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Well. I’ve dropped SLA. Bright side? The next time I’m jonesing for a new or new-to-me Noona Romance and someone recommends SLA I can say, “no thanks”. Not because of the cheating but because I was sitting watching Cuomo’s Get After It on CNN and ep 8 or 9 of this at the same time and at a certain point all I could think was…I don’t know which of these things is boring me more.
For SLA I honestly don’t like ANY of the characters, not even YAI’s earnest puppy is ok with me. Why are you full court pressing a married person? Thats just gross. For the FL. Ugh. She will literally do ANYTHING for money/power/prestige. And now that she’s burnt out she’s indulging in this “love” affair with YAI. I don’t think he’s being emotionally manipulated, he goes into this with his eyes wide open.
And finally, because I spoiled myself. I read the comments on the final ep on viki and she goes to JAIL?! I’ve been tuning out/fast forwarding whenever the boring rich b*tches who are pulling her strings like a puppet come on the screen for the past like 6 eps or so. Political/Business machinations always bore me. I dont have the personality, intelligence or stamina to approach work like a war and think 15 steps ahead and I dont find it interesting to watch people who live their lives this way. So watching these horrible women try to out horrible one another and using the FL as their willing, money grubbing pawn/minion. Yeah. Fast forward/skip ahead/tune all the way out. So to read that the FL goes to jail that just tells me that the work aspect of this drama is going to eat up even more time than it already takes in the 67 minutes. And I just cant handle that.
Its already December am I ever going to finish a drama this year?!

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    I really enjoyed it, YAI and the music carried me through the awful chaebol conspiracies, but it’s a bit of a slow burner, and the whole point is watching de FL’s arc from a fake life to finding her own way again… Anyway, life’s too short to waste it watching dramas you don’t like!

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    I actually loved it and was mesmerised by it and couldn’t stop watching it. But even I found some episodes tough to get through. Also, it might sound weird, but jail? Is a happy ending.
    Anyway I think you need to be in precisely the right mood and you may never be in that mood.

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I do not understand the marriage —you know what, ANY of the marriages in SLA. But for the FL. She and her husband sleep in different beds, same room. Hes always a dick to her. Why are they married?

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    If I remember correctly, they are only married in name. I believe both married the other for the prestige they would both benefit from the marriage, especially when it came to their reputation and standing at the music school (academy) they work at 🤔🤔🤔 I could be totally wrong and off base, just because it’s been a while since I’ve watched SLA & I never continued after episode 14 (I know!!! So close to the finale, so why didn’t I just finish it?? It was then that I realized that some dramas that have extramarital affairs as the main conflict of the drama won’t always be my cup of tea)

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      I understand dropping when you are so close to the finish line. I dropped Love by Design on the last ep. They had been going back and forth on who the FL was going to end up with and its basically the only Noona Romance that I have EVER watched where I was like, FORGET that youngster and go date that age-appropriate gentleman….! And when I realized that wasn’t going to happen, when it was time to hit play on the final ep….I couldn’t do it. And I think that I’m still something like 4 eps away from finishing Melting and thats probably not going to happen. I hate everyone.

      Extramarital affairs are 100% not my cup of tea. I have NEVER been able to finish a drama where cheating has been the center of the plot. It goes to show how deep my slump is that I made it this far into this drama (I’m about to start ep 8).

      Thanks for answering my question. I think that I agree with you on their marriage. From what I can tell the FL (I still haven’t figured out ANYONE’s name) is basically a glorified secretary/personal assistant who for some reason and some how is working for the wife of the chairman and his daughter. And they are both such horrible people and she’s so efficient (she coulda been on Jugglers!) managing their dirt–and the chairmans when that comes up–that they keep giving her random promotions. So over the course of 20 years she’s gone from mild mannered secretary/personal assistant to Director of probably some made up thing in the arts department. I think her gross husband probably saw the title, saw that she was close to the big wigs and thought that she would be a great way to jump start his career.

