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[Hey, that’s me] A noona romance of my own


Pretty Noona Who Buys Me Food

By Raindrop

I was halfway through college when we met. Flower Boy Ramyun Shop might try to tell you otherwise, but a four-year age difference in the wrong direction when you’re 19-bordering-20 is all kinds of no don’t, especially when one of you is still in freaking high school. I’m with Lee Bo-young in I Hear Your Voice when she just can’t see Lee Jong-seok as anything more than an overgrown beanpole with an uncanny ability to read her. But I’m also with her when, against her will and better judgement, she finally sees him as a man.

My boy—let’s call him Will—was every noona killer you’ve ever met. Clever, intense, charming, and with a way of speaking that could convince you he was more mature than he really was. It’s a trap, and a trap I desperately prayed for Lee Chung-ah not to fall into in the aforementioned Flower Boy Ramyun Shop, when a toxic and temperamental Jung Il-woo starts to play with her, compromising her in every possible way without giving a damn about the consequences for her. I have never found a noona romance so unromantic or so upsetting, but I couldn’t stop watching either, because I saw an earlier, stupider version myself in the heroine.

I grew up with fairly conservative beliefs, and therefore had the romantic experience of a peanut. I believed in marriage, not dating, so while everyone else my age had been in the game for a long time, my “experience” was all borrowed or bought secondhand. I had none of the protective mechanisms that girls my age had already figured out after a bad relationship or four, and I saw that innocence reflected in more than one of dramaland’s noona heroines.


I Hear Your Voice

I think of myself as an extremely rational person, but… he fell for me first, and I was seduced by the attention and fascination of a person I thought of as out of my league. It’s the insecurity every noona has to deal with, like Park Jin-hee in Woman Who Still Wants To Marry. Like Park Jin-hee, I didn’t know what to do with that kind of attention, so I did the thing all sane noonas do: shut it down. I hadn’t discovered K-dramas then, but I know now that I was in good company. Like Uhm Jung-hwa in Witch’s Romance, I didn’t trust his feelings or his attention. I didn’t even trust myself.

I wanted commitment, a future, something that I could hold in my hands. In dramas, you know a guy has to work twice as hard if he wants to convince an older woman, but in dramas, they make promises. Will didn’t. His beliefs about love were different from mine. To him, love was “just” love: nothing more, nothing less. So the idea of “us” didn’t cost him what it cost me. He kept getting closer to me with a single-minded persistence that was either because he couldn’t help it or didn’t want to.

You see, when your age gap is significant, the older one of you takes on the responsibility of it all, and it fell on me to be the one policing our relationship, worrying about consequences and futures and whether I was taking advantage with the oh-so-great power that came with my great, great age. Maybe I could have just enjoyed the moment, but the problem was that the moment only lasted… a moment. And then the real world crowded in. In Boyfriend, Song Hye-gyo’s time with Park Bo-gum is just like this: moments, a string of lovely moments that exist by themselves, but can’t contend with the reality of her real life.


Boyfriend

I only watched half the drama so I don’t know how it ended, but Song Hye-gyo and Park Bo-gum had a quiet kind of relationship—a gentle beta-fizz rather than explosive fireworks. Pretty Noona Who Buys Me Food, though. That was punch-drunk and giddy, and exactly how it was with Will. It was a thousand tiny uncertainties, along with a thousand tiny hopes, and so many, many things left unspoken.

I felt it hard when Sohn Ye-jin argues with her mom about marriage, and never ever wins that fight (and never will, because Asian moms). It’s not that they don’t love each other, but they want irreconcilably different things and always will. That whole drama was so wrenching, and a lot of that couple’s relationship reflects the highs and lows of mine.

Will eventually did convince me to fall for him, but he never would have if he hadn’t confessed first, and that’s one of the best things about noona romance dramas. Who doesn’t love to see the guy fall first, and fall hard, for a woman who goes unnoticed by others? Name any noona romance, the guy says it first. He HAS to.

Still, age is a problem solved with time. After a few years, our age differential went from “dangerous” to merely “complicated.” And once you let enough time pass, the problem of age fades away completely.


Romance Is a Bonus Book

Will and I are both in our thirties now. He’s halfway to being a doctor, and I’m halfway to being nothing at all. Now, I relate much more to Lee Na-young in Romance Is a Bonus Book, who feels like she’s fallen behind in an unforgiving world where everyone else is getting ahead, and nobody gets second chances.

