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egads tells you to read a book: Post #2

Admittedly, I don’t read nearly as much as I used to. Likely the biggest blame for this lies with the glut and ease of streaming media. However, two other contenders have done their damage. First, returning to school to study literature, linguistics, and writing left me with little time for recreational reading. (And truthfully, it’s now difficult to turn off the analytic reading muscles and just enjoy the story.) Second, I got older, and when you get older your eyes get older, which means you might not be able to read in bed without your glasses like you used to, or worse, your progressive lenses mean you need to position the book just so in front of your face, which means you can’t lie comfortably and read like you had done since you could first hold a book on your own. I would tell you to not get older, but that doesn’t seem like a good recommendation.

So, in order to bring up my yearly completed books count, I’ve made an effort to be more mindful of the time I spend reading and to decrease the amount of time spent mindlessly watching shows that I’m not actively enjoying. This is not to say that I’m giving up dramas (yeah, no, that’s not happening), I’m just giving up watching the bad, the boring, and the rage inducing, while also trying to return to books. But truthfully, sometimes books can be bad, boring, and rage inducing, and I’m learning to let go of those too. By now, you all have either drifted away or are wondering if I’ll ever get to the book recommendation. I will. Here we go.

This week’s recommendation is the newest novel by Lisa See, The Island of Sea Women. I’ve been a fan of See’s work for years, but I think this is her most compelling novel in a while, and it appears that she has done some fairly deep historical digging in order to write about a particularly difficult period in Korean history.

The Island of Sea Women takes us to Jeju Island during the Japanese occupation, through World War II and the aftermath, and weaves in events during the year 2008. The haenyeo, the women divers, of Jeju Island harvest seafood to provide food and income for their families, and the novel gives us the first-person account of the diver Young-sook through her childhood, haenyeo training, marriage, and more.

As she does in most of her novels, See centers the novel on a friendship between two women. Here we have Young-sook and her childhood companion and friend Mi-ja. They learn to dive together, they go on lucrative assignments to the freezing waters Vladivostok, Russia together, and they marry and have their first children at nearly the same time. But just as colonial forces and war brutalize the Korean people and nation, so do they have lasting effects on the lives and relationship of the two women.

I don’t want to give spoilers, but if anyone has even a passing curiosity about Korea during the Japanese occupation and the aftermath of World War II, this book will reveal many of the day to day trials Korean citizens, especially the women, endured as they worked to keep their families fed and safe. I found the minutiae of the haenyeo craft fascinating, and learning the sheer physical and psychological toll this job entails, I’m even more boggled by their strength and courage. Add in the pressures of patriarchal cultural norms, subsistence living, war, and other challenges, and honestly, I’m floored.

One thing to note, this is not a light-hearted read. Not that it’s a dirge, but See does not romanticize the dangers the haenyeo face each time they dive, nor does she shy away from the cruel viciousness of occupation and war. (Warning: I was listening to the audio book in a public space when something particularly shocking and brutal happened, and I quite embarrassingly burst into tears.)

While not a perfect novel (I found the ending somewhat rushed and too emotionally “perfect.” Hmm, where have we seen that before?), I do think it’s one that should be read by those that do not understand the very deep scars embedding Korean society. Not only does See delve into the wounds caused by outside forces, but she also does not shy away from the corruption and violence Korea inflicted on its own people.

I also think, that you, as sophisticated drama watchers, will be able to see the cultural implications of the novel’s plot and characters that the average reader does not. Again, let me know what you think and if you have any recommendations of your own.

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    Well, I guess I got a bit wordy. Sorry.

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    I’ve been looking forward to your next recommendation! This sounds really interesting. I’ll have to see if my library has it.

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    OK. This is interesting. You exactly write about me who have forgotten how to read books because of drama. As same as you, l am trying to back to reading and I start with history since I like golden age of middle east history. I might digging in korean history as historical drama is my favourite.

    I am looking forward for your next recommendation.

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    I also have stopped reading more or less. Too much going on in my life. Dramas take so much less effort. But I don’t like that I’ve become more of a viewer than a reader. So thank you for this recommendation. I just ordered it from the library. I don’t promise to read it, but I’ll look it over and give it a try.

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      OK, I have it and I’ve read the beginning. I also peeked through the rest of the book. I like it. I like that it’s as much about strong women and women’s friendship as it is about the suffering that occurred under the Japanese occupation. Thanks, @egads.

