Beanie level: Chaebol’s poor doppelganger

My kdrama question for 2019 definitely has to be: Are dramas changing or am I?
I used to be able to juggle various live dramas at the same time and would sometimes throw in a completed one when I had the time, but I’m currently watching nothing!! The more I think about it, the more I think that I’m the one that has changed.

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    Last weekend, I finished ExtraOrdinary You and Vagabond. The way I felt after both finales is what made me think that I have changed. I’ve been extremely picky this year with the dramas I watch that it’s always a shame when the drama doesn’t turn out to be as good as I thought. But somehow, I really enjoyed both ExtraOrdinary You and Vagabond. Like really enjoyed! Even their finales.
    There are so many webtoons being adapted to dramas, but I don’t think I really have seen many of them. Sometimes when you see one rom-com, you’ve seen them all, but I thought that for a webtoon turned drama/rom-com, ExtraOrdinary You was new and interesting and fun and full of many fresh characters. It might not have been as good as the original, but I haven’t read it yet, so I can’t say anything about that. I loved it though! The meta was funny, the love story sweet, the redemption of some characters deserved. I was entertained from beginning to end. And that’s where I think I’ve changed. The dramas that are my favorite have made me feel something. I have cried next to them or I can relate. I didn’t bawl my eyes out with ExtraOrdinary You and I couldn’t relate, but just the fact that I was entertained and anticipating new episodes each week is good enough for me to save it in my head as a very good drama. It’s not in my top ten, but it is one that I feel confident to recommend to my friends. Is what I expect out of drama changing or is my rating system?

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      Which leads me to Vagabond. Now, going into this drama I knew that I might be disappointed. Why? Because that is what happens to a lot of action dramas (cough Man to Man cough). But I still wanted to watch it and I got hooked pretty quickly. I really like watching nonsensical action movies. You know, the ones where one regular guy outwits and outsmarts the bad guys and saves the world while risking his life that should of been gone the first time they ran him over. I don’t know why, but I really like seeing these types of movies where I can turn my brain off. And Vagabond was just that. Ridiculous, but fun. The stunts were good and the acting on Lee Seung-gi’s part was stellar, imho:) I didn’t even find the romantic parts that annoying. And through those not so annoying parts was when I knew that this was not going to be a clean cut ending! They didn’t get together quickly enough for it to end in a one season drama, haha. I was upset that they were going to leave it off for a possible second season, but then I thought about it and realized that action movies usually have more than one sequels. I mean the hero needs to save the world more than once to be considered an actual action movie hero! There are not too many action dramas out there, so I can see why they would want to continue this particular one since they solved everything and nothing at the same time. And here is where I’ve changed, in that, to be honest, I would watch the second season! I was fully entertained and if they keep the same momentum and more close calls and more of Lee Seung-gi saving the day, then I would be up for it, haha. My past self probably can’t believe me now! (For the record, I like my dramas one season only please!!) Vagabond is nowhere near my top dramas, but I enjoyed it and that’s what matters:)

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        Funny story about ExtraOrdinary You: My fam knows that I watch kdramas because I take over the living room in the afternoons so I can watch them in full screen, haha. (Don’t worry, I do share the TV:). They usually don’t care about what I’m watching and only sort of listen to me when I try to tell them about it T.T My brother is pretty good at entertaining me when I talk to him, but I only do it sometimes since I don’t want to bother him (more like I don’t want to repay the favor and listen to him about his boring show, lol, sorry bro). Anyways, I told him I was finally excited about a drama with a character named Number 13. He was nice enough to ask me about it a couple times so I always had a chance to gush a little:) My mom walked by one afternoon and saw that I was paying close attention. She saw Baek Kyung and started teasing me that I liked the cute boy with the earring. I told her that I was falling for Haru-ya instead. When he comes up on the screen, my mom nods her head and says that he is definitely much cuter, hehe! To be honest, Haru was swoony, but Do-hwa was the real MVP!

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          Do-Hwa was my favorite character and the best/most memorable lines were all said by him. I loved him and hope he gets the girl in the next comic he is drawn into 😁

          I am lucky as I watched this with my mom and little bro. So we got to all gush together as we watched lol

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Just wanted to say Happy Thanksgiving to all Beanies! It is cold and raining and currently thundering here, but thankfully we are staying home for the festivities. Safe journey to all!

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Beanies, I finished Busted Season 2 over the weekend and I have to say I was more entertained with this season than the first. The first one was funny, but I think since they had already worked together, the chemistry between the cast was good and the scripted story flowed better in the second season. Also, the games and puzzles seemed to be just right for them, although Park Min-young did do a lot of the heavy lifting there. Overall, I still had fun watching this Netflix Korean variety. If only I got true endings and not cliffhangers then I would be thrilled!!

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    I really liked the second season as well. I still believe the absence of Kyung soo made this season better. I just can’t with that dude and I still wonder why he is so popular.

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Beanies, this year has been kind of slow on the drama front. Maybe I learned self-control or maybe the pickings are slim, either way I’ve tuned into less dramas this year which usually means I stick with them just ‘cuz. So, I was very surprised at myself for finally dropping a drama out of my own will. I don’t think I have to say more than I stopped after that shower kiss for you all to guess what drama I’m talking about…

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    But I will say more, lol. I’m a completionist! Especially when it comes to dramas. I just get too curious about what’s going to happen even if I know it is not going end well. I was curious about Ji Chang-wook’s comeback drama, but, oh man, I wasn’t curious enough to finish it. Sorry JCW😕 I learned three things about myself. First, I can drop dramas and not look back! (Does that mean I should try out more dramas now that I know I have the power to drop them?🧐). Second, the story is more important than my fave actors. (I had just rewatched Just Between Lovers…). And the third thing I learned about myself is that in order to best forget a drama and get over the fact that I won’t witness the finale firsthand is to immerse myself into something else. In this case, I did two things to keep myself busy:
    1. I found a drama that kept me wanting more! Lately, I’ve been tuning into C-dramas more, especially their shorter rom-coms. I havent watched many, but the ones I have seen have been cute enough that even if the ending isn’t all there, I can easily forgive them thanks to their strong first half. This time, I tuned into Acidentally in Love on Netflix. If you havent heard of it, it is about a young heiress that runs away from her home to go the college where her parents fell in love. To hide, she dones a disguise of curly hair, glasses, and freckles to down play her beauty. She meets an idol, who is also her classmate, and they fall in love while spending time together in her costume. Now, it wasn’t the greatest thing out there, but I feel that its problems came after they got together when it got laggy and took itself too seriously. But the thing is, despite its problems and, ugh why do people think curly hair and glasses makes someone unattractive, I had way more fun watching this than the six or so epsiodes I watched of Melty. I learned to definetly watch more of what I want, mindless entertaining fun rather than mindless frustrating not-fun.
    2. I learned to love my hobbies again! Sometimes when you have hobbies it’s fun to work on them consistently, but when you don’t have time or money to entertain them, they can become a chore. Lately, I’ve been so busy that all I want to do is watch an episode of something and then go to sleep. However, the key to my mental health is to do something I enjoy and relax. Thus, I turned to reading and crocheting. I made myself read at least 30 mins each day and that encouraged me to turn my TV off more and sometimes read more than the time I set for myself. I also found this project online and thought I could make it even though I am not a proficient crotcheter. https://myartpetite.com/2018/02/24/free-crochet-pattern-part-1-of-3-monkey-plush-from-a-korean-odyssey-hwayugi-화유기/ I was able to finish it pretty nicely.

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      I learned crocheting on my own so I’m pretty proud of it. But I’ll admit, I never saw the drama. I’m such a fake fan😅 But still, I read the recaps and saw the clips so I can kinda of guess what happened, hehe. 😂
      Anyways Beanies, everytime I tell myelf to be more active on DB, I feel like I return to my lurker days. Hopefully, I’ll gain more confidence to talk to you all more!

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      Lucky you I feel like I can never go back to reading as my hobby. I just lost interest. There hasn’t been a good book that held my attention for a long time.

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        And I can’t stop myself from completing a drama either.

        I am surprised at my confidence now. I used to never comment on anything before and now I have made so many comments on DB. Good luck to you 🙂

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          Finding a good book is also hard for me, but I had a couple of series I wanted to finish so I had a couple of things to read.

          DB is my first social media platform I’ve commented on and it’s definitely fun and exciting, but then my shyness comes out. Hope to see you around as well!

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        I suggest The Island of Sea Women a fictional work about the female sea divers of Jeju Island.

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          I actually read that during that time and it was so good! I still can’t get over the hanyeo!!

