Beanie level: Rooftop room dweller

Sometimes I just want my life to stop being a race for everything. The race to get up before everyone else, get to the bathroom before everyone else and other things.

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Jennie’s new song, which isn’t really new, is awful. It doesn’t suit her vocally and she comes across as super nasal and just plain annoying, which is a shame really

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The worst part of preparing for exams after graduation is probably that life is just passing you by and you’re not a part of anything but just waiting to be that

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My house is a mess and I can’t do anything about it which is really messing with my head. It seems like there is nothing under my control anymore which is really frustrating. Renovation sucks

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Took a 30 minute nap at my desk on the library and now I really appreciate the beauty of naps

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Beanies, anyone else start feeling really nauseous from paint fumes? My library hall was getting painted and I am wondering if it is which making me feel this way or something else.

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    Yes, that’s pretty common to have.

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      Thank you so much. Its been very uncomfortable for me and I was wondering if it was that or the stress. Glad to know it was just the paint fumes

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        Can you get outside at all? Prolonged contact will make it worse, and giving your body a chance to get away from such fumes is always a good idea…*sorry for the mother-henning if it is unwelcome*

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          Oh yeah, the scent is not in the room where I study so its okay. I also appreciate the help, the mother-henning is always welcome

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    When they renovated my room after water damage, the scent was way too strong for me. I had to sleep during one Month in my living room. I installed my bed in my living room during work which lasted one week and then I didn’t move it because I couldn’t sleep in my bedroom…

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    Yes, it happens often. Also new upholstered furniture and new carpeting can give off fumes that some people are sensitive to. Fresh air should help you!

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Adulthood is such a scam. Its basically when things start going to shit and most times, you cannot do anything about it and you just have to deal with it. In short, it sucks.

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    We’ve all felt that way at many points in our lives. There are many things that happen outside our control and it feels hopeless. Control what you can control. And the things you can’t control- learn to let go.
    Some Kdramas can be useful therapy tools. For me, My Mister has a ton of great life lessons. Life is hard, all too short, and precious.

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    Well, yes it is a kind of scam, but then you get a new day to learn more from your mistakes and find new ways to find those moments of joy.
    Hang in there Mani – it will pass – it really does!
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Things have been very fraught at home and the environment is so suffocating. I really wish I wasn’t living at home. I really wish my parents were more aware of mental health issues

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    Sorry to hear that after last week issues re your brother things have not eased a little. Take care of yourself as best as you can even if it is just the little things you have control over like making sure you keep hydrated so tiredness and headaches are not added to your current levels of stress.

    I hope the other people who do ‘see’ you are available to be there during this tough time.

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      Thank you Reply. Things have eased up a little but its still not great. I will try to cope with the stress and not let it get it to me

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        I am glad there has been some respite. It’s ok to not cope sometimes too. I am glad you continue to reach out in different places.

        Distress in the home is the hardest to deal with as it’s a given that home should be our place of peace and where we recharge from the challenges outside the home. Therefore, we can’t help but be resentful when we feel powerless to maintain a sense of peace within the home and have to settle for creating our own haven in a little corner of the home. Take care❤️

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My parents never listen to anything I tell them or even about what is going to happen and yet want me to help my brother and I am so done with this.

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    Are you looking for consolation, a listening ear, or suggestions/solutions moving forward. A lot of us will sign up for any of those. I do like the anonymous nature of this forum. I do feel it gives us the ability to be honest and transparent without judgement.

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      Thank you so much. Its just that things seem to be stressful in all fronts of my life right now and I am just scared about the way that is going to affect my exam prep. Its been stressful study-wise but then things are also stressful at home and I just feel emotionally drained. Its no use talking to any of the adults at home cause I tried doing that and it had zero effect. So now I am just stuck trying to deal with my emotions the best I can

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I have packed weekends due to online classes and weekdays are cramped so I am very thankful to DWY for proving me with my mid-week mood booster

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Seem to be on the road to recovery, had a bit of a breakthrough in my exam prep and thankful for small victories

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I have mild nausea, body aches and stomach problems and I seem to be taking a while to recover

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    There’s a stomach bug going around the States right now, if that helps. I felt “off” a day, then chills/aches/nausea and massive “back end” issues 🤭 for two days, now lingering but less symptoms for two days. Still waiting to feel better. Good luck!

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      It seems to be the season for stomach bug here too. It really sucks when you have stomach issues even when you eat right

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        I had to laugh as you need bland foods for a stomach bug and all I had was high-fiber healthy stuff.

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    Hope you feel better soon!

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I think i caught the viral fever from my mother and the frustrating part of it is that my symptoms aren’t severe enough to warrant bed rest but they are mild enough to be annoying.

