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Open Thread #482

Happy Friday everyone!

Here is your Open Thread, which is here for you to chat about anything you want, whether it be drama-related or not. Nothing’s off-topic here! Spoilers may be rife, so proceed accordingly.

 
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Liar and His Lover. Sigh?

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Ikr? I'm so happy that Lee Hyun-woo finally back to dramaland and the story also sounds good, until I read who's going to be the leading lady. I don't know what game SM Ent play with all this shoving non-ezxperienced idols into leading roles. First Kai with Jung Da-bin. Now Joy with Lee Hyun-woo. Sigh...

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Even the experienced idol also hardly show many improvement after one project and another, what more can we expect from the inexperienced ones?

IU probably will do great in this role, and she is not only young and cute, she ia also a good singer, she definitely can pass as high school student. If Park Hye Soo didnt do Introverted Boss, maybe i will love to see her in this drama and take up the leading role.

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honestly I cant seem to gather much enthusiasm for him since I did watch Moorim School and didn't quite think his performance was anything out of the ordinary, and I do remember his role in to the beautiful you and again it was nothing to blow me away, especially not to the extent of lamenting about an idol being his co star. I feel he's actually on par with them, and much prefer even idol actor Dojoon, or Im Siwan, or Choi Siwon.

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It'll probably still make me happier than Moorim School.

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Oh Moorim School. I have been watching this drama for the past 3 weeks and still can't finish it. I think I'm on the third to last episode too. I don't dislike Lee Hyun Woo, but I have a feeling I could have liked him a whole lot more if I had seen him in something else, kinda sucks that Moorim was my introduction to him. I hope this drama goes well though. As for Joy, idols have to start somewhere, right?

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There hasn't been any exciting casting news in 2017 yet *le sigh*

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Really? I love the casting for Tvn and JTBC's upcoming shows, Introvert Boss, Tomorrow with you, Strong Woman Do Bong Soon and Man to Man.

Also Missing 9 has promising leads, imo. There's also Chae Soo-bin and Yoon Kyung-sang. And Yoo Sueng-ho and Kim Soo-hyun. I'm pretty excited for some of these.

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I'm so excited to see Hyun woo!! but not with an idol in her first acting gig... i feel conflicted, will my bias for him overcome my bias against idol actor?

Sigh indeed...

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Hey everyone!

OT loads around 5 or 6 am my time so I usually wake up between then and 7 to post. But today I just stayed up. I had some binging to do. And my sleep is totally off right now.

Anyway, it's Friday. And we're two weeks into the year.

Between my S.A.D., bipolar ii with suicidal depression, stress of leaving home, and my mom's death anniversary coming up - I've been seriously down and out. But I think it's finally turning around. Don't have to feel this way for 5-7 months!

I've started packing and looking into jobs. I don't have to work right away when I move but I'd like to know my options. Mainly glad my psychiatrist can do phone sessions. Hate meeting new medical professionals and I'm going to have so many others to replace, it's nice to have that one stay the same.

How has January been treating you all?

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Media this week

Korean:
ML - next ep 18
I'm so torn on Gwangjong's actions and life.
*I NEED to finished this week* just so I can move on to the director's cut, lol jk
Lobster - next ep 15
WF - done
I'm not crying. Why would I be crying?!
Suuuwwaaaeeeeggg!!!!
FantasiC - next ep 14
All the time & spoilers didn't help. I almost cried with Kim Tae-Hoon died! And then the fool wasn't even dead.
Now he is and I am sad.

Japanese:
Good Morning Call - next ep 8
I kinda hate Daichi. Second leads get too much sometimes and he is one of them.
Glass lip - next ep 3
*on pause* I haven't watched in forever so I'm going to stop lying to myself.
My Little Lover - next ep 7
I want to binge it!

Taiwanese:
Miss in Kiss - on ep 13
It's safe to say this is at least my third from the bottom series. It's above J-1996 & the Korean.

Western:
Fuller House - done
I'll miss it. I wonder when it is coming back.
Tarzan and Jane - watched ep 1
I doubt I'll finish the season but I want to meet Jane so episode 2 will happen at some point next week.

Reading:
How to Love - next ep 83
Almost done. I wonder what completed webtoon I'll find next.
Salty Studio - ep 26
I'm not as in love with it as I was.
The Webtoon Girl - ep 1
Talks about depression and suicidal feelings

Music:
Avril Lavigne
that trip down memory lane was fun. But I'll forget about it and check in again in a few years. I'm more of a early 2000 fan than now.
Boys Like Girls
idk where they have been but I need a 2018 album.
Greyson Chance
I have such a major crush on his voice and lyrics. I need him to become more active in the next few years.
Miranda Cosgrove
idk if she's ever coming back to music but I would welcome her. Maybe after she finishes college.
Three Days Grace
just one album in. They are so content being depressed and I love it.

I'm surprised that I listened to 2 female artists in one week! *not really because...

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I don't even want to think about taking Bok Joo off my list!

I just read the recap and started in on the comments.

Why do the good ones fly by so quickly?!

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Big Hug to you Purple Owl! Hope it helps even a little bit to know there are people who are cheering you on here. My deepest condolences about your mom, I hope you will stay strong on that day though I cannot imagine how tough it is for you.

I am glad some of your doctors can follow you even though you are moving and hope you find good ones for those you need to change.

Good luck with the job hunting and take care!

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on no this makes me sad. Hope things go well for you. Fighting!!

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WF is my happy pill and I wish the same for you too Purple Owl! *Hugs*

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You know, Purple Owl, everytime I feel pain I told myself that it's a proof that I'm alive and can feel, that I should be gratefull for that. Since I can't feel anything if I'm dead. And what a life is it if I can't feel anything, can't feel pain nor happy.

Rainbow only come after rain, right? And that's even make it more beautiful as the water drop left by rain make everything look sparkling.

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Sending truckloads of good vibes your way, Purple Owl! All of us beanies are cheering you on. ^^

My nostalgia this week got triggered by Ann Louise's "Stay" and Shawn Colvin's "Sunny". I was transported back to senior high school with all my pimples and insecurities. Lol.

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"Sunny Came Home" was what I meant. lol

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Hugs Owl

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I'm pretty bad at encouraging people or console them. Most of the time i end up annoying them so i restricyt myself from interfering in others emotional stress.

For you our fellow Commentator - Why not try freelance - You have a degree and you might end up a sa huge success of FIVERR. Try it or maybe you are already a member of it.

FantastiC - Doctor really brings tears into your eyes but his farewell was good. With all the video telecast an gifts and message to all the present people.

Whenever you mentioned Salty Studio i thought you were talking about the webtoon. Its cute one. I enjoyed it. I wanted that teacher to have a bit of more screentime. Its worth timepass

Have you already tried Gausian Blur and Transfer Student Storm Bringer?

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Purple Owl, I felt so sad when I read your comment... My case is the opposite, I can't stand being at home, I become depressed, put on kg and kg (17 kg in 6 months, this last time), my thyroids goes crazy...
So this year I've decided to get out (I am currently in Vienna now!) and surround myself by optimistic people who suppost me and encourage me.

I'm not comparing myself to you, losing a parent must be incredibly hard and having psycological issues on top on that..., but we can only go forward, and I wish you find people in your new city who help you get better and be happy. Be strong, things will get better for sure!

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PUBERTY MEDLEY - Adolescence Medley - Medley of Youth - I think this is the best

romance Kdrama i have seen. The story moved my heart, I felt the heartache, i felt uneasy, I felt troubled. Any drama that can shake me is added into my all time favourite list and interesting most of top list contains Coming-of-Age dramas.

