Last week I couldn’t post all days so I wanted to catch up this week, and this afternoon was the day I planned to write my entries and read all yours. Yes, I had a plan, but life had other.
I woke up this morning to the news of Lee Sung Kyun suicide (yes, I’ll say it openly) and I am still in shock.
Like in a bad drama, I feel the whole case against him was built to divert attention from the real problem (corruption, abuse, power), and focusing on popular figures like G-Dragon, LSK, YAI diverts the attention from the real problem. Using drugs is not a good thing for sure, but it’s far worse trafficking with them. Let the public talk on how famous people commit crimes, because after all nothing is better that a makjang in which we see rich people suffering and fighting each other. Yes, but this is not a bad drama. This was real life. And one of those lives is gone forever.
Like in a bad drama, the man couldn’t face the fact that he would never recover what he had lost in a couple of months. He knew there was no way back. Because it didn’t matter if he was cleared or not. Public will always hate him and point at him, and not trust him anymore. That same public that doesn’t understand that drug addiction is a disease, not a crime and if someone is ill, they need help not being exposed as criminals.
In a country in which you can drink yourself to death, in which you must prove yourself by drinking, that can’t refuse to have a drink if a superior, or an older person asks you to drink, it’s just ironic how the mention of drugs can unite the society into saying: drugs are bad because you hurt the body you were given. We all know alcohol is not a drug and Korean livers and brains are not affected by it. Yes, Sheldon, this is sarcasm.
It’s the same country in which if you’ve used drugs you can consider your career over (I don’t think we’ll ever see again YIA in a lead role), but if you’ve committed sexual assault… don’t worry… we have a drama for you.
And this all, which you already know, which is not new, but even so is devastating, makes me wonder what should I do? Can I go on supporting an industry that consents this? Where is the support for LSK or YAI? If this amazing actors are going through hell, what happens to all those rookies, in the hands of all kind of agencies, who go through PS procedures to look prettier, who yield to men and women in all kind of ways to pursue their dream? Is anyone protecting them? Shouldn’t I be that person? If I encourage the industry with all this behaviors, knowing they exist, am I an accomplice?
Should I stop watching dramas? Should I quit on Kpop?
I’m not naive. I know entertainment industry all over the world is not a bed of roses, but when you actually know how bad it is, you need to do something. For instance it’s ages I don’t listen to Michael Jackson music because as great and amazing as his music was, he was a monster.
That is a question I seriously hope is on the minds of the people who cause these tragic situations and have the power to change things for the better
Empathy, compassion, understanding, and educating are ways we can respond. Everytime something like this happens, it feels like it should be the last, but it’s always the same. A person is judged harshly, there is no thought about how there is a real person behind that famous name, and they are backed into a corner. We’re a small community here, but if even just one person stumbles across DB today and sees the caring reactions on the fanwall and changes their way of thinking, maybe that will add up to something
I wish we had a series of posts that allow us to send messages to Kdrama actors and actresses encouraging and natural response to whatever scandals they are facing. I think DB can also hire a translator or have someone volunteer to translate the comments under the posts to Korean so there might be a higher chance of them coming across and UNDERSTAND these messages. There is a language barrier there, as I’m sure very few, if any, K actors and actresses understand English fully or at the functional level. SK is not the whole world, and the world is kinder and view things more naturally and realistically then what is normally perceived in a restricted, repressed, and conservative SK society.
I wish there was a way to make Beanies’ posts as seen and as heard as k-netizen posts. To make a stir. Or at least the slightest ripple. To someday hopefully result in a wave.
Until that happens, what we CAN do here and now for each other is hold tightly to kindness, compassion, care, love, and sympathy in how we treat each other on here ♥️
Maybe write out a summary of all your entries into a single post—maybe 2 posts at most because squishing it all into a single post may be too much, for yourself and others (such a big block of text 🙃)—which you can then copy and paste onto your Fan Wall/the Beanie Section (cuz of word limit), and that way, you can express and share your entries but it won’t run the risk of spamming the Fan Wall via multiple posts in such a sensitive time related to all things Kdramas, and those who don’t read your post now, but want to come back to it later, can scroll past and come back to it later? Just a suggestion.
