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Would You Rather #10

In dramaland, leading ladies often find themselves torn between the love of two equally attractive men — a choice none of us would want to make! But what if you did have to pick between the frustrating lawyer and the adorkable police officer? In this weekly feature, we ask you to make the difficult decisions — and we aren’t limiting our options to dreamy oppas.

Vote via the poll and feel free to use the comments to explain exactly how you were able to choose! So, Beanies:
 


 
WOULD YOU RATHER #9: RESULTS

Last’s week’s poll was mostly just an excuse to pit two popular dramas by the same writer-director duo against each another. I wasn’t confident that the 9-year difference would be terribly polarizing or invite much debate, and for the most part, it seems I was correct. However, there was one delightfully unexpected outcome from this poll: I now feel like I know a lot of you Beanies better based on your responses in the comment section. 🫰 This battle of the decades was a nostalgia trip (good and bad) for most of you, and I enjoyed reading over the comments.

1997 won the poll by nearly 20%, and it seems like it came out on top because there are a large number of older Millennials, myself included, who miss the era of 90s boybands (Right there with you @shinayame and @ar; Backstreet Boys 4eva!!!) and would prefer traveling to the year that has the internet — even if it’s slow and ties up your phone lines. Plus, as @jls943 pointed out, the further back in time we go, the more freedoms we have to give up, although, depending on where you are in the world, neither 1988 nor 1997 may have been the best years to (re)visit.

As for those who selected 1988, it seems it was the decade of choice for those who either lived through it or have no memory of it. For the Beanies that remember the 1980s, like @babylilo and @darwi, traveling to 1988 would allow them to change the course of their lives for the better, and for @lordcobol, who was an adult in both decades, 1988 came out the winner because that’s simply when he was younger. On the other end of the spectrum, though, there were some Beanies, like @sunnysaturdays, with no memories of the 1980s who’d like to give that decade a whirl.

Either way, though, the most heated debate to come from this poll was over which decade had the better music. And how unexpected is that?
 
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Easy one: hear other people's thoughts.
In business negotiations, I could have the upper hand.
In personal relationships, I cannot read minds so this would be useful tool to smooth out the uncertainty and misunderstandings.

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I'd rather hear other people's thoughts but only when I wanted to do it. I would hate this power if I couldn't control it.

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If I can control my power, I would choose hear other people's thoughts.

I read a book and the ML couldn't really control it and couldn't live in a city. He lived his life with the inuits in the middle of nowhere. I couldn't do that...

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I would assume hearing other people's thoughts would need to be activated in some way, in close proximity to connect to specific brainwave activity.

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I don't lie often but I'm quite good at it when I do, so I'd miss that ability, but not having it would probably not change my life much. Hearing others' thoughts, though - such a mixed bag that I'd have to give that thumbs down. If it's an at-will ability, I could exploit it as @welh640 says but there would probably still be many times I either inadvertently triggered it or gave in to temptation and 'heard' something I wished I hadn't. And if it's involuntary - my god, the cacophony inside my own head is often out of control and adding the thoughts coming in from other people would drive me out of my mind.

I haven't yet seen either of the pictured dramas so I don't know how the thought-hearing works in IHYV.

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Quoting you: "my god, the cacophony inside my own head is often out of control".

I feel so identified with this XD

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I'm a pretty crappy liar anyway, so I wouldn't be giving up much. And at least I'd have some mental peace and quiet.

Just a little warning for those who would like to hear other people's thoughts -- what if EVERYBODY could do it. Some people may think that if everybody truly understood everybody else the result would be universal peace and harmony, but there's also the theory that if everybody suddenly found out what all those other jerks thought of them the result would be approximately one survivor per continent.

If everybody lost the ability to lie the death rate would probably not be so high -- we'd just learn to shut up when we weren't thinking nice thoughts. And there might be fewer unsolved crimes & crooked politicians.

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I quite agree with your second paragraph. I do not want the constant knowledge that might have been a puppet in someone's strings or begin doing the puppeteering myself. And there's the likelihood of the false universal peace and harmony you also mentioned. Life would almost be a lie, sincerely or not, intentional or not.

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Oh, this is another tricky one! The thing is I'm a fairly honest person so not being able to lie wouldn't necessarily be too different for me however what if a situation arises where you NEED to be able to lie (such as a criminal/murderer asks you will you really not report me if I let you go?) Then that ability would be very much needed.
I think there is a way of circumventing honesty without straight out lying so again not being able to lie wouldn't be *that* much of an issue once you learn how to manipulate the truth. (Ugh as soon as I wrote that, I thought of real life examples😮‍💨🤢😔🙄😒)

I am curious about what other people think but I think that would get so overwhelming so fast. I especially would want that ability if I had to deal with liars often but again, I see that being so overwhelming haha. Like imagine dealing with a professional scammer who always has an answer for everything? Might help in relationships though I could see that being misused.

