Queen of Divorce handling domestic violence against men with the level of sensitivity I expect from this show

Look at that poor crippled man who’s beaten and abused by his wife and is asking for a divorce in front of the cameras.

What he truly needs now is time to heal, privacy, a compassionate therapist a boozy party!

Kang, Kiyoung-sshi, my good man, that was the perfect time to utter a much-needed:

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    And here goes everybody’s favourite Playmobil head, and even she does the whoa whoa. Even she knows it booze and abuse was a bad idea

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      I still like this show, and am used to putting large missteps like this aside, but there was also a significant “what about the men?” component to this divorce-of-the-week that had my eyes rolled all the way back into my brain socket.

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        I am still watching because for once we got KKY as a main male lead (ok, sort of, but nevertheless as the second name in the credits). So, I appreciate that, just to help him shine a little more, Lee Ji-ah decided to play it lowkey with the realistic emotional range of a porcelain doll (equipped with massive shoulder pads, but the expressiveness of the porcelain doll nonetheless – not that she isn’t pleasant to look at, mind you)

        There’s an 1980s A Team element to it – full of good intentions and completely unrealistic resolutions, absolutely insane coincidences, and baddies that are about as threatening as a really sharp thimble. And massive shoulder pads. Where do they get all those shoulder pads from?

        Anyway, this is a rant for another day.

        Yes, I am confused by that case… They did take the wife’s case, and ended up siding against her with the husband? Is that even an authorised move in the legal field? I’m glad that for once they tried to show abuse against the husband rather than the wife, though. But they made him so helpless. I can’t think of anybody of his age in a wheelchair who wouldn’t be able to drag themselves back into their wheelchair (surely, the poor man goes to the toilet, or shower, or even sleep outside of his wheelchair? You know, basic dragging oneself in and out of it? It’s not like he lost use of his arms or brain too)

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          I really hate the ponytail-plus-huge-side-bangs look so popular among female characters in Korean dramas as well as in Jane Austen adaptations. Don’t really know why, but I always am thinking…either put your hair up, or leave it down! Why have the worst of both worlds where your hair is pulled back off your neck but still bothering your eyes and ears!?!

          Just me? Probably.

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            I had too. many other qualms to think about that one, I admit.
            Wouldn’t be a personal choice though. It would be far too bothering, like you say. And so fucking impractical. I’d be spending most of my day accidentally stirring my drinks with my oversized side bangs anyway

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            with bonus punctuation in the middle of a sentence…

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    I haven’t started but have crossed this show out of my to-be-watched list.

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    Watching something you like Cecee? Seems like you can’t catch a break. 😳

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      I’m still going to tune in for KKY (and try to repress the growing amount of rage each time I watch one episode of it) but not enjoying it at all. I want to enjoy it. I really do. But I rage because the writing/direction (not sure who’s to blame) makes everyone feel and look a little off. And we’ve seen some of these actors nailing it in other projects, so we all know what they can do.

      In other news: I’ve binge-watched Killer Paradox and completely loved it. (which seems to be an exception in the DB community, so as usual, I’m going against the trends without even noticing it)

      Been loving Semantic Error: The Movie as well. Watched it after @ceciliedk reminded me it existed. I appreciate it’s classed as BL, but I thought the story would fit any type of romantic relationship. All characters were so superbly fluid and natural. Lee Ji-ah permanent goldfish expressiveness (expressive-less-ness) and emotionless kiss of doom (it’s like a truck of doom but worse because it’s supposed to be good and, OMG, it was so bad) could learn a few tips from the cast.

      Aaaaah so much stuff to write about, so little time!

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Is everyone else mentally calling other Beanies chingu or am I the only deluded one here? Not that it would bother me. As they say on social platforms delulu is the solulu (I cringe just typing that)

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Forget Attorney Woo, Han-eul might be the new neurospicy character for 2024

Ok, I take it slightly back. Do not forget Attorney Woo. But ignore for a brief moment the hyper cliché-isation of autism.

Don’t get me wrong. Attorney Woo is great.

Secondary Voice
Especially her cardigan and Playmobil haircut.

But relatable, she is not. I hear you. Cecee, she has autism. She shouldn’t be relatable. She exists to show a new perspective of how life is neurodivergent demographics. I get your point but I will completely ignore it because it’s much easier than having to come back with an intelligent argument.

Third Voice
If anything, I am profoundly honest about my dishonesty. It’s the level of ambivalent feelings I aspire to.

I strongly suspect that Ha-neul is coming in strong to deprive Attorney Woo of her neurospicy crown. But there are also a million other points I’d like to make so this may end up being a little messy.

Ha-neul and the magical neurospices
First of all, Han-eul only got a pinch of neurospices, unlike Attorney Woo who got the whole bucket along with the mandatory haircut.

Secondary Voice
I don’t even know why I’m making fun of her hair. She’s cute.

Third Voice
Probably because you can, Cecee, you evil, cold-hearted monster. Ah well… Nevermind.

There are a few instances during the past 6 episodes (and especially episodes 5 and 6 because the thought didn’t occur to me before) that could have pointed towards the neurofun direction. So, I’d put Han-eul as someone with autism too, but she doesn’t have as much difficulties functioning in a neurotypical society as others.

I give you exhibit A: A very closed social circle.
There are essentially 4 people in Han-eul’s life: Her mom, her uncle, her annoying brother, and her just-as-annoying-but-in-a-different-way friend.

This is followed by exhibit A.2: She’s not always very good when it comes to reading social cues. She does not pick up on Jeong-woo’s fear at the sight of blood or when he froze during CPR because she does not recognise the feeling. But her social circle is too small for her to have come across anything similar.

We also see her not making friends at school and completely failing to understand that the little kids in her primary school may not want to spend time solving maths problems.

Following on with exhibit B: She has very focused hobbies.

She loves reading dissertations (and frankly, this turns up to be useful, but there are some more popular hobbies out there). She does not just research and read dissertations out of intellectual curiosity. She is truly passionate about it because she is able to recall information she read out of the many many texts she’s been consuming over a period of years.

We’ve got another little nugget when she plays at the arcade. She only wants to play Tetris, and when she goes back to play alone, she also picks Tetris. Not that everyone with autism will prefer Tetris, but playing only one game is very much the neurodivergent fixation. Like when she rehearsed only one song.

Exhibit C may be a little surprising but bear with me on this one: She’s high masking.

What is masking? Essentially, the clue is in the name. It’s about putting on a facade to fit in as much as possible. In which ways is Han-eul masking?

I believe she is masking to blend in with her co-workers. She does not fit in as we notice on a few occasions before she quits. The team dinner makes the point clear. On the one hand, you could see it as Han-eul being isolated because people, and especially her Professor, are taking advantage of her. And it is completely correct, they are. But there’s more to it.

Neurodivergent people, especially those on the autism spectrum (but not just them) are more likely to be taken advantage of in the workplace because they take your word at face value. So, when we see the Professor appear in the first scene we already know he is a coward little shit. We’ve watched K dramas before, we know what those people look like. Han-eul is just coming to this conclusion after years of witnessing it.

But we know she has come to realise that people are using her with no intention of ever helping her. Neurodivergent people tend to have a high sense of justice. They may not notice that people are taking advantage immediately, but the day they notice they will most likely explode. Explosion, as it happens, does not necessarily look like the typical roll-on-the-floor-screaming meltdown. Han-eul internalises a lot of things because I think she doesn’t know how to talk about it in a neurotypical way.

To me, this is the reason why she accepts most requests because it is socially easier in terms of interactions to say yes than to refuse. If she is a masking neurodivergent, she will be prone to avoid difficult social situations, such as setting boundaries.

So, I think that when she kicks her Professor and resigns, it’s her explosion. She can’t hide anymore and refuses to take it in. But because she’s been masking up until now, it’s not just about the surgery incident but it’s about everything.

Another thing that makes me believe she is high-masking is because she struggles with depression and burnout, which is fairly common among high-maskers. How would you not exhaust yourself when you spend your entire life pretending to be someone else?

Exhibit D: Han-eul feels genuinely at a loss when she stops working
I don’t think it is only because she overworked herself. I think she’s been masking so much that she doesn’t even know who she truly is.

Exhibit E: She prefers to deal with her problems alone
Han-eul does not share her emotions with her family until after she’s reached the point when she can’t bear to ignore them anymore. And this is quite emblematic of many neurodivergent individuals.

Firstly, because they are not always sure of their own feelings. Han-eul doesn’t realise she is depressed. She doesn’t know that there’s something wrong with her. This isn’t just a neurodivergent trait, but it is more predominant among autistic people and high maskers because they try to repress so many emotions at the same time that they are not even in touch anymore with their feelings.

The other reason why she doesn’t share her emotions could also be because she doesn’t know how to. She has never needed to as a result of masking.

Exhibit F: She can be blunt if needs be
We’ve seen teenage Han-eul suggesting to her mother that they go to Seoul.

We also get to see Han-eul bluntly asking Jeong-woo if he’s got PTSD. Tact was not part of this conversation. But she was so concerned for his health that she did not let her social shyness and awkwardness get in the way (like she’s been doing on other occasions)

Exhibit H: Jeong-woo is more socially and emotionally aware than Han-eul
I put this one down to being a social butterfly with an EQ that isn’t negative, unlike dear Han-eul.
And I think this is key to establishing their connection because it is his ability to read everything that Han-eul doesn’t express openly that creates the sense of trust and comfort between them. For Han-eul, he is the first person who recognises her struggles and verbalises them (when he first lets her know he overheard her conversation with her mom and shows immediate understanding and respect for the diagnosis, when he reminds her that she is allowed to take a break, when he voices out the crushing feeling of failure she had for not getting in her preferred university, etc.) I believe one of the reasons why he rapidly becomes one of her favourite persons is because he can show her truly what she feels and help her process. And this is also something that is common in neurodivergent-neurotypical relationships and something we see as well in Attorney Woo.

Anyway, here are my thoughts of the day, written in a hurry with barely any time for all the voices and all the gifs. But you get the idea!

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    I empathized quite a bit with her not being able to stop talking about her feelings once she started articulating them and seeing that he could accept them…and I low-key loved Jeong-woo for following suit, quite quickly telling her that he had feelings for her as well, but then also saying, “But I’ll really say it later,” which pulled back the pressure of response. Some might say, “Didn’t you just SAY it? Why would you say it again later??” I felt it was truly kind and caring of him.

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      Absolutely – I love this about him. He is, thankfully, emotionally astute for both of them.

      And I love that they both carry each other through showing & owning their vulnerabilities. It’s an eternal mirroring bond in a way.
      Even when they first cry together, even though it might have been designed as a funny scene, Ha-neul starts and because she leads the way, Jeong-woo tears up too.
      She first confesses her feelings, and he mirrors her too (and I love the way he does it and admits that she is as much his comfort and healing as he is hers).

      On this point, btw, I get it, it’s a rom-com, so this has to be love. But honestly, just a healing friendship, and one that seems to be the first mutually beneficial, understanding and accepting friendship they’ve ever had, would have been beautiful enough.

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        Exactly. On this point, there’s another thing I really liked about both of their emotional statements: They are each very ambivalent (a term I am frankly impressed that this show has defined accurately as feeling two ways at once, rather than “flip-flopping”) about how they’re feeling and neither of them want to commit to the fact that this is “love” like a rom-com would have it. It could be friendship; it could be mirroring attachment; it could be sexual attraction; it could be (even) a childish search for unconditional love…they’ve both stated that they’re neither of them sure. He, because he’s all distracted and caught up in this other more pressing trauma, and she, because she appears not to be used to interpreting the signals her body and mind are creating as emotions/affect rather than simply physical sensations. At least, that seems plausible to me!

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          Same to me. I get that given the drama it will need to be love, but it doesn’t have to be. At that point, they are acting as each other’s life-saving jacket and I really like the way they constantly stand up for each other because I really see it as a mirroring phenomenon. “I’m being there for you because nobody was for me.” And there is no expectation that the other should help in return, but the other mirrors their needs and desires to care for someone the exact way they would have needed someone to care for them.

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    That was a beautiful thing you wrote there. If I was one to easily cry, I would’ve.
    ***
    And as in most K-dramas where autistic traits are represented, I don’t think we will be hearing about a diagnosis.
    Also, usually there is not as much masking – and also, it is rarely a woman, Woo being of course a prominent exception to that rule.

