Beanie level: Loan shark with a heart of gold

I have been trying all day to watch UF ep from yesterday. But every time I press play my interest runs away. I fell asleep 4 times just now trying to watch. And yet im watching Hamilton for the 4th time. After listening to the soundtrack all the way through at least 2 times today. Obsessed.

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    So good. Loved being able to see the performances like Daveed Diggs.

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      My mother: That man that played Thomas Jefferson, he’s quite talented.

      Me: He is, and the speed of his rapping as Lafayette is amazing.

      My mother: That’s the same person?

      Me: Points out all the actors with dual roles, and then as a bonus points out the Bullet.

      My mother: Oh, I like her hair.

      Anyways, she’s a convert, and isa, you just watch and listen to Hamilton all you want.

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    I just watched it yesterday!! It’s so gooood. Still kind of mindblown how they did Satisfied on stage.

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      Thats the scene thats just started how funny!

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      Seeing it after listening to it for years, blew me away. The staging and choreography is genius.

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        I had never even listened to it. I assumed Id go see ir if they came near me in a touring company and then just didnt think about it. I only watched it because the doc I normally watch wasnt available. Im glad it wasnt! I spent two hours convincing my hiphop head brother to give it a try. The only musical hes ever liked is The Wiz. Im like you may actually like this then!

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        Same! Might watch the whole thing again this weekend just in case there’s something I missed.

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          I turned off the captions during a second watch so I would focus on the actors and the stage instead of the words. The chorus dancers are so much more than just background, and the Bullet especially is integral to the storytelling. She is even placed higher in the line than Angelica when they take their bows at the end, which is really really interesting.

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    Is UF uncontrollably fond?

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      Unfamiliar Family. Its typically good. Are you watching? A family that really doesnt know each other–like at all–is fracturing. Is there anything there to save? Worth saving?

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        Ok i should’ve caught that since I am watching it. Just finished ep 12 which was a total 180 from 11. So good.
        P/s i guess i had Woo Bin on my mind and wanted an excuse to talk about his drama..hehe..

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          Kim Woo Bin of the eyebrows? You are always welcome to talk about that tall drink of yummy with me.

          Im glad to hear ep 12 is better. i FINALLY finished ep 11. It took me over five attwmpts over the course of 2 days. Im still not sure what haopened other than Chan Pal Yis employee shot off at the mouth with Eun Hui and now instead of awkwardly crushing on each other Chan Pal Yi is all you cant call me Chan Pal Yi anymore because we arent friends! Outta my life forever! And I am sad.

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            LOL!! Is Chan pal yi what EH has been calling him? I couldn’t figure it out. Not much progress yet for the two dumdums but the parents got some nice moments together.

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          That is what she calls him and ai am so eternally bad with names in dramas–I think its because even though Ive been watching them for 5 years now the names are so far outside what I hear in day to day life that the names just dont stick in my head. So when something does stick I just keep it. Eun Hui calls Chan Hyuk (…?) Chan Pal Yi.
          I always feel so badly about my inability to learn characters names. But even dramas that Ive rewatched nth amount of times if I want to get down and really talk about it/analyze it I have to go to asianwiki or mdl and pull up the page so that I can constantly refer to it. Even when its an actor aim familiar with!

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You guys, are any of yall watching the Taiwanese drama Lost Romance? Is it any good?

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    It’s one of the dramas that are on my “contemplating” list LOL It looks okay and I’m itching to get back into a good Taiwanese drama… The last one I watched was “Murphy’s Law of Love” from 2015

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    I semi dropped it. It’s kind of lame. Not good direction actually. The premise might be interesting but honestly Extra ordinary You, W and The romance of tiger and rose( which is closes to the show in premise) are sooo much better. Lost romance is quite boring, I see it more as a directorial flaw alongside writing but less of it. The lead doesn’t have any bigger purpose for her actions and not much is at stake so umm meh at best. But it may work for someone else, just doesn’t for me.

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      Im just listening to the Hamilton soundtrack for the third time today. I need something to watch! I liked W well enough but dropped Extraordinary You…I dont remember why, though.

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        Have you seen the romance of tiger and rose?

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          I haven’t–is it a historical? I havent been able to get into historical dramas. Ive tried a few times and just dont seem to like them

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            Have you tried chinese historicals? I had and still have a lot of issue getting into Korean sageuks. I don’t know why because historicals were never sth I avoided. But c dramas changed it for me because a few of them aren’t that different from people wearing costumes. That’s how the romance of tiger and rose is too, infact the premise is also that a writer gets into her script and realizes that she has become a character that has to die very early on, in the script. I haven’t spoiled it because it’s literally the first episode. But the show is such a hoot and hardly ever is it bothersome that it isn’t set in mordern times. But I know that you’ve tried before so this may not work for you. I hope ot does though, because it’s a good, fluff fun, short watch.

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            Also adding sth which might intrigue you is that the show is set in a matriachal society. Honestly this was the nost interesting part for me which made me stay too. How they’ve basically reversed and imagined how a world under women rulers could be and how that clashes with the traditional setup. But that’s nothing serious either, it’s all just fun.