It’s definitely a sensitive time and space we are in, but that shouldn’t stop you from expressing yourself, especially when it can be done in a way in which you can control the mood (being mindful & sensitive, etc.), as I feel like the inability to express and a lack of an outlet to express is one of the factors that contributes to sad and tragic moments like the one we are all seeing unfold—or which already has unfolded— in the last X amount of hours.
I’m not sure if I made sense? I hope you are well, Eazal ♥️
I don’t know if I am ok with all what is happening, but I’m trying my best to hold on to the bright side I find in kdramas and in this beautiful community, but also I am very self aware that I, in fact, have a contribution to the industry and I have my share in social responsibility.
It’s a hard time, and not only because of this. I also have lost a dear friend in the most unexpected, unfair and absurd way recently. Makes me think about the things I should do better in life.
Bebe, your words are always a good medicine. When I think about compassion and being gentle to oneself believe me, you come to mind so many times. Thanks for being the way you are.
I wish want to do something too. The news hit me yesterday morning. It’s been a day since then. His family is holding the funeral already. And out there, life goes on. I don’t know what I should do so that I am less of an “accomplice” in this situation. I can give up watching Kdramas if it can help.
These lines keep popping up in my mind
“Somewhere far beyond the office walls, Harry could hear the sound of voices, students heading down to the Great Hall for an early breakfast, perhaps. It seemed impossible that there could be people in the world who still desired food, who laughed, who neither knew nor cared that Sirius Black was gone forever. Sirius seems a million miles away already; even now part of Harry still believed that if he had only pulled back that veil, he would have found Sirius looking back at him, greeting him, perhaps, with his laugh like a bark…”
(HP&TOoTP).
When @ndlessjoie warned me not to expose myself to K entertainment media yesterday nor DB until I’m ready because there is some terribly sad news, I immediately thought of YAI.
I guess I instinctively knew what kind of news to expect, and that does not bode well for SK.
I’m angry. Really angry at what seems to have happened (still haven’t read the news thoroughly for fear that I can’t manage my heart and emotions). I can say 100 bad words cussing SK society and its toxic culture and internet culture out, but I don’t know if that will lead to any change.
So this is all I’m gonna say for now:
– I used to be proud of SK as an Asian country that is stepping on to the world’s stage, but being a first-world country means, actually means, people would want to live IN your country because people there live a GOOD life. I love how competitive you all are, but your culture is toxic and unnatural on so many fronts, I’m not sure how long you can keep this up. And no, I’m not proud anymore. This is the first time I’m happy living in a place that is not as judgmental as in the SK society, where appearance and clean record mean everything. Appearance is superficial, a d clean record means the person is probably obedient, lucky, and never really did anything in life (You can’t fail when you don’t do anything because you’re bound to fail sometimes when you do something. That’s how we learn).
I guess this type of society is great at making those strange and shocking shows we see lately. You have enough source materials. What we see on the TV has their source materials irl then! What a disappointment. What a shame.
Unnatural things crumble. Do something about it, or wait for that day.
I’m talking about K entertainment in particular, though I always think there are so many misconceptions and unnatural expectations in the most absurdly way about many natural things in SK such as divorce, how each person should act, how seniority works, how to live.
And may you rest in peace, dear soul. Tbh, I still can’t believe the name I saw might refer to the one I think. I can’t send strength to their family because I don’t have that kind of strength at the moment. I feel angry, and sad, for everything that led to this (and to many others before this).
I consume K-ent with a guarded heart and even so, I’m devastated by LSK’s death. I skip any K-drama with a known sexual assaulter in the cast and try not to become attached to any actor or idol. I’m tired of waking up to the news of another suicide. The day that SK starts to take this problem seriously and look for a kind and humane solution can’t come soon enough.
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Eazal
December 27, 2023 at 10:14 AM
#2023RoundUp
What should I do?
Last week I couldn’t post all days so I wanted to catch up this week, and this afternoon was the day I planned to write my entries and read all yours. Yes, I had a plan, but life had other.
I woke up this morning to the news of Lee Sung Kyun suicide (yes, I’ll say it openly) and I am still in shock.
