[Surviving and Thriving] Weekenders
by Guest Beanie
By @oldawyer
I love family weekenders (and dailies). But I have not loved every weekender, and can relate to those who have found one to be frustrating, infuriating, and unwatchable, as I too have had that experience. It is actually from the bad ones that I learned how to watch a weekender — because the best ones are effortless and what do you learn when it takes no effort? The majority of weekenders, of course, fall somewhere in between, but are still very watchable if only you know how to watch them. So here is my very own guide on what to expect and how to survive when faced with a weekender.
Weekenders tell a story — or rather many stories that involve families. Like all other dramas, they have a beginning and an end, and in this they are distinctly different from a never-ending soap opera (not a fan of those), but are much longer than a standard K-drama. Still, length itself does not bother most K-drama viewers as many have loved Six Flying Dragons which has 50 full length episodes (the same as a weekender), and some have even seen and loved Immortal Lee Soon-shin which has 160 episodes (as long as a daily).
If length is not the issue, why the difficulty with a weekender? I think the difficulty begins with expectations: confusion caused by the fact that a weekender appears to simply be another K-drama, raising the obvious questions as to why is it so long, and why it has so many characters. In fact, the length and larger cast both come from the fact that this story has to be longer because it will be telling many stories all at once — and in a more realistic time frame — because there is actually time and space for people to grow and change.
Length is part of the point of the weekender. We watch people change, and change takes time. When we see that change happen over time, it leads to poignant moments that are not nearly as possible with a shorter drama. In my pre-streaming days I brought home from the library the DVDs for the wonderful Smile You from 2009 and 2010. A secondary character in that show is Jung Ji-soo, who is a tough, embittered former gang-girl orphan who wants a better life and somehow meets our female lead’s older brother, who falls in love with her. Funny moments ensue, and she ends up staying with the family who come to accept her — but, almost tragically, she decides she is not good enough for the young man who loves her and leaves (noble idiocy at its stupidest). So what does the family do? They go and find her to bring her home. That moment when they arrive to fetch her back — and watching her expression as she understands what it means — still brings tears to my eyes. It is the moment when I fell in love with weekenders. What makes a moment like that so dramatic is the time that we have spent watching the characters and their relationships grow. To enjoy a weekender, start by knowing that the length is a feature, not a bug. Adjust your expectations to that idea, and simply enjoy a more leisurely journey.
Now I will surprise you with an unexpected suggestion: be prepared to use the fast forward button, but use it judiciously. Weekenders have several plot lines, so if there is a storyline that you just don’t get into, fast forward. But, be careful of doing that simply because you find a character awful. At the beginning of Father is Strange the character Kim Yoo-joo is simply awful, but she becomes a truly beautiful person over the course of the show and that story is one of the best plot lines in one of the greatest weekenders. You might want to check on that character from time to time. That said, fast forward used well can save a show for you.
Lest you end up hating all weekenders, and therefore miss out on a very good thing, my final suggestion is to know when to drop one. I have dropped more than one. Knowing when is a matter of understanding the structure. Start with the idea that because the drama will involve many characters and several stories, the first four episodes are introduction — the stage is simply being set for the play that follows. It is in the next four episodes that the stories truly begin to unfold, and you get a glimpse of the kind of action that you are looking at. It is at this point that you have enough information to make a decision, because now you know where the show is headed. This is your decision point. You may want to watch two more episodes, but this might also be the time to drop it. It is not worth 40 more episodes just to earn a bean. Of course, if you are still with the show after Episode 16, then it is best just to be honest with yourself and simply admit that they have you hooked. So, at that point, simply relax and let this be the show you watch while folding laundry.
Do not be surprised when you find yourself looking forward to the next episodes of a show whose length once intimidated you, now that you know that you did not have to make a big commitment going in. Instead, a weekender could be that constant in dramaland that anchors your week: a friend who stays for a good while.
