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Open Thread #667

Happy Friday everyone!

Here is your Open Thread, which is here for you to chat about anything you want, whether it be drama-related or not. Nothing’s off-topic here! Spoilers may be rife, so proceed accordingly.

 
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Hello, Beanies!

Hope life is treating you well!

I spent three days last week making a norwegian birthday cake for a dear friend's 80th. It was a blast, but a little stressful with trying to keep whipped cream from melting in 95 degree temps😋 We had so much fun exploring birthday traditions- do you have a special tradition that you follow?

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My mom used to give us a birthday crown each year. I once told co-workers about this, and I would then regularly be expected to wear one each year on my birthday. They'd even bring me one in case I "forgot." This was well into my 30s. :-)

Your cake sounds delicious, and I'm happy to had something great to celebrate!

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OMG, I love this! Your mom was brilliant😍

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She is! <3

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I have a December birthday that always falls during finals, or the GRE or a paper....so I spend the week after celebrating!

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My sister's b'day is late December - and I just learned after all these years that she HATES getting a combo b'day/xmas card. Oops...

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🎶Sisters...🎵sisters🎶😂🤣

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I love that song!

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I live in LA so usually I try to go to a show taping. One year I went to Ellen and there were a few years where I went to Jimmy Kimmel. My b-day is pretty low-key :)

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My family writes nice notes about whoever's birthday it is and puts them up around the house... then the birthday boy/girl gets to choose what the breakfast/dinner is that day :)

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I rarely am home (parent's home) during my birthdays (I am usually out on a vacation and goes home during the Christmas holidays instead), but my mom says she always set up a spread.

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We are usually apart for birthdays too. Our big tradition is to call v-e-e-e-e-r-r-r-y-y early in the morning (like crack of dawn) to sing Happy Birthday to each other.

It's silly, but it makes the whole day special.

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In our family the birthday person gets to pick a favorite dinner and the kind of cake. We either make it all or order out. There is a bakery in town that makes a delicious chocolate mousse torte and someone usually chooses it. Another favorite is homemade strawberry shortcake.

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We are cake fans as well! Some households argue politics or religion- we argue over which bakery is best!-😉

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Since my birthday is in springtime my mother has always made sure to get me strawberries for my birthday, and almost always made a strawberry shortcake. Well this year with the shutdown we were unable to obtain strawberries. So she made a carrot cake for me instead. Her idea of a carrot cake was a layer cake with slices of cooked carrot between the layers, with carrot frosting. She put carrot on top of the cake with slivers of cake spreading out from it. She said it was supposed to be a flower but it looked like a spider. So I had a Halloween themed cake for my birthday.

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This sounds hilarious! Cooking experiments are always fun. Hope it was good to taste :D

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Not a birthday tradition, but this year the lockdown in my country started on the day of my birthday, so, obviously, I met no one :p I hope to goodness it doesn't become a tradition in the years to come.

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Hopefully next year will be a much different celebration for you! Mine fell about 3 weeks into lockdown in the country I'm in as well. It was all a bit strange!

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Little Boy - 715k - 19th of August.

Summer + Humidity. Best team. Name any other best pair.

Genuine is what you must seek.
If your actions are out of habit,obligation,formality - then they have no meaning at all. Inside heart you are cursing the other person and on surface present an image of a good human by greeting/wishing/ with a smile. Fake action is fake. Now matter how you much you pat yourself in public or in virtual world. Facemasks take pleasure in such deceptions. Flattery is a tool of deception but when you believe in your own flattery then...... ahem

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I said in 2019 -What matters is Intentions of your actions.

The norm of human world is fake kindness which in reality is Insincerity. It is blatant disrespect of others and taking them for a fool. An act made of insincerity and giving no respect to other party can't ever be kindness. Rote learning isn't learning.
Muscle memory isn't real memory. An act devoid of any +ve emotion is just a calculated measure to ease your life. Only facemask revel in this kind of kindness.
Heck, even modern day democratic dictators look far more honest compares to such facemasks.

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thirteen weeks and 4 days until November 3rd... feels like an eternity away...

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Elections must be delayed. Little Boy is in action mode and people are concerned about having an election!!?
You go party, have beach vacations, protests and then elections. This is such a nice way to reduce population.

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it's called Natural Selection. he's reducing the numbers of his own constituency.

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I HEAR you loud and clear. But what seems even longer is January 2021...
when he is (hopefully) escorted out of the WH in handcuffs

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Dream big @stpauligurl. I support this.

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I've become such a skeptical cynic in my old age. I fully expect him to win and then declare he gets a 3rd term and then declare he's the lifetime president ala Xi.
Or should I just write a sf novel?

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I mean a dystopian nightmare of a sf novel...

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Welcome to my world too. Actually I think that even if he loses he will find some way to challenge the results. Or he could be declared incompetent before then.
(I think it's called the 25th amendment)

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Last time the vote count in 23 states was hacked by the Russian military. Maybe this time it'll be all 50.

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That will be the happiest day of my life

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I fear weirdness ahead. These two guys are so old, anything could happen. Then upheaval. But then again, i'm not being hopeful this year.

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Yep. Didn't vote for Trump in '16, but this year I am. Former VP Biden seems like he's being remotely controlled by others. At least with Trump, you know no one else (not even Putin) is calling the shots.

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wait - is this sarcasm?? irony - incomprehensible, must be joking, right???

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At least Biden is a human being.

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Happy weekend Beanies and keep Beaning On!

You really cannot predict what will happen even a week from now.😲 Last week we still were allowed a dozen different contacts a week, now it is only a handful per bubble for a whole month. Places where the virus surges received a curfew and every person with a social life was forced to severely cut back on their face-to-face interactions. We had been demanding stricter rules from the government, but we were not prepared to go back to March 2020 this week all of a sudden. Things had been slowly but surely loosening up since May started, so this is a lot to adapt to on a short notice.😫

My parents have to take care of my grandparents and my sister and her family and they cannot meet more people than that. Aside from those people I am not allowed to see anyone else either until September, despite not meeting up with them often, simply because I share a bubble with my parents. Two weeks ago I spent the weekend at my friend’s city apartment, and we would repeat the fun with more friends for her birthday party this weekend. It had to be postponed because her city has a curfew and no one could afford to exceed their amount of face-to-face contact. The seaside has no curfew yet, but my grandmother who lives there had to cancel our planned visit yesterday for the same reason.

Fortunately facemasks are finally a thing, so jobhunting and many other organizations and businesses can keep on operating without need for another lockdown. I had been wishing for a less filled schedule from August onwards, since I found it hard to keep up with things ever since I came back from that trip two weekends ago. Ironically I got my wish a week early and am more or less up to date by now.