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Lying by omission is still lying, so circumventing honesty and manipulating the truth wouldn't be allowed, technically. Not being able to lie could lead to hurt feelings when you want to be gentle with someone, but you just have to blurt out whatever because you have to tell the truth. And there are times you won't wanna share the truth because it's irrelevant or not anyone's business, so there goes that. (eg, what did you do this weekend?) Plus, the reputation you'd get from being that person in every conversation would be annoying.

I chose hearing thoughts because noise canceling headphones exist if it wasn't a controlled ability. Also, I'd rather find ways to cope with intrusive thoughts than to have the consequences of being the truth teller in social situations.

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I don't know if all people agree about lies of omission.

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I certainly disagree. Truth is a rather abstract concept anyway, especially one particular person's subjective truth.

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Also, subjective truth is different. If you actually believe something is the truth, then you're not lying.

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@gikata in Pinocchio (that's one of the images used in the question), the female lead hiccups whenever she lies.
In the western movie Knives Out, the female lead vomits whenever she lies.

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I was raised to believe that, and it's definitely a moral/ethical principle. Culturally, we value that where I grew up.

Let's say you cheated on an exam and the teacher asks, Did you use a cheat sheet during the test? You say no because you actually had the key ahead of time and memorized the answers. So you get away with it because there's no cheat sheet and you were convincing. But you still cheated. I don't trust people who say things like, well, you didn't ask the right question! It's dishonest.

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Congrats on your clearly superior morals then)))

History - and folklore - taught us that devil is always in details tho, for better or worse. You may personally and culturally treat both things as the same one, but they are not technically speaking - for anyone who doesn't share your strict values, at least. I don't remember drama in question much, sadly, to clarify the exact mechanics of FL's condition. Was it tied to her own definition of lie, a commonly recognized one or something else? Anyway, knowing how to ask the right question is an useful trait in life. More useful than good number of classical good person's virtues combined, actually...

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The technicalities such as your example are the reasons how the rich escape their punishment and why people don't trust the law.

I wouldn't mind being that person who always speak the truth because I'm already that person who says what others don't dare to say.

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I chose hearing thoughts because noise canceling headphones exist if it wasn't a controlled ability
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What a nice cheat. Well, there's the option of pleading the Fifth if I'll be unable to lie again ;)

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I dont think the headphones would work though? Cos it’s someone’s thought so they dont have to say it out loud for you to ‘hear’. But in the drama, ML did use a headphone so it might work..

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You would need a Professor X type helmet haha

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the most heated debate to come from this poll was over which decade had the better music. And how unexpected is that?

Now unexpected at all, that's the most important topic ever!

Another pretty easy choice - I RARELY lie anyway. Actually I'm so blunt that people often have a wrong impression of me as a cold and mean person. Well, sorry, sugarcoating things is just not my style. It's a matter of principle, no sadistic pleasure involved... usually))) Parents like to call me razor tongue or a venomous one for that. As if it was MY fault to be born a Scorpio in the year of Snake of all things!

Hearing people's thoughts, in other hand, is tempting. Boy, do I often struggle with guessing what the hell others are thinking and why! Not wasting time and effort on things (and people) not worth it is a dream come true. There probably will be some discomfort from all the noise but that's what earphones and deeply introverted mind are for))) If it gets too hard I can always just self-isolate from anyone and rest. I was doing it for ages before it became a trend)))

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There have been a couple films done on being able to hear other people's thoughts, including the very entertaining Chinese version, What Women Want, with Andy Lau and Gong Li (available on Asiancrush.com I the U.S.). From that, I'd say absolutely not since hearing other people's noise in general, especially if living in a city like NYC, is bad enough that I don't need to hear their thoughts on top of that.

There was also a Korean film or drama whose name escapes me with a politician not being able to lie and causing all sorts of problems. I think I happened to catch it on Samsung TV channel that was quite humorous but something I would never have sought out to watch. Though in that context, never being able to lie sounds appealing, I'd also not want this either. I'm a firm believer in little white lies for those occasions that are kinder than telling the truth, as long as they're harmless.

So pass on both, though both issues have reminded me of some good films I watched relating to the topics. These are hard, so much so that I can't remember the last time I actually voted on one of these!

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Was that movie The Honest Candidate with Ra Mi-ran? I haven't seen it, but it sounds close. The concept also vaguely reminds me of an older American movie, Bulworth, in which a senator running for re-election suddenly stops giving a f* about anything and starts blurting out the unfiltered truth (as he sees it) about everything, upending his campaign and his life.

Stating something factual but misleading is a staple of kdramas - Master Lee in Alchemy of Souls Part 1 comes to mind as a master of this technique. Is that lying? If I could no longer tell even white lies, I'd hope to be able to do that and also to give truthful but non-informative responses, for example:
Q: "Are you dating that person?"
A: "That's none of your business."

