visit, but the guy’s mom is there, shocking Joo-hyuk, since he very clearly remembers going to her funeral. The strange part is that she supposedly died in an accident while on her way to her son’s place to bring food, yet she’s here now on that very same errand. On his way home Joo-hyuk wonders how the woman could be dead one day and alive the next.

Suddenly, he remembers his ultra-vivid dream and how when he woke, he was shocked to find that it’s Wednesday and not Friday. Not to mention his mysterious new scar and the crazy out-of-control car. He thinks that maybe it wasn’t a dream after all, and decides to try to recreate the events that led to the strange flashback.

He finds the billboard he saw that night, but the tollbooth isn’t where he expects it to be. He backtracks, then goes to look for the tollbooth again, and this time it’s there. Creepy. He flips the second coin from the train doomsayer into the basket, then continues on expectantly.

Soon he sees the same strange purple glow in the sky, and his GPS starts to malfunction just like before. The car takes over, and after reaching a frightening speed, it disappears.

Joo-hyuk wakes up in bed in his dorm room with Joo-eun knocking on his door. He pops up happily, realizing that it worked, and he’s back at the day in 2006 when Hye-won asked him out. He lets Joo-eun in, kicks Sang-shik to get up, then runs to cover up the porn before Joo-eun sees it.

He heads out to campus, and this time he stops the neighbor before she throws water on him and avoids tripping over the newsstand he usually bangs his toes on. He tells the teenage girls who are always whining about Brad and Angelina getting married, “They get divorced later, so just focus on studying.” LOL.

Joo-hyuk makes sure he’s in place for Hye-won’s arrival and grins to himself when she calls out his name. He waits for her invitation to the concert and accepts happily, then deftly sidesteps the scooter deliveryman who usually mows him down. Later he gets ready for his date and goes to catch his bus.

He’s momentarily frozen when he sees young Woo-jin at the bus stop. He can’t help but notice how happy she looks, and wonders why that happy expression looks so unfamiliar. He even checks out her legs in her short skirt, making her frown at him.

This time, when the groper grabs Woo-jin, Joo-hyuk wants to speak up but stops himself. Eventually another woman says that she saw the guy grabbing Woo-jin, and when the cops come to take the guy away and Woo-jin gets in the cop car, Joo-hyuk thinks, “Goodbye, Seo Woo-jin. And have a good life.”

He realizes that he’s running late and steals someone’s taxi, and this time around, he finds Hye-won still waiting for him at the concert hall. During the concert, he badly wants to hold Hye-won’s hand, and she notices and teases to focus on the music.

After the show and dinner, Hye-won tells Joo-hyuk that she hates men who use money to charm women, and prefers sincere men. She says shyly that he’s that sort of man, then gives him a sweet little kiss. Joo-hyuk moves in and kisses Hye-won again, then everything fades away.

He wakes up in the present again, and he jumps out of bed, gasping for air. He turns to the woman in the bed, wondering if it’s Hye-won or Woo-jin. He slowly reaches out to her, and she turns in her sleep to face him… and it’s Hye-won.

Joo-hyuk is so happy he nearly cries, as his old bedroom transforms into a larger, fancier one. The calendar shows that he’s woken up on Friday , June 1st instead of Wednesday, August 30th, as he does a quiet little happy dance on the bed, thrilled that his plan worked.

Elsewhere in the city, Woo-jin jogs on a bridge over the Han River, looking relaxed and happy.

 
COMMENTS

Interesting. It figures there would be some time travel back-and-forth as Joo-hyuk tried to fix his mistakes, but I didn’t anticipate Joo-hyuk to figure out what happened and deliberately set out to change his life so soon. But I got my wish, that Joo-hyuk ends up with Hye-won in this new timeline, so I’m very eager to see where the story goes next. It was interesting that Joo-hyuk struggled for a moment when it was time to ignore Woo-jin on the bus, and that his internal goodbye seemed so sad. It wasn’t as easy for Joo-hyuk to give up the life he knows as I thought it would be, and he really did seem to feel the weight of what he was letting go. It was a taste of the regret he’s going to feel later when he decides to try to get his wife, and life, back, and made me feel like this story is going to take us to some really interesting places.

