Beanie level: Errand boy

April Ahjumma.

It’s been a strange week and I can only join now our theme of the month, and I thought that I could share some family history with you.

My great-great-grandmother Lola was a peasant but also acted as a midwife in her village. I don’t know when she was born, but considering my grandfather was born in 1908, she must have been born around 1860. Yes, very Joseon.

Like women of her time, she didn’t know how to read or write and had very little access to culture, but she was a wise woman. One of her sentences is part of our family history that I always share with everyone I can, and now with you beanies.

When she was about to die at the age of 92, she would tell my grand aunt this: “It’s a pity I have to leave now, in my middle age” and the wisest “This life requires another”.

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#AprilSixWordsChallenge Day 6. Whoops!
… you think I am in love.

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#AprilSixWordsChallenge Day 5. Mythology.
Don’t fly too close to sun.

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#AprilSixWordsChallenge Day 4. Hemingway’s
No clue about what to post.

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#AprilSixWordsChallenge Day 3. A journey.
A journey begins with the first step.

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#AprilSixWordsChallenge Day 2. About a girl.
I love you, madrina. Best present.

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#AprilSixWordsChallenge Day 1. Memoir.
I remember the day you arrived.

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My Ahjussi watch (I’m not rewatching). Episodes 3 and 4.

I love the path of this show. I can understand why so many people relate to it. Leads are just fantastic, just as I knew they would, as I love them both, so… what was airing at the time of this one that I decided not to watch? (I’ve just checked and I was watching A Poem a day, I cannot recall other).

Even if I still don’t get the brothers and find them really annoying, I know I will understand them better as show goes on, but right now I’d rather not have them on screen. I just love every single detail I learn about DongHun and JiAn. Their hurt souls, for different reasons, are so real. It specially hurts JiAn, she’s just a child trying to survive when she should be living. It feels unfair she’s not given the chance to live a life. And I like the way her heart is warming to someone else she can relate, even if the only thing that brings them together is loneliness.

I know the show focus on men, on middle aged men, but I don’t like the portray of the other women we are shown, apart from the FL. I can understand the mother’s concern about her sons and that she’s affected by everything bad that happens to her, but the two daughters in law are so plain… I mean, Sang Hun’s wife is bossy and noisy and wants a divorce, then when she learns his husband is cleaning, she feels sorry for herself as it’s not good enough and God prevent his son in law to learn she and her husband are going to divorce or what he does for a living. It makes me think about the fake relationship they both have with their daughter, or the fake relationship her daughter has with her husband. I can only see a life filled with layers of lies. Nothing real and nothing true.

And DongHun’s wife who has given up on his husband, probably because he gave up on her a long ago, getting in a relationship with someone who doesn’t really want to be with her, as he hides behind “I may lose my position”, making the position more important that their love. And even so, she’s not willing to accept that she only gets the crumbs (like most lovers do). And by the way, why does her face look so artificial and as she was being photoshopped on every scene?

I’m all in, and I will catch up with episodes 5 and 6 before the end of the week so I can nicely comment with al the rewatchers,

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Working from home, the remote connection to our host is just driving me crazy, so I decided to listen to some Music March to make the waiting between screens bearable 😎🧐

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My Ahjussi watch (I’m not rewatching). Episodes 1 and 2.

When the show aired I was not in the mood of watching despinte IU and Lee Sun Kyun when I love them both. I still wonder why I didn’t watch. And then, when everybody liked it so much, I was so scared to begin to watch because… what would happen if I didn’t like it? Because it happens. People loving Sky Castle and me dropping in episode 14. People talking wonders about Mr. Sunshine and me only loving the costumes (and Yoo Yeon Seok, I’m not blind). It could happen, so I’d rather not begin, just in case, and keep it as an eternal “to watch” drama.

But then some beanies talked about a rewatch, and they were (and are) discussing it on their fanwalls. So… was it a signal? Was it my opportunity to watch, to have a commitment with the show and watch two episodes a week? I decided it would be the moment, and I start just this weekend. I thought I would have watched four episodes by now, but I’ve only gone through number 1 and number 2 (they are longer than I expected).

So far, I cannot decide whether I like the drama or not. I love the leads, that’s for sure and the actors are fantastic. I need to know more about them and how they will bond. And I couldn’t remember that Chang Ki Yong was in it, and it was a surprise to see him a baddie, as all the shows I’ve seen him, he’s being the good guy (even in Kill it, which, I know it’s odd to say). Why do I say I’m not sure about the show? Because I don’t like the brothers at all. Not a single bit. I hate people that shouts as a means of communication. And these two episodes the’ve only been shouting, specially in episode two. I hated them during the wedding and I hated them when their brother called for help and they only could shout. They remind me of some people I’m related and I wish I wasn’t because in life there are other things than shouting.

I know a watch is not a rewatch, and I know if I had seen the whole drama I could understand them better. But right now, I don’t like them.

So, I’ll tell you something more when I’ve watched episodes 3 and 4.

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    I hope you do give the entire show a try. It’s a gem but i totally get how many people won’t like it, specially the brothers aspect which Lixie also mentioned as one of the reason why they didn’t like the show that much.

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    I hated the brothers the first time around and on rewatch… I still frigging hate them. They are such losers. The show is about middle age when you realise that the time to achieve your youthful dreams has past. It’s… not pretty. But it also has a child at that point in her life and she can’t even afford to dream because she’s too busy surviving.

    I do hope you stay for the whole show. The brothers do get better. Or at least maybe you get used to them idk.

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      I’m loving the two leads so far.
      I’m staying. I promise.

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    I’m jealous that you get to watch this for the first time. I stall eww d in my rewatch, had tried to do it with a friend, but may need to pick it back up. Just the title gives me a warm feeling, lol.

