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Because This Life Is Our First: Episode 4

After facing defeat, our heroine stops to look at those around her and realizes that under the surface, everyone has their own struggles and worries. Dreams aren’t as easily achieved as she thought they would be back in high school, and maybe the future isn’t as bright as she once hoped it would be. Though the show tackles some hard questions and topics, it never loses its whimsy or charm, and in the end, hope and comfort can come from the most unlikely sources.

 
Episode 4: “Because this is my first marriage”

Su-ji and Ho-rang sulk together over Ji-ho’s departure, but Won-seok doesn’t understand why they’re so sad since she’s only going back to her parents’ house, which is a couple of hours away. Ho-rang explains to her boyfriend that it was hard for Ji-ho to leave home because her father thought that colleges in Seoul were too expensive.

He asks them how Ji-ho came to Seoul then, and in unison, Su-ji and Ho-rang tell him that she’s crazy. He laughs at their explanation since Ji-ho is the nicest person he knows, so they tell him a little story about their high school days.

Ten years ago. Despite ranking first in all subjects but one, Ji-ho’s impressive grades weren’t good enough to get her into Seoul University’s law program. However, her dream was to become a writer, so she decided to apply for Korean literature instead. During dinner, Ji-ho cautiously brought up the topic to Dad, but he immediately flipped the table in disapproval.

Undeterred, Ji-ho registered herself to Seoul University without telling anyone, and the day before class, she ran away from home. In the end, Dad never realized the truth until she finished her first semester, as he angrily waited for her one day outside the wrong university.

In the present, just as Ji-ho’s bus pulls away, she gets off to ask Se-hee if he will marry her, and he says, “Yes.” She hurries back to the bus to get her luggage, but Se-hee calls after her, wondering if she likes him by any chance. After a pause, she shouts back, “No.”

He immediately tells her that he’ll wait inside, and once Ji-ho grabs her suitcase, they take the subway home. He mentions the instant noodle bowls she washed, complimenting her good habit, and she accepts his praise.

Nearby, a seat opens up, and Ji-ho watches a couple affectionately argue over who should get it. In contrast, when the passenger in front of her leaves, Se-hee tells her to sit, and soon after, he walks down the subway car to sit in another empty seat.

At home, Ji-ho and Se-hee go over their contract, and while he doesn’t have any changes, she has a request. Now that she’s unemployed, she asks if he can lower the rent by 50,000 won, and after contemplating for a moment, he agrees.

Se-hee suddenly asks if she isn’t overextending herself, since it might be more economical for her to go back home. Ji-ho shakes her head, telling him that she would only save on rent if she went back, and in his usual logical way, he reasons that the stress levels of going home would cost more than the rent.

However, he’s still surprised that she chose to marry him based on tenancy rather than love, so she explains how she needs his room more than love and affection for the next two years. Staring at Ji-ho, Se-hee narrates, “I decided to marry my tenant today. I know, it’s an unusual choice that an ordinary person wouldn’t make.”

Ji-ho admits to Se-hee that she wanted to try marriage at least once in her life, and then asks if he sorted the recycling this week. He gapes at her, and thinks to himself, “I met a very unusual wife.”

Ji-ho wakes up feeling refreshed in the morning, and happily notes how long it’s been since she’s slept this well. She devours a big bowl of rice for breakfast, and mentally pats herself on the back for her wise decision to get married and save money on rent.

While Ji-ho eats, Se-hee drinks a cup of coffee on the couch, and for the first time in a long while, he and Cat enjoy a peaceful weekend. He blocks his mat-seon date, and is more than satisfied to have gained this valuable serenity in exchange for 50,000 won. As he watches Ji-ho refill Cat’s bowl, he smiles and thinks, “Yes, marrying my tenant was the answer.”

Ji-ho gets a call from her parents, who are coming to Seoul today, and when she tells Se-hee that she’s going to her brother’s apartment later, he asks if he should accompany her. Ji-ho is confused by his question, so he explains that he should greet her parents if they’re getting married.

He shows her the timeline he made last night, which includes the entire (normal) wedding process, but highlights the first step—meeting the parents—as the only one they need to focus on. He thinks it would be efficient to go today, and Ji-ho agrees.

Ji-ho visits Ho-rang at work to inform her friend that she’s staying, but holds back on telling her about the marriage, choosing to save it instead for another time. Ho-rang notices Ji-ho’s outfit and large bag and guesses that she’s going to an important meeting. To Ji-ho’s relief, Ho-rang incorrectly assumes that she’s meeting a new writer.

Hesitantly, Ji-ho broaches the topic of a guy meeting a girl’s parents, wanting advice about making a good impression. Ho-rang asks if she needs this information for a drama, and Ji-ho doesn’t correct her.

Sitting at the bus stop, Ji-ho spots Se-hee walking toward her, and he looks dapper in his suit while receiving a glorious slow-motion sequence. They go over their plans for this evening at a café, and his task is to mark Dad while remembering the three points she mentioned.

Just in case, Ji-ho tells him about a backup plan, and shows him a text from Ho-rang highlighting four guaranteed ways to win her Dad’s favor. As Ho-rang goes down the list of phrases about treating her like a princess or loving her forever, Se-hee’s eyes grow wide, and he firmly tells Ji-ho that he’ll make sure this backup plan never happens. Good luck with that!

Ji-ho and Se-hee walk to her old apartment, but from behind, little brother Ji-seok runs up to her. He excitedly notes all her new items, including her clothes, bag… and man.

After greeting Se-hee, Ji-seok rushes on ahead, and Se-hee tells Ji-ho that her brother isn’t as out of control as she described. Suddenly, Ji-seok screams—loud enough for their neighbors to hear—that Ji-ho brought home a man, and Se-hee realizes that he spoke too soon.

The entire family stares at Se-hee throughout dinner, making him too nervous to eat. Seeing this, Dad wonders if he doesn’t like the food, but because of his dialect, Se-hee simply stares at him until Ji-ho translates. Dad offers a drink to Se-hee, and remembering Ji-ho’s rule that the first drink must be finished in one gulp, Se-hee drinks the entire cup, thus gaining Dad’s approval.

Dad asks Se-hee about his job, and Se-hee begins to give a detailed description until he remembers Ji-ho’s second rule: always keep your answers short. He corrects his mistake and tells Dad that he works at an IT company.

His short answer pleases Dad, but he asks a follow-up question concerning the company. Ji-ho’s third rule is about using famous examples to explain things, so Se-hee says that they develop an app like KakaoTalk, and their office building is located between Samsung and LG.

Since Se-hee cleared his mission, Ji-ho brings up that they want to get married, and Ji-seok asks if she’s pregnant (like you should be talking). Se-hee is confused because of the dialect, so when Ji-ho translates his question about being pregnant, he hurriedly explains that they might live together, but that won’t happen. Oops.

Dad goes ballistic, threatening to lock Ji-ho in her room, and Se-hee throws fuel onto the fire by trying to calmly explain the misunderstanding. As Dad bends down to flip the table, Ji-ho kicks Se-hee in the legs, causing him to fall on his knees.

Kneeling before Dad, Se-hee looks back at Ji-ho, who frantically points at her phone, indicating their backup plan. Se-hee starts to stutter, and with his eyes closed, he yells, “I will never let your daughter’s hands get wet!” Bwahahahaha!

Ho-rang and her coworkers walk through the furniture store, and the saleswoman approaches their group, telling the youngest member about her purchase of the last pink sofa. Looking apologetic, the youngest member explains that she’s getting married next month, and Ho-rang acts like it’s not a big deal, though she leaves the group to go back home.

Picking up some groceries, Ho-rang calls Won-seok so that they can eat together, but he’s meeting Sang-gu right now. He offers to meet her in thirty minutes, but already in a foul mood, Ho-rang yells at him to forget it.

Sang-gu asks Won-seok if he fought again with his girlfriend, and he confides in Sang-gu that he doesn’t understand her lately. Sang-gu offers his help, and with a quick scroll through their past messages, he immediately assesses the source of their problem.

He calls Won-seok crazy for misunderstanding Ho-rang’s text, and shows him the one about the couch and her coworker getting married. Thinking that his mistake was the sofa, Won-seok thinks that Ho-rang should have just told him outright that she wanted to buy the couch, and assumes that this must be why she was talking about a newlywed home.

