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The Third Charm: Episode 10

Remember when I said that we needed some major heartache to rattle our characters? Yeah, I take it all back. We have people getting burned left and right this episode, with the perpetrators being the one person they never wanted it from. A lot of damage is left to be dealt with, but there is still hope for healing. There is still hope for life to move on, and for life to present surprisingly better (and much healthier) opportunities.

 
EPISODE 10 RECAP

An excited Joon-young runs out to the beach to show Young-jae the fixed radio, only to stop at the sight of her talking to Ho-chul. She turns and sees him as well, shakily saying his name. She notices the radio in his hands and asks if he fixed it, to which he responds that he did. They just stand there, far apart, as Joon-young hangs his head and sheds a tear.

The next morning, the volunteer crew say their goodbyes to the locals. Joon-young returns the radio to the old man, who’s happy he’ll be able to cheer up his wife. He thanks Joon-young and encourages him and Young-jae to come back together some time.

On the boat ride home, Ho-chul is looking especially glum. Joon-young and Young-jae are no better, standing on opposite sides of the stern as they look out at the water.

Joon-young rests his head on his folded arms and narrates that he hated playing hide-and-seek as a kid. He’d feared that the other kids would never find him and that they would all go home without him. “Even now,” he continues, “I’m waiting to be found.”

He lies in bed that night, typing and deleting a bunch of texts to Young-jae. Finally, he gives up and calls her instead.

He asks her if she’s eaten, though that conversation doesn’t go anywhere. So they just say all the same things, trying to avoid anything other than casual talk. And when they run out of things to say completely, Joon-young reluctantly hangs up. He stares at his phone as Young-jae starts to cry.

Joon-young is still staring at his phone when Mom knocks on his door that morning. His folks are rushing to make it to work on time, but Joon-young stays where he is, his eyes full of tears as he scrolls through pictures of Young-jae. And later that day, he empties his car trunk to have it decorated at a store that specializes in love events. Oh no, don’t tell me…

Ho-chul is in a zombie-like state at work, lost in thought. He flashes back to that night on the beach when he’d expressed his feelings to Young-jae. We now see that she’d replied that she’d been swayed but not because of him. She apologized for not being able to accept his heart, which is when she’d turned to see Joon-young standing there.

Young-jae gets a text from Joon-young asking to meet up, and her expression immediately turns to one of dread. After work, she meets him in a quiet, cozy area outside. He’s nervous as he tries to ease into a question, but Young-jae interrupts him, insisting she needs to get something out first. I don’t think I can watch this; can I cop out?

She explains that she still loves him a lot, that he makes her laugh and that she’s always comfortable with him. She’s getting emotional as she says all this, making Joon-young try to cut in. But she has to say it: “Joon-young, let’s break up.”

He shakes his head, promising that he can do better, but Young-jae thinks that he’s always been good to her. So much so that she’s been feeling unbearably apologetic. She lets her tears fall as she says that it’s too hard for her now.

Joon-young tries to maintain a cheery voice and suggests they go to a café to continue this conversation. He runs over to the nearest café, stopping short when the lights go out. He stands there, trying so hard not to crumble, with Young-jae watching him.

“That’s right,” she narrates. “Love doesn’t change slowly, but in one moment. At first, you don’t realize it. Then you pretend that it hasn’t changed. You try so hard until it finally comes to an end.”

She watches as Joon-young runs all over the block, desperately searching for an open café. But no matter where he goes, each store has its light go out. Young-jae cries for him to stop, and something in her voice makes him listen.

Her narration continues that she doesn’t know when that one moment occurred, but she does know that the end has come. “Let’s stop this,” she says firmly. She then walks away, leaving Joon-young there, who’s still frozen in place as it all sinks in.

Some time passes, and Joo-ran gets ready to meet Soo-jae at the movie theater. She regrets agreeing to this when she was drunk, especially after sitting through what she thinks is a boring film.

Afterwards, Soo-jae waits for Joo-ran to use the ladies’ room. A woman walks into the lobby with her child in a stroller, and Soo-jae is shocked to see that it’s his ex-girlfriend Jung-eun. She’s just as shocked, and the two exchange awkward greetings.

Joo-ran comes out of the restroom and witnesses the whole thing, her expression softening as she realizes that this is a tense situation for Soo-jae.

Jung-eun’s husband then runs in and urges her to hurry into their theater. They walk past Soo-jae, though Jung-eun takes another look back. And with that, Soo-jae flashes back to seven years ago, sometime after his accident.

Jung-eun had willingly cared for Soo-jae in the hospital, and the two were still happy in love despite the hardship he’d just gone through. However, one night, Jung-eun was confronted by her sister, who had told her to stop living on false hope. Jung-eun argued that Soo-jae would get better, but the shakiness in her voice said otherwise. It cuts to Soo-jae sitting in the hall, listening as Jung-eun burst into tears.

From then on, Soo-jae started acting cold towards Jung-eun. He swiped his hospital food to the floor, frustrated further when Jung-eun bent down to clean it up. She ignored his remarks until he asked if she was scared that people would judge her for leaving him.

