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[Community] Turning points


Dear My Friends

By lentils

Up until now, I’ve always known what I would be getting into next: schooling, schooling and more schooling. I didn’t find the transition from college to university difficult because I find comfort in the typical school setting and I didn’t leave home. (Asian households FTW!) I’ve just finished my masters degree and am awaiting those darned results as I bid goodbye to university life.

This past year has been the first time that my group of friends have all deviated from a single, common life path. Some started jobs, while others went on to post grad. Meanwhile, I’m now stuck in a what-on-earth-shall-I-do-with-my-life state of limbo.

For my friend group, as our lives have changed, we’ve started to have fewer things in common with each other. On one hand, this gives us new things to talk about, but there’s still a niggling sense of wistfullness as you realise you don’t have as much in common with your friends as you once did. In the case of my 6 forever friends, bonding over all things Disney, late 90’s boybands, and Wattpad in high school brought us together in the first place.


Answer Me 1997

For the most part, I was a solitary K-drama watcher and started watching in primary school around the age of 10. At 14 years old, I finally made a friend who watched K-dramas too. But at the beginning, for some weird hormonal-teenager reason, I used to hate the fact she watched K-dramas. It felt like it was “my” thing.

Time went on, and I got to know her better. We even went to college together. Throughout the 5 years that encompassed our college and university lives, one of the main things that kept us talking for hours on end every evening was dramas (and life and a whole load of studying too). But our initial connection was there because of K-dramas.

Since then, we’ve been through thick and thin together. Along with my awesome family, she was my rock and helped me hold my life together. (Thank you and love you Nana!) This past year has been super turbulent for me but even during times like these, when I’m lost and unsure of what to do with my life, K-dramas act as a constant that keeps me afloat and gives me a little something in common with my dear friend to cement the foundation of our friendship.

Another unchanging presence in my life is the Dramabeans community. The community’s always there when you need it. Whether I’m finding kindred souls who have the same opinions as me (I can’t count the number of times I’ve seen comments ranting about characters and thought, “that’s exactly what I’m thinking”), or being surprised at the philosophical depths of people’s thoughts, the community is gives me much food for thought. So even though I’m pretty much a ghost on the site these days, the community has been one of the constants in my life. Dramas are a great escape, and when you have one of your best friends to escape with you–and a wonderful community to escape to–life is always much more fun.


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@lentils congrats on being published ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰
Hope this community stays a constant in your life while venture ahead with whatever you decide to do *fighting*

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I'm so glad someone else understands the feeling that dramas are mine, all mine! I've only recently grown out of it. ๐Ÿ˜‚

I enjoyed your post, @lentils! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘

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Aww such a beautiful and relatable write-up, @lentils :)

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@lentils (wait I like your name)
Congratulations and all the best for your future! I hope you will your dreams and be what you want to be ^^ ! Fighting!

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*find your dreams 1

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Thanks for your post, @lentils.
I had a college friend I started to hate since first year and as it happened, we lost contact, even in the school because of different majors and different groups. But we actually graduated together in the same promotion, and going throughout the paper stuffs, lines and lines and talks and talks, it was funny we became true friends, for a short period of time. Eventually, she faced a tragedy and I went to help, we both migrated to different countries and we haven't seen each other in 5 years, but we keep in touch and I know, if I need her, she will be there for me.
Maybe she doesn't share the kdrama community, but she is my "community", and your post reminded me to cherish her even in the distance.
Don't lose contact with your college friends... I am sure they will last forever, even if they are far away.

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:-) i'm just so glad i started watching kdramas and come across dramabeans:-)

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I'm glad you found a friend in real life because of dramas that has become so close. Your statement about losing friends really resonated with me because I was in the same situation as you when I left graduate school. I try to keep in contact with the friends I made but we are literally all in different, very far apart places. It's difficult to maintain friendships when there's no physical contact. And then people get married, have kids, and just have less time. Life is rife with change all around - good or bad we have no choice in the matter.

I'm really happy I found DB because I had (still) no one I knew personally who watched dramas, and I love, absolutely enjoy a good discussion, even if I'm just listening. This has been a happy place for me. Even when I'm not actively watching dramas I still lurk around here, haha.

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Beautiful post.

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