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      I’m half suspected they ended up writing a hyper realistic autistic and relatable character by accident. It’s almost as if they never realised the character was autistic and that is all the most realistic to me, because it makes perfect sense to me that Ha-neul would not even know she is neurodivergent. How would she know when her entire life was focused on being the best rather than being herself (she can be both, naturally)?

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        How would she know if the writers didn’t even know?
        But also, lots of people don’t know it, if they manage at all. They may know they are different – e.g. friends are a really difficult thing – but otherwise, they are just seen as a little different – and difficulties will be seen as half laziness by others.
        Laziness, naughtiness, arrogance, … whatever it looks like if you don’t know about it.

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    I really love this Cecee, thank you for sharing 💕! I wish I had something intellectual to add, but alas I’m coming up blank but I had to come here to say that I very much enjoyed reading this take, and all your observations that came with it. Makes me want to go back and watch scenes again to appreciate the dynamic between Jeong-woo and Han-eul!!

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    Aaaah, Ha-neul not Han-eul but bonus point for effort in keeping her name constantly incorrect throughout the text. Fecking hell

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    Not sure if you wrote about it and I have missed it, but there are instances when Ha-eul says something that is somewhat insensitive and brutally honest, but does not reflect her personality. e.g her snoozing when Jong-woo goes on his speech about being in debt or telling Hong-rang that she is not interested in Hong-rang’s dating life. I am nearly sure those are to some degree autistic traits as well.

    As for the Attorney Woo, I think I once made a post on how autistic characters in media are always portrayed as variations of Rain man, by being at the highest point of the spectrum and having the traits of a genius. *eye roll*

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      Yes, brutal honesty. I mentioned the bit where she just blurts out to Jeong-woo: You’ve got PTSD (which would be the absolutely last thing to say to someone who has PTSD but she’s so focused on sharing it that she doesn’t even notice how blunt it comes out)
      She can also be brutally blunt with her aunts (especially as a teen) or even when she tells Hong-rae to leave her alone so she can have peace.

      And totally agree with you, those seem to be autistic traits to me too. They are more prominently shown in Attorney Woo (who is unmasked to be point of being terrifyingly unhinged at times), but we get some glimpses with Ha-neul when she is either mentally exhausted by her surroundings and cannot mask anymore or when she is feeling more confident with the person.

      And I do like Attorney Woo because she’s insanely cute. But I think she is the most unrelated autistic person you could get (or Rain Man like you say) *joins you in the eye rolling competition*

      Ha-neul feels much more realistic, especially nowadays where so many undiagnosed high functioning autistic people are struggling like her without even knowing why. I really like Ha-neul.

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        One of the best things I have read in a long time @Cecee. I wrote my thoughts on the recap page (just to keep them in one place, I get lost when I open DB and have 55 notifications to leaf through) but everything you said is pure gold.

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    Haneul, you say? Oy, Cee, not nice calling me out like that! 😉

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    So looking forward to your analysis of Ha-Neul after episodes 7-8 dropped this weekend. What’s a guy to do without his “candy in a salty pond” or “bracken & chocolate”? (Good thing for Ha-Neul that the HS classmate, aka cameo by Lee Sung-Kyung, has come and gone!)

    Wondering what other issues of Ha-Neul will be revealed in 9-10….

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      I might wait another week so I have a little more material to review in order to further confirm or simply reject the hypothesis.
      The end of Ep 8 (only caught through social media feeds so far) feels more “normal” for someone with depression and little to none sense of self-worth (which is great because it briefly felt like the drama forgot about her mental health) but I haven’t seen enough to make the neurodivergent call yet!

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No more a chaebol’s poor doppelgänger… Finally, I have risen to be a pair of pants. Mother will be so proud.

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Please Marry My Nutella-Sandwich Bearing Husband Because Seriously I Fucking Can’t

I’ve learned one thing from my Latin classes at school.
Timeo Danaos et dona ferentes , in other words, don’t trust the Greeks even (and especially) when they bring a giant horse-shaped present.

Timeo virum meum et Nutella ferentes
I fear my man even when he’s bearing Nutella.

I’d love to take screenshots or gif the scene

Secondary Voice
I’m lying, I’d hate it.

… but I haven’t figured out how to capture Amazon Prime screen on Mac.

Third Voice
When my 0.12 second Google search didn’t give me a pre-made solution, I couldn’t be bothered to figure out how to do it

But if anybody is looking for a good gif, please let me direct you to @attiton, @ceciliedk and @cera who know and can be bothered to do all the ins and outs of giffing. Although I am not sure they have gifs of said Nutella and egg sandwich proposal of doom, but they’d certainly put more effort into making a gif than me.
(@ceciliedk – how come it isn’t on Amazon Prime by you? What a horrible tragedy)

Anyway, I’d have definitely rejected that particular proposal… But there is a Nutella sandwich here. There was an effort made. Ji-won, he made you a Nutella sandwich! We all know Nutella is the modern-day cure for all life’s ailments. Eat that little nutty beast to soak up the disappointment of a lame proposal.

Secondary Voice
Notice I didn’t say accept the proposal. You can munch in the meantime.

Third Voice
Given Min-hwan’s antics, I’d have suggested making him a necklace with the kitchen table. Slam it in his head and run. But eat that Nutella sandwich first.

Anyway… As lame goes, in the right circumstances, this would have been a perfectly sweet proposal. We are just told to hate it because we know Min-hwan is anything but a nice person. But, I’d argue that the same proposal in the hands of another character in another drama would have swayed more than one heart stomach.

Secondary Voice
Minus that bitch of an egg sandwich, of course. What sick mind imagines an egg sandwich will give them a free pass into someone’s pants?

Third Voice
Launching the worldwide campaign “Et tu, egge sandwiche?” where we are strongly encouraged to stab egg sandwiches viciously because they stab you first. It’s self-defence, and this is precisely what would have saved Caesar’s backside in the days. Proof that you can’t trust an egg sandwich, especially if its name is Brutus.

Is Min-hwan an egg sandwich too? No, Min-hwan is just the uncooked egg before it gets into the egg sandwich. He doesn’t even have the advantage of pretending the slices of bread are his spine. He’s a viscous little thing you wouldn’t want to touch with the sole of your shoes.

But is he really the psychopath Marry My Husband wants us to believe? Does he wear a black cap? Nope. Then he’s not a psychopath because we all know what psychopaths look like. Black mask. Black hat. Acting outrageously over the top sexy for their own knives. Or whatever they’ve got in the psycho toolkit box.

Min-hwan needs to get his villain act together. I was curious about whether his drama self differs much from the webtoon. So, I look for an English version of it online (for science). For what I’ve read so far, he seems fairly similar. Ji-won describes him as a psychopath. But, @manichan described him perfectly to a T.

Min Hwan is the classic entitled and spoiled only child who is also a son. He has never been called out on anything and thus rationalises everything that he does.

So, we’re not up against a fearsome monster. We’re up against a self-entitled dickhead.

Secondary Voice
I’ve got an uncle like that. His entire personality is purely built on self-entitled dickheadness.

Third Voice
Will Min-hwan ever get better? My uncle hasn’t. He’s only older and therefore can’t dedicate as much energy as he used to to being a dick. Min-hwan’s main quality by comparison is that revenge is coming for him.

Admittedly, his dickheadness is paired with Soo-min’s own brand of sick nastiness. She’s a much more interesting adversary because she is smart enough to manipulate those around her to her advantage. While Min-hwan doesn’t really need to manipulate (and when he tries, he has the subtlety of a masonry brick) because Mother Dear made sure he’d always have anything he wants. Min-hwan doesn’t need much brain to get what he wants (because it is usually served on a golden platter for him), and he makes it more than obvious. Cue to him celebrating sleeping with Soo-min at the gym, describing the deed as “hitting a homerun” openly with no further thoughts on the possible consequences on his reputation.

Secondary Voice
It’s more of a hole-in-one, Min-hwan…

So, it’s an interesting difference and one that seems to explain why Soo-min is such a formidable villain bitch because she, essentially, has to “work” to get what she wants. And frankly, she is phenomenally good at it.

The webtoon gives more insights into her thoughts but it is pretty obvious what she thinks and wants from any scene she’s in in the drama. But that borderline psychotic scene where she systematically erases Ji-won from every photo made me smile. Perfect representation of Soo-min’s mental age, which is somewhere around 15. Well done girl for staying young, not only in appearance but also in maturity, or more precisely lack of. Slow clap with a little punch in the middle of your face. Do I hate her? Absolutely not. There wouldn’t be any drama if she wasn’t there.

But nevertheless, that hair pulling scene with Ji-won still got me wishing for better action on the battlefield.

Secondary Voice
Ji-won, you can fling people. What the hell are you doing?

* chants FLING HER FLING HER FLING HER until it happens *

Third Voice
Honestly, by that point, I don’t care if Ji-won has got a sophisticated plan. Flinging Soo-min head first into the dirt would be immensely satisfying for viewers. Think of the ratings!

I’m actually surprised the company can get away with this completely insane nature workshop. When you think about it, it is anything but a success.

Employees are made to literally hunt and fight for the right to sleep comfortably at night. This is what those flags are for.

Secondary Voice
U&K, this is the opposite of a team-building event. It’s a team-destroying event.

Third Voice
Fastest way to get me to resign from any role. Tell me I’m going tok spend a weekend in nature with my coworkers and I might get to sleep in a tent if I’m lucky… Nope. You’d have never seen a resignation letter written that fast.

They planted a flag in the middle of the water, and I love how panicked they are to realise that it may be dangerous.

Secondary Voice
No shit? You think?

“The water is deep. People shouldn’t go.”
At that point, if you need to tell them, they are probably not mentally fit to work in an office either. But it doesn’t matter because Ji-won is determined to kill herself before Soo-min and Min-hwan can get to her, so she jumps into the water.

Secondary Voice
Thankfully, Ji-won is working overtime to prove that Darwin’s theory of natural selection can also apply to her.

How can you drown in a metre of water, Ji-won? HOW DOES THAT EVEN WORK?!

Third Voice
More importantly, why did you dress like a psychopath on the loose? Black hat, black clothes… Ji-won, who did you kill?

Yet, she is saved once again by — would you believe it? — Ji-hyuk, who should send her an invoice for his personal bodyguarding services, given that he’s saved her approximately a million times already.

She is grateful to him, and she also reminds him that she doesn’t need anybody’s help because she’s not Soo-min. Don’t be silly, Ji-won.

Secondary Voice
You’ve drowned in a shallow body of water. You need help, girl.

The conversation goes approximately like this:

“Ji-won, exactly how stupid are you? How can you even manage to drown here? Do you need basic standing classes on top of the judo lessons?”
“I am not Soo-min!”
“Yer, I know. She’s too busy flirting with your future killer to drown in puddles.”
* shakes Ji-won violently to see if her contact lenses fall off. They don’t. *

Third Voice
Ji-hyuk, I am as frustrated as you.

Did she seriously come back 10 years into the past to play in puddles? Yes, she did. Puddles are all part the plan. Because, Ji-won has a plan. She’s got one hell of a plotting mind.

And, what’s more surprising, is that she seems to be naturally gifted at the whole plotting thing. She can see several moves ahead, which as a time traveller she’d be able to do anyway, but she can also figure out how the changes she is making to her timeline will affect her preys. Apparently, a part of her plan was to wear a white/cream skirt at an outdoors camping outing.

Secondary Voice
Someone’s got faith in their washing machine.

Third Voice
This probably confirms what her choice of outfit for the flag fishing revealed. Ji-won has…
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    @bbstl – the giant office boulder was so disturbing that it made it to my random collection of thoughts. Who needs a pet mountain at home?

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    Omo. 😂😂😂 I think this is my favorite Cecee post yet. I am wiping away tears of laughter. And so on point. If we were to ever have an official drama roast, you would be my choice to headline it. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

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    I see you accidentally clicked on Kidnapping Day again. 😊
    Nutella is chocolate after all (we hope) and therefore irresistible (we hope some more) but this was the weirdest use of Nutella on an open / deconstructed sandwich.
    Ji-won’s revenge of course is going down the boiled turnip road it seems. Sigh, after that promising start we had hopes!!