Sang-gu explains that women never say things directly, and gets very animated as he expounds on his ideas about women talking in circles. Won-seok calls him amazing, and Sang-gu haughtily says that his nickname is “Magical Sang-gu.”

Meanwhile, Ji-ho gives Se-hee a glass of water, but it makes him remember his embarrassing declaration. Feeling guilty, Ji-ho starts to explain why she forced him to his knees, but Se-hee is bothered by the ridiculous expression, not at her.

She tells him that there were other options, but Se-hee angrily says that he chose the least offensive one (the angry cat noises are perfect). He stomps away, and later that night, Ji-ho looks over the phrases and agrees with Se-hee’s judgement. Heh.

Ho-rang texts Ji-ho to ask about her meeting and to tell her that she fought with Won-seok again. Alone in bed, Ho-rang looks at a photo of her and Won-seok, and when he arrives, she goes under the covers, pretending to be asleep.

Won-seok cuddles her, apologizing for not understanding and for making her wait so long. Turning around, she stares up at him with tears pooling in her eyes, and he says that he knows what she wants now. Ho-rang brightens at his words, thinking that he’s finally realized her feelings, and the couple quickly reconciles.

In the morning, Se-hee slides an envelope to Ji-ho, intending to split the cost of the gift she bought yesterday—though she refuses the money. After sleeping on it, Se-hee concludes that Ji-ho made a wise decision and credits yesterday’s success to her.

He plans to tell his family about their marriage today, and describes how his mom will assist him in convincing his dad. But for his plan to work, he needs a picture of them together, and they proceed to take a slew of awkward selfies.

At work, Se-hee messages his mom about getting married and sends the selfie he took in the morning. Bo-mi passes by his desk and asks if he’s having lunch, and when Se-hee tells her that he’ll eat after his call, she points out the obvious: No one’s calling him. Without taking his eyes off his phone, he says that it’ll come, and right on cue, his mom calls. His “I told you so” look to Bo-mi is brilliant.

Meanwhile, Sang-gu thanks Won-seok for the meal, and noticing how sharply dressed he is, Sang-gu correctly guesses that he made up with Ho-rang. Won-seok proudly says that he’s going to go buy it today, and Sang-gu tells him that it’s a good idea.

Sang-gu decides to teach Won-seok another trick from his book, and shows him a text message that he sent to “Cigarette Light” (aka, Su-ji). He explains to Won-seok that this is bait to infuriate her, since he’ll pretend that he accidentally sent the message once she responds.

However, unlike Sang-gu’s prediction, Su-ji takes one look at the notification and ignores it, calling him an idiot. Hahaha!

As Su-ji leaves work, her coworkers spot her, and the particularly distasteful coworker informs her of a get-together with one of their clients. She politely declines, citing an important engagement she has to attend. Looking her up and down, he assumes that she’s going on a date despite her protests, and then he has to audacity to “advise” her to go home early so she doesn’t worry her mother. Yuck.

Su-ji’s important meeting is Won-seok, and he begs her to help him buy something secretly for Ho-rang. Coincidentally, Ho-rang steps outside for a break and notices the two exiting a jewelry store together. She eyes them suspiciously and calls Won-seok, who lies about his whereabouts. Rather than be upset, Ho-rang suddenly breaks into a large grin and texts Su-ji that she saw them, correctly guessing that Won-seok bought something for her.

Su-ji tells Ho-rang to act surprised when she comes home, and Ho-rang returns to work with some pep in her step. At the apartment, Won-seok and Su-ji rest on the bed, out of breath from bringing home the item. He tells Su-ji that he made a big decision to buy it, thinking that it was the least he could do for Ho-rang. Oh no… I’m already feeling the secondhand embarrassment.

Su-ji gets another text message from Sang-gu (who she saved as “Idiot”), and then promptly blocks him without even checking the texts. Savage. I love it!

Sang-gu stares at the unread messages he sent Su-ji and sulks in the company breakroom. Se-hee walks by, telling him about an email from Su-ji’s company, but to Sang-gu’s disappointment, the sender was someone else.

Ho-rang walks home after work with the others, and they pass by the furniture store, where the pink sofa on display is gone. Ho-rang hints to the others that she’s going to buy a bigger couch since she might get married soon.

Ho-rang meets Ji-ho on the way to her place and excitedly tells her a secret: Won-seok is proposing to her today! She practices her surprised face, and Ji-ho laughs, clearly happy for her friend. She sends Ho-rang up to the apartment first though, since she has to take a call from Se-hee.

Once Ho-rang reaches the top of the stairs, she hears whispers inside, and the lights go out. Unable to contain her excitement, Ho-rang loudly proclaims her presence and walks into the apartment. Won-seok and Su-ji yell surprise, but the real surprise is something else: the pink sofa taking up all the space in the apartment.

Ji-ho informs Se-hee about her plans to tell her friends about their marriage today, but is worried that they might not believe her. He offers to send the selfie they took this morning to use as evidence, but looking at their stilted expressions in the picture, Ji-ho scratches her head, wondering how to use it. Heh.

However, her attention is brought back to the apartment when she hears Ho-rang scream. Upstairs, Ho-rang calls Won-seok crazy for putting a sofa in their small space, but he argues that she was the one who wanted it.

With emotions rising, Ho-rang says that this is embarrassing, and Won-seok interprets her words to mean him. She yells at him for not understanding her, but he shoots back, “Then why don’t you make it easier for me to understand? Help me understand rather than act crazy for not understanding you!”

Ho-rang grows quiet, hurt by his words, but Won-seok is through with her tears. Though she threatens to break things off if he leaves, Won-seok ignores her and walks out the door.

Drowning her sadness in alcohol, Ho-rang asks why Su-ji went to the jewelry shop with Won-seok, and she explains that she was changing her watch strap. Su-ji berates Ho-rang for her outburst, taking Won-seok’s side in their fight, but Ho-rang cries, “I thought he was going to propose to me!”

Ji-ho tells the audience that since she was 17, Ho-rang’s dream was to get married. It’s been seven years, and Ho-rang asks her friends how long she has to wait while crying over her aging womb.

That comment is the last straw for Su-ji, who doesn’t want her friend to define her self-worth with marriage, but Ho-rang twists her words, accusing her of showing off and not understanding the woes of a penniless girl like her.

Infuriated with Ho-rang’s accusations, Su-ji storms off, and Ji-ho chases after her.

Inside her car, Su-ji recounts to Ji-ho all the sacrifices she made for Ho-rang today, but rather than receive thanks, she got cursed at. She expresses her disappointment, and excuses herself when she gets a call from a client.

As Ji-ho watches her friend pander to her client, she remembers Su-ji’s dream of becoming a CEO. Returning to the car, Su-ji says that she’s going to work, and Ji-ho narrates, “Su-ji wanted to become a CEO, but now, she’s just an employee who answers to her boss.”

Returning to Ho-rang’s side, Ji-ho recalls how Ho-rang’s only dream was to be married, but even for her, it hasn’t come true. Ji-ho goes back home, thinking to herself that she’s marrying her landlord to live in Seoul, and once home, she sees that Se-hee is still awake.

He asks how her talk went with her friends, but she admits that she couldn’t bring it up yet. She asks about his friends, and he says that they’re all “normal.” Ji-ho comments on how hard it is to achieve your dreams, adding that she was just curious about how others lived.

Se-hee tells her to not ask others if she’s looking for an answer, since the world is only getting worse and needs new standards. She asks if that includes marriage, and he says that it does.

As Ji-ho gets ready for bed, she thinks to herself that the world isn’t getting better, which means her life won’t get better either. Instead of looking forward to a brighter future, she wonders if she’s just living to avoid a worse tomorrow.

Before heading to bed, Ji-ho has a question about their marriage, and says that they should skip things that incur expenses, like a wedding ceremony. Se-hee agrees with her and says that the only expense will be their family meeting.

As they lay in their separate beds, Ji-ho explains that only the rich are entitled to marry for love. She looks at Ho-rang’s changed status (“Stop Dreaming”), and turns off her lights to go to bed.

