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[Drama catnip] Complicated camaraderie

In the comments of one of my weecaps a while back, a Beanie observed that K-dramas are particularly good at depicting camaraderie. And it got me thinking — that may well be the single greatest reason I love K-dramas so much. It’s not the only reason, of course, but it might just be the biggest one.

K-dramas have a knack for creating magnetic, meaningful relationships, and I don’t just mean romantic relationships, either. In fact, sometimes the most compelling K-drama relationships are friendships or familial bonds. And for me, the best ones are those that get a little (or very) messy.

Sometimes they start out that way, as in the case of reluctant partnerships or enemies-to-friends trajectories. Two characters are thrown together against their will and forced to make it work, until eventually it’s not so forced after all. Until — slowly, over time — they can’t help coming to respect each other and *gasp* maybe even like each other.

It’s Tae-joo and Dong-chul in Life on Mars serving as literal police force partners while constantly butting heads over their opposing ideologies… until they start to rub off on each another and challenge each other to change for the better. It’s Prosecutor Kim Young-joo obsessively hunting down the City Hunter… until he has to confront the fact that they both want justice and the only way to get it is together. And it’s Prince Won and Jang Wook in Alchemy of Souls, set at odds by politics and personal pride… but secretly looking for confirmation that one taking care of the other’s turtle might actually mean something.

All of that is delicious, addictive catnip for me. Drop hints that a reluctant friendship is in store, and I’m there! But for a K-drama camaraderie to operate at peak catnip performance, I think it’s got to be one involving a friendship that falls apart — and yet the attachment lingers. The angst! The longing! The I know I have to betray/hurt/kill you, and it’s killing me internal struggle! It gets me every. single. time. Maximum bonus points if friendship wins out in the end, no matter how much hurt has already been dealt.

Take, for example, the trio of childhood friends in Moonlight Drawn By Clouds. As young adults, they find themselves pulled in three different directions by rival political factions. But does that stop them from finding ways to secretly help each other out — even when they know the help might not be gladly received — or reflecting longingly on those long-lost days of uncomplicated friendship? Not at all.

Instead, it puts Byung-yeon through the agonizing moral dilemma of hearing Prince Young declare him the only person he can trust while he’s sneaking around behind Young’s back and colluding with his enemies. It makes Yoon-sung operate in shadows, letting everyone believe he’s turned his back on his old friends instead of openly showing how much he still cares for them. And it gives us that powerful, heart wrenching moment where one friend must beg another not to stop holding him at sword point for fear of losing him.

Or, for less life-and-death-level stakes, consider Hee-do and Yoo-rim from Twenty Five Twenty One. Particularly that one emotionally supercharged fencing match after months of radio silence and media plays at rekindling their old jealous rivalry. Both had compelling reasons for needing to win, and each knew what it would mean for the other to lose, and I cried almost as hard as they did when it was over.

This type of catnip is why, out of all the things I loved about Inspector Koo (which was a lot!), and out of all the dynamic characters in that show, my favorite was Je-hee — the titular Inspector Koo Kyung-hee’s longtime but semi-estranged friend who so worryingly toed the line between double agent and actual traitor out of desperation to protect her family.

And who could forget the classic, captivating bromance of School 2013 with all its angst, hurt feelings (and bodily injury), regret, and slow but exuberant reconciliation?

Ultimately, I think a good part of why I’m so drawn to these types of lost-and-found friendships (or unexpectedly found friendships) is that they offer a uniquely, universally relatable ray of hope that love wins in the end, no matter what that love looks like. Not everyone will find their romantic soulmate, defy fate itself, and ride off into the sunset. Not everyone has experienced or even wants to experience a romantic relationship at all. But friends? Everybody needs at least one of those. And dramaland friendships, messy and complicated as they often are, are great at reminding us why.

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Part of the reason why I love Search WWW so much. The friendships between Bae ta mi (BTM), Song ga Kyung (SGK), and Cha Hyun (CH)are just so good. BTM and SGK went from friends to enemies to reluctant allies. BTM and CH went from enemies to besties. Let's not forget SGK and CH, who never stopped being friends despite everything.

Another example is the five leads in Mr. Sunshine. The three male leads and their reluctant friendship formed by constantly "accidentally" meeting at the same pub. Or even the two female leads whose camaraderie started with a fight.

Of course, I agree with the author's AOS, 25-21, and MDBS examples.

Enemies to friends. Friends to enemies. And everything in between. *sigh.

P.S.: I wouldn't mind a few recommendations.

