[Community] A friend for a season
by Guest Beanie
Forest of Secrets
By night owl
My traditional blind date was not going well. When I told him that I enjoyed watching dramas, he smirked and snickered. I wanted to give him a verbal slap but etiquette meant I had to instead sip my coffee and look away politely. The date would go from bad to disastrous as he would go on to insult my family. Unfortunately he’s not alone in his disdain. There are many who see drama lovers and drama communities as a bit silly. However, those who share a love for dramas can understand how a drama community can not only enrich your viewing experience, but also your life.
I’m a Mother, Too
Life can sometimes feel like those 120 episode daily dramas such as I’m a Mother, Too where it’s just one storm after another for the main leads till around the 80 episode mark, which is when they finally start to catch a break. During those high winds, I found it difficult to chat with friends and family. Answering “How are you?” was both complicated and depressing. I wasn’t able to process my emotions, but I still needed someone to chat with. Drama communities became this lifeline where I could laugh and talk about something that had absolutely nothing to do with my real life; a place where I was not defined by what was happening in my life at that moment.
When I shared this with an older friend, she exclaimed, “Now I understand why my mom loves watching dramas and then chatting with her sister-in-law.” It wasn’t about the quality of the drama itself or whether the story made any sense. My friend came to understand that for both these women in their 80s, a shared drama viewing gave them a way to connect on a daily basis. Most of the folks they know have passed on and all their younger family members are busy with their lives. So what to chat about if one is not going to dredge up old stories?
Laurel Tree Tailors
It’s easy to imagine the online drama community like those gatherings we see in weekend dramas such as Laurel Tree Tailors, where all these different characters sit around a table and share their views. A drama episode becomes something to look forward to as we share our thoughts and feelings with others. A character’s journey can be moving, and when you have all sorts of thoughts and emotions running through your mind, who better to share them with than the rest of the community? That act of sharing can remove a sense of isolation and walls we build around ourselves.
It’s also surprisingly educational to hear someone reflect on drama characters from a real world perspective as it makes you realize that there are lives and problems outside of your own frame of reference. Hearing from others can widen horizons. Sometimes, the characters you’re sympathetic to may not elicit the same response from others, but maybe that’s not so surprising since there are so many lenses with which to view the same situation.
What a revelation it was to realize that people have different expectations towards relationships and romance. A pairing that we may find sweet like in Tunnel, others may find dull or just okay. As we discussed characters and their journeys, the views of the community helped me learn a lot about relationships and myself. Various conversations with community members over the years have made me realize what I need and require from a relationship: respect, trust, honesty and teamwork. While that may not be what someone else wants or needs, it does not make my needs small or invalid.
I am a romantic–there I said it! In a world where we are constantly forced to be practical, a drama community can allow us to be romantic together and feel that we are not stupid or alone in wanting love. For many, a drama community is the only place where people can squeal, giggle, laugh over romantic scenes and indulge their romantic side. It can allow people to dream and cultivate their hopes as they realize that there are others who also share similar romantic dreams.
So what is a drama community? A friend for a season. When one drama ends, we may jump to another and some names we may not see again. But for that moment, for that season, it was a good ride together.
Age of Youth 2
- [Theme of the Month] K-dramas and community
- [Theme of the Month] Dramas and food
- [Theme of the Month] Short but sweet
- [Theme of the Month] Adaptations
- [Theme of the Month] Happily never after
- [Theme of the Month] Plot twists
- [Theme of the Month] Year in dramas
- [Theme of the Month] Scene stealers
- [Theme of the Month] Choose your own epilogue
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