Beanie level: Rooftop room dweller

February 14th, 2021

Love is us cooking dinner together
Him eating my tofu and me reintroducing fish to my diet to share his seafood pasta

Love is him making playlists specifically for our kitchen time

Love is what made him get down on one knee when my favorite song played

(My response: What?! Now?!)

Love is me crying and promising to always be next to him

Love, February

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February 13th, 2021 Late Post

Add your favorite pick up lines below!

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February 12th

Love is him making a nest in the backseat of his car for me to sleep when we have to drive anywhere after I’ve worked too many night shifts.

Love,
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Love, February 11th, 2021

There are so many little moments that I often take for granted, that I forget to acknowledge as love.

My best friend texting me to check in.

Arriving home to a Valentines’ package of chocolate and face masks from my mom.

My sister texting to arrange a video chat with her and her kids.

A random little boy stopping on his bike to thrust a large magnolia leaf towards me, stating “have a leaf” before cycling into the distance.

Just sitting here, with my cat, eating my dinner.

There is a lot of love in the world.

Love, February

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Love, February 10th, 2021 Round Up ~

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Love, February 9th, 2021 Round Up ~

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Love, February 8th Round Up ~

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Love, February 7th, 2021 Round Up ~ Halfway through Beanies!

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Love, February 6th, 2021

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    I didn’t sleep much, and that makes me grumpy.

    I went into work unhappy and tearful, that full feeling where anything can push me over the edge.

    I felt dramatic and curmudgeonly.

    At one point later in the evening, a float person attempted to make conversation with me. I answered her questions, then apologized for not being very nice tonight.

    Her: “What? You’re being very nice!”

    It’s strange how we can feel so off inside, yet so conditioned that I need to be overboard helpful to my colleagues as well as doing my own work, that the resulting still normal behavior seems rude.

    I’m not sure if that makes sense.

    Not sure where the love is, but here is my,
    Love,
    February

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Love, February 5th (yes, I know it’s the sixth already…)

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    Kdramas.
    How many hours I have spent with just you, binge watching at all hours, unable to stop?

    I was known back in college for kdrama watching among my friends, who rarely condescended to join into my madness. I was unabashed, unashamed.

    As the years have gone on, I have become more reticent about my choice in tv shows, with no desire to have that conversation with acquaintances or workmates or even friends until we reach a certain intimacy.

    Earlier today, while I ate dinner before my nightshift, Pie Guy came over to watch the latest episode of Lovestruck in the City.
    Had he ever watched more than an episode of a kdrama before this? Yes.
    Did he text me earlier in the day excited about the new episode? Also Yes.

    (Originally, we planned to watch both episodes together on fridays to have an hour of planned tv time, but the cliffhangers got him, and now we watch them the same day they air)
    (Him last week: these cliffhangers are awful! They are such obvious bait to lure us into watching the next episode! *Pauses a moment, then gestures at himself and the screen* Well, obviously they work…)

    I’m not sure where I’m going with this, but having a significant other make an effort to join me in what I like, and then begin to enjoy it too, is a joy I haven’t experienced before.

    Now I just have to learn to like scifi more for him…

    Love, February

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      *ponders where to find my own pie guy* Good luck with the sci fi thing. I have trouble reading it and watching it.

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      Guy Pie is so right about those cliffhangers…
      As a lover of Kdramas and science fiction, I hope you enjoy whatever he proposes. My very first choice to someone who’s never watched would be Battlestar Galactica: first the miniseries, and if you like, go on with the rest. To me is one of the best TV shows ever, and it should be shown in schools. That’s how good I think it is.

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        I’ve heard that’s a great show! Just never been interested… I guess now is the time to try!

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        Pie Guy is into watching Battlestar with me haha ~ suggested that and Firefly per @ally-le and he prefers Battlestar for a rewatch at the moment.

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          Firefly is another great choice, sure you’ll love it, BUT it was cancelled in the middle of its first season and it can be frustrating (not everything is solved or solved the way you’d love in the movie).

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            The movie is called “Serenity.”Watch it after you see the cancelled series.

