Beanie level: Chaebol’s poor doppelganger

I’ve been trying to figure out what it is about Park Bo Gum that… I don’t even have the words for. I’ve more or less watched his career grow. From seeing his smaller roles in Runway Cop & Roaring currents to his more memorable roles in Hello Monster and his ‘break-out’ roles and I’m realizing that you can’t really box him in one corner. I don’t have a particular image of him in my head. When I try to conjure up ‘PBG’ in my head, there’s a glitch and that’s why I’m very unsure of how I feel about him. And it seems the more successful he becomes, the blurrier it gets.
I know actors who have incredible range and I love them for it (Lee Min Ki, Lee Joon Hyuk, Lee Kyu Hyung, Chae Moo sung… the list could go on.) It’s not really about that. I’ve also loved him in a lot of his projects (especially, Reply 1988) and I know he’s a good actor. I mean, he has range. He’s the same actor that starred in ‘Tomorrow’s Cantabile’ and ‘Hello Monster’. I keep remembering his role in the movie ‘Runway Cop’ as the angsty and quick-tempered teen version of Kang Ji Hwan (who, by the way, did not age well. Eww 🤢 🚽) and at the same time, I’m trying merge that image of him with his other roles and everything is just a glitch. I just don’t know what to make of him and I’ve watched Youth of Flowers Africa. I do like him but I guess I just don’t know what to make of him. Hmm 🤔

Speaking of range, Park Eun Bin, guys!!! Watching DYLB and I’m remembering she’s Song Sunbae. She’s pervy Song Ji Won. Her most recent discography is running through my mind: Stove League, Ghost detective, Judge vs Judge and I loved her in all of it (except Judge vs Judge cause I didn’t watch that). I know she was a child actor but let’s talk about her range. This reserved, awkward Song Ah is Song Ji Won!!! Actors are amazing.

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    Maybe it’s a good thing that you don’t know what to make of him and cannot place a label on him, as it speaks of his range (like you have said above), and it doesn’t put him into a little typecast corner of your brain and will keep you open-minded when it comes to his many projects–in dramas, in movies, in variety/reality shows, etc.– he’s done in the past (whether you’ve watched them all or not) and for his future projects once he’s discharged from the army 🙂

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    How’s Med school or not? I remember some reservations about all this at some point. And I apologize if I’m being too nosey. But PBG, how do I love thee, let me count the ways. I also like how he morphs into characters. I think I sometimes have a hard time reconciling what he looks like to how he acts. In normal every day life, I don’t think he’s anything special. Like if I saw him on the street, I probably wouldn’t look twice at him. He’s not bad looking, but he’s not memorable either. His facial features are just pretty. Not unique. But when he acts, he’s crazy good. Like you can’t forget him. He gets under my skin, but I do luff him.

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      Yes, that’s it. I have a hard time reconciling his looks to how he acts.
      No, you’re not being nosey 💜 💜. Med school is just med school at this point. I’m currently not super stressed but I’m just feeling the right amount of burnt-out and emptiness to keep me company. Once exams start, I’ll be super stressed again so, there goes that. Thankfully, I’m currently in my penultimate year which is my unofficial ‘final’ year as next year is my ‘intern’ year. My system runs on a pregraduate internship system. I just keep trying not to think of how tired I am or obsess too much about the future. I’ve decided to take it one step at a time. As long as I’m aware and not dead, tomorrow will come for me and I’ll face tomorrow’s problems tomorrow. Thank you so much for remembering and asking 😩😩.

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    Judge vs. Judge is just meh. Not sure if it was the writing, the directing or both. All the actors were excellent.

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    absolutely.. on Eun bin.. for a loud character to this subtle submissive woman finding her strength.. so b’ful.. absolutely b’ful

    and on PBG..lol again agree.. his real perosnality – i can’t make anything out of it..

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    I just want to say that I miss ‘Liar Song’😆

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    If we were living in a world where android robots were a thing I would have no doubt PBG was a robot. I feel nothing from him. No warmth. No thought process. No spontaniety. Well, he still might be a robot! Who knows!

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I’m looking for how to properly articulate my feelings towards ‘Record of Youth’ but I just can’t pin point it. I’m 3 episodes in and it’s pretty and I somewhat enjoy it but there’s this feeling I get that I can’t explain. It’s like I’m trying to grasp it but it keeps slipping away. I don’t know what it is but I keep thinking ‘fake’. I’m not sure if that’s the right word. I’m not even sure what’s ‘fake’ about it. They’re all good actors but is it the lines? The delivery? Is the tone? Or the story itself? I’ve enjoyed youth-themed slice-of-life/romance dramas before so I know it’s not that. Natural…? It doesn’t feel…. natural? I don’t know but whatever it is, it’s keeping me from loving it. Childish…? No, not childish. I’m not sure. Does anyone else think/feel the same?