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        Yea, I can take cheating and a little bit of adultery in a drama if it’s just in passing or if it is a subplot, but not so heavily like in SLA where the drama is about adultery itself 😥😥😥 It might have something to do with my subconscious and a just a knee jerk reaction to not go there in my dramas because I can relate to it in a way irl— my dad walked out on our family for someone else 🤷🏻‍♀️

        Oh dear… Is nothing in the current line up of Kdramas nor of the past or present line up of Cdramas grabbing your interest? 😱😱😱😱

        You’re welcome 😘😘😘

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Ugh! I am so annoyed! I am “in charge” of a meal program at my library. My manager constantly changes various things about the program and tells EVERYONE on staff EXCEPT me that he’s made these stupid changes. I’ve been working for 3 months on making sure communication and procedures are running smoothly between us and the people providing the food. And he just announced in an email (while I’m off sick) that he’s scrapping the ENTIRE project that I’ve been working on. Without telling me first so that I’ll be prepared. And THEN he sent out the agenda for out staff meeting and once again without telling me he’s setting aside a chunk of time to “address issues with our meal program”. Last month he told me–in front of a colleague who is neither a manager or from HR–that if I made another mistake he would fire me. I had NEVER been so humiliated before. So I honestly, like HONESTLY think that he’s doing these things on purpose to run me out of the library or get me to quit. Even, ok, our security doesn’t technically work for the library so she doesn’t have a library email or anything. Two weeks ago he announced that he was taking everyone to dinner. He went and spoke to every single person EXCEPT ME to invite them, and then sent an email “in case he missed anyone” (there are only 5 people on our staff, btw). And then the next week he printed off menus of the restaurants he was considering. Once again, walked around to every person EXCEPT ME and gave them menus, asked their opinion. Our security guard, who does not have a library email but is coming to the dinner, was the ONLY person who asked me if I was coming. I like this library and this library system but I think that I dont fit in with this staff. All 3 of the women that Im supposed to supervise all have management ambitions. I have somehow become a manager with NO management ambitions and have nothing but resentment for the position I find myself in. And even though I’m trying to rise to the position, its a rough road. Especially with 3 judgy people watching (and tattling) my every move with noses in the air as they say what they would have done had they been in charge. And which I have to try not to roll my eyes and bite my tongue because 9 times out of 10? The solution that they so snootily tell me? Wouldn’t have worked. Is bad customer service. Isn’t how you relate to children/teens. Against library policy. Against human decency or is just plain DUMB.
Its depressing and once again makes me wonder if I’m the problem. I’ll stick it out a year. I actually think I can make that here, its only 8 more months. And this library system has TONS of libraries. So, it shouldn’t be too difficult to transfer to a different one in a years time.

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    I’m so sorry you have to experience this. Hang in there until it gets better and/or until you can transfer. I assume talking to your manager didn’t help?

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      I actually haven’t tried talking to him about these particular issues. I’ve tried to talk to him about other things and even though he says that he wants/can take criticism whenever I try and bring up a problem with him specifically he just shrugs and says that it–whatever issue I’m bringing up–had to happen that way because he’s the manager and has to make tough calls sometimes. Even if that means undermining and disrespecting staff. He’s told me before that his priorities are 1. the public, 2 the library building, 3 the library policies and 4 the staff.

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    Sending you good vibes and wishing you luck. Hopefully things will ease up soon.

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      Thanks, man. How are you doing these days? I think the last time I retreated from the real world and could spend a lot of time on DB you were moving into a new apartment. How are you liking it?

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        I”m good – just crazy busy with work. Also my laptop crapped out on me so I’ve been posting less and just lurking a bit. New place is great – I have room to breathe and cook and relax. I’ve been watching a lot of bad Hallmark movies on TV – I could get a PhD in made-for-TV Christmas movies, I’ve seen so many. Mostly though, I’m just a bit burned out and tired these days so waiting for a few more days off to catch up on sleep and rest.

        How about you? Other than the manager from hell and the stupid minions how is the new gig? (Piece of advice: make a record of all of said manager dude’s bad actions just in case you ever need to back yourself up – like if he fails to tell you important things, record how/when you found out. This way when you try for another branch he can’t use anything against you.)

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    I rarely say stuff like this because IMO people usually don’t deserve it, but that guy is TERRIBLE. You are definitely not the problem here. Hope it gets better for you soon.

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      I don’t think he’s terrible, honestly. I think he’s petty and not a very good manager. I think he WANTS to be a good manager but he’s just not there yet. Pettiness and immaturity get in the way. I also know that Im not an easy person to manage. But thank you for saying it. I honestly need to hear that its not me from time to time. A couple of weeks ago two families told me that I have one of the best storytimes that they have ever been to and I dang near burst into tears I needed to hear that badly.

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        He sounds super petty to me which is not what I want in a manager. The only helpful hint I have is to keep doing the things you know how to do well and maybe encourage people to write down their positive feedback (so you have a copy, the manager has a copy, and HR has a copy). I’ve known wonderful people who “aren’t manageable” who were able to move on to better jobs, or keep the one they had (if they liked it) because they had HR files stuffed with positive feedback from the community (I might’ve been one of them).

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    He sounds horrible, and it sucks to have to work in an environment like that. Your frustration is totally valid.

