Beanie level: Noble idiot

I’m in the mood to watch violent dramas and I can’t stand romcoms or slice of life dramas. Currently watching: Bad Guys 2, Sketch, Kill It, Room No 9.

The reason for it is heartbreak. It’s like my heart was ripped out of my chest, I feel empty and I’m angry at the world. I’m spending my days crying, drinking, binge watching, binge eating and pretending to be okay in front of my family. This feeling is a first for me, but I could have done without it. I used to think to myself “It was too good to be true.”. I wasn’t wrong, unfortunately.

Somehow I had to unburden myself to someone and I know this community is not only for discussing dramas but also for discussing life experiences.

I can’t even bring myself to watch our quirky ukulele couple finally getting it together and acting all lovey dovey.
I know the pain will ease little by little, settling into a nagging ache, low down. I find living more and more exhausting.

These gifs show exactly the different phases of my experiencing these newly-found feelings:




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    I’m so sorry. Heartbreak can take time to heal since it’s a grieving process. It might help to try some physical activity to get through the anger (running, boxing…) and find some ways to treat yourself with kindness.

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    Sending *hugs* sorry to hear that.

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    *sending you hugs and strength*
    That’s so, so hard, but thank you for keeping on going. Please let yourself grieve fully and validate all of those messy feelings, and I hope that you can have spots of joy and peace throughout this time – ones that will grow in length and number. Be gentle with yourself! I’m rooting for you.

    I also agree with mugyuljoie’s statement of trying those physical activities. We tend to forget that stress causes the same symptoms in our body as our fight-or-flight response, so releasing all of those pent-up chemicals may help!

    Please continue to share if you ever feel the need to, and I have some tea and blankets should you need any.

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    I’m so sorry, and I hope the pain lessens soon.

    Just going to reiterate what others have said: make sure you take care of yourself – drink water, try to get some air, and maybe try some physical activity. I suggest boxing – there’s nothing more cathartic than hitting a bag to get out your emotions. I go with my cousin who just got divorced, and it seems to have helped her a lot. It also helps me with my anxiety. But try to get a bit of physical activity in, even if it’s hard. Also make sure you don’t bottle things up too much – find someone you trust to talk to. Bottling up emotions can take a toll on the body as much as anything else.

    But more than anything, remember, your feelings are all valid, and heartbreak is hard. It’s OK to take the time to grieve and to heal. But make sure you’re not hurting yourself as you grieve, because you are a great person and you need to remember to treat yourself well. I’ve always found this to be a good space when in need.

    Sending you all the good vibes and strength.

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      @bernadett I’m so sorry to read about your pain, but glad you felt that this is a place you can speak to it. There is nothing else that I can add that all the other beanies have so wisely written.
      It may feel like it, but you aren’t alone – pain and grief are hard to get through, but you will get there one minute at a time, one day at a time.
      For me I go to the garden and pull weeds and get my hands dirty – or go out with my camera and lose myself in photos.
      You might not be able to do it now – but you will get there and be able to let go of your grief for a moment, then for a minute, then a day and maybe even for a couple. But you will get stronger.
      Been there, done that waaay too many times….
      And we are all here sending you lots of love, support and virtual hugs. Hang in there…

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    Strong gif work! πŸ₯° I’m sorry, but at the same time, this is healthy growth. Like the wildfire that burns all the underbrush to make way for new and stronger life. Don’t wallow too long in the ashes though. Find some joy along the way! Fighting!

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    Sorry to hear this. based on your previous post, am guessing a decision has been made.
    Good thing is you know what you are going through and you are dealing with it. its hard, but you are in the process of dealing with it. You will make it. I see a strong person here. Hang in there.
    May there be plenty sunshine and warmth soon in your life.

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    Hugs.
    Agree with what the other Beanies have said. Getting out and doing something physical is an excellent way to vent.
    Kudos to you for being real about your pain and dealing with it in a healthy manner. Do grieve and not hold it in. Respect yourself and your decisions.
    As for choice of shows – I’d recommend variety. It’s silly and entertaining. Mindless distraction.

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My mood a few days ago:

My current mood:

I’ve decided to rewatch WARM AND COZY. I need exactly this OTP’s frustrating love story at the moment.

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Help! My boring life has just turned into a makjang! There is a guy who wants to be with me (our romance is only in its initial phase as yet, but it’s looking quite promising), but his ex girlfriend who is dying reappeared and used his sensitivity to persuade him not to forsake her. I don’t know what to do. His friends are trying to reason with him saying he deserves happiness, not self-sabotage and I would be a good influence on him (he’s a real mess, and he is aware of this fact; however, I’m a bit screwed up, too). I’m not the type of person who is easily able to fall in love with anyone. All my life I had only one crush and this guy. In the dreary heart of me he’s like an oasis (this is a quotation from WARM AND COZY).
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    I would watch this drama.