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    I zoomed through the episode during my lunch break. I honestly think “fake”, “childish”, and “unnatural” are all suitable words for this show. It feels a lot like wish fulfillment — like watching a drama that started out as some teenager’s dream (@panshel aptly describes the feel of this drama as something out of a fanfiction). Although the show wants to be relatable, I can’t help but scratch my head and wonder whether there are real people like this. Into the Ring, which recently finished, is a nice contrast here, because ITR was really good at creating relatable characters and relationships, even though the plot itself was a bit far-fetched.

    I hate being so unrelentingly negative, but the show is also sort of boring? Like it feels very bland to me. Hye-jun and Jeong-ha have zero chemistry and it’s a complete mystery to me how they’ve become so friendly so fast.

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    I agree. It just doesn’t feel genuine to me. Everything seems staged.

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    I am thinking one of the reason for this is , it is set in entertainment-modelling industry which takes out the reliability factor. I can not believe that a former super model will face difficulty in making it in entertainment industry.

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      I can’t believe he’s supposed to be a former supermodel.

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    Would it have been better if it’s Jang Kiyong instead of Bogum? Would it add realism?
    I can’t muster a will to watch it. 😥

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      Probably not. The show itself is poorly written IMO. Park Bogum is putting in a heroic effort to save this show (I think most of the cast is, tbh), but it’s the writing and the concept that are difficult to stomach imo.

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      To be frank, I think the only reason I’m still watching is Bogum. He’s definitely hard carrying for me.

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    I spent a lot of time wondering why I cannot connect with this drama at all. (Maybe too much time). All I can come up with is the structure of the story.

    For example with the first 2 episodes, why would they show the audition (pretty much the opening scene of ep 1) and the director’s response (liked him but he’s not well-known enough) before we knew what was at stake (if he doesn’t get the gig he’ll have to go to the army)? It took away all the potential suspense and therefore the emotion.

    Anyway, I can’t seem to care about any of them

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      I totally agree that structure is an issue. The episodes don’t flow well and it feels more like we’re watching someone stage a play rather than watching the unfolding of the characters’ lives.

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    I haven’t watched RoY but it has the same writer as doctor and those were my sentiments on that show.

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    It feels like trying to fit a square key into a round hole imo. It’s all a bit forced. The scenes don’t flow well and the lines are a bit clunky and unnatural. I know what the writer is going for but the execution doesn’t make much sense.

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    Ugh this is exactly what I feel. I can’t place it at all. I’m gonna keep watching tho–it’s a little addicting. But something about it is not selling it to me. It’s just not coming together

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Watching ‘Do you Like Brahms?’ And one thing I don’t understand is why Jung Kyeong is with Hyeon Ho. She clearly doesn’t want to marry him and she seems to have feelings for Joon-Yeong. Every time she’s with Hyeon-Ho, she looks constipated – frustrated and in pain. Did I miss something and there’s a reason? Otherwise, why will you continue to subject yourself (and your partner) to that sort of unhappiness and misery especially since you’re neither married nor with kids? As a viewer, I’m slightly frustrated because I know too many people in relationships they’re not happy to be in but won’t leave. If right now is so suffocating and tiring, do you think one more year will be any better? If you can’t imagine living the next year or 10 years feeling the way you currently do, then it’s time to leave cause it’s not going to get better.

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    I think the worst part is that she seemingly wants the best of both worlds. She wont leave Hyeon-ho but she also seemingly wants Joon-young to remain committed to her, notwithstanding the fact that she and Joon-young are not in a relationship.

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    She is very wishy washy….I know she has had issues to deal with but for me, that doesn’t excuse her absolutely crabby attitude towards both men.

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    Oh please. My beautiful, clever, funny friend is still hang up on a guy, who obviously doesn’t want anything more than a non-commited relationship. People being in toxic relationship and ignoring all the red flags is probably the most real thing in kdramas.

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    The short answer: convenience.

    It is simply more convenient to stay with someone who loves her despite her giving nothing at all 🤷‍♀️

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    She looks constipated all the time, I’m already bored of it.

    It’s hard for me to believe that she really likes either guy though, when all she seems to do is make both of them miserable. And what’s her reason for being so mad at Joon Young? Cause it seems as if she’s mad at him for not enabling her to cheat on the BF. Which is eye‐roll worthy.

