i loved the episode. the mom didnt separate herself into parts to make the decision to become a mother—-she did it as young ja..
our choices are never in a vacuum, no, but all of our different identities and wants and responsibilities make up these choices together not individually at the expense of one another. young ja had the strength to know and trust herself and go through all the possibilities. she had space and no pressure but herself. it isnt that she gave up the game because of all the bullshit; she gave it up because it was her time for her.
she made the choice as a woman, a top athlete, a girlfriend, a person. an informed, true, meaningful, honest choice. theres no right way to be a person except your way and she chose to be a mother, a partner, a coach. and she chooses to take responsibility if one of those things mah not pan out the way she wants it to or in a way that isnt working. She chose. she wasnt forced internally or societally the way that is common and she had other options. it shows a sense of self and is good to model to their kids so they can have a healthy sense of their wants and goals and needs and how to handle what comes. and the way she constructs her life as a working mother? a fun work in progress so her kids can have choices too and maybe one day they wont have kids but they probably will because i feel like healthy children probably want to model their healthy upbringing but their parents wouldnt care either way lmao .
theres a point when hae kang tells his dad “well she may have felt it back then” (not regretitng a sexond) and hyun jong goes “and last night when she told me” which destroyed me. repetition and consistency is key and reinforcing and loving and validating repeatedly is not only just great parenting but just maturity. and they say it and show it. young ja telling hyun jong not to ask hae kang, their 16 year old son, too many questions cracked me up. because it’s so much more emotionally mature and unconditionally loving. lowkey couple goals too! no matter what gender but omg theyre just SO CUTE maybe i will get married to a man (i am not getting married i am pretty sure)
Ah yes, abusive childhoods. young parents are the future tho if they choose to be! Maybe not me im flighty but thats why i dont have kids rn. I WISH I GREW UP LIKE THISSSSS
amara
February 23, 2022 at 6:54 PM
i loved the episode. the mom didnt separate herself into parts to make the decision to become a mother—-she did it as young ja..
our choices are never in a vacuum, no, but all of our different identities and wants and responsibilities make up these choices together not individually at the expense of one another. young ja had the strength to know and trust herself and go through all the possibilities. she had space and no pressure but herself. it isnt that she gave up the game because of all the bullshit; she gave it up because it was her time for her.
she made the choice as a woman, a top athlete, a girlfriend, a person. an informed, true, meaningful, honest choice. theres no right way to be a person except your way and she chose to be a mother, a partner, a coach. and she chooses to take responsibility if one of those things mah not pan out the way she wants it to or in a way that isnt working. She chose. she wasnt forced internally or societally the way that is common and she had other options. it shows a sense of self and is good to model to their kids so they can have a healthy sense of their wants and goals and needs and how to handle what comes. and the way she constructs her life as a working mother? a fun work in progress so her kids can have choices too and maybe one day they wont have kids but they probably will because i feel like healthy children probably want to model their healthy upbringing but their parents wouldnt care either way lmao .
theres a point when hae kang tells his dad “well she may have felt it back then” (not regretitng a sexond) and hyun jong goes “and last night when she told me” which destroyed me. repetition and consistency is key and reinforcing and loving and validating repeatedly is not only just great parenting but just maturity. and they say it and show it. young ja telling hyun jong not to ask hae kang, their 16 year old son, too many questions cracked me up. because it’s so much more emotionally mature and unconditionally loving. lowkey couple goals too! no matter what gender but omg theyre just SO CUTE maybe i will get married to a man (i am not getting married i am pretty sure)
Ah yes, abusive childhoods. young parents are the future tho if they choose to be! Maybe not me im flighty but thats why i dont have kids rn. I WISH I GREW UP LIKE THISSSSS
https://www.dramabeans.com/2021/06/racket-boys-episode-3/