Rating:
Average user rating 4.9
59

Go Back Spouses: Episode 8

Call your parents and hug your children, because this episode focuses in on family and the unconditional love that comes with it. The novelty of refreshed youth has run dry for our time travel couple, who both just want to get back to their old lives and the family they’ve left behind there. But while they’re still in 1999, they put their parenting skills to good use and solve some of the show’s early mysteries for us.

 
EPISODE 8: “Your weapon against the world”

We start off in 2017 and follow Ban-do to a meeting with his sunbae from college. Ban-do’s friends are certain that the guy called suddenly to try to sell him insurance, but Ban-do remembers that his sunbae always wanted to be an architect and figures he pursued that path.

When Ban-do gets there, though, it seems his friends were right. Over drinks afterward, Dok-jae and Jae-woo recall how the sunbae had bragged about becoming an architect, but Ban-do reminds them that they’d done that too, saying they’d be movie directors. The guys laugh at the memory.

This takes them into a flashback, when they were fresh-faced and eager volunteers on a movie set. Ban-do begins to narrate: “There was a time when I had nothing to lose, since I had nothing.”

Back in 2017, he continues his voiceover as he stares off wistfully over drinks: “There was a time when I couldn’t estimate how hard the world was.” The scene dissolves to a new one, where Ban-do cries as he embraces Jin-joo.

Now it’s back to 1999, as Nam-gil overhears Hyun-suk’s friends talking about the takedown at the medical student party and how Hyun-suk was so angry he might go after Jin-joo.

Jin-joo walks home and begins to sense someone following her, so she calls Ban-do for help. But Ban-do tries to call her at the exact same time, and they both get busy signals. A dark figure charges Jin-joo, and she drops her phone to the ground. At the same moment, Ban-do’s phone rings. His eyes widen as he listens, and he starts running.

Hyun-suk corners Jin-joo and says he’s not afraid to hit her and go to jail for it. But as he readies his swing, he receives a mighty kick to his side. Nam-gil has arrived to save the day, and he retorts, “No need to go to jail. I’ll just send you to the afterlife.” Oh my.

And where is Ban-do? Ban-do has found his caller, Seo-young, who has packed her bags and decided to run away from home after all.

Back in the alley, Hyun-suk tries to fight back, but Nam-gil easily fights him off. Jin-joo eventually pulls Nam-gil away, and when Hyun-suk asks why she’s doing this, she responds that he’s pitiful, getting upset about a woman he doesn’t even like. She says he should be grateful that Nam-gil showed up, otherwise she would have killed him, and then finally warns that he shouldn’t bully powerless salesmen, ha.

With that, Jin-joo beckons to Nam-gil and they leave Hyun-suk alone in the alley. Jin-joo thanks Nam-gil for saving her, and he smiles at her tough bravado earlier. She wonders what he’s doing in her neighborhood, and when his stuttered response of going for a walk doesn’t add up, she asks again if he likes her.

Nam-gil repeats that he thinks he likes her, starting sometime after she rejected his request for a date. Jin-joo says that he must like older women, since he fell for this version of her, but he doesn’t get it. Jin-joo warns that it’s probably best not to like her, since there might be a mom lurking somewhere inside.

Instead, she thinks he should pursue his dream of being a great history lecturer. But Nam-gil is taken aback, since he’s never told Jin-joo his dream. Oops.

Jin-joo plays it off and scuttles inside her house, leaving Nam-gil wondering. Jin-joo’s dad returns home at that moment and sees the rich young man courting his daughter.

As Ban-do and Seo-young eat burgers together, he lectures Seo-young about running away and avoiding her parents’ phone calls, but Seo-young thinks it was his great idea in the first place. Ban-do asks where she’s planning on staying, and Seo-young’s eyes drift out to a motel across the street.

Now Ban-do drags Seo-young down the street towards her home, his lecturing continuing the whole way. As Seo-young struggles with Ban-do, her father catches up with the pair.

Ban-do tries to introduce himself, but Seo-young’s dad really isn’t concerned with him. Dad tries to take her home, but Seo-young refuses and instead takes the opportunity to finally tell her dad how she feels.

He agrees to talk if she’ll just come home, and Seo-young sees the sweat at her father’s collar from running all over the city looking for her. With a final nod from Ban-do to go, Seo-young heads home. Ban-do watches on like a proud father, and notes that Seo-young’s dad doesn’t look much older than himself.

Jae-woo sits with all four of Bo-reum’s tough-looking older brothers outside a convenience store (this must be where Bo-reum gets it). The eldest offers him a popsicle, and Jae-woo turns to eat it as if he’s drinking with elders.

Bo-reum’s brothers complain about her missing a family trip and living in the dorms, but she growls back that they should understand why. The brothers leave, grinning at their sister’s new boyfriend.

On the walk back to the dorms, Bo-reum shows Jae-woo her phone and tells him to press 0. Doing so calls Jae-woo’s phone, and Bo-reum reminds him that numbers start at 0, not 1. Jae-woo giggles as he starts to recover from his doubts, but the question still remains as to whether Bo-reum likes him because he’s easy.

Bo-reum says that she does, but clarifies that she likes that his face shows his emotions and she doesn’t have to guess with him. Finally, Jae-woo is relieved, and Bo-reum tells him that it’s actually quite difficult for her to kiss him, and she thinks about it at least 10 times before she even attempts it.