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So, I have started Secret Love Affair. I have no idea why. I have never been able to watch anything where adultery was supposed to be amusing. I’m 3 eps in (just started ep 3) and I enjoy it? It reminds me of Pretty Noona. Not tonally but more in how from the first moments of the drama the characters already feel well established and lived in. Its not like how in some shows/dramas it takes a few eps for the writers, directors, actors and etc to all come together to make “real” feeling characters. They already feel real.
I dont know if I’ll be able to stick it out because of the whole adultery thing but, YAI is basically the cutest, most adorablest puppy to ever puppy. I mean, I’d put YAI in this puppy role up against PBG at his absolute puppiest in the puppiest role to ever puppy (I have said puppy too many times, the word is losing meaning and I am 100% convinced that I say it and turkey weirdly).
In short: YAI=adorable puppy man.

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    Don’t mind the adultery, there is a manipulative, older woman taking advantage of a vulnerable young person, having an affair is the least of the issues there.

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      Beanies have been recommending this drama to me for a LONG time now. This has never come up in any of the conversations I’ve seen surrounding this drama.

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        Yes, I know they all loved it and nobody cared about that. It’s a mystery. The boy is just an emotionally vulnerable person, he needs friends and support not a woman that uses that, but maybe she becomes better later, I never bothered to find out. Anyway, I only said it because you were worried about her having an affair, which I don’t think matters much, but maybe I have some different thought about these things. kk

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      On paper, I guess that the situation could be interpreted like that. But the power balance in this drama isn’t at all like that

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        I watched the first eight eps and dropped because he was not an adult in anything but paper, the power was entirely hers. If that changed later I would not know but she was too unlikable to make any difference.

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    I mean this in a completely innocent way, but Yoo Ah-in seems eminently petable. Like, you just want to stroke his head. He is a puppy. (Well, except for that movie where he kicks a puppy. Bad YAI there.)

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    Still his best tv role for me. I want that writer back with PD Ahn.

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    One of my all time favorite dramas.

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    He is adorable. And then he is hot. And then adorable again. And in between he blows you away because he’s got all those emotions. If you end up falling for this drama as hard as I did, here is an old fan blog: https://pianoconversations.wordpress.com/

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So. My manager is all today I shall listen to some kpop. I tried to find out what music genre he’s in to so I could recommend something fitting and he brushed me off with, “I’ll just listen to that bts they created kpop, right?” My rye has yet to stop twitching and I keep randomly yelling about generations and RAIN and grrrrring at passersby.

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So…while on my way to press play on Camellia I somehow or another found myself on an entirely different website pressing play on Temperature of Love. I remember hating this drama so I’m not sure what Im doing here, precisely. I think in my head I think that it has a clear break in quality like Noona so I can watch until the one guy decides to throw his hat in the ring while skipping over everything to do with his mother and the entire writer plotline and the second lead female. So….if I just focus on the romance, I should be fine.
Or I should stop rewatching dramas that I know, like KNOW are garbage fires. I meant to start watching a cdrama today…oh well.

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So, I’ve started Camellia. Super slow first couple of eps, but these women are such jerks. They see—I dont even know her name yet, the FL holding hands and they are whispering to each other, “they were holding hands. They’ve obviously gone all the way if you dont get outta here with your childish bullying. Gone all the way! Because of a hand hold!

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My rewatch is over 🙁
I dont know what to watch now ….sigh
But! I’m glad I watched with the viki comments on. The very last comment on INAR is “thank you to all of the actors and subbers and blah blah blah, excet Tilda. Fuck her.”
I lowkey want it read during my funeral. “isa was this and that and blah blah blah. And also, fuck Tilda.”

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    Put it in your will, Isa. It must happen.

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    Also thank you for finishing an INAR watch this NoctombINAR. Somebody had to.

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      It was an honor to finish the watch on behalf of all the Beanies who could not finish OctobINAR.
      And I have a packet for preplanning my funeral right here on my desk. I just may put it in there. There will be no closing of the casket during my funeral and right before the wheel me out someone must say, (preferably one of my family members who doesn’t use curse words or tries really hard not to use curse words) “fuck tilda. that is all.”
      Or mayhap have it on my headstone and make people curious forever.

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        Just think, when you finally write the novel of your life and it’s a bestseller and you become an enigmatic reclusive author who even sends a robot to do her laundry, people will eventually journey across the continent to view your tombstone and ponder with curiosity the words, “Fuck Tilda”. It will merely add to your mystique.