Given 9 our of 10. All green. Beautiful Cinematography.

My sister is ill and bed ridden so i offered her Puberty Medley - Another of my attempt to get her into Asian dramas. And she took my suggestion this time and Yes yes yes for the 1st time

In her life she watched any of asian tv media. As soon as she watched Puberty Medley 1st episode she asked me where to get the other episodes. i told her they are al available on KBS World's official Youtube channel like the 1st one she watched.

In 2 days my sister watched all the 4 episodes and really liked the show. Though, She was Like many others, a bit disappointed with the result of the drama.

Even My heart was saying much more was needed. My brain kept saying it was good and appropriate Outcome of the show.

From that to today i haven't watched any other show at all. I am feeling not much interested in any drama right now. This isn't the usual withdrawal symptom most people face.

That's why i keep on thinking how these Tv Dramas Characters keep the distance for a long while an still be in love. Physical distance brings Emotional distance. Slowly-Slowly love evaporates.

As soon a show ends we the fans start to miss the show and its characters and want to know more about their future and here in dramaworld we have main characters who separate away for years and yet show not many signs of upper level desperation and longing.

Here our lifestyle goes offtrack and all things get messed up over some fictional characters and a fictional story and there characters deal with situations like they have heart of steel.

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today is my best friends´ birthday. she is not returning my calls :-( but lets not feel down. we´re on this planet at this moment we are all just tiny dots of materia, and that sadness inside is an even tinier dot. a dot so tiny can just be hidden inside grains of sand

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Hi Purple Owl!
I hope you enjoyed whatever you binged on! Right now I'm sitting in the middle of the US with a three-day ice storm just starting (can't go anywhere!) and am planning a binge of my own, what a luxury. Of course, I should be binge-cleaning closets but ...
I feel the strength in your post even though on the surface it may look scary. I think, "you got this!" You know what you're up against, you have Team Purple Owl (medical professionals)(and also us Beanies), your meds, and a plan. Your load is so heavy right now with time of year plus move plus new everything plus your Mom's death anniversary, that's enormous. And you are going to do it. Reading your posts over the months (years?), I'm so proud of how open you are about what you deal with and the effective ways you work through it, one challenge at a time. You are well-armed against the demons at an early age, well done. ⚔️ Salute!

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Purple Owl: Hey Love,

Hang in there. It is the pain and sadness in our lives that make us appreciate the good and the light times more. Sometimes you just have to wait a little longer for the light.

Hang in there, your light will come.

If I could hang out and watch KDramas with you, I would.

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Hi Purple Owl,
Today is my birthday but I lost my younger brother a few months back and I can't get into celebratory mode even though I've been receiving many greetings. I won't pretend I know your pain because evey pain is different, but I wish that we may find the strength to continue because we owe it to the ones we lost to live life to the fullest, at least that's how I've been doing to get by, even though I'm struggling and I feel like I'm going down on depression road, I always tell myself "Not today, let's wake up again tomorrow".

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Hey Purple Owl! (aka master of pub trivia <-- you totally carried our team and at least 35 of our 47 points belong to you) You inspire me to keep loving Kdrama and watch even more. Just started watching Tomorrow With You side by side with Signal and let me just say o.m.g. I'm packing to move too, but I keep screwing up because I put on a kdrama then start packing. But I can't understand enough Korean with the subtitles so I end up just watching and not packing hahaha lol.

Good luck with move and holler if ya need a hand (with moving or squeeing, ya know, both equally valid :D)

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Happy Friday Beanies! How is everyone enjoying 2017? ?

Real life has been busy busy busy so I haven't been here much.

I'm watching Romantic Doctor Teacher Kim and Goblin and just finished Signal (zomagawd so good! But why the clearly-awaiting-for-continuation kind of ending?? Urgh now I have to join the hordes of people waiting for season 2 to be announced...) so that's where all my time outside of Real Life is going.

I realise my style of reading DB has changed a lot since I first started lurking more than 3 years ago. I used to lurk and read almost all of the recaps, and not watch any of the shows (I hardly had the time to watch thanks to training and exams and work).

But now it's completely different. I only read the recaps for the shows I am live watching. I avoid reading recaps for shows I may possibly watch in the future because I'm worried of spoiling myself if it turns out to be good. Because that has happened with I Remember You (I really want to watch but am having trouble watching beyond the first episode because I get bored because know the twists and ending!).

So my question is-
Do you read DB selectively like I do now? Or do you all read all the recaps even if you aren't watching?

And who else is worried that they will have no free time soon thanks to all the new dramas?? I want to watch Tomorrow with you, Strong Woman Do Bong Soon, The Voice and Chief Kim.

Too many dramas and no time turner make me a hectic sleep deprived girl.

(And yes I'll finish up those Korea trip recommendations soon! I promise!)

Have a good weekend everyone!

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I'm a selective reader.

I read a couple recaps after a few dramas. But when I started regularly reading DB, I would read between ad breaks. I'd try to read in the time of the break, DF - 3 thirty second ads & Viki 5 fifteen - thirty second ads.

So glad I don't do that anymore lol.

I'm worried about when my vacation ends. I want to watch everything from everywhere but I'll have to be strict again then. Maybe 10 drama limit. Just K. J, T, Thai, and Western wont go that high at once ?

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I read recaps of dramas that interest me. I used to read plenty of recaps, but found that time really didn't permit. Besides, if the drama wasn't great or didn't interest me, it would come across in the writing (no diss on the recapper's writing, just the vibe of the drama).

I'm looking forward to Voice, fingers crossed it'll be good. Dropped Goblin and only reading the recaps.

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Goblin has been hard for me to keep up with. I really need to get back on the horse.

I agree about lacking the time to read all recaps. Reading recaps and leaving a response(s) for one episode takes me at least twenty minutes sometimes. I can't do that for things I'm not watching or just because they are popular. And I hate spoilers.

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Gosh yes I hope The Voice is good.
I'm craving something intense after I finished Signal...

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You could also try missing 9 which will start airing form next Tuesday

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oh sorry, Wednesday

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I'm afraid of spoilers, i don't even watch episode previews(because of that i end up losing a lot o cute ending scenes, but i can't help it, as soon as "the image frozes" i'm out ), so i only read recaps of dramas I'm watching, after i've watched them.

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I hate watching spoilers as well. I think what bugs me aside from the given is when spoilers mislead the general viewing audience and certain things are less or more important than you were led to believe. Fan theory crafting can get really crazy from previews alone sometimes.

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Like I said to you before, I have more drama in my plate ? so far I count 7 new drama that i am interested to watch. Oh wait i forgot Saimdang! So total 8 ???

As for recap, now i am no longer read each recap. Even drama that I do watching but not addicted, i won't join the comment section, maybe just read recap.

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8! lol. RIP your sleep indeed!

I previously wasn't working and struggled with 5, now I am working.... Let's get eyebags together! haha.

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I read alllll the recaps because I watch most of them anyway and I Always learn something new which I miss while I watching the show. And yes -too many dramas and it is getting harder to keep up with all - I think I have to do something about it soon (because I can never give up on my 7-8 hr beauty sleep).

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Michykdrama -

Concerned about having no free tim due to having too many dramas to watch is definitely a valid concern! It's a problem that actually exists! Heh! .......To be honest, I'm pressed for time most of the time because I always have to run around here, there and everywhere. You almost have to wonder if it would be easier to schedule real-life things around the drama-watching viewing schedule rather than the other way around.