“Stop acting nice,” he said. “Go now.” And she did go, which put more work on Young-jae’s shoulders. Soo-jae was so heartbroken that he had to escape to the bathroom that night and drown out his sobbing by running the sink.

In the present, Soo-jae and Joo-ran go to a park (aw, she stayed with him). He tells her about everything he’s been doing since his accident, and noticing the sadness in her eyes, he assures her that the wheelchair hasn’t stopped his optimism.

Soo-jae listens to Joo-ran’s story too, understanding her desire to get married. He gives her consoling words, and in return, she tells him not to give up either, especially when it comes to dating.

Joon-young and his team are in the middle of a stakeout, protecting an old lover of Snakehead’s as she works. A big crowd goes into the shop, and Snakehead sneaks in with them to talk to his lover. She reacts badly, earning the attention of Officer Lee.

Panicking, Snakehead makes a run for it, with Joon-young’s team right behind him. They corner Snakehead and his lackeys and get ready to fight, but when Officer Lee opens Joon-young’s trunk to get their weapons, a banner with balloons floats out.

The banner reads “Young-jae, I can’t live without you. Will you marry me?” (And I don’t know if I want to cringe, laugh or cry.) Everyone is dumbfounded at the sight, and Officer Gong takes the opportunity to tackle Snakehead to the ground.

As Snakehead is questioned at the station, his lover comes in and cries that he should’ve just disappeared. Snakehead cries as well, apologizing for never being good enough for her. But he promises to do his time in jail and asks for her forgiveness.

His lover embraces him, and Joon-young watches the interaction sadly. Snakehead is then taken away, but he stops and turns to Joon-young. “Thanks for catching me,” he says, genuine. “And, hey, make sure you marry Young-jae.”

After drinking with his team, Joon-young stumbles home and notices a car parked outside. There’s a couple rolling around inside, making out, and oh shit, it’s Sang-hyun and Ri-won.

Sang-hyun’s eyes go wide when he sees Joon-young and he tries to explain, but Joon-young just drags him out of the car and punches him. He demands to know how Sang-hyun could do this to him, and Ri-won jumps between them, declaring that she likes Sang-hyun. Joon-young is stunned and asks, “What the hell are you saying?” LOL.

Sang-hyun’s wounds are bandaged up inside, and he confesses to Mom and Dad that he sincerely loves Ri-won. But Mom and Dad don’t really care since Ri-won is an adult, and they head on to bed. Sang-hyun and Ri-won act all cutesy, which Joon-young can’t seem to process.

More time passes until summer becomes fall. Se-eun gets the cast taken off her foot, and she gets a call from Officer Gong, who reveals that Snakehead’s capture is getting Joon-young a special award. Meanwhile, Ho-chul is still weighed down by Young-jae’s rejection. His friends can’t believe that any woman rejected him, and they’re surprised that it affected him this much.

Young-jae isn’t doing so well either, which Joo-ran easily picks up on. Joo-ran says that she understands more than anyone because when she was young, she was the same as Young-jae—she only cared about work and herself.

She warns Young-jae that she’ll eventually regret the decision to break up with Joon-young, but it’s something she has to deal with.

Tears fill Young-jae’s eyes, and she explains that she’s never been able to tell her story to others; it’s become a terrible habit. Her voice quivering, she wonders if talking to Joon-young about all of this would’ve made a difference.

She thinks Joon-young definitely would’ve understood her feelings, because that’s the kind of person he is, but she also thinks she still would’ve felt apologetic in the end.

Meanwhile, Sang-hyun and Ri-won are still going strong. Er, for now, at least. Sang-hyun gets jealous about her male classmates and starts talking about marriage. Ri-won is disappointed that he’s come to act like this.

For one, Ri-won doesn’t really believe in marriage, and considering Sang-hyun’s playboy history, she assumed he didn’t either. That’s why she liked him. At that, Sang-hyun’s face falls.

Joo-ran takes Soo-jae shopping, determined on a makeover to spice up his love life. He then gets a phone call and learns that his screenplay earned first place in the competition he submitted to. Joo-ran squeals with joy and hugs him, though she releases him when it gets awkward.

She takes Soo-jae home, and Young-jae sees them arrive from upstairs. Young-jae smiles for the first time in a long time, happy to see her friend and brother getting along nicely. When Soo-jae makes it inside, he starts to tell her the good news but thinks better of it and leaves her alone.

Joon-young is receiving his award today, and his parents couldn’t be any more proud. However, as Joon-young puts his uniform on, there’s more sadness in his eyes than usual. He goes to the empty station and stands by his desk, a small smile forming.

Joon-young is gone by the time his teammates arrive. Officer Lee notices that Joon-young’s desk is cleared out, save for an envelope. He shows the others that it’s a letter of resignation.

Instead of attending his ceremony, Joon-young stops by Young-jae’s hair salon. He stays in his car, watching her laugh with a client. Though he’s on the verge of crying again, he smiles to know that she’s okay.

Satisfied, Joon-young narrates that the summer of his twenty-seventh year ended, along with his beautiful love. He drives off just as Young-jae recognizes his car. She runs after the car, but it’s futile; she can’t reach him.