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    You can’t make the decision for him, but you can tell him that you want to continue seeing him, but only if he is clear with himself that this is the right choice for him.

    You should not tell him you will wait for him indefinitely (because you should not, that is not fair to you). You should not see him if he decides to be with his ex (because that is not fair to you or the ex).

    And whatever he and you decide to do, know that some day it will be better, it will be less makjang, and you will be be happy again whether it is together or not.

    I’m sorry this is happening to you, him, and to his ex. Life can be a bit crap sometimes.

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    I’m on shaky ground here, but have you considered:

    1: Does “not to forsake” mean just visiting her in the hospital or running errands that she is too sick to do herself, or something more? Would it be ok for him to visit her and date you???

    2: How many other friends & relatives does she have around her?

    3: How long…. “dying” implies that patience will eventually solve the issue.

    4: Did he know she was dying when they broke up? Any chance that he dumped her because he knew and couldn’t cope? What would that say about him?

    Don’t answer, just consider.

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These different expressions made by different characters in episode 6 are spot-on regarding the heroine\’s behaviour. #DOTS

giving a blank look at her self-indulged rambling

laughing at her pride

showing pure annoyance at her ways of always doing what she wants

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It was so shallow and sensationalist to imitate a war time situation by making the power plant collapse. I thought for a moment I’m watching another movie, namely “Pearl Harbor” starred Ben Affleck and Kate Beckinsale. I’m just shaking my head at this exaggerated story. #DOTS

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    It’s a melodrama that understands full well that it is one. The doctors weren’t doing all that much and they needed a plot device to make it “interesting” and for character development. But yes, it has a lot of frustrating scenes.

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    The flimsiest part of this film is Doctor telling a soldier that soldiers don’t value lives as a doctor does..

    a big eye roll

    I think Song Joonki and the b’ful direction (screens) are what made this show a hit

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I can’t stand the FL. She’s so snobbish and full of herself. She plays hard to get, alawys criticize the occupation of the ML, then she had the utter audacity to complain that ML left without saying goodbye to her. She is so wishy-washy. She can’t make up her mind whether to start a relationship with him or not. She doesn’t even want to get on well with second FL.

Luckily for her, FATE always makes them meet each other so her regret about turning down ML each time he makes the first move won’t continue for a long time. In RL things doesn’t run so smoothly. #DOTS

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Thanks to the gifs of @tsutsuloo I’ve just checked out the scenes of Attorney Choi-Dan in TOUCH YOUR HEART without watching the whole drama. It’s like watching a webdrama considering their short screentime. I fell in love with them. Their theatrical but not “over the top” manner is rather endearing. I’m a new member of So Annoying. So Handsome! Fan Club. Haha.

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I think their attitude towards beauty is quite unhealthy (and annoying). She appeared on a TV show as a doctor and the most important thing is that she is prettier in real life and prettier than the announcer. No wonder a lot of girls in Korea have an inferiority complex about their looks. #DOTS

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    yeah, annoys me to no level. Qualified women are still looked like pretty beings than doctors. And how they fuss about weight.

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“I guess we’re not just passing ships in the night.” Wow. What a lyrical description of their growing affections for each other. #DOTS
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I’m crazy about these theatrical scenes. The grand reunion.
#DOTS

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The love story of the SL characters is surely a dramatic one, somewhat in the manner of Shakespeares.
#DOTS
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After I\’ve befriended with the FF button, I take pleasure in watching kdramas again. Haha.

So I started DOTS and binge-watched the first 4 episodes. This particular scene was so theatrical which made me giggle and had a great appeal for me.




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These days I have undergone a change of attitude and has got sick and tired of dramas (Korean, Japanese, Chinese, no matter). At the beginning I\’m enthusiastic about them because of the actors, trailers, story, but after a few episodes my enthusiasm is dampened, then disappointment and bore is coming, drama watching feels like a chore and in the end I drop the drama.

I think writers should take lessons in creative writing. In the last episodes of Clean With Passion For Now I saw everything I intensely dislike:
\”wow, we already met when we were children; it\’s destiny\”
\”Out of the blue, I break up with you without any proper explanation, saying cruel things (\”You did nothing wrong. I just got sick of everything. I can\’t even stand the sight of you.\”) as a coward rather than telling the truth.\”
\”Your father/grandfather/sibling killed my mother/father/sibling so we can\’t be together\” And lot of crying while a sad ballad is being played in the background…
These overused cliches WERE IN YOUR FACE in the last 3 episodes. I HATED IT.

