Beanie level: Eunuch in drag

So I’ve been silently reading the recaps on Chocolate here at DB (Thank you for the recaps! <3 ). And today's the first time that I've watched the latest episode on Netflix (because I finally allowed myself some free time yeyy!).

After 10 episodes, finally, I can see some movement in the ship. And is it just me or does the family drama bore me to death? I think the writer is focusing too much on the family issues and not really on the food or the loveline.

Looking forward to the next episode!!

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    I skip alot of the family scenes myself.

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    I FF family scenes because I don’t need them to take away the joy I’m having watching LK n CY scenes! Even devil spits on that grandma’s face!

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      Me too!! And have you seen the teaser for Ep 12? I am so excited for that episode!!

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        Same! I’m asking Siri “What’s the time in Seoul?” too often to know if it is THE time to air or not:))

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Dear 2019,

Oh gosh. What an incredible and unpredictable year you were.

Moving to another country to start postgraduate studies was not an easy feat. Perhaps the only advantages are that I’ll be staying with some family members and that what I will study is something that I loved. And hopefully (no jinx please!), it will continue to do so for the next year.

I am incredibly grateful for you, 2019, for all the opportunities and challenges you’ve given me. From looking for jobs while struggling to adjust in a new environment, to enjoying my classes, to meeting new friends-turned-family, and to participating in a volunteering experience (which I thoroughly enjoyed!). From letting me enjoy a memorable trip to a different country to seeing the said country in a new light. From establishing new friendships in DB to cherishing these connections through chats outside of DB. More importantly, thank you for letting me believe in the goodness of humanity again. Thank you for letting me freely express kindness to strangers, without me being afraid that they might take advantage of me. Thank you for teaching me the value of a smile and a greeting – these things I did not usually practice in my old town.

Thank you for having several groups of friends – whether it be at school, or at work, or even in this lovely online community. When things go badly at home or in life, these groups became my refuge. Thank you for providing me that safe shelter.

Thank you for letting me face my own demons – whether it be depression or anxiety, or being burned out- and for giving me the courage to ask for help.

Thank you for letting me move on from my old flame. The note of my love story that I kept for 6 years, I finally had the courage to rip it to pieces and throw it away. Thank you for letting me meet different kinds of people as it helps me figure out what I want for my future romantic relationships.

Thank you for the incredible support of my family, for my loving niece and nephew. Thank you for their love and patience despite all the craziness that I bring to the family.

Thank you for this amazing wonderful site of Dramabeans. I haven’t watched any dramas this year because of graduate school and working. But this site allowed me to enjoy K-dramas by reading the recaps instead of consuming hours watching it.

Lastly, thank you for letting me believe in myself again. For years, I have doubted myself thousands of times. But this year, I am slowly getting some confidence back. Thank you for giving me the freedom to be me, to make my own decisions, to trust in my capabilities, and to believe that I will endure and I will rise again. Thank you so much.

I am looking forward to more happiness, more kindness, more love, more friendships, and more adventures this coming year.

With a heart full of love and gratitude,Hya

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    <3 This has been a busy year for you, but I'm glad it seems to have gone well, and I'm so happy to hear you've grown your confidence! I hope your 2020 will be even better, Hya!

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      Thanks Mindy! And thank you so much for your friendship dear! <3 Wishing you a very happy and prosperous New Year! <3

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    I’m touched and inspired by you Hya. Congratulations on weathering another year with its ups and downs and facing many new things and people. Yes, people are all kinds of things, and they can be wonderful, warm and caring too. May you meet many more lovely persons and experience good things in the year and years ahead. 😄

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    Wishing you a very fulfilling 2020, all the best!

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It’s been awhile since I’ve been active on DB (just passively reading through recaps while on the bus to and from work). Out of the blue, I’ve wondered through the beanies’ walls, and I saw (read) a new drama that I didn’t know was airing! And despite a (real-life) drama-filled Christmas Eve, I would like to thank @azzo1 for giving me the laugh that I needed today! Really looking forward to the new episodes!!

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I am alive beanies!! Merry Christmas to everyone! 🥳🥳

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One thing that always fascinates me about Korean drama is the life lessons. (yes I’m too serious for my own good lol).

The past week was crazier than usual, mostly because of people. I have been providing mental and emotional support to my friends since they’ve been having emotional rollercoasters, in addition to the crazy deadlines at grad school. It was funny because one of them was so thankful that she asked me how I have the emotional capacity to support her and some other friends with their toxic issues.

