Beanie level: Rooftop room dweller

I’ve never made a travel bucket list, lately I’ve noticed I’m collecting possible ideas. Maybe because looking ahead the possibilities seem more doable in the next few years.

One I’d like to do is Paris in April. My bday month and I think it would be fun to do with my oldest friend.

Then 3 tentative ones is having a really good bowl of ramen in Japan. Doing one of the Swiss mountain coasters. And then a slightly random one but spending a few days in Giethoorn Netherlands. I saw a picture from som travel list and it just looked so beautiful and serene I thought it would be a nice place to just idle and breath.

Anyway, I’m curious if anyone has any bucket list places and why or if you’ve been to your bucket list places?

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    I don’t really have a bucket list for places. It’s more about I saw a reportage or something about a place or an activity and I kept in the back of my mind.

    Tell me if you need help for the Swiss moutain!

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      I definitely will, thank you. I love when I find a new to me place through media.

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    Oooh this is exciting! Hope you manifest these into real trips soon 🤞

    I love making bucket lists for travel and I have no sense of filter so it’s a little too long, but the ones at the top of my list are visiting Japan during cherry blossom season and seeing the Great Geysir in Iceland (also catching a viewing of the northern lights while I’m there!). I was lucky enough to go to South Korea not long ago, so ticked off a lot of the little bucket list items whilst I was there, including spending Christmas & New Years in Busan, but honestly the list of places to visit is endless and sometimes only grows bigger when you get to a country and do some exploring!

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      Thank you. I think spending Christmas in a different country could be so magical. Just to see how it is celebrated, if at all, differently than from your home country. Also, winter travel sounds amazing especially if it snows.

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        Absolutely, it’s so interesting to see how it’s celebrated and the differences compared to hom! It was really magical too✨ And my corner of the world is generally pretty hot, we don’t get snow in metro areas, plus Christmas is in summer as well – that SK trip was also the first time I experienced real snow, a snowy winter and a snowy Christmas 🎄

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    Paris in April has been on my bucket list for years. It’s the month my partner and myself got together, many many moons ago, to this specific song too!

    We still haven’t done it. Reason being I absolutely fucking hate Paris. Couldn’t loathe it more. I also find much more interesting places to go to. But anyway, for reasons of the heart, this still has a place on the bucket list.

    OMG, yes I’m with you for the women bowl in Japan. Still haven’t been! So far, so expensive, so much to achieve before I can allow myself to go.

    I’d add having a subway sandwich in South Korea, just to pretend I am filming my very own K-drama. I’m still learning Korean, so I’ll wait until I feel a little more confident.

    A road trip around Iceland. This just fell through before of the pandemic and I have never gone back to planning it.

    Another road trip through the Netherlands and Belgium. Despite having lived so closed by for many many years, I didn’t even go once.

    Berlin. I am ashamed to say I spent 8 years in Germany and did not go once to Berlin. I was too busy trying to make sense of life away from home to visit.

    Whatever is left from the apple tree forrest in Kazakstan. Just haven’t gone yet before life kept throwing more important things in the way.

    Skara Brae, Scottish prehistoric village, and Orkney for the same reasons. I want to walk through the past.

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      Oh that made me laugh. I was not expecting that reason for Paris, lol.
      Iceland always looks so beautiful.
      I don’t think I’ve heard of the apple tree forest or Skara Brae, those would probably be amazing. I sometimes wonder if you can actually feel the weight of history, all the lives passing through, when you go to places like those.

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      Why did my autocorrect change ramen into women? What would I do with a women bowl? What does it even look like? Do they roll and fold to fit more women into the bowl?

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Finally started ep 7 of Lovely Runner. The killer isn’t needed. The same story, so far, could be told without him. I do think Son Jae’s guilt will be interesting to explore in regardsthe first time line and who he had become and how he’d changed.

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    And also, he (the killer) is definitely still around somewhere and it makes me uneasy. No one is safe yet. And could adult Imsol end up paralyzed in this new timeline later?

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      I am guessing killer would attack but SJ and Sol are together this time and Sol doesn’t have the watch anymore as she never bought it given she is not a fan… so when killer attacks.. SJ should time travel

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      He made her phone falling in the last episode. I wonder if it was him too in the first episode.

