Beanie level: Errand boy

Dyson is closing in on my life, and not just through PPLs in dramas 😲

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Thank you, show, for reminding me to look out for the ordinary days that will turn into the happiest moments of my life. #TheLightInYourEyes #OrOneLitreOfTearsSeason2?

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    Do you need a hug? Please say yes. This show always makes me want to give people the warmest hugs and tell them how important they are.

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      If it’s a hug from you, yes!!! *Bear hugs right back* The show reminded me once again how important it is to learn about stories of people different from me. It’s an exercise in empathy, but it also imparts life lessons so I won’t have to wait till I grow old to find out.

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        *crashes the hug party* I thought I already thought all the thinks I have for LIYE, but your comment captures one more reason why I love this painful show. ♥

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          Crashers of this party get big bear hugs too! And yes, isn’t that why a place like Dramabeans becomes more precious? (And hey, that’s the theme of the month too!)

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        Love your take on it, PurpleTeapot, as always! I’m out of words for the day, so I’ll leave with another hug for you, and another for @mary

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Because I accidentally spoiled myself, I was prepared for what the twist at the end of ep 10 of The Light in Your Eyes was. But I sure wasn’t prepared for how it was revealed.

There’s the shakiness of the handheld camera, the skewed angles, the roiling sea (an apt backdrop, for it often symbolises life and hardship); the slow cello music and the quick cuts between fragments of Hye-ja’s memories, and the layering of dissonant audio feedback over the melodic music. All of these carefully constructed elements were put together to produce an instant sense of disorientation that connects us to Hye-ja’s perspective.

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    The scene was painfully disorienting for me too… I wish I had been spoiled. Good job noticing the musical elements. 👍🏼

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    It was one of the most well-constructed scenes I’ve seen in a drama.

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Love Hye-ja’s clapback at the plastic surgery clinic (โ—”แด—โ—”) And I also appreciate how this show spotlights ageism. #TheLightInYourEyes

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Recently, a friend I haven\’t spoken to in at least 10 years texted me (yes, a text, and not a Facebook post) to wish me happy birthday and asked how I\’ve been doing. I immediately wondered if she was trying to sell me insurance.

Not sure if K-dramas have taught me well, or fed my overthinking tendencies 😶

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    So did she sell you insurance? Lol. I get the same feeling when somebody texts me out of nowhere after not contacting me for so long.

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      I just said hello and thank you without answering the “How have you been”, and she hasn’t replied. So thankfully, no! I do recall her being a doctor, and I don’t think she’s changed career paths. But it was still quite awkward so I didn’t try to keep up the convo.

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    I am also weary when ppl text me out of nowhere. Because more times than not they want something. Which sucks, but I’m a horrible texter so I don’t get that upset. Well, I try not to. Hopefully you had a good chat with your friend though. Happy late birthday! 🎉🎂

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      Thank you! ^^ I didn’t have much to say because we haven’t spoken in so long, so I just thanked her and she hasn’t replied, which I don’t mind.

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        I see. I haven’t really seen anyone from high school since we graduated and I really don’t want to, so I understand that it might be better if the conversation ends there. Still nice that she texted you:)

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“Auroras are . . . an error. But even an error can be [so] beautiful that it makes you tear up.”

Finally back in a better head space to pick up The Light in Your Eyes where I left off, at Ep.7. This scene went straight to my heart. The acting, the directing, the writingโ€”all of it hit the mark.

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A local indie cinema I frequent is bringing in Beautiful Days, which caught my attention because Jang Dong-yoon is in it! Off to buy my tickets โธœ(*หŠแ—œห‹*)โธ

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I’m back from my last stint as a part-time florist! While searching for a full-time job, I’ve been making bouquets for corporate floral bar events (usually at retail stores).

It’s tough work standing all day, getting pricked by thorny roses, hauling around buckets of flowers and leaves, getting sore wrists from wrapping hundreds of bouquets within a weekend. I had to fend off people who kept touching the real flowers to see if they were fake (and grabbing the fake ones thinking they were real). Passers-by even treated me as the mall’s information counter for some reason.