Maybe I was spoiled and enchanted by Chugakusei Nikki. Now I compare every drama with it. A good, passionate story with sincere characters communicating with each other told in 11 suspenseful episodes. I want to experience love despite being too much of a cynic like Meg. CWPFN has the same impact on me until E13.

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    There is a wide variety of Asian dramas and yet I’m not interested in anything at all. I’m in a drama slump.

    One of the reasons for drama (and movie) slump is that I was beginning to find people annoying in the fictional world as well. I can’t stand those psychological mind games. I’m a quiet unassuming, unpretentious person with simple tastes. That’s my life as an anti-social.
    I will be watching animated Disney movies and animes for a while. I’m longing for simple and charming stories because deep inside I’m a 14-year-old girl trapped in an adult body.

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    First things first: your use of gifs is *on point*.

    I’m sorry you’re in a slump, but I totally get the reasons you give. A lot of those things are so frustrating to me, too. But Disney is a wonderful alternative!! So fun!! Enjoy those masterpieces!!! <3 And when you find a drama that piques your interest again, let us know! Knowing what you object to, I'm super interested in what you might get into again <3 <3 <3

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For Yoon Kyun Sang (and Clean With Passion For Now until episode 13) I had developed a deep affection.




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    *waves hi to fellow CWPFN fan*

    I’m actually rewatching the drama now hehehe~ 😁

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      I must admit in my mind the drama ends at E13. The last scene in that episode is a perfect happy ending without any annoying and boring angst for me. I was the same lovesick teenager like Seon Kyeol grinning from ear to ear. One of my favourite lines are the analogy with the baby sea trurtles heading to the sea from E12 in the aquarium: “Whether they are stars or lights, can’t you go with me? If we look for it together, we might be able to make it to the sea more easily.” I melted.

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        β€œIf that’s not the case, I’ll just take you there. Trust me. If it’s with you, I feel like I can go anywhere.”

        it was lovely. that aquarium scene.

        true, it would be nice to end at ep 13. despite the frustrating angst after that, i love me more giant teddy bear & rooftop guy. not gonna lie, i’m here for the actors, more than the plot.

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I liked the first episode of The Crowned Clown though it was a bit long. It would be not a real sageuk if at least 5 high-ranking people weren’t executed for their alleged involvement in treason. And there are no unnecessarily prolonged scenes (in which tvn usually takes pleasure). Yeah!
I find the Queen’s meek and spiritless character very boring. I’m not going to watch this drama for the romance, I guess.
To my great surprise, there is no familiar face among the actors who play the ministers. I must admit I’m such a strange person that I like the old scheming ministers in sageuks.
Last but not least, Yeo Jin Goo is excellent both as the paranoid king and as the simple clown. And how handsome he is!

PS Personally I ship them! (But I’m prepared for this girl’s suffering because a young noble man at the party was staring fixedly at her.)

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This scene is one of my favourites with the lovely OST in the background. Sun Kyeol wants O Sol to feel comfortable at his place and he asks for advice from Secretary Kwon ‘to his friend in Minnesota’. 😄 He finds it so hard to show his feelings that he often seems to be a jerk, but O Sol is aware of this shortcoming of his. Her note “Saying ‘I like you’ isn’t always necessary.” written in her notebook makes her feelings about him very clear. I can see myself in him so I can learn from him too. They.Makes.My.Heart.Flutter.😍 I feel this drama was just made for me.

And Mom is so happy that her precious but distant son finally let her stay with him at his home.

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Kim Yoo Jung is so beautiful and has an air of maturity about her in this scene as a woman in love.
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    Yes, she is quite stunning. But did she cut her hair at some point? I thought it was longer in earlier episodes.

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    she is quite mature in real life.. the interesting thing is while kim soo hyun’s face radiates that maturity and atleast to me she looks older than her age and not really a cheerful person but more of serious kind, i was pleasantly surprised by this one in 1n2d.. she is so sorted and so so so mature.. but looks her age at the same time..

    both girls are such wonderful examples for their generation

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His frightened puppy face suggests that “Don’t you want me to get on that overcrowded bus, do you?” Yoon Kyun Sang is so cute and handsome.
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The innocence of k-dramas is the reason why I love them very much and why I began to ignore Western shows.

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OMG! This preview is so hot that makes me giddy. 😍

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