Regarding your question about recap reading,I always read recaps for what I'm presently watching.

Hope your 2017 is off to a good start!

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Ha! yes, i often wish I could schedule my life around dramas instead of the other way around!! XD

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*gasp* A little part my heart went out to you when you said you'd read all the I Remember You recaps.

I read all the recaps for the series I'm watching after I've watched the episode, from the comments up (ie I skim viewer comments, read the recappers, then go on and read the recap). I generally look at new casting news and the other posts now, even though I didn't before. And If I'm contemplating watching a show but am reaaaally unsure if I should, I'll read the first recap or two.

Then the only temptation is to not read ahead when I'm watching an old one--unless i need to make it past the angst-buckets quickly. ^^

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I'm selective reader too, only for drama that interest me. But when I have more time, I will reads older recaps (more like skimming through it as kdrama become more predictable).
For kdrama I always look for spoiler, it help me to reduce the time I need to watch too many drama so I can watch some spesific scene only.

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I read all recaps that have a story I'm interested in.

I like spoilers! It doesn't ruin my viewing experience like it does with other people. If I'm really into a drama, I read the live recaps on Soompi so I know what's coming before I watch later in the day.

If you're having trouble getting past ep 1 in I Remember You, start later, like ep 7 or 9. I do that sometimes when a drama has a slow start, and then I backtrack later if I feel like it.

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I cannot understand the concept of liking spoilers, but I like your idea of jumping into IRY in a later episode!

Im trying to watching most of PBG's dramas so I may just do that this weekend! (it's a toss up between Reply or IRY...)

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hey, IRY is even better to watchwhen you know what will happen, it might be too intense. there is still enough intensity in the riple scenes ( Hyun-Min-JoonHo). it is one thing to read, but to see what Bogummy does with his eyes might still make you lose all feeling in your legs. mentally being prepared for whats coming might be a good strategy

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I read recaps of currently-airing shows as well as dramas that are complete and I'm watching. The completed ones I read after each episode so I can see what I might have missed culturally. Seeing others' perspectives is also interesting. Even the shows I haven't watched yet but are complete, I'll read the recaps and wait a few months to watch it so I'll know the general flow of the show, but I won't remember all the twists and when they happen.

I have loads of free time now that I'm not working. This first week of being a housewife was strange. After having at least one job for the last twenty years, it's jarring to not have any time constraints from work. Heck, the first day of not working, I had two panic attacks! I think subconsciously, my poor brain was confused, lol. So what have I done? Watch dramas, of course! I finished Good Morning Call & WF (so saaaaaaaaaad that there's no more episodes of WF!), caught up with Hwarang, binge-watching Misaeng (OMO, how I love this show, and so glad I was finally able to watch it on my Roku instead of the computer), and contemplating what to watch next. I think I'll pick up IRY if I can find a comfortable way to watch it. Once this first week or two is over, I'll get bored and find other ways to occupy my time.

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Well, when WFKBJ ended I was flooded with feelings that 2017 is just ruined and there's really no point to the rest of the year. A little too dramatic? LOL

I read recaps for shows I watch and sometimes other shows which then inevitably become shows I'm watching!

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Happy week end, beanies!

Few days ago I found in some site that back then in 1981, Korea already made movie adaptation of popular manga Candy Candy but because of copyright issues it was only released in Korea. Now I know when the candy girl trope begin in kdramaworld. As it's like making adaptation is still a trend and how Korea love candy girl a lot plus that Candy Candy is full of kdrama popular trope, why don't Korea make modern adaptation of that manga.
The story will be like this:

Feeling lonely because her bestfriend is been adopted, Jan-di, an orphane girl, run to a hill behind her orphanage. She meet a charming boy who cheer her up and give her a handkerchief with beautiful pattern. She call him "Prince of the Hill".

Few years later, she's been adopted too by a powerfull family who own hotel chain and they bring her to Busan. Her adopting mother and step sister are mean to her (she's more like slave for them), but their cousins who live nearby are very nice and friendly. One of them is Woo-bin who resemble her prince of the hill, and the hotel chain also has same logo as her handkerchief pattern. In Busan, she also meet a cheerfull young man who introduce himself as William who often help her (his daddy long leg). She was told that the rightfull heir of the family bussiness, Seung-hwan, is studying in US (her mean mother is mistress of one of Seung-hwan deceased uncle).

Jan-di and Woo-bin relationship is short because he then die in an accident to save her. Jan-di is blamed and is thrown out from the house by her mother and step sister. She then go to Seoul and work in many part time job. One of it is a food chain shop whose chaebol heir, Tae-ri, who look exactly like Woo-bin but with bad personality. It turn out it is because his father force him to inherit the company but he want to become an actor like her mother (he's illegitimate child, but since his father don't have any other child, he was taken from his mother). Jan-di and Tae-ri become close and fall for each other. But her step sister come and fall for him too. Jan-di also meet again with William who lose his memory. Since she don't know his real identity, she take him to live with her and tell everyone that he is her brother.

Encourage by Jan-di, Tae-ri abandon his family and pursue acting career. One of his fellow actress love him and in one incident during filming, get paralyzed for saving him. Her mother ask him to take responsibility, and although still love each other Jan-di decide to let him go.

One day William disappear too and feeling tired, Jan-di return to her orphanage. She visit the hill and meet William, whose real identity is Seung-hwan (who often run from his study) and her real prince of the hill.
Offcourse there will be a side love story between Jan-di's childhood bestfriend and one of the cousin too. Just like the original, it has open ending too.
So what do you think, guys? In this case, I think Korea can produce better...

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Strange, when I tab 'submit' it state that there are still 87 characters available but then it got cut.

Anyway, continue on.
If they do it, I think Korea can make better adaptation than Japan as they are more experience with the tropes.

And no need to throw birth secret trope on Jan-di parentage, there are more than enough tropes already and it wasn't exist in the original too.

PS: no, I'm not BOF fan. It just that Jan-di sound similar with Candy as in Tae-ri for Terry.

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I kow that OT is not one for confessions; but I must talk about this. I haven't tell a soul about this. Except tonight. I decided to tell.

I am a lecturer, and somehow this semester I was attracted to one guy in the class. He's a decade younger than me.
I usually would call the students kids, in my attempt to diffrentiate the fact that I am in a "guardian's" shoes. It has worked, for years. But not this time.

I'm crushing on my student.

He's not as good looking as far as my standard dictate. But I like is humor, his wacky, offensive yet not offensive way of talking, and his style. It's wrong, obviously. On every level of everthing that is wrong.

But I can't help feeling it.

During the earlier of the semester, I felt normal. But as the semester progresses, my heart grows fonder and fonder of him. I have done all the shameful stalking: fb, ig, tweets. I have set a meeting where I only see him alone for a project discussion, which was actually something that could've been completed via email but I did anyway because I just want to see and talk to him. I know that I am being an embarrassment to even myself, but I did it anyway. I didn't have a reason to see him, so I created a reason. I have even dreamed of him; but somehow I was not his lecturer, I was his peer.

No worries, I had never tried, in any way at all, to go physical. We have never even shake hands.

This week was the final week where he has his exams. Today is his last paper (Yes, I know that much). Guess what I did? I requested to invigilate at the hall where his class is having the exam. I just want to see him.