All the same, I was grateful for a job that let me focus on one task at a time, and gave me the opportunity to do something productive during a discouraging job hunt. I wonder if I’ll miss the simple joy of completing a bouquet when I start my job next month. One thing’s for sure, though: I’ll never look at a bouquet again without thinking of the hard work that went into making it.

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    These are beautiful ~

    good luck on the end of job hunting, but it seems like flower arranging is nothing to sneeze at 😉😊๐Ÿฅณ
    💐🌹🌸🌺

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      Thank you! I still have a month’s break before my full-time job starts and I intend to fully enjoy my freedom ^^

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    Gorgeous arrangements!! I hope the job hunting goes well 😊

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    Those are beautiful.

    I had thought florist isn’t hard work. Those kdramas deceived me.

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      It seems very relaxing to be surrounded by beautiful flowers, but in reality you always have dirt under your fingers, an aching back from standing (it’s just easier to work standing up), and small cuts from unknown sources! But it’s very satisfying to look at a crate of completed bouquets at the end of a long day (:

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Just started watching The Return of Superman on the train to my part-time job. I must say it takes quite a bit of effort to reconcile my image of Tablo with the baby voice he uses on Haru 😅

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I was warming up to our main couple again now that we’re past the misunderstandings and passive aggression, but the last scene of Ep16 threw me off again.

Shanshan has her flaws as a character, but the fact that she’s such an independent girl, yet came all the way to look for Momo to confide in her, indicates how troubled she is by her problems with Fupei.

And Momo didn’t even bother listening to her right from the start, much less try to help. If you let Shanshan stay, you should listen to her. If you weren’t prepared to, you can tell her it’s not a good time. She did ask. It’s like… come on. You can be in a cute, loving new relationship without being a terrible friend, you know :/ #PutYourHeadOnMyShoulder

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    I have a different view.

    At first, I blamed Shanshan for imposing on Weimo couple but aside from the annoyance that she interrupted my enjoyment, I think what happened was realistic. Shanshan is thinking purely of her own misery, she didn’t notice or didn’t bother that she was imposing on Wei Yi and Momo.

    For Momo, she knows and she does place importance on her friendship with Shanshan, that’s why she let her stay all night till the morning. She tried to lend a listening ear but was so ever distracted because what she really wants is to spend time with Wei Yi.

    She’s an imperfect friend but not a terrible one. Same goes with Shanshan.

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      What ShanShan is failing to notice is that MoMo doesnโ€™t want anything to do with FuPei.

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        Yeah, also Shan Shan already talked MoMo’s ears off on the phone the night prior which abruptly ends DoraMo’s evening together. I think it would be difficult for anyone to once again give full attention when a friend is obviously in the mood just to rant, repeatedly no less.

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          But Shan Shan did ask Mo Mo for advice, and she wasn’t just there to rant. We don’t know how long the phone call went on for, because it wasn’t shown, and Mo Mo was quite dismissive of Shan Shan’s concerns even on the phone call (she told Shan Shan that FP will come back begging in a day or two, but that’s not a solution to the issue). I think that’s why Shan Shan sought advice again, because Mo Mo wasn’t listening carefully enough to give proper advice or at least to tell her she isn’t in the position to do so.

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        That’s true, but then she doesn’t have to be avoidant about it. She can just tell Shan Shan that she isn’t in a position to advise her about Fu Pei, and Shan Shan is mature enough to understand that. It’ll be nice if Shan Shan picked up on that, but she is clearly quite distressed, and Mo Mo isn’t making it very clear, so I wouldn’t blame Shan Shan for not inferring this.

