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[Drama chat] The slow burn

The term “slow burn” always grabs my attention when I’m shopping for a new drama; I think I like this descriptor so much in dramaland because K-dramas are so totally obsessed with tracking the journey of the OTP. As obsessed as I am! Because yes, I truly need 16 hours to enjoy watching this relationship go through its permutations.

In fact, I feel rather spoiled with all the narrative space that K-dramas provide their lovelines. They give so much primary space to their characters, and how they interact with each other, that if you’re watching a reasonably well-written show, by the end you will know what these characters need as much as they know it themselves. It’s also why watching movies has become practically unbearable for me: they’re too short on narrative space.

But what else is it — outside of the time taken and space given to let a romance unfold — that makes the slow burn romance so enjoyable to watch? I would argue another important part is that in encourages us to travel with the characters. While we watch a couple navigate their relationship, closeness, attraction, and obstacles, we go on that slow burn journey with them. We feel the feels with them. And for me, that’s so much more fun than watching a love line that bursts through the doors with its suddenness. The journey makes the story, and I want the journey, even if it means 16 agonizing hours of it.
 

What do you love (or not love?) about a slow burn romance, and what are some of your favorite dramaland examples?

 
PS: Yes, I have ulterior motives and I want your recs!
 
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Well made slow burn dramas allow you to absorb everything about the world in the story, they allow you to get to know your protagonists and players intimately and make it easier to either love or despise them.

Some of my favourite slow burn dramas.

Just between lovers
When my love blooms
When the weather is fine
Chocolate
One Spring Night (?)

Some other mentions:
Encounter - Song Hye-kyo may have had one frozen expression throughout but Park Bo-gum did all the emoting for both of them, i liked it this one

Does "Come and Hug me" count as slow burn? It was dreary and depressing but i loved it and the happy ending made up for all the suffering.

"My liberation notes" was wayy overhyped and overrated but it was good, its an honourable mention for sure.

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Hmmm if I remember well, One Spring Night was almost love at first sight and bidirectional. I wouldn't call it slow 🤔

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One Spring Night was the opposite of slow burn.

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Encounter (Boyfriend) is criminally underrated. It really shows the beauty of relationship progression: from someone catching your eye in passing to liking them, to dating them, to loving them. It's something that's rarely depicted in dramas/movies. Actress acting (and a little makjang) aside, the story itself is great.

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Lurrvvv slow burns 🔥💕
I love the tentative looks, the small leaking smiles, the side glances, the hesitancy, the silences and the ohmyyytheyheldhands moment!!

Do You Like Brahms
Just Between Lovers
A Piece of Your Mind
My Liberation Notes
Call It Love (12eps in)
Thirty but Seventeen
Radiant Office
Because This Life Is Our First

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Yes! DYLB and BTLIOF both came to mind for me :)

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Would Hospital Playlist count? It took until the last episodes of series two for the relationship to transition from friends to lovers.

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And it had started two decades before the first season.

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Could I also add Fight for my way? With the transition from friends to lovers.

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Yes! Love this one. Though Ae Ra always loved Dong Man, so does that count? His slowly developing feelings were a wonderful progression, he was jealous before realizing why.

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You get to focus on everything else and you learn quite a lot about your leads. Not good for the impatient viewer though 😅

Off the top of my head:
Vincenzo!

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I prefer slow burn love stories rather than a love that happens so fast that you can't understand when or how it started (as in Western shows), because the series has not taken enough time to develop the relationship.

Slow burn love: C-drama Meet Yourself (maybe the slowest I have watched).

Too fast love: Extraordinary Attorney Woo. When? Why? Where? How? XD

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Ohhh yes, Meet Yourself! Loved it!

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Agreed Meet yourself is great example I can’t believe I didn't think of it before but I guess its because it’s from Chinese dramaland two other examples from Cdrama are Rational Life by the same team as Meet yourself. New Life begins is a period drama which started as two strangers in a contract marriage.

Japanese dramaland had First love and Silent. Both of these were about whether the first love relationship from school days could be rekindled in adulthood after a separation and new circumstances meant getting to know each other again.

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First love, Silent, New Life begins... All these dramas are on my "to watch list" :)

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Please come back to us when you are done to let us know how you found them. I didn’t think NLB could be beaten for the sweetest couple but Meet yourself had the best male lead in dramaland. Prior to that it was the male lead from Love All, Play. But if I divided it into age categories they could both have the title for their decade!

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ML Zhi Yao (Li Xian) in Meet Yourself was so charming! 😍 I smiled when he smiled, which was almost all the time.