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    🤣

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There’s a point where Our Puppy is listening to Ji-Ah recount their story from her POV and he CLEARLY just wants her to tell him that shes as in love with him as he is in with her and she’s just…not doing it. Is she as bad at reading people as he is or is she being a punk? TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM

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Reason number 327 to learn Korean
327. So that when you are sobbing your eyes out after Our Puppy learns the truth about his found family and that the love of his life is in truth not a robot you don’t have to worry that you’re crying to hard to read the subtitles. You can just cry freely.
In short, reason 327 for learning Korean: to cry freely without missing anything.
Oh it huuuuuuuuuuuuuuuurts. Sob sob sob

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You guys I am just so unreasonably upset with stupid Pi! UGH! Everytime she tells the good doctor “its not like someone is going to die if you rest” as they are ON THEIR WAY to Our Puppy and Ji Ah I’m Llike yes PI SOMEONE COULD DIE YOU HEIFER (has anyone else ever noticed how close Hugh Hefners name is to heifer?). And now she’s all, clutching her pearls as Our Puppy is writhing on the ground equal parts devastation from the Tilda of it all and equal parts RETURN OF THE ALLERGY I want to kick her in her stupid cute face. YOU ARE ON MY LIST, MADAM.

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ok, so, I’m a bit calmer now. Tilda HAD to be the absolute freaking worse and Johnny had to pay the consequences of Tilda’s f’d up actions because what if ok, what if Tilda never Tilda’d and then Ji Ah told the truth and then Kim Min Kyu died instead? So its good that Tilda Tilda’d. Right? ::sobs::RIGHT?!

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well…that broke the ol’ heart. Why did I rewatch this? I need something happy! TILDA YOU YOU YOU ARE ALL THE BAD WORDS EVER CREATED and a whole bunch more that havent been invented yet.

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Beanies this week has been so…blech. I had 2 10 year old girls jump another 10 year old girl and RIP her HAIR out of her head. And the first thing I see when I turn on my drama is TILDA?!?! BOOOO

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    Say what? What is wrong with them?! Was there a reason other than jealousy?

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ahem TIIIIIIIILLLLLLLLLLDDDDDDAAAAAAAAAAAA YOU ROTTEN SOB! I hope that you are murdered. Painfully and slowly. Repeatedly brought to the brink, healed and the torture started over. HAAAAAAAAAATE YOU!!

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Ok, so I NEED to share this video with you even though its like a week old.
1. because I’m irritated. I slow cooked a pork loin with potatoes and onions on low since last night. And my potatoes are hard as a friggin rock. So. We all need to take a moment and commiserate with me. By enjoying this video.
2. This is not my favorite Jackson Wang song (thats Dawn of Us or maybe On the Rocks) but the choreo is so good in this video. Get it, sir.
3. SHALLOWNESS. The man looks GOOD in this video.
4. He mentions Bobby Flay and it makes me giggle and swoon.
5. I love Bobby Flay. Like…its a thing in my life. A serious, serious thing in my life. He’s super, unreasonably hot. And I dont care what people have to say about it.
6. What does that say about me as a person that I am equally attracted to B.Flay who’s an old(er) white guy and Jackson Wang who’s basically a toddler.
7. If you look at number 6 for too long it says Im attracted to a toddler and thats wrong and gross and tells me that I super need to stop exaggerating how young Jackson is in an effort to both downplay how much I love (its a lot) and to emphasize how much I love him (I love him so much even though he’s the same age as a young person! Because he’s a young person! my love just…doesnt care about age!)

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    You and Bobby Flay

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      Oh my GOSH YES, Mindy. Mindy can you not imagine skipping and frolicking through the freaking tulips with BOBBY FLAY? Oh my gosh. We could hold hands and TWIRL. Mindy. Mindy. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH.
      Oh my goodness. Oh my goodness. What if the world were a magical but evil place and there was a knock on my door and it was JACKSON WANG and he was all “[ISA], I love you. Run off with me!” And I’d be all….shoosh, child yes. Lemme get a bag together. Black woman hair care is no ones joke. And while I was packing, there was a ring from the doorbell and Jackson is all, “Should I answer?” And I’m all, “I typically don’t answer the door because thats where the people are but I opened it and you were there so WHY NOT?!” and by the time I finished the sentence he already opened the door, because honestly, that was a lot, and on the other side was BOBBY FLAY and he was all, “[ISA] I LOVE YOU! RUN OFF WITH ME. FORSAKE JACKSON WANG AND BE MIIIIIIIIIIIIIINE!!!!!!!”
      And then what on earth would I even do?
      Mindy. I love them both so much.

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        Who in the world is Bobby Flay?