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      I think she’s upset with Joon-young because she wants Joon-young to make the first move. I surmise she’d break up with Hyeon-ho for Joon-young if Joon-young made the first move. Not only that, I think she resents him for withdrawing from her life and refusing to play the same role he used to play. Whereas before Joon-young seemed to be okay with loving her from afar and with doing all kinds of small things for her, it seems like he realizes this is no longer appropriate and he’s trying to end his feelings for her in order to end whatever tension exists between him and her, and in order to prevent damage to his relationship with Hyeon-ho.

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    Good heavens, why does either guy like HER? Eeeesh.

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    It was mentioned that they’ve been together for so long that people are just waiting for them to break up or get married. She’s a selfish character (I think she doesn’t want to lose both guys and want them to stay with her). She’s insensitive and I don’t get her charm.

    In contrast, I kind of understand why Minseong and SongAh fell in love with DongYoon. Show portrayed him as a “nice” and supportive friend. On the other hand, JungKyung is nothing.

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    I plan to dislike her to the end.

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I came to DB to say: Choi Daniel in Jugglers. Choi Daniel in Ghost Detective. Choi Daniel in School 2013. Choi Daniel. That’s all folks.

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    I did not like any of those shows but I will still watch any show he is in!

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    I love how analog he is in rl. He has aol (or something like that?), is bad at technology in rl, and has no social media. I love actors that are mysterious tbh, him and Lee Joon Hyuk. He also seems like a nice guy in rl! Hope his next drama on JTBC happens!

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Is it just me or Lee Joonie looking extra 🔥 🔥 after his discharge. And did his voice get deeper or I just haven’t seen him in a while?!?

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    I agree with this! He looks great. The haircut really works for him.

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    I saw a picture of him not too long ago and his biceps were so big and his shoulders so broad. It was not the Joonie I remember.

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    Wow. I didnt recognize him.

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Day 9: A book you thought you wouldn’t like but end up loving.

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This is by far the easiest challenge. ‘Fountainhead’ by Ayn Rand. I never thought I’d enjoy this book. A friend had loaned it to me. Apparently, her sister had used it for her college personal statement, I guess? Anyway, she’d loaned it to me back in secondary school. Then, though I was usually desperate to read anything, it took me a while to even begin. In fact, I started it so many times and ended up dropping it 3 pages in. I can’t remember what exactly compelled me to finally reading it but when I did, I read 4 or 5 more times. I was 15 and was deep in my quasi emo phase. I say quasi because the closest I got to punk rock was one ‘Art of Dying’ Album. I also didn’t have the eyeliner or dark clothes to go because boarding school and we had uniforms but I was every bit as in my feelings as any emo kid and i was just as incredibly moody. I was questioning life and asking philosophical questions. My poems turned darker. Fountainhead spearheaded that phase of life. It made me question things I was too afraid to question – especially questions I had about my religious background. I swear, I carried that book around for months. It was my bible. I’d highlight lines to quote them later to my friends. 😂😂 It’s such a monumental piece of my life. I loved it so much I packed it up when I left home to the another continent. Some many years later, it’s still here with me.
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Day 10: A book that reminds you of home.
This is a tough one. Off the top of my head, I’ll have to say ‘Glory’ by Lori Copeland. It’s a historical romance about Mail order brides. To be honest, it wasn’t that good of a book. It holds sentimental value because it was one of the many books my dad bought for me after returning home. I hadn’t seen him in such a long time and he had returned with loads of books and this one just stuck out. I remember the way his suit jacket smelled like new money. It’s honestly one of my favorite smells in the world.
I re-read this book last summer when I went back home. It was such a trip down this lane called memory. I was 12 and my dad was my most favorite person in the world. I’m remembering all the emotions I’d felt. Books really are awesome!
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    Fountainhead’s been sitting on my reading list for a while now. A friend recommended it to me but I didn’t read it because I didn’t think I would like it. Still don’t but cuzz of your review I might give it a try..

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      Please, give it a try. I started it multiple times before I even sat down to read it. In fact, the first time I read it, I skipped a lot of it cause I thought it was boring. It had a lot of architectural details that I didn’t understand or care for so I skipped it. It wasn’t until I got to the end that I realized the meaning of the book. So I started it again and became obsessed. I won’t lie, some chapters were a bore.

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    I thought I’d never see an Ayn Rand novel. She’s a polarizing figure.

    Fountainhead is one of the most difficult novel for me to read (along with Atlas Shrugged). I love it but the topics are quite complex. I needed time to digest and understand what it says.