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    I just don’t want them to go back in time anymore. She remembers him he remembers her. I don’t want anything to change!!!!!

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    Somehow a serial killer has become an acceptable trope for introducing angst and separation anxiety in a rom-com. I agree an exploration of Sun-Jae-19 would have been more interesting.

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I want to be done at work so I can watch Lovely Runner. I don’t care about the serial killer, but I’m dying to know about the current time line.

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I saw a mention of music that reminds us of the couple from Lovely Runner. I am just finishing Monday’s ep. I like how as of right now the romance is more one sided, because Sol still sees him as this artist she loves who helped her out of a hard situation. I’m sure we all have that song that we put on repeat that feels like a hand held out. It made me think of this Zion T song that is about that, that simple but sometimes powerful love with the right song.

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I like listening to podcasts about dramas, especially if it is on a drama I enjoyed. It just helps keep that fun alive for a little longer. Also, it\’s fun to have little details pointed out that I may have missed.
I\’m listening to one on Like Flowers in the Sand. A sweet and silly detail they just pointed out is how Baek-doo will run across town to tell Doo-sik something instead of just pulling out his phone and calling her.
I have no excuse for how I didn\’t realize he was doing this.🤦‍♀️Maybe it\’s just because he seemed to always be running.

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Just finished Tell Me that You Love Me.
The first half was excellent. Great characters played by amazing actors. The directing for the two falling in love was perfect. The romance gave me butterflies. I don\’t know if anything is more precious than his art students.
And then the heroine did a complete 180 into an immature teenager. I have never disliked a heroine at the end of a drama like this. I honestly was so happy he broke up with her. I was actually a little disappointed that they reunited and I love an HEA.
I remember, maybe in their podcast, JB or GF saying something along the lines of they accepted the romance in Kim Sam Soon because they loved the FL so much they wanted her to have what she wanted. That\’s kind of how I feel here.
I don\’t think it was the writer\’s intent, but it felt like Jinwoo had to keep apologizing for being deaf. Like why would he ever have to apologize for a dream she had about him being able to hear? I need to go to bed, but had to get that off my chest.

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Dr. Slump.

We need our FL to break up with her best friend right now. If she had to pass that message on she could of gave more thought to the wording.
Did she ever stop to think her boyfriend is doing this because her friend may not be as well as the public face she is putting on and to maybe see if she needs support instead of potentially taking a support away?

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    Hong-ran really pushed Ha-Neul into deeper despair. Hong-Ran seems insensitive to others in most of her scenes. Hong-Ran & Ha-Neul probably became friends just because of their medical “nerdiness,” because they don’t seem like “kindred spirits.”

    Ha-Neul lacks emotional intelligence because she is portrayed as constantly missing emotional cues, resulting in her becoming a doormat, rather than an emotional force to be reckoned with. I hope she can learn to be more open and accept the love and support that Jeong-Woo wants to give to her. Her character is more innocent and teen-like than Jeong-Woo. I hope to see more growth and maturity in her character.

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    ML should have never divulged his reason.. the fact he said that meant and shows he is thinking internally

    of a sacrifice being made for her gf.. there is an implicit expectation built in..

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There is so much I\’m enjoying about Dr. Slump. Except, I can\’t seem to
warm up to the FL\’s best friend. I hate that because I love a strong friendship and a well done secondary romance.

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    Maybe after the misunderstanding of his “vicious rejection” is cleared and she sees how good they are for each other her tune will change.

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    Exactly! Last night’s episode with her taunting the FL made me write a whole rant in my head, but then I figured you guys have heard me complaining enough already. The so-called best friend who teases hurtfully, whines, shrieks, fails to read her friend’s mood, badmouths the ML, or urges the FL to stay away from him for stupid reasons is such a tired cliché. It’s been a sour note in a lot of otherwise sweet shows.

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    Agree. She really knows how to grate on her “friend.” Is she a clue-less nerd or an insensitive person?

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Hyun wook just needs to move there. He and Seok hee can be a modern update on Andy Taylor and Barnie Fife.