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    MoMo did clearly say thatโ€™s fuPei is a scum and expressed her disapproval even before they started dating.
    And MoMo can only do so much because she has to draw a line when it comes to FuPei. Itโ€™s not easy for her to give advice because her prejudice for FuPei is high.
    Even if ShanShan is wrong MoMo will always blame FuPei. I think itโ€™s best she doesnโ€™t get involved. This one ShanShan has to fix herself.
    Also itโ€™s MoMoโ€™s personality. I donโ€™t think she shares her feelings and discusses much. Even her mom mentions that. Not all friends act the same. Some friends are for advice, some friends are just there for you and some friends help you with distraction.
    I donโ€™t think she did bad.

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      You’re right that different people help their friends in different ways, but that’s exactly my point. It would be nice if she were willing to listen, and actually did. But she didn’t have to, and she could’ve wiggled her way out of it. My issue with her is that she neither turned Shan Shan away nor listened after inviting her in. And the way the show scripted it admittedly made it worse, because it’s not that Mo Mo was shown listening at first, then getting tired after a while (that’s natural, and I’d understand). She just wasn’t listening from the start, and that was unpleasant.

      If she’s not comfortable saying it directly, that she doesn’t want to help out where Fu Pei is involved, she could have told Shan Shan she had plans for the night. Shan Shan should have been prepared to be turned away, because you need to consider that as a possibility when you turn up unannounced at someone’s house. Or if Mo Mo wanted a more permanent solution, she could ask Shan Shan to consult one of her other friends with more relationship experience.

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    I’m probably the only one to agree with you on this – maybe because I’ve found myself exactly in Shan Shan’s interrupting shoes in the past. 😅 (Not that I stayed all night, or even half an hour) BUT there are definitely better ways for Momo to have handled that scenario. However, for the sake of comedy in a rom com, I let it slide.

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      I wish I were able to let it slide, but it fed into my discomfort with Mo Mo’s behaviour in the past few episodes. She does seem quite self-centred no matter who she’s with.

      When she was jealous over the lab senior and Wei Yi’s interactions, she behaved however she wanted to towards Wei Yi without considering how he might feel on the receiving end (it’s lucky that he didn’t mind). When Prof Jiang said he would keep the kitten, she wanted to keep it even though she was staying at a place that’s not her own, and the owner of the place is allergic. And even during their cute date, she kept adding items onto their order until Wei Yi noticed it was enough and didn’t add his own picks.

      So I guess it’s not surprising that in this case, she would choose to focus on the fact that she wants to spend more time with Wei Yi rather than that Shan Shan is really in need of help. I just want to enjoy this as the light-hearted slice-of-life rom-com it is, without these glaring flaws that are being passed off as… not flaws, because the female lead is cute and gets away with it. I liked her when she spoke up for herself earlier on in the show (e.g. when she rejected Fu Pei), but subsequently, I feel like the show stopped trying to show her strengths.

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        On this point, I again, agree with you. I mentioned it in my very first post:
        http://www.dramabeans.com/members/greenfields/activity/766701/
        but rather briefly. Momo’s expectations drive me nuts. She expects her boyfriend/kind of boyfriend (at that time Fu Pei) to accompany her for interviews, pick her up from school, answer all phone calls immediately, now she half expects Wei Yi to be there after work hours, he does all the cooking, he picks up her shoes, he pays for everything (the money thing might be cultural?) and on and on.

        What I understand is that the show is trying to project the image of The Perfect Guy and we’re meant to fawn over Wei Yi. I can also appreciate that Momo isn’t perfect, she’s actually quite self centered. But it IS a bit much, more so because the show doesn’t portray her in a self-centered light. We seem to be seeing her as Wei Yi sees her; and need to take a step back to see what you’ve rightly pointed out. Imho.

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          That’s true, I hadn’t noticed it extended to her expectations from so early on, and that the image/fantasy of a guy like Wei Yi is part of the genre. I’m happy to have shows with flawed characters, but it’s more meaningful when the show takes us through their growth as they learn to address their own flaws.

          I guess that’s why I’ve started looking forward more to Shan Shan and Fu Pei’s relationship, because even though I dislike FP as a character, their relationship is guided by the navigation of SS’s expectations and FP’s personality weakness.