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      It was very difficult to read. I had it to read it more than once to fully understand it. But I loved it’s complex message. Same with Atlas Shrugged. I’ve had the book for over 7 years and I’m yet to really finish it. I’ve re-read most of it at least 3 times. The problem for me was always starting it but once I got into the groove, it’d start to make sense. But then I’d realize I missed something in the earlier chapters and feel compelled to go back. 😂

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Day 3: Your Favorite Series:
Haven’t finished any serial books in a while. All I remember are mostly YA books and crime trilogies (Kay Scarpetta, I see you 😉) I read back in secondary school. I have started a lot of book 1s but I just never progressed. So, I’ll be skipping this. I’ll also skip day 4.

Day 5: A book that makes you happy.
Almost all books I read make me happy so this was a tough one. I’m really racking my brain and I can’t pick one except I am Pilgrim by Terry Hayes. I’ll come back to this later.

Day 6: A book that makes you sad.
Everyone already mentioned The Fault in our stars so, I’ll pick another book: Misfortunes of Lolita by Losangelesque. Honestly, it’s a Wattpad book. I stumbled on this book back in 2013 or after scouring the barrage of incredibly weird, sexual and just borderline disgustingly possessive vampire and werewolf books on Wattpad. (Seriously, I remember book titles being like ‘Alpha’s Luna’ or ‘He saved me so I’m he’s possession.’ And they were written by kids?!?). Anyway, this particular poignant story was a hidden gem. I don’t recall much except that it made my heart swell.
https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/13830300.Losangelesque.

Day 7: A book that makes you laugh.
I’m really racking my brain here. I can’t really remember so I’ll dedicate this to the myriad of contemporary romance books that entertained me when I needed a quick read and a break from my studies. Though you were never creative and all merged into one big story, you often made me laugh. And for that, I’m eternally grateful. Also, to Christian romance novels that kept me entertained when contemporary romance became nothing but written porn. I’m forever grateful!

Day 8: Most overrated book.
Just one? Try the whole Hunger Game series, Twilight Series, Divergent Series, Mortal Instruments?? Since some of these books have been mentioned, I’ll have to say… 👀… Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen. I don’t get the hype. I never have. Maybe it’s cause of the numerous parodies that it has inspired because I truly don’t understand what is so amazing or complex about the book. It always came out flat to me. Every time I tried to read it, I got incredibly bored and wondered what was so great about it. I’ve chucked it up to it being a symbolic piece of its period. Otherwise, the ‘remarkableness’ of this piece is beyond me.
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30 days book challenge

Day 1: Best book you read last year.

‘The girl with The Dragon Tattoo’ by Steig Larsson. This was, in fact, a re-read. I’d read the Millennium trilogy many years ago. A new book came out and I wanted to re-fresh my memory before I read it. I only completed the first of the trilogy and read the second half-way. Re-reading it took me back to secondary school when I was in love with the main character, Lisbeth Salander, and how excited I was when I found out it had a movie.
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Day 2: book you’ve read more than three times.
This is a book I’ve consistently re-read since I bought it back in 2013. It was the only paperback I read when I wasn’t reading anything. Every time my heart ached to read something, I remembered lines from the book, and promptly picked it up from my library. I’ve re-read it fully 3 times and read just chapters more times than I count. My username is named after it, after all. It’s ‘I am Pilgrim’ by Terry Hayes.
For me, it was the writing style that had me. There’s a fluidity in his style that made reading the book much like watching a movie.
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This challenge is, by far, my favorite challenge so far. I haven’t been this excited about books in a long time. Heck, I haven’t really spoken about books – the books I’ve read – in a long time. Uni has drained me. The past 6 years have felt like a blur to me. I don’t remember much except what year but this challenge is forcing me to go back in time and review what the last years have been like. It turns out, I did read more books than I thought. I read loads of Christian and non Christian romances (but they all blur into one book). I started more than 5 books last year but most likely finished 3. I’m remembering the books I read and I’ve never been more excited.
I also love that I’m indirectly getting recommendations from other Beanies. This is my favorite challenge yet.

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I want to jump on the 30 day book challenge but I haven’t read that many books in a long time. Thinking about it now, I did read a lot of books but they were mostly Christian romance books on Scribd and were just to while away time. While I enjoy romance books, I subconsciously don’t rate them. Especially since they were E-books. I subconsciously just count paperbacks – it’s the whole experience for me.
Anyway, I’m going to have to skip some days cause I haven’t read that many ‘real’ books in a long time. Disclaimer, despite being a book-lover, I didn’t enjoy a lot of ‘Classics’ so, a lot of my least favorites will be them. Please, don’t be offended.

