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Our Blues: Episodes 9-10

At this point, I should not be surprised with the show for making even the most unlikable characters sympathetic because every week I find myself reevaluating my first impressions of people and their relationships. The focus this time around is on the resident hothead and his first love, and we learn more about these two broken individuals and the hurt they carry.

 
EPISODES 9-10 WEECAP: Dong-suk & Sun-ah

The young couple’s story comes to a conclusion for now, and while they are bound to face more hardships in the future, at least they have their dads on their sides. While the journey here was fraught with heartache, this experience taught In-kwon and Ho-shik to reflect on their actions, and they finally make amends and fulfill their old promise of becoming in-laws.

Closing that chapter, the show returns to Dong-suk and Sun-ah, the childhood friends and first loves. After Sun-ah’s fall into the ocean, the nearby haenyeos save her, and officially, the incident is reported as an accident though everyone in town murmurs about the Seoul lady who tried to commit suicide.

Having witnessed the scene, Dong-suk accompanies Sun-ah to the hospital as her guardian and finds her a place to stay. He checks on her periodically, and one rainy night, the motel owner tells him that Sun-ah has been gone for three days. Dong-suk heads out to search for her, and ends up at her old house.

When Dong-suk was eighteen and Sun-ah was fourteen, the two lonely teenagers found solace in each other. He would give her rides home after they silently played at the arcade until nightfall, and whenever she needed to escape the yelling in her house, Dong-suk welcomed her into his room without hesitation.

Looking back on Dong-suk’s past, it becomes apparent why he harbors such vitriol towards his mom. After his dad and older sister passed away, his mom moved their family into another house where she took care of the bedridden wife and was the mistress to the husband. The husband’s two sons took their anger out on Dong-suk, beating him whenever they pleased, and his mom averted her gaze from the abuse.

To Dong-suk, Sun-ah was his only source of comfort in his otherwise dreary life, so when he found his friend leaving Sun-ah with his pants unbuckled, he flew into a rage and beat him up as well as his two bullies. However, the thing that hurt Dong-suk the most was hearing Sun-ah call him a thug to the police over the phone. That very night, he ran away with all the valuables in the house in hopes of never returning to this terrible place.

Dong-suk finds Sun-ah renovating a rundown building where her dad’s old home used to be, and all the questions he bottled up rise to the surface as their past and present collide. He accuses her of playing with his heart, so Sun-ah tells Dong-suk her side of the events.

She says that he was her first love, too, which is why she could not ask him to defile her. However, she did not end up sleeping with Dong-suk’s friend because he backed out, and when she saw him fighting in the streets, she pretended to call the police to stop him. Like Dong-suk, Sun-ah also left Jeju that fateful day, and her life changed forever.

Her dad picked her up to go see the ocean, and while she went out to buy them food, he drove the car into the water. Sun-ah tells Dong-suk that her depression started then, and all throughout her life, her loved ones have constantly pestered her to stop “being sad.” It makes even more sense now why Sun-ah imagines herself drenched in water, and my heart goes out to her for not having the guidance nor support all these years after witnesses something so traumatic.

Once Dong-suk realizes that he misunderstood Sun-ah, his attitude towards her softens, and he spends all his free time helping her fix the house. As the two spend more time together, Dong-suk opens up a bit, and tells Sun-ah about his sister. He explains how he fought with her over food one evening, but before he could apologize, she died the next day while diving in the ocean. Since then, he learned that tomorrow was never guaranteed and chooses to live in the present instead.

Though Sun-ah’s mood lifts during her stay in Jeju, her overly optimistic outlook about the upcoming custody trial is worrisome, and Dong-suk notices her precarious state. He offers to take her to Seoul in person, and on the boat, he tells her to stop looking at the waves if they make her feel nauseous. He says that his mom is the same way—always staring at the things she lost rather than turning around to see the things she still has.

In Seoul, Dong-suk helps Sun-ah buy a horse doll for her son and drops her off at the school to see him. Though Sun-ah’s ex is unhappy to hear about her sudden visit, she holds her ground since today is their son’s birthday. He reluctantly agrees, but tells her to bring their son back before nine since his family had planned a celebration as well.

Contrary to her worries, Sun-ah’s son is thrilled to see his mom, and they spend the day at the aquarium and sing karaoke. It is nearly eleven by the time Sun-ah returns, and her ex is furious. She pleads with him to let her keep their son for the night, but her ex tells her that he cannot trust her.