Jae-woo gives her a peck on the cheek, and Bo-reum grabs his face to go in for a real kiss, but then hesitates. She says she only considered it five times this time, so Jae-woo goes in for the kiss himself, saying that he thought about it 10 times for her.

The next morning, Jin-joo’s mother finds Jin-joo in her now typical morning despondence. Mom’s concern is growing, while Dad thinks of the rich boy from last night and worries that Jin-joo would suffer under an intolerant rich mother-in-law. Mom has no clue who he’s talking about, and shoots back that father-in-laws from poor families are worse.

Speaking of which, we head over to Ban-do’s house where his father yells at his mother for leaving the water running as she washes the dishes. Mom fights back and calls Dad a cheapskate. Ban-do overhears and defends his father, saying that his father works hard and doesn’t want to have to be worried about money.

But Ban-do goes too far and stresses how little his father makes, and his father smacks his head for it. Dad doesn’t realize that Ban-do has his own experiences of working hard for little reward.

Mom asks Jin-joo who Seo-jin is, having heard her crying about him every night. Jin-joo can’t tell Mom the truth, so Mom assumes that it’s a boy who dumped her. Rather than answer, Jin-joo suggests going to a public bath together.

At school, Seol turns in a request for a leave of absence. Bo-reum finds out from the school staff, but they don’t have any details as to why Seol is leaving.

Meanwhile, Ban-do meets up with Seo-young to see how the talk with her parents went. Seo-young is pleased with the compromise they made that’ll let her take a break from competitions. She can’t help but note Ban-do’s old-man behavior as he makes dad jokes and defends her parents’ perspective.

Seo-young suddenly asks, “You don’t like me, do you?” Ban-do’s caught off guard, but he doesn’t argue either. Seo-young says that she always thought he liked her, until she realized that Ban-do looks at her like her father does. Seo-young doesn’t seem hurt, though, and gently teases Ban-do while he seems to be contemplate this revelation.

In class, Ban-do’s sunbae brags about his architectural design in class to the other students. Jae-woo makes kissy faces at his phone, and Ban-do seems to accept that there’s nothing he can do to prevent Jae-woo from falling in love with Bo-reum.

The students receive their reports back from the beginning of the semester about what they think their lives will be like in 20 years. Sunbae reads his aloud and announces that he’s going to lead the way in eco-friendly construction.

As Sunbae finishes his report, Ban-do recalls the meeting he had with him in 2017, when his sunbae seemed ashamed as he attempted to sell Ban-do an insurance policy. Returning from his memory, Ban-do gets his own paper back and reads his hopes for 20 years in the future: best movie director in Korea, a win at the Baeksang Arts Awards, and a nomination at Cannes. He grunts a laugh at his former self’s high hopes.

At the public bath, Mom insists on drying Jin-joo’s hair for her, and Jin-joo enjoys the motherly affection. A bath employee compliments the two on their close relationship, and the employee shares that she has a daughter attending Jin-joo’s university on scholarship.

Outside the bath, Jin-joo watches as her mother fawns over a baby in a stroller. Mom recalls how cute Jin-joo was as a baby, and Jin-joo can’t help but say, “You’d be so happy to see my son.” Mom laughs at her daughter, but her smile fades when she sees Jin-joo’s sad eyes.

Jin-joo takes us to a flash-forward to when Seo-jin was born. Ban-do and his parents cooed over the new baby and gushed how much he looked like Ban-do. No one was there from Jin-joo’s family, since her mother had passed and she stopped speaking with Dad.

Alone in her hospital room later, Jin-joo cried as she looked at a photo of her and her mother from her wedding. Returning to 1999, Jin-joo hugs Mom tightly.

At school, word of Seol’s disappearance starts to spread. Ban-do recalls how upset Jin-joo was when this happened in the real 1999. Dok-jae darts past Ban-do and Jae-woo, off to steal money from his dad so that he can replace the shredded wallet.

The remaining friends gather to discuss Seol’s disappearance. Seol left handmade coasters for Jin-joo and Bo-reum, and Ban-do recognizes Jin-joo’s it from their home in the future. Bo-reum hopes that if they just wait, Seol will return, but Jin-joo and Ban-do know better.

Seol’s mom didn’t know about the leave of absence when Bo-reum called, but Bo-reum hadn’t felt it was right to tell her. Both Jin-joo and Ban-do see it from a parental perspective and insist that they need to tell Seol’s parents.

Ban-do walks Jin-joo home and takes the opportunity to ask if she knows the reason why Bo-reum broke up with Jae-woo. Jin-joo says she doesn’t and that it’s none of his business.

Ban-do seems flippant about Seol’s disappearance at first, but then he reassures Jin-joo that they’ll start searching for her tomorrow. Jin-joo is surprised and reminds him that he didn’t want to look for Seol in the actual 1999, and he admits that he was young and thought he was being considerate.

But now he gets it, and points out that Jin-joo cares so much that she held on to the coaster from Seol for 18 years, even when Ban-do told her to throw it out.

Ban-do changes the subject to ask if Jin-joo got home okay last night. Jin-joo starts to tell him that Dr. Park turned up, but then changes her mind. Ban-do presses, and Jin-joo admits that she called Ban-do because something happened, but he hadn’t been there for her—just like he’s never been there for her when she needed him most.

Ban-do stutters in surprise at her words as Jin-joo heads inside, but on his walk home, he knows exactly what she means. He thinks back to the future, when Jin-joo’s mother was ill.