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      Omg! So cute! And yes, you will learn to like sci-fi’s! Have you guys seen the Firefly series? I didn’t like them until I saw this! Browncoats unite!

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      Science Fiction covers a lot of different genres…and I& you include the Fantasy part, really huge in scope. Almost anything you have in non-SF&F can be found in SF&F. What do you like in non-SF&F? Perhaps some of us fans can make recommendations?

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        That’s a good point! I do like fantasy generally! He has watched a few episodes of the fantasy dramas if he comes over while I’m watching ~ Like, Tale of Gumiho, or the Eternal Monarch, etc.

        He’s really into space shows, though, like The Expanse currently.

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      Wait. Who’s Pie Guy and when/how did you meet???

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        You’ll find that story here:
        https://www.dramabeans.com/members/hotcocoagirl/activity/1146289/

        Enjoy 🤭

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          Thanks!

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          Lol, thanks Azzo!

          Pie Guy is my best friend and boy toy. He says I cannot use the term sugar daddy anymore because, although he is older (by a whole year!), and makes more money than me, which he uses to buy us sushi, it’s creepy.

          (Also not allowed to call him oppa. Because calling him “brother,” even in another language, is also a no-no.)

          Reflecting, he likely will dislike the term boy toy too. Killjoy.

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            😂 Would he approve of the Pie Guy nickname?

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            I’m with Pie Guy when it comes to nicknames. I would find calling my partner oppa very unsettling (but I’m not Korean, so I’m coming at it from a very different cultural perspective/background).

            I haven’t managed to learn to like sci-fi either, but after over a decade of marriage, I don’t think there’s been any irreparable harm.🤞 A number of our other interests align, and some days, he chooses what we watch, so I think it works. Maybe slightly skewed to my advantage.😉 He does enjoy the supernatural element in K-dramas (the ones with ghosts, or ones like Mystic Pop Up Bar), so we both win when we watch shows like that.😄

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            @raonah & @mellowarmadillo yeah, the nicknames are a bit of a joke, I like coming up with off the wall ones like boytoy and sugar daddy to make him laugh. (He knows I do it for fun, no hard feelings, but his face when I say them is hilarious)

            Usually I just call him by his name! He does know he’s referred to as Pie Guy here, and he says it makes sense as I don’t share real names online.

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      I’m not sure you’ll start to like Sci-fi but you’ll start to watch them for sure.. I’ve started for SNG and we’re now watching the Korean ones so I’m trying to convince myself that we’re both winning at this 😂

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Love, February 5th Round Up

(Sorry this is late, been working overtime this week…)

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Love, February 4th, 2021

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    I told myself I’m only allowed to talk about him so many times this Love, February ~ but I’m tired and his hugs have become one of my favorite things.

    When we first met, he wasn’t much for hugs. Physical affection is low on his list of love languages, and he’d much rather go buy someone food or help with their taxes than give an awkward embrace.

    I thought I wasn’t much for physical closeness too, I said when we met. Quality time and good talks are what I love most.

    But then, slowly, then quickly, he became like family to me. A comfort spot, one of the few people outside my mom and sister that I will wear sweat pants and hoodies around. When that happened, what my mom calls my “leaning” started. Where, if I’m next to my loved one, I lean on them, relaxing and relying on them to hold me up.

    My mom and sister HATE when I do that. You’re an adult, or so they tell me, you can’t put all your weight on us anymore.

    Pie Guy didn’t know what to do with me. I catfished him into thinking he was dating an independent adult, then became a clinging girlfriend, constantly holding his hand, leaning, back hugging, etc.

    Somehow our relationship has survived the disconnect between our love languages. I let him do things for me, control is something I hate to relinquish but I know he feels fulfilled when he has a task to make me happy. And he makes sure he holds my hand and stands close enough for me to lean.

    Love, February

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Love, February 3rd, 2021

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Love, February 2nd, 2021

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Love, February Day 2 Round Up 2021

Add your links in the comments below!

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I know, I know, I said I wasn’t going to put much work in this year, but now February is here and I can’t help it…

That said, here is the Day 1 Love February round up, attach links to your posts if I missed them. I’ll keep updating throughout the day as I pop on and off of DB.

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Love, February Day 1, 2021

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