Their argument wakes up their son, and Sun-ah instinctively reaches out for him, leading to a rough push and pull between the parents that ends up hurting their child. Her ex rushes him to the hospital, and Sun-ah is denied entry since her son refuses to see her. The timing could not be worse since the trial is in two days, and sadly—though not surprisingly—she loses custody of her son.

The news devastates Sun-ah who cries for hours, and she refuses to eat or drink anything. Frustrated with her self-destructive behavior, Dong-suk berates her for giving up, and she lashes out at him for acting like everyone else in her life. He tells her that her son will grow up miserable at this rate, and Sun-ah crumples up into a ball. Staying by her side as she weeps, Dong-suk tells her that she can be sad but her life would be too unfair if she is only sad the entire time.

After Sun-ah calms down, they walk by the river, and she tells Dong-suk that she will start therapy in addition to her medication. He agrees with her decision, and Sun-ah smiles for the first time in a long while. They settle down on some steps and sit there until sunrise. Looking out towards the water, Sun-ah wishes she could be happy, and Dong-suk repeats the sentiment. As he gets up to leave, she follows him and grabs his hand.

As always, the show manages to humanize every single character, and by the end of their arc, I find myself rooting for their happiness. I was not the biggest fan of Dong-suk in the beginning because I found his temper frightening, but after learning more about him, my heart aches for him as it did for the other characters before him. Every week, the show puts me on an emotional carousel, and the same process repeats itself: I dislike their behavior at first, then I start to understand them, and in the end, I’m wishing they could be happy for once.

Though Dong-suk is an angry man with some unchecked aggression, he is also a sad, little boy who never got over the hurt from his past. The way he describes his mom reveals a son who is more frustrated with her than detached, and I get the impression that he needs a long, overdue apology along with a sincere attempt at reconciliation from his mom. I’m sure when their story comes around, I will get a bigger picture of their situation, but for now, she was the one who failed to protect him and essentially abandoned him when he needed her the most.

Though the age-gap between Dong-suk and Sun-ah as teenagers would hinder my enjoyment of the pair in most scenarios, I think the show did a good job portraying them as two individuals who connected with each other over their shared experience. Both felt abandoned by their families, and the wordless exchange in the arcade depicted the unspoken trust and familiarity between them. Their “attraction” wasn’t about an inappropriate and creepy lust as it was with his friend, but about two lost teenagers being a source of peace for each other in a world filled with hate and rejection. Thus, when Dong-suk sees Sun-ah again, he feels conflicted because she reminds him of the past—the good and bad.

After his sister’s death, Dong-suk seems fixated on living in the present, and as a consequence, he limits his own growth. He is unable to move on because he never gained closure, not with his sister, his mom, or even Sun-ah. He lives day by day, refusing to put down roots anywhere because a part of him is afraid. When he was talking about Sun-ah’s son, he says that her boy could end up like him, and I think this comment says a lot about his character. He grew up without happiness, so as an adult, he cannot envision what a happy future looks like. Dong-suk lives in the moment because he thinks tomorrow is not guaranteed, but at the same time, it’s also because he sees no hope in it. He might proclaim “carpe diem” but I think he’s more scared of the future than anything else.

 
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I would’t have guessed a year aho how much I would come to seriously not enjoy Lee Byunghun’s acting given how much I loved Mr Sunshine. Mind you, my love stemmed from the collective stellar acting of Kim Taeri, Yoo Yeonseok, Kim Minjung, Byun Yohan, Choi Moosung, Jo Woojin, Kim Byungchul as Ilsik and Bae Jung-nam as Choon-sik. The latter two were an amazing team with impeccable comic timing. I also have to admit I liked the actor who played the younger version of Dongsuk.

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I'm not even sure what to say because this drama is a whole lot EVERY WEEK. It's a good thing I'm watching other lighter shows.

You said it well. At the end of each story you find yourself sympathising with the characters you couldn't stand because you get to see the circumstances that led them to where they are and who they have now.

It's scary that Seon-Ah has been battling with depression since the age of 14 and never received/been offered proper therapy. It looks like she was only given drugs which I find strange. The scene of her pulling her son's arm and hurting him was heartbreaking. It's no surprise that the father got the custody.

Dong-seok didn't have it easy too... However, he deserved another slap for that kiss even if his intentions were to make her snap out of her state.

Both of them holding hands at the end felt some type of way to me though

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What is up with all these swoony high school boys? First Han-soo and now Dong-seok. Yet I don't like any of them as adults. It's a relief that Seon-ah wasn't raped. Dong-seok didn't fight back against his bullies until her.