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1 Asha13
June 5, 2023 at 10:37 AM
Congratulations @oldlawyer
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2 Wise
June 5, 2023 at 10:45 AM
Six Flying Dragons and My Father is Strange are the only weekend dramas I didn’t fast forward.
SFD is a drama that really need 50 episodes to tell its whole story. Its politics, philosophy, action and romance were brilliantly written and well executed by the director and actors. You rarely find a saeguk drama that is unboring to watch because usually saeguk conflicts are the same which between the king and people who oppose him. This too have that plot but the king wasn’t the center of the story but instead the heroes of the kingdom who fought in war and palace court and ordinary people who wanted a reformation (or revolution) because they are victim of the system or simply because they wanted and deserved power and acknowledgement. They successfully present the politics issues as an interesting mind and psychological game between characters and you can’t help drawn into it. Also, they mix it with good swordsmanship which made it very entertaining and thrilling to watch. Still the best saeguk on my list till this day.
My Father is Strange has all weekend drama tropes (birth secret, rivalry between families and “forbidden” love between the leads) but it was beautifully packaged and directed. Of course the acting took a big part on making it very enjoyable to watch, but I like how everyrhing somehow despite the tropes wasn’t tedious or over the top. They have decent amount of idiocy in the story and characters unlike most weekend dramas. The siblings were entertaining to watch and when they weren’t together on the screen each sibling shine in their respective story. The interactions between family members was slice of life its relatable. Haven’t found any weekend family drama that even close to beat this one.
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OldLawyer
June 5, 2023 at 6:49 PM
MY FATHER IS STRANGE and SMILE, YOU remain my all-time favorite weekenders. Your description of FATHER is quite apt. It was balanced and relatable. If you want another really good weekender, I might suggest ONCE AGAIN which also has those elements of relatability and balance.
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3 vienibenmio
June 5, 2023 at 11:04 AM
It's Beautiful Now is the only weekender I've watched. It had some really good and enjoyable moments but towards the end became such a chore to finish. I've since vowed to never watch another weekender again, it's just too many episodes.
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OldLawyer
June 5, 2023 at 7:09 PM
I agree with you about the trajectory that IT'S BEAUTIFUL NOW followed.
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4 Unaspirated
June 5, 2023 at 11:37 AM
I really enjoyed reading this! I'm still not sure that weekenders are for me, but I love your argument for them, and it makes me think differently about them than I did before.
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5 mmmmm
June 5, 2023 at 12:08 PM
I love this piece, thanks @oldawyer.
I just finished Beautiful Gong-shim, and though it isn't a weekender, its overall vibe and 20 episodes made me feel like it was one. I completely understand when you said there are time and space in weekenders. I agree that there are. And I think this is where the comfort comes from- comfort comes from being able to take a deep breath knowing that you won't miss much (the same way real life is). And because there are a lot of stories happening at the same time, it's almost guaranteed that some will strike a chord or two with you.
Because I really liked Beautiful Gong-shim, which I said earlier that it had a weekender vibe, and reading this post on your fan wall some days ago I gave a serious thought about beginning another weekender.
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OldLawyer
June 5, 2023 at 6:53 PM
BEAUTIFUL GONG-SHIM is such a classic and I can see how it resembles a weekender.
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6 welh
June 5, 2023 at 1:18 PM
South Korean network viewers like their weekenders for a simple reason: predictability. There is a standard trope filled blueprint that most follow (including re-using many sets). It is part of Korea's couple culture: people are obsessed about "couples:" they like to talk about them, dissect them, judge them and predict how the relationship will go. Because of this, there are low expectations for a weekender which leads to a consistent 20 percent rating each week. Even when there is the classic unbelievable cross pollination between two families children, no one seems to be bothered. It is also one of those series that if you miss an episode you can easily pick up on what is happening in the next.
The big difference maker is the director and the cast performance. As mentioned above, the good ones like Father is Strange, Once Again or The Gentlemen of Wolgyesu Tailor Shop elevated the genre. As I have said before, Dr. Cha had so many story lines I consider it a condensed weekender.