After the exam was over; I saw him from a distance (stalking?); from a place where I can see him and he can't see me, far in distance. It's unbelievable how I can recognize him from afar; knows his habit with his hair and his body language. I suspected that he was waiting for his friends. He was, as he left as soon as the friend showed.

What I did today, from that spot far in distance, I looked at him and literally self-breaking up with him. I told him (actually told myself) that I'm sorry I felt such feelings towards someone I shouldn't. I told him I wish I was born either later than him, or at least the same year he did, and I hate the fact that I haven't had feelings for anyone in years, and when I did, its with the wrong person.

I said that I will forget him, I will supress the feelings, and move on. Because nothing good can come out of it. After telling myself all that; I cried.

Last week I was in the middle of recognizing my feelings. And as soon as I accepted that "this is what I'm feeling" I feel like a person who doesn't even deserve a place on this earth. Which is why I feel sorry that I was born.

Because the fact that I am feeling this is already wrong. I was wrong. It was wrong. It was all a mess.

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I have self decided to move on from this feeling; but its hard, as I keep trying to search for him in his social media; when I know I should stop. yYou have no idea the nu,ber of times I have spent slapping myself and say "ya! michin yeon! jongshin charyeo!"

I'm literally sad over a one-way feelings, and broke up to a relationship that is non-existent. I'm a lost cause, am I?

p/s to anyone who felt icky about reading my comment, I truly, truly apologize.

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Don't beat yourself up over it. Heart wants what it wants right? It's not upto us who we fall for or have a crush on. You are not acting on it so I think it's alright. There's nothing time doesn't set right. Cheer up!

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Stupid heart.

Or was it the cupid?

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Been there, and I can even picture myself in your story. Well, it does feel too heavy to endure now, but, believe me, in 5 years, 10 years, 20 years later when you look back, you'll know that you have made the best decision, and you'll be proud at yourself that you are strong enough to go through such struggle today. I really want to hug you, chingu.

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There's no Cupid. You created your own emotional illusion. Just remember. The other person never feels the same way you do until you start working hard on ensnaring him into your own magnetic field of emotions. That's what feeling of love for an unrelated to you person (not your child, parent, nor sibling) really is. You (or rather your brain) created this illusion because there was a need for it. The questions to ask yourself are... Did you really need Him? Or did you need these feelings of pain and guilt to push you out of your current condition of emotional stupor? If you are someone who likes to create, that's your lucky chance. Why do you think most poets and artists produce the best things while being under spell of unrequited love? Use it to create, to change something in your life and not as an excuse to get fat and depressed. Now. If you really need this guy in your life, get to work. Just don't lose your job and people's respect over it.

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@jealousyincarnate
- My heart hurts, because I myslef don't even know why and how did I ended up crushing on him. I just did. And I can't undo it. And that's why I cry. 5 years? TT

@Marina
-Thank you for putting it into another spectrum of perspective. Don't use this as a reason to get fat and depressed; use it to change something in life. Noted. Create things, noted. To be honest, I haven't thought of advancing this feelings into something more. Because no, it's not right, it's unethical, it's against everything that I've learnt for this profession. But I love to hear him talk and I want to see his face. I need to move on, so, I need, need to avoid contact with him; as much as possible. I want to focus on moving on from him.

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:) time will heal

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i hope time will. earnestly praying. i feel sily, but at the same time, i cant stop

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Feelings are not something you control.

Actions are something you control.

Encourage yourself with the thought that your actions for the most part were appropriate and you recognized what was going on when you began to seek out the student.

I am reading some amazing brain research about the effect of our thoughts on our physical bodies and on our actions. I would encourage you to refresh your thinking. It can help you over the hurdle caused by the feelings.

(PS - The research I mention is by Dr. Caroline Leaf, a neuroscientist, author of Eat and Think Yourself Smart. She is a researcher from South Africa with 30+ years of experience and some ground breaking research on our brain's ability to change. She has a great TED talk, but I like her other talks a bit more. Fair warning - she is a Christian neuroscientist.)

Anyway, good for not acting on it, good for having remorse (that means your conscience is working correctly!), and now you just have to find a way to move forward. I wish you well.

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PS - Years ago, I made a list from notes on my readings about the mind, body, soul connection in an effort to change my spirit. I was very bitter at the time and needed a life change. I made a little chart and tried to use the things that influence the body and the soul to change my spirit. Touchy feely, right? But for me, it has worked.

All of the labels are subject to debate. What I define as soul, someone else would argue is spirit and I completely get that. I just offer it here as maybe a way to help you move forward.

You might try changing your music or your readings or what you think about, all to finally affect your overall joy with living - because no matter how low and awful it gets, it really can be good again and there really can be joy.

Here it is:

Body = Sight, Smell, Hearing, Taste and Touch

Soul – Imagination, Conscience, Memory, Reason, Affections

Spirit – Faith, Hope, Reverence, Prayer, Worship

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Aiyoo. Eonnie/oppa, mianhaeyo.

I'm not icky(ed) out at all. There's nothing wrong with feelings. All feelings are just. In unfortunate situations, it is the actions that are not.

I'm sorry that you are going through this. I can see why you were down last week. You had a range of thoughts and emotions attacking you. I almost cried reading your post, and crying does not come quickly to me.

My confession (that I was debating sharing as I finished Bok Joo in the middle of the night):
I've been one-sided breaking up and starting again with the same person for a decade. That's half my life! And it has become a reason I'm moving.
I feel like the female Doctor in Bok Joo. But as you seem to feel, I feel we're wrong for each other. However, feelings don't stop when we tell them to. Otherwise, they wouldn't be feelings.

I don't have any suggestions. I could say "try to forget about him." But what does that really mean?
Is there any chance he'll take another class of yours?
Is he leaving the school anytime soon?

All I can say is don't force yourself. Experience your emotions as they come. And be you.

Hwaiting! We are cheering you on ?

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TT

I hate feeling this way.

I don't think he'll ever be in any of my classes again~

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@purple owl
-Thank you for sharing your story with me. I feel that I am understood by you (But I haven't watched Bok Joo so the translation is lost). But I get what you're saying! I don't know if I still want to experience this emotion. He won't be leaving school for another 2 years. What if I got jealous when I see him falling in love with his peer, or hurt if he ignores me because our time (classes) have passed? *crying again*

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I'm really sorry you have to go through this, but...isn't it a blessing as well? I haven't had a crush, even one-sided, in ages, so...though I can imagine how horrible it must feel to see him holding someone else's hand or even not greeting you as he's not your student anymore...well, can't you think about it as sort of a gift? Even if it was wrong, one-sided and you did acknowledge it through and through, wasn't it wonderful to feel it?
I actually think you shouldn't feel so bad about feeling like this. Try to think of it as a fond memory when you went temporarily insane over your student (I actually find it cute), did some silly stuff, but didn't harm anyone, and then moved on.

What I mean to say is, well, treasure the beauty in the wrong and find strength from it to move on. Hwaiting!

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"Try to think of it as a fond memory"

I suppose because I'm currently breathing the moment.. I can't see it as "past" yet. My crush on hi is my "present".

Even though at this point all I feel is paaaaaainn. Thank you. Slowly reminding myself that I have to move on.

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I´ve had crushes on younger guys...still waiting for a crush to last over 3 minutes though. I am really envious at people who actually manage to have real, lasting feelings. I just.... can´t stay interested. except when I like someone as a fan. being a fan is much easier than keeping my attention on one person. maybe cause with actors and musicians there is always another role, another song?

anyway, you cant do anything about feeling that way. now, if you hated your students, that would be a huge problem in my eyes.