Seon-ah was so confident that she would win the custody trial, but she lost it in one night by keeping Yeol out until eleven and hurting his arm. Shin Min-a's crying really hits you in the heart that I worry this role is going to give her depression for real. Dong-seok kissing Seon-ah to distract her was creepy, but he's a good oppa trying to understand her condition and encouraging her to do everything she can to get better.

Finally, Uhm Jung-hwa.

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I want Seon-ah to get better. She suffered a lot and she deserved a break. But I don't understand her choices as a mother. She left far from Seoul and wants to live there with her son. She has nobody there to help her. So she wants her son to be separated from his father, grandparents, friends just to be with her? She thinks to have her son will save her from the depression, but it won't be the case. She tried to take her life, she's not ready to have her son fulltime. She wants to win the trial but she doesn't respect simple rules like a young boy should be in bed at 11pm...

It was nice to understand Dong-seok because until now, he was just an angry man. He really needs to speak calmy to his mother and tells her how he feels and not always yells at her. I guess she had her reasons too.

It's the second story, that I would have prefered to be developped in the past.

Why the writer make the adulthood so depressing...

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I don't think we can make any sense of Seon-Ah's choices because of her depression. She was unravelling

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I liked the scene with Ho-sik and In-gwon making up.

I understand now why Dong-seok hates his mom. I’m interested in seeing his mom’s perspective because if anything, this drama reminds us that everyone has a story and different sides to them.

Sun-ah's ex getting custody was honestly for the best. She is not stable. She just tried to kill herself, which her ex and the judge didn’t even know about. Her plan if she got custody was to take her son away from his dad, paternal grandparents, school and friends to live in a motel in Jeju for who knows how long while she fixed up that house. She’s thinking about what she wants and needs, not what her son needs, hence the arm-pulling incident. I was glad to hear she was going to start therapy because she needs it.

Sun-ah would have a better shot at custody if she stayed in Seoul, started therapy and got a job. She needs to earn back trust, and she's not going to do that in Jeju. But she needs support too, and she doesn’t have that in Seoul. Dong-seok is not the one, but his blunt and rough-spoken care might be what Sun-ah needs right now.

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If the OUR BLUES lesson to why the main characters are miserable and angry because the environment they grew up in was miserable and angry, then pile on the quicksand. Really, everyone is their own worst enemy. Do you have to hit rock bottom to look up and view your circumstances differently. Seon-Ah sabotaged her chance for custody. She should have started therapy and had more interaction with her son rather than running away to Jeju. People in their right mind would think that way; even her lawyer should have given her such basic life and legal advice prior to the trial. But again, some people won’t listen - - - especially since it appears Seon-Ah had no support system around her. Her self-isolation (her own island) was her ultimate doom.

Dong Seok comes off as trying to be the white knight, but he is really clueless with woman, or clearly with Seon-Ah. She told him she was over him after she left Jeju - - - and she meant it. But he continues to cross that boundary without thinking. In the end, he will just go home to wallow in his own illusion of losing his first love. Seoh-Ah's story arc ended as it should because long shots rarely win.

Ho-sik and In-Gwon’s reconciliation was too quick and too out of character. I felt the teenage love story was wrapped up too nicely for all the destructive, abusive and emotional turmoil leading up to episode 10.

Captain Joon’ and Young-Ok’s relationship is slowly out in the open. It probably will be the next couple segment. This one feels more real than the previous arcs. I expect Young -Ok’s true back story to have her own horrible skeletons to work through.

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I don't like Dong Suk. His "love" of her overwhelms everything. He is always trying to kiss her at inappropriate moments. Sir, what is wrong with you? Sun-nah needs help, and although he is comforting, he isn't what she needs. As for the teenage thing, sigh, it was awkward, but fine.

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This show is great drama, and these last episodes show us why. We see these flawed individuals, but we also see how they were damaged to begin with.

I think what I liked most is how the show does not just wallow in misery but also shows us growth. In-kwon and Ho-shik finally grew back together by acts of apology and forgiveness- and actually now have a grandchild to look forward to, having seen earlier their promise to become inlaws fullfilled. Their lives are no longer at a standstill and anger has departed. We all know that their kids are facing a tough road but not necessarily a disastrous one.

Dong-suk and Sun-ah's story is not a simple one. But unlike many I do not question Sun-ah's return to Jeju. Getting a job again is not that easy in Seoul, and deep down she already knew she that she was not going to get custody- that was why she was so "positive" that she was- it was her form of denial.