In that future, Jin-joo cried on the phone as she begged Ban-do to hurry home. It seems he didn’t make it, because at Mom’s funeral, Jin-joo says that because of him, she wasn’t able to see her mother one last time before she died.

Drifting back to 1999, Ban-do find Jin-joo’s mom standing in front of him, in front of the house. Mom recognizes him from their last encounter, then thinks back to her daughter’s reaction to him and asks him if his name is Seo-jin.

Ban-do freezes when he hears his son’s name from Mom, but Mom continues that Seo-jin is the boy her daughter has been crying over every night. Ban-do blurts out his name, however, clarifying that he’s not Seo-jin.

Dok-jae sneaks up to his father’s restaurant, and waits for his father to finish trimming the hedges before he heads inside. He creeps to the cash register and starts taking bills, but his father catches him in the act and chases him through the restaurant with the gardening shears.

Dok-jae locks himself in a back room, which also happens to be occupied by Seol. She’s started working at the restaurant, unaware that Dok-jae’s father was the owner. Dok-jae tries to use Seol as a hostage, and threatens to Dad to keep her locked in with him until overtime pay kicks in. Dad seems to give up for now, though his crazy eyes suggest this isn’t the end of the confrontation.

Seol tells Dok-jae that she left school because she couldn’t decide on a major, and instead she hopes to get ahead by entering the workforce early. Seol makes Dok-jae promise that he won’t tell anyone where she is. Dok-jae swears that he can keep a secret.

A drilling sound brings Dok-jae’s attention back to the door. His father has removed the hinges and drags Dok-jae out by the ear.

Back at school, Jin-joo and Bo-reum meet with Seol’s mom and learn that Seol’s father has had to stay home from work with a back injury. Jae-woo and Dok-jae join them, and Dok-jae does a miserable job of lying that he hasn’t seen Seol. He says they shouldn’t worry, but once he hears that Seol’s mom has reported her missing, he gives in.

Jin-joo and Bo-reum find Seol at the restaurant, a remorseful Dok-jae trailing behind them. Seol explains that her father lost his small business during the 1997 financial crisis and she feels guilty for spending her parents’ money on college. She was reluctant to talk about it with her friends for fear of ruining their carefree happiness.

Jin-joo tells Seol that this is what parents do, and that running away won’t make her parents happy. Seol says that her mom works too hard scrubbing backs at the bath, even injuring her hands in the process, but that’s when her mother’s voice chimes in: “I do it because I want to.”

Mom asks if parents aren’t allowed to take care of their children if they fail at their businesses. Even though they failed once, she says, they can pick themselves up again for their children. Seol embraces her mother as the girls watch on, and Dok-jae wipes away his tears from afar.

Jin-joo and Bo-reum head back together, and Bo-reum observes that Jin-joo has been acting so mature lately. Jin-joo laughs about sounding like an old lady, but she falters when she sees a mom pushing a stroller. The mom looks just like Jin-joo did as a harried mom, feeling self-conscious about her sloppy appearance, just like Jin-joo felt under the gaze of younger women.

At Ban-do’s house, he sits and stares at two peaches on his desk, thinking back to his encounter earlier with Jin-joo’s mom. After he confirmed that he was not Seo-jin, Mom felt bad and gave him two peaches from her groceries, which she’d bought because Jin-joo loves peaches.

This triggers a memory in Ban-do, of him eating apples with Seo-jin. Jin-joo talked on the phone with her sister, who promised to send fruit, and Jin-joo asked for anything except peaches. It weighs on Ban-do now, remembering how she’d loved peaches.

Back in 1999, Ban-do continues to stare at the fruit until his father barges in and asks what he’s doing with peaches when he’s allergic to them. Ban-do doesn’t bother answering as he rushes out the door.

A poster for the children’s dinosaur museum catches Jin-joo’s eye on her commute home, and she can’t help but recall her Seo-jin’s love for dinosaurs and sweet times spent with her son.

Ban-do races for Jin-joo’s house and arrives just as Jin-joo walks up the stairs, tears streaming down her face. Ban-do remains unnoticed at the top of the stairs, and though he starts to reach his hand out, he then draws it back without a word. Tears streak Ban-do’s face as well as he dejectedly turns for home.

At home, Ban-do drinks alone. The next morning, he wakes up… to find himself back in his home in 2017. From the other room, Jin-joo calls for him to get up. In the kitchen, there’s 2017 Jin-joo, and Ban-do embraces her with tears in his eyes. “We’re back, right? I’m so relieved.”

Epilogue

We come back to that insurance sales pitch from Ban-do’s college sunbae. Ban-do says he’s been looking for a good plan and accepts the offer, and Sunbae relaxes. Ban-do tells him he should reach out to his fellow classmates, and Sunbae admits he’s been embarrassed to attend any of the reunions because he failed to become an architect.

Ban-do waves it off, saying they all had dreams back in college, and then Sunbae brings up his kid, and says that there’s nothing he can’t do for him.

The two men share a meal and show off photos of their sons. In voiceover, Ban-do narrates: “Youths may have dreams and passion as their weapon. But we have a bigger weapon that helps us fight against anything we face in this world.”

And now we’re back to the day Seo-jin was born. Ban-do and Jin-joo admire him through the glass. Jin-joo asks Ban-do to help her protect their son always, and Ban-do agrees, smiling and crying as he embraces Jin-joo.