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      This is wonderful! Congratulations on finishing ~ I crocheted a monkey doll from Hwayugi last year ^_^ nothing like yarn crafts!

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Completed: Be Melodramatic♥️
One word review: Satisfied!

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My final Makjang Monday😀

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    I have always thought that I have a weird family and the more I learn about them, the more I realize that they are full of drama and not necessarily the good kind. As I contemplated what story to share for these Makjang Mondays, I began to feel uneasy, thus why my stories lacked a lot of the makjang and it was basically me writing about random things in my life. The thing is, these stories are best told out loud, so I can add my expressive emotions. Also, since the stories were not about me, it felt kind of weird to write about my family members. Sorry I kept all the juicy stories to myself! I guess we just have to meet up in real life😊

    Which leads me to my makjang story, or makjangless, story of today which is: this! If makjang is considered something that seems unlikely to happen in real life, then being on DB is so makjang to me! I never thought that I would be conversing or sharing my writing with people online, from all over the world. I might’ve grown up with the internet, but my parents couldn’t afford the internet or a computer, so I only truly used the internet in school and for school purposes. I didn’t have a working PC until college and I got my first smartphone around 5 years ago as a full grown adult. I never did online socializing until DB, so you guys are truly my first online friends! It still seems crazy to me that I know people only through their username handles. I also talk to myself about you guys as a collective all the time. Like, that drama was no good, DB told me not to watch, or DB says that drama is what’s good right now. Even now as I’m typing both of my parents have come up to me to ask who I’m talking to and I’ve told them I was talking to my friends! (Also, yes my parents are sooo nosy. No privacy I tell you!). Beanies, sometimes I wonder how long I will be on this website. I’ve never visited something so frequently or put my thoughts online somewhere that I wonder how long it’s gonna last and if anyone will remember me. It doesnt matter though because I will remember you! And that’s truly makjang to me!

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      If 6 years ago someone told me I would be conversing and joking around in english with online friends from every corner of the world, I would think they were messing with me. See, English is one of the nightmarish subject for me back in school. Not even in my wildest dream I could imagine writing a long rambling about shows I love and hate, but here I am. It still amazes me how I can say something like “Yeah, my friend from California said that….”

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        Wow, Gadis, I wouldn’t have known that you struggled in English if you hadn’t told me. I don’t think I’ll ever travel, so I’m glad that despite that, there are people I “know” all over the world. You also have another California friend right here😃

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Completed: Let Me Hear Your Song
Final Thoughts: Well at least I got a bean💁🏻‍♀️

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    I went in with low expectations, but curious about the premise. Honestly, I should’ve left when Yi-young said this wasn’t a love story. Part of my curiosity was the love story! I love me a rom-com and this wasn’t it, but somehow I kept watching. The baddies weren’t that good and the plot lines were all over the place, but every Monday there I would be watching the next episode. Therefore, I can only blame myself for being disappointed when I knew it was going to have a cliched and cheesy ending. The acting, in my opinion, wasn’t bad though, and I guess that is why I kept watching. Kim Se-jeong’s character got a lot of flack for being dumb, which girl did do some things that made me go huh?, but I thought well acted. Yeon Woo-jin had this shady/flirty persona in the beginning which was different and interesting (not in real life though!) and he did very well that now I want him in a rom-com soon again pretty please! I loved the use of music and I wanted more of it towards the end. And now I want a proper orchestra drama too. All in all, it wasn’t too bad, I just wished it could’ve been better!

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Beanies, for this Makjang Monday, I come to you with stories of my childhood and my selective memory that likes to over dramatize the scary things. I’m blessed to be alive!

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    (I have to preface this by saying that I have a horrible memory. I have good short-term memory retention where I can learn something and pick it up pretty quickly, but my long-term memory is pretty iffy. My childhood is a blur and the only things I remember are those that are on camera or that someone shared with me and we have talked about it. But the standouts in my childhood memories are the not so good things.)

    I don’t remember this, but when I was a baby, before turning one, I was really sick with bronchitis. My parents took me to the doctor, of course, but in my parents’ eyes, I wasn’t getting any better. Now, if you live close enough to the border like I do, you will find that many people cross it all the time to get treated there. With the encouragement of family and acquaintances, my mother decided to entrust me to my father, who took me to Mexico to get treated. Now, I love my dad, but my mom must have been desperate! He is someone who needs his wife. He was younger and sprier back then, but he is someone who needs constant care and not exactly the type to take care of others. I’m sure he was not going to let anything happen to me, but, oh my goodness, my mom had some strong faith that I was going to come back alright. I thankfully got better and came home safely. Phew!

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      At the present, I alternate between taking care of a one year old and a two year old and let me tell you, I never let my eyes leave them. Why? Because besides being kind of paranoid, I know the trouble that children can get into, since I have many of those stories myself. For example, do you know how many apartments have fences and doors with steel bars on them. And how easy it is for a child to get their head stuck in between two bars? I should know because I once got my head stuck between two bars when I was three and the firefighters had to come to stretch the bars to let me out. Do you know the saying on how easy it is to steal candy from a child? Well, that might be too mean, but why steal candy from a child when it’s much easier to steal their gold necklace if you offer them said candy. I mean, for this I blame my parents for leaving me alone with a gold necklace, but I guess it was their pride that they could afford one for their child. Good thing the only thing lost was the necklace and not me, right?! Do you know one of the most dangerous things you can do as an adult to a child? It is putting something a small child really, really wants in a high place where they can see it. It is especially bad if you put it on top of a dresser because the child will then use the drawers as stairs and make the whole dresser fall on top of them and let the expensive jaguar decoration fall and break into a million pieces. All of these things happened to me before the age of four, so you bet that my eyes are glued to the babies I take care of.

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        After a while, I stopped putting my life in danger as it was now my younger brother’s turn. We both couldn’t give my mom headaches, so I matured. Still, there are some questionable things I remember. Like when I was in first grade, our class was taking a trip to the public library. You know how teachers like to give you a buddy and you hope that it’s your best friend, but its never them. I was a goody goody in school so, of course, the teacher paired me up with the troublemaker of the class. We had many parents volunteering and helping us out, but I guess we were still a lot of kids to handle. We were going to walk to the trolley station from the school and ride the trolley to the library. When the trolley arrived, the class filed in, but the doors closed right when it was my partner’s and I turn. We were the only ones left outside of the trolley, and all the chaperones were already inside. I could see the teacher starting to freak out and I started to do so as well. But I do remember thinking that I would just head back to school if something happened. Thankfully, the doors opened and we made it to the library and back safely. I have no idea what the library looked like, but I do remember that incident. I think that I tend to remember the difficult times more vividly than the nicer ones because they are linked to anxiety. There were many times that I chose to forget because those memories were hard on me and I guess that made me forget the fun times amongst those hard times as well. Like, I still remember my first anxiety attack. I wasn’t feeling well the whole day, and when my dad and uncle got home drunk, I suddenly felt worse. They were happy drunks, but, still, to see them in an altered state made me feel panicked. It was made worse by the fact my mom yelled at them for making me feel that way. It was a long time before I had another anxiety attack, but I still remember my first one. Thankfully, I am now pretty boring and nothing too outrageous happens to me and I am glad to have made it through my childhood alright.

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For this #MakjangMonday, I will be sharing with you Beanies my non-existing romantic life. Although I have many family makjang memories to share, I thought it best to embarrass myself first before putting my family out there. It’s surprisingly pretty long for something non-existing.
TL:DR- I’m romanceless T.T

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    One of kdramas’ favorite tropes is having the main lead to be single girl in her late twenties who has never dated. She is so beautiful, even when she is made to look “ugly”, how could she not have grabbed a young man’s attention? There is always something to stop her from having one: she is scared to go outside, she has to provide for her family with many part time jobs and is, thus, too busy to think of boys, she is pining for her first love who never acknowledged her, her self esteem is low, etc. Now, for some that may be hard to believe. But, oh Beanies, for this girl it is very much her own truth. At 27, I have never been in a romantic relationship! The following is a chronological account of the lack of romance in my life:
    -In Elementary School, all boys had cooties. Well, maybe not all of them… I think that by fourth or fifth grade, I started to see that some boys were better looking than others, especially those in the novelas targeted to kids, haha. But I was a tomboy and I would rather play with them than think about them. The closest I got to a relationship was playing M.A.S.H and imagining my future life with the cutest boy in class, but he knew he was cute and I didn’t like that, lol.
    -In Middle School, I started to outgrow my tomboyish ways. That meant that the only time I would hang out with boys was in the actual classroom. I made friends with them, but I didn’t hang out with them outside of class (read: my mom wouldn’t let me). On a random day in eight grade, I went to pick up my journal in the back of the classroom and my friend went as well. I say hi to him and he tells me he wants to ask me something. I say okay nonchalantly. “Do you have a boyfriend,” he asks me. “No,” I say laughing. “Do you want to be my girlfriend?” he spits out. My brain jumbles and I say, “Nnnnoooooo,” and walk away. I didn’t say it in a mean way, but it was definitely in a way that meant it was never going to happen. I was so flustered because I didn’t see him that way and to think that someone thought of me that way made me feel weird. I felt bad for rejecting him without an explanation or anything, but that all went away when I saw he was dating another girl a couple weeks later. That girl and me were total opposites that I stopped feeling bad for rejecting him, ha.