I realize that I was a little focused on Joo-hyuk’s wrongdoing in his marriage in the first recap, so I want to clarify that that’s not because I’m on Woo-jin’s side or think she hasn’t done some wrong of her own. But since the first episode focused on Joo-hyuk (and it’s really his story, after all), I kept most of my comments limited to him. Woo-jin is certainly no saint — her anger may be justified, but she’s definitely out of control, and it’s never okay to scream in someone’s face or throw things at them. She gets angry in situations that don’t call for such an extreme reaction, and treats Joo-hyuk terribly in public. But I also notice that she used to be bright, cheerful, and happy, and while Joo-hyuk hasn’t changed much since college, Woo-jin is practically a different person.

She doesn’t even tell him about her mother’s mental illness, which tells me that whatever is wrong in their marriage, it’s been wrong for quite some time if she feels she can’t lean on her husband. Maybe I identify with Woo-jin a little too much because I’ve been where she is (in my case it was a mountain bike, not a game console), but I definitely don’t agree with her destroying Joo-hyuk’s console. First of all, it was just cruel, and second, it was stupid to ruin it when her complaint was the money it cost — she could have just had him sell it like the first owner.

I do think Woo-jin was unfair to be so angry with Joo-hyuk over buying the console without even asking him about it, and I felt he was justified in telling her to stop talking over him all the time and let him explain. Like he said, he saved for it for years, and it’s not like Woo-jin has been honest with him about their expenses… she must have been aware for quite some time that her mother would need a nursing home eventually, but she hasn’t even told Joo-hyuk about her mom’s illness, much less her looming financial needs. But Woo-jin is already worried about money and her mother’s mental decline, and she’s so conditioned to fly into a rage at everything Joo-hyuk does, that she goes too far.

At this point in their marriage I think that divorce isn’t too drastic of a solution, so I’m very curious to see how Joo-hyuk’s apparent good fortune at landing Hye-won as his new-timeline wife changes things. I anticipate the answer to that to be: not much. Having a different wife won’t change Joo-hyuk’s fundamental nature, and although it looks like they have a slightly nicer home and likely no children, that doesn’t mean that Joo-hyuk’s irresponsible nature and unrealistic “man of the house” expectations will be any different. But for now, everyone seems happy — Joo-hyuk has the wife he wants and what appears to be a beautiful home, while Woo-jin looks healthy and contented. Right now the switch seems like it’s put everyone in a better place, so I’m very eager to see the truth that makes Joo-hyuk change his mind and wish for his old life back.

 
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Wow I'm honestly so disappointed that he left her alone on the bus to be groped by a stranger, even if you aren't in love at the moment you were in love at some point and I find it hard to believe that he ever cared about her if he couldn't muster up any feelings at that point. I'll keep watching to see how Joo-hyuk is able to redeem himself (if it all), but I mainly hope Woo Jin is single and fabuous without him

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He looked to me like he was struggling with his decision to stay out of it. And yes, I want to see her having a wonderful life without him.

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I saw him wrestle with that decision also. And honestly I think he was about to speak up anyway, knowing it would cost him his date with Hye Won *again*, but then the lady spoke up and he didn't have to. At least that's the way it appeared to me.

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To intervene means a continuation of his marriage and he chose to let others, hopefully, to be civic and change his fate, that’s the intention - a win win

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I know it's bad of him doing that, but I kinda understand his stand. He doesn't want to be involved with Woo Jin anymore. He saw how the happy Woo Jin back in those days and realized that Woo Jin is not happy with him. He might think it's best for them to be strangers and lead a different life.

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“He saw how the happy Woo Jin back in those days and realized that Woo Jin is not happy with him. ”

Nah, he had an agenda going back and used her single moment of joy to justify his decision

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I'm totally sympathetic to her too. It will be interesting to see how she fares without him.