Love all play is another drama I have to watch yet.

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When I think of a slow burn, I think how weekenders use the character push-pull like rubbing two sticks together to light a fire. After countless attempts by a chaebol, the poor woman succumbs to his advances. The one that sticks in my head is THE GENTLEMEN OF WOLGYESU TAILOR SHOP because it turned into a real life dumpster fire.

Lee Dong-Gun and Jo Yoon Hee were on a Korean talk show to promote the series as it was about to reach its climax and ending arc. Jo readily admitted that she did not get along with Lee on the set. But as professionals, they went forward with their roles. Then a couple of weeks later, the script turned them into a jarring, lovey-dovey couple.

Then out of the blue, three months after the show concluded they registered their marriage. Then 7 months later their daughter was born. That would have been fine and good but the couple divorced 17 months later. Lee went on a hiatus for almost 2 1/2 years because most people blamed him for the divorce as Jo was now a single mother raising her daughter alone. Before her marriage, Jo was a popular network actress and radio show host. Both jobs ended shortly after her marriage and divorce. Last fall, it was announced that Jo would be joining an ensemble cast for a series that is supposed to be released this year.

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I never knew I don't like slow burn romances, but it seems so from the examples beanies have given here...
Or is my definition of a slow burn romance different from most?

Dramas I count as slow burn:

Accidental Couple. One of my top favorite shows.
Chief Kim. Yeah, the subtle romance between Seo Yul and Yoon HaKyung is my most favorite slow burn romance ever.
Goong. I loved the time the prince took to appreciate his wife.
Faith. It has TWO slow burn romances.

What I love about a slow burn romance is that the leads get to truly and deeply KNOW each other before discovering that they are in love.

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I love the Chief Kim example, I wished we could have seen them together even briefly on screen. I loved the song that played whenever he saw her.

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CHIEF KIM is the first thing I thought of when I saw this post! Glad I'm not the only one that remembers that little ship.

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It was so cute as you could see him turn into a little boy whenever he was around her and he was so honest too. Her seeing the good in him and the potential for change sowed the seed. I was really surprised they left it hanging in the air rather than confirm they became a thing. I just assumed they did eventually based on the words of the song and how they were together.

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His first time seeing her is the BEST love at first sight scene I've EVER seen.

We didn't see them as an outright couple but they did have a very comfortable date at the end which I thought was very telling.

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@midnight ‘His first time seeing her is the BEST love at first sight scene I've EVER seen.‘ 👈that is so true it really did capture it perfectly.

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She Would Never Know : If the ML is pretty clear with his feelings, they took their time to date. I liked how we could follow each of their hesitation, hope, regret, etc before them dating.

A Piece of Your Mind : We could follow the progress of their love story with the % rising.

Do You Love Brahms : Two introverts falling in love.

The Interest of Love : It was more a slow torture than a slow romance but it was good.

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Another slow burn drama out of Disney +, though not a romance, was 'Glitch'. I recall joking that the series, half way through, was doling out one plot point per episode. Like 'Call It Love', the biggest draw was the interaction between the two leads, Nana and Jeon Yeo-been, which might as well have been a romance for all the chemistry they had.

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I love a good slow burn romance, but there needs to be sufficient payoff for all of the tension and waiting.

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Off the top of my head, Coffee Prince, Arang and the Magistrate, and Haeundae Lovers had nice romances that developed at a natural and unhurried pace.

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I think coming of age dramas usually hit this well. Mainly because you're watching the characters learn and grow (up), and the love simultaneously blooms over time alongside the individuals.

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I love how we get more relatable characters, realistic situations, and moving stories.
I love how the characters get to know each other in a genuine and profound way. I love to see how the leads find support and understanding in each other.

Idk, I just love to see the "from healing partners to lovers" trope.

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You Are My Spring
Just Between Lovers
Because This Is My First Life
A Piece of Your Mind
Find Me in Your Memory
When My Love Blooms
25-21 (It counts, right?)

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A part of what a slow burn romance is for me is its own literal words - slow and burn.
When I talk of slow, it doesn't refer to its pacing. The pacing for the romance can be fast but the development of the burn is slow, as I felt in You Are My Spring (the very first that came to my mind when I saw the topic).

It's another level of slow burn if the characters developed this chemistry earlier on in the story and are on the journey to seeing where it leads them (YAMS! again).

And there's the slow burn that both the chemistry and journey to seeing where it leads them begins at the same time, taking the very first step at the same time(My Liberation Notes).