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      -In High School, I made a promise to myself to wait until college to start dating. A couple of my neighbors around the same age were teenage parents and my friends who had dated went through difficult times, and I certainly didn’t want that for myself. My goal was going to college and I wasn’t going to let a boy distract me from that. And no boy did because let me tell you there was no one in my high school whom I was remotely interested in. No one! Sometimes I look back at my graduating class and think, maybe there was a hidden guy I didn’t notice, but nope. I guess it was good for my promise then, huh.
      -In College, I told myself that if someone came around that grabbed my attention, I would give them a chance. *a tumbleweed blows through* I can maybe take the blame for not putting myself out there, but there were also things I couldn’t control. For example, I studied Child Development which is mostly impacted by women. I got sick and barely made it to my classes so why would I hang out with others when I was barely hanging on. All my other classes not in my major were huge so there wasn’t really a chance to meet others. Anyways, the whole point is that I couldn’t find anyone in college either.

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        There was this one guy that created a pretty funny story for me to tell though. In my second year of college, it was the first day of school when we met. I arrived to my English class and saw people waiting outside the classroom. It was 8 am so I didn’t think there was a lecture at this time. I asked him if they had checked inside already. He said no, so I opened the classroom door and we went inside when I found it empty. I guess people thought we were brave since they followed us inside. He sat in the front and I sat to the side of the classroom in the middle and went on with my day. After English, I had a small break and found a nice tree to hang out in before my next class, Spanish. The class was on the third floor and after huffing and puffing it up the stairs I found myself in front of the classroom and in front of the same guy from my English class. He points at me and says, “You!”. I go, “Yeah it’s me” and walk away to find a seat on the side of the classroom while he goes to the front seats. After that day, he starts to seek me out. After English class, a couple of days later, he walks up to me and asks me if I have another class before Spanish. I say, “No,” and he asks if I want to hang out. Now, Beanies let me tell you, I was not interested in him one bit. Once again I felt weirded out that someone was seeking me out, but I didn’t want to be really rude this time. I told him that I usually hang out in the library, and I lead him to the part of the library where you can’t talk, hahaha. After a couple of times of hanging out together in the quiet part of the library, he doesn’t follow me after English anymore and I can peacefully return to my solitary tree. One day in English class, we have to team up in groups of three. Since he knows me, he asks if I want to team up and include the girl that sits behind me and I agree. While working on a project together, I start talking with the girl and we become friends pretty quickly. As with friends, you find a time that works out for both of you to hang out outside of class and I find out that she hangs out in the cafeteria with the guy that used to follow me after English. All three of us start hanging out together and it becomes pretty fun not being on my own, especially since I now have a friend I can really talk to. I became comfortable talking to him as well, especially since I can’t take him seriously as a romantic possibility. I mean he constantly called other women “hot” in front of me, even my new friend, so I knew he wasn’t interested in me in that way either. I could now breathe a sigh of relief. He was totally not the type of guy I like, but it was nice to have a guy friend.

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          One day, it’s just the two of us girls and I ask her how she became friends with the guy. She tells me that he asked if he could hang out with her after English class one day. I tell her the same thing happened to me and we bond even more because the guy is harmless and funny. We call him a wannabe “mujeriego”, or a wannabe ladies man, and laugh because he is that farthest thing from that. So there’s that.
          -My life now is pretty boring. I mostly stay at home and don’t really go out. First, because I work from home. And second, because I have nowhere to go. Like for real. I get sick pretty easily so I king of avoid going to places that I don’t really have to go to. I’m good at entertaining myself and almost all my hobbies are solitary and homebound. I’m pretty introverted and have social anxiety, so going out to meet new people is not really something I see myself doing, at least right now.
          So, that’s it Beanies, my non-existing romantic life.
          In Mexico, they have a saying for “old” women like me, “Te está dejando el tren” (the train is leaving the station). I always found it hilarious. It makes you believe that soon enough you are going to get too old and nobody is going to want you so you best hurry and catch whatever you can. But I don’t want to catch whatever I can. A lot of people say I have too many expectations, but honestly, I don’t. I just haven’t met someone I’ve clicked with. So, don’t worry Beanies! I am in no way desperate to catch whatever. I’m gonna work on myself and on what I want for my life and if someone comes along, then they are more than welcome!

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            I’m 23 chingu and I still havent had a real romantic relationship. My «stories» are somewhat like yours, where I am completely oblivious (to the point that it can be rude).

            My conclusion: there’s no «time» to start looking. It just happens. And if, at the time, there was someone who seeked you out and you didnt notice (like me lol), well then it wasn’t meant to be.

            So, try new things, meet new people. And you’ll eventually meet him or her.

            Or idk, so I’m told. Im a 23 year old spinster. (hahahahah).

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            Thank you for sharing your very personal story. I understand what you feel. Personally I like hanging out with guys as friends, but when they get that starry look in their eyes I get weirded out fast.

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            Tis is a beautiful read. Thank you for sharing it. I’ve been in relationships but always wanted out almost as soon as it began. So now, for the past 4 or 5 years I’ve done what you’ve done all your life. Just not bothered. *hugs* sister!

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            @justme I like your advice, jeje. As a fellow spinster, I also dole out a lot of relationship advice to my friends. I don’t know why they come to me when they know I haven’t had a relationship, but they do. Here’s to us not being oblivious, haha.

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            @wishfultoki It was easier to make guy friends in school, but now it’s hard for me to talk to any guy my age. Probably because I’m always with my mom or sister and they will endlessly tease me.

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            Hugs @greenfields! With all we have on our plates, loving ourselves is priority right now than a boy!

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            Now now there is no such thing as the ‘right time’ to find a partner. I am sure you will find someone you will fancy and who will fancy you back. Just keep doing what you are doing. Be yourself and have fun in your own way. (Also guys are really not that great! They whine and they don’t clean around the house and ask for affection 24/7. Enjoy being single!)

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            *gives you my single 26 year old spinster wave*

            Gosh, your highschool don’t want to date but also there is no one but tumbleweeds logic sounds like what I would say back then.

            I waited until college too, but then I guess my story changes because I did crush on guys on college, but part of that was because I felt like girls expected me to as a topic of conversation… I dated two guys each for only a couple of months back then, and currently it’s been two years and counting since I last even saw someone with qualities I want in a partner. But I don’t want to just get on a train either, I’m busy with work and family (and my cats).

            Fighting! Whether we get love lines or no, let’s be the drama leads we want in our stories!

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            *spinster fist-bump* Same with me too, Jelly! I’ve had small crushes but not so much that I wanted a relationship and attention from boys has always made me uncomfortable. If someone comes along who is right then that’s awesome but if not that’s ok too. What are men compared to rocks and mountains? Or books and dramas? Or just anything that makes you happy 😊 Thank you for sharing your story!

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            Thanks for sharing your story! Mine is pretty much the same, and I’m older than you. At least in western society it seems a girl/woman must be ashamed for being inexperienced, and I have felt uncomfortable for a long time, but now I’m ok with it, because everyone of us has her story and personality. One of the (positive) side effects of watching dramas is that I find somehow comforting that a lot of heroines have little or no experience about romantic relationship. I know they are fictions, but if they exist, maybe this “condition” isn’t considered so weird in some parts of the world.

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            This.is.SO.relatable.
            Literally the whole thing.
            I’m at same age, never dated anyone, never had interest in anyone, not even a crush, added bonus: I’m pretty sure nobody took interest in me either, especially since I’m so good at shutting down any form of more than friendly behavior from the opposite gender.

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        Sometimes I look back at my graduating class and think, maybe there was a hidden guy I didn’t notice, but nope.

        High five, some times I wonder where do they have high schools with so cute and nice guys. Also when I was in high school I read all these mangas with very young hot guys as teachers in schools and I used to complain why don’t such people teach in my school! LOL!!