COMMENTS

What is this ending? Is Ban-do really back in the future? And if so, did he return without Jin-joo? Is there the possibility that there’s a version of time-travel Jin-joo out there now interacting with a completely oblivious, original-1999 Ban-do? And since Ban-do and Jin-joo seem to still be together in 2017, have the actions of the past changed something? I have so many questions. This is totally not what I was expecting at this point in the show, but depending on how they handle it, it could really nicely spice up the slow and steady pace we’ve had so far. I hope we at least get a lot of Seo-jin’s smiles next week.

This show went and took my words from last week and spat them right back at me, in a really nice way. I was certain we were heading toward Ban-do rediscovering his lost passions and going for it this second time, but instead, this episode took some time to break apart that time travel trope. No matter how dedicated or passionate, sometimes the future doesn’t turn out how you expect it to (just like Ban-do’s sunbae). Future Ban-do might not remember what his passions were anymore, but it’s not because they weren’t there. Time has eroded those old passions, but also filled him up with new ones, and this is where the show brings us back to the point it’s been hinting at all along—life can really knock you down, but your children renew your purpose.

And parents are certainly the focus of this episode. Ban-do and Jin-joo come closer and closer to one another as they reclaim their identities as parents, and that identity helps provide some helping hands to their friends. Problems they couldn’t solve in 1999 because they lacked perspective are easily solved when they’re now willing to think like adults and get their friend’s parents involved.

We saw the shape of several families in this episode, including Seo-young’s concerned dad, Bo-reum’s tough-yet-goofy brothers, and Seol’s hard-working mom. Jin-joo and Ban-do’s perspectives as parents themselves expand the world and reveal the family scaffolding that’s usually hidden in the background, just in time to remind these college students that they don’t have to solve everything on their own.

And thanks to all this parenting, a lot of lingering questions were wrapped up in this episode. Seol no longer disappears form their lives, and we now know the final piece of the puzzle surrounding Jin-joo’s mother’s death. Perhaps we’ll still fill in more details if we get to see what kept Ban-do from reaching Jin-joo in time, but we now understand at least why Jin-joo feels as though Ban-do has abandoned her.

As Seol’s mother said, you can fail at your business and your first try at life, but you pick yourself up again for your children. Ban-do has been so focused on the opportunity of getting a do-over in the past that he’s missed this point up until now. The solution to life’s problems isn’t about dwelling on mistakes of the past, but rather by pushing forward and overcoming, for the sake of those who depend on you. Which brings us to Ban-do’s current hang-up. He’s felt like a failure for a while when it comes to Jin-joo, because he failed to be there for her when her mother died. He blames himself for their fallout, and it seems like he’s been focused on what could have been different in the past, rather than looking to do better in the future.

But I feel like Ban-do is on his way to finally figuring things out. He starts to come around in this episode, in all the ways I’ve wanted him to. He totally gets that his interest in Seo-young wasn’t serious, he wants to spend more time with Jin-joo, and he starts to see how heartsick she’s been about losing her life in the future with their son. And just like she reminded him of the things in life that he loves, he starts to remember the things that Jin-joo loved as well.

There’s a lot of that, remembering the little things that people love, and the things that a person gives up for another. The moment where Ban-do stares at the peaches that Jin-joo’s mother gave him and realizes that this is something that she gave up for him; it’s this really adult sort of response to the question, “What does love look like?”

As Ban-do starts to learn how to be an adult, one of our second lead ships sink. The dissolution of Seo-young and Ban-do went exactly as I had hoped it would, though, and it all seems for the best. No feelings were hurt, because Seo-young has been feeling the parental vibes from him for a while. She takes it really well, and I’m super happy that she’s found a new friend who helped her stand up to her parents’ demands.

I fear that letting Nam-gil down, however, is going to be a lot messier for Jin-joo. He’s well past smitten, and I’m bracing for some second lead heartbreak pretty soon.

RELATED POSTS

Tags: , ,

59

Required fields are marked *

I saw on some pages that this show only has 12 episodes, huhu. This is such a gem.
What a cliffhanger! I can't wait for the next episodes. I love how this show keeps me on tenterhooks every single week. The remaining mysteries are why Boreum broke up with Jaewoo and the biggest question: when will JJ and BD go back to their timeline and how would the future change due to their actions.
GBS, surprise me!

4
5
reply

Required fields are marked *

Comment was deleted

1
reply

Required fields are marked *

it's actually 16 episodes not 12.

0
4
reply

Required fields are marked *

Unfortunately GBS have 12 eps as stated in kbs website. Huhuhu

1
2
reply

Required fields are marked *

OMG! Really?

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Nooo :( :(

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

12 Episodes only. This drama is based on a web toon so that's maybe one of the reason it has 12 episodes. Maybe if the ratings are high there's a possibility of extension but seeing the ratings now even though the drama are really good extension is not gonna happen.

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Wow, really great comments, abirdword, thank you.

Very touching episode, I cried more than once. I'm with you, I'm curious to see if Bando really came back to 2017 (maybe it's a dream?), and without Jinjoo... I mean the 2017 Jinjoo who went back to 1999. Time travel is so confusing.

6
2
reply

Required fields are marked *

The lighting in that final scene is very bright and gives everything a washed-out quality, which also made me think that he's dreaming.

2
reply

Required fields are marked *

I think Bando is dreaming too. If he isn't he would've woken up with a hangover in his parents house as that was the last place he was at. He may be starting to realise how important Jinjoo and his child is and somehow dream about being back - earlier he was such an ass about having gotten back his youth.