It’s a sunny day, and Ji-ho is dressed in a white dress while Se-hee is in a black suit. Both of them run to catch the bus, and then sit in the back, looking tired and confused. Ji-ho asks if they didn’t agree to not do anything, and Se-hee replies, “I think we did.”

As our contractual couple look grimly ahead, Ji-ho narrates, “To live normally, we have to do something.”

 
COMMENTS

It’s been a while since I’ve wholeheartedly rooted for a couple like I do with Ji-ho and Se-hee. As individuals, they’re both charming and quirky, but the real magic comes from their interactions as an awkward and adorable couple. They’re just so compatible and all-together perfect for each other that I seriously can’t imagine either of them finding a better partner. Also, I love how they highlight positive aspects in each other, and character traits they have that might be considered an issue by other people are almost always seen favorably by our two leads (e.g., Se-hee’s logic-driven explanations and Ji-ho’s preoccupation with cleaning).

In addition, we got to see more of Se-hee and hear his thoughts this episode, and he’s really shaping out to be a thoughtful person and not just a calculating landlord who calls the police on his tenant (which still cracks me up). As a husband or romantic partner, he has his faults and would make most women unhappy with his thought process, but paired with Ji-ho, his non-romantic lines that purely driven by rational-thinking become swoon-worthy moments, forcing me to cheer for our couple. Because, honestly, how could I not?

While our main couple continues to deliver wonderfully comedic hijinks, the show is still contemplative and insightful, striking the right balance between poignant moments and funny ones. In the previous episodes, we learned about Ji-ho’s dream and saw her arduous journey stop before reaching its goal—not because of her own lack of skill, but because of horrible people and circumstances that forced her to make a tough decision. This episode, we learned more about Su-ji and Ho-rang’s dream, and how they also seem to be chasing after something that seems out of their reach no matter how long and hard they strive towards it. In the end, it looks everyone is walking down a dark tunnel by themselves, but maybe they’re not as alone as they think they are—they’re just blinded by the darkness.

The relationship between the three friends is sweet, and I’m confident that the fight between Ho-rang and Su-ji won’t cause a permanent rift, because they seem to share a history and bond that’s endured hard times before. That doesn’t mean reconciliation will come easily, because the fight between them hints at deeper issues between the two friends, both in their relationship and as individuals. Ho-rang was clearly wrong for taking out her anger on Su-ji, who only helped Won-seok, and the problem on her side is that she feels inferior compared to her well-off friend. I think some of her remarks thrown at Su-ji were more for herself, and in her anger, she hurt Su-ji in the process to avoid the truth about her own frustrations.

On the other hand, Su-ji is disappointed in Ho-rang’s actions since she sacrificed her time to help her friend, but it also seems that Ho-rang’s outbursts about her womb struck a nerve with Su-ji because of the constant battles she faces in the workplace. Hearing Ho-rang describe her self-worth through her female biological attributes probably reminded Su-ji of the casual way her identity is solely tied to her being a woman, outside of any of her merits or actions. Thus, it’s only natural that Ho-rang’s words made Su-ji angry, because she struggles every day to prove herself outside of her gender identity while Ho-rang seems to passively accept it.

The fight between Ho-rang and Won-seok is more complicated, since both were in the wrong. It wasn’t necessarily the couch that caused their big blowout—it was just the final straw. While some may be more sympathetic to one side or the other, it’s clear that both contributed to the problem that formed in their relationship. Ultimately, the issue with them is communication, and in all seriousness, Sang-gu’s advice to Won-seok was utter crap. That’s not to say that he didn’t have some helpful tips, and I do think he probably understood Ho-rang’s feelings in that moment better than Won-seok did, even though he only read a few texts. My issue with Sang-gu’s advice (besides the inherent sexism in his comments) is that Won-seok can never accomplish anything with that method because his personality isn’t like Sang-gu’s.

Won-seok seems to be a straightforward person, and being observant isn’t his strong suit, which became evident when he bought a couch that barely fits their one-bedroom apartment (like really, did he actually think that was a good idea?). He needs to be upfront with Ho-rang and ask for clarification when he needs it, because he isn’t a mind reader. While it would be nice for Ho-rang to be more direct with her boyfriend, it’s also her personality to be observant and cautious with her demands. There’s a social stigma towards women initiating things in relationships, and though it’s an antiquated way of thinking, I think Ho-rang has internalized this gendered message, much to her detriment. I personally thought her message to Won-seok was obvious given her constant desire for marriage and their long courtship, but maybe that’s the real problem—they see different futures for their relationship.

As a side note, I want to send applause to whoever is in charge of the sound effects, because they are on point! The hissing cat noises when Se-hee was pissed was a nice touch, and overall, I love the sound effects so far. It makes the show just that much wackier without becoming overly tacky.

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Thanks for the recap! Okay, this episode was hilarious. From Se-hee and Ji-ho’s awkward selfie (Ji-ho’s “how am I supposed to use this?” when he sends it to her killed me) to the insanely awkward family meeting, everyone really brought their comedic A-game. I was cackling so loud that my family asked me to leave the room.

I’m still so appreciative of Se-hee’s character. He’s so matter-of-fact about everything, that when he does compliment Ji-ho you know it’s genuine because he wouldn’t think of lying.

As far as Ho-rang and Won-seok’s fight, I really liked that they were both portrayed as being wrong. Too often it seems like shows imply that either the guy is solely responsible because he didn’t understand, or the girl is solely responsible because she’s always nagging, but they both have communication issues that they need to address for their relationship to work and that was made clear by Ji-ho and Su-ji.

Now I just have to figure out how I’ll make it until next Monday.

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That scene where Jiho whacked Sehee to bring him to his knees was in the previews, so I don't understand why it was SO FUNNY to me when it actually aired. I've never laughed so hard. Plus with Sehee not understanding the satoori, that scene was gold.

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Another personal favorite of mine that was hilarious in this episode, was when they were in the subway and Se-hee just WALKED AWAY to another seat after finding Ji-ho a place. He did it with such nonchalance that I couldn't stop laughing.

This show is so good at subverting tropes with humour.

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The subway scene was hilarious indeed, yet so true to Se-hee's personality.The way he nonchalantly moved toward the empty seat and checked his phone. Lol 😅

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I was cringing/laughing in mortification for him. Haha the look on his face was hilarious.

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Then his slumping body at the end, as if all energy was zapped out of him. 😂

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Thank you @blnmom and @lovepark for noting the satoori dialect! Depending on English subs, I was confused why Se-hee didn't understand the question about Ji-ho being pregnant.

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Me too I didn't know her father was speaking with an accent. For me it was all about those lion and puppy dog sound effects that made the whole scene just priceless.
Thanks for the recap so now it makes even more sense.

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I agree the puppy and lion sound effects just made me laugh out loud so much! Comedy gold.

And in the end, Se Hee just looked like a kicked puppy.

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Thanks to the Answer Me series I can usually pick out satoori despite my almost nonexistant Korean comprehension lol, especially when it is exaggerated in Ji-ho's Dad's case. It's something that you will probably pick up on eventually during your drama watching life :)

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How can I ever see Shinzo Abe and not laugh out loud remembering his face saying, "Abe??" TOTALLY EPIC! 🤣

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Yeah that Shinzo Abe moment.. haha 😂

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I absolutely ADORE directing in this show. Those front shooted scenes of them simply siting next to each other and talking time to time are just so...calm, quite, simple and nice?
Like, in all dramas we see beautifully shot kisses, back hugs, swoon worthy love confessions in rain and nothing that mundane or...I don't know? Realistic?

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True! Repeated scenarios may have the tendency to get boring, but with Se-hee and Ji-ho, I just look forward to their thoughtful conversations. 😍

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I feel like after a hug, a kiss, or a confession, the couple usually part ways to reflect this life-changing moment. I think those scenes of them sitting next to each other are appealing due to how domestic they feel. It's the sense of comfort, of familiarity, and of being at home.

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"It's the sense of comfort, of familiarity, and of being at home."

That's what this whole drama is to me... and more.

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This drama is so subtle good!
I simply can't wait every week tho watch it.
WYWS makes me feel terrified, and I also wait for it in a good way, with lots of hope that no one will die or be hurt (at least not those I like), but here I can only wait, happy 😊

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Yes! I like WYWS too, but it feels like I have my energy drained after watching it. I can just relax with this show, enjoy the beauty of awkwardness and butterflies somehow. 😀😀

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Thank you, lovepark, for the thoughtful recaps. I absolutely love this show and this couple, and a shout-out to the writer for finding the perfect balance of humor and thoughtfulness...