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lemme be honest and transparent here I basically love the wife because she's pretty. I see her doing wrong and I'm like "but it's okay tho i mean look at that face"

Seeing her running, smiling I don't think I'll ever NOT be on her side

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You know, my Mom used to try and manipulate me emotionally, whining and complaining that she has to do all the tiny little things that no one does and acts like the world will collapse... if no one mops the floor for a week. Or if no one does the dishes immediately. Or if no one does some sort of chore.

Unfortunately for her, I am a dull thunk rock who cannot be bothered with her "nonsense". I'm not here to hear someone screaming at me while trying to make herself be a martyr. And I practically let her stew in her anger and self-pity herself. And then she got the message.

Has she ever asked him to sit down and discuss what she needs without screaming? If you don't say a thing, if you don't clearly state your expectations, don't expect others to be able to read your mind, and don't fly into a rage just because someone didn't. That thing about her being stressed about Mom and not saying anything but taking it out on him is completely her fault. Marriage isn't about everyone sharing all burdens equally. People have different capabilities. It's always about 2 people complementing each other and figuring their way out of life together.

But she never lets him talk and she never communicates what she expects. Screaming at someone is not communicating. But god damn, those expectations are high. I don't agree he's a man-child. He's pretty much your average bumbling man.

Just like how murderers cannot be pardoned just because they had a difficult/traumatic childhood, I cannot accept that WooJin's dangerous and mean behaviour should be excused or accepted because JooHyuk isn't a good (or even average) husband.

And women definitely don't need men, but IMHO, it's unfair to judge them as detrimental to women either, as if we're just slaves to their behaviour.

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What I learnt from my mom was that not all events and to-do hold the same priority for everyone.

What she thinks is important, may not be that important to him and she needs to communicate why it should be instead of flying into a rage and confusing people. They are married, for goodness sake.

And he needs to god damn learn that some things are just that important. What the hell is logging into your boss' account and overriding the need for an ID?!

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I agree that destroying the console was a terrible move. It was just spiteful and a manisfestation of her accumulated resentment. But, I'll like to point out as seen in ep1's flashbacks, that Woo-jin's always been the straightforward type. She knows what she wants and she's not shy to spell it out to Joo Hyuk. For her to have turned into this person now, only shows what has transpired during those "missing" years which the show has not revealed yet. I just feel maybe she's done talking nice..perhaps efforts to speak frankly like how she used to do when she was younger has been futile and she's resorted to screaming to get her point across. I might be wrong, but sometimes I feel people cut others off mid-speech because they feel like THEY are not being heard. People often hear, but not listen. And it looks like they are both desperately fighting for the other to listen.

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Nope, I'm with you. I agree destroying the game system was wrong, but I also see that is where she officially gave up on him. She didn't scream, her anger just became cold. The fact that, that was probably the most honest conversation that they had had in years is something else. He should have told her he was buying the game. Everyone needs a release for something so I understand him wanting the game, however what is her release. What does she have for herself? That being said I am firmly on the wife's side too.

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Thank you for the recap, LollyPip. I found this episode painful to watch (in terms of content, not acting). Joo-hyuk and Woo-jin are so terrible to each other. Joo-hyuk is immature and doesn't pull his weight with domestic duties, and is carelessly inconsiderate (I consider that a former of emotional abuse). And Woo-jin....sigh. That scene where she destroyed the game console was so mean-spirited. She's also emotionally abusive. Right now, I just want them apart. No redo. Let them find their best lives away from each other.

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Looking forward to see how the show goes now that Hye-won is Joo-hyuk's wife in the present. Woo-jin and Joo-hyuk definitely needs some time apart to grow without each other and live their best lives. The first two episodes did not make me feel sucked in to the plot so thank heavens the leads are great at acting, otherwise I have already dropped this show 20 mins in the first ep. I'm still hoping that the writer could use some magic and make me like the characters, or the plot at least.