    So, when I first watched it when it was airing I was automatically intrigued by our two leads, they were the hook for me, but I didnt really become hooked until around ep 3 or 4. That was when I was totally in. Yes, some of the characters are hard to watch and there is a lot of pain, yet this drama unfolds in the most beautiful way. It really does. To me it is really a novel in the way it is constructed and how they take time to reveal the characters to you, their weakness but also the best parts of themselves too.
    If also reccomend not marathoning it if you can. It should be consumed 2 eps a week or around that.
    I want to say I promise it is a satisfying journey, but it might not be for you and that’s ok.

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    It’s a really hard show to watch, partly because some lives are horribly grim and partly because some of the characters are people just like people we know. I grew to adore the brothers.

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    Do please stay with the show a little longer, and then decide. I also agree that you shouldn’t try and binge watch this. Each episode is so intense, you need to digest it slowly before moving on to the next.

    I didn’t detest the brothers actually. The three brothers jointly, along with Dong-hun’s friend who appears later, and the bar group, are the various manifestations of how middle-aged life can play out, depending on what choices you make. While (re)watching, I was thinking of “midlife” (crisis or not) as a flow chart, with each question and answer leading down to a different character. It’s like the show is showing us what all the possibilities are.

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      I’m not planning to leave, believe me.
      Nw that I’ve begun, I want to stay.
      I will probably watch episodes 3 and 4 today because I want to catch up.
      I can see why people is so attached to the show, I only was surprised on how little I like the brothers.

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        Good good 🙂 hope you get as attached to the show – it needs a lot of love! *fingers crossed*

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        My feelings towards the two brothers were exactly like yours – how annoying could they go!? But like others, I grow to understand and like them. What the elder brother did towards the end of the drama remains a most favorite moment of mine. But there are people like them in real life that I can totally relate – life is an ongoing disappointment in their lives and that is manifested in their behavior.

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      I would add Dong-hoon’s wife in this group.

      Also I have been trying to comment on the recaps here and there. So if you want to, people can join in there too.

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        Got it! I actually meant to read the recaps after watching each episode (because I haven’t done that as yet).

        Yes, Dong-hoon’s wife, even Sang-hoon’s wife and the actress – they all are examples. I must admit though that on my initial watch, I felt that the female characterization – other than Ji-an – was not the show’s strongest suit. I will keep this in mind this time around to see if I was wrong.

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Cooking and doing the housework while listening to the Music March playlist.
It’s been raining all morning long.
I’m having a wonderful time. And I can remember who posted what.
Thanks y’all.

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I liked you because you were already my brother when I was born.
Hwi and EunSeob.
They have a different way of saying “I love you” in this family.
It melts my heart.

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    I realized some of Seo Kang Joon’s characters frequently has 1 sister.
    In The Third Charm, Cheese in the Trap and What Happens to My Family (tho that’s a sister in law). It’s adorable.

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Music March. Day 31.

Wow. We’ve been one month sharing music. Thanks to all the beanies who took part whether posting or listening.

Something funny to say until next March!

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Music March. Day 30.

Today, early in the morning (in my morning) I read @isthatacorner post that mentioned BSB taking part in iHeart Living Room Concert by Fox. I could’t check it until later, and when I could I sent it immediately to my friend L, which is the biggest BSB fan I know.

There’s a big reason why I wanted to share that video and song with her and make her squeee for a little and smile while listening to the song. My friend L. is an anesthetist and she’s going through a very rough time, as you can imagine, as her job is key in this situation with the Covid-19 we are all living, and I imagine you’ve all heard in the news how bad is the situation in my country, Spain. So yes, she’s in the first line of duty and I’m worried out of my mind thinking all the risks she’s taking to keep her patients safe.

She and I live in different parts of the country (like 1000 km away) but every year we travel together with two other friends to reenactment events in Europe. The last weekend of April we would be attending a beautiful Regency Weekend event, dancing and chatting and enjoying, but obviously it has been cancelled.

I want to dedicate this to L. and to all the brave people working in hospitals, whether they are doctors, nurses, the cleaning lady or cook. Thanks for enormous sacrifice, working long hours with very little or none sleep, with less means than you deserve.

In my country every day at 8 since the lockdown began, we all go out to our windows and balconies and give them the ovation they deserve. It’s the least we can do.

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Music March. Day 29.
I love Postmodern Jukebox and I still don’t know why I haven’t posted one of their songs yet.
Enjoy. Every song can have another life.

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Music March. Day 28.
Today Facebook reminds me that 5 years ago I was in Barcelona singing out loud this song live in Robbie William’s concert.
It was fantastic.
I really really MUST repeat.

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Music March. Day 27.

These last days so many things have reminded me of Be Melodramatic, which was among the three best dramas for me in 2019: from the new Open Thread aesthetic to other beanie’s posts.

This song makes me feel happy.

Here the version by Ahn Jae Hong and Chun Woo Her.

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Oh, I\’ve just leveled up and I\’m a wrongly accused fugitive.
It may explain why I\’m watching so many police dramas!!

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    Congratulations and good luck not getting caught!

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      I’m doing my best, hiding in plain sight at home 😂😂😂

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    Congratulations! I’d usually say “Have fun on the run” but since we’re all home you’ll have to do a lot of hiding at home! 🙂

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Music March. Day 26.

Today was my first day working at home since the lockdown. I’m still trying to find my place and changed the table and all my stuff three times… but I’m happy 🙂

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I love the music in When the weather is fine.
I feel it is another character.
The ending scene of episode 8. That cello mood, and then… the piano.
I\’m loving every minute of this show.

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