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I really loved the scene where se-hee met jiho's parents .it was hilarious. the way they communicated with their eyes was so funny.

I wanna see how Mr robot falls for jiho cos right now she seem to be the one who likes him.

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and also that selfie scene was so awkward it was hilarious as well lol

I actually liked every scene. daebaek writernim.

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I don't know... I think he maybe has some feelings for her as well. In the previous episode, he really didn't need to bring her her papers personally, I think he just wanted a reason to see her. And in this episode, he has willingly sat closer to her on the couch, while she is still sitting in the same cautiously distant place. I may be reading too far into it, but I will see what I want to.

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it could also be because he's so comfortable with her now.

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I don't think you are reading into things. I think he is unconsciously becoming drawn to her. It might not be love yet, but something is happening.

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"my mind says no... but my body says yeeees..."

but kidding aside, I think he's so unconsciously being drawn to her in a way. The comfortable home-y kind of being drawn.

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@rinny,

Mr. Programmer is exhibiting symptoms of "chip creep" -- or maybe plate tectonics. LOL! Slowly but surely, Se-hee is gravitating to Ji-ho.

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I noticed the "closer" couch seating arrangement too!

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I too think Se Hee is subconsciously liking JiHo. That excuse to return her her manuscript because he was 'going out' seems quite clear that he wants to see her. If Ji Ho was any other roommate, he can call her later and offer to mail her stuff, I think.

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EXACTLY! I was swooning at that part because HELLO SE-HEE YOU ARE NOW IN ROMANCE TERRITORY. Why chase after her and deliver it personally, right?? Hihihi

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Me too!! I’ve become so used to expecting tropes and yet, this caught me off guard, bc it was him, doing it in his Se Hee way, I even felt butterflies for a couple of seconds :)

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Did you notice that they are sitting a little closer together on the couch? Wonder how long until they will be sharing the middle....

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This show is impressing me so much. It's the one show I'm currently watching that I am anxious for the next episode and amore hating the wait.

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I know. This is the only one out of all the ones I've been watching that I'm anxiously actively counting down the days until the next episode comes on. Then as I watch it I keep watching to see how much time is left. The episodes go by so quickly. I want it to slow down a bit! I really hope the next episode shows their ceremony. Feels like the previews have been showing the next two episodes in advance.

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This show breaks my heart.

There is a saying that when you build a house, it can be good, fast and cheep...but you can only have 2 of the 3. I was originally thinking that similarly this show was exploring how contemporary women can't have it all and have to choose 2 of the three big dreams (career, family, creativity/self).

But this episode, shook that and now it looks as if, for all the changes, women are now struggling to even achieve one goal.

This is such an interesting recasting of "Nigeru wa Haji da ga Yaku ni Tatsu".

The DP and director are subtly constructing the character's visual styles.

Ji-Ho
Is typically shot with static camera. Single shots look up at her with her looking down to compress the space into her thoughts. And down wards camera angles for scenes with others. She is almost always enclosed or viewed at, we are never given clear prospective views where she controls her destiny or the world around her.

Soo-Ji
Even though she exudes strength, the shot construction cleverly undercuts her. She is shot with moving camera, and typically framed from the side. Her shots are nearly always constructed with people or objects that obscure her - often by men who are positioned in the scene to block part of her body.
(She is such a fascinating supporting character-I would watch a whole show on her story)

Ho-Rang
Who whats the traditional marriage-this may have been expected to be the simplest dream to achieve...However, her position is no less perilous than Ji-Ho's. Ho-Rang is placed in numerous scenes that are tableaus - mid distance set with other actors- often other single women. Here she is fighting for centre stage and she is always at risk of the other actors distracting from her spotlight just by creating movement in the scene.

I am so enjoying how thoughtfully the show is exploring the character's both in plot and its visual construction.

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I never realised those camera angles and shots! It seemed so natural that when you pointed it out, it all made sense to their characters.

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This subtle approach can be a risk in the cut-throat world of fast production Kdrama. It forgoes many of the typical flashy visuals that audience instantly notice.

It also relies on the skill of the actors, which is why I am so impressed with the casting. Lee Min-Ki, Jung So-Min, and Esom are so on point for this.

DB & GF often talk in their podcasts about how a director needed to work with the limitations of actors. Here, it is the opposite. For the actors it must be refreshing to have a production that trusts then with their acting ability and allows them more potential to express their characters.

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Wow. What a great observation! I'm going to re-watch all 4 episodes while waiting for Monday and have this list on my side to make a comparison. The drama is already good as it is but this should make it even more interesting. Thanks for sharing!

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Me too! now I want to go back and watch it to see the camera styles. The perspectives of other beanies is always so helpful!

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Yeah i think i am also planning to re -watch the 4 episodes this weekend it will help me wait until monday.

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Great analysis of the visuals! I agree with you about how this showcases women's struggle to have it all. And it is also an interesting commentary on overall situation for people my/Ji Ho's age. Women have always been held back due to their gender. But on top of that, it's harder than ever to make a decent living and there is just a lot of overworking. Ho Rang and Won Seok both have jobs but can only afford a rooftop apartment that makes me feel claustrophobic. Suji is overworked. Ji Ho doesn't have enough savings to afford a deposit to rent out a livable space. And it's not like she was a part-timer. Even Se Hee with the snazzy tech job can barely make ends meet after he bought that 2 bedroom condo (which has nice furnishings, but definitely not the luxury level that other kdrama heroes can afford).

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Wow, what an interesting analysis, Tom. I definitely learned something today. Are you a film major, by any chance?

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OMG Just marathoned this show over the past two days!! I love this show! It has become my number drama....even over while u were sleeping.

Ji-Ho and Se-Hee are adorable and complement each other well. I like that they see each other as who they are and try not to change the other person. Because of how their relationship started, they are able to talk to each other and avoid a major problem (one which one of the other couples seems to be going thru) which is communication. The family scene had me DYING!!! Couldn't! Breathe! Glad i watched it at home and not in the public. Cant wait to see how they will interact with each other once the feeling develop more...esp on Se-Hee's side! It is gonna be a belly buster to watch!

HoRang and WonSeok - this couple reminds me of the Fight My Way second couple. Its like since they've been with each other for so long, they've forgotten how to talk to each other and evolve as a couple and they just stay together without really talking to each. I blame HoRang more because she thinks that the natural progression is to marriage...which in most situations it is. But you still need to talk about it and bring it up from time to time...and in this situation when ur BF is as DENSE as they come, you basically need to tell him that you want to get married...men can't read women's minds you know!!! I guess cause of Korea society and culture that HoRang feels that she cant propose but she should be open about what she wants...especially when it seems like WonSeok is not the perceptive type and needs to be told things. I'm interested in seeing how things work out for them...they need to realize that just because you are in a long term relationship with someone doesn't mean you stop dating them. I liked that the fight showed that they were both at fault (though i blame her more than i blame him) and even when he straight up asked her what, she still couldn't tell him what she wanted!

As for SuJi, her work situation makes my blood boil. I just wanna go into the drama and beat the shit out of all her co-workers...esp that deputy guy. I'm kinda scared to see how this will turn out as she is a very strong woman who knows what she want...but I dont see how she can continue to function in that work environment I cant wait to see how things progress between her and the ceo. I agree with you @lovepark about the fight between her and HoRang.

Overall i like this show. I like the wacky and contemplative tone of the show and how its balanced out well. I was so sad as JiHo was commenting on each of the girls lives and how each one had a goal and thinks they are heading closer to it when in reality they may be moving further and further away from it.

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Hehe, I can't wait until Ji Ho meets his parents. Don't know if anyone noticed, but this show teases us with its previews, but doesn't deliver on them until at least 2 episodes later... I only know because I've rewatched episodes 1-4 three times already

Yes, I was also reminded of Fight My Way, and not in a good way, because I got so bored by that couple's story that I dropped the drama. Su Ji's struggle at work though - I can identify with that!

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Same sentiments with Ho Rang and Won Seok. It feels like though they have been in a long term relationship, they haven't talked about the future or where they are actually headed.