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          I havent been able to get i to them, I think, because of the handful Ive tried it didnt matter the subject matter eventually it turned into politics and I just dont find politics interesting. Even that one. Drama thag everyone always talks about– Queen Inhyuns Man I think? The time slip? Hes a doctor who gets pulled through time? I couldnt even finish it!

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I love and am duly obsessed with every single one of MYs outfits. But, they read like costumes that a character would wear…mayhap in a fairytale. Not things that a real person would wear day in and day out.
I wonder if/when that will be addressed…

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    Maybe near/at the end, when she (hopefully) finally is able to reconcile everything with everyone, even herself, and does feel the need to be so uptight nor feel like she needs to put up such a perfect and composed front for everyone to see anymore

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    They might not address it at all. Like IU’s wardrobe in Hotel del Luna too was as fancy and formal as Seo Ye Ji’s is but they never addressed why she wore them in her daily wear.

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    I like her outfits very much, they are interesting and match her personality very well. I doubt anything about them will ever be said because dramas ignore clothing and the way it represents what the character wants to show or hide. They’d rather talk about food nonstop kkk. I understand when you say they feel like costumes and I think it’s done on purpose, MY has a larger than life personality and a desire to feel above everyone around her and society’s norms, her wardrobe reflects that very well. She is also very conscious about her own sex appeal and again, it shows, even in the latest eps when she uses more pieces with fair colors and a romantic flair, it’s paired with transparency and black underwear to keep faithful to the character’s sense of being in control.

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Episode 6: veins. VEINS! i do not care what else happens. Also Juri and Jaesang both need to shut tf up and finally VEINS. Thats all.

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    Girl I know what scene you mean. The time in the castle when he was staring right through the screen but that didn’t matter. What mattered was his hands folded under his head while he was lying down. I really haven’t seen his face but only the arms. The glorious arms!

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Rewatching ep 5 and Im all for GTs abs and all but this is the second time MY was physically assaulted trying to pursue him. First her dad chokes her and then Joori slaps her. And he knew that Joori started the fight but because he was mad at MY…for a whole dang plethora of reasons…he sent her away allowing her to thinking that he was on Jooris side. I either need to stop rewatching these eps or follow every slight or cruelty towards my girl with a revisit to the abs. They were blinding.
I keep calling him Kang Tae instead of Gang Tae and Im getting on my own nerves.

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    I’m downloading the episodes just to appreciate the visual ‘abs’thetic and all. Now all they need to do is pull a MLFAS level shower scene and I’ll be done for this year. I mean I won’t even complain if get a drama slump for the rest of 2020.

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    Yea, telling her to leave, and giving her the physical money to do so, was actually quite insulting and degrading in a way and that scene actually made me sick 🤢

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      He is so casually cruel to her that its hard to want them together. Shes not always the kindest person in the room but shes always trying for him. I honestly feel like thats got to be exhausting for her, to know that in this persons eyes shes always wrong. Does she love/want/obsess over him enough to overlook that? Or does she just not feel it?

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        I think she sees it, but doesn’t feel his cruelty towards her as deeply as someone else who doesn’t have ASPD would, and I also think she chooses to overlook it to a degree because she needs (wants) him for herself as well and that want is overtaking any sort of minimal emotional impact that he has on her, again, due to her ASPD…. And then you have Ju Ri, who’s the total opposite, who thinks and feels that just because she grew up knowing Kang Tae (technically, Moon Young did, too), that she is entitled to him being more casual with her and lowering his speech with her, but since he’s not doing it, she takes it out on Moon Young and throws a crying fit in front of her mom

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    “I keep calling him Kang Tae instead of Gang Tae and Im getting on my own nerves.”

    It’s just a different way of romanizing the same name. DB recaps use Kang-tae, Netflix subs use Gang-tae. Neither is wrong. It’s the same with Moon-young vs Mun-yeong

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Beanies. You know your girl is as deep as a kiddie pool at times. Something i have said more than once is “keepin it shallow!”
One of the things that im loving about Its Ok is all of the discussion and analysis and well thought out essays that are all over the wall.
And in the midst of it all, a healthy appreciation for abs.
Stay wonderful, beanies. Stay wonderful.

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Im rewatching eps 4 and 5 before watching ep 6. My new takeaways:
1. The scene after MY gets choked by her father. Even as all three caretakers are rubbing, patting, calming down the dad they are all staring at MY. Not a single one of them twitches in her direction to check on or soothe her, but thats been discussed to death. Whats striking me this time around is that its probably natural, gut reaction, first instinct to care for the actual patient in their care. He has health issies in addition to his mental health. Their job is to see to him. What makes them monsters is that long after theyve saw to his basic human needs (still alive, no broken bones from prying his fingers off of MYs neck) after that beat of taking care of them no one checks on her.
2. I hate that because of how much MY needs/wants/is obsessed with KT he can say incredibly cruel things to her and she just..
accepts it and accepts him. She is trying as best as she knows how (which is more than she tries with anyone else) to meet him where he is to change herself to meet whatever expectations he has. As manipulative as she is….shes the one being changed. At least on the outside.
3. The motel worker eating his bowl of snacks while watching them argue is the best thing ever.
4. This drama is really good at small moments.