Since I am a good citizen and a good Beanie, I shall devote myself to my favorite fiction forms like K-dramas and Dramabeans this month instead of possibly spreading the virus among the other citizens. Dramabeans and K-dramas never left, but it will be nice to curl up with you all the way I did earlier this year again.😇❤️

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exactly -- everyone stay home, be safe and stay heathy!
fighting!

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I'm sorry! That sucks to be forced indoors again. I hope you're doing ok adjusting!!

*personal politics start here, feel free to skip*
I may be a minority here on the Beanie community, but I kind of think the restrictions have overstepped government bounds (I honestly think gov't mandating masks is too much, let alone quarantine, although I think it's fine to encourage it as a personal choice). It's scary when we have enforced curfews, or in Australia where they actually put police guards to keep apartment complexes in quarantine, and forcing tests. It reminded me of the Korean movie FLU, in a less dramatic "we're burning the bodies" way... but the violations of human freedoms remain, and I'm worried about what ripple effects it will have in non-virus situations.

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We’re actually having a court case here (post lockdown, when we have no community transition currently) to test the legality of the restrictions out in place and how it was done. Basically with the idea that our current government may have acted out of goodwill for everyone and it had positive consequences, but a hypothetical different scenario might see a government acting for its on self interest.

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Wow, that's the first I've heard of--would it be too much to ask for an update here if you catch wind of what happens? I think I agree nobody's doing this because they hate humanity (although I do think some might have conveniently used it to shift the focus away from other important issues like the Uighar "re-education camps")--but I think we need to take a careful look now at whether we really think gov't should have that kind of power.

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I can do that 😊 There’s an article about it here if you’re interested: https://thespinoff.co.nz/society/27-07-2020/today-the-legality-of-the-lockdown-will-be-sternly-challenged-and-so-it-should-be/

I’m interested to see both the outcome and how that is interpreted by people who aren’t lawyers. I think a lot people are taking it as “was this the right thing to do?” Rather than “do we have the right sort of laws for this situation?”

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Political so skip if you want.

I have to admit I'm American and I completely looked at Trump's handling of the situation and thought he, maybe not hate, but he doesn't care about the people. He will choose money and power over the citizens any day.
Also, when we have the mask protesters here it was hard for me not to get angry.
I'm very much in the lets stop dying by the thousands every day before we figure out ways to circumvent the new rules and sue the governors.

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@bcampbell1662 I admit I’m in a privileged country for us to be able to do this instead of worrying about people dying. Also I must add it’s *unlikely* that this case is entirely politically disinterested based on the person who is bringing the action.

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@beffels it is interesting because I know I and many were impressed with your PM taking such fast action.

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Thanks!! I haven't seen any articles bringing up questions like that yet, but I think they should be asked. Thanks again!

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@bcampbell1662 I think most people here were impressed with her fast action too - I know I was, it was such a relief to go into lockdown. It’ll be interesting to see how/if this changes people’s views - I know there’s a degree of complacency now that the border quarantine is where all our cases are.

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@cozybooks the court ruling on this is out now - https://i.stuff.co.nz/national/politics/opinion/300087950/coronavirus-pms-abuse-of-power-during-lockdown-a-warning-to-us-all (this is an opinion piece from a libertarian commentator so it’s a bit skewed) ...it hasn’t made much of an impact that I’ve noticed, but that’s possibly because we’ve recently had a wee outbreak and everyone is worried about that instead (and no longer so complacent)

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@beffels thanks so much for the update! I've been curious lately, I've looked it up a few times in the meantime. Thanks!

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Seriously!!! If it wasn't for K-dramas on netflix, I'm not sure how else I'd pass the time.

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Even though I don't like politics, Memorials is my happy pill right now ☺

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I agree.

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I think it's everyone's happy pill right now!

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I love it a stupid amount

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It's a delight. And it's just the warm goofy delight that I needed.

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Where to watch it?

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It is on Viki. But titled Into the Ring.

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Kocowa too

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www3 dot d****cool dot movie

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It's got me deliriously happy like I've never been before.

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guess i will have to give it another chance even tho i hate politics

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The FL is like us, she doesn't really understand politics neither so it's pretty fun and we can understand what is happening.

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All y'all have now tipped me over the line - I've got 2 weeks of vacation coming up, so I'm finally going to start it!

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Both female and male lead are so likeable and healthy! I just love them! Never mind politics around them!

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i should get back to it, then?

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Ohh yes! You should.... 😊

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okay, pickledragon and javinne, i'm on it.

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yes yes yes!

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I wonder if some see kindness as a weakness. The current administration of my country seems to think so. However, institutional and socially normalized kindnesses are still, well, acts of kindness. Wearing a mask, voluntary or mandated, protects your community and is kind. Even if the act is done with resentment or anger, the doing of it extends a kindness to your fellow human beings. The social contract of a community may have different norms of performative kindnesses, but even done by rote, the meaning behind them is still at heart an act of empathy. So, though your intentions may be fake and actions may be forced, the recipient(s) of this action can still acknowledge the act as a kindness. Or they may not acknowledge it. But whatever, because the action was made, and formal or not, the kindness was thrust into the world. Fake kindness is still preferable to general apathy and/or cruelty, whether it be individual or institutional. Neither kindness nor empathy signal weakness, so wear that mask, hold that door open, and treat the everyone and everything we share the planet with, with respect and dignity. (Well, except for maybe current administration of my country. They’ve forfeited my respect with their ongoing breathtaking cruelty, and the social contract no longer applies when it’s so brutally broken.)

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Truth❤

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Also, to the US Beanies, whatever your political bent is, make sure you are registered to vote, request and complete your mail in ballot if you need to, and if you are able consider being an election judge. So many of our polling stations are worked by the elderly who are so at risk from Covid-19 infection, so if you can help our election process run as smoothly and safely as possible, please consider serving in this way.

Delaying our election will only delay the reconstruction and healing of our nation. The risks of infection while voting, while real, are not as great as the risk of the annihilation of our core values if the people are unable to cast their vote in November.

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Flatten the (absentee ballot) curve!

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Yass!! Whatever your political persuasion is, please do a bit of research, make your best judgements and cast that ballot!!

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First, thanks for your post, well said.
I have many friends and family who believe kindness is a weakness and though they declare otherwise in their words (being Christian conservative and all), their actions speak louder.
Freedom's end game seems to be selfishness, thoughtlessness and arrogance and lack of empathy.
Sorry, I have no positive thoughts at the moment. Well, actually I do, but not on this subject.
My sister told me other than one cousin and me, she has no one to talk to, as in everyone else in our family and friend circle is so far to the right there's not even a common ground to discuss anything rationally.
At my age, and with all the people who refuse to listen and behave in a civilized manner, I'm pretty sure I'll be stuck inside forever. This is the end of civilization as I know it.
As far as the U.S., this whole thing has shown us who we really are.