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Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
June 5, 2023 at 1:35 PM
The Gentlemen of Wolgyesu Tailor Shop was one of the first weekenders I watched and I loved it.
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OldLawyer
June 5, 2023 at 6:54 PM
I have seen it and it was indeed a good one.
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OldLawyer
June 5, 2023 at 7:08 PM
It would be hard to match the cast of MY FATHER IS STRANGE.
To really see the difference that a great performance by the lead character can make take a look at the audience numbers for YOUNG LADY AND GENTLEMAN- which was very poorly written (two amnesia arcs!!!) but which had fabulous performances by the two leads and several other characters as well. They collectively took a turkey of a script and made a success of it commercially. It is still not a weekender I would recommend.
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AsianDramaniac
June 6, 2023 at 6:58 PM
YOUNG LADY AND GENTLEMAN's script was so badly written that I was surprised it could garner such high ratings.
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7 Reply1988 -❣️Mother Bean❣️
June 5, 2023 at 1:33 PM
@old lawyer I am so glad that you put this together. I was very lucky to find a few of the decent weekenders by chance but I also got trapped in some that were not so good. If only I had known some of these tips then it would have saved me a LOT of stressful hate watching.
Because I am a binge watcher in my early days I couldn’t understand how some dramas were so much longer than others or why they had so many incidents of glasses of water being thrown, girl fights/shouting matches in public places like the reception of someone’s work place. The fat money envelops being passed on as a strategy also seemed odd to me, as the no brainer move would be to take the money and show it to the partner so they could call out their mum the fact no one did this was such a wasted opportunity.
I think everyone should experience an epic weekender and then decide from a place of informed decision making whether to walk away forever or watch the next big one.
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8 Gikata
June 5, 2023 at 1:58 PM
The only weekender I managed to go through was WHAT HAPPENS TO MY FAMILY. I liked it quite a lot despite some necessarily FF usage, occasional makjang sprinkle (seriously, what was that with second son's ex and his-or-not son plotline? it came out of nowhere, wrecked havoc for a few episodes and then got dropped with lamest resolution ever), waste of space characters and story arcs, OOC moments, obvious writing fatigue later on due to extension etc. It felt good, it was - mostly - acted good and it certainly left me with a nice aftertaste, unlike many other shows. It's even perfectly rewatchable, which is no small feat for any kdrama, let alone one longer than 50 episodes. I've tried few other shows of this format, but couldn't make it past Ep1-2 with usually and thus gave up. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that I watched SO MANY lengthy soap operas as a kid... Is it just me or they were really much more addictive in 80-90s? Current ones, no matter what country they're made in, just don't hold the candle to that level of tropey unapologetic crack)))
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9 beffels
June 5, 2023 at 4:03 PM
I love a good weekender but I think for me they’re best watched when there are several episodes stacked up that I can just rip through and watch the bits I want. I generally watch the first few episodes in full to get some context and then the FF button is my friend 😄
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ar_arguably romantic
June 6, 2023 at 5:28 PM
I think stacking up the first 5 or 6 episodes in the beginning and ripping through them is a great idea since the first few are setup.
The FF button is my friend too. I rarely watch weekenders and even more rarely finished them...but I do enjoy watching them while leisurely eating, paying bills, online shopping, or entering numbers into my budgeting spreadsheet. In korea, weekenders usually air around dinnertime. They're not meant for 100% focus.
It also helps that I don't feel all that bad about dropping dramas.
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10 fab
June 5, 2023 at 4:32 PM
Ha, very insightful, thank you!
The Real has Come is the first weekender that got me invested in a long time. I was hooked from the beginning; I love the characters and their development. Liking the cast is a must too. It's almost 20 episodes in and it doesn't feel repetitive or draggy. (knock on wood!). Also drama endings can be very emotionally taxing and the withdrawal is oftentimes dreadful. So imagine having a drama go on for months longer. Unfortunately this is not how it works, getting to a closer is part of the journey. And having it be a happy ending is even more satisfying. And that's also the benefit of long dramas, the happy endings are (miraculously) really good. That must be how it feels to finish a marathon.