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    I agree 100% with you about KT saying horrible things to MY. I said on my wall that it’s sort of surprising how the one without ASPD is going out of his way to say horrible things and while the one with ASPD is never purposefully doing mean things.

    The entire motel scene is amazing. I love how filthy MY is lol. The gender stereotype reversal was amazing, as was KT’s squirming over all the sexual innuendo coming out of MY and the motel worker’s mouths. And that part of the scene where the motel worker lifts up a condom? Priceless.

    Agree 100% about the people at the psychiatric hospital. Then again, it seems like everybody in this show (except Sang-tae) treats MY as some kind of monstrosity. I get that he doesn’t actually feel this way, but KT is actually one of the worst in this regard. Although he also has moments of incredible compassion and moments where his genuine care and attraction to her come through, the scenes where he treats her like some kind of creature are horrible.

    I honestly just love everything about this drama. Even the stuff that infuriates me is part of the story and makes sense. And I love Seo Ye-ji. She is amazing. (Kim Soo-hyun’s alright as well, although I personally think SYJ outshines him and is more impressive as an actor, though that may also be a function of her having the more unique role.)

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    re your first point – yes! I made a comment on a previous post about this too. The portrayal of the hospital and its staff is a glaring sore spot for me right now regarding the narrative. It’s confusing to me that on the surface it seems like a great hospital with great amenities/services for its patients, but in moments that matter like the incident between MY and her dad and the comments some of the nurses make about the patients are really troubling. I’m not sure if this is a deliberate choice by the writer. I’m inclined to believe so because they’ve made a point to highlight this on multiple occasions (even director-nim disappointed me with his questioning). I just hope it’s not simply for “she’s misunderstood and KT is the only one who sees that MY needs help” because that’s just sloppy and lazy writing. And just wholly irresponsible.

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    From her reactions, i wonder if MY really has a disorder? What little i read of it seems to indicate that a person with the disorder generally doesn’t have empathy or connects emotionally but MY doesn’t strike me as being that way. It’s more like she’s built a wall due to her extreme loneliness / childhood trauma and even her extreme bluntness seems like a defense mechanism (attack before others do it to you).

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      That is my question too. From what people have been talking about APD it doesn’t look like MY has it. Moreover, her walls are breaking with KT’s warmth and love (the route I wished the show didn’t take but it is now) but as far as I know APD hardly goes away. So of they are going for a love cures all perspective then why bother making characters with mental health issues that are more complex. I do understand that KT needs a getaway and his walls can be broken down by the addition of a person in his life but how will they justify it for MY when it’s not just loneliness in her case (according to her character description).

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        Idk though… The only person she debatebly shows any empathy towards though is Kang Tae (-and even then one could argue, is it true empathy or does she just want him for her own pleasure?)
        She exhibits almost all of the symptoms of APSD otherwise, and with everyone else.
        (At least according to this site: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/antisocial-personality-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353928)
        She still disrespects KT even by using his brother to get him into her house, and by not listening when he asks her to leave him alone (not that he always asks nicely but that’s a different issue lol, and I acknowledge it.)
        (you could argue either way with Sang Tae again- does she actually care about him or is she just using him to get to his brother).

        I’m no psychiatrist, so someone who actually knows more about this than me- feel free to correct me, but from what I’ve read on APSD or sociopathy if we’re lazy, genes can make you vulnerable to developing it, and life situations may trigger it’s development (aka… the mess that was MY’s childhood)- I saw someone in a recap say that her childhood probably just exacerbated it.

        So I do think she has a disorder.
        Bear in mind it’s a fictional character that we’re discussing the fictional mental health of.
        I think it was intended for her to have one, and I personally think it’s made obvious by the show? But someone who knows more than me can say whether or not they think her portrayal is accurate or not. *shrugs*
        And goodness knows how the show will handle it in future episodes.

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          For me, there’s moments when she looks hurt by what KT says so that’s why i wondered if she really had the disorder. But then she also had no qualms about injuring other people or the potential repercussions .. so yeah atm I’m content to see where the show is going to take us.

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    3 just killed me 😂😂

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So every year I watch this 6 hour long documentary series about the American Revolutionary War. I love documentaries and history and have a really, really poor memory so this works for me. This typically set me up for a week or so of constant documentary watching. But this year my doc didnt get played! So Im looking for a doc on the revolutionary war–civil war if I cant find anything. And coming in a far distant third is WWII. Im not finding anything that looks the slightest bit interesting. I finally realize that this is Hamilton weekend and watch that (DO GOOD).
But now I really, really want to watch a doc covering that time period and Im just not finding anything. So annoying! History is so fascinating. Id love to watch some docs about SK, NK. Do any of yall have any to recommend?