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Thanks for the timely recap, as always, @lollypip !

I must admit it was a bit boring to spend so much time in the new-ish present-time (with scar) because I am so eager to see he's alternative timeline life with Hye-Won (as it will slowly descend into unhappiness)...but what made it worth it was seeing his colleague's mother alive. Apparently, the butterfly effect is in operation.

While it was a bit sad to see Ji Sung violate a part of who he is - someone who at the core is caring and willing to stick up for people and help others in need - when he decided to ignore Woo-jin's distress on the bus at being groped, we all knew it had to happen in order for him to "change" his destiny. But, I love how torn he was about it - one can tell he does love his wife, despite all the heartache and problems - since he bid her farewell in such a sad way.

So, I'm trying to keep a tally of all the "butterfly effect" changes in this episode:
- Ji Sung actually wakes up his friend Sang-shik awake (rather than his sister)
- He dodges the bowl of water
- He also dodges the scooter
- He doesn't stick up for Woo-jin but an ahjumma does
- He steals a taxi from someone in order to make it to the concert in time
- He actually makes the concert

Is that pretty much it? This is so exciting! I can't wait until the next episode! Let the alternative present begin!

P.S. I wonder, since he returned to June and not August, if he has a limited time to consider and choose this alternative before his " trial period" ends. And if so, how will he return to his old life? Hmmm...

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Ha! Thanks for catching my mistake! Totally unintentional. I have no idea why I called the lead actor by his actual name rather than the name of the character! Whoops!

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I just write whichever name I can remember. I'm terrible with names. I can barely remember my own.

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I don't think I can say with certainty that either one of them is more at fault here, though I must say, I find myself becoming aggravated by the wife's behaviour more often. While Joo Hyuk is childish, he works from morning till night at the bank. He wouldn't have time to do chores /I see people bring this up against him a lot/ but he does help out with the children. I think everyone has the right to relieve stress so Woo Jin destroying his console so heartlessly pissed me off. And I guess that's the problem, she has no way to relieve stress. The other thing, her mom's illness made it clear she doesn't want to communicate with him. He asked about her mom, she said nothing. He keeps on trying to tell her why he messes up, she doesn't listen and becomes abusive. He might be a manchild but she keeps everything to herself, which makes her angry and stressed and then ends up venting on him. I just really hate those scenes where they scream and yell in front of the kids, that's not healthy and good for them. I don't care how angry they are, they are harming the children.

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I don't quite get the part about the female employees' coffee run. I thought they just wanted to get coffee, but why did Joohyuk have to give them a treat, and not just them but the whole office too! Is this something unique to Korean culture?

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I am giving this drama 2 more eps, because I want to see the wife's rewards and the husband's comeuppance... if the show doesn't get better by then I'm dropping it. Also I would like to compare this to "GBC" because the premise is similar.

1. In "GBC" I liked both the husband and the wife, even though they were fighting bitterly in the beginning. I could see where each of them where coming from. Also both of them were doing their best in being a husband/wife (him working to provide for his family, and her taking care of the house and the child-rearing), but the pressure they were under caused them to snap at each other. The catalyst for the divorce was a misunderstanding that he was cheating on her (a convincing misunderstanding).

1. In Familiar Wife, the division of labor is not fair and the wife is shouldering far more responsibilities while the husband is childish and checked out of the relationship. To think that knowing all the financial stress they are under, he still secretly spends money on silly video games is unforgivable. Also he does his job half-heartedly and left early to play that silly video game, which caused the mistake and caused him to lose any chance he had of getting promoted. He is a complete loser and failure, who is not doing his duty not as a husband or as a father. It is hard for me at this point to even believe that he loves his wife, while leaving her under all that stress.

2. In GBC a miracle happened out of both their control, and they went back in time to 1999. No party deliberately went back to change the past, because both loved their child and would not have consciously chosen to erase his existence.