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Jin-joo and Ban-do might be given this second chance to re-appreciate their partner and marriage life, and rebuilding a happier, healthier, and equal relationship. But their little vacation to the past has also become a sweet gift for their families, friends, and even their respective first love.

I love how it gave mom a chance to spend a lot of time with a more mature, thoughtful, and warm-hearted Jin-joo. How it enable Dr. Park's girlfriend to have a happier life (and also delivered a just punishment for that slimeball). How it help the college friends to find out about Seol's problem. And how it nudge both Nam-gil and Seo-young to be a bit happier while pursuing their dreams.

I also love how Ban-do and Jin-joo come to like the fact that now they are in their late 30s through all those experiences. Sure, it's not a vibrant age like their 20s. But every age come in different flavors, with different responsibilities and advantages. And it's lovely to see them realizing that it's not a bad thing to be an ahjumma and ajusshi.

16
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Even though I’ve enjoyed the K-drama there are things bothering me.
First, if they’ve married young, does it mean that they both didn’t finish college? Thus making Ban Do settle for a lowly salesman and Jin Joo a homemaker?

Second, it seems they’ve conceived quite late as per Jin Joo they’re 38 years old and Seo Jin is probably a year-old. Did Jin joo remained a housewife all this time?

Third, why Jin joo must wait for Ban Do to go to her Mom? Korea is not like Saudi where women must wait for a husband or a male companion to come outside.

I hoped that the writer must not only address shortcomings of the husband. They must also show Jin Joo future realizations whatever that maybe.

5
11
reply

Required fields are marked *

I agree with your second point. What exactly was Jin joo doing all those years before she had Seo jin?? The show hasn't told us if she finished her degree or not. We don't know if she had a job or not. So I hope the Show clarifies these questions soon!

As for your third point, I'll reserve my judgement until they tell us exactly what happened and why Jin joo couldn't go see her mum by herself. There must be more to it than just Ban do not taking her to see her mum...

2
reply

Required fields are marked *

In 1999, they were freshmen, as in 19 years old. they got married in 2004 when they were 24 so I think they finished college.

5
reply

Required fields are marked *

I don't like your tone. It's as if it's wrong for a person to choose to be a homemaker.

5
8
reply

Required fields are marked *

It's not that there's anything wrong about being a home maker, but in the past so many of their problems were about their lack of money (to the point that he even sold her jewellery!) that it seems strange that Jin Joo didn't get a job. Especially before they had Seo Jin.

4
6
reply

Required fields are marked *

I think she did have a job. In episode 3, we start with a flashback to earlyish in their married life. Before they got bitter and pre-Seo-jin. Jin-joo is sitting at the kitchen table going through bills, and she says she can't cover everything even with her paycheck combined with his.

Now, I think is was a job, not a career, hence the "My life was ruined by marrying you, I could have been a judge!" rant. But Jin-joo was doing more than keeping house all those years they were trying for a baby.

5
5
reply

Required fields are marked *

Ah, I totally missed that! Thanks @amilia

1

Although as a college grad then, I wonder why she didn't find a job that was able to cover their expenses. Especially when it's a dual-income household with just 2 college-educated people. If she got a job, why was she under-employed????

It's not like College Degrees were deemed worthless in 2004, like it sort of is in 2017.

0

During my early years of marriage, we experienced a lot of money problems and i totally understand this kind of issue, once my second son fell and cracked the skin on the forehead and it is 1 cm and i didnt have taxi fee to go to the emergency care for stitches and it reminds me of that stage of life everytime when i see it. I try to make sure this kind of shortfall never happens. and i am also a homemaker to make sure my kids are happy, safe and husband has no worries while working and i also started doing little business at home becoz we need extra income for food and clothes and bills since we have 3 kids. I totally get Jin Joo for being like this but Ban Do is in my shitty list. My husband never puts me down like Ban Do. I also see women with husbands like Ban Do and i wonder why they put up with such people. In real life that kind of people dont fix themselves and they stay the same. Since it is drama, seems we are gonna see happy ending with Ban Do and Jin Joo.

3

@peeps Yes, she was a college grad. But she was also a history major. 'Bout the only thing you can do with a history degree is go to grad school.

(I'm also a college grad history major. I am now an office manager. It's the sort of job I didn't need a degree for.)

3

Yes... I was about to mention that she did have a job. But I am also thinking that she might have been the one who is earning more than Ban Do, because she kept mentioning how she would have earned more than Ban Do even if she sold gums.

She seems to be the one who has a clearer mind on their finances than Ban Do. Couple that with the fact that we know Ban Do took 5 times to get enrolled in the worst major... While Jin Joo's History major seems like a tough nut coz Nam Gil who is her senior became the top History tutor and Seol took a scholarship to get into the major and how Seol's mum was saying that Jin Joo must be good in study in order to get into the university.

So I am guessing that when Jin Joo made that choice to became a housewife, it hurted them more than ever finanically. So it could be why she was so bitter towards Ban Do in terms of money.

1

I'm going to have to agree with Snowbear on all these points, I've been wondering about it all this time. No, there's nothing wrong with being a homemaker in itself, but for a college-educated wife with no children (or any sort of dependents), it's incredibly impractical to be a a full-time housewife if they're struggling financially. And it was shown that even before Seojin, money was tight. Even part-time work would've alleviated some of that financial stress, and in turn, relieved some of the strain on their marriage.