Then I remembered something about Because This Life is My First. According to the DB recap (because I’m too lazy to watch the episode and get screenshots lol), “Mom explains that everyone experiences moments that sparkle, and when that happens, it’s important to capture them and save them in your star pocket to help you through the tough times” (http://www.dramabeans.com/2017/11/because-this-life-is-our-first-episode-16-final/). It seemed to me that this week, I’ve been using some energy from my star pocket. Those moments that sparkled were mostly with friends. And I try to give my struggling friends the same sparkly moments that I’ve received from other people. While it gets tiring sometimes, I always make sure that my star pocket is refilled one way or another. It’s the least I could do for the Universe after all.

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I do not have the time to watch (or rewatch) any new (or old) dramas lately, but one thing’s for sure: Ji An from My Ajusshi will always be my idol when it comes to grit and resilience. I loved how she continues to face another day despite all the misfortunes in her life. Makes me inspired to continue persevering and fighting to survive!

Some memorable quotes from the drama (which I listed and kept in my wallet. for some reason, I only read it again now). Might be useful to some of you beanies fighting the tough battles that we may (or may not) talk about.

“If you don’t consider it to be important, then other people won’t either. And if you consider it to be serious, then others will think of that way too. That’s how everything works. You’re the one who decides that.”- Park Dong-Hoon

“What happened in the past is no big deal. If you consider it to be not a big deal, then it’s not a big deal.”- Park Dong-Hoon

“Live a happy life. That’s how you repay the people in your life.”- Grandma

“Live happily and comfortably.”- Gyeom-duk

“May you hang in there until you find comfort for yourselves.”- cast and crew of My Mister; this was featured in the last episode.

Hugs for all you amazing beanies!!!

Have a great day or night wherever you are! *finger hearts*

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    Just took a screenshot from the quotes above. My Ahjussi is a gem and my all time fav.

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Been incredibly exhausted physically, emotionally and mentally the past 2-3 weeks that I haven’t been reading the recaps AT ALL here at DB. (Cause i thought since i have time to read a lot for graduate school, I should find the time to read the recaps right? WRONG).

Anyway, decided to check out DB fanwall for the first time in ages, and saw AKMU at @Ally-le‘s fanwall. I LOVE THEM. Their music is danceable and upbeat, and just enough to cheer me up. thank you Ally!

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    You’re welcome!!! AKMU is love. Their voices give me life!!! I like her really slow songs!

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Hi beanies! Be Melodramatic won’t be recapped in DB, right? If yes, may I ask if you know any sites that recap the drama?

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I am so excited for Hotel del Luna! (I am intrigued about IU’s past, to be honest) And I am loving IU’s outfits!! I hope it will be recapped in DB!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kJ3CaQL2TcA

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Hey beanies!

Sorry, this is a non-drama-related question.

Context: I sent a very long message to my classmate whom I liked at uni. I thanked him for all his help and advice. I may have implicitly told him that I liked him. He replied to my message telling me that it was alright and I just need to be strong in life, etc. So basically, the tone of his reply was very “we’re just friends, nothing more”. So in short, I got rejected. Which is really fine by me. I didn’t want to be in a relationship with him. I just liked him because he was very cute.

Now, it seemed that we’re avoiding each other like plague. We didn’t even greet each other in class today. I’ve thought about giving him space, but I dont know if this is right. Cause honestly, I was waiting for him to talk to me. I mean, I was the one who got rejected 😅 Do you guys know what I should do about this? Would greatly appreciate your comments! 😁

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    I don’t understand why you let him know you like him when you didn’t want to be in a relationship with him?😅😅 Sorry this is not helpful at all 😅😅

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      I was thanking him for his advice! 😅 but when I showed my guy bestfriend the message after I sent it, he said it was written implicitly that i liked him.😅

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    Just act normal. Are you sure you were rejected? Or are you assuming? If you don’t like him or don’t want to be in a relationship with him, I suppose rejection would not affect you as much….so I suggest act normal, talk to him normally. If he still avoids you, his loss then, you have tried.

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    I don’t know if this would be helpful information but I usually ignore/ feel awkward around the guys who tell me they like me not because I want to stop being friends with them but because I don’t want to bring up their hopes that I like them and make them misunderstand my actions. Just give it a few days and if you guys are still awkward, confront him and tell him that you’d still like to be friends and tell him you aren’t really looking for a relationship. ^^

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    Oooooo I feel this on so many levels. Like so many people said – act normally!! The thing is everything you’ve said so far seems like an assumption made on your part. Everything was done implicitly, so it’s very likely he didn’t think it was a confession or he didn’t reject you at all. Plus you said he tried to talk to you and you looked down. Often times when we have feelings we are sure are not going to be returned, we become extra cautious. We’re scared everything we say may sound like a confession but that’s not always true!!!

