interesting... her personal life mirrors her characters role in "Last Scandal in My Life". Type casting seems to be the norm in KDramas. Wonder if they specifically looked for a divorced actress for this role. Not much of a stretch, acting wise. ;-(

she's 40?.....hello Mrs. Robinson...j/k

javabeans:
ummm....bit of an overreaction on your part, huh? First time I saw her in a KDrama. The reference to the role not being a "stretch" was the fact she was divorced. Her acting seems fine, but then again she has been given a sympathetic role in this KDrama by the writers.

BTW, are you her mother or something, or have you taken on the role of her public relations manager? ;-) Chill.....lifes too short....

Korean women keeping their last names upon marriage has nothing to do with progressive thinking, I'm afraid. The Family Registry was founded with the fact that the woman never became a "true" part of the husband's family.

lols I think you're the one who's overreacting her comment Gaijin. being divorced is just one thing she has in common with her character and you called it hardly a stretch? i agree w/ javabeans, that's what i call oversimplification

It's actually not that unusual if you watch "ajuhmma dramas." Most 35+ female leads, by default, play divorcees, old maids, single mums, or (most recently and positively) highly successful women who just don't have the time. Otherwise they wouldn't be single, and there wouldn't be drama.

FWIW, Choi Jin Shil was one of the biggest Korean actresses in the 90s, well considered one of the most beautiful faces and all good stuff, and was doing steady work until her marriage. I'm still not used to seeing her play a proper ajuhmma; it makes me feel . . . intimidated? :D

carol,
ummmm....once again commenting without reading the original post correctly. If you bothered to check my original post, I said her being divorced was NOT a stretch for playing this role. lol..... this is getting funnier by the minute..... talk about overreaction...... look in a mirror.... lol...... ;-)

Gaijin, I'm not going to get into a stupid internet argument, so I'll just respond to your comment that i didn't read the post. I did. YOU didn't read my post, or maybe you don't have the reading comp skills. I said that being divorced and playing a divorced character is hardly a similarity, which is what you are saying. What, are you gonna call a 25 yr old playing a 25 yr old also "not much of a stretch, acting wise"?

carol,
I wasn't the one to use inflammatory comments in responding to your postings. Let's keep things civil, if you are capable of doing so.

ummm.... what am I missing.... so you want to argue that a 25 year old playing a 25 year old IS a stretch? That's like saying that the sky is not up, or water is not wet. How difficult is it for a 25 year old to play a 25 year old? Ohhhh..... you were being sarcastic..... that explains it. Have a nice day.

javabeans,
"cavalier" ???? my goodness.... such language...... BTW, checked the rules, and they don't prevent "cavalier" comments. Oh, wait, I've struck a nerve with a fan or hers. Didn't realize that this board was a love fest, as opposed to a free exchange of various opinions about KDramas. Or have I been unjustly singled out for people to vent their spleens. My oh my, look what a mess being "cavalier' has gotten me into now. ;-)

She is so beautiful! I love her in Last Scandal. Thanks so much for the post javabeans.

ha ha.... made the moderator say "shit".... Like I said, "Chill, lifes too short". ;-)

FWIW, whenever I watch drama deal with divorce, the almost casual way in which the woman gives up her custody rights (even if he was the one who committed adultery or domestic violence) is always hard for me to watch. That and the stigma with adopted children.

Hooray for Choi JIn Shil standing up to the partriarchal system against single moms in Korea.

It takes guts to forge a new path in society. I hope her children will learn from their mother's independence and courage.

@Ms. Beans,

Should I call you "javabeans" or "dramabeans"? I kinda pogo between the two . . .

Yeah one of my favorite subgenres in K-drama involves divorcees. Usually the language is more coarse, and the observations close to real life (or at least vicariously more pleasurable.) Even on American (network) TV, this isn't a particularly strong voice.

I think it's tempting to sometimes read into performances if recent high-profile breakups surrounded the project. For example, when I was watching Coffee Prince, I watched Chae Jung Ahn's performance with the subtext of her then (purportedly) abusive marriage and recent divorce. Or Han Ji Hye breaking up with LDG during the middle of Likable Or Not. Things like that.

i'm not that familiar with Korean family law either, but to me it seems so commendable that she is choosing to have her kids legally have her last name.

i think "Gaijin" is being rude here -- this is your blog afterall, javabeans. some people just do not know internet etiquette... his comments seem more appropriate for something like AllKpop or Popseoul...

go choi jin shil. shes one of those actresses that i just really admire, for her acting skills as well as her personal choices.

oh but even though i read your blog often and i went out of my way to comment and add my opinion, let me just be obnoxious and rude and come back every couple of minutes to make sure that i win. because i do win. ;)

@ Glo, win what, did i miss something?

haha, totally agree with glo about popseoul and allkpop. that whole dispute was a bit comical. well-handled, dramabeans. i think i'll start this drama up.