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    Are you me? I’m 26 and have never been in any romantic relationship either. (Though I have many one-sided crush tales from my adolescent days) It’s a fact that used to make me feel embarrassed, but now it doesn’t bother me much. I do want to have my own family too, but like you said, I don’t want to desperately catch whomever available. I believe we’ll find someone who click with us someday. In the meantime, cheers to us single ladies!!

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      You guys are all so young still! I have a friend who got married at 35 and never dated prior either. I hope you stay healthy @pbnjelly513 and are able to get out long enough to meet new people and have new relationships!

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    Thanks for sharing your story @pbnjelly513
    Group Hugs 💙💚💛💜♥️❤️💖

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    thank you for sharing your story Jellybn 🙂
    *waving from a Beanie almost at the same age as yours and as single as you *

    “But I don’t want to catch whatever I can. A lot of people say I have too many expectations, but honestly, I don’t. I just haven’t met someone I’ve clicked with.”
    this I can relate !

    May we find our beloved one (but not too late so that we can enjoy family life ^^ )

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Completed: A Moment at Eighteen♥️
Times I wanted to return to my 18 yr old self: 0 (Angst, uncertainty, and stress, no thanks!)

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    (My not to spoilery review, but still…)
    I used to not enjoy watching high school dramas, but lately I’ve been tuning into them more and getting impressed. For A Moment at Eighteen, I think I liked its melancholy vibe that I got from it, starting from the trailers. I don’t like angst or being stressed while watching a drama, but when they give you a little and then reel it in with some cute or funny, it gets kind of entertaining. Or at least, it makes me want to tune in more. I really loved this drama because I kept looking forward to the next episode. I kept wanting to know more and even if they didn’t give more of what I wanted, I still enjoyed it. The finale was very open ended and what I want in a high school drama. These kids have a lot more growing up to do and have a full life ahead of them that it was nice to leave them in a place where, yeah, it’s going to be tough sometimes, but they are going to be okay. I loved Kang Ki-young in his role as Mr. Oh, someone who has been through a tough childhood and has first hand experience to help these kids out. I cried a couple of times in his scenes, who wouldn’t want a supportive teacher. I was also very impressed with Ong Sung-woo. I had seen him in variety as himself, but he totally immersed himself in Joon-woo and what a nice character Joon-woo was. All the other cast members were great as well and as a whole they really created a good team. I liked at the end that Soo-bin was still looking for her own dream, by the way Kim Hyang-gi was totally great as well. What she had with Joon-woo was definitely beautiful, I mean who wouldn’t want to find someone who just gets you at 18, but not all of us have figured out our lives at that age. When I was 18, I wanted to leave my house just like she did, she wanted to be away from her mom’s wing, which was totally me as well, but I couldn’t leave my family. I felt this duty to stay and help my parents and siblings out. I applied to college not really knowing what I wanted to be, but knowing I had to go there to at least find out. Soo-bin has Joon-woo and her friends on her corner and I’m sure she will figure her dream out soon. How nice would’ve it been if Joon-woo stayed so they could encourage each other face to face, which is why I cried at the end with them. If I had a Joon-woo, I would also not want to let him go!

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I feel that my Makjang Monday is more sad than funny, well at least to me, but trust, after years of living through this, I’ve learned to just laugh it off… eventually. Check the reply:)

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    This story is about one of the many ways me and my mom just can’t get along. I love my mom, I do!, but, oh man, sometimes we just can’t be in the same room. We are total opposites and both firm on our stance. For the most part, we can live peacefully (for that I would like to pat myself in the back since I feel that I’m the one that tries harder), but during our difficult times, nothing I say or do seems to work out. I’m the eldest of three. To my parents that means I’m the one they call to for anything and everything. My siblings too! It’s flattering that they think I can solve everything, but it can get quite annoying when they want me to do Every! Single! Little! Thing! Anyways, that is not the story I will tell you today.Today, I will tell you about how my mom clearly has a favorite child and, just putting it out there,it isn’t me. I know moms say they love all their children equally (Beanie moms don’t come at me, I completely understand that!), but let me tell you everyone around us, even outside our family, can tell my mom love LOVES my brother, the middle child. How can I tell? Just in the way she talks to us. Example: One night my parents were having an argument. The thing is they are the type of people to yell, in a very makjang manner by the way. (Good thing there was no kimchi laying around!) We are used to it, sadly, and so over it! Usually, I’m the one that steps in and tries to calm everyone down, but I’m so tired of it that I didn’t do anything that night and went on with my own business. My brother stepped up to calm them down. He is Big boy and when he speaks loudly, it’s quite intimidating. My parents quickly stopped their argument, spread out, and went their own ways. The next morning, I’m awake early as usual. Things were tense last night, but I was a good girl, I held my tongue, go me! My mom wakes up and I can tell she is still mad. I say good morning cheerily and she responds back gruffly. Ahhh, she is mad at everyone today, I think. Whatever, mom is being mom and I go back to what I was doing. It’s a weekend so my brother sleeps in, mind you he doesn’t care about being in anyone’s good graces like I do. He wakes up and my mom almost floats to his side to say good morning. I kid you not, my jaw is on the floor from this demonstration. Here I thought he was going to get an earful for raising his voice last night, but no mom just can’t get mad at him. A couple days later I call her out on it in front of some of my family and she is like, “What? Me? No way! I treat all of you the same.” The whole room cackles! I get it, it’s her precious son, but, man, how it hurts sometimes.

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      Like yesterday, my brother decides to cook and I immediately find it annoying. If I didn’t make it clear, it’s hard for me to be on my mom’s good side, so basically I do everything around the house since I work from home and she has a tough job, that’s my way of looking out for her. It’s whatever at this point. The problem here is: I end up cleaning everyone’s messes, especially his! Why? Because my low key ocd self doesn’t like the way he cleans up. I mean, if the stove isn’t clean, then what did you clean up in the kitchen anyways?!! The good thing was that his girlfriend was around. That means to impress her, he at least washed all of the dishes he dirtied. Oh, but guess who was right next to him helping him out?…You got it, my mom. She was like, “Pobrecito (my poor son), look how much my son sweated from washing all these dishes.” All the girls in the house rolled their eyes to the back of their heads. Lady, I love you, but how different would it be if I were a son…

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        Pheww! Third time is the charm! I tried three times and finally found my inappropriate word.

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        Can 100% relate! My younger brother is the only son. I and his wife have to work to keep him in line since my mom babied him so much.

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          My brother is sandwiched between two girls and was probably the only planned baby lol. He knows mom favors him so he does try to back us up when needed, but I see you boyyy. I love his girlfriend since she also keeps him in line a lot.

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        My favourite story about this relates to my younger brother who, admittedly, has always needed more attention and more care. But we had a hammock at home and I was lying on it one day. It was strung up next to the pool under a pagoda over a concrete foundation.
        My 6ft younger brother wanders over to hop on it as well and I say, “don’t do it, it’ll collapse”. He ignores me of course and JUMPS onto the hammock with me. It collapses and I land on the concrete with him on top of me; very nearly cracking my coccyx in the process.

        As I’m lying there half stunned with my brother’s weight on top of me, I hear my mother yell, “MY SON, ARE YOU ALRIGHT!”

        Of course she used his actual name but you get the idea. As you can imagine, she has never lived it down.

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          Oh my goodness! Why don’t brothers listen to us??! My brother is also over 6 ft. But i think he feels like he is smaller so I can totally imagine this happening🤣

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        I am sure you will have more and more beanies agree with you here. I am the oldest and I was ‘trained’ to be a parent than to be just an older sibling. My dad expects me to pay for my siblings education – with my own money – and it is not like he doesn’t have any. I recently paid for my brother wedding – in its entirety! I am blessed thankfully but it is still hard to think my parents think I have been born to look after them and my siblings. It is like I don’t have my own family to look after.

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          As the oldest and being very much aware of our family situation, I always minded how much I wasted and how I spent my money. With any money I made, I always made sure to give some to my parents. In that way, I feel so distant from my siblings who use it mostly for themselves. I feel like I already raised two children and now I’m helping take care of my nephew and my friend’s child since they were babies. I love them so much, but it’s tiring that I wonder if I am ever going to have my own.

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            My perspective to a lot of things after I had my own baby. Holding my baby in my arms my entire world shifted from where it used to be. Now the needs of my child come first before anything else. And I love my siblings and my parents. I do. But now my child comes first and foremost (oh and of course my husband 😬 he is no. 2)

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      Can’t we eldest all identify with this? For me, it’s my sister. I don’t mind it so much because she was basically an only child with me and my brother off to college by the time she was 8 years old. But my hubby hates the fact she’s favored. Whenever I go to family events, she and her hubby get a pass. My husband would love a pass (and I make ample excuses for him when he just can’t anymore)! My makjang Monday is coming, don’t worry. I just don’t know what story to tell 😳.