As a woman, I understand that some expect that being in a five-year (or more) relationship will automatically mean marriage but marriage is an entirely different thing than just being in relationship. Both parties need to be on the same page.

This is why communication is key in their relationship. Won seok is dense. Ho Rang expects more but tries to be indirect about it. Given what Won seok said about Ho rang acting "crazy" when he doesn't get it meant that this is the state of their relationship. They just need to open up with each other.

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They really need to talk. Ho Rang knows Won seok is dense and should have been more direct. And Won Seok know that Ho Rang is often indirect, so he should have listened more carefully. They need to meet each other in the middle.

Ho Rang seems to think that marriage will lead to a house. I think Won Seok does means to propose one day, but after he can afford to give her the house she dreams of putting that pink couch in one day. That small rooftop apartment and shared twin bed on a 2-person salary indicates that they're not the financial position to have a wedding, a house, or a baby. I wonder if HoRang knows that marriage doesn't automatically give you those things unless you have well-off parents.

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I agree with you. It was so refreshing to see a drama couple communicate well with each other.

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FInally, FINALLY! I managed to get a spot in a hotel lobby and fought off competitors for wifi. I just wanted to say that this show is hitting close to home, in a way that I haven't felt since watching Flower Boy Next Door or Misaeng. Ji Ho's at the end of her rope, and I'm depressed with her too. Of course, that means things can only get better right? And can I ask a guy out by saying I like to do recycling?

I absolutely love love Se Hee and Ji Ho together. Their parent-greeting was not only hilarious but it also showed how well they understand each other: he looked at her like 'I did well right?' and she gives a mini-nod back - noticeably Ji Ho's mom didn't miss the telepathic conversation going on. OH MY GOSH, the screeching cat and dog noises are killing me. Please please don't go on vacation music director, like you did in Man to Man.

Sadly though, I may be in the minority, but I find myself increasingly irritated with Ho-rang's love story and continual baby tantrums. I honestly skipped the whole sofa debacle and went straight to the friends argument, and didn't feel like I missed anything. I want to love the whole show but for now I'm in it mainly for the cat couple.

Anyway, I've been reading recaps and am delighted to see some of my favourite beanies and recappers watching this show. I picked a good one I think. :)

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I'm irritated with Horang also. I've never been a fan of the "if you really love me then you should know what I'm thinking" game. Ugh.

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Like,girl,u have a mouth,use it!!!Tired of the same expectation that the other must read one's mind...

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Ho Rang expecting her boyfriend to magically understand what she's thinking baffles me. I don't even know what I'm thinking half the time so how could I expect a man to read my mind. 😆

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YOUR COMMENT oh dear. So true, I struggle with my feelings and thoughts too so I don't expect anybody to magically understand me.

Maybe this is also because my mom is like Ho Rang in a way that she expects my dad to know what she expects and it's so frustrating looking at them! Like, adults! Talk to each other!

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Count me in on being irritated by Ho-rang's story. She needs to use her words. If she doesn't, even if she does get married, her marriage will fail.

Won Soek is at least trying to think of her, but I'm not seeing very much of her trying to think of him and what he might want/feel. I confess I felt quite mad at her, when she was like "I didn't want the sofa". Girl, you were talking about the sofa non-stop. And who goes to sit on a sofa in a furniture shop every day anyhow? Seriously, don't just lounge on a sofa but get a life, rather than waiting for it!

Also, it's a story we've seen before (someone mentioned Fight My Way) and I wish they'd do something different with it here, so didn't feel so seen-this-before.

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I somehow imagine you literally fighting off your competitors with some cool karate moves.

And yes, Ho-rang annoys me too. I hope WS will not give in to her or else she won't learn and grow up

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I agree with you on all points, @wishfultoki! Good observation about Ji-ho's mom noticing the kids' non-verbal communication! Mom's the calm center of that family and I suspect everyone—including her daughter—underestimates her.

Likewise, I find Ho-rang a harder character to like. At least she's kind and clearly adores her friends. I hope she learns how to articulate her needs and discovers her potential outside of her relationship with Won-seuk.

Soo-ji is awesome and I absolutely love watching Esom's face reveal brief glimpses of her character's anger, fatigue and irritation under the endless onslaught of micro-aggressions. I think Sang-goo sees it too but he's still a mostly passive observer.

Best of all, Se-hee and Ji-ho are fantastic together. Both a little odd, both kind and patient with one another. I'm really enjoying watching their friendship deepen.

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I agree with you about Ji-ho's mom. I especially like the scene when she called Ji-ho. I could tell Mom was hurt when Ji-ho released her anger towards Mom but Mom still tell her that her place at home is still there. Mom seemed instinctively knew that Ji-ho was having difficulty in Seoul. 😭😭 (I would apologize right away if my mom says thing like that. 😢😢) This is just from a brief scene with Mom. Now, I need more Mom in my screen.

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I have always been fascinated by theories of thinking and how people communicate and persuade. Much of my early engagement was on "how to think" - a very logic based approach, understanding and identifying fallacies and how to evaluate and make decisions in complicated situations (through analysis and outcome/expectation evaluation)

Later on, I learnt that the brain is actually wired to "feel" first and "think" later. This helped our ancient ancestors engage the "flight or fight" systems and increases survivability. To be a good communicator, the theory is that we actually should learn to engage the emotional brain before trying to get to the cognitive brain.

To cut a long (and very likely boring) story short, JH and SH are actually not very different. Both give the impression that they are more likely to move into "think" mode rather than respond in "feel" mode.

SH seems robotic because he processes things cognitively and then responds, ie. "it makes sense, so let's get on with it. no need to make a fuss". He gets frustrated when, to him, "it doesn't make sense" which unfortunately is rather more common because most people react to their "feelings" (hunch, intuition, instinct, gut-feeling)

JH is actually similar but she shows more signs of also "thinking" through the emotional content. The way she spoke to her sister in law ("don't make me the bad person") or engages with her dad - shows that she has thought through issues and isn't reacting from her feelings alone (which is kinda what frustrates me with too many candy-girl characters in dramas - they appear to react like a teenager to me)

I sincerely hope the drama remains true to these character's thinking modes and not (illogically and unrealistically) morph them into something else towards the end to get an "epic romantic" payoff in a traditional sense.

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This drama is perfect :D

I have also fallen in love with Jung So Min hahahaha.

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I relate very much to this particular episode. Having just graduated school recently, everyone I know is pretty miserable... including me... with their work and lives right now. (And you think you're the only person feeling like this, and everyone else is doing great, but then you actually talk to your friends and- nope. Everyone is miserable and worried about something.)

I'm not sure I want Ho Rang and Won Seok to get back together, just because they seem to want fundamentally different things out of life. Back in Episode 3 (?), Won Seok told her he had good news and she asked about investors, only to get a cool looking graph. I feel like that's the root of their problem... she wants a successful partner, a big house and a family, and he seems to be perfectly happy to continue as is, not worrying about money and being absorbed in his work. Because they don't share the same goals, she feels like she constantly has to push to get what she wants out of the relationship and he feels like he constantly has to take care of her needs/wishes over his own. Ultimately, I think that they have pretty big compatibility issues, despite how much they like each other, and I'm not sure I even want them to get back together; I think I would rather have them go on separate journeys to figure out what they really want. Especially Ho Rang- I pretty much love her in all contexts outside of her relationship. She's a terrific friend, a good boss, but in her relationship, she turns into someone I don't think even she really likes. I'd like to see her get motivated and make enough money to buy her own big house, and then fill it with whatever house husband and children she pleases.

(In some senses, I actually think Ho Rang and Sanggu are the better match-- not that that would happen, this isn't makjang, as the writers have clearly informed us-- but in the sense that he seems to be in tune with the subtexts of the people around him and motivated and ambitious in the way Ho Rang wants.)

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That is a good way to describe Ho-rang and why I don't get completely annoyed by her. At her core, she is a good person; however, her desires and Won-seok's desires have diverged so far from the other without them realizing/admitting it. Now it just feels like they've sacrificed themselves so much with little to no payoff. I think they need a break to learn how to define themselves without the other and reevaluate their goals/dreams.