Like in a bad drama, I feel the whole case against him was built to divert attention from the real problem (corruption, abuse, power), and focusing on popular figures like G-Dragon, LSK, YAI diverts the attention from the real problem. Using drugs is not a good thing for sure, but it’s far worse trafficking with them. Let the public talk on how famous people commit crimes, because after all nothing is better that a makjang in which we see rich people suffering and fighting each other. Yes, but this is not a bad drama. This was real life. And one of those lives is gone forever.
Like in a bad drama, the man couldn’t face the fact that he would never recover what he had lost in a couple of months. He knew there was no way back. Because it didn’t matter if he was cleared or not. Public will always hate him and point at him, and not trust him anymore. That same public that doesn’t understand that drug addiction is a disease, not a crime and if someone is ill, they need help not being exposed as criminals.
In a country in which you can drink yourself to death, in which you must prove yourself by drinking, that can’t refuse to have a drink if a superior, or an older person asks you to drink, it’s just ironic how the mention of drugs can unite the society into saying: drugs are bad because you hurt the body you were given. We all know alcohol is not a drug and Korean livers and brains are not affected by it. Yes, Sheldon, this is sarcasm.
It’s the same country in which if you’ve used drugs you can consider your career over (I don’t think we’ll ever see again YIA in a lead role), but if you’ve committed sexual assault… don’t worry… we have a drama for you.
And this all, which you already know, which is not new, but even so is devastating, makes me wonder what should I do? Can I go on supporting an industry that consents this? Where is the support for LSK or YAI? If this amazing actors are going through hell, what happens to all those rookies, in the hands of all kind of agencies, who go through PS procedures to look prettier, who yield to men and women in all kind of ways to pursue their dream? Is anyone protecting them? Shouldn’t I be that person? If I encourage the industry with all this behaviors, knowing they exist, am I an accomplice?
Should I stop watching dramas? Should I quit on Kpop?
I’m not naive. I know entertainment industry all over the world is not a bed of roses, but when you actually know how bad it is, you need to do something. For instance it’s ages I don’t listen to Michael Jackson music because as great and amazing as his music was, he was a monster.
So here I am. Ottoke? What can I do?
Cori
December 27, 2023 at 10:56 AM
That is a question I seriously hope is on the minds of the people who cause these tragic situations and have the power to change things for the better
Empathy, compassion, understanding, and educating are ways we can respond. Everytime something like this happens, it feels like it should be the last, but it’s always the same. A person is judged harshly, there is no thought about how there is a real person behind that famous name, and they are backed into a corner. We’re a small community here, but if even just one person stumbles across DB today and sees the caring reactions on the fanwall and changes their way of thinking, maybe that will add up to something
mmmmm
December 27, 2023 at 8:35 PM
I wish we had a series of posts that allow us to send messages to Kdrama actors and actresses encouraging and natural response to whatever scandals they are facing. I think DB can also hire a translator or have someone volunteer to translate the comments under the posts to Korean so there might be a higher chance of them coming across and UNDERSTAND these messages. There is a language barrier there, as I’m sure very few, if any, K actors and actresses understand English fully or at the functional level. SK is not the whole world, and the world is kinder and view things more naturally and realistically then what is normally perceived in a restricted, repressed, and conservative SK society.
Cori
December 28, 2023 at 2:21 PM
That would be amazing! The pressure anyone can face from society is so much to bear, but one kind word or gesture can tip the scale
Midnight
December 27, 2023 at 11:29 AM
I wish there was a way to make Beanies’ posts as seen and as heard as k-netizen posts. To make a stir. Or at least the slightest ripple. To someday hopefully result in a wave.
Bebe | Nessa❣️
December 27, 2023 at 11:54 AM
Until that happens, what we CAN do here and now for each other is hold tightly to kindness, compassion, care, love, and sympathy in how we treat each other on here ♥️
Bebe | Nessa❣️
December 27, 2023 at 12:05 PM
Maybe write out a summary of all your entries into a single post—maybe 2 posts at most because squishing it all into a single post may be too much, for yourself and others (such a big block of text 🙃)—which you can then copy and paste onto your Fan Wall/the Beanie Section (cuz of word limit), and that way, you can express and share your entries but it won’t run the risk of spamming the Fan Wall via multiple posts in such a sensitive time related to all things Kdramas, and those who don’t read your post now, but want to come back to it later, can scroll past and come back to it later? Just a suggestion.
