Here’s our Find Yourself magnum opus!!

@missvictrix, @festerfaster and I got together again and scribbled our hearts out over this wonderful show and you should toooooo. Seriously, this kept getting deeper and deeper, and finally missvctrix just dragged me out of the hole with her “go ahead if you want to” which reverse-psyched me haha thanks for saving me from myself!

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Find Yourself, Part 2: A Thesis on Themes
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(and make sure you don’t miss the slightly less spoilery and way less long Part 1: A Postmortem (feat. missvictrix))

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    LOL!

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      every time you said it, I was like, ‘okay this means I really need to stop’ XD

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    Omg just started watching this yesterday!!

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    I need to discuss this with someone. I’m on ep 20 and I’m getting really frustrated with Feixing’s doubt and people pleasing behavior! I totally understand where she is coming from, but it doesn’t make it any less frustrating to see the web of mess she’s spooling around herself and how much she is hurting Yuan Song!! Gahhh!!

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      Fanxing**

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      Maybe it’s a cultural thing? I find Fanxing’s doubts and hesitations realistic given her circumstances and the society she was brought up in. The drama really keeps the social harshness to a minimum, but it would be pretty brutal for a single 32 yo in China. Fanxing would be keenly aware of how her parents always bear the brunt of unsolicited advice and comments from busybodies, and very anxious about not making the situation worse. Especially cause her parents are so nice about it. It’s a situation I personally understand really well. I’ve seen similar dynamics play out around me. So, maybe that’s why I had more patience with it. For an Asian/South Asian audience, this is very very realistic.

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    Well, crap—those hands just did me in too. And binge-able on Netflix? Sign me up!

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    I finished this last week and it was both delightful and frustrating. I identified with the heroine so much- her avoidance of conflicts and confrontations, her self-doubts and her strong friendships. Everything was me. As a viewer, I was frustrated with her actions and wanted her to just let go of all pressures and be selfish. But, I knew I would be doing the same thing if I was in her shoes. So, it was both cathartic and humbling for me to watch this show. When she finally faced the truth and just let it all out, I was cheering for her. I felt happy and relieved like it had happened to me. I don’t know if I could be that brave to face my demons. I really really hope I confront my lies and doubts some day soon. Otherwise, as she said, it’s like killing myself with the lies I am piling on myself and everyone else. It’s gonna be extremely hard for me as it was for Fanxing but I hope I pull through.

    So, as you can see, it has been a very personal watch for me and I have gained a bit of perspective and clarity after this show. Thank you incredibly for this reco @saya <3
    As Fanxing narrates, I hope time remains kind to all of us and lets us be little girls in our hearts forever!

    P.S.: Any other drama suggestions? How about Le Coup de Foudre?

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      I’m so glad you enjoyed it! I get exactly what you mean about delight/frustration. I really feel everything you said, and you put it so well! Absolutely totally agree about how much it personally resonates, and how it gives you more clarity about yourself! I’m just nodding along to your whole comment and have nothing to add because it’s perfect.

      I haven’t watched Coup de Foudre, but I saw a couple of people recommending it. The one I heard mentioned most as a companion recommendation to this was Someday or One Day – I got halfway through ep1 but then got distracted, so if you watch it first, tell me how you find it!

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