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    Thank you for a good book review @egads. Like you I love to read, but I can’t read as long as I used to – old eyes…
    I’ve think that I’ve read other books by Lisa See, but when I looked up the list, I didn’t recognize any.
    With that, however I saw this book previously and have wanted to read it. Your recommendation seals it.
    “Daughters of the Dragon” by William Andrews is also REALLY good but it is a hard read. The story is about a Korean adoptee going to SK to search for her birth mother, and instead finding her grandmother who was a Comfort Woman in WWII.
    The author did a great deal of research and just so happens to have an adopted daughter from Korea.
    A good book is hard to put down and I’ll add your recommendation to my audible book list.
    thanks!

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      Thanks for the recommendation. Really the eyes have been the most annoying thing about getting old.

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        For me it’s too much looking at screens – on my phone, iPad and laptop… And my eyes get dry then blurry.
        When I try to sit and read a book I get sleepy.
        aging is certainly not for weaklings is it?

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      Daughters of the Dragon was only 99¢ for Kindle, so I have it downloaded and am gonna start it soon. Thanks

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        I think that’s what I paid. But it’s worth it. He has another book, but it isn’t 99 cents.

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    I’m loving your recs Egads! And I don’t think it was wordy at all:) I’ve been getting back to reading this year and hearing more audiobooks as well, so I always love a good recommendation since my library is not well stocked, but I can always get a book put on hold and sent over. I’m actually reading one of Lisa See’s books: Peony In Love. So far it is very interesting and I just want to read more about this time period in China and all the writing the ladies did during the transition in power. I still can’t with foot binding though, man, women always have it rough!

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      Peony in Love is probably my favorite Lisa See novel. The foot binding….man, she really evokes the reality of that and how it affected them physically for the rest of their lives.

      I think that’s why I like her books so much because these are the details of women’s lives we don’t get in the history books, and yet they have major cultural ramifications. This is also true of the haenyeo.

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      Audiobooks is what helps me get books read anymore. I listen to them while working in my garden. However when the book is good I get caught up in it and don’t stop working for hours and then can’t move my back for days.
      Peony in Love is on my shelf – but I can’t remember if I read it. Oh well….
      Like the rest of you beanies here I’m not reading as much as I used to – but I’ve always loved books about and by Asian authors. We should come up with a list.

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        I love audiobooks. That you can read and do all sorts of other things at the same time is great. Do you use Audible? I’ve also used some of my credits for a few of the Great Coursed they have, and have really enjoyed those too.

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          I do use Audible. In fact I was a member of Audible before they were acquired by Amazon and thank goodness I still have all the books I bought (which were plenty). Before that I checked out cassette tapes of books from the library. But when my sons gave me a iPod for my birthday everything changed.
          I used my latest credit to get Michelle Obama’s book but I haven’t started it yet.

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        I’m the cleaner of the house and I always have to be listening to something in order for the tasks to go faster. I was surprised when I got through an audiobook pretty quickly. Either I was engrossed in the book or I did way too much cleaning, hehe.

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          Back when I lived in MN – I cleaned empty apartments and apartment buildings to help with my rent. Because it usually took HOURS to do several buildings and apartments, I went through a LOT of very long books! However turning up the sound to listen over the vacuum caused me some hearing loss and tinitus.
          To this day I can’t get ready for a good clean anywhere without a good book on hand.
          I also listen in when working in my garden – which is fine until I realize I’ve been working for 3-4 hours straight and I’m exhausted. Just a wee problem…

          love love audio books.

          There was a time when I’d be reading a couple of hard books and listening to an audio book and would get confused about what story I was reading.

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            I clean and read too, and my ears have also suffered some damage.

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            So our generation is going to the ones with severe hearing loss and tinitus as we wobble around the assisted living places with cell phones in hand.
            haa

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            I always come out fine in my hearing tests, but my ears always hurt, like they are itchy so maybe its my allergies. I hate wearing earphones but its necessary in my house, so I play my book only just a little over the sound of water and then I pause it to vacuum. It’s really inconvenient when I get to a good part in a book. So I wait for the chapter to end which is probably why I take forever to clean haha😂

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            I had NO IDEA that turning up the ear buds to hear the book over the vacuum cleaner was damaging my ears.