2. In Familiar Wife, this loser husband deliberately went back in time and changed the events so that he would get the present he wants, with his first love (I hope his bubble bursts soon). So he deliberately erased his children from existence without a thought. I really don't see how he can be redeemed from that. From what we see in these first two eps, he doesn't care about his children at all, and barely/rarely helps in taking care of them.

Basically "Go Back Couple" the superior drama like I said before, because it was more balanced in the portrayal of husband and wife. In Familiar Wife, I am 100% on the wife's side.

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"To think that knowing all the financial stress they are under, he still secretly spends money on silly video games is unforgivable. Also he does his job half-heartedly and left early to play that silly video game, which caused the mistake and caused him to lose any chance he had of getting promoted."

1, he said he'd been collecting the money for that consol for years, he'd used a really dated one 2, it was said he is one of the best employee in the bank -the female co workers said it explicitly- and he messed up this once, just right before promotion.

I don't think you have the right to call the husband the only one at fault in this relationship, especially when she is emotionally abusive. Both made this relationship toxic.

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The show clearly shows him as someone who is constantly late to work, even though he doesn't help around the house (so there would at least be an excuse as to why), and his direct supervisor is frustrated with him. The sequence when he picks a coffee cup from the trash to pretend that he'd been there, and that he wasn't late (which doesn't work, since everyone already knows his antics).

He saved that money secretly without discussing it with his wife, while his family is struggling financially, and his wife has to work outside the house and do the housework and child-rearing with zero support from him.

For me, what he does is indefensible, plain and simple. Someone as childish, selfish and irresponsible as him has no business getting married, or forming a family.

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Pt. 2 about the children is what is keeping me on the fence about this drama; how is it that he didn't even spare one thought to the children they had? Even if he has suffered due to his shrewish wife, did he not care even a bit for his kids, to be so thrilled with this new timeline wife?

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I love GBC, rooted for both of them together AND separately. Like, if the wife chose 2nd lead, I’d still be ok. The OTP loved each other and loved their child and each other’s in laws.

Here, I definitely dislike the husband and I can’t root for the abusive wife either. As bad as he is as a husband, she isn’t giving him any reason to be considerate towards her. She wouldn’t even give him a chance to say, “I was admitted to a hospital!” Their relationship is toxic and should come to an end.

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I am not sure where this drama is going for the leads. Are they going to fall in love again in this different scenario? But as for the first two episodes, I think they are both better off without each other as we can see on the preview that both Joo Hyuk and Woo Jin seem to live a successful life. If Joo Hyuk is married to Hye Won in the current timeline, and he can't help but falls in love with Woo Jin later on, I don't think I'd be able to accept that because that's him cheating on Hye Won. But I guess the writer will try her best to justify why the lead couples are meant to be together.

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Dude should learn to play games on his computer or phone.

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I'm still annoyed at Woo Jin for destroying the console when she could have simply have him return it. Her self-justified behavior is wrong and I'm glad Joo Hyuk said what he wanted to. Though it's a shame because the timeline just changed!

I would love to see an episode focused solely on Woo Jin's perspective though on their marriage and then with the new timeline where she is single. Just to see how her character has changed and if she's better off without Joo Hyuk!

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I'm on both sides, I guess. Or maybe I'm on neither side. I think both are unhappy and neither are being good spouses. I think both need to make some changes. I found both unlikable at points. I found both relatable at points. My concern is that the setup has the potential to put everything on JH.

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To anyone super defending him for his choice I think you need to be reminded that; while she clearly has anger issues and is out of control in her reactions, he didn’t just erase their life together. you need to be reminded that they have TWO CHILDREN! that he just casually, consciously, and gleefully erased from existence as well. If that doesn’t speak of his innate and overwhelming selfishness and explain all you need to know about what could have turned Woojin into what she is, then what does?

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Children is not the primary reason for a marriage whereas love and compatibility are hence his decision to change course, if granted, is an amoral one and normal

Normal because all of us would like to go back in time and correct our ill conceived actions, given a choice.