As a fully self-sufficient adult, I'm seriously questioning that choice. No, there's nothing wrong with that choice per se, but it wasn't appropriate given their situation.

2
reply

Required fields are marked *

I'm loving it. I laughed. I cried. I cried buckets. It's been a while since kdrama made me cry. I was always on the verge of crying whenever I watch Jinjoo-umma scenes but this episode opened the floodgate. Seol and her family's struggle really resonated with me not because I was in the same situation but because it made me look back and realize how ungrateful I was to my parents when I was studying. Seol mentioning how her mom has to scrub someone else's back just so she could buy her book and how her dad cannot rest for a month because she has to pay her tuition fee made me think of all the sacrifices my parents made so that my sister and I could finish school. I wish I had an ounce of Seol's maturity back then. I didn't act entitled but there were instances when I refused secondhand materials just because everyone is getting new ones. When money was tight, my dad especially would ask me if it's possible to buy something cheaper but my stupid, younger me won't allow that just because I want to be the same as everyone else. Oh if only I could go back and talk to my younger self.

I rewatch the episode with a face mask on thinking that it won't affect as much. I was wrong. I still cried. So there I was marinating in my own tears for half an hour. Luckily my tears plus whatever is on the mask did wonders to my skin.

16
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

if the present jin-joo is not the actual jin-joo who time travelled back to 1999 then does that mean she's still back in 1999? it's confusing. and I'm really curious how the time travel works.hope it is explained in later episodes.

1
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Wow what a cliff hanger! It seems to me ban do came back to the time where jin joo hasn't come back...

& it seems if was right about my guess that nam gil might come to save jin joo :-P

2
3
reply

Required fields are marked *

It also looked like he came back to a future where Seo-jin doesn't exist. Or maybe I am crazy. But it looked like a little girl in the photo on the table. I posted a screencap of it on my wall. Tell me if I am seeing things!

1
2
reply

Required fields are marked *

I actually wondered that for a moment, myself, lol. But I went back to check and the same photo is there before they go back.

It might actually be because Seo-jin is played by a girl?
So if they used an actual younger photo of her, than that could explain the clothes not being as boyish.

2
1
reply

Required fields are marked *

Oh, good! Thank you! @outofthisworld posted on my wall with a link to the little actress's instagram, but I was still worried that she was now playing a daughter instead of a son now. But if it is the same photo from before, all is probably well,and it is just Jin-joo who hasn't come back.

1
reply

Required fields are marked *

All i can't seem to get past is the reasons for which BanDo appreciates JinJoo. It all comes down to her role as a typical wife, how she sacrificed herself time and again to show him her love, and her physical beauty. Although this time we saw her using her quirky vendetta to get back at the creep doctor, but that was not portrayed as an aspect that reminded BanDo of why she should be loved. That's my only complain; this show, however subtly, reinforces some stereotypes of the role of women in society. It had a chance to bring in other elements- JinJoo being passionate at academics and being brighter than BanDo etc etc.
But whatever, I love the cast (except the guy who plays ahn jae woo, his sissy is getting weird and fake). Jang Nara is a star; innocent, quirky, adorable. Im generally just fond of son ho jin, and nam gil is making me melt. seo jin steals the show tho.

2
1
reply

Required fields are marked *

Actually, Ban-do points out fondly this episode, on many occasions, how affectionate and passionate he finds her, meddling and helping make things better for their friends and for the doctor's wife (not just him). Also, her singing. I don't think he was just reminded of her beauty at the performance, but also of how talented she is and how much she has to offer the world. So I actually think the show is doing a great job of showing how he's beginning to value her in the right way.

8
reply

Required fields are marked *

This episode did not help in reducing SLS. In fact, it made it worse. This is going to be difficult for me to handle when it comes to an end.

3
4
reply

Required fields are marked *

Come come, let's hug our tissue boxes and cry a river for Nam Gil oppa ( we all know he won't end up with Jin Joo, but please be gentle with his heart and his *cough*hot long legs*cough).

5
2
reply

Required fields are marked *

Tissues and YouTube videos of gentle (gorgeous face long legs) NamGil and sweet JinJoo! Hugs!

1
reply

Required fields are marked *

I especially hate the fact that the ass Bando was not the one rushing to Jinjoo's rescue. How dumb is he? He should know what a vindictive person that jerk Dr. Park is but he let Jinjoo walk home alone.
I hope the final scene of Bando returning to 2017 is just a dream. However, when they both return, both will get a chance for a second choice. After all, both Nam Gil and Seo Young are still single in 2017 too. Then we don't have to sacrifice baby.
I know... this theory makes it sounds so much I want Jinjoo to end up with Nam Gil.

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Yes, I need more Nam Gil. Give us a second happy alternate ending w/him!

1
reply

Required fields are marked *

This was literally everything I hoped for and more. You know a show is doing something really wonderful when you tear up just thinking about the recent episode or reading other comments from those similarly affected. Almost everything had me crying this episode, even Ban-do's sunbae!

I've loved the messages in this drama from the beginning, but this episode stood out for having the one I've anticipated the most: that a life riddled with regrets is still going to inevitably lead you to things you wouldn't trade, even for a seemingly brighter future. Raising a child changes you and gives you "weapons against the world" and, as Seo-young so insight-fully pinpointed, these mature qualities they've gained through life's struggles are likely what attracted our lovely second leads to them this time around.