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      A book that is also REALLY good – a memoir called “Wild Swans” and it’s actually banned in China. I loved it and gave several copies away.
      https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0036QVOIW/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1

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    I just finished In “Order to Live” by Yeonmi Park and “The Island of Sea Women” is on my list after I finish “Barracoon” by Zora Neale Hurston. I’ve found myself taking a long time to read anything the last few years. I used to read several books a month.

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      You might also like Without You, There is No is No Us: Undercover Among the Son’s of North Korea’s Elite. The author, Suki Kim went undercover as an English teacher in North Korea, and it’s both fascinating and terrifying. There were portions that made my blood chill when considering the similarities between the personalities of leaders of NK and the US.

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        Maybe after the next election? (I’ll put it on my list.) I’m eying “Nothing to Envy: Ordinary Lives in North Korea”.

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        @egads – because of you I purchased more credits so that I could download “Without You There is No Us” – the narrator sounds really good from the sample. I’ll let you know after I listen to some of it while working in my garden or *shudder* cleaning my house! haha

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        hi there @egads– I got up early this morning and went out to work in the yard so i put in an audiobook. It is now mid afternoon and I just finished it.
        For some reason I thought it was the book you recommended on N Korea, but instead it is “A River in Darkness” – by Misaji Ishikawa.
        It his story of moving to NK from Japan (repatriated) in the 60s when he was a young boy with his parents and sisters. His father was South Korean and his mother Japanese.

        The reader is excellent but the story is heartbreaking. I was driving in the car with tears streaming down my cheeks.
        It is good, (only 6 hrs ) but heartbreaking as anything.

        Now I need to read/watch something cheerful and fluffy – oh wait I’ll turn my brain off and watch Arthdal!

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          I call that needing a brain cleanser. Light, fluffy, and no angst in sight is necessary after so much emotional involvement.

          *takes note of A River in Darkness

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    Thanks for the recommendation! This sounds like a great read. I’ll be picking up a copy from my local library later this week. I only started getting back into reading for fun last month. Grad school really sucked the fun out of reading for me but I’m finally starting to see the light again.

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RH? Is that you?

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You know that moment when you decide to reread that book that you just told everyone to read, so you pull it off the shelf and randomly think to yourself, “I wonder how old this edition is?” see the date of publication is 1926, and think “Wow, this book is almost 100 years old,” then think, “Wait, when was this titled first released?” and then go to the Google machine, and learn that the copy you have been schlepping around for decades is a first edition? You know, that moment you remove the candy wrapper you used as a bookmark the last time you read the book, and think about how that $2 book you bought at a dirty used book store a long, long time ago was read at the beach, on the bus, during dinner, while soaking in the bathtub, and when feeding babies, even the baby that often urped up her dinner regularly. I had that moment tonight.

Anyways, this plain little book is worth so much more than I thought. But you know what? I’m going to read it tonight, and probably use a receipt or a random scrap of paper for a bookmark because I think L.M. Montgomery would love that 93 years later, someone had a much loved copy of her work in their hands. I probably won’t read it in the bath anymore though.

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On Twitter this morning, @odilettante reminded me of one of my very favorite books. Many, if not most, of you are familiar with L.M. Montgomery’s Anne of Green Gables series that well deserves the enduring love of readers over the last century. However, one of her lesser known stand-alone novels is a book I read at least once a year. It is for me the literary equivalent of a cup of hot cocoa, or a warm loaf of bread that you tear into hot out of the oven.

I have lots of favorite books, and I think I’m going to start a weekly post recommending both old and new favorites because I know the reading impulse in strong in many Beanies. And also, because I’m a book pusher. I can’t help it. I want you to love the words I love. (You don’t really have to love them, but I do just want to nudge you to maybe try it.) Therefore, I’m going to use my fan wall to push books that have kdrama-esque plots, or are related to Korea in some way, or are just so dang good that I want you to know about them.

If you don’t like to read, that’s fine, just scroll on by. If you do like to read, hi friend, let’s talk. Please give me your recommendations and opinions, because as we all know, Beanies are an opinionated lot who are passionate about their entertainment.

Anyway, back to L.M. Montgomery. Like the dramas that we all go back to when we need a good uplifting tale that doesn’t have too much of an emotional rollercoaster ride, I also have a list of books that I return to time and time again for that familiar and comforting story that leaves you feeling good when you reach the last page. The one I return to most frequently, for a quick afternoon read, is The Blue Castle.