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Just started ep 10 of Flowers. Really hoping that this beginning, with the kids, means they will be reunited as adults this ep. I\’m way more interested in this friend group than who the murderer is.

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Question for any Beanies who may speak Korean.
In ep 6 of Like Flowers in Sand Baek-du uses what\’s translated as \”we\” to speak about himself and Doo-shik. Her \”husband \” is upset over the word. I am pretty sure I\’ve seen this before, the jealousy over that word. So I\’m curious if there is more meaning behind it than \”we\”.
Also, I swear more translators are using names instead of noona, oppa, hyung, and so on. I hate that.

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    I don’t speak Korean (very well at all), so other Beanies with more knowledge can come along and correct me in a bit. But my understanding of this is that the “we” is implying a closeness, almost like family. I think about it in a similar way to someone in Korea using “our” where I would use “my”, as in “our mom” or “our house” even if they are the only person living there, or an only child. It sort of connotes a single unit, a collective made up of you and the people closest to you (your family), so when someone uses it in reference to another person it can mean that they consider themselves to be in the same unit or collective group as the other person. But at the end of the day it’s also just a plural pronoun, so inevitably the meaning gets misinterpreted in dramas. I would love to know if this is a thing people get miffed at in real life!

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      Thank you. That makes sense. I wonder how, if it does cause offense, it should be worded if you don’t want to imply that sort of closeness.

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        It might be hard to avoid! Women/girls can always call their male upperclassmen “seonbae” instead of “oppa”, but (in dramaland anyway) there are still tons of misunderstandings when they call their actual brothers “oppa” because there isn’t another word that isn’t so multi-faceted! But again, I have no idea if people are actually suffering from this misconception in real life.

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          I think to make it clear that the oppa you’re talking about is your brother you’re supposed to say “shin-oppa”. Shin is like “real”.

          Also, oppa/hyung/noona/unnie is for a “closer” relationship than “sunbae”, I think. So it could be that a “sunbae” (that’s also older) feels close to their hoobae and told them to just “call them in a more comfortable way”. And that’s why the hoobae uses hyung/noona/oppa/unnie.

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            Yes, you can say that to differentiate, but no one calls their brother that. I’ve only seen anyone use “chin oppa” to clarify when talking about their brother after someone has already misunderstood. And it’s definitely a closer term, but I’ve read that lots of women in Korea don’t use “oppa” for most of their (older male) friends because it’s too ambiguous what you mean by it, and they don’t want to be misunderstood to be flirting. But I’m sure it’s just individual peoples’ discretion! Addressing people is so complex in Korean.

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            Oh, I get what you mean.
            Yeap, it could create many unnecessary misunderstandings. Even in languages with everything very “defined” people love to put some “hidden meaning” to something you say to someone or how you call that someone. So I guess the ambiguity could make that way worse.

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        What I’ve noticed is that instead of “we” they would say “X and I”. X being the person’s name, the pronoun, or the title (hyung, oppa, sunbae, etc).

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Hard to read but basically a small summary of some of the criticism that has appeared in SK around the police and media.
https://www.asianjunkie.com/2023/12/28/lee-sun-gyun-and-the-failures-of-the-pol

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I keep thinking about My Mister.
About how it showed so beautifully the quiet profound power of meeting people where they are with kindness and respect.

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Sometimes I forget how much a small kindness can mean to someone.
I was doing some last minute shopping and feeling overwhelmed and also dressed too warmly for the weather and heaters. So also felt kind of hot and icky.
And then a woman walks past and tells me my hair is beautiful.
Then I had to take a bus I don\’t usually take and not sure it will get me where I need on time. I barely said anything when the bus driver very kindly explained the route and reassured me.
Those two small to them moments made me feel so much better.

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    Many a times we may miss the indications that the universe gives us as we are too “busy”. It always reminds me of Dumbledore saying Help will always be given at Hogwarts to those who ask for it.