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        That was hardest part on writing this, choosing a story😂😭

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    Ah, the woes of the eldest child…
    You know what, after years of cleaning up after younger siblings and trying to be the dependable one, I realised that I was frustrated because I expected my family to thank me and appreciate me for it. People don’t realise what you do for them, sometimes those that are closest to you.
    Also, the motherly preference for sons is something I’ve witnessed too. Well, my grandma would swear she didn’t have favourites, and guess what, she sold her house when my grandfather died and gave the money to my good-for-nothing uncles. She’s free to do as she pleases, but *eye roll*

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      Yeah, not getting thanked is the least of it, but not being appreciated is what hurts me the most. Especially since I don’t go out a lot and they know the reasons why. Oh well, I’m trying to live better and that means letting things like this go. It’s hard though!

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        It’s so hard to let go. Especially when you feel like you’ve intentionally been “the responsible one”

        I work hard to be independent, to not be someone my parents worry about, and it’s hard to feel less appreciated than the others that constantly mess up or ask for help

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    As a girl with five brothers, I can understand this. And I assure you, it’s not just an older sibling thing. Four of those boys are my oppas, with the youngest being both the most considerate and most spoiled (being the ninth child must be strange)

    I’ve cleaned for them and cooked for them as long as I can remember, one of them even jokingly called me his little Cinderella sister growing up.

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      Anyways, being patronized as one of “the babies” while still being the one who cleans up after everyone is horribly infuriating.

      I sort of wish they would come to me with their problems, instead of telling me I’m too young and naive to understand… (I’m 25, by the by).

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        My dad calls me Cinderella. He is definitely the most chill out of my parents and can see how I’m teated, but he can’t do much about it either.
        You have it tough! I can barely handle one brother and one sister, but you have 8 siblings😮. My parents love making me do everything for them, yet they always tell me I know nothing 🤷🏻‍♀️ Can’t win I tell you!

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          Oh gosh, they used to seem like the weight of the world ~ as I’ve gotten older I’ve had to let go any notion that I am responsible for any of them, or that my decisions have an impact on their lives, which they don’t (there are too many of us for that). It’s humbling but it also means I live my life the way I want, even if they think it’s boring, and can enjoy the few times we are all together each year

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            I still live with mine and since I had to mature pretty quickly, it felt like I also helped in raising them so I definitely feel responsible for them as well. Thankfully, they are pretty good kids and now that they have graduated high school, I have learned to just let them be since I feel like my job is done, lol. They are more outgoing and spontaneous, so I am also the boring one haha.

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          Boring sister high five!

          I’m glad your siblings have grown up well, you’ve done a good job JellyBn!

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Fellow zombie Beanies raise your hands😴I’m currently trudging through the day waiting for the nighttime, fully knowing that I will probably not sleep well again, but still, I can dream and wish for that time to come soon. Anybody know any non-shady out of tune singers? I haven’t tried that yet!

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    Sleeping used to be my greatest skill but the past few weeks I’ve been waking up probably 5+ times every night and today it has really started to catch up to me. It’s awful. I’ve never felt this tired before.

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      Ahh, Mindy, I’m sorry you aren’t sleeping well either😔. I used to get knocked out at night and nothing would wake me up. But now, it takes me forever to fall asleep, half of the time I’m thinking go to sleep go to sleep and the other I’m having vivid dreams where I know I’m dreaming and wake up out of them. My name should be Tired because I say it do many times. Fighting!😴

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    My dissertation really fucked up my sleep schedule and now I have so many immediate decisions to take and I just can’t fall asleep at night, I keep waking up thinking about what am I gonna do next and my quality of sleep has gone down 🙁 Trying to get back to normal now.
    I used to be the best sleeper I knew, my parents used to complain that if I was left alone I could sleep for 24 hours continuously lol
    The pains of growing up 🙁

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      I see, you have a lot on your plate. It just sucks that when we have stress or the such the first thing that goes is our sleep. Sometimes I want to sit my brain down and tell it to calm the heck down and let body sleep so that all of me can feel better. I hope that everything goes well for you!

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Beanies, I had to go with my dad to the doctor’s today and we had to walk to the office in the middle of the day in this heat. 😭 We live a couple of blocks away so it’s not too bad, but I’m a whiner with anything above 80F. My dad is the same, but his complaints are worse and out loud, whereas I just grit my teeth and mutter under my breath, hehe😁. Anyways, I’m like speed walking, looking straight ahead, and trying not to be rude to my dad (I get it, appa, it’s hot!) and I’m thinking I should pop something in my mouth to stop myself from saying anything, just like a certain someone, when a car up ahead makes me do a double take. It’s black and boxy looking like a jeep and I’m thinking in my head, “Gun?!!!”. 😆😂 Is it the heat or too much Go Go Squid?! I wanna think a little bit of both. 😂

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    Stay hydrated! Sadly it feels like summer didn’t come in where I live. Weather ranges 14-20C in a day, but wind is really strong that one may need to wear a spring jacket outdoor and people won’t be judging hard

    Huehehehehe the God Gun virus is spreading!!!! I Haven’t spotted a black Jeep yet💔

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      Thanks, I definitely carry water with me everywhere I go! I’m not too fond of the heat or the cold 😆 so I also cover up anytime I feel a breeze. I’m blessed to live where I do because our weather is beautiful, I’m the one who is crabby haha😂

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I just finished watching A Taxi Driver and now I’m a congested mess right before bedtime😭 All good movies should make you feel something, right?!

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    Such a good movie, also super sad.

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    Yes I think so. That movie was brilliant and sad. But it reminded me that all good ‘revolutions’ or change seems to have begun with students. I wept for all the people in time who have struggled for change in their countries – and made a difference.
    so yes, it is a very powerful film.
    Feel away!

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Beanies always have the best recommendations! And right when I think I might have one for you, the drama ends in a cliffhanger clearly baiting for a second season…whomp whomp whomp, sigh🤣😩

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    I’ll still give you guys a small review:
    I recently watched a Chinese Drama on Youtube called Detective L starring Bai Yu and Una You. The drama takes place in Shanghai in the 30s. It’s a Sherlock-esque show (like even the theme music sounded similar) where our Sherlock, Bai Yu as Luo Fei, is a geniusss at solving mysteries through deduction and his Watson, Una You as Qin Xiao Man, is the first women police officer in the Shanghai district. The season consists of 24 (30-40 minute) episodes, with 3 episode arcs to handle a case with the big baddie of the show in the background of pretty much all the cases. I really liked Yu Bai in this. His Luo Fei is smart and tsundere like, of course, but also not that mean (lol, this shouldn’t be a thing but you know how it is in dramas). Like he calls Xiao Man dumb a lot, but he is just teasing her since she always responds back and she is always right there with him in his train of thought. He also helps her become more intuitive and a better detective which is what I always look forward to in a partnership. Xiao Man is also a really likable character. She is smarter than her fellow police officers and a total butt kicker. She does have a couple moments where the evil guys take her hostage, but for the most part she is the one doing all the action. Luo Fei solves the clues, while Xiao Man chases the baddies. They have a cute, low key romance (which I’m sure they want to explore in a second season, ugh), but their comradeship is what carries the show. The pace of the show is good, and since a case takes three eps to be solved, it always makes you reach for another one so you can figure out how things were done. Anyways Beanies, I really did like this drama, but when I was watching the last episode I kept waiting and waiting for them to wrap things up and it never did. I know things are going to be okay because its Luo Fei and Xiao Man we are talking about, but it’s clear we need a second season for all the answers to be cleared up and for a possible romance to blossom. I looked at the actors upcoming works and it’s not listed in their schedules in the next couple of months so who knows😭. I really enjoyed watching it and I want to recommend it to Beanies, but now you guys know it doesn’t end with all bows tied up. So watch at your own risk😄

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      I only read the first line, but I’ve been meaning to check out Detective L for the longest time. I never thought I would like Bai Yu that much after Love O2O but he’s a pretty decent actor from the first few episodes of Guardian that I watched. It wasn’t really my kinda drama so I was hoping Detective L would be more my thing.

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        I know, his character in Love O2O turned me off a little as well, but then I saw him in Suddenly, This Summer where he plays a high schooler, college student, and then career man and grew to like him. He was so cute in that drama, but then it got too angsty for my taste and the wrap up was not to my liking. But Detective L was so good, I might check out his other projects.