    Honestly even if your long paragraph did sound like a lowkey confession, it wasn’t a proper one. And his wasn’t a proper rejection. So you guys don’t have any actual grounds to act awks around each other because nothing *technically* happened.

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    [UPDATE]

    We’re friends now! Not awkward anymore 😂 I acted normally, greeted him and even gave him chocolate (cause the poor guy looked hungry 😂)

    Thank you everyone for providing your insights! You are all lovely people 😘❤

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https://www.soompi.com/article/1321446wpp/winners-of-the-55th-baeksang-arts-awards

Congratulations to all the winners! ❤ Incredibly happy that My Ajusshi won as the Drama of the Year! ❤ There are a lot of good dramas this past year (havent watched Sky Castle and Radiant though! 😪) so it must have been difficult to select the winners!

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https://www.soompi.com/article/1320521wpp/watch-seo-in-guk-and-jung-so-min-tease-their-special-cameos-in-preview-for-abyss

At least in their (what I think is) reincarnated life, they’re still together…

Really hoping for SIG and JSM to have another drama together! 😭 will never be satisfied with a cameo!

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https://www.soompi.com/article/1317633wpp/16-memorable-life-lessons-that-k-dramas-have-taught-us

While these are nice realizations, I’m surprised that Misaeng, My Ajusshi, Just Between Lovers, Because This is My First Life, among many others, are not in the list… I’ve definitely compiled a lot of quotable quotes from these dramas. Or maybe is it because the ones in the article are rom-coms and the ones I listed are melos? 🤔

Hey beanies! Any other life lessons from dramas that you’d like to share? 😊

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    Soompi (now after being partnered by Viki) and DramaFever used to have (for DF) and still have lists and quizzes that propel viewers to watch those dramas. Since, they have audiences that prefer rom-coms and at times new i-fans prefer rom coms too-these lists are only to lure them to watch these dramas. Misaeng, MA, JBL have few of the best quotes in dramas. Plus I have always found them to be slice of life rather than melo even if they are titled as melo. Melo I guess is something like Marriage Contract.

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    That article made me roll my eyes lol. Almost none of them were very… profound dramas.

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    Go Back Spouses, definitely! The importance of cherishing those around you even when life makes it hard to appreciate them because you’re so weighed down my your own struggles. And that honest, open communication goes a long way to maintaining relationships.

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      In particular, I think of what Jin-joo’s mum said in ep11 of Nam-gil: “He’s too focused on his real mother to see the person by his side who’s really taking care of him.” Likewise, Jin-joo was so fixated on losing her mum that she didn’t realise and treasure Ban-do who was supporting her in his own way through all of it.

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      Awww I miss Go Back Spouses!! Thank you for reminding me of it! ❤

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Dear Youtube,

Thank you for providing me with videos and snippets (around 3-5 minutes) of my favorite Korean drama scenes. Even if it doesn’t have subs, I remember the scenes perfectly and the emotions conveyed by the actors.

Love,

A very busy graduate student

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This is why I take my bus to and from the university… I’m hoping there’s someone I could share those 1 hour+ rides with… https://www.soompi.com/article/1318297wpp/8-k-dramas-that-prove-taking-the-bus-is-the-most-romantic-way-to-travel

lol just kidding. I have no choice but to take the bus -_- But I’m not kidding in wishing some cute guy would accompany me during my travels.

Maybe because it’s one of the last dramas that I watched before I switched to graduate student mode (aka no drama watching huhu), but I loved the bus rides in Just Between Lovers. I don’t remember if they ever talked during the rides, but both Moon Soo and Gang Doo were contented being with each other’s company. I want to experience the silence (and it’s not the we’re-not-talking-because-we’re-fighting kind of thing) and just living in the present moment.

I wish I could have time to watch JBL again 🙁 My deliverables at school just don’t seem to stop -_-

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    Oh and I love Moon Soo and Gang Doo’s scenes at the bus stops! I don’t think they’ve vocally admitted their feelings to each other yet but I loved that there was a mutual understanding that they like each other. There was no need for words. I loved it

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Hi beanies! Would you know when IU’s Persona will be shown in Netflix?

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    It was postponed to another date due to forest fire in South Korea. Not sure when they will release it. But it should be this month.

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I was studying my notes when I saw an “RH” written. I immediately wondered what Royal Hotness (referring to Shin Seung Rok in TLE) is doing here in my notebook. 

Then I realized I was referring to the relative humidity (RH)! 😂 (The context is I’m reading my notes for Meteorology class 😅)

Is this a sign from the unuverse that I should go back to drama watching… huhuhu

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