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@linda-palapala I'm always here for you!!!!
A friend of mine calls it "emotional vomiting" - all one needs to say is I got the bucket for you.

hang in there!

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Ha - you hit the nail on the head, so to speak...thanks for your support!!
Have to admit, I'm in a ticked-off (po'd) mood today. If I get more than 4 hours sleep tomorrow I'll be back to my um, usual just plain grumpy self.

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I was a Cook County, IL election judge for 3 years. Decided to skip working the spring primary back in November 2019 because we were getting a brand new system. There are always bugs with new systems. A high school student was assigned to be my "substitute". I was told that he never showed. As an Asian-American living in and working at a 99%+ Caucasian precinct, I had never encountered any problem. Not 100% confident now.

Main problem as an election judge is starting at 5am and ending after 8pm. I usually joined another judge to submit the paper ballots and electronic voting cartridges somewhere else. Our day ended around 9:30pm. Most people simply don't have such flexibility. And it does get exhausting.

I don't have a clue on how the in-person training will proceed before the November election. The old training was 100 people packed in a local park district room.

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My county is doing online training for precinct workers, only head judges are doing in-person training this year. It's my first time in a couple weeks for a local election primary, so that will be a good test run for me.

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Unlike some US states that try to prevent some people from voting, Illinois try to accommodate all sorts of situations. No head judge. One person would attend extra training for equipment troubleshooting.

Between setting up and taking down various equipment, paper ballots, electronic voting, provisional voting, election-day voter registration, mail-in ballots, name/address changes, redirecting people to correct precincts, reconciling and transmitting the votes, I guess the county clerk's office simply felt some hands-on training was warranted.

Lake County, IL, north of Cook County, has an entirely different process.

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Also, I understand and am saddened by your hesitation. I'm sorry you even have to consider the racial demographics of your precinct.

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Last year we were verbally reprimanded due to a complaint. Best we could figure an old man who left unhappily called to make a false accusation. Or, it was some kind of a quality control check for call center representatives to see how they'd handle various voter complaints. If the first case were true, who knows what will happen this year.

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Happy Friday!
Saving my comment of what I watched this week for the "What We're Watching" thread because I watched something AMAZING this week and I can't stop thinking about it.

But in other worlds..I started reading Crime and Punishment after it being on my bookshelf for almost 10 years. Ohhh dear, I feel like I'll have to read this in chunks. I'd say I'm an advanced reader but some this is some heavy/difficult stuff I'd like to process. Any readers have experience with this book?

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I read it years ago. Don't remember much of it, but I remember liking it a lot better than Anna Karenina (good Lord, finishing that book was torturous). Crime and punishment was definitely more interesting.

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I haven’t tried Crime and Punishment but I’ve certainly had that experience with other books. I feel like some books aren’t written to be read in one go.

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There was a great japanese adaptation of this a few years back

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Hello everyone!
I haven't been here for years~ work and kpop kinda keep me occupied so I haven't watch kdramas or read recaps here...
Work is kinda stressful this days since work from home basically prevent us from getting proper rest and everyone expects us to be working all the time...I just wanna take a breather from it but my distraction which is kpop is not really helping~ i can't fully enjoy it now since kpop stan twitter is sooo toxic and my bias is on hiatus as of the moment sooo I think I need a break from it and decided to watch some kdramas or cdramas again.
I wanna ask for your drama suggestions~ For cdramas I wanna watch something like Nirvana in Fire while for Kdrama, my last drama I watched is Hotel Del Luna (because of Taeyeon OST) but it still took me months to finish it.. I don't know if its because of the story or because of me but i wanna something again to distract myself.
Thank you guys and Happy Weekend

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Nirvana in Fire 2!?

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Oh I didnt know there is Niravana in Fire 2 ~ Gotta check this out. Thanks

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I'm one of those very few people who loved NIF2 but did not like NIF one bit. And I loved, loved, loved NIF2.
But NIF2 as a distraction, I feel you really have to pay close attention to every conversation, every nuance, etc. Not a fluffy one by any means and not one you can daydream through.
For a spoiler, sort of, I loved Liu Hao Ran and the lady who ends up with him. Her character was the best and my favorite character in any Chinese drama. They were best friends, she was his confidante, long before they were interested romantically. She was his steady influence while he went thru so much heartache and agony to the end. Gah, I want to watch it again.
As far as spoiler endings, I won't say the ending, but have you ever heard the old trope "they rode off into the sunset..."?

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Lol you can't find something like NiF because imo it has no equals..
But you can watch Story of Yanxi Palace, OMG I can't remember how many times I already recommended that show though I just watched it like a week ago. It's so addictive.

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I regularly ask Google to recommend "dramas like Nirvana in Fire" but I still haven't found one as good!

I'm currently enjoying SONG OF GLORY. It has some of the political strategising that I liked about NIF, plus a bit more romance and action.

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So apparently it's not only me who asked google like that!
I don't know if SoG is my cup of tea but I'll check one or two episodes because I trust you.

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cdramas: Ashes of Love, Joy of Life, Ever Night (Not evernight 2, please!), I've Fallen For you, Story of Minglan

kdramas: Arthdal Chronicles, Romance is a bonus book, My ID is gangnam beauty, terrius, tale of nokdu

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Le coup de Foudre is one of the best Chinese dramas out there, but it is very slow and subtle. You kind of need patience to get to watch it completely. But it is so pretty at the same time, and simple and funny...
You don't see rich mean people or annoying second leads or stupid impossible sub-plots...
But again, it is kind of slow. I loved it to pieces. And I can watch it over again. So... that is my recommendation.

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Happy Friday to all you beanies around the world. I hope you are all staying safe and sane in this crazy time we are trying to live through.

It was kind of a rough week for me. Last week was great as I had 4 interviews with different people for a full time position! A couple of them were even excited enough to say I'd be perfect for the job! So it kind of got my hopes up. Then nothing nada empty space this week. I even sent an email to the HR person I spoke with first and still nothing.

So I'm back to the drawing board so to speak. Remember if it sounds too good to be true - then it probably is...:-(
My neighbor and his wife have both just gone on hospice due to health issues (not COVID related) and I really sad. We've always talked about gardening and the birds in our neighborhood.
My friend with breast cancer had to have an emergency surgery last week due to complications from her double mastectomy.
So I'm feeling so sad for all of them.

On the other hand the flowers in my garden are very happy and it helps to take my camera out and take photos of the dahlias and echinacea blooms. sigh.