Joon-young’s narration continues that it hurts to think that he didn’t know any better and that he wasn’t good enough for Young-jae. He flashes back to every memory he’s had with her, from their first meeting on the subway all the way to their honeymoon phase.

Right now, he wishes that he could be like a tree that stays strong through harsh winds, like the sunlight on a cold day, and like the shade on a hot day. “To our twenty-seventh year that we’ll never get back,” he concludes, “goodbye.”

 
COMMENTS

I am a broken vessel of a recapper. I expected this outcome—I hoped for this outcome—and it still broke me. The Third Charm isn’t a perfect show, not by a long shot, but the way it expresses the characters’ inner struggles hits me every time. It’s just so heartbreaking having to watch people care for each other so much but have no idea how to make things work. This was a quiet breakup compared to the last and compared to what I was expecting, but somehow, it’s ten times sadder. Because they tried so hard to hold on, to pretend that everything was okay. With Joon-young, those feelings were incredibly palpable; his fear of losing Young-jae, of her slipping through his grasp, was almost like a physical pain. I was in tears during that first phone call and they barely even spoke.

There’s no doubt in my mind that they’re head over heels in love, but when they’re constantly anxious, insecure and just downright sad, they’re not good for each other. Mentally or emotionally. They don’t satisfy each other’s needs, they can’t talk to each other, like, really talk to each other. It’s hard to accept, but Young-jae was right—this is too much for them. They’ve been so lost in each other that they’ve lost focus on who they are and what they want to do. They need to build themselves up again. Young-jae, I feel, is already well on her way, but Joon-young… Ah, this poor boy. I just don’t know what to do with him. After all of this, I’m afraid he might have some real self-worth issues.

On top of all that, they had to break out Soo-jae’s story with the ex? What, was this episode trying to kill me? I can only take one heartache at a time, you know. It sucks that Soo-jae had to pull out the Noble Idiot card, but in retrospect, it had to be done. Like Young-jae and Joon-young’s relationship, Soo-jae and Jung-eun’s got all tangled with guilt and pity and, yeah, false hope. With all of that in the way, it was difficult to see the foundation of love they established. They were hurting each other without meaning to, without realizing it, and it wasn’t doing either of them any good.

If things were different, could Soo-jae and Jung-eun still work? If she hadn’t gotten married, would they still have a chance? Maybe. But it doesn’t matter now, as Soo-jae probably knows. That part of his life is over, and Joo-ran is allowing other chances to come in. I think they could work as a couple, but right now, I really enjoy them as unlikely friends. They’re total opposites (go figure), and it oddly works to their advantage. Soo-jae needs a peppy cheerleader, and Joo-ran needs a thoughtful confidante. I would say that Sang-hyun and Ri-won are opposites too, though that dynamic seems a little more dangerous, in that it has far more potential to go downhill. Still, I’m looking forward to where this show will take them, as well as Soo-jae and Joo-ran. These characters needed some light in their lives, and I’m glad they’re finally getting it.

It must be hard for Young-jae and Joon-young to see all of these relationships blossoming when theirs just fell apart. There has to be a lot of “what if’s” in their heads, as Young-jae said, but again, this part of their lives is over. Summer is over. If they want to explore those “what if’s” in the fall or any other time in the future, they certainly can, but it’s best to leave them alone for now. They may be twenty-seven, but they still have plenty to learn about love and what it takes to nurture it. Even Joon-young’s parents have plenty to learn; it’s an ongoing process. In the meantime, they should start learning more about themselves. If they ever want to be together again, they need to be the best versions of themselves first.

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I cried buckets as well, SailorJumun 😭
And yet I was cheering up as well... Young Jae for beaing brave enough to spell out the break-up... and for Joon Young to resign and finally going to do with his life what he really wants... at least I hope...

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Thanks for your recap, @sailorjumun. I'm with you. This was a heavy episode indeed. Joon-young's fear of being abandoned while being "it" during hide-and-seek was truly sad, but his sense of still waiting to be found so many years later was truly wrenching.

It really bothered me that Young-jae interrupted Joon-young to prevent him from popping the question. On the one hand, I understand only too well why she did it. On the other hand, it struck me as just one more instance of her not giving a fig about his likes, wants, or opinions. It was a preemptive strike to spare her own feelings. The way she went about it was like a karate chop to his heart. Grrrr.

On the other hand, I was glad to finally learn Soo-jae Orabeoni's back story. I understand why he drove away his girlfriend. Talk about heartbreaking -- and pragmatic. I like the fact that he now has a gleeful co-conspirator in Joo-ran. And I'm thrilled that his script won first place in the contest.

Somehow it went right over my head that Joon-young skipped his award ceremony. Did he only resign that post, or has he quit being a police officer entirely? Has he landed himself another law enforcement job in the Korean version of Mayberry? I had gotten the impression that he wasn't that invested in the old job in Violent Crimes, although he was very good at it. I can't help but wonder if he's going to go back to college to discover what he truly wants to be when he grows up. I get the feeling that he hasn't said anything to his parents about moving out, either. I'm excited for him as he embarks on his solo adventure. It's something he has to do for himself.