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Burst out laughing at this. Props to the stylist’s level of detail, even the clothes peg matches Momo’s clothes 😂 #PutYourHeadOnMyShoulder

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Um… Prof Jiang? You seem to have forgotten that Weiyi’s confession failed because you guys were too scientific 😂 #PutYourHeadOnMyShoulder

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    The Physics of Love gang is amazing. I would watch an entire series with those clueless idiots giving terrible relationship advice.

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Spent my Saturday baking a carrot cake for my mum! Had to do it in advance because I idiotically agreed to work for my florist next weekend, forgetting that it would be Mother’s Day ;ใ……;

Also, why didn’t the “How to grease and flour baking tins” tutorial videos tell me that my tin would end up looking like the skin of some deep sea creature? 😬

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    This is the recipe I used for the carrot cake: https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/17344/carrot-cake-xi/ It’s really soft and spongy! I’ve made it a few times and it hasn’t turned out badly once. Changes I made: I used coconut oil instead of vegetable oil (because my dad bought a big bottle to drink and promptly forgot its existence), cut the oil by 1/4 (e.g. 100ml becomes 25 ml), and reduced the sugar by half.

    And here’s the one I used for the cream cheese frosting: https://www.allrecipes.com/recipe/9926/cream-cheese-frosting-ii/ I reduced the sugar by almost half.

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      I’d modified some recipes for carrot cake and is lovely. I’m using more carrots and little bit of butter milk and my spices mixture.

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        Cool! What spices do you use? For mine, I just stuck to cinnamon as I don’t have many spices at home.

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          Spices mixture: 1 tbs cinnamon, 1 tbs ground ginger, 1tsp nutmeg, 1tsp gloves, 1 star anise, 1tsp anise, 1 tsp fennel seeds, 1tsp whole spice, 1 tsp black pepper + you can add some chilly pepper’s flakes

          I ground it with my smoothie mixer now, it’s fast

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          The recipe I’m using:

          300g carrots
          300g plain flour
          200g light brown sugar
          300ml oil
          3 eggs
          100g walnuts
          1tsp baking powder
          1tsp baking (bicarbonated) soda
          3tbs of mixed spices + little bit of grounded vanilla pod (seeds are best for creams and empty vanilla pods to favour your pastry or sugar)
          orange zest
          lemon zest
          buttermilk

          Icing:
          300g soft cream cheese
          100g icing sugar
          vanilla extract
          2tbs of rum – optional
          lemon zest +juice

          1. Whisk egg yolks with sugar until fluffy and creamy, slowly add oil until smooth.
          2. Sift flour with baking powder and soda and add spoon by spoon to egg mixture. Add spices, orange & lemon zest, chopped walnuts and grated carrots (I use the larger side of grater, like this carrots keep their juice inside). Mix well.
          3. Whisk egg whites until soft peaks and add spoon by spoon to the mixture, don’t overmix, mix it with spatula. If your pastry is too thick add some buttermilk.
          4. Bake in preheated oven at 150 – 180 degrees Celsius ( depends of the type of oven you’re using) until golden – I’m using wooden barbecue stick to check if it’s done inside.

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            Thanks for sharing this! The lemon in the icing seems like it’ll make for a nice tart flavour!

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    Your baking tin looks non-stick, did you have to grease or even flour it?

    I have not baked carrot cake but I think this is a recipe with higher percentage of fat. Greasing the pan should be minimal. I’d go with either lightly grease it or flour it.

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      Sea creature or not, the lovely cake with a Carrot Heart is awesome! Your mom will be delighted!

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      It is, but strangely the previous times when I made this cake it got stuck. Now that you mention it, the non-stick material must be why the oil doesn’t go on evenly. But fortunately it removed cleanly!