Thank goodness for DB and all the beanies here. You are helping me just bean on!!!
(That, and watching so many amazing dramas every day)
But thanks for all your wonderful comments to each other that are so full of love and support.
Now off to look for remote writing jobs - sigh.....

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Fingers crossed and hoping things work out for you for the best!

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Thanks @pickleddragon - I'll let you all know when something happens.

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All the best to you @stpauligurl! And prayers for your neighbours and friend.

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Thank you @growingbeautifully. It really is hard to watch them all suffer and know I can do so little for them.
But for me I can just go out into the yard and dig things up or cut things down.

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Gardens are good therapy. Not just because they can be beautiful or fruitful or just outside with nature, but because very often you can soon see the results of your efforts. So satisfying and rewarding. Post some photos for us.

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You are right about gardening. I call it my dirt therapy. Pruning and digging up bushes are also good therapy.
Sometimes I put in my music then go at the weeds as if they are all soul-less politicians. Those weeds disappear quite fast!

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Oh, and I did just post some photos on my wall a bit ago. I hope you enjoy them!

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Fingers crossed and hoping that the good comes true for you very soon!

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Thank you!

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Urgh I hate it whenever the recruiters ghost me, especially after they gave me false hope...*virtual hug, food and beverage offering of your choosing* It seems like everyone I know received misfortune and bad news this week, I'll make sure to cancel this week on your behalf! I hope that everyone, you included can be healthy and happy again soon!

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@turtuallysarcastic - I like the idea of canceling this week. Except that would mean I didn't get to see the latest episodes of Into the Ring. hmmmm

There is a lot of hard difficult news going on everywhere - we just have to find those moments of joy where we can okay?

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Hope you have a better next week which brings tons of good news. I'm also looking for remote content writing jobs with no luck for long. It's sad when people leave you hanging, I can take a rejection but don't just make me keep my hopes high that an acceptance could still come. I hope your friends recover soon.

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Don't forget that it's August and between summer vacations and the pandemic, everything is moving more slowly. Who knows, your contact person may have had to quarantine, or may have taken a week off. Keep your chin up.

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Oh yes all this is possible but I was referring to it generally that this has happened quite a few times for me. I actually thanked a recruiter when they informed me that the position I had applied to was taken because very few people take out the time to reach out to the applicants who weren't selected.

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Thanks @wapzy - It probably would be better if someone would tell me something. But I'm still looking and am hopeful that the right company will find me.

And good luck to you as well!!!! Have you tried Virtual Vocations web site?
Fighting!!!!!!

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Didn't know about Virtual Vocations but just checked it. If i'm correct, it seems like it's only for the USA and I am not situated there. But I can be wrong, I saw some opportunities were either state specific or were written as nationwide, no such international opportunity.
Thank you! Your hope inspires me, I lose that too often.

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I think 100% remote might be okay unless the jobs require a certain time zone in the US.
Also, are you on LinkedIn? There are many good resources on that site. And they have jobs posted from everywhere too. Good luck @wapzy
We will both survive this!

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never give up! you will find a job!

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Thanks Diana - I'm not giving up, but certainly recalibrating my thought processes and attitude.

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Hugs!

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Thanks @sweetiepie54 - I will take all the hugs I can get. Sending a big one back to you as well!

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I’m looking forward to your flower pict posts 😊 You will get the job meant for you soon. Fighting!

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Thank you @mrsz6 I posted some photos this afternoon. If you scroll down my wall you can see the ones I posted when I was first laid off and isolating at home.
It's good therapy!

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힘내요! (himenaeyo!) I'm sorry it's hard right now, I'll pray for you, and your neighbors! (I know it's not much, but it's the only thing I can think of rn haha)

And cool about the flowers! I like taking photos myself, too, and just being in nature is good. :) You got this!

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Thanks @cozybooks I appreciate all prayers for my friends.... Things will happen when they happen. The best thing for me to do is remember not to take myself seriously - that's when I get into trouble.

I just posted some photos from the last couple of weeks. What to you like to photograph? Have you posted some before?
anyway - as always cahm-sahm-me-dah!!!

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Good luck! Job hunting is not my favourite at the best of times, sounds extra tough these days.

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It is tough - but I'm still doing okay. I have a roof over my head, enough food, coffee, vodka and wifi to keep me happy. :-)
The job hunting is done every day....

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I'm so sorry.

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Thanks @scifiwritir - this will all pass. I know it will.
The most important thing is for me to keep my attitude positive.
with enough chocolate and vodka, I can do anything!

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Hoping next week is an improvement and you hear back from a place you'd like to work (from home).

My dahlias are taking their sweet time this year (slugs and a snail infestation in mid spring didn't help that any). Not a single plant in bloom yet. At least the neighborhood deer don't like them.

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Hi Everyone, and Happy Eid Al Adha to all who celebrate it!

I'm watching IOTNBO and thought I'd try Flower of Evil. Gosh! Intense! Now I'm feeling beleagured by psychopaths/sociopaths and characters of various personality disorders! LOL. I was looking up how many people might have these disorders ... I thought the percentage would be low, but I'm surprised that Antisocial Personality Disorder might be as high as 3-4% across all populations. Then I look back on persons I've known who have been unusual, and wonder if I've met a few of them. Fortunately no one has been 'dangerous' or extreme on any spectrum.

Maybe it's just the 'season' for more than 1 show to be giving us characters with APD, making the prevalence of the conditions seem so much greater than it is. I find that both intriguing and disturbing, pretty much the same way I feel about the shows at the moment. :-)

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American baseball is my favorite pro sport. But after one team had players their players after only a week sneak off to a strip club to catch COVIS 19 which suspended their season, the cascade affect of the pandemic is going to make all sports leagues struggle to continue playing games.
The fallacy in all pro sports reopening has been once a player tests positive, he is removed from the club. But the team plays on. This misses the point of the 14 day incubation period for the virus. There may many players/staff who show no symptoms but are carriers. Adding to the problem is that players are not social distancing or wearing masks.
The season was always be tainted smaller schedule, new dumb rules and lack of common sense. Now, it seems with a half dozen other teams reporting cases and contacts, I doubt MLB will finish this season.

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I heard that the sports that use the "bubble" method - teams and staff stay together at a hotel for season - are doing much better than the sports that allow team members to live at home and be in charge of their own social behavior. In North America, basketball, soccer and hockey are using the bubble method. Baseball and football are not. If you're willing to switch sports, you might get to see most of a season.
It's going to be a real live research test case - too bad they're playing with people's lives and health.

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I don't know how to start this. I started the thoughts in my head, it was beautiful thoughts, but I don't know if it will translate well into words.