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Anyone ever have a phase where you are so tired with life and work that you cannot concentrate on dramas or any form of content more than 15 minutes? Feeling like that lately

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    I hope you get some rest soon. I’ll send you some of my energy for now. ☺️ Hwaiting! XOXO

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      Thank you. I think I might catch up on my dramas cause I have a sore throat now

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    Yes, I do! It comes and goes, and I’m in the phase right now where I doom scroll social media not engaging with any post while having a K drama on (which I don’t even watch). It’s like I need the noise and the images but I can’t absorb any of them. Yet, my brain feels uneasy when they are not here. It’s not fun. But it’s ok. Sometimes, even your brain doesn’t even know what it wants but it can’t relax either.

    Hopefully, things will feel better again once you’re done with the exams. How long do you still have?

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      2.5 months I believe. I feel much better now but I still seem to lack stamina to study for very long. I so get you about wanting the sights and sounds but not fully absorbing anything cause that is exactly how I feel. I am learning to take it in stride now

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    Yes! But i ended up watching 2 hours worth of YT shorts 🤦🏻‍♀️ Take Care Mani!

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      OMG this is so me. I check my screentime for the day and it shows me some 3 hours for YT and I am like, I am pretty sure I only watched 1 video and the rest were shorts, how is it that long

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        Haha i have a screetime limit too! But i keep ignoring them. Oh dear..Good luck with your studies/exam! Are you almost done with uni?

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I think no one really prepares you for the loneliness post-college, especially when you are at home preparing for exams. I am okay rn but things are hard, especially with my grandmother living with us

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    What kind of exam? I am feeling super lonely too because of remote job I have and only two people in the office when I go there

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      Grad school, mainly business school. Its been weirdly lonely

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        Gym helps a lot, I love swimming pool, even though it is also pretty lonely activity) Maybe even try Tinder dates, at least an excuse to meet people, you might at least find someone to go hiking or to the cinema together?

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          I think i might go out with my friends who might be available but that is tough. I will see what I can do

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    Go to a theatre or ballet. Buy the cheapest tickets there are and go there.

    I remember post-college I was preparing for the most important exam in my life. Somehow the pressure was so high I developed panic attacks. Getting a resemblance of social life helped massively.

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      That is a good idea. I don’t really have much theatre here in my city but I might go out for a movie one of these days

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    As many of suggested, make sure to find some hobbies or extracurricular activities you enjoy and can do to relieve stress, but to shift your mind and focus onto something else, even if just for a short while. I know from my own mental health experiences that much of it comes from being TOO focused, tunnel visioned, and stubborn about a single thing in my life that I wasn’t willing to take my mind off of a.k.a. No rest from things I actually have no control or power over, and it was only mitigated when I let myself be okay to let some things go, even if only for a short while before revisiting it again. You got this, Mani 🫰🏻

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      Thank you Bebe. I think I am learning to organise myself better now

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      You are describing me, I get that tunnel vision all the time

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        I do, too!! I constantly have squirrel brain, and I think my tunnel vision is a result of trying to tune out the squirrels to the point I isolate things a bit too much mentally (tunnel vision) or else nothing gets done, or I get frazzled, or get too overwhelmed, or don’t know how to live in the moment which is so so so important for the long term and for sustainability

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Adulthood sucks. It really is just doing the same thing one after another, hoping for things to change. I think I just need to persevere a little bit more

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God I love Jo Bo Ah. She seems so sweet and genuine without being candy. I really want to know the mystery behind the curse now

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I have only watched clips of Moving and I am beginning to get why SK is gaga over Jo In Sung. The man seems to have that amazing contrast of strength and tenderness that is so endearing

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I’m down with a cold and things are super chaotic at home with the construction going on. Its been a very hard few days. Looks like the right time to resume Itaewon Class

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    Get well soon!! It happens all at once like that sometimes, hopefully Itaewon Class provides a good escape.

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    Hope you make a speedy recovery and thank goodness you have something guaranteed to lift the mood😊 enjoy your rewatch.

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    Aw, that’s too bad! I had one last week and it was uncomfortable. Watching your fav show helps a lot. Speedy recovery!

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    Nothing beats a good K drama with a bowl of warm, homemade chicken noodle soup.

    Also, I have noticed surprisingly positive results with a pack of chocolate biscuits that were definitely not homemade but that tasted lovely when dunked in a cup of hot tea.

    Get well soon and enjoy the rewatch!

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    Ugh, I’m still coughing from my May cold (which the doc says was RSV), so take it easy! Park Seo Joon should be the best Rx 😉

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    Hope you feel better soon! Take care and enjoy the drama.

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