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    I love that little carrot heart! Looks so yum. *reminds myself to be a good daughter like you and do something for my mom*

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I am happy to announce that 5 months, 26 applications, and many nights of fitful sleep later… I have finally secured a job as a research assistant in education research! (โ‰งโˆ‡โ‰ฆ)

It\’s a short contract, but I\’m just glad for a start. I am excited to work in a job that lets me nerd out and learn while working. Even better, I don\’t start so soon (because the HR is slow), which means I still have time to catch up on dramas 😏

In return for the good vibes and kind advice Beanies have offered, I present:

💜โœจ PurpleTeapot\’s Guide to Job-Seeking โœจ 💜

In the comments, I will be sharing some tips I gained, with personal examples. Hope it\’ll make your job search easier than mine!

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    1. Reflect on your latest work experience.
    Before starting your search, evaluate what worked and didn’t work for you in your previous stint (another full-time job or an internship). Your insights will guide you in what positions to apply for, and what questions to ask prospective employers during interviews to assess whether the job will be a better fit.

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    2. Think about the skills that you enjoy using.
    When job-hunting, we tend to think about what industry and positions we are interested in, but this can be limiting. Sometimes the market doesn’t have enough of these positions, or your current qualifications don’t match demands, or it turns out that your strengths don’t fit the job as well as you believe.

    Thinking not just about what role interests you, but what skills you enjoy using, can open up unexpected but suitable options. If you’re not sure what you like, you can try the oppositeโ€”eliminating what you don’t like. Also try doing this career personality test and Adobe’s Creative Type test.

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    3. Read online articles.
    The job market has become more demanding and unpredictable compared to the past, but an advantage we have is more access to advice and help online. I found The Balance Careers and The Muse very helpful, even though they weren’t specific to the local job market.

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    4. Keep your LinkedIn updated!
    If you’re early on in your career, it’s unlikely that you’ll get scouted on LinkedIn. But updating your profile can serve two functions.

    First, you get information on prospective companies looking for skills you possess. Write a short intro on your career aspirations and fill in responsibilities from your past work experiences. Be sure to include keywords for hard skills you gained.

    With this, you’ll start turning up in prospective employers’ random searches. Sometimes it’s a company you didn’t know about or expect you’d be a fit for. Use this to reverse-search them and see what positions they’re hiring for. (Look up job portals and their websites, as they don’t always pay LinkedIn to advertise open positions.)

    Second, when a hiring manager for a job you applied to does a directed search of your profile, they can learn more about you than what’s in your resume.

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      I went and deleted my LinkedIn a little over a year ago because I hated it. HAHAHA But yeah, I know I have to put up a LinkedIn profile at some point.

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    5. Make a master document of your job search and review it.
    Make a document with two sections: future and past applications. Under future apps, you can save links to jobs you’re interested in, order them by deadline or preference, and also dump a list of positions you’re not sure about but want to keep in mind.

    Under past apps, detail positions & companies you applied for, the date the hiring ad was posted, when you applied and heard back, and the dates of tests/interviews and the outcomes. This will give you a sense of hiring timelines. It’s also good for when you need to jog your memory on which cover letter to retrieve and edit for a new app for a similar role.

    Using this, review your search on a regular basis. If you’re not hearing back despite a ton of applications, is it because you’re cutting it too close to the deadline and they’ve already hired someone? Are you applying for very similar positions? Try applying quicker next time, or adjusting the type of jobs you’re applying for, and see if you land more interviews.

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    6. Save application materials for the jobs you applied for.
    Save and organise the job descriptions and your resume and cover letter for each position. Hiring processes can be long, and there’s no guarantee you’ll remember the details of a job when you get an interview call.

    You can also easily find and modify past materials for future apps to similar roles. But make sure someone else (a friend or career advisor) has given you feedback on the original copy first, so that you’re not churning out versions of an ineffective cover letter.

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    7. Tap on your personal network.
    A long job search can take its toll on your mental health and social life, especially if a lot of your friends are already ahead with their careers and you feel self-conscious when with them.

    But if you have a supportive network, don’t be afraid to leverage on it. Catch up with friends and share your job search concerns. They might know about job openings you don’t, or be able to suggest career paths you’re suited for but haven’t considered. After all, there’s a limit to what opportunities a single person knows and can find.