How is an early, 20th century, Canadian novel related to kdrama you ask? Well, we have the plain, unmarried, almost 30 (i.e. old maid), female lead who lives with her nagging mother, and is afflicted with a cruel gossipy extended family. Additionally, there’s the beautiful cousin who seems to have everything that a young woman should want, and is therefore always a reminder of exactly what Valancy does not, and will not have. While Valancy’s life is dull, colorless, and without any hope of getting even a smidgeon better, she weaves an imaginary fantasy life centered on a fairy-tale-like Blue Castle. But, as we all know, plain, unmarried heroines in our romantic novels always have an event that changes everything. Valancy also has her cataclysmic moment.

I won’t give you spoilers, but there is terminal illness, a mysterious, but intriguing man who lives outside of society’s norms, birth secrets, and a slow burning romance that will satisfy any kdrama fan. There is also humor, and just enough sarcasm to feed my bitter heart, as well as a pivotal dinner scene that will have you cheering out loud. Seriously, it is immensely satisfying.

So, if you’ve never read The Blue Castle, do. I promise you won’t regret it. Also, someone adapt this for the screen. Please.

P.S. it’s available on Project Gutenberg Australia. Here you go: http://gutenberg.net.au/ebooks02/0200951h.html

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    Downloaded! Book pushers never have to work very hard with me.

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    I loved the 1985 mini series “Anne of Green Gables” and it’s sequels with Megan Follows and Jonathan Crombie. Ah Gilbert Blythe… was sad when I read that Jonathan Crombie passed away in 2015.

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    Chaebols, trains of doom, mysterious rooms.

    Going back to that Anne girl it has been so very long since I’ve read her stories or watched the Ken Sullivan adaptation. One day I need to go to Prince Edward Island.
    That could make a different type of Rabbit watch, lol.

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    I saw that tweet this morning and thought “oh I’ve never read that!” and planned to add it to my reading list. And, hey, here it is again.

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    I have read The Blue Castle many times. 😍 The word that describes it best in my mind is whimsical. It is lovely.

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    Ooh I have a new book to read now thanks to you! I love this idea of recommending books. 😍

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      I spent a wonderful evening eating pizza while reading this book. The only thing that could have topped it was to have had the physical book in my hands. Thank you. 💝

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        Yay! I hope you are enjoying it. Can’t you just see it as a kdrama?

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          I… finished it. 🙈

          Oh definitely. Train of Doom, terminal illness, geeenius chaebol in disguise. 😂 There was even a tiny bit of noble idiocy towards the end, which thankfully only lasted a few pages. 😅

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            That noble idiocy really bothered me. I felt like it turned back the clock and changed the heroine back into a passive person willing to let life pass her by. I thought that was a real betrayal of the character by the author.

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    Thank you! I grew up reading the Anne series (a requirement for a Canadian childhood) but I’ve never read this. I look forward to it.

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      You’re welcome. Oh, how I would have loved to be required to read the Anne books for school instead of yet another male-centered hero’s journey. I love reading despite the fact that I quite hated literature classes in my childhood.

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    Thanks foe the recommendation!

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    Beanies Book Club – Love it! Bring on the recommendations!

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    How have I missed this book? Thanks dear!!
    Having loved Anne with an E and Gilbert – must go read!!
    You got me thinking though – about comfort reads.
    My go-to comfort read is Eddings, I think. Yeah I know – I’m a blood death and gore and magic kind of gal. 😂
    I read all types/kinds/genres of books – but after pondering and ruminating – I realised that when I just want to curl up with something familiar, I reach out for Eddings.

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      Oh, I have my blood, death, and gore books too. I don’t read a lot of fantasy, but I’ll put Eddings on the list to check out.

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        I forgot to mention Westerns and Adventure!!
        Isn’t it hard to pick just one favourite genre? Especially when reading is your favourite hobby? I go through phases when I would just binge read J.T. Edson (whose books are so difficult to find!), then Cussler, then Christie, Patterson and then make right turn to Riordan (😂 as it happens – I am currently finishing book 5 of the Percy Jackson series – again).

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          When people ask what my favorite book is, I know they aren’t a Reader with a capital R. How can you have just one favorite?

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    Anne Shirley is probably my favorite heroine of all time. (I lived and breathed the films as a child.) Definitely want to read this book now. Thanks for the recommendation.

