I’m in the mood to watch violent dramas and I can’t stand romcoms or slice of life dramas. Currently watching: Bad Guys 2, Sketch, Kill It, Room No 9.

The reason for it is heartbreak. It’s like my heart was ripped out of my chest, I feel empty and I’m angry at the world. I’m spending my days crying, drinking, binge watching, binge eating and pretending to be okay in front of my family. This feeling is a first for me, but I could have done without it. I used to think to myself “It was too good to be true.”. I wasn’t wrong, unfortunately.

Somehow I had to unburden myself to someone and I know this community is not only for discussing dramas but also for discussing life experiences.

I can’t even bring myself to watch our quirky ukulele couple finally getting it together and acting all lovey dovey.
I know the pain will ease little by little, settling into a nagging ache, low down. I find living more and more exhausting.

These gifs show exactly the different phases of my experiencing these newly-found feelings:




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    I’m so sorry. Heartbreak can take time to heal since it’s a grieving process. It might help to try some physical activity to get through the anger (running, boxing…) and find some ways to treat yourself with kindness.

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    Sending *hugs* sorry to hear that.

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    *sending you hugs and strength*
    That’s so, so hard, but thank you for keeping on going. Please let yourself grieve fully and validate all of those messy feelings, and I hope that you can have spots of joy and peace throughout this time – ones that will grow in length and number. Be gentle with yourself! I’m rooting for you.

    I also agree with mugyuljoie’s statement of trying those physical activities. We tend to forget that stress causes the same symptoms in our body as our fight-or-flight response, so releasing all of those pent-up chemicals may help!

    Please continue to share if you ever feel the need to, and I have some tea and blankets should you need any.

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    I’m so sorry, and I hope the pain lessens soon.

    Just going to reiterate what others have said: make sure you take care of yourself – drink water, try to get some air, and maybe try some physical activity. I suggest boxing – there’s nothing more cathartic than hitting a bag to get out your emotions. I go with my cousin who just got divorced, and it seems to have helped her a lot. It also helps me with my anxiety. But try to get a bit of physical activity in, even if it’s hard. Also make sure you don’t bottle things up too much – find someone you trust to talk to. Bottling up emotions can take a toll on the body as much as anything else.

    But more than anything, remember, your feelings are all valid, and heartbreak is hard. It’s OK to take the time to grieve and to heal. But make sure you’re not hurting yourself as you grieve, because you are a great person and you need to remember to treat yourself well. I’ve always found this to be a good space when in need.

    Sending you all the good vibes and strength.

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      @bernadett I’m so sorry to read about your pain, but glad you felt that this is a place you can speak to it. There is nothing else that I can add that all the other beanies have so wisely written.
      It may feel like it, but you aren’t alone – pain and grief are hard to get through, but you will get there one minute at a time, one day at a time.
      For me I go to the garden and pull weeds and get my hands dirty – or go out with my camera and lose myself in photos.
      You might not be able to do it now – but you will get there and be able to let go of your grief for a moment, then for a minute, then a day and maybe even for a couple. But you will get stronger.
      Been there, done that waaay too many times….
      And we are all here sending you lots of love, support and virtual hugs. Hang in there…

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    Strong gif work! πŸ₯° I’m sorry, but at the same time, this is healthy growth. Like the wildfire that burns all the underbrush to make way for new and stronger life. Don’t wallow too long in the ashes though. Find some joy along the way! Fighting!

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    Sorry to hear this. based on your previous post, am guessing a decision has been made.
    Good thing is you know what you are going through and you are dealing with it. its hard, but you are in the process of dealing with it. You will make it. I see a strong person here. Hang in there.
    May there be plenty sunshine and warmth soon in your life.

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    Hugs.
    Agree with what the other Beanies have said. Getting out and doing something physical is an excellent way to vent.
    Kudos to you for being real about your pain and dealing with it in a healthy manner. Do grieve and not hold it in. Respect yourself and your decisions.
    As for choice of shows – I’d recommend variety. It’s silly and entertaining. Mindless distraction.

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