MLN and YAMS understood the definition of slow burn romances and did justice to it, each in their own distinct ways.

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*cries in OBY* Not my favorite trope lately, as you can see))) Overall I don't think pace matters that much - different couples work differently, and there's nothing wrong with that. As long as it's presented organically ofc, because sometimes pace and vibe/chemistry/even logic don't match, creating a frustrating disaster. I do prefer characters to realize at least their own feelings fast once they develop them because I find it childish and ridiculous when mature adults can't process the bare minimum of whether they like certain someone or not. Teens and rare extremely emotionally broken individuals may not know any better, but everyone else totally should. Dear kdramagods, pls stop overdoing that, big thanks in advance! Long journey from realization to actual dating is fine though, just give me a solid justification and I'll roll with it. No examples, because the damned trope owes me a whole wine cellar of moral compensation currently - and refuses to pay^^

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LOL! The OBY slowburn is turning out to be the best!

Bet the CP is readying his horse even as I type this haha!

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He'd better to prepare not just a horse, but also his best battle armor and all that suppressed testosterone to save the day and claim his prize in a way that will leave EVERYONE satisfied after such a torturing build up!

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Bossam! Their falling in love was so slow and delicious 🤤

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i love it when writers & actors make the slow burn work.
I need to be kept on the edge of my seat, feel all the delicious tension & nail the final climax which gives you the satisfaction (bonus if they continue to do well with the remaining episodes) of all the build up to that moment.

I don't love it when the slow burn is too slow, causing me to just turn off. Don't get me wrong, it could be that the actors are doing a great job but the writing is just bad. There's a certain point in the show (idk how to explain it, to me its just a feeling) where the climax needs to happen in order to work with the flow of the episodes.

its way too early in the morning for me rn to think of some titles so i apologize

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Adding to what’s already been mentioned:
- Master’s Sun
- Oh My Venus
- My Love From the Star
- The Red Sleeve Cuff
- Greasy Melo
- Fated to Love You (Even though they slept together right at the beginning, they were both under the influence at the time and actually thought they were in bed with someone else. Their real relationship developed over time.)

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Does LIFE count as slow burn?

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I love slow burn romances. It’s about travelling that same journey with the OTP and the well-earned payoff. That satisfaction is way better than a swoony love-at-first-sight story.

Weekenders are the best source of slow-burn. Two standouts are Gloria with Bae Don-na and Seo Ji-suk and Yoona’s Street with Kim Ok-bin and Lee Hee-joon. I recall in both cases they didn’t become a couple until the ep 20-30 mark. What a long wait but worthwhile.

Making slow burn works require a nuanced script and directing though. In recent years, the one that has done this right is Chocolate - and now Call It Love.

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I have trouble getting through a long series, but I loved Gloria at least through the first thirty episodes or so (and I couldn't get that song out of my mind). Yoona's Street was a nice show, too.

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I totally agree with @missvictrix that movies feel too short now that I have experienced dramaland.

I've seen a few slow romances, and the pleasure is in seeing all the developments, but I have difficulties to find examples of burn.
I might be peculiar in what I consider chemistry, hot gaze, and dolorous longing. Or I do not watch drama with romance as main driver.
The best slow burn I have seen is Love like the galaxie. The red sleeves is my kdrama contender.

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I rarely watch movies now due to this particular reason, how can every problems solved in the end when I just have met the characters like two hours ago? I have trust issue LOL.

That being said, the only movie I can believe and tolerate until now is the 'Before' trilogy (Before Sunrise especially). In just 1 hour and 45 minutes I got to know the story of characters' grandma, their dreams, their thoughts, their anxieties, etc. It depicts slow burn romance in maybe the fastest time spent on movie-universe: one night (less than 24 hours). No flashbacks, no time jump, no have-met-before-in-childhood, but it feels slow burn.

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Would 'A Wife's Credentials' count? Couple took their time to get together for obvious reasons but their interactions although minimal were full of longing & understanding of each other's need.

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My favorites in this department would be Master's Sun and Just Between Lovers.

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Sometimes it seems that ALL Kdramas are on the slow burner. There seems to be a standard pacing, no matter what the genre is.

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Ah slow burn. Well, can you have it without misunderstandings and some irritation between the couple?

I say no!

My favorites so far are: Love to Hate You (a drama I'm completely in love with right now), Should We Kiss First (I loved this pairing and the whole cast), Father is Strange (Jung So Min and Lee Joon's couple), Judge vs Judge (I love these two a lot), Personal Taste, Faith and It's Okay That's Love (because they had to fight enemies within to be together).

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