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Im going to have to go back amd reread the recaps because I thought MoonYoungs mom was dead–murdered by her father before he tried to kill Moonyoung. Like what happened with the little girl whos father tried to kill her in the first ep. But Juri says that her mom isnt dead. But Moonyoung just bulldozed right over that and continues talking about her dead parents.
Also,the staff at Ok Hospital have to know that Moonyoungs dad tried to kill her. That had to be in his files somewhere. Why are they pushing Moonyoung to meet with him? They may be his doctors but dont they have some sort of ethical or moral responsibility towards her?
Also, does small Gangtae give small Moonyoung flowers twice? While shes wearing the same outfit? They repeatedly show him giving her flowers in a beautiful field and she rips up the butterfly (does she step on them? ) then in ep 5 they show him at the gates and shes rushing towards him only to be intercepted by her mom/monster and she goes to the gate and tramples the flowers. Do both of these instances happen or only one? Which one? The beauty of the field seems unreal but so does the shape of the mom/monster.
So
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    he mentioned no.. she saved him and he followed her to the castle..

    i think last encounter is the butterfly scene

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      So both scenes happen? The butterfly scene in the field and the scene at the castle gates? Maybe he was coming to apologize for freaking out that she likes to rip apart butterflies in her spare time and the flowers were a peace offering and she trampled them?

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        The day he had the accident he went to the castle and brought her flowers (it’s explained on episode 6). But she rejected them.
        According to the first episode animation, after that the little boy followed her around, until he saw her ripping apart the butterflies and asked him if she still liked her.
        So I guess this happened: first he brought her flowers after he was rescued. Then he followed her around for several days (in the first episode we see him waiting for her at the school door, walking behind her with an umbrella…) and then he wanted to give her again flowers but that was the butterfly scene.

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    I keep thinking MY mum is alive. The first time she spoke to JuRi she said she “had registered her death long ago” and it was a strange remark. She could have said she was dead, but that’s probably because she actually sees her mum in her dreams (or better nightmares?).

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      Right! And in that same conversation right after MY says that her mother is dead, Juri says (sounding confused) “your mom is alive…” Before MY talks over her insisting that shes dead or had registered her death. But if shes alive why does everyone talk about her like shes dead?

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        I have no clue, but that’s one of the mysteries of the story.
        At fist I thought her mum would look exactly like MY, but in the flashbacks, even if we don’t see her face, we’ve seen her mouth and it’s totally different from MY and so it’s played by another actress.

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          maybe mom kills people.. the dead lady in pool of blood is someone mom killed 😛

          and KT’s mom too..

          and given how MY doesn’t like butterflies, mom must be associated with butterflies. As we overheard, mom telling MY how she will kill prince charming.. ST mentioned to police that butterfly said he will have to die too..

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          Yup mom is the killer.. but have they really kept dad and mom in the same psychiatic hospital and why have we not seen her

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Im rewatching Its Ok amd I have two thoughts.
1. Sang tae holding his shirt up in preparation of meeting Moonyoung at the booksigning trying to figure out what to do with his face to look cool is 100% equal parts adotable and heart rending and also, sweetpra if you figure it out you let me know. My face doesnt know how to do cool either.
2. I dislike Juri more than I thought I did. Shes so passively pushy. I want Moonyoung to leave a pair of undies or a bra at Gang and Sang taes house next time she spends the night. Juris head would absolutely explode and we wouldnt have to deal with her anymore.

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    One thing I dont understand though, what happened with Sang Tae at the booksigning didnt happen in a vacuum. Literally hundreds of people saw what happened. I dont get how not one of them explained what happened and allowed the world to just with the thought that shes some sort of monster when she was clearly defending Sang tae. All of those people are supposed to be her fans but I guess the saying is true: the higher you fly the more people want to see you fall. I just dont get how it gets to this point with her books getting pulled and movie cancelled. Youd think people would love her more for coming to the defense of someone.

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    So the scene where the politicians son is dancing around in all of his naked glory was Gang Tae making a joke about the size of his…ahem…when he said that the kid looked cold? Im reminded of a.Seinfeld ep where George keeps talking about “shrinkage”

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Im watching the final ep of OMB and I havr some thoughts (of course) about why I didnt like it as much as I had hoped.

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    Ive mentioned it before but it bears repeating. The way they handled the entire infertility storyline (soooooo basically the entire plot).
    I had one friend and two acquaintances.
    The friend. She got married to her husband at 18, he was 20. They didnt believe in birth control and knew that if they got pregnant their parents would pay for their apartment and expenses until he got out kf college and could support his family. He graduated 3 years later and they started actively trying to conceive. They went to doctor after doctor to find out why they didnt have an oops! baby and started paying attention to ovulation dates. There was nothing wrong with either of them physically. But 3 miscarriages and 7 years later they had their first baby. Two years after that they had twins.
    Acquaintance 1. We werent friends, just went to the same church and had friend groups that brushed against each other. In her early teens she had a really bad car accident that made it hard but not impossible for her to get pregnant. She wantdd to get married and start her family right away. But every guy she dated that she told this to dumped her. She finally met a good man and after years of trying and years of tears ahe gave up and became a foster parent. She and her husband took in two toddlers from the same family, and then a few years latet an infant and a few more years later another infant. Her husband was in the army and constantly had to leave her alone with their kids. Their options were to give up the kids that thwy were fostering and ahe could go with him to a.new base or they could keep hanging on. The birth mom kept teasing them with giving up her parental rights. If the mom gave up her rights thus woman could adopt all 4 kids and join her husband. The birth mom had 3 more kids and gave them up to my acquaintances before she finally gave up her rights. It was about 4 years ago that she took her 7 fully adopted kids and mkved to join her husband after becouldseparated for a decade.
    Last acquaintances. They married late in life. They coukdnt afford the adoption process but decided to foster instead. They got first a beautiful little school aged girl and then a year or so later her little sister. Eventually after having custody of the girls for years and constantly having to give them back when their birth family was more “together” (only to lose them again a year or so later) they were allowed to adopt. When their daughters where 13 and 11 their birth mother gave birth to a little girl. And the following year to a little boy. Both kids wound up with this couple from church and their older sisters. They dont know when or if theyll be able to adopt these two kids. They want to.
    I think I didnt like this drama as much as I could have because they didnt tackle what it really means to be infertile as much as they could have. They could have talked about what makes a family. What makes a mom. Instead they had Hari find out that she needed this surgery and she coul