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    Awww that’s so sweet!!
    It’s odd, isn’t it? TV ads and society tells us that the holidays–and the days spent prepping for them– is a time of giving, of kindness, of all things good. Yet, more often than not, the holidays will be anything BUT those things depending on our own situations, things that are currently happening– or have happened which we have no control over– and at the end of the day, the holidays don’t feel like the holidays anymore, and definitely don’t feel like anything society tells us it is.

    Personally, all of the things we are told by tv ads and society are simply that: Things which we are TOLD and which society dictates the holidays “should be”, but are not necessarily–and definitely not always– what we actually feel nor think.
    But to your point, small moments like these DO make a difference and is what I think we need more of, not all of the stuff we are told how the holidays should be. Even then, I think small moments like these are what we need more of daily and regularly, not just during the holidays

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PMR….I\’m all for not having all the bad characters get redeemed, but I wanted a happier ending for Yoo Ra\’s baby.

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    You and I are on the same page, Beverly.

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      Yeah, that poor child 🙁 Too bad it couldn’t be adopted into Do-guk’s family.

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        That would of been nice.
        I wouldn’t have minded Se Hyeok choosing the child and a loving home away from his family and Yoo Ra too.
        And even having Yoo Ra somewhere else, not because she is evil and so abandons her child, but because she was raised with so much poison. For as much as I disliked her it would of been nice to see her somewhere to have tolhe space to cleanse all that from her life and sense of self.

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          Yes… Se-hyeok would be better off as a single dad… and certainly the child would do better without Yoo-ra’s influence.

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            Could I, please please please please please please please, have the PMR spin off in which Puncha be Face is an adorable, single dad, down on his luck, with a spunky daughter, and a new lease on life after his evil wife was jailed with her even evil-er mom for life?

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            @attiton, that sounds like a LEGIT weekender that would be a certified hit!!!

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Watched the first ep of My Demon. A little wild and a lot of fun. The leads look like they could have some good chemistry. I\’m enjoying the ML\’s mix of louche & ridiculous.

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    Ah good to know! It’s caught my eye, but I haven’t gotten around to watch it yet

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    Beautifully expressed. 👏

    “louche & ridiculous” perfectly describes Song Kang any day of the week.

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Perfect Marriage Revenge is such a satisfying watch.
It\’s so nice to see the leads win the little battles.

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    It is so much fun.
    On the surface it reads like a typical chaebol makjang setup.
    It’s makjang without the screeching or cringe OTT plot.
    We’ve been treated to a slew of standard drama tropes presented in a warm, lovely fashion .
    The cast, writer and PD are putting the right touch to it.
    Special shout out to the costume/wardrobe crew , the ladies rock the wardrobes.

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      Agree with you on all these points!! Yes, it’s a makjang, but most of the non-villain characters act reasonably and don’t screech – yay! For being about revenge, birth secrets, etc, it’s surprisingly warm!

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        Exactly ! Warm makjang ! Warm makjang romance comedy.
        Did I say comedy ? Yes, I laugh throughout.
        Let’s not forget Team Evil; Yoo Ra, Se Hyeok and StepMom
        Cooking Seonsaeng looked fierce too. Mother hen looking after her chick ?

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        What an astute observation Hopeful. 👏
        “Warm” as in warms the cockles of my ❤ yes that is what is PMR. 😀

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      I’ve never been soooo interested in the wardrobe of so many characters.

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    “Satisfying” indeed. Also the plot doesn’t linger on or stretch to hair pulling lengths. The “issues” and “slaps” are swiftly dealt with.

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      I like how they confront problems and deal with them and move on. With 12 episodes they can’t waste time dragging stuff out.

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        Also I love how much “story” is stuffed in the episodes. As @darkcc enlightened us the drama has covered more than the current 111 chapters in the webtoon. Wow, just wow. 👏

        Cecee cannot thank you enough for suffering on behalf of the Beanies. Really hope Swoon the Hoon can take away all your disgruntled takeaway from the webtoon.

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          the drama is helping me make peace with this atrocious piece of online garbage that doesn’t even deserve my attention.