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Yes, thanks for the title. That movie was different from Bulworth in that she is incapable of telling lies, whereas I think Bulworth just decided to say whatever he wants, which I actually thought was a tactic more than anything else. I didn't watch Alchemy of Souls yet, but I'm not sure all Kdramas necessarily use factual misleading statements, even if that one does.

Regardless, neither of the poll options are anything I'd want, to be honest.

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Liar Liar was a good one for the lead being unable to lie.
And then he blurted out some sad truths about himself and when that realization dawnes on him, it's like wow, damn.

I think the honest candidate also had a moment like that.

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This one is speaking my language!

I have that lovely autism thing of very rarely being able to tell a convincing lie anyway, so why not just fully commit, and pioneer my way into creating a more just and honest society like Choi In-ha did?
As much as I adore Park Soo-ha (who was my profile picture for YEARS before Dan-oh came along), I wouldn't want to be him. Who would want to be around someone they were always exposed to? When he never extended that same kind of vulnerability himself?
No, I'd rather be like In-ha and boldly wear my heart on my sleeve, even if she only became that way because she didn't have a choice. It's the less cowardly of the two options.

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I really don't get the point of this one. One choice clearly is kinda selfish but offers protection and the other is shooting me in the leg.

I voted hearing people's thoughts. But after careful thinking, I think that no. I want to have rich free flowing conversations with people, something like a natural flow, and having a power to hear thier thoughts rubs me if that rich interaction and there's the tendency of me turn toxic, either by saying the right things even when I do not mean it or deliberately hurting people because I can hear thier chain of thoughts and can pinpoint where and how best my words can will hurt them. It is very easy for it to turn me into something I do not want to be. In business this gift might come in handy but it can seep through and make me a puppeteer and ruin my interpersonal relationships and that, I do not want to bargain for that.

I'll go with saying the truth at all time. Yes it might make me vulnerable to oppurtunistic self-serving humans but it'll also help me sift through my circle and I'll be left with mostly good quality of friends, irrespective of how many they are. Truth hurts they say, 'openness can bite you back' is something that has been proven time and again to be true, yet it can also be a good repellant.

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This is so tough as I really don't want either. I guess it depends on how much control I still have over hearing other people's thoughts or lying. But I'm guessing the case is that there is no control.

Picking my poison, I would choose hearing other people's thoughts. I don't want to ruin Santa, Easter, and the Tooth Fairy for all my friends' kids. I want to loudly expression admiration for their cute little drawings even though the brown squiggles look nothing like a dog.

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I’m going for not lying. There’s no compulsion to answer questions exactly as they’re asked (eg for “what are your credit card details?” or similar, “ I don’t want to tell you.” Is a complete and truthful answer; “did you enjoy the school play, Mum?” “You were very cute onstage”). Hearing everyone’s thoughts (unless it could be rigorously controlled) would just drive you mad, and you’re guaranteed to hear things you don’t want to know.

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considering what Kokdu had to go through hearing all those voices I think I would choose never lying again cause like @lordcobol, I am a terrible liar too. My mind already has way too many thoughts running around all the time so hearing everybody's would be major overload.

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On one hand, hearing other people's thoughts would be great in meetings and would assure me easy victories on tabletop games nights.
However, it is already hard to have to listen to people talk. I have colleagues that talk a lot. From the moment I arrive in the morning to the blissful moment when they leave at the end of the work day, they talk, they discuss the results of the tests, they chat over coffee, they argue and gossip, they babble on the phone with their kids, they laught, they converse, and they talk. I often wonder how it is possible to talk so much. Maybe since they have young children at home, the kids talk over them, and thus work is the place where they can talk ? But there are five women with voices tones very close in the neighbour offices, and it's unbearable for me. I'm so grateful when some are in home office.
Now, imagine that I could hear when they think. It means no more silence, no respite at all. Would it be worse than seeing all the smells ? Yes.

So without any doubt or hesitation, I choose to never be able to lie again.
It's much easier to tell the truth than to have to remember what version or story was told.
And I have no poker face anyway.

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As long as it doesn’t mean I would have no control and be forced to blurt out the truth in every situation, I’d be okay with losing the ability to lie. I try very hard to tell the truth as much as possible. In a case where speaking the truth would cause unnecessary pain or embarrassment, my strategy is either to say nothing, or to say something that avoids inflicting pain without being an out-and-out lie (“My! You have such an original fashion sense!”). 🙄

I think I’d go crazy hearing other people’s thoughts, and perhaps be devastated to hear what they’re thinking about me in particular.

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I would be wayyy too afraid that hearing other people's thoughts could be an unmitigated power - that could drive you literally insane!
So out of caution, I chose to not lie again, as I've seen k-dramas with this trope allow the person with this power be sneaky still via the power of omission.

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