Mine was a romance ripped straight from your favorite drama or romance novel. It was conversations without beginnings or ends. It was having the same birthday. It was knowing someone better than I knew myself. It was being seen when no one else saw me. It was hearing his quiet laugh vibrate in my chest. It was delicious, electrifying, epic—spanning years and continents, lives ruined blah blah blah, but… it was also painful. I began to realize that left as we were, we would forever hang between an agonizing something and an empty nothing.

Reader, I broke up with him.

Age is a problem solved with time, but we ended up being separated by other unsolvable things. Even though Song Hye-gyo and Song Joong-ki overcame both an age difference and ideological differences in Descended From The Sun, I stumbled over the latter. Maybe it’s fitting that the Song-Song Couple and I had the same fate in the end. Not every great love can last the test of real life, and I believe that in the end, I chose what I loved most.

I have no regrets, but I have a lot of nostalgia and kinship with my darling unnis who are toughing it out with those terribly wonderful younger men. It’s a hard life, being a noona, but someone’s got to do it!


Descended From the Sun

 
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I absolutely loved the way you wrote this.
It made me feel so many things, but what made this post so much better in my eyes was this single line....

"epic—spanning years and continents, lives ruined blah blah blah,"

I can just hear Logan saying this to VM.

I can relate to the topic of noona romances because I was in one, the only difference was that I had so many other hangups that the age was not much of an issue.

Being a noona in a relationship is both exciting, fun but sometimes so heartbreaking!

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I see Logan, and I see VM. Are you perhaps talking about Veronica Mars? Because he did actually say something very similar to this to her...without the blah blah if I remember correctly. One of those rare moments when he was serious. So off topic, and if I'm wrong, ignore this 😁

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Yes! Completely off topic but VM was fantastic and Logan said something similar during the prom(?) party in the second season.

Also, Raindrop- this was fantastic! I love the passion, emotion and sheer talent that went into writing this (including the Jane Eyre reference ❤️). You kept me hooked and in awe throughout the piece.

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O my heart this.

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Love your write up... <3 <3 <3

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Thank you for sharing such a personal story. I loved the way you intertwined characters’ experience with your own. Although you and Will’s story seems to have ended, your personal story still goes on and I am rooting for you as the heroine of your own story. Wish you the very best!

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This is so beautiful to read. Thank you for sharing this with us. With all my protective barriers up, I have never allowed myself to even think of someone younger, so this is a thought-provoking peek into the 'realness' of a noona romance.

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Thank you for sharing this. The noona romance is my favorite kind of drama rom-com (when done well) and your write-up reminds me that what I love IS only drama. I'm sending some cheers your way for taking the brave call to break it off ~ !

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Nicely written and lived through

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'Reader, I broke up with him.'
You know you got me when you use these types of lines from my favorite jane eyre.
Btw it was such a delicious read. I loved reading every part of it. And how I love these noona romances, whatever forms they come. I was glad to know that your boy finally erm managed to stick through, but I wish you guys didn't break up. Who knows your noona romance chapter II is waiting for you! ;) In any case wish you all the luck and love with your next romance book . :)

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Who knows maybe your noona romance chapter II is waiting for you*

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Reader, I broke up with him.

I love how she did that too. Because you better believe that it took me a ton of self control to not scan ahead and see if she was still with him.

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I'm here to comment the same thing, this essay already had my heart invested and then she stole it with the Jane Eyre reference </3

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IKR. Maybe i'll go back watching it again hehe. :D

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This is awesome. I, too, dabbled in noona romances, ironically, while I was halfway to being a doctor as well. What made them so addicting was how I was put on a pedestal in the boys’ eyes and you could see it in their eyes—those blue and brown puppy dog eyes. Being worshipped is hard to say no to. But it’s also not a very healthy way to live. I needed someone who would sharpen me, put me in my place when I needed to be, and someone I could depend on. Those were not college boys trying to figure out their own lives when I already knew what I was doing with mine. You’re right about many things, but the one that resonates with me is feeling that responsibility of getting the relationship timings right. When was it okay to take the next step? And it was exhausting. And it was never just natural. It was never Pretty Noona, the first 3rd of it. The first boy was 4 years younger, the second was just two. (I thought I learned my lesson the first time and put a smaller age difference between us.) I may have tried longer to make the latter work (his mom was Korean and LOVED me) if my now-husband hadn’t come into the picture. And that’s the fickleness of young love, and as you put it, “lives ruined.” I’ve seen most of these noona romances too and I enjoy seeing them dramatized. The first I’d seen was Biscuit teacher star candy and I couldn’t relate to it at all. Maybe if she had a different job and wasn’t actually his teacher would I have gotten on board. But Gong Yoo being green and in love is not to be missed if you haven’t seen it!