It’s definitely a sensitive time and space we are in, but that shouldn’t stop you from expressing yourself, especially when it can be done in a way in which you can control the mood (being mindful & sensitive, etc.), as I feel like the inability to express and a lack of an outlet to express is one of the factors that contributes to sad and tragic moments like the one we are all seeing unfold—or which already has unfolded— in the last X amount of hours.
I’m not sure if I made sense? I hope you are well, Eazal ♥️
Eazal
December 27, 2023 at 12:31 PM
I don’t know if I am ok with all what is happening, but I’m trying my best to hold on to the bright side I find in kdramas and in this beautiful community, but also I am very self aware that I, in fact, have a contribution to the industry and I have my share in social responsibility.
It’s a hard time, and not only because of this. I also have lost a dear friend in the most unexpected, unfair and absurd way recently. Makes me think about the things I should do better in life.
Bebe, your words are always a good medicine. When I think about compassion and being gentle to oneself believe me, you come to mind so many times. Thanks for being the way you are.
Bebe | Nessa❣️
December 27, 2023 at 12:32 PM
You’ve no idea what YOUR words do for me and how much they mean to me! ♥️
Healer’s
December 27, 2023 at 5:52 PM
I
wishwant to do something too. The news hit me yesterday morning. It’s been a day since then. His family is holding the funeral already. And out there, life goes on. I don’t know what I should do so that I am less of an “accomplice” in this situation. I can give up watching Kdramas if it can help.These lines keep popping up in my mind
“Somewhere far beyond the office walls, Harry could hear the sound of voices, students heading down to the Great Hall for an early breakfast, perhaps. It seemed impossible that there could be people in the world who still desired food, who laughed, who neither knew nor cared that Sirius Black was gone forever. Sirius seems a million miles away already; even now part of Harry still believed that if he had only pulled back that veil, he would have found Sirius looking back at him, greeting him, perhaps, with his laugh like a bark…”
(HP&TOoTP).
May LSK’s family have the strength to bear it.
mmmmm
December 27, 2023 at 7:25 PM
When @ndlessjoie warned me not to expose myself to K entertainment media yesterday nor DB until I’m ready because there is some terribly sad news, I immediately thought of YAI.
I guess I instinctively knew what kind of news to expect, and that does not bode well for SK.
I’m angry. Really angry at what seems to have happened (still haven’t read the news thoroughly for fear that I can’t manage my heart and emotions). I can say 100 bad words cussing SK society and its toxic culture and internet culture out, but I don’t know if that will lead to any change.
So this is all I’m gonna say for now:
– I used to be proud of SK as an Asian country that is stepping on to the world’s stage, but being a first-world country means, actually means, people would want to live IN your country because people there live a GOOD life. I love how competitive you all are, but your culture is toxic and unnatural on so many fronts, I’m not sure how long you can keep this up. And no, I’m not proud anymore. This is the first time I’m happy living in a place that is not as judgmental as in the SK society, where appearance and clean record mean everything. Appearance is superficial, a d clean record means the person is probably obedient, lucky, and never really did anything in life (You can’t fail when you don’t do anything because you’re bound to fail sometimes when you do something. That’s how we learn).
I guess this type of society is great at making those strange and shocking shows we see lately. You have enough source materials. What we see on the TV has their source materials irl then! What a disappointment. What a shame.
Unnatural things crumble. Do something about it, or wait for that day.
I’m talking about K entertainment in particular, though I always think there are so many misconceptions and unnatural expectations in the most absurdly way about many natural things in SK such as divorce, how each person should act, how seniority works, how to live.
mmmmm
December 27, 2023 at 7:37 PM
And may you rest in peace, dear soul. Tbh, I still can’t believe the name I saw might refer to the one I think. I can’t send strength to their family because I don’t have that kind of strength at the moment. I feel angry, and sad, for everything that led to this (and to many others before this).
mugyuljoie is preciousss
December 29, 2023 at 12:02 AM
I consume K-ent with a guarded heart and even so, I’m devastated by LSK’s death. I skip any K-drama with a known sexual assaulter in the cast and try not to become attached to any actor or idol. I’m tired of waking up to the news of another suicide. The day that SK starts to take this problem seriously and look for a kind and humane solution can’t come soon enough.