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      Oh, you already found the fanwall, now my response to you elsewhere seems stupid. Oh well.

      Welcome. And Anne Shirley, and her scope for imagination, let me know that being different from all the other kids was okay. I will always love her.

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        Nah, I hadn’t quite figured it out yet. I’d looked at your profile and saw this post there. Didn’t realize the connection between the fanwall here and under the beanies header till after you explained where to find it, lol.

        I wanted to be Anne Shirley when I grew up. I always felt a strong kinship with her. We definitely would have been kindred spirits if she’d been a real person.

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    Thanks for the recommendation!

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    I’m in. Sucked in by the first paragraph.

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    I just ordered it. I also read too much online about L M Montgomery and now I’m sad.

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    @egads Thank you, it was a lovely read!…..

    On a very weird note, one of my favorite books is a novella by Colleen McCullough called The Ladies of Missalongi. I always have multiple copies on hand, and I’ve sent dozens out into the world (a consequence of owning a bookish Inn) It..is.. the.. same.. book..! The setting is moved to Australia, but otherwise, the plot and the characters are the same as The Blue Castle.
    Worth the read if you get a chance!

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      I believe McCullough quite flagrantly (though some say subconsciously) plagiarized The Blue Castle. I know I read it years and years ago.

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        @egads Whew, here I was afraid I was outing her, and yes, it is flagrant. Rather than plagiarism, I would prefer to call it flattery….Kinda like a kdrama remake of a jdrama?!

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I have a half hour to fill, so I decided to watch some My Fellow Citizen. Oh look, Viki has blocked it with Viki Pass Plus. Oh great, Kocowa won\’t load. Why do I pay for these services?

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I interrupt this binge of My Fellow Citizens to laugh that there is a very similar picture of me and my four older sisters. So, I love this so much.

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    I’m only child so I don’t have this kind but my cousins have it too. Is it something all parents with more than two kids do? 😂

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    Which nr sister are you? Gang boss nr 4? Keeping-her-head-down nr 3?

    I also like that Hoo Ja is standing there with her hands in her pockets.

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      In number order I’m Unni 5 of 6, but spiritually I relate to #4. Maybe it’s being the second to last sister that gives us the attitude.

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I don’t have any work left for today, it’s raining and a bit chilly, and I don’t have any social or family obligations, so that means I am going to plunk my behind on the couch and binge My Fellow Citizens. See you all on the other side.

So help me if this ends badly, @cloggie and @leetennant will be on my hitlist. I still haven’t forgiven those who sucked me back into the drama that shall not be named. I mean, we will always have Security Couple, but the rest of it traumatized my drama watching.

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Mr. Jo is gonna die, isn\’t he. No, don\’t tell me.

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Hey Beanies, if you\’re bored come join us and watch Coffee Prince. RIGHT NOW. https://www.rabb.it/s/rlyhrg

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So, I started My Fellow Citizens, and have thoroughly enjoyed the nine episodes (of the 30 minute kind) that I’ve seen. Why then do I keep pressing play on other random dramas. Like the Japanese one that is making me ragey, or the other Japanese one that is just kind of dumb. (Don’t ask which ones, I won’t tell you. First because I’m a bit embarrassed to be watching them? Second, well, I don’t know.)

Is it that I need to know that it sticks the landing? Am I afraid of another He’s Psychometric burn? (Still mad about that one btw. Poor Ji-soo. I hope you and Daenery’s are in fictional heaven discussing your utterly stupidly lame ends. You both deserved better.)

Anyway, I guess I’ll slink over to bad American television for the evening. Let me know next week of MFC holds it together in the end because if anything bad or dumb happens to my girl Park Hoo-ja someone’s gonna get kimchi slapped.

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    So far so good? I think MFC is worth it just because it hasn’t fallen into a heap – despite being at episode 16 of an 18 episode season. Sure, they could completely screw up the last two but that seems less and less likely. I say catch up and join us next week!

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    Lol, got to love a watch you are too embarrassed to talk about. Sometimes those are the best when overstressed or not feeling well.

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I see that many Beanies are feeling cheated by some of the director’s choices in today’s episode of Her Private Life. Meh, I’m fine with that. I have an imagination, so I’m okay with leaving them a bit of privacy.