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    The contemporary modern day Chinese dramas have definitely been upping their game lately 🙂 The 50+ episode wuxia/fantasy ones still need a bit of tweaking (like not stalling a plotline out for 20 episodes, not using the same plots in general), but are still tolerable 🙂

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      They have! I have yet to tackle a 50 ep one, but maybe one day I will get the chance🙂

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        A good modern day 50-episoder I recommend is “Because Of Meeting You” (Chinese remake of S.Korea’s “Jang Bo Ri Is Here”), and a few wuxia 50-episoder is recommend are “Ashes Of Love” and Princess Weiyoung” 😊

        Some not as daunting as 50-episodes I’d recommend are “Rush To the Dead Summer” (46 eps), “Pretty Li Hui Zhen” (Chinese remake of S.Korea’s “She Was Pretty”) 😊😊

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Beanies, it has been a slow drama year for me which sucks, but it also means I have more time to exercise other hobbies, like reading, which is good! I’ve read a couple of good books, but this book I choose because of dramas. I’ve heard of it so much being referenced in dramas, but I have never read it even though it’s been around for a long time😅. Better late than never right?!

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    I have also never read the Little Prince and have been meaning to rectify the situation for a few years now. Maybe I’ll give it a try now too.

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      It’s a short read so you can get through it on a boring afternoon:)

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    The Little Prince may be a classic children’s book, but l have never read it before 😮. I’m a late book lover! As a child I loved to read books, but I was only able to do so at school. Libraries were far away from me and my parents never let me go out on my own. By the time I got to high school, I frequented the school library as always and now the public one as well, but I got flooded with the mandatory reading that I just focused on that. It wasn’t until I got to college that I finally had free time and independence to go out on my own😀. So, since then I’ve been trying to catch up on the books I missed as a teenager and a child. Thus, why I’m finally reading this book. Which I’m glad to do so at this time! I think if I read it as a child it would all go over my head, and it probably still does to be honest. Which is why I won’t dive too deeply into it because it will just show you all how not so smart I am. There are three things I will note, though. First, I did see the movie on Netflix. I thought it was cute and adapted well to the current generation, but like always the book is better. Second, there was a short chapter on one of the adults in the planets that got to me. It’s something I see daily and it is really sad. I’m an adult, but I don’t get adults! And third, now I understand the story of the taming of the fox! This is the story I have heard in dramas. Like any media, everyone sees something different and interprets it their own way. As for me, looking at my life, all I could think of was the friendships in my life. After high school, I had a hard time keeping tight friendships. Maybe it was because we didn’t see each other every weekday anymore or maybe because I was a hermit that didn’t leave her house. I don’t know why, but I quickly lost touch with all my friends from high school. I’ve said it a couple times before here in DB, but it’s still hard for me to keep friends now. I don’t frequent any places where I could meet people or make friends. I take care of children in my home and I hardly go out during the week. The only place I visit daily is DB. And if you look at my posts you will see that I do try to get out of my comfort zone, but it’s still pretty hard for me to post my thoughts regularly. I’ll keep trying though! The only way you will miss me is if you keep seeing me, ahha.😊

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      Reading it as an adult still means a different interpretation than of a child’s (in middle school in my case). It’s interesting to know what kind of impression it left to you.

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        Hopefully I remember to pick it up in the future and see how I’ve changed:)

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        Probably the most famous line in the book is
        “It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.”
        Yep this book has been a big part of my life for many many years….

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          I did really like this quote. It made you stop and think, that’s for sure.

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    I read it in my twenties. Should read again!! One of my favorite books.

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    It was the first book I borrowed from my school library. I was in grade 3 I think. The second book I borrowed was about how to plant cassava 😄
    I remember I enjoy the illustration more than the story, both from Little Prince and that cassava book.

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      Woah, you have a good memory if you can remember the first books you borrowed! I forget things really easily😅

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    *whispers* I don’t like The Little Prince. I know people love it, but after being forced to read it several times in school, and having the religious symbolism wacked into my head repeatedly, I was never able to just enjoy the story.

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      Religious symbolism??
      Guess it helps when you read the book on your own and you interpret it any way you want 🙂

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      Like I said, things like this go over my head! I feel that I never truly enjoy the books I am forced to read and I much rather pick them on my own.

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      I think I liked it BECAUSE I read it on my own. I have no idea what religious symbolism could come out of that book. So sorry it was ruined for you!
      then again, religion usually does that for me.

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      They’ve interpreted it wrong. Why they do that? I started to love children’s literature at university when I had a list of books to read for an exam and after that it never quited me. I’m prefer children’s literature to adults one.

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    It was my first classic book I read by myself in middle school at around 11/12 y.o. Even if I don’t remember much if it, it did move me. Lots of people read it as mendatory book and while I never had deep analysis of the work, I enjoyed it more than them. Now in my early twenties, I should read it again with a different mindset 🙂

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    I haven’t read the book. But there was an animated film of it on Netflix a year or two ago. I enjoyed watching it at the time, but I don’t remember most of it now

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      It was cute! I tried watching with my nephew, but he didn’t like it so I ended up watching it by myself when he slept, haha.

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    I was 21 when I read this book for the first time. We started reading it in my french class but we never finished it. I had heard so much about it that I just had to read it. I admit I don’t remember much of the details but I remember the core center of the story. I do remember though that it made me cry ‘^-^…

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      I was moved a little by it, but I didn’t cry. But that can also be because I’m going through things and I’m hardening up. I took some French in high school, but never heard of this book. I bet it’s even lovelier in French:)

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    Ah, this is one of my most favorite books in the whole world. I read it in high school and never looked back. It truly is a classic and speaks so much wisdom about what it means to love someone else.
    Antoine St Exupery was a pilot over the deserts in Africa and wrote some books about those times too. I don’t have copies of them but I think one is called the Wind Among the Stars – and it too is beautifully written.
    I hope you read it and enjoy it – you won’t be sorry….

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    It wasn’t written as a child’s book. It’s the same with Alice in Wonderland and Gulliver’s travels. There was an excellent movie done for children and me and my father did cry like babies and my son was like what’s wrong with us 😄

    https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Little_Prince_(2015_film)

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      I saw the movie! I really liked it too. I think its one of those movies I can watch again and probably see something different, just like if I reread the book.

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    a truly delightful story! Enjoy!

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Completed: The Secret Life of My Secretary❤
# of moss balls that floated: 3🌳 (let\’s look past the trunk and pretend it\’s underwater greenery😂)

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    I am with everyone in that I didn’t think I was going to enjoy this as much as I did. I love me a good rom-com, but lately they have been too bland or too sweet to seem realistic. Plus, its a boss-secretary dynamic, which I see the appeal of a strict boss being made to the cutest of puppies, but sometimes the execution is not so good (Does she really have to keep working for him? Are they never going to call each other by their real names?!!!). However, I was glad that this drama, although ridiculous at times like with its CPR to the fish, pft, managed to show growth in both main characters and a pretty sweet love story. Also, how good were those last couple of episodes! I really enjoyed how things were wrapped up for our couple and everyone else. I feel like many Beanies have already showed their love to Veronica Park, but an aweeesome is guaranteed when talking about this drama. I loved Gal-hee and her frizzy hair and her comfortable shoes, which makes this drama so much better for me because sometimes it’s easier for me to love the main male character more since he is being swoony and all, but it always takes me a while to really like female characters. I’m trying, really though, to pay more attention to my girls out there in dramaland working hard! Still… I totally fell for Kim Young Kwang, lol❤. I look forward to both their future projects:) Once again, I’ll repeat how aweeesome it was that Min-ik’s disability wasn’t suddenly cured! He learned to live with what he had to the best of his abilities and then when he was feeling good, he was able to enjoy it as much as possible. What a nice message to all of us. We all have something, but we have to enjoy those good moments in our lives because we don’t know how much longer it’s going to take for another one of those moments to come.😀

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      Side note: I couldn’t help, but laugh and be simultaneously angry on Gal-hee’s behalf on her first date with Min-ik. I’m the oldest of three and I, too, have a brother and sister, whom I have looked out after since we were little while my parents worked. We are all adults now, but they will always be los chamacos (kids) to me. My baby sister and I have an age gap of eight years, which to my Mexican family means that I have been basically taking care of her ever since she was old enough to walk and my mom had to go back to work. So, I understand that feeling of wanting your younger sister to be better off than you and trying to help her get there. My brother and I are four years apart and though for the most time while growing up I felt alone and mature all by myself, he has finally caught up and now I can share many things with him and cry if I need to. All of this to say, my family is totally the type that would tag along on a date, or “andar de colados” in the Spanish vernacular. Probably not on a first date because someone will get hurt, but they don’t pass up free food, lol. I feel like hanging out together allows that new person to loosen up a little and get to know each other better. Trust, I’ve been there with both my bro and my sis and their special someones and my parents. Beanies, I’m like the fifth wheel now!😭 More like the seventh if you count my parents T.T

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Beanies, I am the type of person that is scared of a lot of things, but I\’m especially terrified of heights, tight/packed places, and the ocean. I\’m so sensitive to movement, so I get dizzy easily, and my stomach cannot handle food that tastes good very well. Thus, why travelling anywhere is a very far, faaarrrr of dream. And since South Korea is across an ocean from me and the only way to get there is an airplane full of people flying miles high, the closest I can get there is the Korean supermarket which I got to visit last Saturday. It\’s long for the fan wall, so go to the reply if you want to see me try being a storyteller😀.

