Beanie level: The Goblin’s underpants

Beanies, my PI today lectured me for an hour detailing how bad I am at everything and what a disappointment I am..for an hour…I feel my spirit crushed today…pray for me that I don’t give up

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    Fighting!

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    Fighting!

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    Please don’t let one person’s opinion sway you. Fighting!

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    Fighting! Don’t give up.

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    From my experience, it’s not uncommon for PIs to be pretty blunt with their students about their shortcomings. However, scolding a student for an hour is unheard of. Please don’t give up. You’re not supposed to be perfect because otherwise you wouldn’t be a student. You are there to learn and grow, for sure! You can (1) work harder to prove that your PI was wrong, and (2) find support in other sources such as other professors, your friends, lab mates, program director, etc. Don’t be afraid to ask for help! This was my biggest mistake in the first 2 years in grad school. It was only in my third year that I became comfortable with admitting that I was not ok/I didn’t know and needed help. Grad school is stressful for EVERYONE, you’re not alone, and people love to hear that “we’re all in this together”. You’ll be surprised with how much help people are willing to offer when you’re open up about your struggling. Please stay strong!

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      It could be the PI having a bad day. This PI needs some communication skills that direct and help rather than discourage students.

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      Listen, I know I have shortcomings, I am slow and my multitasking needs improvement but he is also burying me in TA work excessively and add to that I have to do courses…I don’t want praises but I certainly don’t deserve him telling me how much I suck for an entire hour….I am new in US…adjusting took a while, summer was hell because how homesick I was…I was finally making progress….now it feels like what for

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        My guess is you’re doing a PhD with some lab work, which was what I experienced myself. I totally feel you, what you’re going through is the first-year dilemma of grad school. I too questioned my life’s choice quite often in my first year and almost got into depression because of imposter syndrome. It will get better with time as you learn how to cope with it (time management is the key!) In the worst case, if you find your PI unbearable, talk to your program director about the option of switching to another group. Several friends in my class did that and they were in much better places afterward. And if this helps you, I’ll tell you my story. I dropped my PhD program after 3 years and graduated with a Master’s. My PI was great and I love my lab mates but I always felt unmotivated while doing research. I tried everything I could to boost my interest in daily lab work but nothing changed. I finally decided that enough is enough and left. I’m now doing another Master’s in a completely different field. My new program includes no lab work, no TA, no PI, only courses that I care and I can’t be happier. Please know that grad school is definitely not for everyone and it’s ok to walk away if you feel like you can’t do it, just make sure to get credited for the time you spend there (like getting a Master’s). Cheers!

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    Hugs

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    Don’t give up!!! Fighting 💪🏻

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He is everything she isn’t in a way…Sae Mi is lovable though, she is not a villain, she is just forced to play her part as a villain

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    Yeah. That is what sucks about her having no self awareness and her main plotline is loving Nam ju because outside of that she is pretty awesome.

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I love, love self aware Ju Da but what is purpose of giving her awareness so late into the story?? I like her spunk but she is sooo cynical which is why I guess she gravitates towards Deo Hwa

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Anyway only things said Hye Yoon and Lee Jae Wook truly are killing it…..there acting during the Saguek part and the rest truly sell their heartbreak and conflict well.

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I think what happened was that Dan Oh was supposed to get better post-surgery……since the surgery never happened there was a gap between what was intended and what was happening….you imagination and your intention sort of not logically getting along in your brain so Dan Oh kept feeling sick in the shadow because in her version of the world, it was something that was unreasonable….once she died in the shadow and her awareness died, that conflict between her aware self and writers imagination and intention resolved

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I have a theory about this whole stage shadow……..what if the changes made are like the writers subconscious imagining certain things but at the end the final decision is based off what gets written or drawn in the Manhwa……so that is why even though Dan Oh, Haru tried their best to change things, she still had to sort of die in the shadow to retain her character in the original Manhwa…..its like how writers describe their work sometimes that it feels like the characters they draw have life of their own….its still writers imagination creating those ripples but at the end it all comes back to what finally gets written in the story…so those changes made where subconsciously writers imagination running wild but at the end, its what he writes down or draws that becomes the final event which is why Danoh had to die in the shadow so that story can flow as intended in the book…..it a bit mind boggling but it makes sense because these characters are all figments of imagination of the writer so he still can change their fate when he wishes even if that figment of imagination grows its own trajectory…for a simple show as this…..that may be a bit too convoluted

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I needed this # ExtraordinaryYou

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#ExtraordinaryYou What the heck?? Kyung WOW! Dude, I hope that was stage in the Sageuk, not shadow….my poor, poor heart!