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Ho Rang deserves a bit of understanding for that argument, too.... (rationally) misunderstanding that her long-awaited proposal was finally coming, telling her co-workers and Ji Ho, and then coming home to an ill-fitting couch probably created enough disappointed expectations that she lost it a little more than she normally would have.

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I think Ho-Rang is at a point in life where the bitterness of her love life finally affects her. She is in the service business, being diplomatic and catering to others are the trade. I understand why she finally snaps.

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<She's a terrific friend, a good boss, but in her relationship, she turns into someone I don't think even she really likes.

Yes to this.

Agree also that HR and WS are not actually that compatible – and that actually parting ways (for good) might be best for them. I wish a kdrama would explore that kind of route for once!

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Ho Rang sucks at communication and Won Seok is clueless. They clearly love and care for each other but their communication is what destroying the relationship. Like what you say, Won Seok is happy with his current lifestyle while Ho Rang wants to settle down. I don't really blame Ho Rang for wanting to get marry after dating for 7 years. In a women's perspective (especially in an Asian culture), women get look down upon if they don't get marry young. There's the stigma and the label of being a 'left-over' women and being undesirable. I hate it but unfortunately, it's quite prevalent. There's a double standard.

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Although I can't relate, I do get her wanting to marry, with the stigma and all (though I never understand why women who want to get married the most, sit around waiting to be proposed to...).

What I struggle with is that her *whole* goal in life since like 17 has been to be a stay-at-home mom, financed entirely by hubby. Yeah to being a mom, yeah to being a stay-at-home mom, but she has nothing else but her womb? What if she is unable to have children? What if her husband divorces her at some point? What if he gets into an accident or ill and dies? And what when the child is grown up and leaves the house? I'm all for dreams, but this vision she has is so one-track that she's bound to get hurt, badly, at some point.

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I don't know how she has been raised. It could be that she was raised to value her womb above all else. I do think Ho Rang's relationship struggles does follow the drama's theme, especially this episode's theme of unfulfilled dreams.

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I belong in this culture. The womb, being a mother, a wife, are the women's identities. It sucks. Especially if you don't realise sooner that not everyone can have children, or not all men want marriage and children.

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Just sending you some love for that insightful and heartfelt comment.

The 7 years in and yet talking at cross purposes is a clue that things are not well in the relationship.

The issue for Ho Rang may be that she feels she has already invested too much to pull out now and is hoping that if she hangs on marriage will just become inevitable. A risky strategy as it is clear that Won Seok won't let her make that decision unilaterally for him (and her pushing may be a cause of many of their arguments).

This is a difficult one for the story to resolve, but given how sensitively the drama is exploring these lives, I have hope that the writer is able to find an outcome - weather that be separation or reunited.

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Really thoughtful assessment of Ho-rang's positive assets, @EIPK. While I recognized her value as a loyal friend, I forgot her leadership at work. You're right—she's a great boss.

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a wonderfully nuanced write-up about Ho-rang and the Ho-rang and Won-seok relationship. They're cute together, but I also think they need time apart. I think Won-seok can try a little harder. I remember thinking that he spent a little too much time on a graph. How much work can he possibly be getting done at that rate. And Ho Rang really needs to lower her expectations. Where is this money for a house going to come from? Won-seok had the get the couch on an installment plan for goodness sake!

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I love this show.
Mr. Robot aka my soulmate is soo nice, and the girls are in real situations.

PS. The family meeting. That was gold. 5 star material right there 😂😅😁😁

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Getting quite a Queen of Office vibe from this show, not too surprising since it's the same writer. Workers seem to suffer in a lot of the same ways.

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They play off of each other really well. Can't wait to see what other scenarios they'll get into.

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3 things I love about this show:

1. The cat 🐈
2. Ji ho (just everything about her! It may be because she is a writer. You see... I am a little bit of a writer myself, that may be why 😅)
3. Se-hee's pocker face! (He has the most pocker face ever, and he doesn't even realise he is funny) LOL

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I looooove the cat, but I'm often distracted by how they never get white cat hair on their nice dark clothes. Must be a magic cat.

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I need one of those. My ordinary, non- magical cat is killing me.

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I had a tuxedo cat and a calico, so NONE of my clothes were safe. It was worth it though, I miss them. 😢

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Ha, ha! Ji-ho's always scrubbing and polishing but you never see her vacuum! Speaking as a former owner of a white dog, I know the struggle is real. (Our dog-daughter lived 14 years and we bought a new vacuum cleaner just for her.)

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You just know if you met this cat it would sell you magic potions

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GOsh i love this drama!

I love how Se Hee and Ji Ho fit each other like glove, it’s just they dont realise it yet. They are so random, so weird and yet so compatible with each other to the point that they understand what each other is saying and even able to finish each other’s sentences! I mean, if it’s not the right one, I don’t know what is.

I also love how the show is showing that people can fall in love for the most unexpectedly random things. When Ji Ho mentioned about recycling and Se Hee gaped, I believe that his heart skipped a beat! That’s admiration (and probably crush) right there. It’s not everyday you’d find someone who’s so in tune with you. And I think once both of them transition from “we can live with each other” to “we can’t live without each other”, it would be a joy to watch.

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So well put. I'm realizing that one of my drama catnips is that very transition, from tolerance/like to deep love.

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I also believe his heart skipped a beat! I think when none of your roommates respect recycling, the way you value recycling really changes.

And who wouldn't want to marry Ji Ho and make her your permanent roommate? She is a neat roommate. She recycles. She respects your house rules. And she enjoys your favorite soccer team. The world seems so hectic, it is nice to come home and enjoy those few hours you're home from work, free of worries. When you get older, you start valuing your mental health a lot more.

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Jung So-Min is so well cast here. Her ability to convey complex and changing emotions in her eyes (wow those eyes) has always been riveting on screen.

This show has cast 2 leads (Lee Min-Ki and Jung So-Min) who can carry the story in expression and is sensible enough to simplify the camera and let the Ensemble Staging tell the story through the actors actions and interactions.

This allows us to follow the complexities of what maybe a simple plot in other's hand and instead creates a show where we can see the different stories happening simultaneously and where we get to observe subtle shifts in social dynamics.

This show appears to know where the heart of the story lies and is refreshingly letting those elements do the heavy lifting.

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Another fantastic episode and recap! I love everything you wrote about the girls and their friendship. Just lovely.

I'm so eager for next week since the growing relationship between the leads will finally be explored in depth now that their marriage is finally beginning! It hasn't been released yet, but I found the lyrics to the song that played at the end to be so fitting for them, along with the gentle melody:

"Just briefly, I will borrow your cold shoulders.
Please be my forever resting place for when I'm cold and weary
Just briefly, I will entrust my injured heart to your care.
You may just pass by, and carelessly look at it."

I can't wait until it's released. All the music for this show is wonderful so far! It's for shows like these that I'm grateful to Viki for always subbing the music. It really enhances the whole experience.

Honestly, without Go Back Spouses to look forward to this weekend, I'm not sure how I'd be able to handle the wait until Monday!

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The site I use to watch it didn't translate song lyrics, I guess I missed out on a lot!

But, that's a beautiful song.

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Noooo. "Cold shoulders"?!? Lol, that was supposed to be "warm shoulders"! Well, I feel silly 😅

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- is SH ever going to be upset at JH? He wasn't even mad at her after the family meeting. Awww.
- I suppose the choice of wardrobe is deliberate: it's as if they are wearing couple or matching outfits at times. Both wearing a cream trenchcoat. One wearing a white top and black bottom, whereas the other is more "colorful" with a black and white checkboard pattern. Both wearing a tie (or some sort of tie) to go meet the parents, etc.
- I can't wait for Monday again !

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- I know right! He never really got mad at her for anything. He's so patient and understanding with her.

- I love this detail. It's as if they fit together so much that they subconsciously dress alike.

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You're right! i was expecting him to get mad at her for kicking him and hurting his knees but he surprised me with his reaction at home, moreover he told her the next day that she did well and her action did save the day ! it was nice of him !

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Awesome recap!
After watching Ji-hos father's overblown, nonsensical, emotional ranting, I can see where Se-hees quiet logical explanations would be a breath of fresh air

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side-eying the dad so hard when he was okay with his son knocking up his gf and practically coos at his son's gf who was knocked up by the son. But the possibility of his 30 year old daughter getting knocked up- he flips. Look, even if Se Hee knocked up, Se Hee is here to marry her. So chill out, man!