There are dramas that you watch and identify with. There are dramas that you fall in love with. And now, for me, there are dramas that you see yourself in it. I understand most of the hate that this character had/has. She is not a bad person, but she is cold and distant, she thinks of herself highly, she almost looks down on others. She is difficult to understand and sympathize with.

You know, it is not easy. It is not easy growing up in a family where you dont receive much love, where you dont hear "i love you" (it sounds silly), where your main "job" in the family is to be the oldest daughter and the responsibility that comes with. And being the oldest, you notice things. You notice that relationships doesnt always work. You see that, you need more than love. You see that your mother is not happy, that your father is tired of work and trying to bring the money. You see that by having you, and kids, it is almost impossible for your mom to have her own life and had to sacrifice her hopes and dreams. You see lies and things that cant be said. There is that secret that we cant talk about. There is this problem and "please dont tell your father/mother about it". And I am not even gonna talk about the memories and how things can be different.

So you try to get out of this. You try to not have this situation for yourself. Your only goal is to not be the same as your parents. So you work hard, you study hard, you live this life and promise yourself you wont make those mistakes. It is exhausting, I must say. Then you find someone, someone that can get you out of your situation, someone you can trust. Someone that makes you breathe.

It is so fresh, the air. Oh I remember. It was... 14 or maybe 15 years ago. I was so, so young. He listened. He looked into my eyes. For the first time, I saw the future and things were not that hard. We were together for 2 years. Then we decided to go furniture shopping and while we were there, choosing between a not so bright orange sofa or a basic beige one, he said he could not do this anymore, because he started to have feelings for a man.

I never told anyone this. I didnt lose just the person that I loved. I lost my best friend, my air, my future. My hard work, a family that I wanted to have, my plans. I am sorry. Since then, I havent been with anyone. He was my last person and my last friend. I havent make any plans. I just exist. Life is just buildings passing by.

So I am not asking you to understand her, or to forgive her (the character in this drama). Just accept that sometimes, life throws things at you and some people have different ways to deal with it.

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I am not watching that K-drama, but I think I know who you are talking about. Thank you for translating your beautiful thoughts into beautiful words. Thank you for being brave enough to voice this out loud, knowing many might not share your view. This post of yours is exactly why Dramabeans prospers: Beanies who show their vulnerability by respectfully voicing their beliefs and expecting the same from other Beanies.👍

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I'm so sorry... that sounds really hard. But @turtuallysarcastic is right, you're so strong to voice the experience in some way (and thank you for choosing DB to do so, it's hard to find a safe place especially online).

I don't know you personally, but I know you deserve happiness! It may not be my place, but don't give up! There may be somebody who needs you in just the right ways, who can fill your needs too. Thank you again for sharing! *virtual hugs*

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I recall in 2018 watching the drama My Ajusshi. A side character made an off-hand remark that was so 'me' that it actually startled me. I sat up and exclaimed aloud "OMG, I'm Jung-hee!"

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So sorry that you had to go through such a painful experience. I guess you're talking about My Unfamiliar Family and how you identified with Eunjoo's situation. It's funny how a well written drama can give us an unexpected reflection on ourselves. Sometimes, too much! But if you can cope with what you see, it can be a positive experience. I totally get Eunjoo, I see where she comes from. In my case, I identified with the family dynamics and the ripple effect of the parents' conflicts/misunderstandings... and I found it helpful. It made me realize how I also keep on making the worst assumptions about my loved ones, and it made me want to amend my ways. I can't say a drama cured my trust issues, but at least it made me more aware and brought something positive into my life.
Wish you can make peace with your past. You deserve to find someone to trust and love, don't lose heart (*hug)

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Having a family like this is like being in a constant state of pain, fear for future and bittersweet dilemmas. I understand and can empathize with your fight to not live the life your parents led and be someone who doesn't make the same mistakes. I know life hasn't been gentle with you but I wish you all the best for your upcoming future.

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TGIF!

My little tuxedo foster kitten finally got adopted! His brother, a creamsicle and his sister, a torbie were both adopted within two weeks of me having them. It took four weeks for my little tux to be adopted. He was the sweetest of the three and plays "fetch" very well. He was picked up earlier this week and I miss him so much.

Onto dramas,

Thirty but Nothing: the Chinese drama I'm currently addicted to. The story follows three girl friends in Shanghai who are about to turn 30. The plot itself is nothing new, but I'm drawn to it because of the different occupations featured in the show and the strong female leads.

Unfamiliar Family: not an addictive watch for me. I find it sad because of the lack of communication among the family members. I will continue since I started it, and I like the male friend. I'm curious what happened to the father who was so likeable in his 20s then became such an a-hole.

Call My Agent: The French gem on Netflix. It's very good. Love the characters, the star cameos, the European scenery. Thank you to the beanies who recommended it.

Hanzawa Naoki 2: does anyone know where to watch this with English subtitles? I'm surprised it's so difficult to find since the first one was a national hit many years ago. If anyone is watching this, is it as good as the first season?

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Yeah, I've been searching around for Hanzawa naoki s2, haven't found it yet 😞

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www3 dot d****cool dot movie

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call my agent, you say? uhm...off to look. thanks

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I'm just here to appreciate the picture of best girl Han Seowoo used this week!! Everyone should take a minute to appreciate and acknowledge her amazingness.

As for life: I spend most of my days looking exactly like that except less pretty because Chae Soobin is a real life fairy. A goddess. An angel.

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I've been pondering over the portrayal of two OTT female leads in ongoing dramas, and why I am so done with one but able to root for the other... I am of course talking about WAS IT LOVE? and INTO THE RING.

I've given WAS IT LOVE? exactly 7 episodes, and my main issue is the female lead is just angry all the time and doesn't communicate, not to mention she gets saved by the suitors at every turn.

I'm only on episode 2 of INTO THE RING, and while Nana's character wears me out with her intense energy, she's also straightforward and proactive. She tries to do her best even if she is naive. Also, she doesn't rely on the male lead, and he doesn't offer (or swoop in uninvited) to solve her problems either.

I feel somewhat guilty because No Ae-jung has more responsibilities as a single mother and bread-winner, while Goo Se-ra has no major worries except that she's jobless (and has to pay off her family's debt, ugh whyyyyyy dramas?!!). But Ae-jung is just.angry.all.the.time. I can't bear to watch her yelling at the people she's supposed to work with anymore.

So yeah. Guess which drama I've dropped and which one I will continue.

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Into the Ring is the best!

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Welcome to the Se-ra/Gong-myung fan club!!