Don’t get overly judgmental, and saintly, over a very human story.

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Correct. Children should never be the reason to get married or stay married when your relationship is that toxic. But the fact remains that he chose to erase his children from existence just to escape his wife instead of grabbing ahold of any number of opportunities to change his life in the present.
And his children are a toddler and an infant. They Were together and married for a pretty decent amount of Time before they had kids so you can’t call him having a family with his wife of several years an ‘ill conceived action’. He’s tired of his angry now frumpy wife and wanted to be with the rich pretty girl instead without having to deal with the choices he made in life. That’s rotten selfishness to the core.

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He’s either too stupid to understand butterfly effect or too heartless to care. Either way, if I’m his kid, I’d send him a thank you card from nowhere — “Thank you for sparing me a lifetime of emotional pain. Let’s get together over coffee in hell.😉”

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this drama is reminding me of a cross between Groundhog Day and a J dorama called Zannen na Otto/Disappointing Husband...

the "disappointing husband" was also very immature and in the J dorama he was a collector/spender of all things American NBA... while the couple had an infant.

as a wife and mother, i was having a hard time finding it "funny" how he is opting to fulfill his first love fantasy -- but i trust this will go thru all the hoops and bring us back to where he belongs = with his wife and two adorable children.

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TBH, after watching both episodes. I am not on either side. Due, I think both WooJin and Joo-Hyuk is wrong and they need to communicate with each other. I need to know more about how Joo-Hyuk is with his two kids then a couple minutes. This will totally explain to me how he erase his two kids too. This is kind of remind me a psychic told me my fortune. She mention that to me even though I have family and friends around me. I feel lonely and alone. This is true as I do feel that way. She also mention that someone have stolen my life before I was born. Therefore, my life is not what I meant to have in the first place. 🤔🤔🤔 So, is that like a mistake of me having a hubby and three kids. She mention in order for me to go back to my life that meant for me is to get rid of everything of my present life. I though about it and thinking how is that even possible. So, yeah, I kind of don’t believe in that. Besides, I do love my husband and three kids even though they drive me crazy sometimes. Therefore, I want to see how Joo-Hyuk want to get back to his old life with Woojin and their two kids. I also, hope he redeem himself to be a better father and husband or he should let Woojin be herself without him but be happy with the two cute kids or Woojin with her new HOT hubby and two cute kids.

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I'm on neither side since them is so unlikable rn and I'm just wishing them to get a divorce asap. But I guess a new wife is what JH wanted? Well, at least they look happy in their future2.0 (or is it present life 2.0?) I'm pretty sure they are OTP at the end but thinking hyewon is just JH trial wife/starter wife makes me dislike him.

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I think that both sides contributed to the predicament they're in, being married and now heading to divorce, I understand how they got to where they are...people ask why they don't communicate and why the woman is constantly angry and screaming...I never got to that point of constant screaming but I can relate...
Sometimes in a marriage when things are never resolved and one has been carrying stress, resentment, frustration, tiredness, disappointment for a long time...it can come out in very unhealthy ways...the wife has reached the end of the rope and is just exploding...
For whatever reason I'm sure they haven't been able to talk or they have talked but no one "hears" the other and hence they are stuck in the motions...
Everyone who is suggesting they should simply talk, I dont think its just a matter of talking that would fix this...I think they're issues are much more complicated than meets the eye....
I'm not justifying their behaviors, but I can relate...because I have been there... where you can not bridge the gap and you're wondering how did this happen and both of you are long gone and it takes much more than talking to mend things....and you feel like you do not even know each other any more....in the beginning they had a quote that I could relate to...that love is a strange thing one day you love each other and the next you can become enemies...and you truly dont even know how you end up there...
they are barely surviving trying to keep up with work, juggling kids, stress and they do not have time to talk, communicate or build intimacy...
sometimes men do not want to talk...they shut down or avoid it...because they can't deal with feelings of failure so they resort to escapism behaviors such as drinking and other hobbies i.e the video game...He even said it when he was talking to his friends that he understands he isn't capable.
As women, we love to talk, we feel like we get heard when we talk and when we try to talk or don't get a chance to talk, we build resentment and it may come out either in passive aggressiveness, anger, bitterness, depression, pettiness etc
All those who can not understand them, have truly not been in a situation like that where nothing works...nothing is resolved and you just have to keep pushing...it goes that way until things are completely broken and most times people don't know how they got there its simply a pile up of many things over the years which seem "little"...
anyway on the new time line people keep saying he seems happy BUT we do not know that yet...wife 2.0 is still asleep she hasn't woken up...even tho they look richer...he has no idea what problems they have in this current timeline...she could be stuck up and may annoy him in other ways...all we saw is we saw HIM happy, but we do not know how his life actually is right now...what he does etc....that is what I'm curious to see.....I have a feeling he isn't as happy as he thinks he is in this new timeline either...