On the other hand, the whole lost/found mother storyline? Not really caring now that my wild hope prediction did not come true. Speaking of Director Eom, there was decidedly much too little of her this week, and I’m feeling a little cheated by that. (I love Kim Sun-Young so much. Do you think her and Ahjumma would be my friend?)

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While watching The Secret Life of My Secretary I keep having this nagging feeling that Do Min-ik is really Jang Do-han playing a slightly goofy puppyish CEO in a long game con for his revenge. When will Key and Kim Seul-gi show up? Will Shin Dong-wook still be a priest, or has he found a new calling? Am I the only one? Probably. I’ll show myself out.

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Why are Chinese dramas doing this lately? The constant shift from a clear image to this fuzzy sun glare is very distracting.

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She\’s only been on my screen for a few minutes, but I think I might be in love.

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Seeing as Director Eom has suddenly draped herself in Ryan Gold’s blue and gold color pallet, I would like to suggest that she is his long lost mother. (Just kidding, but wouldn’t it be a grand twist?)

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    I’d much prefer this twist to the Lee Sol being Shi An and Ryan’s mother “twist”.

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    I AM HERE FOR THIS.

    Director had him before she married her rich husband, and abandoned him for money (no rich slush fund dude wants to marry a single mom). This is totally in keeping with her character.

    Is she Lee Sol? Did she use to paint and give it up? Is that why she’s such a jerk about the museum, it’s her toxic way of being top dog in the art world. (She also Can no longer paint after giving up her child, the only sign of it affecting her). DID SHI AN BECOME AN IDOL SO THAT SHE WOULD NOTICE HIM? IS THAT WHY SHE HATES SINDY’S OBSESSION WITH HIM HES ACTUALLY HER BIOLOGICAL OPPA.

    Sindy is Lion’s annoying little sister. This is canon now.

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In my next life I will have this much confidence and a man in a nice fitting suit to carry my bag.

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I have to say that Her Private Life keeps getting better. The OTP does this really weird thing called trust and communication. I like it. I hope this will be the newest kdrama trend. Maybe it will replace the priests and face blindness.

Anyway, last week I was kind of getting a wee bit irritated with the bff Sun-joo and how she was turning her fangirl obsession to barista boy, but boy did she win my heart today. The contrast between her husband’s excuses and the straightforward manner that Ryan owns up to his mistakes was interesting. And I’m especially glad that Sun-joo is not letting him off the hook. Too often women, out of many necessities, have to just accept and move on in order to maintain a semblance of peace and security.

Also, I’m obsessed with her earring collection. If you see these earring somewhere, let me know. I want them.

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    Me too! It had a pretty shaky start with all the glorifying of the fan girl craziness, but now it looks like a well written well paced little drama. I am yet to see this weeks episode but I am sure I will agree with you re Sun Joo

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    Totally agree that communication between OTP is so refreshing! How many times have we yelled at the screen – Just tell him/her!!! Talk!! Explain!!!!

    Sun Joo’s husband is just a coward. What she said was so true – he should have told her – maybe even get her input!
    Power to her!

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    I loved that scene.

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    Isn’t it crazy that we’ve had so many swoony male leads but no realistic healthy romance from kdramas? The way they apologize to each other, the way they react appropriately to the “lies”, the way Deok-mi confidently expresses her affection and desire, oh man, I feel like kdrama finally grew up with me and entered the land of mature swoon-worthy romance of 30-somethings.

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Attention rabbit ISWAKers. Life has reared its ugly head with deadlines and family obligations.

So, unfortunately I will not be able to host tonight’s showing of Kiss Me. Since @isthatacorner seems to have also been deluged with real life obligations (seriously real life, back off) let’s postpone until next week. In the meantime, here’s a driver to smoothly escort you through your day.

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Everyone else has already stated the obvious about episode 10 of Her Private Life. Yes, the first few minutes were scorching. Yes, it was refreshing to see a new kdrama couple act like a a real life couple who cannot keep their hands off each other. Yes, Eun Gi is annoying and I could have done without that last scene of the two men laying claim to an adult woman who can make her own decisions. No, I’m not really sure what’s up with Seon Joo’s husband, but I do like the bag he gave her, and can I have her earring collection? And yes, the poor museum staff reaction to the very cringy googly eyes our leads were giving each other at work was totally on point. Poor things. It’s gonna be a rough ride.