For a long time I've gotten the impression that Young-jae is depressed. Given the traumatic death of her parents and the later loss of grandma, along with her brother's permanent injury and inability to support the household, it would be amazing if she weren't depressed. Methinks she's long overdue for some psychotherapy. Joon-young would likely benefit from counseling, too.

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You brought up a good point about Young-jae possibly being depressed. Seeing all the losses she has experiences listed really hit-it-home for me on why she is such a closed-off person. She has had a lot to deal with in terms of loss and has suffered through insecurities throughout her life due to finances and being unable to go to college. So many characters in this drama would benefit from some counseling. Joon-young needs help gaining more self-worth, Soo-jae needs help in voicing his fears, loss, and heartache, Joo-ran needs help to understand that there are different types of love that can console the loneliness she feels, and Joon-young's parents would benefit from couples counseling so that their relationship isn't so imbalanced.

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Sang Hyun's face after getting beaten by Joon Youung though! Lollll priceless...

This actor is soo hillarious and cute. Makes me laugh for a second

And when the detective said about which couple who is favourite in church and he said Adam and Eve, I just laughing my ass off about his reasoning.. Unfortunately that's the only happy moment I can laugh in this episode.

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Slowly catching up. Those shots Joon-young popped Sang-hyun with were also (though unintended) for the others SH has two-timed. He had it coming. Here is JY acting like a real oppa when Ri-won has never treated him like one.

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Seo Kang Joon deserves an award. The pain in his eyes...the almost-crying look, that's brilliant acting.

On a lighter note, Sang Hyun is talking babies. How whipped is he?

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This episode absolutely destroyed me too. Watching Joon Young suffer like that had my heart in pieces. The whole thing with the hide and seek and wanting to be found, even while dating Young Jae, was especially sad. As much as he loves her, he can't find it in himself to trust her to always be there for him.

As depressing as Young Jae's situation is as well, I can't help but feel sad for only Joon Young. Even though it's not what caused the break up, Young Jae continually meeting with Ho Chul definitely sparked their downfall. Joon Young isn't without faults either, with him being overly sensitive at times and unwilling to communicate his feelings. But Joon Young sees that as the sole reason their relationship wasn't able to last. He blames himself for not being good enough for Young Jae, for not being able to ignore those feelings of insecurities, when in reality it's mostly Young Jae's fault (in my opinion).

It honestly made me so mad every time Young Jae willingly spent time with Ho Chul. She knew fully well his feelings for her, and Joon Young's feelings about him, yet still continued hang around him. As heart breaking as the break up was, I also felt a little relieved. Seeing both of them un-content with their relationship was slowly killing me on the inside.

The ending scene hit me hard too. Joon Young has never had any real goals or aspirations in his life. Getting recognition in the police force probably means next to nothing to him. The thing that made him happiest was Young Jae, and now that they're not together, he doesn't have much to look forward to. On the other hand, Young Jae has finally made huge progress in achieving her dreams. She's been accomplishing so much in her workplace, and her future is only going to get brighter from here. I honestly can't wait for the next episode to see where life takes Joon Young next, and whether or not he'll be able to find something to fulfill his life other than relying on Young Jae.

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Thanks for the recap, Sailorjumun! I agree this break up happened in such a quite way with no drama or outbursts, it was really hard watch and heaps sadder than the first one.

But I want to joon young to stop thinking he is not good enough. Also, him saying that he is still waiting to be found is really heartbreaking. I think it's because he keeps giving away so much of himself in every relationship and he is not getting the appreciation and love that he deserves back, hence he feels like he needs to give more? Arrgghh, this is a vicious cycle. I just want him to become self aware like young jae and realize this. As for young jae, I hope she learns to share her thoughts and communicate more. And I have a question for beanies, have you guys ever tried to change a characteristic (that you know is not good for you) of yours and achieved it? If so, how? Because, I know we all say they have to grow up and stuff, but how?

And soo jae's story was heart breaking. But his friendship with joo ran is comforting and so happy he won that competition!

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Good question! For a long time I went along with others wanted or wouldn't be clear on how I felt since I was afraid of how others may react. However, I began to see how destructive this behavior became. Especially as I noticed that I was entering a vicious cycle in which I would always get hurt. the catalyst for my change was a breakup I went through which was very similar to Young-jae's and Joon-young's. Leaving that toxic relationship suddenly made everything else in my life so much brighter and I began to self-heal. I did yoga, read books, such as Mitch Albom's 'The Time Keeper' and "The Five People You Meet in Heaven, and the Dalai Lama's "The Art of Happiness" really caused me to self-reflect and realize the beauty of time, personal growth, and the willingness to change. I began to learn to love myself more and, in turn, learn to love others better. I still have a lot of learning to do, but finding time for myself has been essential. I think we need to have the desire to change, but sometimes we need something to propel us to that change. In Young-jae and Joon-young's case it's probably their relationship, at least for Joon-young it seems like that will be the case.

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Wow! Thanks for answering! :) So happy you came out of that relationship and that you are feeling better now. I tend to be a little low self esteemed in workplace and when meeting new people. Feeling like my inputs are not that great and wouldn't matter. So, I am working on that. But, I am glad that I have finally identified it instead of just rolling with it like before.