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I love Jisung but I have to give this up. Truly disappointing set up and characterizations. He purposely went back in time to go after another woman — what an as*hole. Divorce her if you can’t take it. Don’t dodge the “bad husband” tag by hitting reset. Now nobody will know he dumped his wife and kids for a prettier wife. Of course the story will probably go like changing his wife doesn’t solve his life problems. His failure at work is not even her fault, that’s all on him.

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OK I get that it's a lot more convenient to ignore this but the truth is, it's a different thing if you get a divorce- your kids would still exist. Does this man have no relationship with his kids whatsoever? I think one lacking part of these first 2 episodes is that it fails to adequately address the presence of their children. Sure, you can hate your spouse and yell at each other, but what parent goes and changes their life and doesn't immediately register the fact that they no longer have their kids?

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I don't know how to say this without me sounding like I'm making excuses for his character or a heartless freak, but I somehow got the vibe that he went back in time not knowing the full repercussions of his actions? Kind of like 'it worked once, let's see if this thing works out for real' and went in in hopes of changing his future not realizing what was at stake. He just wanted to get rid of his wife who was the bane of his existence, but didn't think as far as his children, whose existence would also be erased by his actions. That probably is very telling of the lacking relationship he has with them since he didn't think of them once. But somehow I don't want to write him off as a heartless child-killer because I just think he was super swept up in the moment. I know I know I'M MAKING EXCUSES. I'm just hoping he has the biggest crashing downfall when he realizes he's stuck in his new reality for real and it's not just a crazy fantasy. Also, maybe partially the reason I'm less disappointed by the lack of focus on children is because that was one of the biggest issues I had with Go Back Couple. I loved their child but it seemed to be the biggest factor in them getting back together and it didn't convince me of their love in the end. It's unrealistic to not focus on the couple's children and their longing for them because they're parents at the end of the day, but I don't think the romantic development should be sacrificed in its stead.

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I am really glad that Woo Jin's story is being told as much as Joo Hyuk's is. This episode showed she's under a lot of strain, and @lollypip is right, that she can't talk to her husband about it shows there is something fundamentally wrong with their marriage. I also cringed when Joo Hyuk didn't speak up on the bus, although I think if that other lady hadn't said anything he might have.

I thought it was so interesting how the little changes he made caused his present timeline to shift in ways that were both subtle and big. And now, this massive shift where he's obviously more wealthy, has the beautiful wife whose makeup doesn't smudge in bed lol, a big house and I wonder what his job is in the new timeline? But the next episodes will be interesting. Just because he changed his present, doesn't mean he's changed his ways.

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Its really unreasonable for the wife. I can get u are angry at your husband but to spoil his game console? when u can convinced him to resale it?? And raging at him in public? I understand its because she got mad at her husband but even when he was in an accident and she just don't care whatever the excuse and refuse to hear it its just plain sad. But ofc we not sure what happened in between them as well over the years, for now we only see the suffering from the husband side not yet seen what accumulated to result in this.

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