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    As a lit major, I too hate a lot of classics and mostly have only read them for my degree/in school. I don’t think anyone would fault you for disliking many of them.

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I sometimes think about that one scene from Stove League where Nam Goong Min’s character broke down in front Kil Chang Joo’s house. He had sobbed and questioned his right to hold a baby after he was asked, by Kil Chang Joo’s wife, if he’d like to hold theirs. It was a heart-wrenching scene for so many reasons.
I, personally, have not come across that many stories that also depict the impact of child loss on fathers (in K-drama world). Nam Goong Min tore my heart out and I wept for him. It was just one of the best performances I’ve seen. I didn’t get to finish the drama – as I got sidetracked by school – but that scene, in particular, stuck with me. Maybe I should go finish the drama.

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    I enjoyed the entire drama. It won’t make my short list of favorites though.

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      I agree with you completely! NGM is not an actor I particularly like, but he turned in a fine performance here. The show is not Baeksaeng-great though, IMO, and I was surprised at the win.

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        Opinions vary a lot. Imho NGM is a fantastic actor and the show is proof that you don’t need gorgeous landscapes and intricate symbolism to make a great show.

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    That scene caught me off guard and it made me cry so much for him. Seeing his tears just pour down.

    This drama convinced me NGM is one of my favorite actors. Definitely give it a try again. I hate sports lol but this drama easily joined my Favorites list.

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    It was heart-wrenching and explained everything about his backstory. It made me cry too. NGM is a superb actor. I have marveled at everything I’ve seen him in. It deserved its accolades IMO.

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    BTW Jang Hyuk also mourns a lost child in You are My Destiny.

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    Please, do!!!

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    Please do, you will love it and it’s really worth it.
    I was so happy I followed beanies recommendation…
    And the scene you mention, it’s just heartbreaking. I rememeber crying like a baby when watching.

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Met someone at the local bookstore today and she reminded me of how and when I used to love reading so much. I currently live in a non-English speaking country but I’m a native English speaker so my access to English books is limited to a small section in the bookstore in the mall. I haven’t been reading much as of late either though my library grows bigger 😁. Old me read every day and was always itching to read something new. Now, I have so many ‘excuses’ as to why I don’t read as much anymore. It’s my vision and the fact that I’m constantly exhausted and how I’ve lost interest in so many things that gave me joy. Also, I’ve become a snob. I used to be excited to read anything because I felt I could learn something but I find I’ve become too conscious of the volume of the book. ‘If it isn’t more than 400 pages long, then they don’t have much to say. Not worth my time.’ 😕
The encounter I had today has made me reflect on myself. She’d read a lot of the books there and was recommending them to me. I could see her face light up even though she was wearing a mask. It was her eyes – it twinkled. It made me want to read again. I want to read again! Maybe if I read more, I’d start writing again. I don’t write anymore. Words don’t come as easily as they used to and I’m growing more and more unsatisfied with my writing style and flow. I used to be accused of being too much of a romanticist. Now, my words barely have any rhythm. If you don’t use a tool, the duller it gets. The less I read, the less I write and the more depressed I get. 😔 I want to learn how to read again.

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    Thank you for sharing this story. I know how you feel. When I was younger I used to read a lot; not so much these days. I pick up a book and read the first few pages and then put it back down. There are a few series that I love and that I can read over and over. However, it is hard for me to find new books that make me excited to read.

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      Finding a book that excites me is now a problem. I long for those days I got lost reading books. Maybe it’s cause times were easier for me, then. All my problems were mainly about my grades and passing so I had time to kill. Lol. But adulting is a scam! It’s a greedy pyramid scheme that’s sucking me dry of all my favorite pastimes. Even dramas are slowly becoming a chore.

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    What a lovely story! I can empathize. Although my assessment of books nowadays is usually the reverse of yours – if it’s more than 400 pages long, then they’re full of faff, is my conclusion, mostly!

    I used to read a ton of books, and usually several at a time. Like you, I’ve also lost the habit! I’ve tried to revive my interest in reading in different ways – instead of randomly picking up whatever was available, I look for books around topics I am currently interested in.

    For example, my current work requires me to look at China more closely, a country that I know nothing about. So I have started with four books on or from there – a travelogue, a political history, a literary biography, and a pulp fiction novel. I got these about ten days ago, and have nearly finished two! This was a pleasant surprise given how my pace had generally dropped recently.

    This method has worked for me in the past too. Of course, it ends up waning once I lose interest in the subject, or I feel I have exhausted the ‘main topics’ I wanted to learn about.

