my second disliked and hated scene.. when GT makes breakfast for MY. As if that poor chap had less problems to deal with now he has this girl to take care of now.
Whole creative needs some smack in head to get their brain functioning. How can you even imagine a person with so many responsibilities of his life n brother that he can spare time to pamper her too. He needs someone supportive, no nonsense person in life who can nurse his wound not ask him nurse herself too.

Such a great prospective storyline getting spoiled for turning it into a romantic drama

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    Realistically you’re take is correct, while for the drama i am not thinking much about it. I also had issues with MY trying her best that GT takes her in his care too which imo was too much for him because he had so much on his plate. That is why it’s tough for me to understand how she is helping him open up. GT has never said those thibgs to anyone else except for MY because she sees through his hypocrisy. In front of the rest of the world he is amazing brother who has no issues looking after his brother but that isn’t true and he only opens up about this to MY, which I don’t know why.
    Couples can even fall out when they have mental health issues luke anxiety and depression, so MY having ASPD alongside GT having his own form of depression, this is hard to work realistically. Their chemistry is electrifying and that’s probably why I’m still watching because i don’t think there is much story either. I don’t understand yet how this couole can make it work because realistically it would be a toxic pairing but it’s a drama after all.

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      i am glad that i am not alone finding it toxic real life scenario. and i really like how you explained the things as I was feeling bit confused as to am i the only one feeling so disappointed with how the story is unfolding.
      So in short i am not alone but same time i am unable to accept the torture GT is going through.

      thanks for sharing your thoughts.

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        I was thinking of dropping the show because it does seem they don’t have much to do except for the past stories of the leads but mainly because it is trying to make a toxic relationship work. That said, it is still a visual treat and with the fairy tales, a little different than most kdramas so I’ll continue.

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        Yeah, I donโ€™t think you are alone. Part of me doesnโ€™t want them to become a couple. There is too much already going on. Romance with Moon-young, if it fits at all, should be last on the list of priorities. As others have noted, things that might not sit well with us in real life somehow work in dramaland. In some cases, we can suspend disbelief. I’m not sure what to say in this particular case.

        I feel that when dramas reach this point (about the halfway mark), I start to have concerns. I thought the beginning was really strong, but I wonder where things will go from this point.

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    I totally agree that realistically MY is not the ideal person for GT having said that I wouldn’t call making breakfast pampering. He was going to make breakfast anyway for himself and his brother and he made extra for her as well, he didn’t exactly try to impress or cater to her tastes.

    Also regarding his plate being full with his brother, whether with MY or not GT deserves to eventually be in a relationship and his partner will also deserve effort from his side, had this not been MY but just another woman he liked would you consider making a meal for her a bad thing?

    What I am trying to say is that while it is correct MY is a too demanding for a person like GT, there is no relationship out there that would be absolutely free of demands and even if he finds a supportive person he will be expected to return the care and support too, he will have to spare time for any person he gets together with even if they are what is considered normal. The idea that he needs someone who requires no sort of pampering even to the simple extent of making breakfast imo is unrealistic.

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      him making breakfast for her is not my issue.. but the way this whole built up was done is my issue. Last night she had been shown threating him that his brother has abandoned him.. and that was clearly a hurtful statement for a person who has dedicated his life taking care of his brother.
      So next morning showing him making breakfast for her is wrong. she has hurt him enough and he should not be doing any chivalry towards her try to be in her good books.
      what she did to him by trapping his brother to bring him to her castle it absolutely wrong so in return him still treating her nicely is my issue.

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    Kang Tae has a savior complex. Itโ€™s in his nature to just take care of things. The breakfast scene makes sense to me because thatโ€™s who he is. These people exist in real life. He canโ€™t help himself. And yes, people need therapy for this because they end end up saying โ€œyes, Iโ€™ll help youโ€ to everything and to everyone and burn themselves out.l, become depressed or anxious because they care more for others than they do for themselves. These people also end up in abusive relationships sometimes. Totally not healthy. So I worry more about him than Moon young. Kang Tae easily forgives peopleโ€”heโ€™s a nurse and care-giver who has to forgive a lot in patients and staff membersโ€”so has likely forgiven Moon young or made excuses for her. Again, part of his personality. He doesnโ€™t hold anything against anyone. He finds more fault in himself. I can see parts of their relationship in my own. My husband is very much the care-giver in our family, Iโ€™m not. However, he does say โ€œok, Iโ€™m done taking care of things for a while,โ€ and โ€œno, I canโ€™t do this anymore.โ€ And thatโ€™s when I step up-hopefully. Thereโ€™s always one in the relationship and itโ€™s usually the female. I like this show because it is the male that has this trait. Yes, it may me and has been taken advantage of, in real life, but thatโ€™s why this is a drama. Per my husband, what Korean drama has ever shown healthy people in healthy relationships? Well, heโ€™s right, they are rare.

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      i agree completely with you Ally.. esp the last line that there are hardly any korean dramas with healthy people in healthy relationship.
      i am baffled for one reason that being caregiver to mentally ill sibling is big thing in anyone’s life, say plate full or not knowing how to live their own life, so having another person with mental illness is not working for me.
      i find this whole setup as trivializing mental illness and the life of a caregiver to a mentally ill family member.

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        Yes this. MY isn’t in KT just as a romantic partner, she sees him as a care giver and someone who’ll become reaponsible for her. That would be exhausting for KT realistically. But again that’s why this is a drama and KT is a Candy, also as Ally said, he has a savior complex. I do think in real life, every person has their own issues and at times they rely on their partners to share them and even sort them out but here KT taking care of MY is like nursing a patient. And even if I’ve seen couples nursing each other in old age or sickness, I still think if this could be considered the same? After all couples who want to stay together do so through thick and thin and health and sickness. But by all means it is manipulation on MY’s side rather than just KT being a care giver.

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        I don’t see how the drama is trivializing this when it has touched on, many times, how Gang-tae feels about being his brother’s caregiver and how overwhelming it can be, and he has told Mun-yeong himself that he doesn’t need yet another person to take care of. Sure, maybe the show will end up magically making everything work between the two of them, we’re only halfway through so anything could happen, but up until now the show is not brushing these issues under the rug.

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      Totally agree with you.
      In fact I was happy in episode 7 because I could see them bonding and being friends, getting to a place where they are equals, they learn from the other, and how to relate to others.
      I liked them being friends, it would work on real life.
      But we are in dramaland and it means love is all around. It only took one episode for KT to admit he has feelings for MY, and to MY to realize what she’s feeling is love (or something she can identify with love).

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    Considering Kang-taes personality his behavior towards Moon-Young makes sense. However, I do understand why this scene would be upsetting. I also see this drama as a modern day fairy tale, and fairy tales often have problematic elements.

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      ahh now thats the viewpoint i was missing altogether. thanks for bringing it to my notice that this is the Drama version of a fairytale where elements are not perfect but keeps viewers hooked.
      thank you for sharing.

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        My pleasure 😁

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        @sirena and @KSOppaisback. Yes, this is another perspective. The movie I chose for Day thirteen of the July movie challenge is a similar example of a modern fairy tale (at least, the director described his story that way). And while I like the film, it does have some questionable elements. But the fairy tale aspect helps to explain some of those things. @sirena You make a good point.

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      I missed out this point too. Maybe all that is bothering us is actually intentionally put in place for it to look fairytale-esque.

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