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Identifying it is the first step! Although I know it's easier said than done, always keep in mind that your opinion/input does matter whether others take it into consideration or not. I'm glad that you are working on it and hope that you feel more comfortable voicing your opinions at work. :)

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It was sad to see Joon Young try to propose in an attempt to hold on to a dying relationship. To be honest, I don't know why they were together in the first place. Young Jae actually seems more compatible with the doctor because they both like living in big cities, are pretty upfront and have very confident personalities. For a person who is meticulous and likes to plan ahead, it's surprising that Joon Young didn't have a career path in mind before being influenced by Young Jae into becoming a police officer. He just dropped out of college abruptly because of a passing remark his girlfriend made. I agree with other commenters who say that they would be fine with the two not ending up together. It's rare for your first love to be your last love.

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Words fail me...

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Thanks for the recap and the insightful comments, @sailorjumun
Although I am actively anti spoiler,I wish I had read the recap before reaching for this ep on the 1 day I am playing hooky from work 😟.talk about bad decision!!
Thoughts:-
*Oof the breakup and the lead up to it was haardd to watch.Esom and SHJ killed it.
*Yaas to Joon Ran and So Jae's unlikely friendship.
*Sang Hyul is getting a taste of his own medicine with Ri -won.Curious to see if they will maintain Ri-won's anti establishment vibe till the end coz I am digging it 😊
*Can No Chul please leave the way Se Hee did now that he has served his purpose,pleasse show.
*Young Jae ya,now that you have burned your bridges,go all out.Next time we see you,u better be in an apartment as awesome as Joo-Ran's.Being an ice queen has its charms 😉
*Joon Young actually went and quit his job.I am hoping he is also moving faarr away and finally gonna work on cultivating some R.E.S.P.E.C.T for himself.

In short(😋)very excited to see where the show takes all of them in the next season.

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Loving Joo-ran and Soo-jae's unlikely friendship!

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I'm so glad this part of their relationship is over, though I wish it had gone easier, especially for J-Y. I'm torn between feeling glad that Y-J finally put him out of misery, and feeling disgusted by it all at the same time. I don't think she meant to be as selfish and thoughtless as I perceive her to be. She's even sad and feeling the strain of this, so it's not like she's a total a**hole. She's just, as she always has been, very self-involved and uncompromising.

That she broke up with him right as he was about to propose was agony. And yet I'm glad it happened. J-Y was trying to cling to a gangrenous limb. Marriage would only have made things so much worse. I'm not sure if it's better or worse that she didn't let him get his proposal out. It's all such an ugly mess.

So where are we now? We're faced once again with their differences. J-Y entered his career path almost as a revenge against Y-J's mockery, and he excelled at it because he's that kind of guy. But success, accolades and bonuses don't mean much to him. He does a good job not for merit, but because that's him. His priorities are not work even though he works well. J-Y loves his family, and loves his girlfriend most of all.

Without her, he has no issue with leaving his job and going off into the sunset to try and jumpstart his heart again. If he's looking for a new life somewhere else, I'm sure he can start again easily when it comes to career. The hardest part are the internal wounds. J-Y endlessly chose other people over himself, giving away the skin off of his back. Now he's shedding his skin again, and this time I hope he finds one that suits HIM, that HE'S comfortable with. I hope he stops looking for validation in others and realises his own worth. I hope he becomes someone others have to accept and do so gladly, instead of quietly shaping himself into what he thinks others will want.

Y-J, like her friend, is choosing her career and most of all she's choosing herself. She's focused on opportunity, on advancement and success. She's also focused on what she might perceive as the unfairness of having to change or accommodate to anyone else along the way. She understood Joo-Ran's caution about not giving as much as she's receiving, and while she made an initial attempt at reciprocation, I think she was ultimately daunted and threatened by the effort required, especially because poor J-Y is high maintenance.

Y-J would much rather end this relationship than have to cope with the pain she would put J-Y through, as she inevitably throws herself into work and connections. She wants more photoshoots without criticism, she wants to brush shoulders with people like Ho-Chul and flirt - not romantically - but with what their connection could mean for her, without having to worry about setting boundaries to comfort her boyfriend. I don't think she ever intended to be romantically involved with Ho-Chul, but I definitely think she didn't want to...

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[2/2] risk skipping out on the spotlight he lives in and she wants in on.

Y-J is probably also facing the ticking clock that many people who have been breadwinners and carers for their family face. That sense of time slipping away and taking opportunities with it. Y-J wants success, riches and all the good stuff that comes with it while she's still young enough to enjoy it. She's focusing hard and doubling down, and that's all well and good, until something gets in the way.

While J-Y was the malleable, over agreeable smiling puppy that fell into line with what she wanted at the time, and who agreed with her and provided her comfort when and how she wanted it, it was all gravy. But J-Y hadn't completely given away his individuality, and he probably had an overflow of bottled up resentment at the realisation of just how one-sided things had become. And the relationship suddenly became less of a carefree balm and more of a chore. J-Y and his jealousies and insecurities, his wishes for clear boundaries and vocalised commitment, just didn't do it for her.