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i love them all. but this guy. i just can't help.

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@redfox
-I don't even understand why am I having this feeling. It's odd, its wrong. It's hurting me so bad; eventhough it only comes from me and me alone. He has no play in it at all. I'm sure for him; it is beyond his shadow of doubt that his lecturer could ever like him, romantically.

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so liking male or female characters OR liking male or female actors is considered crush too?

isn't 3 minute time just a natural physical attraction? As soon as the shwo ends i lose much of interest in actors.

Sometimes in shows crush is shown as deep love. I always get confused by these words.

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@catocat
-I'm not sure either. But I definitely did not cry when I switch interest from Lee JunKi to Lee Min Ho or Lee Jong Suk (why am I liking all the Lees? Do they grow on the same tree?)

I totally get the confusion. It's just...sigh~

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I wasn't goint to reply, but then I read your message and I felt so in sink with that... I really liked a guy when I was 18, but after that, just short crushes. One over a year ago I started liking one guy, but soon enough I discovered he had a girlfriend and 2 hours after I was over him. These days I do not even have crushes in real life any more.

So as I was reading FanOfLeeJunKi'sMane's comment I felt actually envious and somehow nostalgic. I wish I knew such strong feelings. Years ago I had a crush on one guy... until he had his long hair cut. After that I tried to keep liking him and once I even cried. Not because the guy was not into me, but because I worried I would never experience those feelings.

Nowadays I am still the same, but I no longer worry about it because there is no point. I do wish, thouth, that someday I get to know what people talk about. I would even appreciate the pain. So FanOfLeeJunKi'sMane, you said you haven't liked anybody in years, enjoy this feeling now and don't feel guilty. You say as well that you have been a lecturer for years and that he is 10 years younger than you. That means he is legal or close to legal. If the taboo is you being a lecturer... again, like other people say you haven't acted on your feelings, but even if you did, it depends on the circunstances. My brother's gf is 7 years younger than him. They started dating when she was 15 (she lied to him about her age), but I can't think it was wrong, because they are so happy now and they make such a balanced couple...

For a person who did not want to talk I wrote too much. Conclusion: enjoy your feelings while they last, FanOfLeeJunKi'sMane, because feelings make you feel alive, and don't worry too much, you've done nothing wrong.

Redfox, I wish you luck, maybe one day...

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@bee
Thank you for sharing your experience. How can you move on so quickly when I can't get him off my head? or heart, for that matter. I've been saying that I wanna move on, I definitely want to move; but thinking of letting go aches me so much I was drawn to tears.

I cannot comprehend why I like him so much. He's not good looking, he's lanky, he's kinda rude but not offensive, he smokes (and I have asthma and I have always HATE anyone who smokes), I don't know what's wrong with me. My logics are telling me to STOP, STOP, STOP but they overflows. I feel so helpless, which in tuen makes me feel worthless. Because I am a human being, but I can't even control myself. And by rights, being a person who should've the so called "knowledge giver"; I have definitely abused my lecturer-ly privileges, just for the sake of looking at him.

I am afraid of "enjoying the feelings". While I'm still in the correct mind to stop myself... I mean, I can totally see myself confess to him; or accidentally on purpose tell him that I like him(yes, I've always been forward). I must move on. Remember. I must move on.

If being alive meant that I am in this pit of all sorts of emotion like I'm like, bubbly, on cloud 9 when I think of him, and then sad to let him go, and then depressed for having to move on and then happy again when I remember him. (UGHHHHH) . Indeed I am Alive.

I am not angry. I'm just... so frustrated that I can't help liking him, so i vented. I'm sorry.

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We are too alike, lol.

It took Weightlifting Fairy Kim BokJoo to realise what it was like to be in-crush.

Like I said in that thread, the only thing I had a crush for was sleep.

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Haven't watched it. Should I watch it?

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100% yes.

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Let me give you a hug!

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hug received!

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Thank you, my sweet orange <3

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Hugs for you.

To be honest with you, me myself at this moment is having a crush or love at the first sight, or whatever appropriate to be called. . I met him only once but dont know why i attarcted to him immediately. He is not someone who is very good looking but i like his personality. But he is now working and living far away from me, so i dont know if there will be any chance to meet him again later. And we definitely dont keep in touch. What i am doing now is stalking his social networks to see his Updates.

I know i should not feel this way, because i honestly hate something uncertain liks thiS. But as someone who had few experience to have crush on someone especially when i was study, i will just enjoy this feeling while taking time to move on. Sure it is hard but time will heal.Don't be hard on yourself, and don't blame yourself either. ?

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@sera the ms temper
-I got the feeling that if it weren't for this leacturer-student relations that we have now... I know I would have taken the step, bring him into my circle, so that he knows he is in my league.

Oh My God.

Help me move on. I shall not, shall never. this has to stop.

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Oh FanofLeeJunKi’sMane, I feel your pain, I really do. If I were in your shoes I would have done a lot of the same things that you did.. Exam hall invigilation..Genious! Ha ha... ? I’m sorry I shouldn’t be laughing at your pain, but that is just so something that I would try myself, if I were ever so smitten by a student. ?

If there’s one thing I know (as an ardent Kdrama viewer!) is that attraction is what it is and there’s nothing you can do about it other than let those strong emotions run their course. I don’t think you have to feel embarrassed for feeling the way you do (as long as you are not ACTING on it!) To be honest, I’m kind of jealous of you - I forgot the last time I felt so fond of a guy in real life. (I make do with my Kdrama oppas and dongsengs).

As you are aware that nothing good can come out of it, it’s great that you are actively taking steps to move on. Physical separation works wonders and now that the semester is over it’s good that you won’t have to see him again on a regular basis. Give yourself some time and you will get over it. Fighting!
Meanwhile don’t watch any romantic Kdramas/ movies for some time. In my opinion they just encourage those feelings that you are currently trying to keep in check. I suggest sticking with something like Jaws or the Jurassic Park series until you completely erase him from your mind. ?

And because you mentioned a couple of times in your post that you feel sorry, feel like a person who doesn’t deserve to be born etc etc - I would like to reiterate that FEELING is OK. You are human - There’s no way you can escape feeling things. As long as you don’t act on those feelings which you think are inappropriate, I think you are pretty cool and brave.

I don’t mean to add fuel to your flames, but who knows, years later you might end up meeting him in a different circumstance, where you guys are no longer under the lecturer-student restraint, and hit it off. (I blame that last sentence on all the noona romances that I have been recently marinating my brain in. A couple of days ago I stumbled upon Girlfriday’s post on Noona romances. Long story short, my previous list of to-watch dramas went out the window as I am now binge-watching all known Korean noona love stories. Just finished What’s Up Fox. Next up Dalja’s Spring.)

Himnae! ✊

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@mygirl2016
-I'm not proud of the Exan hall invigilation thing. I have abused my authority, just for the sake of looking at his face a while longer. Afterall he's busy answering the paper and I... watching him struggle. Just looking at him makes me happy. Like it's so worth it. I feel like I'm a Level 1 stalker. I am so terrible. TT

are you in teaching field too? I am so ashamed right now. Nan eottoke~~.

Suggest Kdramas that has no romantic affiliation, help me! I've been watching Superatural from season 1 now to curb this romantic bubbles, but it hasn't been working.

I don't think I am deserving to be called cool or brave. Because having romantic feelings towards your students; if said wrongly, or under certain circumstances, can come off as disgusting.