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    My life right now is pretty boring. Well, more like repetitive and full of routines. Mundane. Sundays are for church. Mondays through Thursdays are for my babies I take care of. Fridays are for going to work with my mom or catching up with the chores and laundry around the house. Saturdays should be my relaxing day, me time you know, but I live with needy people and somehow I’m the one they always need (btw, this is not a diss to my family since they know they are needy😂). Therefore, in my eyes, I live a very non-exciting, non-spontaneous life. That is why a trip to the supermarket was an adventure. Beanies, I am the worst at shopping! Or going anywhere in general. I get dizzy so quickly (please do not take me to a Target because the huge amounts of red and their glossy floors knock me out in minutes😭). I usually go to the same stores and I go only for the things I need first and, then, if I’m having a good day, I’ll browse the aisles. There’s more I could say on why I don’t leave my house a lot, but it requires a lot of explanations so let’s skip over that. I can say though that I am a very anxious person. Like in my head, I’m like: I’m good, girl you got this. But my body is like: no you don’t, mayday, mayday, girl leave this place now. This year has been different though! I have been feeling better, both physically and anxiety-wise and have been hanging out with my family and friends outside of my house! Beanies, to me that is a big exclamation point! I still live following routines, but now, if I’m feeling good, I can plan for mini trips with my loved ones. Keyword: plan. I’m still a little far ways from spontaneity, but I’m slowly getting there.

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      All of this background was to tell you guys of my trip to a Korean supermarket (well, it was actually two Korean markets and one Japanese stationery store). I don’t know about you, Beanies, but it’s hard for me to make friends. Dramabeans is my only online presence, but I’m still pretty shy. I’m grateful to all of you that have conversed with me! I really want to talk to all of you more, but I hesitate a lot and get tongue tied. Since I don’t leave my house a lot, real life friends are harder to make. So guess how excited I was when my brother’s girlfriend turned out to be a really awesome and friendly person! We share many hobbies and although she doesn’t watch Korean dramas, she entertains me by listening to me ramble about them. Ever since I started watching dramas in late 2016, I’ve been wanting to visit a Korean supermarket I know of, but to be honest I don’t like going places alone. I have a driver’s license (how I was brave enough to get one still shocks and surprises my fam and me), but I don’t have a car and I rather be co-pilot since I can give pretty good directions and my dizziness might be calm riding shotgun. Anyways, when she heard I wanted to go there, she took into consideration my many quirks and planned a trip there for the both of us. Last Saturday I was having a good stomach day, so guess which girl went through all the aisles of the market😀. Everywhere I turned I recognized something I had seen only on my TV. Tteokbokki, tubs of kimchi, gochujang, huge bags of popcorn, the famous ramen pots, all of the ramen, makgeolli, banana milk, the little rice bowls they give in restaurants, the pink water pails, the pink dish gloves, even the ever popular Melona in banana, mango, melon, coconut, and strawberry flavors, they even had its knockoff Melon. (Sadly, I couldn’t taste them because lactose! But do I still get admittance to the kingdom by just seeing them?). All these things that would come of as strange when you visit another country, were very familiar and I didn’t even have to leave the county I live in. I was very much happy just looking at everything up close and seeing its packaging and ingredients. There were many people there buying their own groceries and I didn’t want to come out as rude by pointing at everything, so I just slowly walked through with my friend and quietly explained all the familiar things to me in a pretty non-spazzy way. You know just two Mexican girls casually strolling through the Korean market as if they were regulars and knew what they were looking for. When we were done going around the aisles, we walked towards the produce section were there were a lot of people and, since we had other places to go, we decided to head out. I did see that there was a little snack stand in the corner of the market that sold tteokbokki, but it wasn’t open yet. We paid my things and explored the rest of the shopping space.

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        Half of the space was the market and the rest were small shops that catered to Korean speaking people, such as a travel agency and money exchange place, and food shops. We were there early in the morning and almost all the food places were closed until lunchtime. There was a little kpop shop there too, but I only saw it coming into the market, and forgot to check it out on the way out since we were in a hurry. On our way to the second Korean market, we made a quick stop to a Japenese stationary store where I demonstrated a lot of self control. I had never heard of the second Korean supermarket, but my friend found it while looking up directions to the first one. When we got there, the parking lot was packed. Somehow we found a space and as we walked to the front, we saw many people going in and out of it. To our surprise, the day before had been its grand opening, so everyone came to check it out. You know those flower arrangements that people send wishing you good luck on your business, those were there. As soon as we walked in, our noses were pleased since the food court was in the entrance and it was packed, I guess it was lunchtime already. There was a little beauty stand as well, and some special offers going on, but remember how I don’t like packed places. I soon started to get a little worried. People kept coming in and there wasn’t a lot of room to just casually walk around the store. We decided to leave, since all we wanted to do was stroll while other people needed to actually shop. Regardless of that, it was fun and now I really want to go back and see it calmly, but maybe in a couple of weeks when the newness of it wears of.

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          So, I told you what I saw, but what did I actually buy? I’ll be honest, not much. The thing is, as much as I want to buy a lot of things, my financial situation is not so good right now. In other words, I’m broke😅. This was more of a reconnaissance trip though. I went to find out the prices of the things I want, so I can go back with more money and a list one day. Also, remember how I said that my stomach doesn’t like things that taste good. I’m not lying, all the food I eat is plain, simple, and with no strong flavors. I get really bad stomach aches easily so I’m very careful to what goes into my mouth and in my belly. I’m allergic to shrimp, also I’m lactose intolerant, and sensitive to gluten, plus I avoid many other things make me have what I call big baby heartburn. Its difficult to eat out and I even have turned my back to the delicious Mexican food I grew up with, sorry enchiladas. Thus, I ate with my eyes (No I didn’t. More like couldn’t because the food places open at 11am and I was there at 10am T.T). I only bought a little tub of kimchi, that I can’t eat because of the shrimp, but I gave it to my brother and his stomach of steel (he finished it already and wants more). The other thing I bought was a little jar of Yuzu Tea which is just yuzu fruit concentrated with sugar and honey that you can add to hot or cold water to make tea. I make hot tea every night with it and, aside from soothing my throat, its delicious of course. For me, this was a very fun trip and throughout I wondered what my friend was thinking about coming with me. Two things stood out for her. The first was how pretty the packaging was. She said everything looked nice and appealing. She wasn’t sure what it was, but she wanted to buy it and find out. The second thing she noticed was that in both supermarkets, aside from the Korean/Asian staff, there were also a lot Hispanics working there. We live in a pretty diverse city and in our own town we have a lot Asian shops in which the owners speak some Spanish, so this is not strange, but it’s always nice to see that we foreigners help each other out. Overall, she said she enjoyed her time browsing and would come with me again, but this time with more research so we can try some of the food out and hopefully find something I could eat.

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            I had such a great time just strolling through the store! It probably sounds pretty lame because it wasn’t a great or grand adventure, but you know they say that it’s the small things that count. I don’t think I’ll ever get to travel. I have so many things in the way for that to happen. And part of me is sad, but the part that accepts it realizes that my travelling dreams will just have to be different. I live in a beautiful city in California that I haven’t been able to explore thoroughly. Now, it’s just up to me gather up the courage and go see more of it. If you read this far, thank you! This is a side of me that pretends to be a good storyteller so please forgive her, she’s wordy and doesn’t make sense sometimes😊.

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        I do allow lactose intolerant people into the Queendom if they wanted and could’ve had one but didn’t, yes. You’re admitted hehehe

        Now we’ve got that out of the way,
        This was such a sweet story and I’m so glad you shared it and it made perfect sense!
        I know a little something of how your body can resist you doing things even if your mind tells you you’re fine so even if I don’t know you very well I’m so proud of you for this little adventure!
        And it’s so cool to see that you enjoy the little things.
        Hwaiting!!! Here’s to many more little adventures. 🖤

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          Aweeesooome! Thank you for allowing us into Queendom. You are most gracious!