Y-J was not ready for commitment at the level J-Y wanted. She wanted all the benefits without flaws or complications. She wanted a comfortable accessory. She wanted a little dog to carry around in her purse and receive comfort from at her leisure. I'm not saying she didn't love J-Y, but I'm saying she selfishly wanted it all on her terms. Y-J wanted to take care of Y-J and her future plans, she did not want to take care of anyone else any more, not even the most basic aspects of a normal relationship.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to take care of yourself for once. And she probably was genuinely blindsided by just how much a relationship requires to work. But I do think she's handled this terribly, and I think that as her friend warned, her successes will be a very Pyrrhic victory if she continues this way.

If J-Y has to learn to love himself, be comfortable in the skin that HE chose, and find his self-worth, then Y-J needs to learn that bending a little and compromising is not going to end your world or steal your life and identity away from you. You can communicate even if you're aloof, you can express yourself even when others can hear you, and you can have the convictions to mean what you say and do.

I would honestly prefer these two didn't get back together again. But if they must, then I really hope they will have changed in these directions, if not for their sake then for the sake of me, the tired and irritated viewer.

I'm very grateful that something good finally happened for Soo-Jae. I only hope it continues to go well from here. I understand that rookie writers can get a raw deal, so I hope his first experience manages to be a good one and not a horror story. I'm not a fan of Joo-Ran but if the show is moving in a direction where she's Soo-Jae's love interest, then I hope she takes care of him and values him sincerely.

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[3/3] Soo-Jae's ex would have been part of a serial killer subplot. I'm glad that her plot involved Soo-Jae taking an active part in their breakup, however painful it was to see, because their time together made me struggle to believe that she would have left him completely by her own choice. What a horrible situation, and how classic of Soo-Jae to be a noble idiot like this.

(Sorry for the weird format of comments, my post didn't look as long as it actually was and so I failed to post correctly!)

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I was surprise too actually they don't make Soo Jae's fiance become a bad person for leaving him like audiences have guessed. It makes their break up even more realistic for me.

Actually episode 10 for me is my most favourite bcause every character slowly but surely given character depth and we got to know why they act the way the did in previous episode. And each scene where the actor expression and directing does the talking at the the whole scene is so lovely, like Joon Young scene at the last 10 minute. It's just brilliant and it means The director and writers trusting their actor more to make such scene!

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The acting has been on point. J-Y has confused me at times because he's a character we don't get to know very well in detail (by that, I mean that we still don't know what he'd pick for a movie for a date, or what he'd rather eat in a restaurant etc). Because of this he seemed like a Franken-mesh of the nerdy J-Y and something else.

But I really, really love SKJ's facial acting and his eyes. The scenes where J-Y is falling apart at the seams and barely holding it in are painful to watch. It's these little scenes that make me wish I liked this drama more, but I'm still struggling towards the finish line.

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I agree, this week's episodes were so good despite the sadness. Though it was difficult to watch it didn't feel slow or boring. I hope they keep this momentum for the upcoming episodes too.

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What a great analysis! Joon-young and Young-jae have such different ideals and expectations that their breakup was inevitable. Honesty and communication is so important in a relationship, especially at the beginning so that both parties have a good understanding of what they are getting themselves into. I hope these characters have a satisfying resolution, whether it's finding new and better partners or getting back together.

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@ Alex,

Y-J would much rather end this relationship than have to cope with the pain she would put J-Y through, as she inevitably throws herself into work and connections...

Y-J was not ready for commitment at the level J-Y wanted. She wanted all the benefits without flaws or complications. She wanted a comfortable accessory. She wanted a little dog to carry around in her purse and receive comfort from at her leisure...

Young-jae's comment that the old couple's radio wasn't worth fixing spoke volumes about her approach to her relationship with Joon-young. It was easier to just throw it away, and maybe one day shop for a new one if she really felt the need for one. She couldn't be bothered to extend or exert herself the second time around with Joon-young, nor let him into her inner life. She did the bare minimum to maintain the relationship, and didn't even bother to pretend to return his feelings. And when her conscience started bothering her about it, she cut and ran instead of examining what she was doing that was making her feel so bad -- and changing her own painfully self-defeating behavior.

I don't really think Young-jae even wanted a pocket pooch. As Joo-ran told her, Princess was a demanding little diva, with a dominant personality and a strong sense of territoriality and possessiveness towards her human. I cannot imagine Young-jae expending the kind of attention, energy, and effort such a pet would demand. I'm not sure she would even want to bother with a plant. A pet rock would be about her speed.

For once I'd like to see a departure from the same-old, same-old romantic reunion after a time jump. I'd love to see Joon-young happy and content in a profession that he loves and in which he excels. He'd be comfortable in his own skin, tolerant and accepting of others, but discerning when it comes to expending his time and generous heart. I'd like nothing better than for him to experience his own kind of unfettered joy. I want him to share his life with a few others who cherish him for who he is, and encourage him to be his best self. And a special someone who loves him to pieces, and lets him know it in thought, word, and deed. I'd like him to be able to look back on his ill-starred romance with Young-jae and be grateful for the learning experience she gave him, but without any desire or need to revisit it. When their paths finally cross, I'd love for him to already be happily married with incredibly cute babies, and living in the peace and quiet of his beloved boondocks.