I have so much more I could gush about this episode, but I've had an exhausting day. Thanks for the wonderful recap, @abirdword!

15
2
reply

Required fields are marked *

"Almost everything had me crying this episode, even Ban-do's sunbae!" So very true.

I love how relatable this drama is that there are so many things I can identify with at so many levels. Ep 8 is amazing in turning things around believably and I can't wait to see the rest though it'd hard to bid farewell to these characters down the track.

1
reply

Required fields are marked *

"A life riddled with regrets is still going to inevitably lead you to things you wouldn't trade, even for a seemingly brighter future." - so well said! While watching this with my husband, we were talking about exactly this. I loved this episode. Every other scene made me tear up. This show is such a gem.

1
reply

Required fields are marked *

You wouldnt believe a drama can make you cry so much. This is like a dark horse drama that totally grabs my heartstrings and refuse to let go. This writing is so spot on with its beautiful emphasis on family, parents and love for your child. I pump my fist in the air when JJ omma told BD about Seojin. Of how JJ is crying every night and wake up sad everyday thking of their child. Also unearthing the feelings BD and JJ still hav for each other. And just like suspected BD looks at the other gal like a parent figure. Not in romantic sense. Impossible he would end up with her. And its not likely for JJ to end up with NS either.

4
1
reply

Required fields are marked *

I find this drama so relatable as I'm the same age as the main characters. I think most dramas would have her forget about Seojin after addressing the loss once, briefly, and so to have her crying about him every night makes it so real!

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

I wan to comment how i like simple scenes that had so much meaning. That BD didnt know what he likes but JJ isnt rattles off a list. Thats her knowledge for loving him and being his life partner. The peach scene. He had forgotten JJ loves peaches just as he forgot she loves singing. This writer goes on the top of my list. I definitely need to watch future dramas written by this brilliant writer

4
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

This episode is the best so far! So many things that I can relate in my life. I’m in my early 20s and I tend to forget how precious my mom is sometimes and like a typical person at young age, I tend to take my mom for granted. This drama somehow reminds me the love of parents to their children and it takes me back to my memoryland what my parents had done for me to be where I am today.

4
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Is this author female, married with a child or children? There are so many things in this drama which speaks to people of such profile that I believe can only be written by someone who has experienced it all. Otherwise, this writer is a great observer and has done his/her research.

At this moment, this drama is tops in my heart. Notwithstanding that Ban Do isn't exactly likable or that there are some unanswered questions or loopholes which beanies have pointed out.

10
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

This episode worked hard to reduce my SLS - mainly by not showing Nam Gil much - but it failed, because I thought it was really touching when he made it clear that he liked this version of Jin-joo (even if he doesn't know that of course). It's important for her to hear that too, that people can actually like you for being sensible, rather than that it's all about being young and pretty again. Also, I think it shows Jin-Joo that she's grown as a person compared to the young girl she was, when she was mean to him and a picky eater.

That's why the bit about Seol worked so well too. Having more experience in life (and knowing that she's not going to come back otherwise), JJ and BD can actually help their friends in a meaningful way and I'm intrigued in how their friends' futures will now play out.

3
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

This show is a truly a gem that took me by surprise, so much heartfelt and touching moments in every episode, it's hard to watch each episode with dry eyes. But there's also funny and lighthearted moments too, so it is totally my current crack drama!

Being a 38-yr old "ahjumma" with two young kids, I can totally relate with Jinjoo, and although I have serious SLS (because really, Nam gil... OMG, so hot, so tall, such broad shoulders and long legs, so gorgeous!), I know for certain that ship will totally sink because no way I can picture JinJoo falling for NamGil, because she's just in such a different state of mind. She will never be able to forget or let go of her son, and her love for her son will always outweigh everything else. And I can totally understand that, because as a mother, your kids are indeed your "weapon against the world". So to have Jinjoo end up with Namgil is unrealistic. And so now I am just waiting to see how the show will bring Bando and JinJoo back together. It's making good progress the last 2 episodes, so let's see where that goes.

I just hope Namgil doesn't totally disappear in the remaining episodes, even if only to appear as Jinjoo's friend and protector cause i still want my eye candy while I enjoy the show. And also while harboring my secret crazy fantasy that she might meet him in the future after she returns from the past, and she decides to still stay divorced from Bando, and NamGil is still as swoon-worthy and hot as he was back in 1999...... unlikey but a girl can always dream right?

6
2
reply

Required fields are marked *

Alternate ending dream if the drama stomps on our SLS. JinJoo still has her son and she is working, Ban Do is a great father, respects Jin Joo more, both remain divorced, and NamGil sweeps in for a date. Just one date is enough for me.

4
1
reply

Required fields are marked *

I'm with you. Happy endings don't have to be a perfect marriage. Jin Joo and Ban Do can still remain divorced, have mutual respect for each other, Jin Joo has her son still, and the future Nam Gil - who is still single, as the show pointed out - meets up with Jin Joo and restart their story. I'd be so happy and over the moon with this ending. Please let them stay divorced. I just can't stand Ban Do back together with Jin Joo. He's just too much negativity for Jin Joo.