          Also, thank you for your kind response:) I might’ve blushed a little because you know its hard to get people be proud of you the older you get. So thank you for that!

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        Hey if @sicarius knows you completed a Quest of Coconut Melonas, you may get knighted.

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      Hey Jellybn! Thanks for sharing your story. It felt as if I was visiting the Korean market again for the first time. I’m glad you had a good time exploring and I hope you’ll get a chance to go again soon.

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        I hope so too! Who knows, I might bump into a Beanie there one day?!

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    We don’t have any korean shops here. I am so envious of you right now. That actually sounds like so much fun but now I’m hungry…

    I recently found a korean brand ramen at a local Asian supermarket, and I got so excited like I know that so 2 whole stores 🤩🤩😍

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      Aww, I hope you get a Korean market around you soon! You know what, Korean products are so popular now you never know where you are going to find them. I actually saw some Chocopies the other day in this retail store next to the checkout line and I would have never expected to see them there. Hopefully the ramen you found is good though!

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        Yes hopefully that happens soon. That must be like having your online world & real life crossing paths.
        I actually didn’t like it but every time it comes out in a show. I’m like oh yeah that one. I’ve tried it.

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    Thank you for sharing your adventure with us, jellybn! You are a great story teller!
    I am so glad you have someone to go exploring with. It is fun to visit Korean stores when you can’t go to Korea…
    I hope that you can go on more outings soon.
    Fighting!!!

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    I love going to the Korean supermarket just to look around too! If you can go on a weekday morning, there aren’t very many people. And if you’re in CA, was the Japanese store Daiso? If not, you should go! Everything is $1.50 and so cute.

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      Yeah, hopefully next time I go during the weekday because they were both packed. And Yes! It was Daiso. I loved it! I like to scrapbook and make cards and such, so I literally could’ve bought every thing in the store because it was so cute. I refrained myself so hard, but that just means I have to go back right?! Hehe.

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    Your trip to the supermarket sounds very fun! Thanks for sharing 🙂 I didn’t realize you were a fellow Californian! Are you NorCal or SoCal?

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    Thank you for sharing your story jellybn~ To many more adventures, small or big. Even a small step can be an adventure in itself 🤗.

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    Thank you for sharing this Jellybn! That sounds like such a fun day and I’m glad you and your friend had a good time at the shops. There’s something special about little adventures like this that you can have right in your own neighborhood.

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      Yes, my city in general is really pretty, now I just need the time to explore it! Wishing you many adventures in your neighborhood as well.

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    I loved reading this and I’m so glad you had a lovely day!
    You’ve reminded me to go out and try to do something new.
    Let us know when you take another visit 🙂

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    Thank you for sharing! I’m happy that you are able to take small steps at your own pace in order to try new things. I can relate to this.

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      I’m pretty good at keeping my own company, so it was nice to go out with my friend and seeing something new. I hope that you can do something new and exciting at your own time as well:) Fighting!

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    Congratulations on your cute little adventure! I’m struck by how transparent you are about your social anxiety and I have two people in my family who are lactose intolerant and have horrible acrid reflux (my hubby and daughter). My daughter is just now really symptomatic and is having to adjust her diet as well—she’s my child who loves to eat, so it’s a challenge. She was also the one that slept a in a swing for the first 3 months of her life, probably because I refused to give up kimchi while I was breast feeding her—poor child. But speaking if lactose intolerance, have you tried Digestive Advantage Lactose Defense? It’s a great over the counter product that allows both my husband and daughter to eat ice cream! I know! You may even be able to eat Queen sic’s Melona bars! I saw that your quest included identifying that ever elusive coconut Melona. That is a rare feat! They are not in my city (I do live in the US). I also live in a town of about 200K, so it’s not so surprising. We’re lucky to have a Korean store—actually two! Looking forward to your next adventure!

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      Hi Ally. My heart reaches out to your daughter. I’ve always had a sensitive stomach and in 8th grade I was diagnosed with GERD which means I basically must take Tums with me everywhere I go. I hope she finds her triggers quickly so she can avoid them and feel loads better. I have tried a lactose pill before, but maybe its me because I still get an upset belly. But I found some Lactaid ice cream in the store and I get all the tub to myself so I do try to get some when I go food shopping!

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    Awww, Jelly! I didn’t think this story was boring, at all. It felt nice and peaceful, like I was strolling through the place with you. You’re a splendid storyteller. 💖 I’m glad you had fun exploring, and in such good company! I hope you can go and explore some more, in different places, and perhaps travel in your own city, just to see what you can find. 🙂 And maybe find some delicious food and friends along the way.

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Completed: Her Private Life⭐
Ryans spotted in the real world: None! But I did see a Lion at the zoo, he was sleeping though…

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    I went into this drama curious about how fangirls would be represented and what kind of romantic leading man Kim Jae-wook would be. I’m not a huge fangirl myself. I’ve never bought merch of anything I like (that has to do more with me being broke and trying to save my money rather than not wanting to buy things) and though I squeal and swoon over my dramas, I try to do it as privately as possible (my fam would never let me live it down if I publicly profess my love for any oppa). So, I was just disappointed how that plot line was handled. There is a lot to be said about Deok-mi’s obsession, but I don’t think I could do it right, so I’ll just say that she should have at least taught the other fans who pelted her to suffer the consequences of their actions rather then let them get away scott free. A good unnie and fellow fan should’ve not condone that type of behavior at all. With that plot line out, the romance was what kept me going. KJW and PMY were great! PMY has great chemistry with all her co-stars and her role as Deok-mi made me like a female lead for just being like the best girlfriend. She made it so easy for Ryan to open up to her and confide in her, which we usually watch the other way around where the boyfriend is the one consoling the girl. Ryan was the best! And non-existing right?! He was just like so perfect and like the most understanding guy ever that I feel only KJW could have played him. I want him in more rom-coms please! The rest of the plot lines were ughhh! Because whyyyy! Childhood tropes are the most popular drama tropes and I just can’t with them anymore. I just overlooked all of it because the ending was sweet and yes for Deok-mi advancing her career!! Eun-gi was a cutie at the end and the three amigos friendship is the best! If I’m jealous of anything, it has to be Deok-mi and Seon-joo being fangirls and best friends forever together. I need a Seon-joo, or a Deok-mi, or both girls since they are both great on their own. And how cute is Geon-woo😍.Overall, there is still no perfect rom-com out there for me, but I’m still on the lookout!

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      YES YES YES!
      Tell me when you find that perfect rom-com, I’ve been looking for one my whole k-drama watching career.

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        I think Beanies should write a rom-com ourselves! Maybe then we will get closer to one😁

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Completed: He Is Psychometric/ That Psychometric Guy❤
Take away: No one with psychometric abilities touch me, please! I will relive my most cringiest moments in the comfort of my bed, in the middle of the night, all by myself thankyouverymuch😂😭

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    Why is it that when I really like things, my brain freezes up and I can’t talk/write properly?! Like, I’m already bad at explaining things, but why can’t I even gush? Ugh! I don’t really know, but please read the following with enthusiasm!
    I really enjoyed this drama! The cast was great all around, but I was really surprised by our leads. I’ve seen Jinyoung in My Love Eun-dong and in LOTBS and loved him in both roles, so I knew he was going to be great, but still the character growth in Lee Anh was just good. Ye-eun is new to me, but I came to really like Jae-in since she was like not annoying and smart and had character and could handle her own. I like how the two genres of romance and thriller were blended. Were the romance took place in the beginning which allowed for cute moments, but once things got serious, they still cared and looked out for each other, so there was no noble idiocy and they worked as a team. The thriller aspects were just enough for me to be interested and curious for answers and not scared (well, not a lot because I’m a huge scaredy cat). I was personally satisfied with the ending, which gives it extra points since we all know too well how disappointing some drama endings are. Oh gosh, I could say more, but, like I said, i have writer’s block. Meet me in real life Beanies, and I’ll talk your ear off…

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    However, it takes effort and concentration to do what he did, so I think he’d be able to turn it on and off, and respect your privacy, right? I actually think it’d be kind of cool. My husband does psychoanalysis and psychotherapy and he’s really good at it, but people sometimes don’t like talking to him because they’re worried he’ll analyze them. He says it takes a lot of energy to do it, so he usually doesn’t in day to day conversations and interactions. And he always asks people if they want him to do it on them.

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      I always thought the psychometric abilities were really interesing and well done in the drama. What your husband does is really cool as well! It must of required a lot of studying to be able to read people and analyze them. I always find myself trying to figure out why people around me do this or that. Of course, its all just assumptions on my part, but it’s really neat to know that Doctors like your husband would know after some time.

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