    A job search can feel isolating, but make sure you’re not the one isolating yourself. You might be surprised at the help you can find if you try asking.

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    8. Be attentive before and during your interview.
    In today’s job market, interviews are no longer a one-way process of employers assessing you. You are also assessing whether the company is right for you.

    Google “Interview red flags for employees” and read up on the topic. Try to gather enough information so that you won’t jump into a job despite warning signs, only to suffer mentally and physically, or to quit shortly after.

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      My Experience
      I met a very disorganised, hasty hiring manager, which I mentioned in an OT some weeks back. When a hiring manager is rushing, doesn’t ask basic questions to sound you out (“Why are you interested in our company/ this position?”), and misses important info on you, it’s a sure indicator of what they’re going to be like as a boss.

      I had a strange experience with another company whose offer I had rejected. They tried to enter negotiations with me without clarifying whether I wished to do so. The way they approached it cohered with the top-down, overly traditional culture I sensed during my interview. I talked about it in another OT comment.

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    9. It’s okay to reject an offer without others lined up.
    This comes with two caveats: that you’re financially able to take more time to secure a job that fits better, and that you’ve assessed the offer and you’re sure it’s a poor fit.

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      My Experience
      After close to 4 months of unsuccessful applications, I received an offer (mentioned in no. 8 above). Both my logic and intuition told me to reject it, but I was becoming weary of the job search, and feared I wouldn’t get another offer.

      A friend told me to rank these in order of importance: job content (interest, engages your strengths), opportunity for growth and development, relevance to career path, good working culture and co-workers, and pay + benefits. Then she told me to list out the pros and cons of the offer. When I was done, the answer was clear.

      I also reasoned that it was better for me to hold out for a few more months to secure a job that fit better, rather than to rough it out for one year in an unsuitable job before quitting. Researchers have also found that you might be more stressed in a bad job than if you remain unemployed.

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    10. Breaks are really important!
    Thanks @TurtuallySarcastic for reminding me of this one! Sometimes, you just need a few weeks off to rest. Even while you’re actively searching, do a mix of other types of work (e.g. volunteering, part-time jobs) and relaxing activities.

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      My Experience
      I tried to make use of the flexible schedule that came with unemployment. I exercised routinely, met friends for meals, caught up on a bunch of admin for Seoulbeats, and buddy-watched shows with my mum.

      I also took up a part-time job with a florist. It provided a bit of income, but more importantly, it made me feel like I was doing something worthwhile. It was a much-needed change from the futile mood of my job search at the time.

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        These are honestly really great. Thanks! *bookmarked* for the unemployment + job hunt that is likely to begin in a year from now (for me).
        And congratulations on the job! ๐Ÿ™‚

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          Thank you! ^^ Have a good study break and since you’re looking ahead, I’m sure you’ll be fairly prepared when the time comes!

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        These are great pieces of advice ~ thanks for sharing! I will likely be using them in the next year ^_^

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      *blushes* erm you’re welcome? :p Congratulations! I am so happy you got to deliver good news in the end! ๐Ÿ˜‰

      Some weeks you just have no job interviews, exams or interesting applications to busy yourself with, or need to wait for feedback (which is not a guarantee). It is usually during those weeks that the bad thoughts emerge (again). I used to view it as a punishment for being unemployed, but I know better now.

      If students need to take study breaks, why should job hunters be any different? I personally preferred lazily browsing the internet and watching K-dramas during those weeks, and ironically it was during my last break week in March that I got both my current job offered and got selected for other job interview rounds. Things can change quickly, or you can at least change the way you view things, if you step back once in a while.