Let's not imagine life after he graduates... I have got to move on. UUGGHHHH This hurts so baaaad!!!

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Yes I am in the teaching field too. (Currently on a break, doing some studies). I was an early years teacher though - all my kiddos were 8 - 9 yrs old or younger.

You are asking the wrong person for recommendations on dramas without any romance! Incurable romantic here. ? Signal is the only one that I can think of - a drama that I enjoyed which didn’t really have much romance per se.

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Signal it is~

Thank you! and all the best in your studies~

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You know what? Of everything that you wrote, the only thing that made me perplexed was this line: I feel like a person who doesn’t even deserve a place on this earth. Which is why I feel sorry that I was born.

I just don't understand. Why does falling in love with the wrong person mean that you're not worth life? It's not like you did anything wrong. Feeling something wrong is one thing. Acting on it is another.

You're a lecturer. You've studied hard to where you are. You've worked hard to get to where you are now. Your life doesn't just consist of a guy who doesn't even know you like him. I get that it's guilt talking, but what the hell, I don't even care if you're crushing on a student 10 years younger. Just don't lose yourself.

Your heart is going to want what it wants and your head is going to cause you some pain by keeping you in check. It's okay to hurt, it's okay to feel awkward, maladjusted and uncomfortable with something you'd thought you'd never do but did. But what I learnt from life is: don't be too hard on yourself. You're still just a product in the making.

If you wallow too much in guilt, you might just miss the next great opportunity. Let the hurt run it's course, let yourself grieve over the break up. Then pick yourself up and run again. Falling for the wrong person is not a death sentence.

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@peeps
-i feel like I shouldn't even exist..because educators who actually abuse their authority to "get" the student is just... wrong. I am afraid that IF I were to be that... I'll be the most despicable trash on this planet. I'll try to take on a more positive outlook. And accept that "feelings are not wrong". and that only "acting on inppropriate thoughts due to that feeling"; depending on the situation, could be wrong.

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You are much stronger than you realise.

Because even though you have felt this way, you have not justified it to yourself, or acted on it, and you have not given yourself excuses as to why it happened and allow yourself to fall deeper.

You cannot help what you feel, but you can help how you respond, and as someone who has felt and acted upon feelings I shouldn't have, I truly would like to tell you that you are very brave- firstly in sharing, and secondly in being able to draw a line and take the step to let go, without any bargaining, or self justification.

Time will heal all wounds I do believe, and its better to hurt now, than to forever regret. Take care!

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@mickykdrama
-I am so not strong. I've kept this bottled up for weeks. And I feel so distraught over my self-break-up I cried. It was nothing, just me telling myself that I will let him go, and I will move on, with him not in knowledge about any of these; but I cried anyway.

I hope I can move on as soon as I can.. because even if I know I must move on, just starting to feels unbearable. TT

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@FanofLeeJunKi'sMane

My heart goes out to you. It is difficult to deal with feelings that seem wrong, no matter what the feeling is and given your situation, I completely understand your dilemma. But you know, as wrong as your feelings seems to you, I want to tell you that you don't have to feel bad about them. Love doesn't discriminate. It doesn't care about color, gender, age, culture, financial background or any of the other things that society tells us we should care about. Love is just Love. It's the great redeeming quality we have as humans.
On top of that, I want to say I'm in awe of your strength. You haven't acted on your feelings and put yourself or your student at risk, you've actually put his well-being first and I think that's admirable. I know a whole bunch of male teachers that wouldn't have had half of those scruples if they'd developed a crush on a female student.

So I guess what I'm saying is: don't beat yourself up. As others have said, Time will heal all wounds. Have faith <3

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@silentbeluga
-It's quite hard for me to see now; that my wrong feelings are OK. I need to continuously tell myself that. "Love is just love". I can't even see myself in the mirror without cursing myself for being stupid; what more to accept your words that I "have the strength" or "it is admirable". Me having this feeling alone, makes me feel despicable. Okay. "Love is just love" "love is just love". (sorry for my mental breakdown)

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Don't worry. It's ok. You will be ok. You're not despicable. You're human. You have the strength. It will get better eventually. <3

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I'm not a touchy-feely person, but hugs to you! Good on you for feeling safe enough here to let it out. And good on you for keeping your feelings to just that instead of getting into a potentially bad situation. Even those of us who keep a tight lock on emotions (cough *me* cough cough) feel this way. Reading your post was like re-reading my journal in some spots. It happens, and I think I can relate to the thoughts you've had (chastising yourself for allowing feelings to almost escape, for even having romantic thoughts like that, etc.). I don't know all of the details of you situation, as I was not in your shoes experiencing it with you, so I have no right to judge one way or the other. But I think you might see that you're at least not alone in this now, and we've made it through our own trials; you can, too! So at the very least, you can give yourself a break from the deep self-reproaches; the wondering-why-you-were-born theme is what I've wondered myself many a time, and that's the one I'm writing about. Yay to you for a brave post!

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@rentenmann *swag*
-hugs received! To everyone, thank you for saying encouragng things to me. I will let myself wallow this weekend. I will go through the breakup routine: crying, bingeing, crying, and start anew.. as soon as monday. he's starting his semester break (the exam's over); so I won't be accidentally "seeing" him anywhere around the campus (elevator, hall, wherever)

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Just like you can crush on a character or get obsessed by a hobby, sometimes you can get hung up on a person. Feelings come as they come, but you have the freedom to decide on what you do with them. I went through similar feelings before, and I read this quote from Alexander McCall-Smith in 44 Scotland Street, a book that has a character who crushes on her flatmate, and she comes to the conclusion that there were things about her crush that she wanted to BE. The crushing emotions were aimed at qualities she lacked and wanted. It helped me put things into perspective. It's okay to admire features or traits of a person, but it's part of trying to feel/be complete ourselves. I don't know if that helps, but it helped me get through it. I focused on being someone who I could admire, so instead of getting bogged down and frustrated, I was able to transmute it into something useful. Hang in there! Maybe rewatch some fav. dramas and crush on some fake characters instead!

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That’s an interesting theory @Arashi - We feel strong emotions towards people who have qualities/traits that we so desperately wish were part of ourselves.. Hmmm...
*Goes into thinking mode* It is similar to what they say that liking/ loving someone is a reflection of ourselves, nothing to do with that other person. (Same goes with disliking someone too).

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Oh sweetie,

Never, never, never feel like you are sorry that you were born! You felt love for another human being. There is nothing wrong with that. What you did was NOT wrong at all. You never crossed the student/teacher line. We have all had feelings for someone in our lives that we know we shouldn't or can't have.

What makes you so strong and so brave is that you recognized it and then let him go. The feeling will fade in time. Everyone grieves in their own way and then they can move on.

Deep breath. You are a wonderful person. Remember that. There is nothing wrong with you.

lots of hugs.

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Hi, I can totally understand what you are going through. I am a teacher and when I first started teaching, I had a crush too on a student. It would be more icky since he's a minor then even though the age difference was not that much. I didn't act on it and just treated him as eye candy. I left the place after a year. On hindsight, I was probably feeling lonely as I had just ended a relationship that was toxic and draining.

It's probably my habit to have long crushes on people. Started having crushes since I was 12 on both genders. The first boy I liked, I liked him for 3 years. I would try to take longer routes in the hope of bumping into him. I was obsessed and finally, my friend helped to get his number. After speaking on the phone, I realized he was average, and when I met him with my friends to get some tickets, I totally lost interest and the crush just ended. Everything was just a fantasy on my part. I had elevated this person to such a high pedestal that he became far better than I imagined.