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I just finished Ireland and liked how the characters respected and cared for each other even when they were at romantic cross purposes. Same for the show's predecessor, Ruler of Your Own World. Coffee Prince was my first drama with good friends, let's be friends, and collegial colleagues.

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Thanks @mistyisles for a great post. So many key relationships mentioned and so many to put on the roll call: The crew in Prison Playbook who end up winning people over Ddolmani and Captain Yoo who were hard nuts to crack but they became embedded eventually. The Go back couple uni friends who kept in touch even as adults with marriage problems. Let’s eat three the Uni years enduring the various student housing nightmares, and stress of assignments during those years studying. Reply 1988, Hospital Playlist, Be Melodramatic, Crash landing on you, I will go to you when the weather is fine, Fight for my way and Weightlifting Fairy all these friendships continued as they transition from students to adulthood. There a few where we see it in the parents’ generation in Hospital Playlist, Reply 1988, Dear my friends, Home town cha, cha, cha. I love this element of K dramas and most of the dramas I like have a group of friends who support each other through the tough times. Even dramas that have not worked out as hoped had a solid friendship group holding it up like Mental Coach Jegal and the Why Her law students/detectives.

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I can’t believe I didn't mention Would you like a cup of coffee, The Package and Twelve nights had a group of people who interacted regularly and became friends through that process.

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The Sageuks, how could I not mention them? Mr Queen when the three women go in search of the King they put their differences behind them and were able to complete the mission.
Poong the misfits who form a solid crew in the village and when they go on missions to solve the challenges. They are of different age groups and class but they are a family who stick together.
100 days my prince had sub groups the assassin mates, the village friends and the begrudging friendship between the male lead and second male lead.

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Bridal Mask is an excellent example of bromance turned vendetta.
My Country is another one.

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My Country—yes! I can’t recall many endings as heartbreaking as when Sun-Ho—the childhood friend/turned enemy/turned friend again—sacrifices his life for Hwi.

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This scene in Moonlight! He found a way to save both the FL and the ML but put himself in danger 😭

Love All Play : the both male leads are a badminton player and started as ennemy but ended to be friend.

Mad Dog : the relationship between Yoo Ji-Tae and Woo Do-Hwan was so complicated. They were ennemy until YJT understand they were on the same side.

My Country : stabby couple 😥

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I hate to play devil's advocate on a commentary about camaraderie, but I can't help but disagree in certain instances. I hate being a victim of anything, but as someone who has been backed into a corner in my life from bad forced relationships of various types, I respectfully disagree. Of course, there are good outcomes from dramaland, but anything forced makes me recoil in the real world.

These instances in KDramas are great for those specific instances, but I don't live in KDramas so am having a hard time advocating this concept. That being said, I'm always happy with good positive camaraderie in general, especially if they develop naturally.

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K-dramas have a knack for creating magnetic, meaningful relationships, and I don’t just mean romantic relationships, either. In fact, sometimes the most compelling K-drama relationships are friendships or familial bonds.

Masters. They are simply masters at this. This is why I am still drawn to them as strongly as I was 15 years ago. The relationships they create are so complex, so heart-peircing, so tangible. The first thing that captures me in any show, good or bad, is the relationships.

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‘ Masters. They are simply masters at this.’ 👈They really are.

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Ah yes, Hee-do and Yu-rin, my favorite enemies-to-lovers stories in dramaland.

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Yu-RIM, god

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We knew who you meant!😊 Keyboard gremlins strike again.

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I've racked my head. A good number of my drama watches have them butting heads right at the beginning and it's bordering on the line of camaraderie. After careful racking and sorting and reflections, I kinda enjoyed the following, whether or not they butt heads to get to where they ended up.

Hospital Playlist - And it's not just our 5 professors. Down to the residents, they had it in action and it was dang good to see.

Through the Darkness - Song Ha-young and Team Leader Yoon Tae-gu. Respects. Solid respects.

Law School - I don't know why it's making my list but it sure struck a cord.
Would You Like a Cup of Coffee - I fondly remember the tense friction between enthusiastic coffee barista in-training and his ready-to-frustrate well-meaning teacher.

Taxi Driver - My trauma for this one aside, Kim Do-gi and Prosecutor Kang Ha-na most surely were oil and water in all definitions of it. Their job descriptions alone is enough to tell you they are moon and sun. They both loved justice, but had different ways of approaching it. I happened to stop watching at the point where I learnt the two began to working together thanks to a tragedy.