I think that her return to Jejudo was subconsciously a return to Dong-suk- the only person she has ever been able to rely upon since she was abandoned as a teenager. With his help she can finally get the therapy that she needs- and Jeju City is big enough that she can actually get it there and in an environment that will be far less stressful than in Seoul.

Dong-suk could use therapy himself but most of all his mom needs to come to him and make amends of some sort before she dies- which will be real soon.

I disagree that Dong-suk is wrong for her- he is already taking care of her now and even laying the groundwork for a better future for her. He knew what he was doing when he 'wasted time' with the horses before they left for the trial- those pictures were meant to plant that image of real horses and of her mom with the horse in her young impressionable child's mind: Dong-suk was laying the basis for her to eventually reconnect with her child. Her son will not forget those images.

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@oldawyer from all of the comments, I find myself agree with you the most. Who is to say what type of person is good for another? We tend to be too judgmental when comes to other people’s relationship. Depression is not a simple illness that can be fixed by taking medication/going to therapies. A change in scenery or a supportive person can help to improve the condition so Sun Ah returning to Jeju and receive help/support from Dong-Suk. Also many people misunderstood that Sun Ah tried to kill herself from jumping in the water but she told Dong-Suk that she slipped and fell into the water. Other people in the story can think that she tried to commit suicide because they didn’t talk to Sun Ah but many viewers still think she committed suicide. Maybe they missed that part?

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I think that the fact that Sun ah is literally restoring her childhood hoe may also be a kind of therapy for her.

As far as her being suicidal- if she says she was not I am inclined to give her the benefit of the doubt. The writer seems to say that in the pass when she would essentially be catatonic it was because of her medication- suggesting that her psychiatrist was not doing a very good job with that. Not being a psychiatrist, I do not know if that is even possible or just something the writer made up. But her staying stock still through the night just as she had previously done facing out her window in Seoul suggests that as she was emerging from that state she could indeed have slipped because she was still somewhat disoriented.

As you said Depression is not a simple illness.

But you point about our being too judgmental about who is best for someone is really the profound lesson that we should take from this story.

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I meant 'childhood home' not 'hoe'.

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Dong-seok really understood Sun-ah. Even after saying whatever was on his mind about her depression he still asked more questions to know what's in her head. He offered his words and still didn't dismiss her situation. The man could be dumb at times but he's also naive and innocent with a heart of a young man and understanding of Sun-ah.
And after what he's been through , his philosophy of life(in positive terms) is why he is still in wrong terms with his mom. He wanted her to snap out and just see him there. She however, didn't. I don't think he outright hates her, he just doesn't like the version he's seeing and desperately wants her out of it.

The last kiss while unwarranted showed something - she might have already start seeing Dong-seok as a man again. She didn't push him away unlike the anger of 7 years ago, hence her mild push. That is what it says to me at least.

Now it's for him to show that same understanding to his mother.

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Dong-suk’s anger bothered me, so I’m glad we were shown it’s origination. He’s actually a good guy, and he gave Sun-ah good, practical advice. But yes, like her, he is broken. Maybe this is the start of their healing.
Lee Byun-hun seemed very comfortable on the horse. I was wondering if he got the cowboy hat he was wearing from when he filmed The Magnificent Seven.

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Shin Min Ah is really doing great as Sun Ah and her story is really touching. Depression is so misunderstood, and it can be frustrating having people tell you to just snap out of it and to make reasonable decisions when in fact, you are sick and even when you want to you just can't. Yes, it would have been great if she could stay in Seoul, get a job, go to therapy in order to try to have custody of her son. We as viewers see that she is absolutely not ready to have custody. Her plans of moving to Jeju with her son clearly demonstrates that. She mistakenly thinks that having her son will somehow help her get out of the depression, she sees her son as her only exit. You can see her desperation when she was screaming to the sea that she wants her son. But she is sick so she does not see that it does not work that way. The support of Dong Seok might help her, as the Jeju scenery, as her new project with the house, as therapy (definitely). Bref. It was hard seeing her suffer, and I teared up a little when she was screaming for her son. I felt really bad for her.

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All being said and commented by everyone; i just want to say i'm so impressed with Dong-seok/LBH handling his heavy load truck - especially after he gets a call from Seon-a/SMA, expertly turns around and rushes to her. LBH never fails to impress me!

*everything about Seon-a doesnt make sense because of her mental illness. Not even a good husband and a row of children can change a person with mental illness. Sooner or later, it will come back. I had seen many tragedies while covering some stories in the crime department. Someone like Seon-a should get help with medication and professional in mental illness, and letting her roaming around to find her own solution is not wise. Because in reality, it will always end up in tragedy.

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