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      That sounds like a very good method. I’m currently interested in African pre-colonial history. The last book I read was a mythology based on African history so I thoroughly enjoyed it. The problem is I don’t know where to find more books based on themes like this. I don’t do well with non-fiction. I don’t know why but I just don’t.

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        Argh, yeah that can be frustrating. If you are social media, maybe sending out a tweet or some such thing could help? (I’m not an active user, but from what I see, it seems to work for a lot of people).

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    The story of my life…. I really become sad these days when I see my fading reader personality. I wish I could read like my young self.

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      HONESTLY!! Realizing I’m not alone is both comforting and also depressing. There’s comfort in knowing I’m not alone but it just shows how being an adult entails loosing interest in things that you used to love because you’re drained after a whole day of ‘being responsible.’ Arrgggg!!!,

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    It’s like reading about myself… I read 2 pages and fell dead asleep especially when reading in different language as my native one or english or another language very close to mine. My brain became so lazy, maybe because it works overtime every day 😭

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      It’s being overworked. That’s the problem!! I’m currently struggling with a book. It’s a good book but I’m just lazy. I’m on break so I’m very bored. I’m not watching anything or enjoying anything. I’m just laying down on my bed, staring at the book I want to read but have no strength to. 😔

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    I am the same. I last completed a book in 2018. I am embarrassed of some of my DB comments due to the grammatical errors and don’t come up with words easily while writing either. My friend and I decided just today to take up a reading challenge. We exchanged books and decided to complete them in a week. The book I got is short, so it should be possible to read within a week. I’m going to try it. Maybe this will work? 🙂 You write really well btw.

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      I, too, get very embarrassed when I read som elf my DB comments because of grammatical errors. I always reply late to comments because words don’t flow like they used to. It’s harder now and after composing and erasing and composing, I give up and either don’t reply or reply days later when I feel like I’ve settled down. Sadly, it’s becoming a chore for me. It doesn’t help that I suffer from *mild & undiagnosed* social anxiety. If you know how many times I’ve deleted my messenger apps because someone messaged me and I didn’t know how to reply or because I didn’t want to be confrontational…🙈 I’m not proud of myself.
      Reading buddies sound very nice. It can be encouraging because you have someone to talk about it with.

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        @esther I know how you feel. I agonize over how to respond to people’s comments. Sometimes I would love to respond but I feel that my response isn’t witty enough or smart enough. That’s why I love the “like” option because I can show my appreciation for a post without having to comment.
        I am currently reading the Harry Potter series with my younger sister. We are on book five 🙂 Having a reading buddy might be an excellent way of getting out of a reading slump.

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        I understand. So I still haven’t started reading the book I’m supposed to read this week. I’m a little afraid of what my friend will say than not being able to complete it. 😛 I think its possible to get back into the habit with a little effort. But if you think about it, reading recaps here and the drama subs is also not bad although its not the same thing of course. Also the internet thesaurus really helps! 😛

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I’m low key worried about the actor playing Secretary Kim Min Jae in Memorials. Is it just me or does he seem to be looking thinner and veiny (not in a good way) as they episodes go? Especially in the most previous episode. He looked sick.

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    You know, I was thinking exactly the same thing while watching the last episode!! He does look awfully unwell.

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      Right? I was hoping I was reading too much into it. I’m kinda worried. I hope he’s okay.

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      OMO! I thought exactly the same.
      His skin looks yellow.
      (I’m beginning to think it’s really dangerous the way our minds go alike in this drama).

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    I’m rewatching from the first episode with my dad (I KNOW HAHAHA) and I thought there was something really different with him (vs the current), I just couldnt tell what it was. Hope he’s okay!

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      I noticed it in the episode 9 (because I also rewatched some scenes from previous episodes) and realized he, all of a sudden, had this gaunt frame. His face looked sunken and haggard. I’ve checked and can’t find an instagram account to confirm it was nothing or just momentary. Anyway, we can only hope he’s okay. 😕

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        I checked his insta, too, when I saw your post. Makeup maybe?

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Slice of life themed dramas are honestly a bop!! Human stories are always the best!

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    Totally agree. Slice of life dramas make you feel all sorts of emotions in one single drama and nothing makes my heart full as much as this.