Since I'm a vindictive viewer, I'm all for Young-jae being on the receiving end of relationship karma. May it give her incentive to get into therapy and clean up her act. May she succeed beyond her wildest dreams, and enjoy her hard-earned financial security and professional acclaim. May her mattress stuffed with wads of cash from her successful hair design practice provide her with many a sound night's...

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May her mattress stuffed with wads of cash from her successful hair design practice provide her with many a sound night's sleep. Here's to her networking her butt off and enjoying every second of it, while laughing all the way to the bank.

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Hi @pakalanapikake. Slowly getting caught up. This was such a sad episode for both Joon-young and Young-jae. I am with you when you wrote:

When their paths finally cross, I'd love for him to already be happily married with incredibly cute babies, and living in the peace and quiet of his beloved boondocks.

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Love you future prediction for joon young!
I love joon young because he is naturally kind and he is just nice to people when there is no compulsion to be (like he was with that female police officer).

But your views of young jae are a little harsh, ha ha. :p so, I 'll just put here what I think are her better virtues,

Early in the series, when no one was interested in this nerdy, oddball of a joon young, she just was with him with no judgements (remember that scene where she told him he was not that bad looking either? I wish they had given us more of this where we see young jae help joon young love himself) And their first date included him barfing but she didn't make it a big deal.

Also, unlike joon young, she mustn't have had a easy childhood. Both joon young's parents are working but young jae was brought up by her grandma and it should have been hard to bring income into the family and that is why I think she became a closed up person because she didn't want to trouble her family members more. She was not able to go to university because she her family couldn't affor it. her need to become rich might stem from this.

And after her brother's accident, I think she became more guarded and wanting to make more money. She already had that ambition but I think it became more vigorous after that accident. Because she became the breadwinner and care taker of the family. So, if soo jae succeeds and is happy, i think she'll be able to let go of some of this. All in all, I am willing to cut her some slack and hope she doesn't disappoint me.

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Oh yayy,,lemme join in @imbuk :)
*Is she fiercely invested in her career?Heck yeah-She's not some genius who is great at her work and is shown to struggle with even passing the qualifying exam during the first ep. She had to apply hell lotta elbow grease to get better.
Even after she has 'made it', she isn't automatically great at it. She's shown to be constantly working on her craft to move up.
*She is a good mentor who is willing to share her knowledge and is always giving tough but necessary feedback to her younger associates. (Esp the girl who is semi-slacking off)She is patient with her and is understanding of her limitations but isn't letting her off the hook and is constantly on her case. That's good teaching instincts there.
*Her love for her oppa-It can't be easy becoming the bread winner of the family at 19!On top of that she has to suddenly take care of the brother who was a parent to her. Breakdown of his personal life and dreams was obviously heartbreaking for him but it can't be easy watching that happen to your beloved sibling.The breakdown of the perfect relationship her brother and his fiancee shared, must have affected her romantic views.(She was shown to idealize their relationship and love the gf as her unnie).
Despite her prickly attitude,the girl has alarms set to give Oppa medicine and put patches on him.Until JY came along,she basically had her life on hold while working and taking care of her oppa. None of these are acts of a selfish,thoughtless person.
*She has her flaws but is willing to be the bad guy and break it off with cinnamon roll JY. Was it brutal,yeah.But it had to be done.How much worse would it have been if JY had gotten the proposal out and they would have had to spend more agonizing hours/days making each other miserable. Her breaking up might have been assuaging her guilty conscience(for not being enough for JY) but it was more in service of JY. She had to let him go coz she knows JY never would bite the bullet himself.

Is she a flawed character?100%.Did she make mis-steps??All the time. But she also doesn't deserve a lot of the hate thrown her way.There are redeeming qualities there.

Even if they never get back together,I am rooting for them both to become more balanced versions of themselves without fully giving up their unique charms.

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@imbuk, @ashes2ashes,

I fully cop to being judgemental towards Young-jae. Thanks for the reminders of her good points and extenuating circumstances. I may just have a bad case of character fatigue. Or maybe she reminds me too much of the time I had to put on my big girl pants and euthanize a relationship. It was dirty work, but someone had to do it.

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Thank you! So many of these comments are so critical of Young Jae. She's had a very tough upbringing and has had to be her brother's primary caretaker since she was 20. That's a lot of burden to place on a young woman. Caretaker burn-out is a huge problem. At times, she must have gotten frustrated or resentful toward her brother but she couldn't exactly take her anger out on him. In comparison, Joon Young has had such a comfortable, middle-class existence with two parents. YJ might view him as another person that she has to take care of and she just lacks the emotional bandwidth to do it.