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"Those were not college boys trying to figure out their own lives when I already knew what I was doing with mine". This. I just went back to college at 28 and during the odd moments when I think about relationship games and this small college pool from which I may have to fish for the next little while, I just get tired. I know what I want from life now. My standards have gone up since high school and I just can't raise someone right now. So I may have to start fishing after I graduate because I look at the 18 year old boys in my class and think....yaaaaa no. You cute but no.

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Beautifully written!
I’m not a fan of noona romances on or off the screen, but for some strange reason younger guys tend to like me (like 5-7 years younger!) Maybe I look young. 😂 It’s not something I ever considered trying, for all the reasons that you outlined.

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I'm with everyone else: I absolutely love this and the way you wrote it!! It is so poignant, so touching! What you say resonated a lot with me, not necessarily because of the age factor aspect, but the way that different people approach love and relationships and the imbalance of weight that often occurs. I also really appreciated the dramas you used to present this and the flow of your narrative--it really drew me in. <3 <3 <3

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Thank you for the beautiful write up 😊😊
You so eloquently put into words how you related to each of the different unnis in all the Noona romances in a way that wouldn’t have been able to even though I also relate 😅😅
Long story short, it almost happened between myself and a long-time friend of mine when, despite him being 2 years younger, we realized we had many of the same interest in books, same outlook in life, in our beliefs and faith, same values and morals on each of our friendships and relationships with family members.

The outcome?? It never happened.

I’d just finished my extended studies in my Communications degree, and he was just starting out in med school (he’s still in said med school, but in his specialty now)—and then there came someone else....
She was from out of town as an international student—her parents promised her the 4+ years of university, then 1 year extra after she graduated for her to “explore” and be on her own to see if she could find stability away from home before asking her to return— the same age as him, same year as him in university, just a different field of study (business). He, being the gentleman, would almost always be the one who drove her home after we all hung out because it was on the way for him. In a way, I guess, it was during all those car rides that things began to change for her, and in the end, for me and him as well.
Nearing the end of the other girl’s 1+ extra year in our city, it came to everyone’s attention that she had feelings for him despite not saying anything explicitly: She would almost always make her appearance known around him, follow him around, and gave everyone the stink eye—especially me—and became low-key possessive and quite territorial over him. Things got out of hand, many friends (new and old time ones) were made upset in the process, and by the time everything was said and done, when it was time for the other girl to leave—because she couldn’t find a job or stable lifestyle after graduation in her own degree— So many friendships and dynamics between people had been altered and impacted. The girl left with a perk in her step and thought that she had made life-long long-distance friends, while the friendships left here were made distant, period, because of her.

As for the relationship between myself and the guy? We’re still friends. Just not nearly as close as we used to be, and don’t even think about there ever being a chance of anything else happening

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I absolutely loved this... Under the gorgeous writing is a deeply felt examination of the mystifying laws of attraction; from the irresistible rightness of it when it clicks, to the sad final notes when it strays into wrongfulness.

Thank you for sharing this with us.

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laws of attraction indeed!

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One of the most beautiful writings I have read in a long time!
What a beautiful story and how well have you articulated it! Even when you said you broke up with him, it felt like part of your journey rather than the end.
I also saw how we grow up and see the same things in different light, as you spoke about your life.
I didn't have a noona romance, but still could feel everything you wrote, like I was quietly witnessing a montage shot of your life.
I wish you well dear Beanie! Take care.

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Hey @raindrops (if that's the right account), I hope you write more. As everyone else here has already mentioned, it was a great writeup. It instantly drew me in as if I was watching your story unfold.

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dear RainDrop,
this was such a beautiful read. You crafted your words so well to mix the pain of reality with the many many (partially) awesome Noona Romances out there and... I feel you. Been there, done that. Your words transported me to a time of whirlwind romance, of being swept off my feet and yet also to a time with so much strife. Like you, for many other reasons besides our 5yr gap, I broke it off, and have no regrets. But oh the experience of it.

Should you ever write a little novel of your experience, count me as your eager 1st readers.

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Wow, @raindrops, I loved every piece of word you have written!!
I never had a noona romance, nor I would have wanted or will, but I identified so much with you in "having the romantic experience of a peanut"....Which it is ok, I don't need it, because I am a modern Artemis... I don't need men. But I like noona romance on my screen... there is something cute about it😉.
Thank you for sharing a personal story.