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I’m bored and currently looking for something to watch. Any recommendations, Beanies? 🥺

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#Unfamiliar Family. Eun Joo sure makes it hard for herself. She just doesn’t know how not to be angry and how to seek solace. I understand her and I can see how she became so defensive, it’s the only way she knows but that’s because I’m an the all knowing viewer. There are times when she wanted comfort but didn’t know how to ask for it, so she’d lash out and pick on her sister because that’s the only she knows how. She truly needs to heal. It’s because I know, that’s why my heart hurts for her. But in reality, people who are always spiteful never make it easy to be around them. In real life, I’d walk away. Even though I know she just doesn’t know how to ask for help, I’d maintain a distance because I can’t be around that. It’s too emotionally draining.
The parents are a mess! They just don’t know how to talk to each other. Granted, they were kids when they got married but they’re such a mess. It’s their lack of communication that destroys their family. Unnecessary conflicts and misunderstandings that could have been cleared up by just having a single conversation.

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I don’t know why it’s hard for me pick my all time favs. I suddenly can’t remember so I’ll just list the dramas that come to my head that I remember really loving.

Just Dance – 10%
Age of Youth (1&2) – 10%
Dear My Friends – 10%
Avengers Social Club – 10%
Reply 1998 – 10%
Prison Playbook – 10%
It’s Okay, That’s love – 10%
Healer – 10%
Be Melodramatic – 10%
Radiant Office – 10%

Honourable mentions: My Ahjussi, I will go to you when the weather is Nice, APAD, Master’s Sun, Forest of Secrets, Live, Cruel city, Her Private Life, Shine or Go Crazy, Another Miss Oh, Because this is My First Life, Go Back Couple, Miss Hammrabi (this list won’t stop at this point.
Anyway, the MOST HONOURABLE OF THE MENTIONS that I want to add to the list up are GIRLS GENERATION 1979 and DIARY OF A PROSECUTOR. I just can’t remove anything from the list above. Slice of Life is my favorite genre. It’s so obvious 😁

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    I forgot Weighlifting Fairy, Just Between Lovers, Fight my way. I can’t pick 😭😫

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    Haha – I understand your predicament of not being able to pick! Slice of life is one of my two favourite genres too, jostling often with crime/thriller, if something meaty shows up.

    With your list, though, I share 40%. Really liked R88, Healer and Be Melo, and to some extent PP. Did not like Age of Youth or It’s Okay. And the rest I haven’t watched.

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    I LOVE SLICE OF LIFE DRAMAS. And man Koreans do make some good ones. Reply 1988 and avenger’s club, both are my top favorites particularly for being so relatable and soothing.

    Ok but I forgot to mention the main point of the post. We have 55% match

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    FoS, Master’s Sun, and Shine or go craaazyyyyyy

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    10% on the main list and got 5 more if part of my Honorable Mentions

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    50%!

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    70% but if I add up all your Honorable mentions, it’s gonna be 100%! <3

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    60%!

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    40%. I need to watch Dear My Friends

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    20% from your main list and 9 from you HM list 😂😂

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    I got 60% 😁

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It’s been 9 years. You’ve drifted apart. You don’t love each other anymore. Okay, then break up! Oh, but you can’t get yourself to end it. It’s become a routine for you because nine years comes with history and memories. But neither of you are happy together but you’re not willing to accept it so you both continue in a relationship that’s draining your lives. You won’t break up but you’ll start another relationship with someone else. Like?!!? DOES THAT MAKE SENSE TO YOU? Don’t you want to date the other person with ease? THERE ARE NO EXCUSES! We’ve drifted apart is NOT an excuse. If you’ve drifted apart enough to want to start something with me, what’s stopping you from ending it with the other person? YOU THAT IS DATING SOMEONE THAT IS SAYING THAT – ARE YOU OKAY? WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN? I’m so frustrated!! Yeah, yeah, emotions complicate shit but that’s just excuses people make. The reality is that it’s clear cut in scenarios like that. The person cheating has no self respect or respect for their partner. What’s holding them back? They’re not even married with kids. That’s a selfish person. They don’t want to let go of their partner but want to start something with you. Rather than assholes like that, I get angry at the cheating accomplice. Do you really believe the relationship will amount to anything? What kind of dumbass love is blinding you? PLEASE, RECEIVE SOME SENSE CAUSE YOU’RE CLEARLY LACKING SOME!

