[2018 Year in Review] Do’s and don’ts of drama watching
by Guest Beanie
I’m Not a Robot
Whenever something in my life goes wrong, I have a tendency to spill the beans (pun intended) to my closest friends. 2018 brought me Dramabeans, and with it, quite a few Beanie friends. Being the in-denial K-drama addict that I am, whenever a K-drama disappoints me, I find myself turning to my Beanie friends for advice. From our conversations throughout the year, a common theme of wisdom has emerged. Going into 2019, here’s hoping the words of wisdom imparted in this piece will bring you much enlightenment on the mystifying hobby that is drama watching.
#1 Do you
I am highly susceptible to peer pressure, and have a tendency to watch something if everyone is raving about it. I convince myself that I like it — even if my brain keeps thinking otherwise. At the end of the day, it’s your free time and you don’t owe anyone anything. Ratings are nothing but numbers, and you can respect your friends’ opinions without necessarily having them influence your own. No one can tell you how to feel. Your opinion is the only one that matters. So go love what you want to, hate what you want to, and snark at what you want to!
My Secret Terrius
#2 Embrace the imperfect
Not every drama is an award-worthy, unforgettable piece of art. Don’t let anyone intimidate you into not liking something — yourself included. I love beautiful things and I don’t intend to ever stop loving them, but cheesy and messy dramas deserve love too. Are there are scattered moments that you love in an overall weak storyline? Do you take comfort in simple, paint-by-numbers stories? Maybe you’re only watching because gosh darn it, those puppy-smiles are beautiful. It’s nothing to be embarrassed about. Dramabeans is a safe place to gush out our superficial loves. Keep in mind, someone out there watched — and finished — Rich Man and/or Evergreen.
Thirty But Seventeen
#3 Don’t take it personally
Sometimes dramas aren’t what you expect. Notably, the second half of this year’s dramas were quite underwhelming for me and almost put me in a slump. Sometimes you get all hyped up and excited for a drama, and halfway through (or sooner) the episode doesn’t live up to your expectations. I had a hard time accepting that I didn’t like something and used to feel hurt by noble idiocy, chosen plotlines, or character decisions. Disappointment with a drama even felt like a betrayal after I’d invested all my precious time. Hey, it’s not personal. It’s all fiction, and the writers can’t actually hear our pleas.
Fox Bride Star
#4 Drop it
Picking up a show is an 8-week commitment to support a character, follow their journey, and emotionally invest yourself into understanding them. So letting go of a drama after having taken a chance on it can seem even harder. Remember that there are no strings attached. If something doesn’t please you, don’t force yourself to like it. Drama watching should not be a chore. It’s okay to drop a show after starting it. Oppa won’t hate you. You come first before anything, and your time is precious.
What’s Wrong With Secretary Kim
#5 Try new things
Prior to 2018, I had only ever watched rom-coms. Anything else for me seemed like a waste of time and I told myself I should stay in my lane. This year, I decided to step outside of my comfort zone and try things like melodramas and thrillers. Lo and behold, I found that these dramas, which I had no expectations for, were the ones that I enjoyed the most! Now, I sample every single thing that even moderately interests me, and always try to keep an open mind.
Life on Mars
#6 Don’t lose self-confidence
Willingly or not, dramas have had an influence on my opinion of beauty and style. I’ve always had confidence issues, but sometimes they seem to get more heightened when I lose myself in a drama. You must remember this, a kiss is just a kiss, a show is a just a show, and these people have been touched up and are hired to look ungodly beautiful. In some instances, unhealthy weights and styles of living are idealized. You are beautiful and fantastic without having to look or act like those people on the screen.
Thirty But Seventeen
#7 Slumps are normal
No one enjoys a drama slump. But it happens to the best of us! You’re in a drama slump for a reason: nothing is pleasing you right now and that’s completely okay. Broaden your horizons and try new things. And if still nothing pleases you, it might be time to start a new hobby. Don’t let a slump get you down. New dramas are always right around the corner and there just may be one you’ll love.
Come Here and Hug Me
#8 Don’t pressure yourself
We all know the pressure of having too much on our hands. Don’t have time to pick up a drama or watch an episode? That’s normal. Dramas aren’t there to pressure us. They are a pastime meant to make us happy. The drama isn’t running away; it’s okay to watch it later. All you need to do is avoid spoilers.
That last and most important rule is to remember to have fun. Dramas are there to pass the time, brighten your mood, to heal you. For some people, dramas help create connections with others. Drama watching has always been a form of therapy for me to express myself and learn more about myself. Turns out it can teach us life lessons, too.
- [2018 Year in Review] If dramas were emotions
- [2018 Year in Review] What tickles the funny bone
- [2018 Year in Review] Sifting through mediocrity
- [2018 Year in Review] Finding myself in dramas
- [2018 Year in Review] Thrill me, heal me
- [2018 Year in Review] An intermission with a crescendo
- [2018 Year in Review] I, who didn’t expect poetry
- [2018 Year in Review] Sinkers and lifesavers
- [2018 Year in Review] Turn up the drama
- [2018 Year in Review] Take my tears
- [Theme of the Month] Year in dramas 2018