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      The Amazon Prime interface on the PS is one of the worst things known to mankind!
      I landed on Zombie for Sale in another accident (which I don’t regret because this was the funniest zombie film I’ve seen so far, with Kim Nam-gil, Park In-hwan, Jung Jae-jung, Jung Ga-ram, Lee Soo Kyung, and Uhm Ji-won and many other famous faces)

      Ji-won has not yet moved to the boiled stage of the turnip saga, ha! She’s taking a more active role in the revenge… but at the same point, why does she have to make it slow and long-winded?

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Just cured my For-Fuck’s-Sake-Who-Wrote-That-Crappy-Script-itis by accidentally stumbling upon The Odd Family:Zombie On/For Sale and I have been happily cackling since 🙂

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Is that another death-time-travel-marriage-revenge plot? Surely not…

Ah yes it is.
Why am I even watching it?
Why? 왜?!
Especially after claiming that those were not my cup of tea…

Secondary Voice
Cecee, what the hell?

Third Voice
In my defence, it was an accident. I thought I clicked Kidnapping Day but the interface lied to me.

Totally credible. If I didn’t know I’m lying, I’d totally believe it.

Fourth Voice
Quick lying. The 2 hours of watching that followed were not an accident.

Anyway. Moving on.

I have only watched the first 2 episodes of Marry My Husband so far.
And I have questions, thoughts, comments a teeny tiny rant.
This is a small one.
A baby rant, if you wish.

Secondary Voice
Because everything that is small, is cute, right? And people can’t possibly get mad at cute things.

Imagine my rant looks like this.
This isn’t a full-sized rant. It’s still growing.
It is a rantinette.
A long series of 왜 at best.

Why does every time travel plot start with death?
We know time travel.
We’ve watched Back to the Future.
We know that all it takes is an old DeLorean, and you can happily hop anywhere into your timeline or the timeline of your family. And, best of all, you do not need to get killed to start the car. Plutonium will do. Or lightning. It’s much more civilised.

K-dramaland, it seems, is aware that you are not allowed to own plutonium, so they’ve gotten rid of the entire DeLorean method.

Secondary Voice
Which is great because you can’t buy plutonium from Amazon, therefore, it can’t possibly exist.

Third Voice
I wonder if they know you can use a Police Box instead of a DeLorean. It’s not necessarily safer, but this definitely seems more accessible to the Korean public.

So, while I totally appreciate the health and safety considerations with removing plutonium — and the need to drive über fast in an old car that’s been handed over to hand by some weird bloke in a lab coat — was murder really the safest option AFTER the DeLorean?

Secondary Voice
Dramaland’s top 3 life hazards:

  • Mouldy kimchi juice
  • Plutonium
  • Mothers

Murder isn’t even part of the list.

Third Voice
Soon, we’ll have characters escaping murder charges by pretending they were testing time travel theories.
“But your Honor, this is for science! The theory of the murder-lativity, you know”

Fourth Voice
Did I justify murder for science? Yes, I did. No, I’m not sure how I ended up there either. Yes, I’ll be your alibi.

Why would Ji-won suffer for such a long time before deciding to get revenge?
Ji-won… I am glad you’re willing to roll up your sleeves to save yourself in your life reloaded.

Secondary Voice
Unlike everyone’s favourite boiled turnip Yi-ju and her Perfect Marriage Revenge where she gets literally every character working on her revenge plot rather than doing it herself.

Third Voice
Just thinking about Yi-ju’s supremely lazy passive approach to revenge fills me with rage again.

So, by comparison, it doesn’t take long to realise that Ji-won is ready to take an active role in her fate… After she briefly loses her shit with Min-hwan for murdering her in a future he has yet no knowledge of.

I somehow love the idea that the first thing that came to her mind after waking up 10 years into her past is to attack the person who killed her… without even questioning the fact that corpses are supposed to be significantly less lively.

Secondary Voice
Also, why do people always go for hair-pulling when they fight? What is it even going to achieve? Upsetting the hairstylist?

Third Voice
Fight like you mean it!

Back to what I was saying. I’m not against the idea of revenge. In fact, we’ve seen that Jiwon had more than enough reasons to get revenge. Or at least to walk away and seek happiness elsewhere. She does explain that she was so focused on surviving the hell she lived in that she never noticed, and frankly, this is the most relatable and un-boiled-turnip thing that she says.

But still, Ji-won, girl, you could have tasted the sweet sweet taste of revenge without needing to die. You could have trampled all over your husband and his mother years ago. Of course, you didn’t because plot. But still, given that plotting mind of yours (and hell, she’s making good use of her brain power), I bet you could have found ways to inflict some level of damage around you.

Why did you take it all?
This is even more surprising because we hear very clearly as soon as the story starts how lucid Ji-won is. She may be lied to by her fake best friend, but she’s seen faeces with more humanity and worthiness than her husband and MIL.

And yet, she stayed. Still, she endured while sharing her rage and disappointment. In a way, this is perhaps the most realistic thing about her situation. She is a victim. But she isn’t afraid to argue and complain about it to her husband. Still, she lets it happen because she probably never considers there could be another option.

This, to me, positions Ji-won above Yi-ju. She is already aware, long before her death, that people are trampling all over her.

Secondary Voice
Not that it is difficult to get above Yi-ju — my dead grandmother still has more personality and initiative than Yu-ji, and she’s been dead for years.

Third Voice
Mind you, perhaps my grandmother travelled back in time and she’s currently enjoying the late 40s…? I’m not quite sure she’d have wanted to plot any sort of revenge, or if so, only against modern appliances that would not work the way they should (mostly because she would not read the instruction manual).

So, at many point during the flashback of Ji-won’s life, I wanted to grab her and shake her awake.

Secondary Voice
You’ve got two feet, Ji-won. Use them to walk away.

Funnily enough, in a not so funny way, most people who stay in unhappy situations are aware of it and somehow convinced this is how they can stay sane. No, bae, this is the opposite of staying sane. It’s like running into a wall repeatedly with your eyes open, fully conscious of your actions, and still choosing to crash into the wall. It’s like forcing yourself to go a little madder every day. And then we all know what happens: You don’t save yourself, you don’t go back in time, and you can fully enjoy your slice of misery with your full lucid mind. Nope. You want to stop faceplanting that wall. More importantly, you don’t want to face the same wall for 10 years like Ji-won.

Secondary Voice
I thought you were smart, Ji-won!!!

Have you noticed how in Dramaland, the first reward Ji-won gets for repeatedly running herself into the wall is terminal cancer? The second reward is cracking her skull open. The third reward is death at the hands of the people she despises the most. And after all those useless rewards for her dedicated suffering, she finally gets to wake up 10 years into her past body.

Secondary Voice
But then again, we know murder is not one of the top 3 life hazards in K dramas, so this is all good fun.

Third Voice
To be honest, if Ji-won wanted to avoid murder, she’d have needed plutonium, and that would not have ended well either.

So anyway… I might accidentally misclick Kidnapping Day in the near future again.

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    The early scenes from episode 5 were good on some of this–the “why” Ji-won was the way she was in her first time around. I know some found those scenes boring and whatnot, but I thought it was some solid character exposition for both her and Ji-hyuk.

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      Look forward to ticking one of my 왜 off when I get to it! I’m only 2 episodes in and I genuinely thought I would not enjoy it (from the synopsis) but Ji-won’s voice was appealing from the start. Mostly because she, unlike Chief Boiled Turnip, has a voice.

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        Well, YMMV 😉

        And, I could have productively added…I only said what I said in case you accidentally clicked on your next Kidnapping Day episode.

        And, I’m as surprised as you that I could possibly be interested in another one of these sorts of dramas, but darn it if Ji-won isn’t, as you say, NOT waterlogged-qua-vegetable. I think PMR had a better sense of humor about itself overall, but the individual characters in MMH are more interesting, to be sure.

        And, nothing. I just wanted to start another paragraph with and. My grade school teachers told me never to do it, so this is a big fuck you to them. Because I am that petty.

        And, I have nothing better to do than remember old grievances from when I was 9. Hey, do you think I could join the cast of Sandy Flowers?

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          Every paragraph should start with And. Every second sentence with But. And the second half with Because. Some sentences should not have any verb any all and some should display an impossible multitude of verbs, resembling a menstruous never-end caterpillar that grows to infinity, constantly feeding new thoughts until the reader needs to stop and catch their breath.

          Because, as you say, fuck to them. English is a living language, and none of these stylish choices are grammatically incorrect or hinder its understanding. It’s just pedantic little arses pretending they’re better than anyone else at English by entirely failing to grasp the very concept of linguistic incorrectness. I shall quote Jungkook’s Seven in saying that I’ll be fucking little minds, along with the creators of Grammarly, right up Monday, Tuesday and all the other days (Although, I imagine he did not mean it quite like that… Bless his little cotton socks)

          Ooooh I have not yet watched Sand Flowers! Give me a bit to catch up and I shall answer your sandy question 😁

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            Wrestlin’ in teh Sandz is really quite sweet and I can very much recommend it. It ends next week, though, so if you wait just a bit, you can also know in advance if it sticks the landing!

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            As one of the people who found those scenes boring and whatnot: the exposition was necessary and helped make sense of Ji-won and her reasons for sticking it out in her past (future) life; my main complaint was how dragged out it was. I have low tolerance for drunk adults, even lower when they’re lisping slowly like drunk toddlers, and would have preferred another way to get that info to us. Show, don’t tell, etc. But the rest has been unexpectedly cracky and to my surprise I’m looking forward to the next episodes.

            Every paragraph should start with And. Every second sentence with But. And the second half with Because. Some sentences should not have any verb any all and some should display an impossible multitude of verbs

            So I see you’ve been reading slashy throwback fanfic on AO3. (No disrepect. So have I.)

            I wish I could remember in which 1930s-vintage British mystery novel the detective hero goes on an extended rant about the horrors of overcooked parsnips; Yi-Ju constantly reminded me of that in PMR, which I have come to think of as The Vegetable Show.

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    I’m not watching Marry My Husband, Idk anything about it, but let me tell you that The Kidnapping Day is a really sweet show about found family. I totally recommend it. Ignore how the title of the show sounds. 😆

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    @DarkCc I was excited for your fourth voice, but I got lost after “Why would Ji-won suffer for such a long time before deciding to get revenge?” because I dropped the drama after Ep 1, but I second the drama recommendations of @attiton and @enriquequierecagar . Both are enjoyable dramas!

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    Cecee, sorry I didn’t get around to commenting on your post when I read it earlier.

    I love your rantinette and tiny cute things. 😊

    I also wholeheartedly support your advice of foot to groin.

    As @enriquequierecagar can testify K-dramaland is also using the DeLorean method – case in point My Perfect Stranger, where the leads indeed “happily hop anywhere into your timeline or the timeline of your family“.

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2023 – that’s a belated wrap from me

Another new year, Beanies, and one that we all hope will be rich in fantastic K dramas, kind to us all and especially to some of our favourite artists, and packed with excitement.
I wish us all the best in every possible way.

The end of the year always feels a little rushed for me – as I need to drop everything I’m doing to visit the family abroad every single year (and all my voices rage every single year about it) I like my peace, my routine, my chosen little drama (preferably those on TV rather than those playing in real life), spending time with my cats and my partner while we re-imagine the world at 2 AM after re-watching old K-dramas over and over again.

Secondary Voice
Scrap that, I’m lying. It’s not only K-dramas, it’s sometimes Youtube Channel, including Yummy Yammy who has a knack for filming every single step of a long and dull food process with no understanding of personal space, and the end is always marked by the visually traumatising destruction of the food you’ve just watched being made. This is my low-key raging channel of choice.

Third Voice
Nothing in the world is more infuriating than picturing Yummy Yammy standing right on top of those people’s shoulders and whispering “put more cream in there” while filming step 2 of a 1200-step process where every single step revolves around putting cream in stuff.

But anyway, there was none of that because we went to spend Christmas with my family.
It is mandatory, and I hate it. But I can’t use the pandemic as an excuse to chill at home anymore.
Now is my family horrible? No. But they are exhausting.

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Here, I give you some extracts of the latest drama that played at the end of 2023, Christmas with Cecee

The scene plays on the 24th. My mother has multiple festive dinners, and the first one starts on Christmas Eve and runs until past midnight so people can exchange presents. Every year, I say I do not need presents. Every year, I get more presents I don’t need.

Secondary Voice
I’ve got enough crap at home already and my walls do not stretch.