          I didn’t know Hoon-sshi before the drama, but I have to say that between him and the script writer, they’ve definitely managed to make Do-guk more palatable. I don’t even mean from a point of physical attractiveness (I have come across traumatising posts about him in my social media feeds… kids being shocked that the actor is not ugly and decrepit even though he is 40… because apparently 40 is the new 100 now? Hello, has nobody seen the ever-growing list of gorgeous-looking Korean male and female celebs who are 40 and over? I personally would put Kim Hae-sook on this list, especially after rocking any style Nam-soon’s stylists threw at her — but this is a rant for another day and another drama). Here, I specifically mean in terms of giving depth to and having obviously fun with a poorly webtoon-written character. The criminal, offensive side eye from Do-guk to Leg of Steel in last week’s episodes was gold.
          Hoon-sshi, please, carry on leading the way. You may also change your trousers for something more fitting.

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Crash Course in Romance.
That scene between the brother and best friend made me slightly uncomfortable.
I feel like there is a better way to handle her loneliness and her wanting a partner. It actually has the potential to be a very rich storyline and much more interesting than the serial killer.

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    if they really want to make “magically appeared” boyfriend, they should just throw some cameo by a model actor or smth. And not this joke of a plot. Attorney Woo works because SHE is the one who fall in love and he reciprocates. not the otherway around.

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Crash Course in Romance. It is so hard to listen to people base the heroine\’s worth on her looks.
Though, also well Plotted and paced by the writer as I\’m assuming she anticipated some of the talk among viewers. Talk around the actress and her age and so on.

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    Seriously. I hate it.

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    The onscreen and offscreen responses, very unfortunately and disappointingly, mirror each other in many ways. I am not too sure if the writer had JDY in mind when writing her character to get the message across.

    I recall an older drama Oh My Lady with Chae Rim and Choi Simon – similar plot in a way but didn’t have the same response.

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      Oh My Lady was very different in that she was supposed to be a noona, and way older than him. That’s how the character and plot was different. CCiR though does not seem like it’s supposed to be a noona romance, that’s what the issue is. I haven’t seen anyone say that JDY wasn’t pretty enough for the role, only that she looks way older even though the character isn’t supposed to be.

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        I guess I’m so used to having to believe that characters are the same age that it doesn’t bother me that it isn’t addressed. I swear that I’ve seen dramas with the actress in her 20s and the actor a decade or so older but we are to assume they are both 30.
        But also, bot characters are well into adulthood. When the youngest is 40-ish, I’m not sure age differences matter ? And both the characters do not have anyone in there personal circles who would care or expect a conformation to society’s standards.

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    It’s really sad, but considering how Korean society revolves around the idea of beauty, the fact that a woman doesn’t spend all her time taking care of her looks just makes her ugly, even if she is JDY (I wish I were as ugly as she is). So the fact that she doesn’t wear fashionable clothes (although I love her looks) or that her hair is not arranged is enough to consider her ugly. Also the fact that she is a working mum in something very un glamorous like cooking for a living.

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      The actress is beautiful. And I hate that I’ve noticed, but I have, looks like she is aging with minimal intervention. Well, in that there doesn’t seem to be a filter on her and I can see her smile lines. I do not realize how rare it is now a days until I see it.

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About to start ep 6 of Strangers Again.
I honestly can\’t tell if this is the slowest reconciliation or the slowest goodbye between the leads.

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    I’ve dropped it, so I have so idea what’s going on. But my hopeful endgame is between Ha-ra and Jae-gyeom 🙂
    I fast forwarded to their scenes, and yeah while Ha-ra doesn’t love Jae-gyeom she still finds him attractive and someone she can talk to. Maybe I’m too old to think that the heart ponding love is what true love is. For me love means that I’m comfortable with someone and I can rely on them. Eun-beom lied to her twice so yeah I hope they don’t don’t get back together. But that’s just my opinion

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      Jae-gyeom is definitely in it 100% but Ha-ra is at maybe 10% right now. So not sure if that ship will actually sale.
      But if it’s endgame between Ha-ra and Eun-beom then show has made surprisingly little movement in that direction. Just some mild jealousy at each other moving on. Very mild.

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        Aww that sucks my poor ship! Well I’ll wait until the end and read the final recap to see what happens. This drama has brought on a lot of interesting discussions I must say

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