@mayhemf and @stpauligurl Why isn’t she breaking up with 321? Why? Why? Why? And now she is a cheater….ugh

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    I give you kudos for sticking in as long as you have. For the past 2 episodes, I’ve skipped to the previews at the end to see if I should keep watching. This drama had potential, and it just, dragged.

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      I think after this week, I’m done. At this point I don’t even care if she ends up with Ke Huan, I just want her to definitively dump 321’s selfish ass.

      And get some new shoes. Why does she always wear those white loafers?

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        I prefer this to Korean dramas where penny pinchers wear branded shoes costing $$$$ to match each attire.
        p.s. I hate those shoes btw ; )

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          Me too! I think that’s why I notice them, or are they making a point to make them noticeable?

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            Also, you can’t run with those shoes. You have to take them off!!
            I think it may be symbolic? 321 is the white shoes or her old self. And the new pewter heels is KC or her new life?

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        LMAO on the shoes. But I do actually like that she ‘recycles’ her clothes. You don’t see that in a kdrama or a Cdrama(?)

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    I think she isn’t breaking up because she needs to be right in her decisions. Maybe she’s uncomfortable admitting she’s wrong and is one of those people who have to be hit over the head to admit her mistake.
    She was close to cheating – and realized that she does have some morals and wouldn’t let herself go any further with Ke Huan. She probably feels really guilty with what she’s done so far. But damn she’s been lonely as a result of 321’s inabilty to share his life with her because of his so-called plan and he was this way at the beginning of the show.
    I know it’s been frustrating to watch – but she will have to completely fall apart before she admits she needs help. Many people are like that – the world is black and white and it’s hard to make out the pieces that are grey.
    Now I make decisions quickly and mostly because I’ve learned to trust my gut, but I also know those times of being soooooo tempted and barely holding myself back from something, only to be force to admit that it isn’t good for me.

    Wei Wei is now showing all the signs of breaking and cracking at the seams. It doesn’t help that 321 has been mostly absent. Something tells me that even if Ke Huan wasn’t in the picture she’d be cracking like this because she needs that stability in her thinking.

    Unfortunately I know some of this from experience that comes from getting older.
    Now I don’t condone cheating – NEVER- but 321 has essentially left the relationship when he went to Shanghai. They both now need to see it for what it is.

    The person who makes me nervous is Ms Clingon and what she was trying to say about that abortion years ago. Is there some information that will make Ke Huan change? I don’t think so – but he ultimately is a caring person.
    Nuf said – off my soap box, and now waiting until Friday.

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      Not close to cheating. She cheated. Kissing another man while wearing another, albeit selfish, mans ring is cheating. Poor girl. I feel bad for her.

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        You know I was thinking about this and woke up wanting to reply @coffeprince4eva – you are right, her kissing him was cheating. I think I really feel for her and don’t want to think of it as cheating. But she IS still in a committed relationship with 321 – even though it seems he isn’t.
        It is kind of hard to think of it as cheating when she is essentially living alone.
        But yes, you are right and I stand corrected – and I’m like you in how bad I feel for her pain and conflict.
        Watch on!!!!!

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          Haha. Same. I feel very bad for her and I completely understand how drawn she is to KH. BUT 321 still exists. He is still around and she needs to kick him to the curb and lead her own life with her own plans.

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            Sometimes I wonder if she was indeed in a relationship with 321. 3 years and even her best friend didn’t know. They met only over weekends. Shared a meal, cut coupons, scratched receipts.
            She kissed KH and realised she cheated and after that point she became super alert. She tried her best not to let her guard down. At least she tried, I will give her that. It’s consistent with her personality.
            The more I think about it, the sooner I want her to end it with 321. I don’t care of KH is the end game or not. She needs to figure out her life and what she wants.
            This house and finances are going to be a big mess when separating – they were not married but made join financial investments.. arghh.. not looking forward to Ep 10!

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            You hit the nail on the head about this relationship with 321 @mayhemf!

            I’d forgotten about the beginning of the show when they were a secret and only saw each other on selected days. Since the beginning he has controlled the relationship.

            I can’t WAIT until she kicks his butt out the door. Dividing the property will be a pain to be sure – but her best friend will have her back as will KH – at least he will try. But I bet when she wakes up – her attitude will be “I’ll take care of this myself” thankyouverymuch.

            Her feelings have been so confused, but she is finally waking up and she will be even more of a force to be reckoned with!

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    I think she was with 321 because he gave her the stability – it was a simple dating process, they spoke about their future together and made plans. She wanted to get married and have a simple normal life.
    She even went along his plans because she did not have other ideas.
    It’s taking her time to realize this is not what she wants. Also KC coming into her life made her want more. She wants more than ‘plans’. She wants ‘love’ and ‘passion’. She has invested 3 years of her life with 321 thinking this was the end game. Suddenly, it feels wrong.
    I like that she is taking the time, but not that she is rushing into marriage. She needs to buy some time and see if this is what she wants in the relationship.
    It gets worse. 321 really hits low. I want to smack him.

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      yep- to all you wrote here @mayhemf.

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      Now that I think about it I think she doesn’t need to be with anyone right now. Not KH and definitely not 321. Girl needs a clear space to decide on what she really wants. It is terrible to be in love with someone you ‘shouldnt’ be in love with and I think it is the guilt that is holding her back.

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        yeah.. she is guilty that she is almost cheating on her fiancé and she likes a guy who is in a 10 year relationship with her school mate. She is trying to think for everyone.
        She needs to be a little selfish and put herself first.

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