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      Could have the surgery or she coukd get knocked up right away without ever exploring any other options.
      She said that she didnt want adoption to be her fall back plan. Yisang mentioned that IVF could be a possiblity if his results are good–in passing in the final ep. No discussions were ever had about their other options. Even though this was supposed to be a drama about a woman who learns shes infertile and will do anything for a baby they really only shkwed her trying one thing: get knocked up before it was too late without ever exploring or discussing or mentioning any other way that she could possibly become a mom except through birth.
      I think this drama disappoined me because I have seen women struggle with this. I remember there was a time when everyone in our friend group knew that my friend was trying and we ALL knew her cycle and wed look at her with such hope for her and her husband and she would try to smile at us as tears filled her eyes and she said “not this month guys”. I was sitting in her living room when shed call her mom and then his mom and tell them that she wasnt pregnant yet and the doctors werent finding anything wrong with her.
      Watching Hari complain that getting pregnant is hard when she literally tried NOTHING. Was hard.
      Dramas are supposed to be fun (some of them). But I think this drama was insulting to the actual infertile out there. Insulting to those who become a family in nontraditional ways by jjsy pretending that they dont exist.
      Unless they dont exist in SK. In which case…my bad.

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Beanies. I had the scariest nightmare. It drove me out of sleep and into the arms of the new Babysitters Club. Its cute. I love Alicia Silverstone. Demon from Good Place! Squee! I love him in all the things! Yall. Karen is creepy af. I haven’t read the bsc since I was a kid. Was Karen creepy AF? Claudia Kishi is the adorable style account 11 year old me needs and deserves.

Now. This nightmare. There was this woman and she kidnapped this little girl and raised her in violence and insanity. After the mom would murder some new person she would color the daughters hair with a magic marker and they would move to a new town.
Meanwhile. There was this single mom of two, a boy and a girl. The mom was on the run from an ex who tried to kill her. They were hiding out in the woods. The only way for the kids to get to school was to catch a high speeding train deep in the center of the dense forest. Their house is broken down.

So the boy devolps a crush on the kidnapped girl. He touches her hair and its covered in marker. She flips all the way out and starts screaming. The sister tries to stand up for her little brother only to get her eyeball bitten out! In my dream it was completely bloody, gorey, and GROSS.
The now one eyed sister and the boy jump off the train and run home. The marker nightmare girl goes home and gets her mother and they go to the decrepit house in the woods and slaughter the girl and her brother and the mom and the cops.
And then I woke up.
The nightmare? No bueno. The new babysitters club is amazing. Like I said. This tiny Claudia Kishi is amazing.

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Im starting ep 15 of OMB and Im a biy disappointed. I feel like Ive been vaguely disappointed in this drama since the beginning.
It feels like it had such a strong beginning and interesting premise but never really went anywhere with it. I was shocked when I realized this was the last week. Iy still feels like early days…like the drama is just beginning and building up to something.
I thunk it felt like this because they never show Hari exploring het options and it feels like there should have been more to be discussed, considered, and thrown away than trying to illegally buy sperm or get knocked up. She mentioned once that she didnt want to consider adoption until it was a choice and not a fallback. I wish they had shown more conversations like that between her and her friends or her and her mother or just pondering it alone. It feels likenshe got told bad news,made a rash decision and decided to cling to it for dear life.
Ill probably change my mind when it’s time to see it but Im not really looking forward to the wedding. Maybe Ive seen too many college romance dramas or Noona romamces with people wearing their hearts on their sleeves But I’ve never really felt like Hari was into YiSang–probably why it still feels like Im waiting for a shoe to drop. Because shes never seemed particularly into YiSang its hard to remember that hes the male lead. But Im on ep 15 of 16. I hardly think theyll introduce a new love line now!
I wish this was better. It feels like it should have been.

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    What is Omb? Did you ever finish FTLY with Ethan? I haven’t been drama beans for awhile before yesterday and when I looked my last comment was about your desire to put a hammer to Ethan. Good luck with your library opening it sounds like Alot!

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      Oh My Baby. It was…meh. I did finish FtLY. It was a horrible and traumatic experience.
      My library has already decided to scale back our opening amd were only open for curbside services starting tomorrow. Pandemic is so stressful.
      How are you? How are things?