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I, too, am rooting hard for this couple. Se-hee and Ji-Hyo are soo awkward yet so darn cute. Too precious. I love it. The first meeting of her parents was hilarious. I can't wait for her turn to meet his parents. Wonder what his parents are like. All in all, I'm really happy that I'm on this journey.

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Oh, I have to watch it again with sound. Had to mute it before so I missed the hiss. When I first watched this I thought he must be an alien or from a planet of cat people. I even checked to make sure it wasn't under a supernatural genre. You're right it's whimsical, charming yet thoughtful and doesn't take itself too seriously. I had to laugh out loud when she had to translate what her father said to him because I had to do the same thing with my husband! He was Hawaiian and my father was Southern U.S. When they first talked on the phone my hubby asked my dad how he was and my dad replied "fair to middlin". And of course my husband had no idea what that meant! This show is just adorable and I look forward to it every week. Thanks always for your recap and thoughts.

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Only 4 episodes and this drama is going down as one of my favorite already! just give me new episodes soon cause i can't seem to wait any longer for next monday...thank you @lovepark for this great recap.

I enjoyed this episode a lot, it gave me so much feeling that i can't even express myself correctly. We get to hear more inner thoughts from Se hee and the OTP dealing with the aftermath of their decision. And from that hilarious dinner scene with her parents to that extremely awkward selfie at the kitchen to convince his own parents lol i seriously had a good laugh during this scenes. But i think my favorite one was when he choose the least offensive option and avoided romantic lines like serving her like a princess or loving her until he dies hahaha Sehee is unintentionally funny.
I'm glad the show is giving us a glimpse of the other characters like the girls dreams, Soo Ji dealing with sexual harassment at work and Horang's complicated 7 year relashionship with her namja. This was definitely a 5/5 stars episode and i'm so looking forward to what is coming next ♥

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I am enjoying all of these pleased positive comments about a show I like so well. I want to gush but everything has been said, and said well. I'll probably gush more later but for now I'm just enjoying everyone's excitement for what is an amazing show

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Ditto! I've been pretty quiet in the recaps (doesn't help that I'n suddenly so out of time and busy) but I see everyone of you who enjoys this show as much as I do and hello my brethren, we breathe the same air. Haha! Somehow, seeing how many people love the show makes me even so much happier about the show. Does that make sense? Also, I feel like a proud momma about this show because it proved that it was the little show that could. It might not be flashy (the set-up is flashy in a way that it is wacky but the execution is anything but) but it is so full of heart and so low-key and grounded that it feels like a humble show taking strides to win our hearts.

I don't dread Mondays anymore. In fact, I look forward to them nowadays!

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WOW!!.........This Show........WOW!!

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This show not only makes me smile and have a good time, but it some aspects of it are so real you know? Like wanting to communicate but being scared or angry. Not just with your friends/partner but also with yourself. I love that it makes you contemplate. It's the first drama in a long time that's giving me food for thought.

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In love with this show! And your comments.

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Se-hee and Ji-ho's first meeting with her parents was pure comedy gold. I love how he kept backpedaling and applied her careful advice to win her father's approval instead. That recurrent bits when she had to translate her father's words to Se-hee because he couldn't understand it was drily funny. And that mighty kick to the back of his leg 😂😂 I had to pause the scene because I was too busy laughing at that point. Though I have to say that I agree with Se-hee's bafflement that Ho-rang's strategy would work charm to win a parents' heart because most of those statements did sound like empty promises.

I'm pretty sure they have to work harder to convince Ji-ho's mom. Because she definitely sensed that something is up between our two leads. Her gaze never left them during the whole fiasco and she seemed mightily suspicious about the nature of their relationships. Though if that will spur more hilarious improvisation from both of them, just keep being suspicious, Mom.

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I had the impression that Mom was studying their non-verbal communication and teamwork. She might suspect something because the marriage announcement is so sudden, but it seems like she'll take her time and find out more. By the way, I feel so sad for her being a doormat in her marriage - how many tables has she prepared that went to waste? I haven't even seen such outrageous patriarchal behaviour in sageuks. (But apparently, according to my local Korean grocer, many Korean men are still patriarchal and treat their wives like that).

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I love the ode to The Graduate in the back of the bus at the end!!!

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Yes! I'm surprised that noone else has mentioned that, especially given the way that the drama keeps showing Ji-ho's movie poster of The Graduate. Se-hee's deadpan delivery also reminds me of Dustin Hoffman's somewhat flattened affect in The Graduate. I don't think that Se-hee is going to have an affair with Ji-ho's mother however....

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Hahaha, I know right!! I wonder if they will mention why Ji-ho carries the movie poster around~
LOL, yes..definitely don't think they will have an affair :P

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Aside from an affair, maybe they could be accomplices or some sort? I imagine it would be hilarious to watch Se-hee and Mom plotting something including the side and after effects of the plot. 🤣🤣

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This made me nervous. That was not the happiest movie.

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Yaaas! So glad you mentioned this, @pjk. I've been thinking about Ji-ho's connection to The Graduate too. She's had that poster since college and always kept it with her—from school, the apartment she shared with her brother, Se-hee's flat, and the dingy office. As a writer, Ji-ho must hold it as a great work of art.

The bus scene of The Graduate is iconic for it's bittersweet feeling. I look forward to seeing if this connection bares any fruit. (I feel that Benjamin and Elaine are running away from others' expectations while Ji-ho and Se-hee are equally unconventional but quietly moving towards each other.)

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In The Graduate, Benjamin Braddock (Dustin Hoffman) has just finished college and, back at his parents' house, is trying to avoid the one question everyone keeps asking: What does he want to do with his life? Maybe that's how she feels...first at home, when her family doesn't understand what she's doing, then again when she moved to the big city, because she never got the chance to truly succeed as a writer before she was squashed like a bug.

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I saw that too. Actually mentioned it before reading all these comments. Glad there are others that know the film. All the close up shots here reminds me of the close ups of the graduate—the major difference is that that makeup and camera filters now hide a lot of facial flaws that are accentuated with that type of filming. “The Graduate” was a much harsher film because of those closeups. It was intentional, I’m sure. I see how the director here is using a lot of those camera techniques in this drama. It gives it a little bit more edge.

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btw how sweet of Se hee to give Jihoo a discount because she quit her job...how thoughtful of him ^^

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I hate people like Ho-rang the most. Maybe because I'm very obtuse when it comes to certain things, but I hate when people cannot tell you what the problem is and just expect you to figure it out like you're some kind of mind reader and they get mad, like Ho-rang, when you don't know what they want. Like, why can't you use your words? I'm not programmed to decipher every single thing you're thinking. Geez. I clearly suck at indirect communication, if it can even be called that. Lol.

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I cannot believe that for the 6 or 7 years they've been together, she's never outrightly mentioned wanting to marry him. He's probably operating under the impression that she's fine with the way things are. Personally, I don't understand why she's insisting on getting married. They're already living together like a married couple, what difference would a ceremony make? Also, aren't couples supposed to talk about where they see the future of their relationship right at the beginning? That would definitely save both of them a lot of time.

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I guess we do have to take into account that it's a different culture? They're living in Korea and living together, based on Ji Ho's dad's reaction and other dramas that I've watched, has always been frowned upon. To be married is the end result, and not to live together.

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Agree with @ElleBelle. Also, I think while living together as couple are becoming more common in Korea, but to try having a child the couple must at least engaged to be married. Based on Ho-rang's wail about her womb, I believe she also want to be a mom.

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How does not being married stop them from getting pregnant? Is it some kind of contraceptive force field that prevents pregnancy no matter how many times they have sex? In any case, the child will be added to the father's registry if she does get pregnant so it's not like them being married or not married changes anything. I feel like they should have had this discussion right from the start or maybe a year into their relationship. What's the point of being with someone who has no intention of marrying you if marriage to that person is all you dream about? If she did tell him and he kept putting it off, then an alarm should have gone off in her head that he had no intention of her marrying her. And I'm only talking about Ho-rang since she's the one who's bent on getting married between the both of them.

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I want to send applause to whoever is in charge of the sound effects, because they are on point!