Family friends and some relatives are coming over for Christmas Eve’s dinner. Brace yourself for the dietary requirements. Nobody is vegetarian or vegan, which would be easier to cook for.

A: is not gluten intolerant but likes to pretend so. Also does not eat coconut, bell peppers, spicy food, non-spicy food (yes, it needs to be somewhere between spicy and non-spicy), some seafood (but it changes every year which ones), some meats, coriander, grapefruit, lime, dark chocolate, gingerbread, candied fruits, olives, food with bits such as cake with fruits or nuts inside, etc.
B: does not eat honey, fish, and anything too spicy or too heavy that could upset stomach.
C: says will eat anything but comes up every year with new things that can’t possibly be eaten and that I should already know about (“don’t you know I don’t eat that?” — my bad, my non-existent clairvoyant powers have obviously failed to read that from my imaginary crystal ball)
D: is lactose intolerant when suitable and will reject any food that appears like it contains milk (also claims can’t have dairy alternatives because they are also called “milk” and we all know that the almond cow that makes the almond milk is full of milk), avoids tofu because it’s white and milky (yes, you read it right). Does not eat cooked spinach.
E: is A’s child and will at times copy parent’s behaviours – will announce while eating and spitting it out on the table that the food is not to their taste. Is suspicious of anything that would not look like mommy’s cooking.
F: does not like salmon, either cured or cooked

Some of their expectations now:

A: wants a dessert with chocolate.
B: nothing special
C: will not eat any new dishes and wants meat or fish in the main dish
D: something light and no chocolate for dessert. The meal should remain festive.
E: does expect anything, would rather run around the table and be a pain in the a**.
F: does really mind and would eat anything apart from salmon

And then, there’s me, in charge of the Christmas Eve’s dinner and wanted to do something fun and creative. Year after year, this slowly sucks the fun out of it, especially because anything that would take a few minutes to prepare at home seems to take much longer when I’m down there. Has anybody tried cooking with 5 people trying to hold 5 different conversations with you in the kitchen for no good reason whatsoever? Not that I want to sound particularly socially awkward, but it’s not my definition of festive fun.

Secondary Voice
Who are you kidding? You do not just sound socially awkward, you embody the awks, Cecee.

Third Voice
And on behalf of the awks, I demand some physical and creative SPACE.

Fourth Voice
Cecee’s fourth voice is just dreaming of silence.

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A little later at the table, comes the sempiternal Commedia dell’Arte moment

Commedia dell’Arte — a comedy of improvised performances with masks.
Meet Mother Dear, queen in the art of exaggerating a real character to the point where she can instil a reaction from the audience. She aims for pity, usually, but Pity dell’Arte doesn’t have the same clang to it.

Mother Dear has two adult daughters, but has retained contact with only one of the two. The other child has gone no contact with anyone who does not share her opinion.

Secondary Voice
The only hardship she might have suffered was being born too stupid for her own good but not stupid enough that it becomes forgivable.

Third Voice
Cecee, remember, if we want peace, we keep our opinions for ourselves…

Mother Dear explains how she drove all the way to her estranged daughter’s home just to be not invited inside. Mother Dear is surprised by this behaviour.

Secondary Voice
Not shit, Mother Dear, the person who does not want to talk to you did, indeed, not want to talk to you? How fully predictable.

Third Voice
You’ll be pleased to know that all of my voices remain silent.

The crowd of friends and relatives tries to comfort Mother Dear.

Did you really think she would let you in?
Why did you go there when you knew it would end like this?
This is tough.

But the crowd does not quite say what Mother Dear wants to hear, so she continues.

Enters wobbling chin, a paid actor for the scene.

“I don’t understand her,” says Mother Dear, pausing for some impressive chin wobbles. Nothing stands between an artist and her art. Not even fear of ridicule.

“After everything I’ve done for her,” Mother Dear continues. By that point, she’s using her arms to convey the full range of everything she’s done (she apparently did a lot of hand flapping for that child, and we all know how children need flapping, right?). Nothing stands between an artist and her art. Not even flapping.

The crowd remains silent. Mother Dear is not satisfied with this response. They should reflect her pain. They should be tearful by now. They should understand the heartbreaking pain of a mother.

“I’ve cared for her more. I’ve loved her more than the other one,” Mother Dear concludes, having managed to discreetly dab a drop of champagne underneath her eye to make it look like a delicate, golden tear. Nothing stands between an artist and her art. Not even the other child.

The crowd finally realises they’ve been watching another performance of the Pity dell’Arte show and disperses.

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I feel like I need a break after spending some time with Mother Dear. And I’m still recovering from the longer cold in history. A week and still going. So, anyway, sorry for the belated New Year wishes and the radio silence.

It’s a new year apparently.
So, here’s to us, Beanies:

I hope we get plenty of fun dramas to rant about. I mean talk about.

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Dystopian Apocalypse of The Eternal Me

I’m in the mood for some nightmarish tale before Christmas. No Jack the Pumpkin King included.
I just joined the Would you rather? today and realised that waking up in a different body each time you die could mean, assuming you have an endless number of hosts (and not just 12), that everyone you meet is potentially another you with another face.

Now, would that not be a terrifying K drama that slowly descends into psychological horror? Yes! You’re most welcome.

Here’s a little plot. We need to work on the synopsis more in depth, but I am getting some proper angsty feels already.

Secondary Voice
Angsty feels are the perfect Christmas present this time of the year.

Third Voice
Merry Angstmas to you all,
Terrifyingly yours — signed Cecee.

Fourth Voice
Sorry, I meant: Merry Angstmas to me all,
Terrifyingly mine — signed me.

Let me start the horror without further ado.
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I died yesterday.
I am pretty sure I did.
Yet, this morning, I wake up in another bed, in another apartment, in another life. I look in the mirror. I am an old woman. I don’t know my name but I will have to find information about that. I remember my other name, though. The one I had yesterday before I died.

In the heart of Seoul, the realisation dawns on me – is this old woman another version of myself? My name is Min-ho, and this city, once vibrant and full of life, now feels like a haunting reflection of my own existence.

The truth unfolds not with the rising sun but in the moments of each of my passing. With each passing, I am reborn into a new body, a vessel that carries the weight of accumulated memories. It\’s a never-ending cycle a face-to-face buildup of experiences that shape the ever-expanding mosaic of my existence.

The people around me cease to be individuals and become fragments of myself in different forms. My best friend, my confidant, my nemesis – all reflections of the internal conflicts that define me. I struggle with the realisation that the one I embrace and the one I despise are both me.

The city becomes a surreal landscape where every face is a mirror, and every interaction is a dialogue with different facets of my own psyche. It\’s a lonely realisation, for how can one truly connect when every relationship is no more than reaching out to myself? The boundaries between me and others blur, leaving me to question the authenticity of my every emotion, every connection.

Friendships take on a new complexity. The alliances formed with my parallel selves become both a solace and a challenge, for in their faces, I see reflections of the choices I\’ve made and the consequences that reverberate through all my lives.

Love, in particular, becomes a poignant affair. To love another is to love oneself, and yet, the constant presence of my own reflections creates a paradoxical web of emotions.

Do I love myself? Do I hate myself? There’s no telling.

All of us are me.

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    took me ages editing this because I had posted an inappropriate word. Turns out it was a S ponge b0b gif address

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      Sp0ngeBob is also a reflection of us all. Couldn’t be otherwise as he was invented by another Cecee human being…

      We have no way to see “beyond” ourselves and our own physical experiences, but that “inability” is what also produces our capacity to feel connected to one another, to depend on one another, and to feel less lonely in our bodily isolation.

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        I love how, in Beanie-land, we can talk about the depth and complexity of where oneself ends and connecting with others (even if they are all, obviously, other mes) and mention Sp0ngeBob in the same breath, and all of it makes perfect sense.

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          OMG, I nearly liked my comment instead of yours, @attiton!
          Not that it matters, we are all me, or you for that matter. You might well be the original me, which would makes me you.

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            Well, as you yourself said above, “liking yourself” is actually a measure of your capacity to “like others,” so I take it as a compliment 😉

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          It is the perfect community. We need look no further for Ceceetopia Utopia.

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    Any post which brings out the normally retiring fourth voice is 👏 👏 👏 👏

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Those 2023 roundup posts are stressing me up. Shops already started the Xmas countdown back in September and now we\’re pretending it\’s already a new year. 2023 flew by and I can\’t catch up…

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    Don’t even try to play catch up … just enjoy your vibe. You’re perfect just the way you are!!

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    Oh, no!! This is not supposed to stress anyone, but just a way to enjoy ourselves with all the fuzz. But you are right about time flying… and it’s faster every year…

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Whispers of Eternity

We’ve been openly dreaming of a professional and fashionable LGBT character on @CecilieDK wall after many Mr Oh gifs.

Secondary Voice
Can anybody get bored of Mr Oh and the misused potential of this character? The answer is No, by the way. That was a rhetorical question.

So, I’ve asked ChatGPT, with much prompting, to write the next K drama with a Mr Oh-inspired character who’s solving murders and who’s openly LGBTQA+ without being farcical.

Secondary Voice
You do have to prompt and correct and amend and reorganise everything you do with ChatGPT, but that’s not the point here. The point is I had an idea, but I could not be bothered to write it, so I essentially tasked ChatGPT to do it for me…

Third Voice
I will not admit that it would have been faster to write it myself, even though it is true.

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Here, I give to you the incomplete synopsis of Whispers of Eternity

Secondary Voice
Just being pedantic. The synopsis is pretty much complete, except that I obviously didn’t put remotely enough trucks of doom in there.

Third Voice
You’ll be pleased to know that I did re-use some popular tropes, including shamans, grim reapers, forecasting deaths, and being reborn, which is, — SPOILER ALERT FOR AN IMAGINARY DRAMA — the ending for our grim reaper.

Wait shaman and murder-solving? Yep. I do what I want.

Secondary Voice
I’ve avoided the drunken scene, the over-excited bowl of ramyeon, and the falling on top of each other kiss.

Third Voice
You need one cliché at least if we want Subway and Kopiko sponsoring, so I’m bringing the After Life in.

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In the heart of Seoul, Detective Kim Ji-hoon and his long-time partner, Yoon Min-joon, navigate the complexities of life and death. Their home, adorned with relics from Min-joon\’s late shaman mother, serves as a testament to the bonds that transcend time. Min-joon’s mother immediately approved of Ji-hoon when she first met him long ago, as she recognised a light in the then police sergent. This light is what draws the attention of an enigmatic Grim Reaper, known as Soo-hyun, creating a connection that spans both the mortal and spiritual realms.

As the first death occurs, Min-joon witnesses something inexplicable that raises Ji-hoon\’s suspicions of foul play. A deep-seated intuition urges him to dig deeper into the seemingly natural demise, setting the stage for a series of revelations that blur the lines between the earthly and the supernatural.

In the midst of the investigation, Ji-hoon and Min-joon extend their home to Eun-soo, a student living in Min-joon’s mother’s converted shamanic abode. Unbeknownst to them, abnormal patterns in the surge of deaths have also caught Soo-hyun\’s attention. The grim reaper, armed with the ability to foresee deaths up to 12 hours in advance, senses an impending danger that surpasses the natural order. It becomes apparent that a sinister force is at play, threatening the delicate balance between life and death.

Soo-hyun, unable to communicate directly with Ji-hoon, resorts to cryptic symbols and shamanic tools to weave messages into their lives. Ji-hoon and Min-joon attempt to decipher the messages, unknowingly becoming entangled in the supernatural intervention. The urgency to prevent more untimely deaths drives Soo-hyun to bridge the gap between the realms and guide Ji-hoon toward the truth.

cue to random shamaning with no real success because the real shaman is long dead.

Simultaneously, Eun-soo, grieving the loss of her friend, the first victim, becomes unwittingly entangled in the unfolding mystery. Unbeknownst to her, she possesses knowledge that could unravel the secrets surrounding the deaths, putting her in unforeseen danger. The supernatural and mortal worlds converge as Eun-soo\’s connection to the murder becomes a linchpin in the unfolding narrative.

As Ji-hoon and Soo-hyun\’s bromance deepens, the detective becomes determined to free Soo-hyun from the shackles of his grim reaper duties. Their connection, grounded in mutual understanding and shared purpose, becomes the driving force behind their quest for justice. Ji-hoon\’s relentless pursuit to liberate Soo-hyun from the afterlife sets the stage for a captivating journey that transcends the boundaries of life and death. Whispers of Eternity unfolds as a tale of love, mystery, and the unyielding bonds that connect us to both the seen and the unseen.