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        FTLY – yeah I kinda forgot how painful it was, my heart broke for her after losing the baby and I skimmed alot through their separation. I’m back at work going from 2 months on my butt to my company ramping up to 7 days a week. In the Heat eek!🥺 Thing is I Like being at home. So anyway tired but grateful to have a job.
        I have to admit as much as I like Jang Nara I knew I wouldn’t even attempt it. I have no problem with baby -centric dramas but I tend to not like more than 2 ml interested in the fl harems sound fun but …I’m currently taken with Psycho but its Okay sooo much. I’d be curious to see how many drama fans have called it their ‘Red Shoes’ lol. And Hospital Playlist stands at ep 11(for me )

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          Till it’s new season. So have a great weekend!!!

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          Do you know, OMB never felt like a female harem at all. She has 3 guys that she wants sperm from (maybe). The young guy has a crush on her, the next guy is an old friend and then the guy she ends up with. She starts dating the ML pretty early and the kid with a crush learns about it right away and gets over her. The friend goes back and forth between wanting to be a friend and an overprotective big brother. He spends most of the drama friendzoned or as a jerk. It never feels like a harem because other than the lead no one seems particularly in to herand she doesnt seem in to them either!

          I hope youll be ok going back to work! Just the phyiscal getting up, getting dressed and going to work by a specific time was draining for.me this week. Id been working in my branch for the last two weeks but on a showing up in my pjs get there when I get there, leave when I wanna capactiy. Being there, fully dressed, with people and doing stuff was exhausting. Our governor released a thing yesterday or the day before with a color coded warnjng system for how bad covid is in each county and were second from highest dont leave your house unless strictly necessary. I love my.job and all but im not sure handing people bagd of books and dvds should be considered strictly necessary. A few days ago I helped a woman who’s sister has covid and Ive had a sore throat and a bit of a headache ever since. Is it ckvid? Do i need to be tested? I dont know and Im lowkey resentful thatI was put in a situation to question it. People .y age, skin tone (black), and body type (obese) are among the highest numbers dying from this. Or thats what the news said when I stopped watching the news….

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            Well points in favor for Oh My Baby, but as.you said it was meh I’ll probably pass until struck by a specific mood, I’m enjoying the weirdness of Psycho But its Okay.
            I see what you mean, in so many
            instances people with a say seem to overlook the dangers presented by all these seemingly simple interactions. I had to stop watching the news too, I will look up the updates but have tried not to keep going back over and over in a short time like I used to. It was not helpful in the slightest. But they have fireworks scheduled in my county and all the surrounding counties and it just feels like a horrible idea -even if people stay distanced the vendors will be a magnet.. I’m getting accustomed to the routine of work but I was put on 1st shift
            For 2 weeks then moved back to 2nd so I’m a little off still. Now I’m just trying to convince myself to do laundry before starting Psycho, Infear itd a losing battle lol. Good luck and take care of yourself!

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    This is one of the things that I dont like about OMB. Hari doesnt talk aboit any thing. She just makes a decision and to heck with what anyone else thinks. Which is perfectly when she wad single and was trying to be a single mom.
    After she starts dating YiSang and later learns that hes infertile as well that seems like it would have been the time for some serious conversations. You cant say that she didnt want to have those conversations sp early in the relationship. He went in to it knowing she wanted to fast track everything. He decidef to resume his infertility treatments presumably because a child is something that he wanted. However, after she has her surgery she just–announces— to him that shes given up on kids and expects him to as well and that shes decided they are just going to love happily just the two of them.
    She knows that his previous engagement ended painfully because of infertility. But shes assuming thst hes going through all of this now just for her. Have they talked about the reality of kids? Does he really want them or was he just trying because of the previous two women in his life? Way earlier in the drama Hari noticed the infertility drug at his house on a shelf. That says to me at least that even when he wasnt in a relationship he was still doing at least a part of the treatment so that he could be a father one day. And now arbitrarily shes just announces that there arent kids at all in their future?

    I would say I hope they have an honest conversation about this later on but honest conversation doesnt seem to be how this drama works.

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      Even as hes “giving” her time to think– why arent they having a real conversation? Shes not single anymore. They can meet with her obgyn and talk about their options. They can talk to each other about options. Adoption. Foster carre. In vitro. Surrogates. There is so much more to becoming a parent then inserting tab a into slot b and peeing on a stick and shoving out a kid later.

      Look at Dohas parents. They created a child but she abandoned the baby on her 100 day celebration. And while he was physically taking care of her–his insistence that he was taking care of her alone is bs. He all but dumped that kid in Haris moms lap and said look! A new kid! Enjoy! And went to work amd stalked Hari. I feel like Hari has spent all of this time working at The Baby and longing for a baby that even though her two best friends have kids shes never considered what makes a parent a parent.

      Oh, this is solely because Jang Nara is an awesome actress and 100% nothing to do with the writing or storytelling up to this point but Hari beating on YiSangs door after he breaks up with her, and later her breakdown in the street (and his quiet tears watching her?) Beautifully, remarkably well done. Its the most Ive EVER felt like she was into him and not in to his potential to make her a mom.

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    Also. It annoyed me when she was crying with her friend in the park and she yelled out its so hard to have kids!
    Madam. Youve tried one way and have had sex one time since your diagnosis and zero times since your surgery.
    Soooo…..if you actually eant kids maybe look into the ways people have kids. You ARE a journalist, right? You know how to researxh all the various ways of baby making?