Such crushes kept happening and I could get multiple crushes that lasted for years but I just didn't act on them. There was one when I was in Uni who smoked and was just a bad boy type, who looked so hot he could go into showbiz if he wanted to, but I just decided to not act on it coz I knew he wouldn't like me and he was not right for me.

If you are so into him, why not change to another institution? Both of you are adults and there is no legal issue. Perhaps by then, you would realize that he is not the one.

I have seen for myself teachers who married their students. They tend to be older men. I had encountered my colleague's ex teacher who married her student who was much younger and they had children. The husband and my colleague were in the same sport. It is more frowned upon now compared to the past.

There are stories where teachers sexually abused students who are young teenagers or entered into relationships (whether sexual or not) when the students are minors and this is totally not acceptable. You are not the same as them.

Perhaps you could be less hard on yourself and get into the dating pool. Get friends to recommend friends, or pick up new hobbies.

All the best.

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Hugs! and some blunt answer..

First and foremost, There is nothing wrong with whom you crush on.. even if it were a colleague but if he were uninterested in you, you'd feel just as worse...

Acknowledge, the problem is not who you like but the fact that that someone else will not like you ( And most pragmatic way to ensure yourself of that is.. believe it that he will not like you.. no tiny hope, 1% chance nothing.. HE WILL NOT LOVE YOU BACK THE WAY YOU WANT)..

No matter what we say here, you try to reason it out with yourself.. feelings and mind takes its own sweet time to get over this.

1. Initial phase - (no time frame, can be a month , can be 2 years) - you would want to get rid of the uneasy feeling - DISTRACT YOURSELF - you would have zero energy to do anything.. but find something.. join some weekend class.. you don't have to take interest in it.. you can be the worst student in it... but just find a new place with new faces...
if you like dramas.. binge watch it.. watch it.. cry, fantasize whatever.. just find something to wallow into.. that resonates with all the negative energy... ( the faster that negativity swells to its extreme limit, the faster it will get out of your system.. else it will be a slow burn process)

You need to fight the lethargy... go for walk do whatever....

THe thing with social media stalking is.. if you are strong you'd know how to stop it..if that means you renouncing your SM life.. do so.. but if you are not a strong willed person then you are going to continue doing it... and every time if would torture you for behaving that way... so. .. find people online to talk too.. 24X7 if need be.. join forums.. anonymous.. and talk it out.. best medicine..( it may become whining at some point.. which it will.. but whatever keeps you distracted from that person)

2. Slowly and steadily.. nothing works best as a clean break.. Completely cut off all ties... you should not get to hear or intend to hear even slightest of the news about him... nothing is more effective than this... guaranteed 15 days effect... cut off all contacts.. and you will feel a minor upliftment in your mood.. keep at it.. till you find a new obsession..

3. And, selfish but.. honestly if there is someone around you whom you can "emotionally use" for a few days.. go for it.. rebound always does wonder in subsiding the grief

4. I'd stress again, get a new group in life.. new faces( zumba class, anything) ... a fresh start is super healing

( Again, if it works for you than great but no matter the nature of grief, talking it out never really helps in subsiding it.. it only helps in not building on the pent up frustration ( i am referring to a no filter nonstop crying/talking/whining).. personally i have never found it so helpful...

Logic, reason, mature conversation.. everything will fail.. emotions take their own time.. not in control of your conscious mind..

So, distract and consciously take him out of...

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"Acknowledge, the problem is not who you like but the fact that that someone else will not like you ( And most pragmatic way to ensure yourself of that is.. believe it that he will not like you.. no tiny hope, 1% chance nothing.. HE WILL NOT LOVE YOU BACK THE WAY YOU WANT).."

I am definitely sure that my problem is "who" I crushed on~

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But that's precisely what i am left to wonder..

if he is not an underage why you should break your head over liking him..

feelings have a mind of their own and nothing is permanent..

I dont' see a reason why you should give yourself a hard time over it... if you are very sure that your answer will be a no if he were to like you back.. then getting over these feelings is just a matter of time...

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I am not so ready to think that my only favourite show at the moment Romantic Teacher Dr Kim will finish soon ???

Keep playing this song...
https://youtu.be/3JussqDv0ZA;

At the same time looks like i'll be busier with kdrama soon - Introverted Boss, Voice, Strong Woman Do Bong Soon, Tomorrow With You, Chief Kim and Missing 9. Not to forget maybe will watch Hong Gil Dong too. Missing sageuk from my plate for a long time.

lmao. RIP my sleep. ?

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I forgot Saimdang! So total 8 ?

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I am also so bummed that RDTK is ending soon. This drama isn't crack-tastic but it's all-around solid (writing, production, acting) that it's just so fun to watch. I find I like it a lot more when they have case of the week, instead of dwelling about the chairman's operation for weeks or the hospital politics. It feels a bit like watching western series and I can honestly go on to watch this for many seasons. I don't mind seeing Seo Hyun Jin and Yoo Yeon Seok being lovey dovey in my screen for years! (Did you guys see the BTS?)

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I just hope it will wrap nicely on the last episode. With this drama, i can spend my time to watch even 50 episodea as long as it is consistently on track.

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Sera The Ms Temper -

"RIP my sleep."

I know what you mean.

I keep on telling myself the next day, repeatedly, that it's a good kind of fatigue.

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I seriously need to manage my time wisely if i want to follow all these drama. I cannot sacrifice my sleep but i can spend watching whole things on weekend. :)

It has been quite sometime i dont watch many drama at one time.

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*gasp* I have been meaning to look up this song! I love it! Thank you thank you!

I've really enjoyed RDTK too--I was so happy when they got the slo-mo epic treatment this week.

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While listening to this song, i keep remembering the grand entrance by Doldam team into Geodae Hospital.

Master Kim and Nurse Oh were the coolest..

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Right? I feel like it was such a long time in coming, too--everybody needed to grow a lot, and we needed to get them all the like each other (some more than others)... and now they're finally a daebak team!

Also, I loved the scene right before it--the music started playing, and then Nurse Oh walked in... and I could only think "daaaang they have really great chemistry".

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Yes! totally yes! So cool.

Part of me really wants the last episode, since all my babies are finally grown up and I really want to cackle at Dr Do's downfall...

but that means it will really be the end! *sigh*

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Love this drama! I'm going to cry bags of pearly tears when RDTK comes to an end. I'm not ready to say goodbye to team Doldam. I haven't been emotionally invested in a drama for a long time.

This whole cast delivered individually and as a team. I'm going to miss them all especially Han Suk-kyu. It's going to take a long time before I see him in anything. He is as influential in this role as he is in real life to so many actors.

I'm looking forward to "Whisper" mainly for writer Park Kyung-soo. He has been a hit from the get go and he hasn't disappoint me with any of his shows.

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Same. After Age of Youth, only this drama managed to make me fully invested. I hope Han Suk Kyu will not be taking long time to be back to our small screen.

I really forgot about Defendant and Whisper. Omaigod. 10 drama in my plate so far and im not sure which one i will drop though. Most of drama i will watch because of favourite actors and i hope it won't disappoint. This week i will start with Voice and next week there will be Missing 9 too.

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Han is one of the reason why I can't get into the young puppy actors in dramaland. I'm too impatient to watch them grow. I'd jump into any show with the likes of Shim Eun-kyung, Yeo Jin-goo, Kim Yoo-jung, Kim Soo-hyun, Park Eun-bin, etc. If the show sucks, at least I'd get some enjoyment out of watching them on screen.
I feel like I've watched them all grow up on screen and have proven themselves.