Gwangaetto - Sagal Hyeon butt heads with every single one of the king's generals, including the king. It was a nice journey watching them both tear down and sort out thier differences and doubts. Who'd doubt you after you singlehandedly besiege a fortress? It was a journey to get to that point nonetheless.
Gwangaetto is all about the camaraderie journey as a side theme from start to finish, it doesn't end with just one character. If you have the patience of 93 episodes, you know what to expect to enjoy.

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This was a great write up. I want to add it is easier for kdramas to do this because they are usually 16 episodes and done. That being said 2521 and School 2013 are wonderful examples of this. So much angst and love.

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A movie not drama, but: Confidential Assignment! Typical buddy cop arc, but in the hands of Yoo Haejin as a South Korean detective and Hyun Bin as a North Korean detective, it was so satisfying.

I haven’t watched the sequel for fear of that tension being missing, with them fully buddies at the end of the first movie.

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Thank you for the recommendation. I was looking for a fun action movie to watch.

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From enemies to reluctant bromance fighting the same enemy in Chief Kim is my absolute favourite team-up. Kim Sung-ryung and Seo Yul. How I envy those who still have this drama to experience for the first time.

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I agree this bromance was outstanding.

The whole found family was on point and the women in the drama were strong in their own right. The cleaner’s character which was a bit part was shown to have been seen as a key character by the original person in chief Kim’s post and her role is highlighted throughout. The baddie women were on similar levels in terms of power to the male baddies so they were also shown to have important parts in the storytelling.

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Agree 100%

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Watching Seo Yul (Gluttonous Psychopath!) slowly, unwillingly falling for Chief Kim and his schemes - literally kicking and screaming as he goes - was so damn much fun. And having a bromance as the OTP left room for the female characters to be as strong as the males, with no ridiculous rescues or having the FL fade from active partner to passive damsel as a romance develops. A+.

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Forest of Secrets. Shi-Mok and Yeo-Jin form such an unlikely, endearing friendship! For one thing, they are on opposing sides of the police vs. prosecutor power struggle. And then there’s Shi-Mok’s total absence of interpersonal skills. His personality intimidates, baffles, and alienates his colleagues, but Yeo-Jin treats him like a “regular guy” who happens to have a few odd quirks. She shows him that—despite the brain surgery he believes destroyed his capacity for emotion and empathy—he’s still capable of some very human feelings. (I completely cracked up at those hilarious drawings she gave him of his facial expressions!) It was hilarious watching him looking in the mirror and trying to smile, and so gratifying later when he unconsciously flashes a real grin at Yeo-Jin.

It’s fairly unusual to see platonic male-female relationships in K-dramas. I loved that the writers did not try to force a romantic angle on Yeo-Jin and Shi-Mok’s story arc, which would have been completely out of character for both of them. Instead, they gave us a memorable friendship based on trust, respect, and understanding.

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Yes yes yes yes!!

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Just thought of another one: Ghost Doctor. Arrogant surgeon falls into a coma, but discovers he can enter the body of a resident he can’t stand. The squabbling duo are forced to work together to save patients’ lives and also try to find out who’s responsible for the (non)accident that put the surgeon in a coma. Rain and Kim Bum had great chemistry—their enemies-to-friends bromance was far and away the best thing about the show!

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Beyond Evil was one of the best examples of it in dramaland - both recently and overall. Do yourself a favor and watch it if you didn't already since I suspect we'll have to wait quite a bit before something equally impressive shows up.

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OMG, yes! 'Complicated' does not begin to describe Dong-shik's and Ju-wan's relationship and the way it evolves during the show. Suspicion, attraction, hate, admiration, contempt, fear, respect - both the characters and the actors are truly extraordinary.

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Actors can make even dull on paper BroTP work, but here script and performers both were constantly fantastic.

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Ahhhh yes! I had School 2013 in mind and lo behold, it made the cut with a pic and a mention. My favorite classic besties to enemies to besties again. If only i had the patience to rewatch it 😅

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Same! I keep wanting to rewatch that one, but there's just too many new ones to watch.

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2 movies came to mind: Along with the Gods 1 and 2. Oh my heart, that backstory!!!

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I was thinking the leads of Brain Works fit into this category.
Geum Myung Se and Shin Ha Ru are a bickering comedic duo and even come to blows a few times.
Ha Ru couldn't even believe Myung Se was a genuinely good guy or that he was friends with him until he saw brain scans.
Myung Se is often awed by the doctor's intelligence and perspective while also being frustrated with his condescension and cold manner.

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