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Everything about this is so considered and well-thought out. Thank you for sharing it with us.

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That was absolutely beautiful, @raindrops (If that is you)! Thank you for sharing this.

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Love this. :')

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I so enjoyed reading your article! I totally agree with you on the noona romance and how the responsibility falls on the older one in the relationship. I applaud you and the way you made the hard decision. I'm sure it must have been hard but I want to say you did the right thing. Hope you found the right person who will love you the way you want to be loved!

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very nicely written:-)

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This was so engaging to read and I especially loved your Jane Eyre reference </3

also this line "Who doesn’t love to see the guy fall first, and fall hard, for a woman who goes unnoticed by others?" so very true, it's the main romantic ideal of many kdramas i feel haha but I hadn't noticed if this was a pattern of noona romances, that is interesting

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Wow, beautiful write up! I just finished WWW, which also had a noona romance, and I remember reading everyone's comments about what a bore the female lead was and how she should just commit and not be a drag, etc. But everything you mentioned is very true, and I loved how the drama brought it up.

Kudos to you for having that experience, even if it was painful. I bet it brought a lot of vivacity and highs to your life, and even if it wasn't everlasting, personally I feel like those experiences are worth it. : D Keep on living and being yourself~~ Thank you for sharing!

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Love, love, this! Thanks for sharing your story.

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heh, I'm sorry but I was suddenly reminded of something. I was telling my friends about a childhood male friend I had. He's 2 years younger than me and I was passionately describing how much I teased him. Then they asked why I never asked him out or something along those lines, IDK. And I was like, "HE'S FREAKING YOUNGER THAN ME!"

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Side note: I felt myself deflate why she said she broke up with him.
Other side note: I will neither confirm nor deny if I had feelings towards that childhood friend or not.

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I loved reading this. I felt a story and I felt i was transported into your world. I honestly don't feel it was the age gap that eventually led to the break up but different ideologies. And that happens in most relationships. I love your perspective and take on things. Wow.

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Wow! Thanks for sharing this personal piece.
Loved reading it and am glad you have no regrets!

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Raindrop, what a lovely and touching writeup that resonates with me on so many levels that I feel like this could have been written about me.

I've never been one to watch noona romances - they were just never my cup of tea - but within the past few years I've found myself being such good friends with a dongseng who is several years (let's say more than 5 but less than 10, lol) younger than I am. Like you, I have the romantic experience of a peanut and grew up pretty conservatively. For me, he was merely my favorite dongseng: the kind who treated me so well that I thought he was just an overall nice guy. That is, until one day he suddenly confessed his feelings, and I was thrown for a loop. It made me question everything I thought I knew about our friendship. And like you, I shut it down. The fact that he is several years younger than me made me automatically dismiss his feelings as something that would be fleeting. It also didn't help that I've almost always gone unnoticed by guys my age, so I distrusted everything regarding his feelings.

His attitude toward dating and relationships was also much like how your Will's was. He just wanted to give it a go, saying that we would never know if we didn't try, while it was up to me to think of all the consequences and ramifications of what such a relationship would even look like. While our relationship wouldn't fall under the "dangerous" category, it would definitely raise many eyebrows. Ultimately though, it was our ideological differences that prevented me from giving in the second time he reiterated his feelings a year later. By this time, the feeling had become mutual, and it was painful to stop it.

We are still friends, though prevented by ideology and age from progressing further. In the end, I chose a lasting friendship over the risk of a fleeting relationship, but I can't help but wish sometimes that I had chosen differently.

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oh noooooo:( I feel sad over your break-up now :(
Great writing though! I loved how all the bits and piece formed a single story. Thank you for this :)

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There's a throwaway line in the middle of your story that really made me sad - "I’m halfway to being nothing at all." I hope you don't really see your life that way, and that you don't define your worth by your career choices or material success.

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This beautiful piece resonates with me so much. I’ve been in noona romances myself, and like yours, they never worked out.

At first the age gap was only a year, and when the next one came, it became a three-year gap. And then it was 5. And my most recent relationship had a 7-year age difference. No idea why they kept getting younger, but I guess the heart wants what the heart wants. They found me first, and while none didn’t work out, but I guess the idea of being chased is intoxicating, at some points.

But again, while sparks did fly, sooner or later real life hits, and it hits very hard every time. And timing, as of now, is still not on my side. 😉

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Wow, counting 1, 3 years as a Noona romance. Do people limit themselves to their year only? To me as you get older even 5 or 7 doesn't count.