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You dropped ‘Was It Love?’, right? I can’t be wrong. 😂

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No way! I thought that would be a hard one to guess. 😂

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I never found Song Ji Hyo to be a good actress or charismatic. Even in Goong, whenever she's on-screen, it sorta drags (Although the second leads are boring).

Compared to Nana, who excels at the comedy and she hasn't even been acting that long either. Nana deserves to have more leading roles, her agency doesn't do a good job tbh. If she was at a bigger agency that was an acting one, she would be even huger!!

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Song Jihyo always has this ‘awkward’ position in acting. It’s like, when I watch her acting, I actually feel that she’s just acting, if you know what I mean.

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Yeah. She was good in A Frozen Flower, but that film was well something else lol. Just neutral, I guess the ratings sorta reflect that cause its not doing well.

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I totally agree with you. That the FL in Was it Love seems completely incapable of doing anything frustrates me so much.

And Into the Ring only gets better...

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I think the underlying problem with WAS IT LOVE? is not SJH's acting but what the show is trying to be. Is it a comedy or a melodrama? It keeps flipping back and forth. SJH is playing toward comedy while the director is switching direction mid-scene to serious drama.

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Since reading recaps of shows is just as fun as (or more fun than) watching them, I've been waiting impatiently for the recap of House On Wheels episode 7. Man-wol and Chan-sung reunited at last! IU getting roped into paragliding off a mountaintop.

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Well this was a meh week! Didn't make a lot of progress at anything-life, work, k-dramas. I'm reading again which is good. I've read 3 books this week so yay. Hoping to get some things done this weekend. Stay safe Beanies.

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Oof I relate--that was my last three weeks. I... started a lot of dramas, but didn't find anything good--let alone be productive in other ways. I hope you get out of your slump soon! Starting up a class was good for me, I think I'm starting to pull out now. Hwaiting!

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Slumps are the worst! I've been off and on for the past few months (ahhh pandemic life) so hopefully this time around I recognize it and can do something about it. I'm glad you are pulling out of yours. Sending good vibes your way!

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It was my birthday last week... or was it 2 weeks ago? ...or was it three weeks ago? Its become impossible to differentiate one day from another.

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All of the days are really running together. It must be true when they say time is an illusion LOL. Happy Belated Birthday!

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I am not sure if this is gonna be insensitive or what but I am just thankful that S. Korea is able to control the spread of the virus in their country. Otherwise, there won’t be new content for me to watch while in quarantine.

My thoughts and prayers are with the people affected by the pandemic and the front-liners with their service.

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... I don't think it's insensitive, I also am thankful S. Korea was as proactive as they were, (with an added without shutting everything down unilaterally, on my part). Haha the new content is great, too :)

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The shows these past four months did sure help me cope with the new normal.

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Ok, dramas first^^

Train: SO. GOOD. Definitely loving this ride, pun intended. I can't wait for things to really come to a head.

Flower of Evil: I read a comment elsewhere about not wanting to get hopes up for this drama, which I totally relate too... but I'm terrible at keeping expectations down, and thankfully this drama totally exceeded them. MINOR SPOILER: I'm super interested to watch the characters progress in this show, especially the wife, because she also seemed a bit crazy when she brought in that killer in ep. 2. And her partner seemed to know about it? Dang. I just wonder what her investigation into her husband will look like (I know that's not realistic since they're married so she wouldn't be able to investigate, but still. It's a drama).

Good Detective: Continues to be fantastic, was NOT expecting episode 8 to end the way it did. That was heartbreaking. I'm... heartbroken. But still very invested in the rest of the drama! Well done, show. Well done.

I think that's all that I'm really following right now... ok, minor real life updates:

I actually left teaching at one of my schools, because the other school pays me better and offered me a few more hours. There are enough people that need jobs right now, and I'm covered with just the one--I thought it'd be better to open up that opportunity for someone else who needs it more.

I gained 10 lbs over the summer, but I'm slowly losing them! Hurrah for not extreme diets!

Looking forward to elections, everyone please vote--but please do a bit of research too! Regardless of your choices, I think taking a few seconds to look up the issues and stances online will help our society come together, more than just hearing it through the grapevines. It's not hard, I only started doing so myself earlier this year, but it was actually really enlightening and fun!

Ok... now on to my rant about how much I hate divisive politics *please skip if you want, I tried to write enough that it'd be down in a "show more"*

I've been wondering about how our world got to the point that it's at today--beyond just politics, it just feels like everything must be done in an extreme: left, right, whatever. I'm not saying we all need to come to the middle necessarily and sacrifice what we want for those with differing beliefs, I just think we need more respect everywhere for those who are valuing something else highly, and seek solutions that REALLY DO take care of everyone's needs. Not just the left, not just the right. I can't help but think it's an effect of "snack culture" that's enforcing snap decisions off of small amounts of impactful but not very informative content. I'm worried about actually putting everthing back together, because I don't know what it will take to actually unify everyone again. I'm a pretty extremely conservative person myself, but my roommate and best friend is not. And we find ways to work through it so we're both ACTUALLY happy with...

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It does feel like everything has to be extreme (which I think is why cancel culture has become a thing, because people can’t reconcile that a person might not be wholly perfectly one thing). Respect and consideration would go a long way.

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Yay for the new school. I should try Good Detective?

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I vote yes! It's not like blow me out of the water good (in the way that Train and so far Flower of Evil are) but I've had a good ride. The characters are multi-layered, and my impression of them has 180 degrees turned since the beginning of the drama. Good show, still wondering about some of the mystery, although it's not trying so hard to make it a "whodunnit" as a "how are we gonna get them" show.

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Does it have a serial killer who wears hoodies like all the other kdrama serial killers? Or no serial killer? Or a serial killer without the proper assassinwear?

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Umm I don't recall what the murderer was wearing during the murder itself, but I think it was a raincoat since I recall it raining. But he's definitely killer material, with his own style. I don't want to spoil anything though... it's good! I'd give it a try :)

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Hello, all:

Not much happening here. I've been focusing on gardening, extreme hypochondria, and writing... not necessarily in that order.

I have now been placed in the horrible situation of having to weed my own garden MYSELF. It's a terrifying situation because weeding and i are not friends. But hubby is leaf-blind and cannot tell the difference between one leaf and another. When he said to me, "I accidentally cut off your plum plant while weed-whacking," I didn't think he had beheaded and totally dismembered it. A leaf-blind husband with a weed-whacker is a dangerous thing. So i am not going to risk him yanking out some precious plantling thinking it's mere weed fodder.