YESSSSS!!!!! It was the sound effects what highlighted the dinner scene. And they are just right on point, not too much, not too few ... a perfect balance that adds meaning, not embellishment, to the scenes.

I looooooooove this couple.
I love this drama!
Fingers crossed!

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That shot of them sitting on the back of the bus like on The Graduate makes me a bit nervous. I really want a happy ending for them.

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Thanks lovepark. This is such a thoughtful show. I feel like calling it a 'little show' because it's got a simple and whimsical air to it, but it is actually a show that has far greater depth and weight than might originally have been expected.

I like that the 'first time' is in every episode title. It sets the understanding that actually everyday is new, that lots of things are fresh to all of us and therefore somewhat experimental, and lays the consideration for possible mistakes. It reminds us that we are all living 'for the first time' and trying out many different scenarios as we go about each day. Every success then should result in us patting ourselves on our backs, since, many things are done for the first time and done well!!! Little mistakes/failures too are to be expected and not things to beat ourselves up over. 😜 Yeah, I like that philosophy of daily living!!

I like that we are asking questions along with Ji Ho about judging new standards about what makes for success, for peace of mind and for marriage. So much of happiness depends on how we define things. What is seen as a desperate situation that forces a person to make a usually unthinkable decision can be defined as the best, most logical decision when balancing out cost and stress/frustration. Maybe we over think and over analyse our decisions unnecessarily, when the simplest indicator - peace of mind - is what we should be focusing on. Having peace = joy, and perhaps we can just stop and enjoy that for a time before clamouring for the next thing (as clamour we probably will).

There's also a lesson to be learnt about communication here. Say it not the way we want to say it, but simply, in order to ensure that the other can understand... as in the way Se Hee had to re-phrase his answers to Ji Ho's dad. Once again, we get peace. We didn't say it excatly as we'd like to have done, but isn't it more important that the main point was understood? Win-win.

Still however, there will be circumstances (I'm just dying to watch these parts) where simplicity, logic and reasoning will not work too well. No matter how robotic and calculating our OTP try to be, they are wonderfully sensitive, human persons with a whole bunch of emotions and needs. And there's going to be a first time to really falling in love, married or not! Let the "first time I've ever felt this way" begin!!! HeeHee!

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" judging new standards about what makes for success" -- I thought this phrase realy hits upon an important theme and it's also what I like about this drama

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Nam Se Hee is the KDrama Sheldon Cooper!!

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Except not a jerk.

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I love how the music isn't overpowering in any scene. I feel like most dramas have parts where the director says "Aaaand CuE mUsIc".

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I love that Se Hee might be the most serious character yet he is the funniest one. I laugh out loud so much when he is out of character especially when he's shocked. Like when he learnt they said Jiho might be pregnant with his baby he went 'WHAT O.O'

So far I really love this show mainly because of Se Hee and the overall vibe of this drama. I wait for this drama every week with good soothing feeling instead of anxious. And I love it.

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Yay! Thank you for the quick recap @lovepark! I really enjoyed this episode!!! There isn't much I can add that others haven't already, but just wanted to express my love for this drama!! This is quickly becoming one of my top fave dramas. I hope the writing continues the way its been and I cannot wait to see SH falling for JH. Monday!!! Where are you?! Who knew I would be one eagerly hoping for Monday to come along!?

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I loved the reference to the film 'The Graduate' at the very end. I was wondering if it was going to play a part in the show since the movie poster she has seems to be important to her. Can't wait to see how those two got on that bus in their wedding attire.

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Beautifully crafted recap! Thank you so much @lovepark! You are so point on about the sound effect. This drama continues to take us deeper into human's feelings (that may be easily overlooked). It is refreshing to see the girls' friendship as well as Se-Hee and Ji-Ho's understanding relationship. It feels so refreshing to see how two quirky individuals understand each other, support each other better than the normal, boldly affectionate couples like Ho Rang and Won Suk. This drama makes me feel good all around, and makes me feel like I should be more understanding towards other people's pain and condition as well, and I thank the drama for that. I'm looking forward for the next episode!

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i like the consistency of the characters. Sehee is still being sehee (shown in the train scene where he choose to find himself a seat, away from Jiho), and Jiho is still Jiho who finds cleaning therapeutic. No sudden change when the eyes met.

Can't wait for them to meet Sehee's parents.

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their awkward selfie is my new screensaver :)

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"Who else loves that weird selfie?"
*checks DB fan wall*
"....well every beanie" XD

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Like everybody else I too love our lead couple, probably because of their compatibility. I mean they just fit together perfectly like puzzle pieces. I've never seen a couple more in synch.

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Damn this show. I was a casual unregistered beanie since I started watching dramas and now that’s all changed because of you. (so invested atm, I keep on refreshing the page)

An account of some things that made me laugh or cry from laughing too much:

1. The Tiger and Puppy sound effects on Se Hee and Dad during the family dinner. Damn hilarious.
2. The Mom looking like the Buddha all calm and peaceful while the whole family was standing up waiting for World War X to happen.
3. Lee Min Ki’s facial expressions. In everything.
4. That slow-mo of him falling.
5. And that last shot of him looking like a deflated balloon, or an extremely sad puppy. Oh dear my ribs hurt.

But as usual the ending of the episode wrecked me with the amount of truth in it,

“Loneliness only comes if you have time...”

“It looks like everyone’s trying really hard. But no one knows if they are closer to achieve what they want or not.”

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I love this show. I am still waiting, however, for a little more chemistry between Se-hee and Ji-ho. It's almost as if they are a little too similar in their tastes and habits. I don't mean I want a change in an opposites attract way, but right now I feel like Lee Min-ki is portraying SH as more robotic than feeling. I think if SH becomes aware of his growing feelings hopefully we'll see that roboticism slide into hilariously awkward fumbling. SH seems to be a bit of a philosopher, but his philosophical side has probably never been tested by feelings for a woman. If anyone can play this well, it's Lee Min-ki. I have high hopes for this show!

Oh, and thank you, @mary, for fixing my problem with the login, so I can join the dramabeans fun again!

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Thanks for the wonderful analysis, lovepark. So beautifully written! I wish i could binge watch this drama because everytime an episode ends, i just want more!

The 'meet the parents' part was so funny! Also, the fight between won seok, ho rang and ho rang, su ji was just so painfully realistic. I couldn't fault one party as completely in the wrong.

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Okay, that's it. I'm head over heels for this drama!

I'm too giddy over it that I'm having a hard time composing a decent review so I'll just list down some scenes:

1. The dinner with Ji-ho's family! I don't know how the cast managed to keep a straight face and act their parts, I was just dissolving into laughter the whole time!
2. Se-hee's very, very detailed wedding process. He can rival a wedding planner with that presentation! 😂
3. His attempts at a selca, especially that part where he threw a peace sign and couldn't, for the life of him, figure out how to take the photo at the same time.
4. Bromance game between Woo-seuk and Sang-gu is strong! I hope Se-hee will eventually be an addition - that one's going to be a riot.
5. One of my frustrations in life is when people beat around the bush, so I'm having a hard time liking Ho-rang in this week's episodes. I'm with Won-seuk's side after that huge fight - that sofa cost him a lot, both in terms of money and effort, and Ho-rang couldn't even appreciate it. Yes, she was frustrated and disappointed. Yes, it wasn't practical. But she's also coming off a bit self-centered when it comes to their relationship. I hope they manage to communicate properly though, they're cute to watch.
6. And last but not the least, this week's golden nugget from our girl Ji-ho: "It looks like everyone is trying hard. But no one knows if they are getting closer to what they want or not." Bullseye!

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Love you insights wandergirl!

2. Se Hee and his presentations and graphs. I do find it adorable though.
3. THIS HAD ME LAUGHING.
6. This golden nugget made me cry. I can relate to it so much.

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They're in the perfect place to grow together and eventually be in a relationship - while they might not be initially attracted to each other, I love that they're always respectful and trusting of the other person. It's also one big plus for me that they're not bending over backwards to change themselves, but they're learning and willing to accommodate the other.

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Thanks, @lovepark, for your recap and comments. I'm enjoying the heck out of this show and its characters. It's touching, at times infuriating (owing to injustice that needs to be redressed), and always a refreshing watch. ;-)

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