I would like to put out there that the majority of romances fail to go the distance...often for exactly the same reasons as age-difference romances.

Seriously, if someone puts you on a pedestal (and you know it) - deep down, you already know that is never going to cut it long term. There is no real balance, its fun shallow starstruck puppy love and at some point you will need more. At some point you will need them to carry the load...puppies just aren't designed for that. Lets be honest, If you have that even with someone your own age sooner or later that's going to be a disaster.

We are all different, and of course there are individual things we all need in a partner. All I can say is from my perspective: it works when each thinks the other is so much more than they ever dreamed of. It also helps to have matched levels of cynicism.

Your partner should support you, challenge you in the best of ways and make you go weak at the knees even after 20 years. Age alignment may make it more likely but not exclusively and a Noona romance would still have all those things. Noona flings on the other hand are full on pedestal territory...but so are flings in general.

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Thank you Raindrop for the wonderful essay. Noona romance is not my cup of tea (mystery, murder, mayhem and psychos are more my style in kdrama land.) Thanks for sharing your “real” life experiences.

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Beautifully written...you definitely are very talented in expressing your thoughts.

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I began to realize that left as we were, we would forever hang between an agonizing something and an empty nothing

*Sound when drinking a shot of soju and hearing a touching story*

What a great romance you had ! Yes, Noona romances are so charming. Thank you so much for sharing. But, as someone else said, I'm now rooting for your very own story to go on happily ever after.

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God, this hits me so hard my face has a vibrant red mark from the slap, lol.

Not the noona romance aspect but absolutely everything else. Beautiful, affecting write-up. Thank you for submitting it.

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This was such a wonderful read.

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Loved your words! Emotions so in parallel to my own personal noona romance. I, as probably many other women in this situation, went through an arc of major feels. I remember when I first met June (nickname) at my local University no less. Me returning to finish up my degree and June, a fresh faced, new to the country (So. Korean) student following in his father's footsteps ... studying in America with plans to return home to take over the family business. We were in an upper math class and had both joined the sane after class study group. I played the 'nice but aloof' card to all my study mates being that I was much older and felt a bit out of touch with what I termed the 'kids'. They all reminded me so much of my first round of upper education many many years prior. I wanted to appear like an alike an adult laced with a sprinkling of cool. Initially June never factored in my brain as an actual adult male. More a soft spoken, highly intelligent kid. A kid that was insightful with a "quirky sense of humor as he navigating his way through his American experience. Imagine my shock when after a study session as I was walking to my car and he on the same route to the dorms asked me out. To summarize I'm thinking Out? Out where? You mean a date kinda out? Have you been drinking padre?! My response a very quick "NO, umm I'm sure you should be aware of this but I'm quite a bit older than you." June "Are you married or in a are you in a relationship? Me "That is not the point!" June "I understand" Conversation E.N.D.
As I'm driving home I am a bit stunned and laugh it off as 'well I must have kept my looks for a kid to ask me that'.. HAHAHA..
Fast forward many weeks later and now I can't get this 'kid' out of my head. I start to notice everything about him. How he dresses, the way his hair is cut. That cute left dimple that is displayed when he smiles/laughs. His interesting he is and his frankly insightful comments when asked a variety of questions about his country. Honestly what is wrong with me? The semester is over. We both pass the class and say our goodbyes. I'm relieved yet I'm struck by how melancholy I've become. Fast forward a couple of days and I get a call (ok folks this is when ppl actually still had home phones) and guess who? June "Now that our class has ended, I'd like to invite you to dinner". Me "umm.. sure ok" Just like that I decided well we could be friends. Friendship is perfectly responsible right? That first date lasted six hours.. and also led to some major highs and sinkable lows to include two years of separation. Flash forward to now. yep we are together and it was NOT easy.. must fire a fury from his parents.. my mom was a bit more open minded but still worried. We did not have it easy but we did stay true to ourselves and each other as it related to the experience we shared. So yea noon romances touch my heart. High school King of Savvy 'cast' kiss. A...

