Hotel Del Luna episodes 11 and 12 – just caught up and I am emotionally exhausted and drained – but full of thoughts.

When I finished episode 12 all I could think was that what the writers are trying to say (maybe from experience?) how hard it is to let go and say goodbye.

These two shows seemed to be all about grief and how we need to learn to grieve, but more importantly to let ourselves grieve our loss, whatever it is. Learning to grieve is hard work, but necessary.

Watching Sanchez see Veronica for the last time made me so wish I could see my parents again – but then I remembered all the times they have shown themselves to me in one way or another and that they are together and okay. That has comforted me so much…

When we know someone is going to leave us, the hardest part and hardest task is to let them go – that is, if we are lucky enough to have a chance to say goodbye.

Powerful, powerful episodes for me and brought up all sorts of feelings. Today I watched an interview between Anderson Cooper and Stephen Colbert on YouTube. They talked about the loss of their parents and siblings and how it affected their lives from the age of 10 and even now.
Believe me I wept through it all. Very worthwhile watching. Ultimately Stephen Colbert said that he has learned to be grateful for all the things that have happened in his life – no matter how painful.

Which is how we ended episode 12 – he will be grateful to have any time with her – if only to help her pass without fear. What a gift…

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    So nicely said @stpauligurl – to me too, the show ultimately seems to be about grieving and moving on. Something Man-wol should have done all those years ago but didn’t.

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      thanks @greenfields – it was so powerful!
      Especially after watching (or listening as I was working on something else while it was on) Stephen Colbert and Anderson Cooper.

      They were just powerful shows. It makes me wonder if the Hong sisters are maybe working something out while writing this show.

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    That Anderson Cooper interview with Steven Colbert is amaaaazing. I feel like I need to watch it daily for inspiration.

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      I know! When Anderson said that he wished he could have a tattoo or something that showed people he was wounded and still grieving – that was everything.
      But Stephen’s simple declaration of his faith and acceptance of his life was incredible – even for and ex-catholic and non-christian that I am.
      yes I’ll definitely watch this again.

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        Anderson’s tattoo comment reminded me of when, after family deaths of my own, I wanted to wear a tshirt that said “be nice to me, my (Mother, Father) just died”. I like that in Korea you wear something (arm band for men, hair bow for women) that lets people know you’re in mourning.
        What you say about Steven’s comments is exactly what I’ve been feeling, too. I don’t know that I could have put it into words.
        I wish we could get more people to see it!
        ❤️

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    I’ve never felt that kind of grief before, the grief of losing a loved one. Either I’d be the one to go first or I’d definitely feel that one day. But I felt something close when I heard a shooting happened at a town near me a few months ago. People from my own faith shot dead. It was truly painful. I can’t imagine how I’d feel if I lose someone dear to me. Not that this is in any way a prayer!

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      @bdxpelik – we grieve in many different ways for many different things. We grieve the loss of a job, or moving to a new place…. The task is to learn and let ourselves grieve and feel sad and know it is okay.

      I can only imagine what it felt like hearing people of your faith were shot and killed because they were like you. Oh dear – every time I read about a new shooting like that my heart just hurts.

      And you are/were grieving in your own way. Sorry but “thoughts and prayers” just doesn’t do it for me any more – I want to reach out and hug you and say I’m so very sorry and wish that somehow we could find a way to stop these senseless acts.

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    Couldn’t agree more

    I love how they showed us about losing your loved one through sudden death (like sanchez & veronica) and about waiting to lose your loved one through death (idk how to phrase it 🙈, like MW-CS, or in general like when your loved one is terminally ill patient ☹️)

    You know that time will come, you know you have to prepare to say goodbye.. but even when you know it, it’s still hard..
    (Imo CS portrayed that emotion really well)

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      What you are referring to is called “anticipatory grief” – essentially grieving and letting go before a person dies.
      My brother said that he was grieving long before my dad died which helped when he was gone. That was the first time I heard that term.
      It is never easy to say goodbye. I’ve known of people who hated their parent for how they were treated as a child, but ended up taking care of them when they were ill, and still grieved when they passed.

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        Aah so that’s the term… thank you for letting me know it ☺️☺️

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    Agree. Proper grieving is the way to heal. I like how this show is trying to tell us holding on is only hurting ourselves.

    After the second week of this show, I dreamed of my late uncle, who lived with me throughout my childhood. I actually like dreaming of him even when I can’t remember the dreams. I just remember he always looks happy in my dreams. So episode 11 and the phone calls really got to me the right way.

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      This show has been interesting in that I didn’t realize any of this had to do with grieving even though all the stories were about people dying. But this week was so much about the people left behind – and it was powerful. That scene with Veronica made me want a chance to be with my mom just one more time….
      And then the little boy choosing to leave so his parents would stop hurting…

      I was sobbing through so much of this episode, but at the same time very impressed with how they are doing this.
      Well then, your uncle was probably telling you he is fine. What a good thing!

      Funny thing is that I’ve not once dreamed of my mom since she passed. Instead the night she died I looked up and saw a star and knew she was there with my dad and they were whole and dancing together. I’ve felt their presence in the house. Sometimes I look up and think “I’m not alone here” but it’s not scary, just comforting.

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