But the main issue about long dramas is indeed the length, it's really hard to keep up with the number of episodes! I was in a bit of a slump the past couple or so weeks and I'm already 5 episodes behind. And binge watching drama-dramas is mentally draining. I'm not even sure I got to the finish of Empress Ki and I liked a lot of its elements. Granted, this problem could be easily avoided with simple time management, but try to convince this ADD brain.
P.s Smile, You is the best! It's the only Weekender I've rewatched over time. That also applies to Jewel in the Palace, but that one aired on TV pre fast internet. Yes I'm old.
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11 et865
June 5, 2023 at 8:08 PM
I have only watched 2 weekenders - Five Children and Once Again. Inevitably, I get bored at some point and then do a lot of fast forwarding to get though the rest of the episodes.
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12 Kurama
June 6, 2023 at 12:06 AM
Weekenders require commitment!
I watched some of them but usually I liked the 10 first episodes and the middle look like fillers then the story becomes more interesting in the last 10 episodes.
My issue with them often is people can do very awful things but because the main theme often is family, at the end everything is forgiven.
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13 technicat
June 6, 2023 at 5:20 AM
Father Is Strange and Smile, You are two of my favorites, regardless of length. I also enjoyed Five Enough, turned me into a fan of Sung Hoon and Shin Hye-sun.
My intro to 50-ish episode shows was Hundred Year Legacy, which was also my intro to kdrama concepts like terrible mother-in-laws, amnesia, and traumatic loss of taste, and I must have enjoyed it yet stopped at episode 48 because I couldn't take anymore. That's generally my problem with long shows, my attention will drift and sometimes I can't even remember where I was, but on the other hand, I did spend more time on it than a regular 16-episode show.
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OldLawyer
June 6, 2023 at 7:36 AM
When I re-watch FIVE ENOUGH I use the FF button a lot- because really, I am re-watching for the wonderful love story of the Golfer Couple. It simply never gets old. This was the breakout drama for both Sung Hoon and Shin Hye-sun.
I did not make it to the end of HUNDRED YEAR LEGACY either. That experience was actually part of why I developed my rule for "testing" a long drama. I was able to very successfully apply it to REVOLUTIONARY SISTERS, a turkey of a show that wasted the talents of some very fine actors. It was a good drop.
Which is actually the best way to think of a drop when dropping a long form drama of any kind, including those Chinese Costume Fantasies that can run to sixty or seventy plus episode. A good drop means that you are not letting this particular show spoil the kind of show for you, whatever genre it may be. Because it would be a real shame to miss out on a great show just because you previously experienced a bad one. In fact, Aristotle would actually have declared such reasoning to be illogical, as it literally means that you fell victim to one of the informal fallacies described in his Logic. A good drop means that you are not allowing that to happen.
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14 tabong has two different tears🍉
June 6, 2023 at 5:26 AM
Yay, more love for family dramas!
They're gold and they deserve the love.
Thank you, oldlawyer.
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technicat
June 6, 2023 at 7:12 AM
You reminded me of another one I liked: I Summon You, Gold!
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tabong has two different tears🍉
June 6, 2023 at 2:40 PM
Oh, I've never heard of it. 🤔
*Adds it to her watchlist*
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15 OhSoEnthusiastic
June 8, 2023 at 11:43 AM
I haven't dipped my toes into Kdrama weekenders yet, but I keep adding them to my Mydramalist watchlist just the same, lol.
For me, it's a matter of length. I'm just put off by dramas that are that long, whether they deserve it or not. That's probably because I'm used to how the 16 ep format works, and I'm afraid of watching something longer knowing how easily shorter dramas can fall apart. I'm just a little gun shy, lol.
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