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          I LOVE HIM. He’s a chef. He has roughly 30 different shows on the Foodnetwork and I watch them all. I’ve been watching him since I was 16 but 6 years ago when I turned 30 I was like…wait a minute. How come no one told me Bobby Flay was hot like FIRE? And I’ve been lost ever since. But, yes. He’s a chef. Oh, and he’s obsessed with cats. But I forgive him that.

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            Give me a minute to ponder whether my curiosity trumps my desire to never watch anything on a cooking channel.

            But the way you talk about him reminds me of my love for Brent Spiner who, due to his portrayal of Data on Star Trek during my formative years, I still think is the hottest thing ever.

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        Oh, isa, never change! I love you~
        (Beat Bobby Flay is also very fun to watch with your family in hotels)

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    You know, that’s maybe the first thing I remembered learning about you? That you love Bobby Flay, because I held more than a school girl crush and Alton Brown, so I.GET.IT.

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ISWAK Beanhomies I\’m so glad we got to re-start our watches tonight! So much fun, so much swoon, so many threats and warnings to misbehaving computers! I would have stayed around to say goodnight and see you next time. But my computer had other ideas (jerk).

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    It was great having everyone back for more ISWAK fun! Hopefully, computers will learn to behave better for future watches.

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    It was so good to have you back.

    isa’s computer, behave next week.

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I took a buzzfeed quiz to see which member of Got7 I should be dating and they told me JINYOUNG. At first I was all HOW DARE YOU, buzzfeed! Not even my biaswrecker/ backup bias? The young prince?! But them I remembered that shower scene and thought….how did buzzfeed know I\’m shallow?

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So obviously the viewing audience knows that Ji Ah isnt a robot, and when her eyes well up its because shes in love with Kim Min Kyu and shes hurting for the both of them. What does he think is happening whenever it looks like shes going to cry/is obviously fighting back tears?
Also, they hold hands alot–what does he think is causing her pulse? Is it just….you know…whatever makes robots move around and such? I dont think I thought about this stuff the first time I watched but now—its all the little things that are adding up/breaking down for me. Its like Lois Lane/Clark Kent and the glasses. He saw enough in the beginning to convince himself that she\’s a robot that now it doesn\’t matter what she does because he has it stuck in his head that shes a robot. But once she pulled \”friend mode\” out of her butt she doesn\’t even try to act like a robot. The careful way the researchers were teaching her how to walk and stand and carry things–all out the window.
And since I\’m at the part of the drama where it can\’t be said enough: TILDA YOU STUPID expletive expletive expletive

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    To my mind, motivated reasoning is a big underlying theme of the drama whereby people ignore reality to re-enforce their preexisting positions. Min Kyu believing that Jia is a robot, Baek-kyun refusing to accept Jia’s intelligence and ascribing the outcomes of her actions to the robot, and Min Kyu’s doctor insisting on treating his clearly psychological condition as a physiological one. Motivated reasoning and the way we let our emotions overwhelm our decisions underpinned the behaviour of many of the characters throughout the show’s run; especially around how all the characters reacted to Min Kyu’s illness.

    I find it hilarious that in such a nuanced piece of writing, Tilda is the only true villain we can curse at.

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      Tilda is the actual worst. I’m sure even the villains in The Last Empress watched INAR and thought Tilda was evil.

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        #rememberjohnny

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        Well now I need a fanfiction of TLE sitting around the throne room (at the grandmothers insistence–she wanted to believe that there was still some love in that family) and the mother going, “Wow. Tilda, what a bitch” and the royal mistress/ho-bag being, “RIGHT!” and then the DE and the Royal Mistress/hobag hi-five and Sunny is sitting rolling her eyes like, “kettles and pots, people. But, seriously, let me in on that hi-five because Tilda needs to get shot in the face. RH…what are you doing Tuesday?” While grandmother and the little girl are like….this family is too much and SHUT UP already the pretty is on screen.

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    Also I’m glad at least somebody is finishing I’m Not a Robot since October finished but OctobINAR did not.

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    ok can someone tell me which eps Tilda is in? i never saw INAR but i’m damn curious bout this force of evil that was just a bit part. she’s been plaguing my curiosity since she first appeared on the wall but i’ve never found her in clips. Help meeee..

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      She’s in the show for approximately 2 seconds so it’s not easy.

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        really? but do you know which eps? i’ll just watch the whole episode if i have to..hehehehe

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          You have to watch all of INAR to truly understand and feel the devastation Tilda unleashed.

          Surprised she didn’t win villain of the Year at the Baeksangs….

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TILDA GRRRRRRRRRRRRRR Quick someone murder her