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Yoo Yeon-seok is the main reason why I can't get into this drama. He's been horribly miscast. I wish they would have found a better actor. Yoo simple not good enough to be a lead. He's a horrible actor.

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@Sojuboy

I dont find him as a horrible actor, but he is not necessarily that great too. It took me a number of episodes to accept his acting. The most reason im watching for Han and second for Seo Hyun Jin.

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I just can't get into Park Bo-gum, Ji-soo, Lee Won-geun etc. The current it boys of television.

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Nooooooooo, Kiara. Why you had to mention the last part??? I'm deducting 1 point from my love for you. ???

I enjoy the performances of the current it boys of television. They make me smile. They make me cry. They make me fall in love. I'm actually interested in what they will do with their career, especially Lee Won Geun and Ji Soo. We already know what will happen with PBG's career.

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I'm too lazy to watch their shows :(. I'll hold the fan-girling till another 5 yrs from now.

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@Kiara,
I have to say I'm relieved I'm not the only one who doesn't get the appeal of the current It boys.

@Sojuboy,
Ditto. I didn't like what I saw of Yoo's acting in RDTK and didn't bother with the rest.

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Maybe your forgot another one; Nam Joo Hyuk.

They alone will not draw me, unless their partner is someone that i really like.

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Oh no @Sera! ? You did not just say that out loud on db - that you do not find Nam Joo Hyuk interesting enough.
Run and hide!!! ?

Just kidding! I feel the same way about him.
*Hides with you* ?

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Always a treat to see Han Suk-Kyu back on small screen. At least he's willing to do TV shows. To tell you the truth, TV dramas are more interesting than Movies in Korea. Now, if only Won Bin can make it back to small screen? :D

Unfortunately, I think won Bin is suffering from a strange phobia. He has become a Greta Garbo of Korean Showbiz.

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I feel you. I've been in a kdrama slump for several months and suddenly there are tons of shows I want to sample: I definitely want to try Voice, Introverted Boss, Defendant, Missing 9, Tomorrow with You and Strong Woman Do Bong Soon. Not enough hours in the day but at the same time, I'm hopeful I fall in love with at least a few of them.

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I can't count the times I changed my username in here over the years. I rarely comment so this is probably why.

Where the heck is Ivoire? Any oldie commentators here who knows her? She used to comment so much, and it amused me to read her long thoughts.

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I remember her! She always had very thoughtful long comments and was always first to comment.

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Anyone watching BBC Sherlock? (season 4 finale is on Sunday)

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Me! After watching ep 2, I agreed with Mrs. hudson: Sherlock is more about feelings.

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Honestly i am a bit wary of Sherlock this season after watching the first episode.
So my housemate and I plan to watch it after the ep 3 is out to minimize the possible cliffhanging and waiting haha (besides, deadlines are killing us both sobs).

So, is it good?

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Sherlock is ALWAYS good, it won't let you down. Promise.

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I feel the same, decided that I will watch after its complete.

Hey, may be I'm your housemate ?

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@Bad Cheese Cheddar
"Sherlock is always good"
What a nice sum up lol!!

@Yukari wohoooooo let's watch this marathon on tuesday! ?

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i dont understand sherrinford? is it a eg of high intellect going negative, for we have one high intellect going positive (in the government) and one high intellect who is mix of two.. walking that thin line..

and should be say that in terms of intelligence, older the better?

Sherlock did agree that moffat is smarter than him.. and well we saw sherrinford with him

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Just a rant on life this week. This was the first week back to work. I was a teachers assistant but up until this two days ago. The teacher I was working with quit unexpectedly and I was not notified until the morning of. I had no lesson plan prepared and still have no idea what I'm doing. But I got promoted to a teacher. And what the last two days have taught me is that teaching is hard. You essentially become a second/third parent. I think everyone goes into this profession with the hope to change lives but when the students act like little monsters, it makes it so hard to continue.

While I still want to be in education,I think I'm going to aim to become an assistant principal or dean. That way I have a reserved parking and deal with less students crap. I much prefer to go on meetings every week instead of standing in front of the class. Any quiet time I have, I'll take it. Thank goodness for the long weekend coming up. Perfect time to catch up on the new episodes of Legend of the Blue Sea :)

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I suspect that principals deal with worse crap than teachers do, and when they have a bad day, the whole school may have to pay for it. I would rather scream in frustration over a rebellious student than agonize over budget cuts.

Don't let the little monsters get to you so soon; it isn't always like that :-) . Of course the first time they will see right through you and give you hell, but students change every year; next time you can pull a better bluff and manage to keep them under control.

If you don't like children, by all means take a different career path, but if you think you can like the job, just hang in there. This was my bible back in the day:

https://www.amazon.com/First-Days-School-Effective-Teacher/dp/0962936022

In a nutshell, give them a structure, always keep them busy, and have ready answers to discipline issues. And don't beat yourself up; we all suck at first, and the feeling never quite leaves. Then you hear from other teachers how bright and lovely your ex-students are, and you are a proud mummy ;-)

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try doping project work and workshops instead, maybe?

my first attempt at teaching was just as horrible. but when I do workshops and museum programs a couple of hours at a time with each class, it is easier.

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*DOING, not doping. LOL but doping might help, too

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Hahaha, I was wondering what a doping project was, and was considering doing it. Sigh. Yes, teaching is hard, @LennyHearts. LOL at the reserved parking space. :-)

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My mom always told me to be a teacher. She said there was job security in that. I would always fire back with: but Mom, I can't stand kids!

I applaud you for taking on the hard role.

My only advice is to mix it up. I remember nothing is worse than a boring lecture. Oh god, horror... memories.... ugh

Best of luck!

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Anybody watching Person who Gives Happiness, I need to express my ever growing love for Lee Yoon Ji and Son Seung Won with the world and rant with someone.

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Do you guys watch another countries dramas? I started watching a few recently. Chinese dramas are good because they are shorter (45 min) and the pace feels faster. But, beware of the opening!!! I wish someone had told me this before T.T
They have massive spoilers, just skip it, trust me . My first was Go princess go (hilarious, its a twist in the gender bender genre: a playboy gets transported to ancient China to the body of the empress its a bit weird but i liked it)
I watched Love o2o next(its a rom-com, soooo cute and with not so much stress, really just lovey doveyness ) and now im watching love me if u
dare .
Some tip on thai dramas: in a sense they are worst than chinese ones because they just spoil non-stop. Every comercial break has a preview of whats is happening in the next minute. why? why drama gods!?
Thai dramas are cute with a lot of skinship but the male leads often feel a little off (if u think korean ones are bad they are worst) just a tad patronising and possessive and... they also tend to turn very cliche in the end like, old school drama cliche.
I loved Full House Thai, (the leads have amazing chemistry) and Kiss me thai (with the same leads).I have to recommend the U prince series: lovely geologist if you ,as myself, like when a male lead is not a complete idiot and is actualy sensible cute and caring(the others of this series are so-so, but the first steps in my main problem with thai dramas: how rape is shown so lightly and somehow, the womans fault?! Ive seen it in a couple dramas but in this was when i had to stop watching. The guy atempts to rape
the girl and they just brush it off like nothing had happened.(It was because "he was drunk" and "she provoked him" and she just accepts this) Is a serious matter and i dont know if im puting in the best way nor i want to offend anyone but it was just