Guys were you all in your final year of high school, pondering over your future thinking of how you’ll adjust because you’re not good with people? That’s me right now.

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    Nope young lady, I never cared or still care. You will find friends, get along very well with some and would not even want to share the same classroom or your dorm with some person, but that’s always gonna happen, it is more useful to worry about what you wanna be in life and if you enjoy studying your major and what you wanna be the best in.

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      On the other hand I was exactly like mani chan. I cared too much. So much so that I let “friends” distract me from 11th grade onwards all the way through university, and my studies suffered.

      So yeah mani – OFG is right. Worry about your college, grades and courses. You’ll meet the right friends along the way, it’ll happen naturally wherever you go.

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    I thought the same for a bit but once you get to the real world you’d come to realise that that doesn’t really matter. You’ll find people that would connect to you, so don’t worry ^^

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    My biggest hurdle right now is this and im already at the final stretch of my university career!!! So anxiety-inducing

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    Agree with all the above, but I won’t say it doesn’t matter, since to you, right now, it does. Instead I’ll say that remember to surround yourself with people who respect you and lift you up, and who you respect and want to see lifted up.

    Being awkward is hard – I literally met my best friend in uni because I complimented her shoelaces at orientation, and almost fourteen years later we still laugh at how awkward I was. But your people will find you, and you will find them. Sometimes it will be taking a deep breath and saying something awkward. And all it takes is just a moment of stepping out from your comfort zone. But all those moments will pass and in the end the people who matter will stay. And like the others say, you’ll find as you get older and get more life experience that most people don’t really care about others’ awkwardness because they are focused on their own anxieties. So even if you care now, it’ll be fine. Just don’t let those feelings distract you from the more important things.

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      Thank you @snarkyjellyfish. I worry that I might succumb to the pressure of fitting in and make mistakes in one of the more important phases of my life but you are right. There might be a chance I might look back and realise how much I worried unneccessarily

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        Also: never forget that every mistake is a learning opportunity. I’ve made many mistakes, I’ve made decisions I regret, I will continue to make mistakes and regret my decisions from time to time; so long as I’m not repeating my mistakes I know I’ll be OK. And you will be too.

        Sometimes in the moment regrets and mistakes seem like the end of the world. But I’ll tell you a secret: the world doesn’t end. It keeps going. And so do we. It’s OK to have regrets and make mistakes, but as long as you don’t cling to them and let them rule you, things always pick up again.

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    i never worried abt studies of future in high school cause i was sure abt one thing “ill only do/follow things which I love. be it with friends or without friends”
    and i concentrated only on my favs (maths, science, cricket) and believe me these 3 things allowed me to meet people who are my closest friends today.

    So instead of worrying abt what you can’t control but concentrate on what you love and crazy abt… rest everything will fall in place…

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