      During breaks you can also create good habits and improve soft skills. I started with a mini work-out and drinking some water one day, now three years later I cannot go a day without that mini work-out or watter bottle. It is not enough by health standards, but it is quite impressive in my case. Another one would be my awkwardness around babies. I used to be scared to hold my baby goddaughter back then, but after playing with her and helping to care for her for 3 years, not only am I her favorite playmate now, I also have no issues stealing her baby brother from his mother’s arms :p

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        Ahaha, you became a baby whisperer through your job search breaks. That’s an unexpected twist XD

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    Congrats on getting the job! 🎉🎉🎉

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    Congratulations! ๐Ÿ™‚ And wow, this is a very detailed and helpful post-mortem. (Now go reward yourself with dramas hehe)

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      Thank you for working so hard on recapping The Bug in Your Site and making it possible for me to share posts like this! ^^

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    Congratulations!!!!
    Thank you for sharing these tips, they are very useful!

    You ve reminded me to start updating my linked in! If you update as you go, it will be easier keeping track of your achievements ๐Ÿ™‚

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      Thank you! Yes, I was lucky to have been updating mine diligently because I realised I would’ve never remembered the stuff I did otherwise.

      It was also fun surf LinkedIn to see the strange things other people put in their self-introductions XD

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    Congrats!!! (And this is an awesome guide!)

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    a big heaty congratulations girl… and am sooo happy that you found the work you love doing….
    learn as much as you can but don’t forget to enjoy… have fun….

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    Thank you and congrats, PurpleTeapot!!

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The reason why Momo and Fupei don’t work together isn’t just because Fupei is too hesitant, non-committal, and avoidant. It’s because Momo often also shies away from expressing what she wants or her feelings when she’s hurt, as her mother observed.

Shanshan, in contrast, is quite like Weiyi in that she’s decisive and takes action. All the signs that Fupei is still hung up on Momo sting her, and it has to be scary. But she still has the courage to be honest, whether it’s voicing what she wants or saying what Fupei needs to hear. That she doesn’t let her feelings control her actions is a sign of great maturity.

As with Weiyi, the way Shanshan carries herself is consistent with other facts we know about her, so props to the writer. I can see how her good grades aren’t by chance, but because she sees what she needs or wants, and isn’t afraid to work hard and smart to get there. #PutYourHeadOnMyShoulder

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First up: Weiyi. He’s such a sciencey oddball, he reminds me of my twin brother. I love the spin the show gave on the geeeenius tsundere type with him. He’s actually just a little awkward, but quite kind, and not just to the girl he likes (a trait that some dramas romanticise, especially with tsundere characters, but which I dislike, because it ties kindness to romantic motivation).

More than that, the way he behaves coheres so logically with his nerdy personality. The same observant nature that makes him such a great physics student and potential researcher is also what makes him pick up on non-verbal cues from Momo. And even though his kindness, and curiosity-turning-into-love is what makes him go an extra step to meet her needs, the way he approaches it is quite logical. He sees a problem, sees the solution, then he goes and carries it out. #PutYourHeadOnMyShoulder

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I started Put Your Head on My Shoulder yesterday, and suddenly found myself with no new episodes to watch today 😬 Attached is a visual representation of my horror at this realisation.

It’s very ordinary and slice of life, but the characters are so lovely, funny, and worth rooting for that each episode just breezes past. It’s time for me to pause and collect/ share some of my thoughts on why it’s so great.

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    welcome to the club Teapot! @kimbapnoona is hosting a rabb/it watch tonight for episode 11/12. Check her wall for details.

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      Thanks for the heads up! She tagged me! I think I can pop by for a while, see you guys in the chat ^^

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    Wow! You are now ahead of me!

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    Your predicament is exactly what Iโ€™m afraid of 😰😅😅 That is why I am stalling, by watching 56-episoder โ€œThe Legendsโ€, until more episodes of โ€œ….Shoulderโ€ comes out and then I think Iโ€™m going to binge it… Currently, Maplestage has 16 out of 24 episodes out (the website only does RAW, but Iโ€™m Chinese, so I can understand it 😁😁)

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      Uh oh. I don’t know if it’s a good thing that I now have this info, because I’m Chinese too (Singaporean) and no English subs are not going to stop me from binge watching 🙊

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        Haha yes, Maplestage is a glorious site for Cdramas, especially if you understand the language and donโ€™t need subs 😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁😁
        Youโ€™re welcome 😏😏😉😉

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Momo is a living meme! (Yes, I have jumped on board the Put Your Head on My Shoulder bandwagon 😍😍😍)

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One last post for the cutest head boop (ยฐฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅใ……ยฐฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅฬฅ ) Canโ€™t imagine what this show wouldโ€™ve been without Son Ho-jun and Jang Na-ra!