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This was first episode on Extraordinary You when I wanted to smack both Haru and Kyung….let the girl be…bad enough she has to follow the writer\’s crappy storyboard

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Dear Baek Kyung and Haru,
Dan Oh wants to live on her own terms which includes her choice to love, her dad, her friends. Stop forcing your decisions to change things on stage or shadow on her

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    To be honest everyone’s being a noble idiot. Haru did ask what she wanted and when she didn’t think he was listening she said she doesn’t want to die and wanted to change the stage

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      I think its a given that she wants to live from the get go….who wants to die but even then choice is hers to make to change things…what if she was a real character with terminal illness….she could still pray to God for her health….Haru seemed fixated on changing the past from repeating…it had more to do with his guilt…same for Kyung….his actions scream remorse at having ruined his chances with Dan Oh…where is Dan Oh in all this

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Happy Birthday small bean Kim Hye Yoon…….may you get even bigger success and stay happy, healthy always

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Never followed Stray Kids but this OST is beyond amazing #ExtraordinaryYou #Stray Kids

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But our Dan Oh – Haru are so refreshingly lovable, my precious babies….I know this ship may be doomed but I can\’t help it

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Baek Kyung as Daegun really was a grade A asshole, not by his free will….he staged a coup if my guess is right….that is why Mi Chae hates him…I hate how he has retained some of those traits

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Episode 23-24 of Extraordinary You was the best, we get a lot of plot progression, reveal and it was beautiful, funny and heartbreaking at the same time….very balanced content

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BTW loved, loved, loved Ju Da\’s spunk and Do Hwa and Dan Oh back to teasing each other…these two babies are precious….poor Nam Joo…..even Sae Mi like So Chul in the shadow….and Il Jin is taken

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OMG………..the bully in Extraordinary You is called Il-Jin…….Y3….I am dying here……funniest twist ever!

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Basically Every extra squad in this Manhwa is more entertaining than the actual A3 #ExtraordinaryYou

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Beanies….I can\’t seem to focus no matter what lately….any tips how to improve it??

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    as for me, when I can’t focus it’s usually because I’m having too much on my mind then my dear anxiety friend never helps .
    Taking long walks while listening to music helps me, I just walk and walk and at some point I only focus on the walk, it’s a healing time for my brain and mind ^^

    Adding some organization might help, doing list while you can’t focus so you see what you have to do, then make a deal with yourself it’s ok to lose attention but works gotta be done, so 20min of attention then change task to trick your brain ^^’

    if it’s about drama/shows watching maybe drop the show and come back to it later haha x)

    hoping it’ll help you Gem28 πŸ™‚

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    It may help to identify why you can’t focus. Is it because you are tired? Didn’t sleep well? Too much stuffs kn your plate? Or you hate the things you need to do so you subconsciously trying to avoid them? For me, knowing the reason helps in determining the steps to counter it.

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      of course I forgot the important things ^^’
      “identify why you can’t focus” , this is step one πŸ™‚

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        Well. Sometimes it’s impossible to pinpoint the cause. We can always skip step 1 and do the rest of the things you suggested. 👌🙂

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          I am a graduate student stuck trying to make a dead project into a publication…its not impossible but I don’t find it interesting either. Saying it out loud is not an option as this is like a job but I really want to try something else.

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            I think that part would fit
            “make a deal with yourself it’s ok to lose attention but works gotta be done, so 20min of attention then change task to trick your brain ^^’”

            you can work with a carrot reward , working seriously then enjoy a drama ep at night

            for studies (or work it doesn’t change -_-) you have to do things you don’t really find interesting but there’ll be new tasks next ^^
            also what you learn will be useful afterwards

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      Don’t forget watching k-dramas won’t make your brain to chill out! So keep away from social media and TV and other disturbing things and as well thinking about how many likes did you get for your post doesn’t help as well.

      If you like dancing randomly in your bedroom or any physical activity can help. That’s why all those heroes are doing push-ups 😉

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Lee Tae Ri aka dried squid fairy was asking Rowoon to kiss Hye Yoon Deeply on screen…he truly is fairy Godmother off screen #ExtraordinaryYou

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