Anyway, my main takeaway from this episode is that I wish I had had this amazing outfit to wear when my children were at peak embarrassment age, so disciplining them in this manner would have been so much more fun.

How does she not get that earring caught on everything?

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    That earring is EVERYTHING. How has her ear not just given up the ghost and fallen off? How has she not ripped her ear off giving a sassy hair flip?

    I did feel a bit bad for Eun Gi as he was practicing his confession. I liked the conversation with his mom where she asked how come he didnt confess sooner and he said that he honestly hadnt realized his feelings were deeper than friendship until now.

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      I would love to be in the meetings with her stylist.

      “Is this weird enough?”
      “Is there enough glitter?”
      “I think these earrings are too small/short/normal.”
      “How can we emphasize my wack-a-doo bangs today?”

      Nahh, I’m not feeling sorry for Eun-gi. I’m tired of second leads doing these elaborate confessions when they know, they know they don’t have a chance. (See Kim Jae Wook in Temperature of Love. Or rather don’t. I hope he leaves that off his resume.)

      I did think the conversation with his mother was good, but dude, you don’t need to burden Deok-mi with your feelings. Because it would be a burden. But this is a drama, so I guess no one will listen to me. Sigh.

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        And the fact that….oh, I don’t know neither of his mother’s or his father encouraged them to have a romantic relationship and all of his parents are over the moon Doek mi is with Ryan.

        I mean, if those are not indicators so strong that it can burn your flesh, yeah, not only does he sucks, but he is stupid.

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        But they did listen to you , egads! They are playing the theme song all willy nilly now and its not acceptable. They aren’t listening to you on pleasant things but they are listening.

        They feels creepy.

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        I want to be this kind of stylist. I’m trying to imagine the job posting. How fun would it be to search for the most obnoxious earring/bangs/hat combination?

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          So. Much. Fun.

          And to have an actor that is so obviously relishing every last minute of it? I bet it’s heaven.

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            Thank you, thank you for posting this GIF. I frigging love Sindy’s mom so much; her styling makes Carrie Bradshaw look like Martha Stewart.

            Actress Kim Sun-young was Ji-ho’s mom in Because This is My First Life. She was 41 at the time and played mother to an actress only 13 years younger. She had a couple great lines but this tiny role is gold.

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            @tsutsuloo she’s played some amazing mom characters but I agree this one is so wonderfully over the top.

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        As far as Eun-gi, it’s best to be honest. He hasn’t been seeing what we see. He wouldn’t have thought about confessing if he didn’t think he had a chance. He has a right to honestly express his feelings in a non aggressive way.

        Now, that said, once he says “I like you” and she says “I’m dating the most adorable man who ever lived” he should then back off, take time to heal his wounds, and figure out how to go forward as bro/sis. I highly doubt he’d do that, since he doesn’t have a great track record for respecting her feelings or boundaries at all.

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          But, he has somewhat. He’s doing this now because he does see that she is interested in someone other than an idol, and that that interest is returned by Ryan. This is what bothers me. He seemed fine not saying anything about his feelings as long as she maintained her single status and focused her attention on an unattainable person, but as soon as she has someone by her side, suddenly he goes all possessive.

          Thing is, if the writers had kept his feelings as brotherly, I would like this guy. But they didn’t, and now here we are.

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            It makes sense to me that since they grew up together as near siblings it would take some sort of threat to their relationship to kick him into gear to accept and understand his feelings. Because if not he could go on seeing her and spending time with her and being the #1 man (besides Si An, of course) in her life. Most of his early actions were merely reactions without him seeming to understand why. I don’t much care for the character being in the drama, but I did understand him in this instance

            I 100% agree on the brother vibes. This show would have been 100X better if he’d been her brother or only considered himself her brother. He could have still had similar worries about their platonic relationship changing with a new man, etc.

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        @egads

        “How can we emphasize my wack-a-doo bangs today?”

        *laughing*

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    😂 OMO!! Just imagining it! – me in this get up and the look on my kids’ faces!!

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    I like her so much! LOL

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I guess no one picked up Rescue Me 2 to sub. I suppose I didn\’t need another drama to watch, so it must be for the best then.

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    I read somewhere that it will be released on Netflix

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    What??! Ugh that was my biggest fear, it was what I was most looking forward to 😭

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    My cousin told me that the it’s available on OnDemandKrea (IDK)

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