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Great analysis @alex . I can see how YJ is coming off as unlikable to many viewers. I am willing to cut her more slack than most here coz of her familial circumstances and overall personality.
Can I ask why people seem to think she was interested in No-chul for material reasons? Coz I seem to have missed the part where she showed interest in hob-nobbing and moving up the social ladder by dating/marriage.One of her better qualities is that she is self-reliant and hasn't needed any crutch to get to where she has.To me,it looked like she has enjoyed hanging with No-chul. There was even a moment of connection when he claimed to crave the city life while in the island. But that didn't register as any kind of preference for No-chul himself. It was like she was reminded that there are others in the world who see the world and want things as she does and it was relief in knowing that she isn't some bad person for wanting things the way she does. Did she take the easy approbation No-chul offered?Yes. Should she have tried to draw a clearer line when it became clear he wanted more?May be. But at no point did it look like she was weighing No-chul agaisnt JY and finding JY lacking coz of his job or connections.If anything,I think YJ is more off the Ri-Won school of thought who views traditional marriage and gender roles as a trap.So it is really surprising to me when beanies are saying YJ is attracted to No-chul for his connections.Genuinely trying to understand if I missed something?

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It's not like I feel that Y-J throws herself into the path of just anything she thinks will get her up the social ladder. I pulled together several different scenes and comments made by her to guess that this is the way it is or at least the way it's going.

When she turned H-C down on the beach, she said something like "I admit I was swayed, but it wasn't by you". Now H-C was the only guy butting in, the only guy she wasn't drawing boundaries with. So 'not by you'? I took that to mean that she wasn't swayed by him romantically, but that she was attracted to his profession and fame and lifestyle.

She told J-Y way back when that she wanted to get rich, although she had no set plan to get there. But she was very definite and final about how being rich was her goal. She seemed irritated at best when she first met H-C, but her attitude softened significantly after seeing him on TV and learning about him. She jockeyed pretty hard to be involved in the hair designs for the fashion show, and she loved the praise and attention she got afterwards. She then enjoyed the photoshoot very much, and played up to the interviewer.

None of this is bad. When you factor it all in, though, and read between the lines it seems to me that Y-J plans to get her riches through not only her skill but by being a famous face for the profession, a stylist to the stars. When your goal is riches and you choose that path as your way to get it, it's inevitable that you have to network and make nice with people in similar circles or who are more privileged than you. Even someone as aloof and not socially pleasing like Y-J will have been forced to recognise this in the process of developing her career.

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Ah ok.thanks for explaining your POV.
Like you said,YJ's ambition to move up the ladder and get rich have been clearly established.From YJ's actions during THE fashion show,I thought she meant to get ethre by hard work and getting noticed by the right people.Even during the short-lived flush of success,she was her usual reticent self(until Se Hee threw down, ofc) and wasn't being vocal about her success but did gracefully accept the well deserved recognition.But you make a good point that she seemed to (surprising herself IMO) enjoy the fashion shoot when it came along.And we haven't really seen any big career moves from her after those so whether she will become more of a star rather than the one behind the stars remain to be seen.

As to her claim of being swayed but not by No-chul's heart:now that was classic YJ.Nit clearly communicating what she is thinking. my take on that was that she was swayed by the apparent easy relationship some one more similar in thought to her would provide. It didn't strike m3 that she was thinking particularly about the societal/financial ease rather emotional compatibility.As in wouldn't it be nice if I had an SO who wouldn't throw a jealous fir when I got my first article out,someone who wouldn't make me feel guilty(unknowingly ofc)about not wanting to drop the city life and moving to an isolated island,someone who wouldn't make a big deal about fixing an old broken radio.
In short,it wasn't anything Na-chul could offer her,but everything that she was finding hard in her relation ship with JY.
An idle romantic fantasy.

Now I can totally see how people would roll their eyes and accuse me of being the romantic. 😊But this is just my reading of her character and I do see how you could look at the same behavior and come to totally opposite conclusions.Truth is,until YJ learns to vocalize her feelings and actually speaks out,we won't know what she(writer)was going for.
meanwhile, it is fun to interpret 😉

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sigh! i really hope 3rd time's a charm for our couple because i don't know if i could go on seeing more of this unspoken (and unspeakable) push/pull between them :( this episode went really slowly for me (quite surprisingly) and I guess that's what tugged on the heartstrings a little more. bring on the new episodes!

also, we've tracked down the street where YJ/JY broke up for the 2nd time - from where they sat, to each of the cafes that JY ran to while in denial: https://koreandramaland.com/listings/seosamreung-gil

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Like always people side with the male protagonist. If he is too nice the female protagonist is a bitch that no one understands. and the female lead does not deserve him. If the male protagonist is mean, rude, an a prick. He is complex and someone to try to understand. But people still want the male protagonist to end up with the female lead that he has humilated or being increadibly rude to. Why do people rarely try to understand the female protagonist? I seen so many dramas and people dont try or want to understand the female lead. And they project their best versions of themselves on to them. When in reality you know you are not an angel. And what is sad is that women tend to be the ones harder on other women. This is Why is hard to have anti heros who are women. If we critic to pieces a complex female character who is a good person. I think that both characters are good people that need space, and growth. And I want them to end up together.

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With Chief On Joon-yoon leaving a letter of resignation on his desk it is possible that his career as a police officer has come to an end. He accomplished a lot for being only 27.
O/T. That being said and based on my 2018 kdrama viewing I think I would have to make it a draw between Chief On (SKJ) and COME AND HUG ME's Det. Chae Do-jin (Jang Ki-yong) as far as filling out a police officer's uniform.

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