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    I really didn’t like the ending and how HaRi’s infertility was treated.
    I know this is a drama, but a real woman with her issues (almost 40, endometriosis) only has one real chance of being pregnant: having a IFV, but the issue is that she can’t have an IFV unless she’s married, so I guess she can’t have her ovules frozen because she’s not married.
    So, when she kept on wanting to having a child and not doing anything to actually having a child felt so empty that I really lost all interest.

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Im rewatching ep 10 of UF.i was super tired watching it last night and think I missed some things. But upon rewatch I love the conversation between dad and our Maknae. The expression ln dads face and the tone of his voice as he invites his son to come hiking just makes me happy.
Do you want to come hiking with me? You wont keep up!
And of course the maknaes tears as he begs his dad to just rest for awhile.
I honestly dont like most of the people in this family. But every now and again someone does something or says something that is just lovely.
I honestly couldnt put my finger on why I dont like them (other than big noona but enough about her). Too realistic? Not realistic enough? Too outside my comfort zone? Theres a reason Small Noona is my favorite. Her beats are the typical romcom drama beats. But with a side lf anger and cheating.

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Watching Big Noona crumple in the street as she finally has her big breakdown I think Im supposed to feel badly for her. I dont. Theres this quote about watching a strong woman break. In spite of all of the crap shes going through– and its a lot– I don’t feel badly for her. I feel badly for Small Noona. She has her own crap that shes going through and even though theyve never been the kind of sisters to lean on and comfort each other shes trying to be there for Big Noona only to get crapped on time after time. As Big Noona is still pushing Small Noona away as she sobs in the street I found myself thinking, “Youre a better one than I am. Im not at all sure I would have chased after her to continue trying to be there after she came specifically to attack.”
I may have laughed a little when Big Noona came to deliberately attack Small Noona only to get her own butt handed to her when Small Noona threw some jabs instead of just sitting there and taking her hateful comments like mom did last week. Maybe this is karma. Big Noona has been so awful for so long that the universe is just serving it back.

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    I was so disappointed when EJ went to EH house and started blaming her. I was hoping she came for comfort but nope, it was to beat her punching bag as usual. For EH to take it, fought back and then felt guilty about it was maddening and sad..EJ now just has more excuse to go around with self-righteous indignation at being ‘mistreated’ by her parents. She’s even twisting her father’s love For her into something horrible he did to trap their mom.

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    I have this massive rant about Big Noona sitting to be posted and I was so ready to post it and then…episode 10 happened. She didn’t redeem herself to me exactly, but I think I started to understand her more.

    I still think she’s The Worst and that she’s spiteful and petty and needs to get her ass handed to her in a big way, but something about her telling Chan-hyuk about Eun-hui, knowing that for once it was not out of spite just…it was nice. It doesn’t excuse her but…it was about as close as someone like her will ever come to saying thank you or I’m sorry.

    I may still post that rant though. Because that woman tries me like few characters have lately.

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      What did she tell Chanhyuk? Im rewatching now. I was tired when I watched last night so I think I must have missed it.
      Upon rewatch Big Noona does not improve. Small Noona nust gave her a box of chocolates that is apparently how the two sisters apologized in the past and shes just so indifferent to the gesture. Wr learn in the next scene shes thinking lf her lost child but with this character it just feels like too little much too late.

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        Basically at the end when they were having drinks and she tells him that Eun-hui liked him back in the day. I think she picked up on the attraction between them and was helping out in her own way. It was the first time she did something for her sister (or possibly any of her family) that wasn’t done out of spite or with malicious intent. I think she did feel bad in her own way over her treatment of Eun-hui.

        Granted, that doesn’t really redeem her in my eyes, but it does seem like she could be on the path to being a better person. But she still mostly sucks and has the worst victim complex I’ve ever seen.

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          How funny. I just made it to the scene where he meets up with Eunhui afyer she tells him. And 1. I 100% fell asleep before this scene happened and 2. I thought to myself oh THIS is the scene! This is definitely a youd know it if you’d seen it sort of scene.

          I agree. Telling Chanhyuk does not redeem Big Noona by a loooooong shot. But it did feel like she was doing something big sisterly for her little sister out of….love? This is def the sort of scene that I can see playing out between normal sibs.

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            Haha, yeah. That’s why I didn’t spell it out initially because I wasn’t sure if you’d seen it and I wanted another read on it. For me, I think it was her own messed up way of acknowledging her sister’s sincerity, and for once she didn’t make it about herself. I think she spent so much time being resentful and hating that she really just doesn’t know how to be a nice person anymore. Mostly she needs a LOT of therapy, though.

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True story. My period cramps are so bad that when I saw the previews for ep 14 of OMB I put watching the ep off in case my cramps got any ideas.

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So hers it is. 4:45 in the morning. Worse cramps ever given to a human. Bed bugs. And after waking up for the 4th time to go to the bathroom my bed breaks. The boards snap right down the middle. Sigh.

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The scene after Moon Young gets choked by her father and hes surrounded by caregivers and she –the victim–is laying there alone breaks my heart.