I had a wonderful walk in the park beside our house this morning. Several surprises. First: a grape vine in the park with green grapes on it. I've heard say that this entire area was a farm once. Funny thing was that a second before i saw this heavily-laden grape vine (draping over one of the many mulberry trees in this park) i had been thinking that the grape vine that popped up in my yard probably wouldn't yield grapes. So, seeing the grape vine...serendipitous, no? Second surprise: a group of women exercising on the hill near the kiddie water park. Reminded me of a cdrama. Am thinking they came over from the YMCA health center that's in the local supermarket. Third surprise: I saw only one squirrel this morning. This was very strange because squirrels abound in this place. It was as if there was a squirrel convention and i saw the sole uninvited one. Not sure what the big absence is about but it was quite odd.

Other than that, i got a rejection on a story. A near miss. So i'm in a bit of a funk...as writers tend to do whenever they get rejected. I'm at the online con and i feel heavy-duty grief and rejection because at age 60 I'm so unknown. I feel as if i've wasted my life writing great speculative fiction and so-so books and will go not so gently into that good night a forgotten might-have-been never-was. Yep, writer blues. I have to drop that mentality though because then i find myself unable to wish my more famous friends well. I don't want to have a petty or malicious heart. Ah me, it is what it is.

Dramas:
My two faves are:
TRAIN and Flower of Evil. I should be watching United Effort because i like that kind of story but for some reason am not in the mood to be stressed in that way. Serial Killer stress seems to be my present joy. I tried to find Graceful Friends but can't find it. Does it have another name?

It's hard trying not to be on a serial killer's side but here i am totally loving daddy/hubby/serial killer even after we see how utterly devoid of emotion he is. And why can't i start hating him? because i love joongi. Ah the power of star power! Give me a serial killer who is none too famous and who looks normal and i'm quite ready to despise him. How long will it take for me to hate this character? Lord knows.

Have a...

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Oh no, not the plum plants!!! Hahaha I totaly get the dislike of weeding (I've told myself for a long time that I'm going to have a rock garden instead of a lawn when I get married, and just spray the heck out of it)... but it sounds like you've got a green thumb, which I do not have. Good luck with your garden adventures!!

I am ALSO in love with Flower of Evil, and our sketchy sketchy husband/father. I mean, he hasn't done anything thaaaaat bad yet, right? Ok, so maybe just assault, kidnapping, verbal threats of torture and confinement. But still. I'm rooting for them. (Please don't let him be a serial killer, please don't let him actually be a serial killer!)

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Ah woman, the urge to be willfully blind is strong. I keep hoping the same thing. Maybe he hasn't actually serial-killed-killed. Maybe he was just an accomplice. But ya know..if our heroine hasn't saved his soul yet (in good heroine fashion) and he still has sociopathic tendencies...the only thing he has going for him are those damn sexy eyes and hot slender kdrama villain bod.

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Lol your comment had me cracking up... I totally agree though. ... doesn't stop a girl from dreaming. But um... yeah he should probably (definitely) go to jail based off of what he's done so far. Whyyyyy, Lee Joon Gi? You have that sexy slender kdrama villain bod! Whyyyyy????

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I bought a weed whacker last year and am still not confident I can control it. Which means I don't use it, so I don't get better at it. I have started to enjoy weeding by hand this year. I find that it's very zen, as long as I don't have a goal, such as weeding my entire veg garden in an hour. I just grab a bucket, find a spot and concentrate on pulling the little #$%$#s out by the roots. If serial killer stress is your joy, maybe you can see weeding as insight into the serial killer mind. How many dandelions or nettles can you eradicate?

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I have 16 dramas on hold and 8 dramas that I am currently watching. That's too many I have to finish. That's it. I am not going to start a new drama until I have finished atleast half of those no matter how much I am tempted to.

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This sounds like me, but with books LOL. I actually made a conscious effort to only have a few k-dramas on my watch list at at a time. Mainly to cure burnout.

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I've dropped a lot of dramas this year which is new for me.

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Right? I've dropped so many dramas this year. And watched a lot of movies, which is unusual for me... but I can't find any good dramas to watch! I'm trying to get up the courage to watch Memories of a Murder right now.

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A fair number of dramas that I watched this year I either never bothered to finish or I fast forwarded through the last 5 episodes just to see how the writers screwed up the ending. At one point I speculated that Ji Chang-Wook may had financed one drama so that 'Melting Me Softly' would have competition for worst drama of the year.

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@amruta1009 damn thats an accomplishment. I can't handle more than one at a time live-airing this year. What are your secrets and how do you manage? Some of the beanies here mentioned they schedule time for drama viewing. How I wish I could reevaluate my career 😒

And I totally concur with everyone's having a difficult time finding good dramas to watch...it seems like the same old same old is being redone and regurgitated. Guess its a challenge for drama producers alike. During my anticipated future free-time, I plan to go back and watch an old drama which I have not yet watched. I have Producers, Rescue Me, and Weightlifting Fairy on my list. I am in the mood for funny and fluffy or like, crazy dark. Weird mood I am in...

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Happy weekend, everyone! I’m feeling a bit sad because I’m officially back at work on Monday which I will be missing my baby, who has just dialled the adorable up to a million (and started saying words! First word is not Mum, not Dad but the cat’s name 😄). But I’m also very lucky, because I *have* a job to go back to and I have a lovely family and friends - last night I got to hang out with my two besties who I have been friends with since childhood, which was really fun. So I can’t really complain and I’m trying to be grateful for the time I did have.

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Congratulations on the baby! Babies are wonderful and keep your heart busy.
But also congrats on going back to work. Will you be able to work remotely?
It really helps to be grateful for things doesn't it?

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Hmm I think my reply got eaten...anyway, yes I’ll be working remotely part of the time which cuts out an hour commute each way - so again, grateful! It definitely helps to think of the positives than dwell on the negatives.

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Good luck going back to work. And you must remember that as much as your baby loves and needs Mum and Dad, cats have tails that are within baby's reach (unless the cat has learned its lesson).

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Baby is the third in our house but cat has not yet learned 😂 or maybe has become more tolerant with age?

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After an exhaustive two rounds of voting, here it is!
The third and final round of the Best and Favourite Drama Poll.
This is where you get to rank the contenders for Best Drama.

Overall, democracy seems to have served us well. It's a good list based on around 170 votes, although it includes some dramas I haven't seen yet (I should get around to that).

https://invisibledragon.home.blog/2020/08/01/the-very-big-end-of-decade-korean-drama-poll-final-round/

Vote now!

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And if you want to skip straight to voting here's a link to the poll
https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/3VVVVZ3

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I think I’ve only seen like a third of these! Clearly my kdrama taste doesn’t run to quality 😅

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Where is Mary?!!! 🤣

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I should've voted more often!! 😆

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I'm sorry Muggy, it only got one vote.