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Just imagine for a second, Kim Won-hae in a drama where his character has a healthy love life, solves the mystery, and even has a happy ending.

That would be worth it. I’d watch it. I don’t need the romance. I just want to see people who don’t look like they are barely old enough for primary school (hello Nam-fucking-soon; not just Nam-soon to be fair, it’s almost every single K drama, and I don’t even have the words anymore to describe how dull it is to watch what writers think inexperienced love stories should look like) fall in love. I want people who are in love and have been in love for many years, and it is so natural to them that it isn’t even part of the main plot.

I’m only in for the murder. Like a good baby psychopath. And the grim reapering because isn’t death a lot more exciting when even the angel of death cannot comprehend what is happening?

Anyway, the first episode of my imaginary drama will be playing next week, directly streamed from my brain, as long as I have figured out who to cast for the other roles.

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Perfect Marriage Revenge, Ep 11 & 12 – Karma gets served, and not everyone gets what they deserve

Finally, the end of a short but epic journey, and for me, it means recovering a good 4 hours of my life which I dedicated to making notes and writing random rants on PMR. I have enjoyed the ride, in most parts, but that ending does leave a bitter taste in my mouth. Although that might be that cup of extra super dark 97% chocolate I’m drinking.

Secondary Voice
But even if it is the chocolate, I will still blame Yi-joo because fuck her.

I have enjoyed most parts… but I do have some complaints.

Third Voice
Cecee, everybody knew you would complain. You’re a grumpy grinch.

Let me tag everyone again before I start: @mindy, @attiton, @kafiyah-bello, @lixie, @CecilieDK, @lapislazulii, @seeker, @ladynightshade, @mayhemf, @sonai, @elinor, @indyfan, @hopefulromantic @emsel @Johnb @vienibenmio (did I forget you or did I add you while you wanted some peace? Sorry, just let me know)

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Chapter One: Yi-joo, My Reality is the Only Reality
I was already annoyed by Yi-joo’s attack at her birth mother. It was not only random, it was also profoundly stupid.

Did you even love me? she asked to the woman who got herself a permanent 3rd degree burn scar on her arm and spent several months in a coma just to save Yi-joo from the flames. I already wanted to kimchi slap her in the face at that point.

And then enters Yi-joo’s next crisis when she notices Do-guk has got the same wrist date as her. Yes, I hear you, he should have told her. But here’s the thing: What should he? Did Yi-joo go out of her way to display her wrist date and actively share her thoughts with him. Nope. She didn’t. She just insisted on the fact that she had only one year to achieve her goal.

Why is that such an insurmountable issue to her?
Why is this such a test for their relationship?

Some may explain that Yi-joo felt betrayed. I argue otherwise. Yi-joo is, and has always been from the moment Do-guk showered her with his undying support and affection, a spoilt, self-entitled individual in a way that isn’t completely dissimilar to Yoo-ra. Hear me out.

#1.Yi-joo decides to marry Do-guk to get her revenge.
She doesn’t love him when she suggests getting married with him. It is a contractual agreement from her perspective. Do-gul serves a purpose; he is the tool she wishes to use to get her revenge.

Now, let me think… That does sound very much like Yoo-ra being nice to Se-hyeok when she thinks she can use him to hurt her own sister.

#2. Yi-joo welcomes Do-guk’s full support as something that is normal just because she needed it
Bearing in mind that she doesn’t give him much in return for a long time. He is the one doing her bidding and loving her silently until she finally decides to open up a little. And what we see is that he is the one constantly reassuring her and protecting her.

While we know he’s got another agenda because he is trying to save her this time, she isn’t trying to do much for him. I’d say, in the great lines, Do-guk is the one carrying the most of this relationship.

Similarly, Yoo-ra also finds it completely normal that Se-hyeok does her bidding as long as he serves his purpose.

#3.Do-guk gathered Yi-joo went back to the past like himself
And this is interesting because he took enough of an interest in her life to realise that she wasn’t being like her old self. She didn’t take the same interest in him at all. In fact, she didn’t even consider someone else be in the same situation. To me, this only emphasise how short-sighted Yi-joo is. She is so focused on herself, she’s got no time or interest to think about others, including the man she’s decided to use for her revenge plan.

This is paying attention to the other person. And this is exactly what Se-hyeok does for Yoo-ra. He warns her she’ll be left alone. He reads through her when she comes back demanding shelter. Even though he does not love her anymore, he knows her well enough to read through what she doesn’t say.

#4. We see Do-guk’s almost entire family working together to help Yi-joo
And it feels like watching the A Team where for absolutely no reason whatever, a bunch of people get together to help solve someone’s problems. Why? As much as George Peppard loved to chew on his grubby cigar and claim in his worst acting voice that he loved when a plan come together, the truth is even in dramaland, dropping everything to help someone when there’s nothing in for you is not a feasible vocation. That was her fucking idea to get revenge, why does everyone else have to make it happen for her?

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I’ve always preferred Murdock anyway.

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You’ll all be pleased to know that I am wearing my “Bring back the Dodo” t-shirt under 12 layers of jumpers. I am Murdocking while writing about Murdock.

Funnily enough, we get to see Se-hyeok’s entire famiyl also helping Yoo-ra, which is an amazing parallel. Admittedly, his family is happy to sell their souls for Yoo-ra, while Se-hyeok, in his naive understanding of their relationship at the start, will never go that far.

#5. She rams her car into his
Not that it matters much how they die. There was another mystical truck of doom, appearing out of nowhere. But I clearly remember Yi-joo driving her car into the wrong side of the road and initiating the collision. Soooo, she sort of kills him… I don’t remember Do-guk demanding apologies here.

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In the webtoon, she runs in front of his car and gets hit… which I would not fault Do-guk for it for a second, because moving targets are not supposed to jump under your car when you’re driving.

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It reminds me of that time I was driving at night in Germany (I’ve been all over the place) and the road was covered in snow. Normally, you get snowploughs clearing the road, but they hadn’t come yet. So I was driving slow, and I still couldn’t avoid the insane hare that ran in front of my car (THE ONLY CAR ON THE ROAD). I did hit the brakes, but my tyres were already on said hare. The thing is, it literally appeared out of nowhere, one second in the darkness at the side of the road and the next right in front of my car lights.

So, with that in mind, even though I was thoroughly angry at myself for running over the hare, I know that there isn’t much you can do when something or someone suddenly appears in front of your vehicle where they shouldn’t. That doesn’t mean you don’t feel guilty. You do. But technically, it’s not your fault. And in the webtoon, whatever Do-gul thinks, it isn’t his fault for hitting Yi-joo. It’s hers for forgetting basic safety as an adult pedestrian. (something Ep 11 proves she is prone to doing).

Anyway, in my perception, Yi-joo might want to sit down and learn a bit more on road safety because she is putting everyone at risk, both in the webtoon and in the drama.

And this brings me to Yoo-ra’s own metaphorical collision, getting pregnant, which she blames on Se-hyeok. Well, I am pretty sure it takes two people and that at least one of those should perhaps be using some sort of contraception. Birth control pills and condoms should be easily accessible to any fake chaebol’s heiress.

#6.Does Do-gul coming back one year in the past change anything to her revenge plan?
Nope, it doesn’t. If anything, it helps because she didn’t have to do a lot of convincing. So, I’m not sure why she is annoyed he didn’t tell her or why she thinks it was his duty to tell her.

I appreciate, at a push, that she might feel betrayed, for lack of a better word. But where exactly is the betrayal? At which point did Do-guk do anything to hurt her or prevent her plan? Not once, while she’s been completely fine getting married and going on a solo honeymoon the next day without him, or not telling him that she thought she only had one year to live. So, why does she sees his behaviour as betrayal but her own as completely acceptable?

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Yi-joo or the “you have displeased me say you’re sorry” queen.

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If you don’t know how to react, just faint and be done with it, Yi-joo. Nobody has got time for pointless drama in the middle of a revenge plot!

This is incredibly double standards of Yi-joo. But we’ve seen previously that she is incapable of seeing the other person’s experience.

She gets mad of her birth mother for no valid reason exempt that she wanted to blame her miserable childhood on someone. Great. But Jamie was never responsible for it. Yi-joo decides that her moral standards are the sole path worth walking, and anybody who does not bend backwards to follow her way is immediately pushed away and rejected.

Well, we’ve seen a lot of that double standards behaviour in Yoo-ra, especially when she thinks that Yi-joo was the fake daughter but cannot bear being treated the same way when it turns out Yi-joo was the only real daughter.

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Chapter Two: Yoo-ra, Paving The Way…[Read more]

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    sorry little additional voicing here. The main rant was taking too much brain bandwidth!

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    I feel this way about a lot of these revenge webcomics. It’s either you’re with the FL or you’re against her, and if you’re in the latter you’re punished. No fate is too dark for someone who commits the crime of not being on the side of the FL. Marry My Husband is even worse, imo.

    I’m sure these are very cathartic for many people, but for me it’s just too black and white.

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    Thank you!
    And now, Cc, you can get out … YOU ARE FREE!
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    This is a superb essay, Cecee. Thank you.

    Do Guk and his mom are the only ones I cared about and rooted for in this show. I couldn’t articulate my thoughts about Yi Joo as eloquently as you did, I just remember feeling bothered by her lack of reciprocation of Do Guk’s feeling, which could have been considered fair if she had stayed that way until the end, i.e. she just used Do Guk for her revenge plan and let him know that. But every now and then, Yi Joo did show she had feeling for Do Guk too, which often appeared sudden and inconsistent with her actions and feeling before and after such hint of affection. We weren’t shown the build-up of her feeling, we were just told she had feeling for him at discrete instants. Anyway, the show told us that the affection between Yi Joo and Do Guk is mutual, and that made her double-standard mindset more noticeable and bothersome.

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    Cecee, I love the way you pegged the characters. Yes Yi-joo does come across as a self-serving, self-entitled so and so. Apart from saying “revenge” there was hardly any contribution from her side to achieve the objective. Ah! well. Done and dusted. Sigh.

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    You’re absolutely right that Yi-joo often comes across as entitled and self-serving in ways that would be deeply unpleasant if she wasn’t being shoved down our throats as the perfect female lead. She’s suffered immensely her entire life and should fight back against her abusers – that part I definitely agree with; however, that does not absolve her of her flaws. I wish the drama actually explored that aspect of her character and made it a flaw of hers instead of pretending she was oh-so perfect. I don’t need my protagonists to be flawless paragons of virtue, I just need them to be compelling. At least once, Yi-joo should have been called out by someone for her self-centred nature. Do-guk and his entire family was behind her and went out of their way to support her war against her batshit family, but I rarely felt Yi-joo’s warmth towards them beyond basic gratitude. Honestly, I’m not even convinced she loves Do-guk. The drama tells me she eventually does, but she doesn’t and that nags at me.

    And yes justice for Se-hyeok. He’s a slimy weasel for sure, but goddamn he doesn’t deserve to be stuck with that irredeemable b*tch Yoo-ra for life because of some unborn brat he didn’t even want. For all we know, he genuinely loved and cared for that fiancée of his and now she left him because of some girl who was willing to send his ass to jail to cover her crimes and her stepsister who he neglected in an alternate universe where they were married and she had the personality of a vegetable. Make it make sense.

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    I may have not agreed with your Se Hyuk essay, but I definitely agree that as the episodes progressed, especially when she yelled at her real mom, I increasingly found Yi Joo as a bland turnip.

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Did anyone else come across a video Sung Hoon speaking in English about PMR & regretting all his life choices? Was it the Viki Cafe event Beanies mentioned? It popped on my feed but I can\’t find it

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    the 2 mins I saw did made me smile. The absolute look of despair on Sung Hoon’s face was priceless.

    I was about to rant about the fact that there event was built around Sung Hoon speaking English (which, by the way, he probably can do better than me trying to order kimchi jjigae at my local Korean restaurant) because essentially… why should Korean people have to speak my language when I am the one who chose to watch K dramas in the first place? I’m able to read subtitles. Just record the interview ahead of time and use subs.