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    That would never happen in reality….those care givers should not be care givers

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    They should’ve checked on her. It was rather surprising that not one even approached to see if she was okay.

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    I wanted to reach into the screen to give her a hug. She was the victim and yet she was left lying there.

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Do Im watching ep 8 of UF and I have made my final decision (for this ep anyway) on Big Noona. Im not a fan.

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    Don’t be too sure on your decision 😉 Interestingly enough this is why I love UF. I love these characters, then hate them, then don’t know what to think of them, then understand them, then don’t understand them. It’s a vicious cycle and dramatic but the characters feels real at the same time.

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    She married her husband to cut off her family. She worked a million hours during her 20s to help support her family when for whatever reason her parents couldnt make ends meet.
    Dad spent 7 years and saved 40k to give her (unbeknownst to mom) to pay her back for that time. She never spent the money. Doesnt want the money. She wants mom to give the money to dad. Mom apparently didnt show her enough gratitude for all that she (big noona) has done over the years.
    I get that shes upset over her husband. As well as a single, never married person can empathize in that situation, anyway. But this was just cruel.
    What exactly did she want from her mom? Mom explained to her as best as she could how she felt during that time. But heres the thing? Helping out when things are hard? Thats. What. Families. DO. I could –but wont– go in to detail about sacrifices that I made helping my parents when my mom was sick and my dad was broken. i was angry and resentful at times. Thankful and grateful that I COULD help when others couldnt at other times. Now, years later in the middle of a never ending pandemic I live an hour 45 from my dad and spend my days vacilitating between being grateful that Ive had the time and space to help him and wanting to drive down to ky and kick him dead in his chin.
    I like how theres more than one side to see in this drama. Big Noonas relationship with mom is hard because Big Noona has a memory of a time when mom tried to kill her. Shes surrounded herself with a cold fence ever since. Dad apologized and tried to pay her back for a hard time in the families life.
    But do you know what? Even when mom hated that man who was cheating on her and raising a baby with another woman she tried her damndest for those kids. Maybe Big Noona never saw that because all she saw was a woman who almost killed her.

    As smart and above it all as Big Noona seems to think she is–shes not in that marriage. She doesnt know how long marriage graduation has been on the table for the two of them. So her, in all of her arrogance to go and throw that money at mom as some sort of dig at her (if she really wanted dad to have it she would have given it to him. This was done PURELY to hurt mom) ? Unacceptable. What? She thinks mom has been saving her pennies for the last decade so that she can move into a cute little bachelorette pad when he finally agreed?
    Nope. Not a fan.
    Her husband can say all of those awful things to her, pin her to the couch so she cant move, scream and joke with his lover about how much he hates her and she can be his friend? But mom, who has explained (2 decades late but still) that she wasnt trying to kill her gets treated like dirt? Nope. Im done with her. Big Noona sucks.

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      Children take parents for granted. That is what I get is EJ’s issue too. She directs everyone else’s anger on mom because she can’t shrug off her grudges with mom that have been piling up for decades. But mostly I link this behavior with mom being the only person she takes for granted hence she lashes out. The whole money aspect also comes from you did nothing for me mindset. The one where children too at times look down upon their stay at home mom because their labor can’t be measured. All this isn’t good by all means but I get where it’s coming from.

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        I agree that everyone has a perskn in their life that they push because they know there wont be consequences. Shes pushing her mom because shes hurt and has nowhere else to lashout.

        But she stayed in the apartment long enough for moms sobs to be audible and then left. Like she was checking to make sure her hatefulness hit all of its intended marks before leaving.

        What makes me mad about it is that this was deliberate cruelty. Mom didnt happen to walk in the door when she needed to let out some steam. Big Noona made the decision to leave wherever she was, go home, find dads bankbook (like shes been carrying that around for the last few years? I dont think so.) go to moms house, wait for her to come home and ripped her apart. When mom said she was tired and needed to lay down she so magnamoniously allowed her mother to leave the room and then stood, moved a few steps closer to the door to better hear her sobs and then left the apartment.
        Just because she was crying about being bitchy to her mom a few scenes later doesnt take the cold deliberation to be a cold bitch to her mom away.

        I was reading a different conversation ablut a different drama and they mentioned how some characters have to start as the worst so they can build to something better. As of right now she has a lot of building to do. For my part, i dont like cruelty and there was nothing casual about this.

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Oh my beanies I am exhausted my library is opening, limited access on Monday. Since last week weve been rearranging everything in the building to encourage social distancing and not lingering. Since the rest of the staff doesnt come back from reduced hours until next week its been me and my manager doing everything.
Ex. Haust. Ing. Ive done 12 or 11 hour days since midlast week!
I feel like there’s a ton of new GOOD (probably) dramas out right now but Im too tired to seek them out.
Its an Oh My Ghost rewatch for me.
And whats cool about this rewatch one of my favorite, hey its that guy! guys is in this drama but its from so early in my drama watching that its before he became a hey its that guy for me!
And just as Im watching this, my favorite hey its that girl! has popped up as the driver/assistant in Its Ok. Hopefully Ill be able to make it through an ep before falling asleep!

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