I got some hate on Twitter today for saying something about men getting support no matter what they’re accused of (eg. Seungri), but women being crucified for the smallest of mistakes (eg. braless pics, Sulli). Double standards. Sadly, it was found by oppalogists who insisted on “educating” me about Seungri’s innocence, calling me “disgusting” and questioning my lack of appropriate lawyer qualities. Including in my DMs. ‘Course I muted, blocked and didn’t bother to engage, but honestly 🙄🙄. I don’t bother with an anonymous stan account, I’ve got a few RL folks as well as K-pop and bean folks all on the same account. No one on my tl needs that drama, me included.

Anyway, wanted to rant a bit. I’ve seen tons of people get hate ofc and as a writer on K-pop with another site/blog, have seen some of my articles get some hate (come to think of it, the worst was by Seungri stans). So it’s not new, but does make me go 🙄🙄. Anyone who thinks Seungri is an innocent lamb caught up in a storm, a victim of circumstance, is living in delusional la la land.

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    Yikes! This is the reason I prefer smaller communities (like DB!) over big social networking sites lately. I’m sorry that happened to you! People really are delusional, and there are so many people on Twitter who are impossible to have actual conversations with anyway. They don’t listen to anyone but themselves, whether it be about entertainment or politics or anything else. Sites like Twitter still do have their merits, of course, and there are many very intelligent people there worth talking to, but I prefer to save my sanity and go elsewhere, or stick to particular Twitter users I like.

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      (That’s not to say that other sites don’t have this happen, of course. I’m just picky about where I spend my time LOL and it’s hard to be picky on big platforms like Twitter)

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        Oooh agreed! I so much prefer DB. The only reason I’m not on DB as much lately is because I’m trying to not watch dramas for a short while until I get some things sorted, since dramas do take up a lot of time – and the beanie community is awesome. The discussions here will draw me right back to dramas hahaha.

        Really gotta say that the twitter mob is frightening. 100% agreed on that. This gives me the perfect excuse to sign out of twitter as well for a bit.

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      The amount of hate the big 3 (twi, fb, yt) sns sites have is huge. A controversial topic or basically anything worth leading to a discussion and generating pros/cons becomes so toxic in an instant. I always regret looking up comments of any news because there would be some extremely horrible comments. Anonymity helps them more but now people don’t have any worries leaving hate through their own names. That is also the reason I tune more into DB than elsewhere.

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        Makes sense. I really do prefer DB too! But am trying to cut out dramas for a bit. It mandates a DB break. Anonymity makes people mean – its why I’m not anonymous. I have strong views too, but I never want to lose a grip on my sense of control. Though you’re probably right. A lot of people are terrible regardless of being on their real names.

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        Also wanted to thank the two of you. T_T 😀

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    I will also blame it on immaturity perhaps. I want to think most of these delusional fans are teens or someone who isn’t well aware of the world but y’know Big Bang is old enough to have fans in 20s or 30s and not just teens. So yeah this culture that puts celebs in an otherwordly dimension, thinking they are angels is so toxic.

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      Plus it still saddens me how most people think that a verdict passed is always right. There is a thing called power and influence and he had it the most in the entire scenario with YG included. So I have left seeing this news long ago because it was just downright dirty and depressing but I’m glad at least someone is convicted but way more disappointed yet again that so many still were able to escape harmless. But you did well by not arguing with them, it’s pointkess and useless to do so, will just gather more hate towards you.

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      Agreed with both comments. One of the replies was a woman flaunting her age (40s) and degree (doctorate) to say that the support is completely rational. At least she spoke nicely? That’s the most I can say.

      And this is it exactly. I just…don’t understand the fandom mentality a whole lot of the time.

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    I was reading some of the comments on Asian Junkie on the post about the jail sentences for …..oh I dont want to look up how to spell their names. Anyway, i saw mention of the fact that Seungri fans were out on full force on twitter. Hopefully ince he is in jail they will move on.

    I think I’ve seen you pop up on Seoulbeats? Congratulations.

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      Yup. JJY and CJH’s convictions seem to have drawn out Seungri stans in full force – as though their conviction is proof of his innocence?

      Yes, seoulbeats. Thank you! 🙂 I love that the site carefully analyses releases and events, and isn’t afraid to be critical. Which is why I applied.

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    I saw! For the record, I agree with what you said and you did not deserve any negativity for it.

    Twitter can be a terrifying place. That’s why I mostly use it to absorb information and post very little.

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      Yeah. Thanks Sat, hahaha. I’m wondering when to un-private my profile, or whether its good to just leave it at that. Twitter is def terrifying but I do love it for the active kpop community, and I’ve made some cool friends because of it. Though ofc, it can also turn bad – Exhibit A being me.

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    I’m so sorry to read Seungri stans went after you. As a VIP, I can’t understand people who still support him after the whole Burning Sun case was revealed. I unfollowded fan accounts who still support him. Supporting means not respecting the victims and that’s so hurtful. I understand people who have a hard accepting the news but my disappointment in a singer I once loved can’t be compared to all innocent and manipulated people’s feelings involved in the case.

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      I personally know a thirty-something fan and a forty-something fan of BIGBANG and I’m also surprised by how much they are still supportinh Seungri. I have heard excuses to he is innocent until he’s proven guilty to he is just giving those prostitutes jobs (wtf!) to he is taking the blame for YG. To maintain my sanity, I try not to discuss these things with them.

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        It’s really shocking to see people go that far to justify his crimes. Staying far away from them is the best thing to do.

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        Ouch! That’s some real interesting line of reasoning they’re offereing there.

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          (more like, confounding)

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            Confounding is the correct word. I know they are big fans but I just can’t deal with them just “pardoning” his actions.

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      I do agree. It must have been incredibly hard to let go of such a beloved idol, but after a point, one must draw the line, right? What’s doubly sad is that it is so many women that are still supporting him, and that they choose to *attack* (that’s saying it nicely) other women, who choose not to. I can’t understand this mentality at all.

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        Exactly. If they were the ones – or even people they cherish – involved, they wouldn’t say that. It’s impossible to defend him if they were the other party and yet, they choose to wait for his return. No. They need to let him go.

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        I’m so sorry that you have to deal with unreasonable fans. It is what I hate about k-pop at times as the fans are just more rabid.

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    I don’t call myself a VIP on twt anymore. I’ve been attacked for saying I’m ot4 *shrugs*

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