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TBH, I’ve never understood why in ‘caught red-handed while cheating’ type scenarios the women almost always goes for the ‘other woman’. Like, you don’t know her. Your beef isn’t with her. There’s a chance she was being cheated on too. Irregardless, she owes you nothing. Your SO – who clearly finds you insignificant – is who you should be dealing with but I guess most people are charged with emotions. That being said, this is the first time I’ve ever wanted the ‘other woman’ to be dragged by the hair. It’s Han Ye ri’s character. I like her character but I’m annoyed with her atm and I think she needs some sense slapped back into her – literally! So I’m hoping she gets her hair dragged and slapped and remembers the shame and that slaps her back into reality. I mean, what does she like in the guy? He’s so sleazy 🤢

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    I understand how you feel. The thing is, if there are two ppl involved in a wrong we get angry and disappointed with the person we have expectations with. My stance is that getting into a relationship knowing that the guy is cheating on his gf is as bad as cheating itself. However, if one of my siblings or friends cheats on their partner, I’ll be angry with them not the person they are cheating with, but if sibling/close friend gets involved in a relationship knowing the other person is already in a commited relationship, I’ll be angry and disappointed with them, not the person doing the actual cheating. Here, Han Ye Ri’s our heroin and her character was established as very likable so we had expectations of her which is why we are/were frustrated and angry with her.

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    I totally get you.
    If you are a single woman and you decide to have a relation with a man who is married or who has a couple, the only one who has a problem is the man. (Same thing applies if it is a single man with a married women, it’s the one who has a couple and a commitment the one who’s doing wrong).
    I’m tired of this: you can’t get in the middle of a couple. Well, if the two members of the couple are convinced about their feelings and their commitments, then no one can get in the middle. If someone does it is because one of the members of the couple is not committed enough. And that one would be the only one to blame.

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      I don’t have anything against cheating in a drama, usually I think it’s nice if show is trying to say everyone should be allowed to find their way and sometimes they will hurt others in the process, even loved ones. I don’t think I’ve ever considered the third party of this to be so completely blameless tough, this person knows someone is being deceived, it’s only proper for them to feel a little guilty over that.

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I’ve decided to give Unfamiliar family a try and I’m pleasantly surprised to see it’s only 16 episodes. I don’t know why I thought it was a weekender. I’m only 30mins in and I must say, I already like the tone of the drama and Han Ye Ri (but I always like her). I’m really curious as to how their family dynamics came to be. Especially the oldest daughter – why is she so angry? I love layered characters and I’m excited to explore the trajectory of this story.

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    Why does my heart hurt so much for the mum even though I don’t know the story?

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      Because it’s painful.
      I know, I’ve been there.
      I’m telling you you will love all the characters, even the ones you don’t like (I didn’t really liked the parents, so many issues).
      And the show is wonderfully well written and better acted. Oh, I can’t decide which of the actors is the best.

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        I’m 4 episodes in and I’m pissed at Eun Hee. That her boss is clearly a sleeze! And she should know better. But I’m enjoying the story. I still feel for the mother because it’s so unfair. After everything they’ve been through to where they are now, he just gets to… forget and pretend like the times it wasn’t as bad. She now has to stay in this marriage she wants to escape with a man she used to love (or still does) but has the face of the one she is clearly angry at. Makes me wonder what started to go wrong and how they stopped communicating and started being so selfish. It’s one of the reasons marriage scares me. People change.. or get comfortable enough to show their true selves.

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          Well, you know, I can totally relate to EH falling for Mr. Player, and it’s not only because that big library… Oh, if only it would be so easy to say no to all Mr. Players in the world. Sometimes you just want to have fun…

          Regarding your comment about marriage, I really think the issue (and that was one of the main plots in the drama) is communication, or the lack of it. People need to talk to each other, know how the other feel and express their feelings. I’ve said so many times in the recaps that the Kims should come to any of my family gatherings to know how we freely talk about anything, about our past stories, where we come from, our hopes and feel the laughters we share. Communication is the key to happiness, imo.

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    I fell in love with this one little by little. Now that I’ve finished the whole drama it became one of my favs this year.

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I didn’t really expect to be enjoying ‘Into the ring/Memorials’ this much. I’ve watched the latest preview at least 6 times. I’m so excited!!! It better not be a tease!!! Even though I am enjoying IONTB, this drama is currently my favorite airing one. It’s Goo Sera and Nana!!! And Gong Myung full on smiled and laughed. TWICE in the episode and also, in the preview. Yes, I was counting.

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    I just caught up with the show and came to the wall just because of that preview! Ahhhh, please let it be real. Let her make the first move. They are so delightful, weird, refreshing, I can’t get enough.

    It’s definitely gunning for IONTB.

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    This show has been such a breath of fresh air – from the visuals to the actual storyline. Definitely my favorite show this airing season!!

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    Oh, I ‘m living for that preview, it’d better not be a tease!!!

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      Well we did just finish episode 8 and this about the time that the romance really starts to flourish. So who knows?
      fingers crossed big time!

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