    This also reminds me of another video that popped on my social media feeds a while back. It was Lee Dong-wook doing promotion work in Switzerland, and someone shouting “Oppa saranghae!” … to which Dong-wook-sshi replied “yo” and carried on with the promotional posing and autographs signing.
    Because, fuck it, if you’re going to confess your undying love to your South Korean oppa, use the proper honourifics. And I laugh each time I think about that video.
    I can’t help but imagine the poor Swiss girl who went through the efforts of learning two words on top of the probably 3 other languages she has to juggle with every day and being desperate to show up for her favourite Korean actor. This may be Switzerland, but we are not all about cheese here, some of us know you, oppa, and love your work.
    And there he goes, correcting her grammar.
    Please, someone hand Lee Dong-wook the award of Most Hilarious Encounter.

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      I have watched neither of them, but just the description of second made me laugh. Lee Dong-Wook might be hilarious, but you are a good story-teller. Props to you 👍

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        I’ll have to hunt both videos down on social media and bring them to Dramabeans lol

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          Yes please do!! Thank you in advance 🙂

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            Thank you, thank you, thank you, Cecee 🤩🤩 It is hilarious 😂😆

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            WHAAAT Tiktok is BANNED in my country! 😛 Thank you for your effort anyway @darkcc . Your commentary didn’t let me miss anything 🙂

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            @anne18 I’ll see if I can make the video visible. Give me a moment and I’ll see if I can download & upload it elsewhere for you.

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            I mean, that was firm but polite, and he gave her the whole verb phrase back. I’m still on his side on this one… 🙂

            He’s not even one of my oppas (by a mile)!

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            You know what @darkcc and @attiton, I totally understand WHY he insisted on that! Because in my first language (which is not English), there happen to be similar levels of casual/ formal honorifics/ pronouns/ verb endings. So I, like LDW, would be very shocked if some stranger happened to address me with a non-formal pronoun. I totally get the guys emotions!

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            I haven’t yet found a way to download that video as the author didn’t authorise it. So I’ll look around if it’s available elsewhere for @anne18.

            However, I’d like to describe the few seconds after the correction for you where he tells her in his best matter-of-fact tone that otherwise her pronunciation is very good.

            This reminds me of all those reality tv shows with tiny kids he did. When unsure, revert to samchon mode and roll with it.

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            @darkcc samchon 😂 reminded me of a video of rowoon (where he was just at the receiving end, unfortunately for the poor guy).
            https://youtube.com/shorts/P4nKioExCm0?feature=shared

            @attiton might also be interested, being an important member of Roswooning club. So I tagged you as well!

            Ah and Cecee, don’t bother really with the video if you can’t find it 😅. I totally get the samchon tone 😂. I have seen other Korean celebrities do it with International fans. It’s like it’s MY language, so I have the right to PROUDLY give you the feedback! Hahaha.. Btw I’m proud of my language too, but I doubt I’d ever samchon anyone🤣 coz you have to have that extra celebrity entitlement

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            @anne18

            I’ve made a copy of the video here: I won’t leave it up forever because I do have some semblance of copyright ethics somewhere deep in my heart, but if you want to keep it…you know how!

            https://imgur.com/a/39N3RPW

            PS: My absolute favorite part of this is the fact that, when he leaves, the same chorus of voices shouts, “saranghae!!!” at him again…no YO. Y’all, he just TOLD you how to say that politely to him!!! 🤣

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            Hahaha. Now, I think something very different about this, @darkcc @atttiton ! That was a very natural response! That doesn’t sound like entitlement, and not very Samchon either 🤣. He wasn’t even thinking! And she took it so cheerfully – this automatic reflex of correcting his beloved language a.k.a. the soft samchoning 🤣 (Yet didn’t learn her lesson, like you said 😅). But you know who was the other Samchoning oppa I watched a video of? Kim Seon-ho 😅. Too bad, I can’t find the video. Not that it was as special. It was just the Samchon tone Cecee talked about.

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          Oh I tagged you wrongly @attiton . I’m having problem with them showing up, so I rely on my poor memory these days 😅. You can now remove the video.

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        HA was LDW speaking reflexively to correct her, or kind of clutching his pearls and reacting as “excuse me, we are not that familiar!” Funny either way.

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          I imagine that it’s both?? He’s hilarious without even trying, and maybe he also thought it was weird and by adding the honorifics in for the fan, it was his way of creating distance. Drawing and setting a boundary between celeb & fan, because maybe he thinks fans declaring their “love” for their celeb bias’ is awkward/weird, etc.

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          I’ve got the image of him clutching a huge pearl necklace now with an outraged expression “we are not that familiar” and this cracks me up forever!

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      1) Not a Korean speaker, at first, I thought you meant he said “Yo!”
      2) He is not alone 😉

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        I mean, that’s hilarious, but also…what an asshole!

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          This is probably the best response one can give to keep rabid fans at bay. However nice it might be to have people complimenting you all the time, I can imagine you’d need some clear boundaries. At the same point, what do I know? People don’t scream “Cecee oppa, saranghae” wherever I go (I’d be fucking surprised if they started calling me oppa, but hey, take the compliments you can get and don’t complain, right?) so I can’t relate!

          But yes, that strict little -yo just cracks me up. Love me with honourifics, bi-a-tch!

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            I have WAY more empathy for Lee Dong-wook than Harry Styles here. To LDW, that fan sounded super rude, for Harry to correct your to you’re–he’s just being a grammar schoolmarm. That’s who I meant was an asshole. I don’t think that of LDW.

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            Cecee, I LOVE you sense of humour 😁😆

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        He also wrote “Thank you, Harry Styles” and gave them the sign back.
        I know, shitty to correct grammar in a compliment, but as someone who is frustrated by bad language (and I don’t mean cuss words) daily, I feel he is a little bit my hero for doing this.
        As a Dane, I am not only witness to bad Danish language, and bad English, but also Oh, deary deary me … to my very own daughter just completely taking over English grammar and speaking Danish as if she didn’t grow up here.
        Like, in Danish, you don’t say “She’s a singer” but just “She’s singer”. Except my girl, who inserts an article in all sorts of places where it shouldn’t be 😢
        Or, we have a word for something that we do often, (“plejer at gøre”) but she is using the “we would go home from school and would make a cup of tea” with “would” all the time, which is rare and very nostalgic in a Danish context. And so on and so forth. And like I can feel like a pleasant feeling in my gut at words used in exactly the right way, (like, there was a song with “a gente” used in a way so Brazilian that it just felt like eating digestives – crunchy in a gooood way), so these kind of mistakes are really jarring for me. It’s like a fork against a blackboard.

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          But this is just the way language changes. It has ever been thus over the millennia. We’ve only had the “rules” for a few hundred years…

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            Yah, Mama, as they say in Korea.
            I know language changes, but this is more like a fast moving avalanche or massacre. Because of the internet, she spends so much time communicating in English that is slaughters my language at a crazy speed.
            The rules are built partly on practice, partly on what makes sense. (More the first than the last). They are not just made up by some people who thought “Oh, we don’t have rules enough … let’s make some and go out and tell people what they are.” The rules have been looked for and found out, not made up. They are a core in our languages.
            But of course, my reaction is aesthetic more than functional. Oblivious use of language seems ugly to me, even if it is easy to understand. Which it isn’t always, I actually have misunderstood my own daughter several times because of that Danglish. Like, aforementioned “We would … ” sounds in Danish like “We wanted to … ” so I expect that she will tell me why they couldn’t.
            I do know that language changes. But right now, young people are spending so much time speaking English online that their own language is impaired.

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        I love the idea of Lee Dong-wook rapping his answer back with a Yo!

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      Ah-TschoO
      I don’t know what happens, @DarkCc and @attiton , but when I gif these, they go from 11mb to 57MiB, then optimized to 38MiB. But I had to gif this, too.

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        That glorious sneeze! Haha

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          Also @mayhemf … but after the sneeze, look what he does with his SNOT!! I’m sorry, but I have Cecilie to thank (with her glorious work) for making me go back and restate my point…It’s all cute when he sneezes–and I’M TOTALLY SORRY HE’S ALLERGIC TO HIS SWEATER–but get that man a hanky!!!

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            Oh, it’s an allergy? Still disgusting, but less so than a flu, because it isn’t vira or bacteria bursting out of him, it is just his glands going amok.

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            What is his sweater made of? No wonder he looks long-suffering, allergies feel that way, and if on top of that he had hoped to be interviewed about his next project rather than PMR, then travelling to Europe for this interview is a hard deal.

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            May be his nose was itching. And He was touching his nose since the start. Almost like he was holding back a sneeze. And boy it came out with a bang ‼️

            I am allergic to acrylic too. And this sweater totally looks like one.

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      I haven’t seen that clip but I’m laughing for several minutes now reading what you wrote here and couldn’t keep on reading 😂😂😆😆. Lee Dong Wook is funny 😂

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    I saw that Viki had an interview of sorts but it was at 9am my time!!
    I am hoping to find the subbed version of it somewhere.
    we all need more Sung Hoon.

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      I’ve just seen literally 2 minutes of it appearing Insta and TikTok and the way the host starts with “I’m with Sung Hoon today to talk about his latest show, Perfect Marriage Revenge” or something along those lines.

      Followed by a few seconds of silence where you can see Sung Hoon’s face express a variety of emotions, ranging from complete despair to slight panic, before concluding with a visual “oh shit whatever”. And then he just replies “Of course” in English while his face screams the exact opposite.

      I just want it on a gif. This will be my life gif. The little “of course” of helplessness in the face of tsunami. I love it. Please, any writer, watch this, and write a scene where he can use the exact same facial expressions. Pretty please.

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Perfect Marriage Revenge, Ep 9 & 10 – Yi-joo constantly forgets that people want her dead

Most people are driven by passion, especially when it comes to writing. I am driven by rage. I need to rant about things. If I don’t like it, I need to roast it. And this is where it is getting more and more difficult to find stuff to say about PMR because there isn’t much to roast. I enjoy the makjang definitely more than I did Nam-soon’s trail of self-destructive idiocy or the Good Bad Mother earning full forgiveness through the power of cancer death (nope, lady, if your only redeeming feature is being dead, that is the exact opposite of acing parenting). So… no much to say this week.

Secondary Voice
Not that it will stop me rambling, though. I thought I’d warn you first.

Who’s hoping for a short commentary? I am! Glancing at my notes (only 2 pages), I should be done in a few minutes really.

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A few minutes? Challenge accepted.

Let me tag everyone again before I start: @mindy, @attiton, @kafiyah-bello, @lixie, @CecilieDK, @lapislazulii, @seeker, @ladynightshade, @mayhemf, @sonai, @elinor, @indyfan, @hopefulromantic @emsel @Johnb @vienibenmio (did I forget you or did I add you while you wanted some peace? Sorry, just let me know)

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Chapter One: Yi-joo, the Eternal Martyr
We’ve all known/suspected/guessed for a number of episodes now that Fake Morticia was always out there to try to get rid of Yi-joo. Nothing new so far. After all, this is precisely how Yi-joo found herself back one year into her own past because Fake Morticia murdered her in a hospital bed.

So you’d think that, by that point in the story, Yi-joo would probably be a little more aware that perhaps Fake Morticia is not exactly her biggest fan. I certainly thought she would be. But nope, apparently, it’s a big surprise to epic Victoria fainting scale when she figures out that her adoptive mother was the one who’s been trying to kill her along.

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Ah, i was missing those Victorian fainting spells. They might explain, as well, why Do-guk is the only one in therapy. Everybody else seems to faint their emotions away.

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Wait… He did take a little nap the first time he was by the water with Yi-joo, so perhaps that also counts as fainting? Can anyone here have a proper conversation without immediately fainting?

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This reminds me of any Sherlock Holmes story (the actual ones written by Conan Doyle, not Benedict Cumberbatch wearing a bed sheet in Buckingham Palace)

Lady in distress: “Mister Holmes, tragedy, horror, you have to help me”
Holmes: “Okay, tell me what’s going on.“
Lady in distress: “ Apologies, but I am a feeble woman and it is my duty to faint demonstratively first.”
Holmes: “Of course. Please proceed.”
Watson, quickly grabbing the Victorian faintee: “Holmes! She fainted! OH. MY. GOD.” (as a trained doctor, the first thing you learn is how to lose your shit every single time something happens)
Holmes: “Meh. Boring.”

People, stop fainting and get on with the sotry, please. We’ve got Fake Morticias to send to jail here. We can’t afford to waste time.