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Loved your words! Emotions so in parallel to my own personal noona romance. High school King of Savvy thrilling 'cast' kiss. A Witches Romance OMG I just saw his ID and he's only this age moment! Pretty Noona Who Buys Me Food indecisive moments. I Hear Your Voice playful banter. Secret Love Affair's dark side of a 'forbidden' relationship. This list is long and I truly love seeing so many facets of noon romances. There is always a piece of these dramas that I can truly relate to. I, as probably many other women in this situation, went through an arc of major feels. I remember when I first met June (nickname) at my local University no less. Me returning to finish up my degree and June, a fresh faced, new to the country (So. Korean) student following in his father's footsteps ... studying in America with plans to return home to take over the family business. We were in an upper math class and had both joined the same after class study group. I played the 'nice but aloof' card to all my study mates being that I was much older and felt a bit out of touch with what I termed the 'kids'. They all reminded me so much of my first round of upper education many many years prior. I wanted to appear like an alike an adult laced with a sprinkling of cool. Initially June never factored in my brain as an actual adult male. More a soft spoken, highly intelligent kid. A kid that was insightful with a "quirky sense of humor as he navigating his way through his American experience. Imagine my shock when after a study session he asked me out. To summarize I'm thinking ... Out? Out where? You mean a date kinda out? Have you been drinking padre?! My response a very quick "NO, umm I'm sure you should be aware of this but I'm quite a bit older than you." June "Are you married or are you in a relationship? Me "That is not the point!" June "I understand" Conversation E.N.D.
As I'm driving home I am a bit stunned and laugh it off as 'well I must have kept my looks for a 20+ kid to ask me that'.. HAHAHA..
Fast forward many weeks later and now I can't get this 'kid' out of my head. I start to notice everything about him. How he dresses, the way his hair is cut. That cute left dimple that is displayed when he smiles/laughs. His interesting he is and his frankly insightful comments when asked a variety of questions about his country. Honestly what is wrong with me? The semester is over. We both pass the class and say our goodbyes. I'm relieved yet I'm struck by how melancholy I've become. Fast forward a couple of days and I get a call (ok folks this is when ppl actually still had home phones) and guess who? June "Now that our class has ended, I'd like to invite you to dinner". Me "umm.. sure ok" Just like that I decided that friends could go out right? That first date lasted six hours.. and also led to some major highs and sinkable lows to include two years of separation. Flash forward to now. yep we are...

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Loved your words! Emotions so in parallel to my own personal noona romance. High school King of Savvy thrilling 'cast' kiss. A Witches Romance OMG I just saw his ID and he's only this age moment! Pretty Noona Who Buys Me Food indecisive moments. I Hear Your Voice playful banter. Secret Love Affair's dark side of a 'forbidden' relationship. This list is long and I truly love seeing so many facets of noon romances. There is always a piece of these dramas that I can truly relate to. I, as probably many other women in this situation, went through an arc of major feels. I remember when I first met June (nickname) at my local University no less. Me returning to finish up my degree and June, a fresh faced, new to the country (So. Korean) student following in his father's footsteps ... studying in America with plans to return home to take over the family business. We were in an upper math class and had both joined the same after class study group. I played the 'nice but aloof' card to all my study mates being that I was much older and felt a bit out of touch with what I termed the 'kids'. They all reminded me so much of my first round of upper education many many years prior. I wanted to appear like an alike an adult laced with a sprinkling of cool. Initially June never factored in my brain as an actual adult male. More a soft spoken, highly intelligent kid. A kid that was insightful with a "quirky sense of humor as he navigating his way through his American experience. Imagine my shock when after a study session he asked me out. To summarize I'm thinking ... Out? Out where? You mean a date kinda out? Have you been drinking padre?! My response a very quick "NO, umm I'm sure you should be aware of this but I'm quite a bit older than you." June "Are you married or are you in a relationship? Me "That is not the point!" June "I understand" Conversation E.N.D.
As I'm driving home I am a bit stunned and laugh it off as 'well I must have kept my looks for a 20+ kid to ask me that'.. HAHAHA..
Fast forward many weeks later and now I can't get this 'kid' out of my head. I start to notice everything about him. How he dresses, the way his hair is cut. That cute left dimple that is displayed when he smiles/laughs. How interesting he is and his frankly insightful comments when asked a variety of questions about his country. Honestly what is wrong with me? The semester is over. We both pass the class and say our goodbyes. I'm relieved yet I'm struck by how melancholy I've become. Fast forward a couple of days and I get a call (ok folks this is when ppl actually still had home phones) and guess who? June "Now that our class has ended, I'd like to invite you to dinner". Me "umm.. sure ok" Just like that I decided that friends could go out right? That first date lasted six hours.. and also led to some major highs and sinkable lows to include two years of separation. Flash forward to now. yep still...

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