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Also I'm calling you Muggy now.

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Voted!

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I'm about to start watching Healer.

Am waiting for Viki to make all the episodes of Coffee Prince available without the Viki pass in 5 days before I start that one. Same goes for a few others I want to watch.

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@itsmeash,
Welcome to the world of HEALER which was my introduction to world of kdramas back in 2016. I wasn’t around to watch it when it aired live.

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Healer binge is very intense! Enjoy it!!!!

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I still can't believe how fast and hard I fell for Healer. Enjoy the rush!

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Oh gosh. Healer is such a favorite. You should check out the recaps here, too, because they just kind of went crazy!! It was so good!

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What a weird week - Wednesday a virtual training on planning programs at my library - all the possible formats, health and safety guidelines (3 pages!), protocols, procedures, considerations ... I went in feeling, "Yay! We're going to have programs again!" and after 2 hours basically feel as if it's impossible to even think about it for the rest of this year. My favorite program - storytime - is definitely not coming back until Phase 4 = post-vaccine.
So, the library is not going to have in-person programs, but schools are maybe going to be on-site? Wha-a-a-a-t? Our state is basing the format (in-person, hybrid, all online) on COVID case numbers by county (yay for data!). But, what if a school starts in-person because it has few cases and new cases pop up? Quite a few people were concerned about the emotional toll (some called it trauma) of kids staying home - how dependent they are on school for their emotional health. I wondered how much trauma kids would experience if a family member got COVID and they thought it came from school.
Finally, after months of problems with my shoulder (long story), this week it's been fine, no pain, and my strength training exercises were a piece of cake today. If boring, repetitive exercises are the fix I'm going to be so bummed!
Strength and health to everyone out there! Everytime I feel like screaming in frustration I visit beanieland and cheer up (or at least feel supported in frustration).

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MBC temporarily abandoned Monday-Tuesday drama timeslot and replaced by reality TV shows.

https://www.hancinema.net/-drama-empire-mbc-abolishes-monday-tuesday-dramas-143617.html

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MBC is doing the worst rn with their dramas, so not surprised. They did this with the Rain drama last yr or a two ago. I think that we also need to talk about variety shows coming in and swooping in, b/c the ratings for very popular ones are HUGE.

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TT TT That makes me so sad... I don't like vareity tv nearly as much, unless there's an actor or boy group I like that's going on the show (which basically narrows it down to Seventeen, yes I'm a Carat). But what are you gonna do, the drama ratings are a wasteland lately. Maybe a reset will do them good?

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Eid Mubarak to fellow beanies who are celebrating Eid-al-Adha.

I wish you and your family health and all other blessings.

That brings me to another question, does anyone have fear of failure (diagnosed or not) if yes then how do you overcome/manage/go through an episode?

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*Hand up* I can relate to the fear of failure. I have a few things I use to manage it (and other anxieties), in case these are of any use to you:
1 - I 'receive' it. Like, I close my eyes and put my hands out and picture having a package put in my hands. Someone told me once, "What you resist, persists," so I tell it, "I receive [feeling], I allow it to be here, I give it permission to take up space. How does it get even better than this?" And then I picture myself putting it on a conveyor belt being carried away from me because its done what it came to do. It sounds a little woo-woo, but it helps me.
2 - Self-soothing techniques like gently stroking my inner forearm, stretching and yawning all trigger the nervous system to calm down because it tells it there's no 'threat.'
3 - Making a successes list. I take 5 mins to jot down all the things I'm proud of or have succeeded at (even little things - nothing is too small or silly for this list!). This includes things you've learned, like a language or deep dive into a subject that interests you. This reminds me that I am capable of succeeding, even if the road to success isn't linear.

Eid Mubarak to you and wishing you all the best!!!

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Thanks dear. I think I'll try 3. The overwhelming feelings are crippling me physically these past few days. Thanks for the nice words really. Best wishes to you.

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It's okay to not be okay. Sending you lots of positive energy and wishing you the best as you move through this. I always enjoy bumping into you here via your comments! :-)

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I had the worst case of realising failure this past week. I can't say I coped up well because I wasn't able to eat or sleep well. What did help a little though, was IOTNBO's butterfly hug. I just came across it at the right time, it does calm one down when you're having extreme anxiety. Also try Mel Robbin' s 5 second rule. It's on youtube, you have to count back from 5 and then think about an anchor thought. This helps in distraction and diverting attention.

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Well I was thinking whether the butterfly method would work or not. I'll check out the other thing you mentioned. What's hard is keeping the brain distracted from the thoughts it's having around the failure. This is not the first time for me obviously but it's kinda taking a toll this time.
And eating sleeping is the hardest. You feel like you don't deserve to do those (don't know if that's the case for you too). Well we gotta keep trying so best wishes from one beanie to another.

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Happy Eid Mubarak to my Muslim friends 🎉🎉

Presently I have no korean drama I am interested in. I am basically always reading the recaps. But recently I got addicted to House on wheels. Love love the show. I am even a new fan of ‘Jin Gu ah’ 😂. I love that guy, he is just funny. Who else is enjoying house on wheel.

Oh and I just recently found vagabond and the plot is just not taking me in. I had to stop after episode 4.

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Vagabond was fun as a group watch (sharing the pain?). You might want to read the last recap and then pat yourself on the back for dropping it.

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Oh I just finished reading the recap right now and my expression now is ‘what the 🙄’ After the pain of reading from episode 4-16, this is it?????

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I'm not sure which is worse - watching it (with much fast forwarding on my part) or reading all of it, to end up there.

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I actually really enjoyed Vagabond (until the end when I wanted to throw things), but then my benchmark for action-y things I like is the 80s Schwarzenegger movie “Commando” which is RIDICULOUS (Bulletproof hero! Terrible one liners! Plot that is extremely unlikely! Everyone should watch it). So perhaps I am not the best judge 😅

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Eid Mubarak to my muslim beanies, I hope you're having a good time out there 💚

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I just have to say, it does my heart good to see the OT thread at over 200 comments... it's like a secret goal of mine (no so secret now that I'm commenting about it) to comment more on DB and get more conversations flowing... I just remember the days when my OT comment would go on a second page of comments, #57 or something, and there would be this slight disappointment it wasn't on the first page... but also happiness there were so many people enjoying dramas and wanting to talk about them.

I wonder if the Fan wall has been part of what's made the comment counts go down? Since we can fangirl all the time, on our own walls instead?

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I always like to see it too - I’ll admit that I didn’t even know about the fan wall for a ridiculously long time 🙈 I feel like there’s a lot of places people can go and comment on the internet these days but DB is generally really friendly (or can at least disagree amicably) which isn’t the case everywhere

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