Anyway, as soon as Yi-joo is done with her own little fainting speel (I don’t blame you, girl, everyone had a go, it’s your turn now), she’s reminded by Do-guk that truly it isn’t her fault and she was surrounded by bad people while all she deserved was love. I mean, yes sure, nice sentiment here.

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Oh, by the way, this is an emotion right? Quick, Yi-joo, faint again!

At the same time, if those people had not been busy being evil, we would have been stuck with bland-turnip-personality Yi-joo for the entire show. So, I’m happy the baddies spared us the trauma and proceeded to killing Yi-joo immediately. Thank you for your services to the viewers.

We get a little more of Yi-joo queen of martyr when she finally meets and confronts her birth mother, Jamie. Here I’d like to point out some key moments that captured the worst of my imagination, as per usual.

First of all, the inevitable question “Teacher, are you my birth mother?”.


(old Dr Who episode for no good reason whatsoever)

Here, I am surprised that Jamie answered the question rather than fainting on the spot. She spent time in the States, so obviously she’s less of a feeble Victorian lady. And, to be fair to her, she had a perfectly valid excuse. She risked her life saving her child from a fire, and she spent several months in a coma. By the time she woke up, her dad told her the child had died. Why would she doubt his words? You don’t doubt people, this is Makjang. You take everything that is said at face value ALL THE TIME. Those are the rules.

But the tale carries on. Many years later, Jamie comes back to South Korea to see her terminally ill father. On his dying bed, he confesses that the child never died. He faked her death and gave her away for adoption. And just when I thought we couldn’t top the fainting spells, dad figures his own way out of what would have been a very awkward conversation: he dies on the spot.

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Very well played, dad.

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It doesn’t quite have the same reusable potential as Victorian fainting, but I appreciate dad’s resourcefulness. The lengths he would go to rather than apologise! He deserves his own Good Bad Father drama.

And just when we are ready for a reunion between the mother and her child, Yi-joo decides to lose her mind and take it out on people who are essentially innocent. She did the same thing in a previous episode with Se-Hyeok, being all superior while he was kneeling in front of her and giving her the most sincere, mature, and emotionally-aware apology. Yi-joo version 201 seems to be running around demanding that everyone apologise to her… and this, low-key, makes me want to slap her with kimchi. Preferably while she’s wearing a light-coloured top.

This gives her a fantastic conversation where she pointlessly demands that Jamie say she’s sorry.
Sorry for what exactly, Yi-joo?
Sorry for saving you from the fire at the risk of her own life? Sorry for having been lied to by her own family and not knowing that you were alive? Or sorry for the pain you went through by no fault of her own? Because no matter what you say and how much you try to defend Yi-joo, this angry explosion just irritated the hell out of me. There is literally nothing to resent Jamie for here, but Yi-joo still decides otherwise.

Yi-joo carries on with one of the most painfully stupid questions here: “Did you even love me?
Apparently, she lives in a world where people risk being burnt to a crisp for fun, not out of love in an attempt to save someone’s life.

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Yi-joo, you’ve got bigger fish to catch. Jamie is not one of them.

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In the webtoon, Jamie explains that she thought Yi-joo was happy in her married life and she didn’t want to interfere unnecessarily.

Anyway, we get to see one of the arguable ugly sides of Yi-joo. Even worse than the turnip. She tells Jamie “if you’re sorry, help me take revenge.” Proof that if you spend enough time with Fake Morticia, you can learn to become a manipulative bitch too. Well done, Yi-joo, you’re turning in the thing you despise the most.

But, I strongly suspect that this is just here to pave for way for more sense of betrayal once Yi-joo finally sees the mark on Do-guk’s wrist. There is a fine line between lying to people to hurt them or not revealing everything about yourself while helping. One is betrayal. The other one isn’t. I’d argue that betrayal comes with the intention to manipulate, hurt, and take advantage of. I’m pretty sure Yi-joo will not agree with me.

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Chapter Two: Do-guk, the Angel of Revenge
I love that when Yi-joo asks Do-guk to help her get revenge, she actually means for him to do most of the work, which he gladly accepts.

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In the webtoon, this eagerness to help makes a little more sense. He prefers his women like he likes his turnip, blend and overboiled, which he why he felt for Yi-joo in her first life. But also, more interestingly, Yi-joo dies differently in the webtoon. She is run over by a car. Interestingly enough, Do-guk is the one driving the car. He dies instantly when another car collides with him, that one driven by Secretary Kim who, in the webtoon is the third person with a date on his wrist. Both Do-guk and Secretary Kim feel guilty about the accident in the webtoon, even though one couldn’t have avoided her, and the other one was being targeted by Fake Morticia’s henchmen.

Third Voice
Yi-joo crosses the road like every good K-drama character, without checking for cars. Also, she suffers from acute deadness and blindness as soon as she steps on the road so she can’t hear ongoing vehicles — a disease shared by 100% of K-drama characters; they just never hear or see anything when they need to cross the road.

As part of his self-imposed duty to do absolutely…[Read more]

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Oh!!!! New Beanie level unlocked! When did that happen? 🤭

I still have 30 minutes of PMR ep. 10 to watch before I can write a decent commentary of it — sorry I\’ve got delayed again by life/cats/work/other dramas/a sniffly nose/lack of sleep/general laziness/slow brain syndrome/completely unrelated stuff that doesn’t need doing but that I insist on doing (choose whichever answer makes more sense to you; they’re all valid)

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Shi-oh, let me make it better for you

What happened there?
Shi-oh-sshi, were you such a turbulent character on paper that the writer felt the need to torture you from start to finish?

I certainly hope you’re coming back to haunt Baek Mi-Kyeong who, surprisingly, after giving us the enjoyable and quirky Strong Girl Bong-soon, decided to throw any sense of fun and joy out of the window to pen the sequel. How poorly were you written?

Are you mad? You should be. As the only character with some sort of depth, you certainly deserved better than the incessant pain Writer Baek put you through.

Secondary Voice
Writer Baek, what the actual fuck?

Third Voice
Writer Baek, or the pen is mightier than the sword as long as it is a one-metre-long lead pen and a soft, plastic toy sword with a retractable blade.

I am not happy. Sorry, let me rephrase it. I am fuming. We’ve all known that the glorious little adventures of Nam-soon were not the sequel we asked for.

Firstly, we didn’t ask for it. We were satisfied with Bong-soon’s story and didn’t need more. Bong-soon was great, despite her flaws, because she was bringing a new concept character to life.

Secondly, any sequel needs to be at least as good as, if not superior to, the original material. For Nam-soon to be universally cherished, she needs to be as loveable, quirky, and fun as Bong-soon. I don’t even need to argue the fact that Nam-soon failed. It’s glaringly obvious. She took all the darkest sides of Bong-soon that we carefully ignored and amplified them to the point where the sequel isn’t palatable anymore.

But, nevertheless, we welcomed Nam-soon and gave her a chance to make herself at home in the list of our favourite k dramas. The little she-Hulk bulldozered through, completely, absolutely, and undeniably RUINING everything like the brainless child of a poorly thought-through sequel she is.

There is not one ounce of a doubt that Nam-soon is flirting with the lower double IQ digits. On specific occasions, I did wonder if she was simply crushing single IQ digits in ways that truly made me despair for the message behind the story. She is, there is no other term, profoundly stupid. (must be genetic because mom’s also particularly light in the brain department). I don’t need a genius, but perhaps someone who can grasp basic concepts, such as what Shi-oh’s life must have been like and the sheer power of his goodwill to believe in friendship despite his hardships. Nah. Nam-soon, armed with the understanding of a freshly toasted newt, trailblazes new lows of emotional intelligence. You’d think Nam-soon would have, at least the heart (for lack of a better word) to comprehend what a life of pain and fight for survival can do to a person. Truly unexpected given Nam-soon’s inane ability to manipulate her co-worker into trusting and liking her, or desire to forgive the fake daughter, and even build a ger for the pair of homeless squatters who try to claim hers as theirs.

Secondary Voice
Not the brain, of course. If she’s got one, it is burning all its neuronal pathways trying to keep hold of the superpower inside this tiny body.

Third Voice
There is emotional intelligence there. She can obviously see past most people’s masks, but not if you speak Russian with your Korean accent. That’s where she draws the line.

I have been trying to point out precisely why I am so disappointed on behalf of Shi-oh. I can already hear the screams of some Beanies: Is it because he’s cute?

Nope.
I could rewatch Kim Hae-sook acting flirty in her outrageous outfits for days because there was something undeniably cute in Joong-gan’s behaviour. She was giddy and excited about finding someone she liked and who liked her. Perhaps because, just like Shi-oh, there was room for deeper character introspection here (never utilised, but nevertheless, there was a nice message about romance). Perhaps, this is why I was so fascinated by Shi-oh, and also by Joong-gan.

I am probably in the minority, but, for once, I would not have sacrificed Joong-gan’s power to rescue Nam-soon. Fuck it. The girl had it coming for a number of episodes. What is the point of super-human strength if it comes with a brain the size of a grilled peanut? Going undercover for Nam-soon was basically the equivalent of being herself 100% of the time but under a fake name. I’m somehow surprised Shi-oh gave her the benefit of the doubt for soooo long.

Secondary Voice
Nam-soon, this is the opposite of undercover. This is over-exposure, you absolute idiot.

Third Voice
A round of applause for Hee-sik, best undercover mentor who is about as suspicious as she is.

I cannot erase Shi-oh’s actions in his desperate attempt to free himself from the Russian mafia. But I can see his logic. I can see that by making himself stronger than anyone else (or so he thought), he was hoping to become the protector he needed when he was a child. The only thing we’ve learned is that, from start to finish, the only person Shi-oh has only been able to count on, the only one who truly believed in him and was on his side, was himself. This only is an incredible tour de force (was there a pun intended? I don’t even know anymore) when you imagine how much easier and pain-freeer death would have been. Why survive when life’s so tough and bitter? Just die in the Russian woods and be done with it. But he didn’t. He chose to survive. He had to adapt, to get stronger, to get smarter. He did, and he did it alone.

Would life have been different if he had had a happier childhood?

I’m calling on the TARDIS for an experiment. This is the alternative life I want Shi-oh and Nam-soon to have.

Let’s snatch Shi-oh and Nam-soon when they are both kids. Send strong goldfish brain She-Hulk to the Russian mafia and get Shi-oh to be cuddled by Mongolian mamma and papa bear.

Nam-soon may or may not survive. She might form an alliance with a Russian mob. She’s a child at that point. She has no moral compass on what is right or wrong, so she may choose an alliance over death. She could grow up to become the next drug lord, sorry a drug lady. I suspect that she might get killed before that (given her complete lack of survival instincts).

In the meantime, Shi-oh grew up surrounded by loving and dotting parents who adopted him as their own. He is running a little Mongolian ger design business. The only thing he is interested in is sharing his new designs online. Among his social media followers, there’s an enthusiastic portrait photographer from South Korea who commented on one of the latest ger designs: an embroidered portrait of Shi-oh’s Mongolian parents directly stitched into the fabric.

There you go, Shi-oh, there’s your alternative life that shows that given the right environment, every seed can bloom beautifully. Keep the Mongolian parents; they were nice. They’ll be on your side. They’ll believe in you. Perhaps, the lesson here is that we all need a pair of Mongolian parents who love us.

In a parallel universe, Shi-oh is braiding his hair in a ger while Nam-soon is a tool in the hands of the Russian mafia.

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    Wow … you’re so good at these “In defense of …” posts. Here I agree with you wholeheartedly. Indeed “brainless child of a poorly thought-through sequel”. Thank you for expressing the frustration which we could not have written out so beautifully.

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    The best thing to come out of Stupid Girl Nam Soon is Cecee’s roast.
    This writeup is 💯 x more entertaining than that train wreck and kudos to those who finished this drama. I certainly couldn’t finish.

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      This is a bean one is proud not to get. 🤣

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      Yup. Cecee’s roasts are in a class of their own! And they have a way with words. “A brain the size of a grilled peanut” 🤭 It’s the adjective that elevates it so much.

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    I did not watch it, I don’t know what this character Shi Ho deserves, but I enjoyed your rant, especially the 2nd and 3rd voices😂😂😂 Can we have more of them and less of your socially acceptable and logical first voice?