Long time reader, first time poster. Couldn't help but notice all the hate going on here. My grandmother taught me to be open minded and not be judgemental of others opinions. I teach my children the same. I've read all the postings, and looks to me that overreaction and blind devotion rule the roost with the fans. These are, after all, just actors playing ficticious roles on TV. I'm happy to say I have a life beyond the tube. Just my 2 cents. Love you all.

yeah i agree with rocketfuel...she looks excellent for her age!

#1 Gaijin: "Not much of a stretch, acting wise. ;-("

On the contrary, I think it IS a stretch for her to play a divorced woman given how ugly and public her own divorce was. It takes courage and strength of character. Who enjoys enacting roles that remind them of their own scars?

I have heaps of respect for Choi Jin Shil and hope she finds all the happiness she deserves.

OK, excuse my ignorance since I am not Korean ... but what are the legal benefits for changing the children's surname to hers?

Amyable & Javabean: I learned a while ago that it's the same thing in Chinese culture - the women keeping her last name when she married. I remember thinking, "wow that's amazingly forward!" but then realized the real reason when I read this post. :-(

There's this saying in China that a married daughter is like thrown out water - i.e. she's been given away, not to be thought about. As a result, many times the family's inheritance is not given to a daughter that is married. So I was wondering, since the bride doesn't become an official part of her husband's family registry, does she still remain on her own family's registry or is she taken off because she's married?

hua,

As I understand it, when a woman marries, she is taken off the family registry into which she was born. She is then recorded into her husband's family registry but not in a true context since she's still an outsider.

To be honest, I don't see the need to change names. Whether in marriages or divorces. If the woman didn't change it when she marries, there's no need to change it when she gets divorce, right? They have named the kid like that, so why change after divorce?

For an Indonesian, surname is never a big issue. Most people are born without surnames. People just name their children to whatever they think is good. They can have long names with no surname attached to it. Me myself, I invented my surname using my last name (because living in other countries requires you to have one). I was one of them who's born without one. Some of my friends only have ONE name. No last name, no surname. Just a name.

At the end of the day, it's really just a name. It doesn't change anything, and shouldn't change one's way of thinking or the way the law sees the person.

I have a different point of view. I think there is so much in a person's name. That's why parents belabor for so long in choosing just the right names for their unborn children. That's why women make various different choices when they get married (keep their maiden name, take on their husband's name, or hypenate, etc.). Just recently, I had a co-worker change HIS last name when he got married. I'll use a psuedonym so let's say his name was John Smith. He married Mary Chan. So, his wife decided to hypenate and become Mary Chan-Smith. He wanted to have the same last name as his wife, so he is now John Chan-Smith. This isn't the first couple I've seen do this and these decisions tell you that there's so much to a person's name! I think identity, sense of belonging, heritage, individualism, etc can be factors in how a person views their name.

Javabeans, thanks so much for the repsonse. Ah, now I understand why Choi would be so hung up on changing her children's surname. That makes sense and honestly, I do not mean to criticise but it seems that a woman is kinda left in no-man's land in Korea? Taken off family registry after marriage but only kinda registered in husband's family registry as an outsider and with no rights to the children ... wow.

@Skangrrl: I was thinking the same thing. A woman's identity and rights, so to speak, are kind of lost in the air when she marries? I don't think I can accept that myself, but then it's their practice and their society accepts it so who am I to oppose? As a citizen born and raised in a democratic world, where men and women are regarded equal, it just doesn't seem right. My 2 cents.

the song today really reminded me of hellogoodbye. lol : )

RE: javabean's explanation @ #30:

'kay that makes sense, and it's consistent with the patriarchal view of women being merely vessels to deliver lineage borne from the man's seed. in that old scenario, she truly is a non-person without ownership/authority in the marriage/family. *cough*vomit*

Rest in Peace, Choi Jin Shil...

My aunt divorced her husband who was abusive. During the divorce he tried to get the house and ended up with half the worth of it although it was my grandpa's gift to my aunt before he died. My aunt got custody of her daughter and changed her last name. A regular divorce is one thing but I don't think it's surprising to change the child's last name to the mother's maiden name if the father was terrible and now estranged. Choi's husband was physically abusive and cheated on her. He even denied the alleged affair then secretly got married to the woman soon after the divorce. I wouldn't want my children to have his name.

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Release from depression caused by guilt came from confession and seeking God's forgiveness… Jesus Christ loves Choi Jin Shil very much..