0
reply

Required fields are marked *

This episode kept making me tear up everytime Jin joo cried over her child. The mother-daughter relationships is 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Kudos to the writer

3
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Hmm... I'm really loving the tone and realism of this drama but I really hope they could show that divorce isn't the end of the world and that it is a better alternative to a loveless and unhappy marriage. I don't know, why must all divorced couples in K-dramaland somehow find their way back together? I hate the idea of someone the realisation that they took their partner for granted is enough grounds for getting back together. When in reality, it really shouldn't negate all those years they did undermine their partner. Often times, it also is a matter of irreconcilable differences so why can't they choose another suitor who may be a better prospect for them? Yes, this stems from my SLS but I do genuinely question how K-dramas make divorces seem like a 'break' for couples to re-spark their marriage. To me, it seems to stigmatise divorce even further than it already is.

Aside from that, I love how this show has been showing the family love especially with Jin Joo's family. Again.. wishing for more from Ban Do's side of the story... I feel like the writer has really developed Jin Joo, her journey and her family in a much richer and meaningful way than they've given Ban Do so it feels really unbalanced.

1
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Thank you for the recap, abirdword.

I loved this week's episodes, I cried so much! I loved that Ban-do and Jin-joo got to work together, talk and realize that both were having a hard time, the biggest problem of our couple is their lack of communication so seeing them actually talk made me happy, there is still so much they need to say to each other but at least they're trying now!

I never thought peaches will make me cry but Ban-do just staring at them was really sad, it is not just about the fruits but him realizing that Jin-joo must've sacrificed so much for him and their little family, giving up on what she loves because she loves them even more, that was so heart breaking, when he ran all the way to her and stopped on the stairs, I was screaming at him to go and hug her, she just seemed so broken and in a need for one!

I'm glad nothing big happened to Seol and they found her this time, I cried when she was talking about how she felt guilty spending the money her parents worked so hard to make, not wanting to burden them with her requests, I felt for her because that's exactly how I felt when I was younger and I heard the exact same thing from my mom, telling me that it's their responsibilty to provide for us and they do it because they love us and want us to get all the best things, there should never be any guilt in accepting that! I was crying until I saw Dok-jae's face and I couldn't help but laugh at that!

Now with that ending I don't know what to expect, are they really back? if so, why does she seem so clueless? Is it just a dream? or is he back alone and Jin-joo is still in the past? So excited to know how does this whole thing work!

6
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Thanks for the recap, abirdword. Really wonderful analysis!

With each episode, I just fell more in love with this drama. But this episode is where I fell hard. No matter what happens in the upcoming episodes (though I didn't really expect that twist in the end) I ll always, ALWAYS remember this drama for this episode alone!

Also, regarding the ending, my theory is that, I feel like since ban do finally realized jin joo's sacrifices and her pain, he is the only one aware of their travel to the past? Or it could be a dream like other beanies said. I have no idea how the story is going to go forward from here but since the drama has so far more than exceeded my expectations, I look forward to it.

1
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Wow, did not see that cliffhanger coming? The weekend can't come soon enough so I can watch episode 9 and know what the hell is going on.

This episode was great (as to be expected for this show). Jin Joo and her mother keep tugging my heartstrings over and over again. I love them so much. I am glad Jin Joo is getting a chance to see her mother again. Especially after Jin Joo cried after giving birth. That's when you need your mother the most.

Jin Joo is lucky. So many of us have lost relatives or close friends and would give everything just to see them again.

3
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

I like this drama the most among all the ones airing right now. It makes me laugh, cry and reflecting at the same time. Good job for all the crew. It’s too bad they don’t get a lot of hype but it’s definitely worth watching.

3
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

I think it's very funny how seoyoung idea of running away accompanied by hip hop clothes. Somehow that's very funny for me.

And what happen to jinjoo's sister, was she mentioned at all in the future? or i missed it?

0
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

This show has me crying buckets every time Jin Joo is with her mom. My mom passed away in 2013. It'll be 5 years ago this spring. Today is my 36th bday. I get really emotional about her frequently, so watching this show is bittersweet. I love it, but ouch... Everyone all I want for anyone to do for my birthday today, out there in kdrama watching land, is just go and hug your mom. or call her. As for me, I will hug my two kids, eat cake, and watch drama after they go to sleep.

0
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

I don't care what anyone says - I don't like Bando getting back together with Jin Joo. He doesn't deserve her. I'm in the Nam Gil camp. Nam Gil pays attention to her, and is there for her, and appreciates her. So, I know it'll NEVER happen but... Jin Joo and Nam Gil forever~!!!

0
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Crying on scenes with Jin Joo's ma. I lost my ma suddenly about two years ago and it's everything I wanted to do that Jin Joo did if I get a chance to meet her again. T.T crying buckets every time, please treasure your mum. And I've watched ep 9. Even more crying T.T

0
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

This episode made me cry continuously. Not just cry, but weep and brawl with a runny nose. The whole scene with Sul and her mom pouring out their love for each other while Jin Joo added her own insight was just so incredibly beautiful. It was heart-warming and sad at the same time because it's a plight faced by many in poverty. Having to bleed dry for university tuition whilst others enjoy pleasures that are expensive in hindsight.

And just when I had dried my tears that scene about the housewife ahjumma walking across the university campus in delight at the spring of youth, tugged at my heartstrings and my tears just poured out. Jin Joo was in a similar situation in the beginning. I wanted Jin Joo to run and comfort her. It was such an endearingly painful scene. The emotions run high!

0
0
reply

Required fields are marked *

Currently Airing

Prime-Time Shows This Week
Monday-Tuesday (June 29-30) Wednesday-Thursday (July 1-2) Weekend (July 3-5)