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    Aigoooo they were so adorable together!

    Have you seen Jang Nara’s award acceptance speech? She was so cute thanking Ho-Jun for making her look like a married woman and JKY for making her look like she is 20! –
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vQck-lD04Lo

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      It’s cute! And it’s doubly cute that both her co-stars burst out laughing at her comments. Though I felt a little sad when she said she hasn’t improved much in acting–it didn’t feel like she said it just to sound humble. I hope she realises how amazing she was/is and gained a bit more confidence.

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        Same! She really has improved a lot. Or actually I won’t even say improve because the show that made me a Seo In Guk fan also made me a Jang Nara fan and that was 4 years ago! She was good then and she is good now! She was actually good in School 2013 as well!

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          Ah yes, I Remember You is on my to-watch (very eventually) list! Now that GBC has made me a Jang Nara fan, I’m definitely bumping that show up the list ^^

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Is it possible for one\’s heart to feel full and empty at the same time? Despite its fantastical time-slip setup, Go Back Couple was unrelentingly realistic in its depictions of the resentment that builds up in a marriage because of external pressures from life.

Despite not being very old (late twenties) and having never been married, I\’ve seen a number of cases around me that remind me of Ban-do and Jin-joo\’s relationship, and because of that, I have more fear than faith in marriage. But the show has tempered my fear a little, by presenting empathy and honest communication as important tools to navigate the difficult journey of a lifelong relationship.

There\’s a Korean term, \”์ธ์ƒ๋“œ๋ผ๋งˆ\”โ€”literally \”life drama\”, meaning the best drama picks in your life. I think of the term slightly differently; Go Back Couple is, in every sense of the term, a life dramaโ€”it reflects life itself, and it\’s a drama that will follow and guide me through different phases of life.

Thanks for the ride, show; I\’ll think of you often, with the fondest of hearts and the deepest appreciation โ™ก

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    …I just deleted a post, and then the one after, then reuploaded both because I spotted a typo in the first one. Yes, the editor in me cannot let that one typo go OTL

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    Your feelings about the show match my own and make me miss it so much!

    Go Back Couple will always be a show close to my heart… Really gave me a lot to think about! Tbh I am still wary of marriage but it was good to know that problems can be resolved and it’s not all that bad..

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      If I do come close to being married, I’m sure I will make my boyfriend sit down and watch this with me again so that we can discuss it.

      I’m also sure I’ll see the story in a new light if I become a mother. Although the drama championed parenthood and the idea of sacrificing for one’s child, I loved that it had Jin-joo admit to Nam-gil how difficult it was, because it usurped her identity as a person.

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        That sounds like something I might do as well tbh!

        Ah that’s possible… Having a child changes us a lot and it’s not all hunky-dory as it’s show to be in general…

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    Your definition of ์ธ์ƒ๋“œ๋ผ๋งˆ is the same for me and I agree that this drama falls in that category in my opinion. I loved it to bits and enjoyed following your posts as you watched it.

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      Yay, thanks for following my posts! It’ll be fun to look back on my thoughts when I rewatch it again.

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    i thoguht moral of the story is that you get rich and life is better..

    didn’t he return rich?

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      His father became rich not him.

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      Yup, Midnight is right. His dad became rich but he didn’t–when Ban-do asked why he’s still the same, his dad said “It’s my money not yours”. The main thing that changed for Ban-do and Jin-joo was their understanding of each other, compared to more tangible changes for other characters.

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