I wish I had someone to talk to. after losing my friends I´ve been all alone and there is this heavy burden… where is the girl gang who would cry with me & fight with me?

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    @redfox You can always talk with me 🙂

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      thanks! Im just wondering how the kdrama heroines get over loving someone they loved… but I just can´t seem to do it? what´s wrong with me? shouldnt it be normal that you are fine in around 2 months? well some go after revenge and that takes longer. i dont need revenge, I just wish this pain would go away. should I get drunk? but I have never drank alcohol

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        I am sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. There is nothing wrong with you and some things take time. That’s ok, take the time to process what you are feeling with the knowledge that you will be alright. Definitely don’t get drunk!

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        There is nothing wrong with you..sometimes 2 months is not enough. It took me over a year to move on from my biggest heart break. Drinking doesn’t help, it will only give you hangover.
        Acknowledging that I deserve better and forgiveness (forgive the one who hurt you and yourself) were the key factors for me.

        You can talk to me if you have more questions 😊

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          thank you! no, I´ll just drink tea. I just trying to look after myself, dress nice, eat, sleep etc. that´s all I´m managing to do and I feel guiltinkiny not achieving more but… it takes a lot of energy to even do that.
          I have forgiven but I can´t forget the humiliation and shame. it plays back over and over (PTSD they said, you keep living in the moment that hurt you). I keep saying the mantra in my mind “may you be happy, my friend!” to bring light into my soul. But… I mean, just because I can some day forgive doesnt mean it´s ok.

          I do wish there was private messaging in this board.

          thank you girls a million for answering, you have no idea how much I appreciate it! It feels comforting to tell someone.

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            I may not know your whole story but I feel you! I hope you find the strength to move on someday 😊
            Yes, I wish there is a private messaging in here too!

            You are welcome! Let me know if you needed someone to talk to 😊

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            @redfox It was my pleasure 🙂 Never feel like you cannot reach out to someone. It would be nice to have a private messaging feature.

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        We are all different and that includes how we process our feelings. I am sorry that you are going through difficulty. I might not be able to do much, but I can send virtual hugs and well-wishes your way. 🙂

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        You plainly have lots of friends here, and please come by often and share your thoughts…
        … Now would not be good time to try alcohol.

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    @redfox, where’s the one who broke your heart? I’ll be there with my free the kimchi group. (If we’re allowed in your country right now. You may not want us. Actually one of us is recovering from COVID, but I digress.) We’ll be there with baseball bats in hand to destroy whatever personal property will hurt him the most! In all seriousness, breakups suck. But there is always someone else. Trust me here, there’s always someone. And take as long as you need. 2 months is not that long to grieve. And only drink when you’re happy, or when you want to take a nap. Yes, there’s an art to it to make one or the other more enjoyable. Fighting, girlfriend!

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    @redfox Hi 🙂 I just wanted to check on how you are doing.

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      hi I was at the countryside, really bad internet. a little better. gardening, physical labor always helps get the mind off things. dance marathons. too. I might be addicted toi danc3e marathons now…
      honest, I felt like a crazy person before because it´s been so long. but i realized that if I force myself, it will not be real

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        I’m glad that you are starting to feel a little better 🙂 I find that keeping occupied also helps me get through difficult times.

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