Ep1 go back couple: 1st you chose to be a housewife then stop cribbing about the man not earning enough. Not everyone can become rich! 2nd if the kid is unwell, just go to the hospital, why keep calling up your husband – what will he do, either he will tell you to go to the hospital or come down to pick you up? All these couple dramas only focus on trying to make woman look pitiful – with no gifts, too many kids to care for etc etc… it’s a pitiful life on both ends..men haven’t got it easy either

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    That’s the point of the show. They both are blind to the others’ pain. Marriage takes two and right now they can only see themselves.

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      Yeah this is the point. They lack communication and take each other for granted. And as @jig wrote: they were blind of each others pain.

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        This is one of the few dramas that show the hardships on both sides. They will both realize they are equally responsible for their problems and they see how the other half wasn’t having it easier. I loved this show to bits❤️

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    She does the same thing during another crucial scene. Both of these scenes drove me mad with rage because we were not given a reason why she was acting like this. But I have rewatched this show many many times and although I still get angry at her I have started to see more and more of a relative of mine in her. My relative suffers from extreme depression and I have seen her doing exactly this same kind of irrational exaction and guilt tripping to her husband. I have come to the accenptance that Jinjoo suffers from extreme depression too. Which makes sense with the kind of rather lonely life she has.

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    I don’t exactly think being a housewife was fully Jin-joo’s choice (I may be wrong, I’m only on ep4). They don’t seem to be able to afford sending Seo-jin to something like daycare, and it’s still pretty common for Korean women, even younger ones, to be expected and expect themselves to be housewives after giving birth.

    About her frantically calling Ban-do, I really think that more than tangible support, she is seeking emotional support, because she’s in a very anxious state. You’re right that Ban-do has it hard, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t too. The drama doesn’t overly favour either; it’s trying to show how they are both struggling, and so their marriage is, too.

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      i don’t know about drama, but this particular trope i have seen everywhere.. when they need to be at hospital, they frantically call husband and then that becomes a issue.. which is wrong at so many levels.

      1. Why is it always the “weak” woman who has to search for the man for whatever support
      2. If drama shows that the other partner knew and then didn’t bother or wasn’t there for spouse emotionally, then it is an issue, but not like this.. when a woman is perfectly capable of handling the situation

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