Phewww some of the comment sections these days is like a war zone. Chill people.

I like chocolates. You don’t.

Just because you say you don’t [even if the choc is of the highest quality and favored by the masses] doesn’t make it a hate comment or offensive [unless you use actual offensive language].

But just stating your dislike for something is not, by itself offensive. OK?

Now go eat chocolates. Or watch dramas. Whichever suits you 🍫

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    In fairness to people on DB – though I was probably gone for a long time too – active members are usually respectful to opinions of others. It’s my first time encountering someone so aggressive like that. 🤦🏽‍♀️

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      You’re right, thats why it’s quite obvious now, esp on the IC recaps (which i’m watching/reading). One of the great things about DB and why probably most of us is around for so long is because of the civility when commenting/sharing.

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        True. I’ve always felt like DB is a safe space where I could express my opinions freely without getting flak for it.

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      Meh ~ There is at least 1 active member I can think of that isn’t so nice. I’ll leave it at that. Not gonna drop names/ tag anyone

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        I think I’ve been very lucky with the people I’ve interacted with so far. I even remember ships on APAD were quite split and we never had to deal with something like this. And that each group always treated each other with a lot of respect and even support for each other. There was even a neutral team!

        I guess it’s a reminder for all of us to always be mindful of what we put out here, not only for non-active people but especially people we consider friends here already.

        *virtual hugs*

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          *hug*
          I’m happy for you, and everyone else, if you’ve only experienced the good on here and have not had your love of this community marred 🥰🥰🥰

          It’s because I’m choose-y about who I like and become a fan of and also WHAT I like, it also helps me be conscious of the content I put up and the words I use to comment and reply, so I’m just taken aback at being attacked, not only on such a lovely community such as Dramabeans, but by an active, registered member 🤦🏻‍♀️ I’m almost to the point where I’m like, “Maybe I’m just too sensitive” and “It’s the internet, why was I expecting anything less? It was gonna happen at some point, especially with CoVid-19 happening and people are using that as an excuse and leverage to be meaner than usual”— 2 completely different extremes on opposite sides of the spectrum, I know 😅, but I’ve been with Dramabeans for so long already, and I’d hate to have to let it go for the sake of my own health, and especially, because I know that some people are mean just to get a reaction out of others and by leaving DB, it’s like giving them what they want

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            I’m sorry people are messing up DB for you @bebeswtz . I’d hate to lose you(though your health comes first). Where would I get my Xiao Zhan smile fix? ❤❤

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            @rueffie
            I’m still here for now—which means your Xiao Zhan smile fix will also still be here hehehehe— but we will see how things turn out in the next little while 😘😘😘❣️❣️❣️

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            On some days ignorance is Bliss! I have learnt to ignore a few people around. Esp IC recaps and OT’s as well. Fan wall is a lot nicer for now. I hope people learn some civility, not everyone needs to agree to everyone.

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            @oppafangirl 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻

            Yea, I’ve learned to not reply/respond and to not regard some people on here…. Sad, because we are supposed to be a community, but it needs to be done

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            I have the same sentiments as @rueffie – I’d hate to lose you!! You’re definitely one of those people I love hearing from, and your insights about most dramas are what I usually look to before I watch them.

            But not to discount your experience – it’s not right that you and some other people are feeling toxic. It’s good that some of us are speaking out about it as well – at least it opens up a conversation, we know we have a problem, and so I hope more people are more conscious now (the admin team as well).

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            @beesgiggle

            Awwww ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
            I’m happy to know that I can be a source of positivity— and drama watching influence 😏😏😏— to you, dear Beanie friend

            Yes, definitely!! I really do hope that with all that’s been going on in the comments sections lately, that the @db-staff are now aware and a plan of action to stop all of this toxicity can be put forth soon!!
            I wrote a reply to @missvictrix comment under her post of the Dramabeans commenting policy—mentioning all the badness that’s also been happening in the Beanie Section as well and hopefully that will help, too!!

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            @beesgiggle

            Sorry, I should clarify:

            My reply to missvictrix was made to her under her comment (about the Dramabeans commenting policy) in the most recent “Itaewon Class” recap

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