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Perfect Marriage Revenge, Ep 7 & 8 – Everyone is a Feeble Victorian Lady

So, at the end of episode 8, I have one question: Who is not scheming here? Seriously, is there anyone who has no hidden agenda? And I will venture that, aside from both dads (who are the human equivalent of the Lorem Ipsum placeholder on websites), Se-Hyeok remains, oddly enough, the greenest of the red flags, and also the least able and willing to put up with any kind of scheming. Bear with me on that one.

A lot of shenanigans, SHE-nanigans mostly but some weak attempts at HE-naniganing too, and now my head hurts and I wish everyone could just talk about something simple like kimchi and XXL shoulder fashion. Pretty sure Yoo-ra and Fake Morticia would have a lot to say about the latter.

Secondary Voice
Note, FAKE Morticia. You’ll never be the real one.

Third Voice
The internal jury is still open on what to call her. Fake Morticia feels like an appropriate insult. Bitchy McBitch Face is a little too simplistic, but oh so accurate. Monochromatic Kween would be far too kind for her evil arse, besides we’ve got at least another monochromatic mother here, and she’s much better at mothering and, therefore, gets the Monochromatic Kween of Finger Heart award.

For now, let’s focus on the core of these episodes: Nobody is ever telling the truth here. Liar, liar, pants on fire.

Secondary Voice
I seriously wouldn’t mind setting some of those pants on fire. Fake Morticia. Leg of Steel (turns out Leg of Steal suits him better, but it’s a story for another day)Yoo-ra. Gossip girls gang from Do-guk’s work.

Third Voice
Stop it. We don’t set people on fire. This isn’t the Spanish Inquisition.

Let me tag everyone again before I start: @mindy, @attiton, @kafiyah-bello, @lixie, @CecilieDK, @lapislazulii, @seeker, @ladynightshade, @mayhemf, @sonai, @elinor, @indyfan, @hopefulromantic @emsel @Johnb @vienibenmio (did I forget you or did I add you while you wanted some peace? Sorry, just let me know)

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Chapter One: In Defence of Se-hyeok
I venture that, of all the people who actively stood in the path of Yi-joo during her first life, Se-hyeok is probably the least notable enemy. In fact, I wouldn’t call him an enemy as such. Se-hyeok, for clarity, is the not-husband to be.

Secondary Voice
Enemy of hairdressers, at best, because that fringe has not seen a pair of scissors in eons.

Third Voice
Not that I am complaining. I’d happily donate some more hair so I can spend less time looking at his permanently shocked goldfish expression.

Fourth Voice
Se-hyeok is not far from the slight emo edge we get from No Minwoo in My Girlfriend is a Gumiho – Nothing is more emo than a 12-year-old boy with a sad expression and a fringe that’s far too long for his face. And honestly, if Se-hyeok had his own overly dramatic tune following him everywhere he goes, he too could aspire to such height of emo-life. Hwaiting Se-hyeok-sshi!

Fifth Voice
Ahem… Need to chill out on the voices. No more five voices. Keep it low-key. Stay cool. Pretend you’re normal.

Anyway, my view on Se-hyeok is that he married someone he didn’t love in the vain, and somehow surprisingly self-aware (he knew Yoo-ra would never be interested in him), desire to stay close to his crush. I know Yoo-ra is a cow. You know Yoo-ra is a cow. But bless his little fringe, Se-hyeok did not see it during his wife’s first life.

Sure, one might argue that he should have married out of love. And, frankly, I’d say in the marriage between Yi-joo and himself, the only one who married out of love is Se-hyeok. Admittedly, not love for the right person, but hey, bonus point for trying, right?

As for Yi-joo… Well, we’ve seen her in her first life. A queen of blandness with the personality of a turnip. Actually, scrap that, I’ve met turnips with more personality. No personality. No actual attempt made anywhere at showing some affection to her husband… We learn that she once brought him a lunch box to work (and might have brought more), but we also know she is a terrible cook, so it’s unlikely that landed well. But holding hands? Kissing? Or any sort of intimacy? Some attempt at a conversation? Probably not, Yi-joo was dull as shit before Fake Morticia finally murdered her. So, while Yi-joo was married, she could have been a nun in her first lifetime. Was there love on her side? She claims there was. I haven’t seen any of it. Seeing her relationship with Do-guk, we can safely say that whatever she had with Se-hyeok was not love. Can I blame Se-hyeok for wanting a divorce even though it was clear to him that he would no longer be able to see Yoo-ra? Not really. I’m actually surprised they stayed together for so long.

So, when you consider Yi-joo’s life before she died, Se-hyeok was the husband who was sick of being bored to death by his blander than bland wife. He didn’t scheme against her. He didn’t use her (otherwise, he’d already been seeing Yoo-ra behind the scenes). He just didn’t love her. There are probably worse people around. Hello, fake Morticia, you murder-addicted coathanger in a dress…

Did Se-hyeok not see how his family treated Yi-joo? This is interesting because I’d have thought he let it happen intentionally. But now that I’ve seen his reaction to some of the schemes against Yi-joo, I’m starting to think that, in good old Se-hyeok’s fashion, he didn’t notice any of the mistreatments his wife suffered. He was shocked when his sister revealed her bitching fiction against Yi-joo, and I’m tempted to think that Se-hyeok is not evil but just plain stupid. Yi-joo being a bland, poor, innocent martyr, probably never told him, and his family never seemed to act up when he was around. So, for now, I am giving him the benefit of the doubt, mostly because his present actions indicate to me that there was never any desire to cause either emotional or physical harm to Yi-joo. (He didn’t love her, but he didn’t go out of his way to hurt her. It turns out that Yi-joo in her first life wasn’t exactly loveable either.)

Secondary Voice
Not that I am promoting murder, of course — I mean, there are exceptions, but still, I don’t go around poisoning people, unlike some — but at the same time, murder has given Yi-joo the rebirth she needed to become slightly more palatable as a character.

Third Voice
Am I truly suggesting getting murdered as a way to solve a dull personality? Yes. Don’t follow my advice. Whatever I say, just ignore it. I can’t be trusted.

Moving on to Se-hyeok present time, post Yi-joo’s rebirth. He is outraged that she would call the wedding off. He is convinced that Yi-joo doesn’t love Do-guk (and he isn’t entirely wrong; she chooses him as a revenge weapon first before seeing him as a partner). But, while his sister and mother are taking bribes to cause Yi-joo harm, he just maintains the same line of thought that Yi-joo can’t love Do-guk because she is supposed to love him. He desperately wants to stay close to Yoo-ra, and marrying Yi-joo was his way to making it happen. At the same time, given Yi-joo’s original boiled turnip personality, he may have also thought that she could not find anyone else besides himself. So, finding that his fiancée is ditching him to marry his boss is a punch to the ego. And despite that, all he does is asking her to reconsider, claiming that she doesn’t love Do-guk, and wondering if she is pretending to be happy. It’s a bit intrusive. It’s unrequested. It’s rude. But, he never goes for a low and petty attack. He doesn’t attack. He states things as he sees them, unable to realise that Yi-joo has a better understanding of what lies for her in the future.

Se-hyeok’s intelligence is lower than his fringe cut, so it comes as a surprise to absolutely nobody that he can be so easily manipulated by Yoo-ra. Sure, he’s no angel, but he doesn’t have the brain to fully grasp the consequences of his action when he retrieves the marriage contract (which is conveniently kept in an easily accessible drawer.

Secondary Voice
How easy is it to burglar their Do-guk and Yi-joo’s super top secret home? Se-hyeok just needed to walk through the door…

Third Voice
If even Mister Single Digit IQ can get in without any issue, how safe is their home?

I was disappointed when he gave the contract to Yoo-ra. Se-hyeok, you silly little fringed goldfish, what were you thinking? As it happens, he wasn’t thinking anything. Not one thought behind the emo curtain of hair. Not a single one. He was shocked when Yoo-ra used the contract against Yi-joo.

He even goes as far as to complain about it to Yoo-ra. How could she use the contract for evil when he only wanted to show her? And this is the most important aspect of Se-hyeok’s personality. He did not consider that Yoo-ra could use it to hurt Yi-joo because it is a completely foreign thought to him. Loving Yi-joo? Nah. But hurting her? Causing her pain? No, his mind never wandered in that direction. He a…[Read more]

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    We got not three, or four, but Five layers of CeCee’s voices this week. How many layers to this onion? We’ll never know.

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    Se-Hyeok remains, oddly enough, the greenest of the red flags“.

    Aaahhh! I shrieked 🙀 Et tu Cecee!!

    My heart sank when I read the heading – “Chapter One: In Defence of Se-hyeok“. Sigh, sniff.

    Huh, No Min-woo eh, I really don’t remember him in Gumiho (infact only thing I remember about it is nomu nomu nomu) but I do remember him in Partners for Justice and was strangely enough googling him just yesterday because I was reminded of the drama.

    Wait what … not-to-be husband elicited fourth AND fifth voice … damn this is getting  serious.

    Hmpf, I have to admit that you’re weird logic about husband not-to-be marrying out of love is strangely compelling. And I don’t like it one bit.

    I would loooovve to meet personable turnips. 😁

    If husband not-to-be’s defense that he is just too stupid for words. Uh! okay then.

    Hmm, you do have a valid point about the sincerity of his apology.

    Bland doesn’t make you regret being alive.” 🤣 🤣 🤣

    I love, love, love your fainting with honorifics advice. 👏 👏 👏

    Thank you for another week of awesome PMR review. Cheers!

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      He’s the epic emo vet in My Girlfriend is a Gumiho. Not hugely useful as a character but I just remember the overly dramatic music every single time he appears

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        Oh! yes I remember him now. He was after the Gumiho bead too. Yes I do vaguely recall that.

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          What, whut, hold the phone!!! I just put two and two together…that’s an older drama.

          ***Seon-ha goes typie-typie***

          PUNCHABLE FACE IS OVER THIRTY YEARS OLD?

          HE’S THROUGH HIS MILITARY SERVICE?

          And here I was, all keeping my rapacious capacious heart at a polite distance 😘

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            I never trust Korean faces. They could be 854 for all I know and still look like they belong in primary school.

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            Yes he is over 30 but he was not in Gumiho. That was No Min-woo.

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            @Seeker, Oh, wait… Sudden realisation. Is that what you meant, @attiton? I completely misread it and thought you were just commenting on the fact that I was comparing Se-hyeok to an older K drama character.

            I mean, yes, Punchable Face actor is over 30.
            No, he wasn’t the epic emo vet chasing Shin Mina’s Gumiho, but hell, I bet he would have loved the emo fringe.

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    Hmmmm… that’s an interesting defense of Mister Fringe-boy here. Not sure if I agree (how could anybody be in love with Yoo-ra??!? I don’t care how smooth his brain is – that automatically makes him too dumb to live), but I’ll here you out. *pouts in the unfairness of it all*

    So when he apologises to Yi-joo, he doesn’t try to excuse his actions. He doesn’t lie about his behaviour. He simply states “Sorry that I hurt you.”

    Stop making sense!! Stop making me feel anything but deep hatred for fringe-boy!!!

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      Nah, if you don’t hate him, you’ve got so much more extra hatred for Fake Morticia and Yoo-ra, who both deserve the lot of it. I was on the fence for Yoo-ra for a fair bit but she’s long exposed her true colours now (and it’s brown, like the pile of poo she is)

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        Yeah you’re right. Fake Morticia (brilliant nickname btw) and Discount Drizella (my name for stepsister) deserve all the hate and much worse. I was never on the fence about her because she really didn’t seem like the type to reflect on her mother’s toxic parenting and come out better on the other side, but rather someone who understood Fake Morticia’s tactics for what they were and decide to take it up a notch.

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          Discount Drizella is a winner!

          I was on the fence because it first seemed to me she never had any proper role model of what it means to be a decent human being. Her mum made her into the selfish and abusive idiot she is. So, i was briefly hoping that she might start questioning her ways if she spent more time with people who are not like her mum. But she proved me wrong fairly quickly. Not redeemable at all.

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        Punchable Face wants a woman who knows her own mind, and that Discount Drizella does. It’s sad…he’s sad…but I think it’s true. He wants to be led around—but unfortunately for him, he also ends up having a conscience?

        IMO, he’s actually a real character with some complexity, shoved into this ridiculous drama!!!

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          He’s the only one that hasn’t realised he is in a makjang and he can’t come up to terms with the constant plotting, lying, and manipulating. Bless his little cotton socks

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